EP 450: The Pettiness (feat. Chy & Winter)

Summary

Podcast Summary: "Decisions, Decisions" EP 450 — The Pettiness (feat. Chy & Winter)

Date: December 8, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Guests: Chy & Winter (Behind the Likes Pod)
Theme: Friendship breakups, makeups, and pettiness in modern relationships, with an emphasis on emotional authenticity and boundary setting.

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Episode Overview

This episode dives into the complexities of friendship and romantic relationships—the messiness, the healing, and all the petty (and not-so-petty) moments in between. Hosts Mandii B and WeezyWTF welcome social media influencers Chy and Winter from Behind the Likes to compare notes on breakups, emotional reactions, supporting friends through turbulence, and navigating friendship-business combos without losing their minds.

The conversation is raw, hilarious, and sometimes tender, offering listeners honesty about what really happens behind closed doors when relationships get messy, how to set boundaries, and which mistakes everyone’s made in love, lust, and friendships.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Introductions & Podcast Chemistry (03:06–05:45)

• Authenticity & Friendship: Weezy praises Chy and Winter's chemistry, noting their show's open talks about nearly breaking up, crying, and making up, calling it “real and raw podcasting.”
• Humorous Banter: The hosts tease about using ChatGPT for intros and joke about their podcast personas versus their real-life personalities.

2. On Breakups, Crying, and Personality Differences (06:04–09:14)

• How Each Woman Processes Breakups: Mandii (Aquarius) insists she’s not a crier, but recent breakups got her emotional on air, contrasting with Winter (Taurus), who admits she’s “really, really an emotional person.”
• Public vs. Private Vulnerability: The guests discuss being perceived as the life of the party or introverted, and how public personas often contrast with true feelings.

Notable Quote:

“People don’t expect that I’m as introverted as I am… what they see online is just a part of it.”
—Winter (08:33)

3. The Extrovert Overwhelm & The Reality of Touring (09:14–11:44)

• Performance vs. Reality: Both duos relate to the exhaustion of being “on” for fans, balancing high-energy moments with a deep need to withdraw and recharge after shows or interactions.
• Behind the scenes: Mandii notes how they sometimes film Patreon content showing their utterly exhausted states after a show.

4. Game Segment: Bad Advice, Petty Acts, and Confessions (13:12–26:02)

a) Worst Advice Ever Given (14:02–19:14)

• Mandii & Winter recall an early episode mistake downplaying an incident of sexual assault, owning the problematic nature and explaining how they’ve since grown:

  “We live and learn. Honestly, we made a bad case of judgment.”
  —Mandy B (14:43)

• Weezy reflects on relationship advice about “just getting in the mood” for sex and recognizes the importance of consent and nuance.

• Chy confesses to jokingly advising a gay listener to “gay bait” his crush with over-the-top scenarios, realizes it was bad advice, and laughs about how porn sometimes skews reality.

b) Petty Post-Breakup Stories (20:26–26:08)

• Legendary Petty: Winter tells an epic story of discovering evidence another woman had been in her partner’s house—she investigates, collects receipts, confronts him, throws his stuff into the pool, steals his PS5, and even beats him with a bag of chicken wings.
  Quote:

  “I hid all his left shoes, threw hella sh*t in the pool… and I beat him with a bag of chicken wings”
  —Winter (22:19)

• Both Mandii and Chy admit to their own regrettable crash-outs, with Mandii now in therapy because of it.

5. Friendship, Boundaries, and Navigating Growth (30:08–36:50)

a) Do Relationships Make Us Better? (30:08–33:03)

• Discusses a clip from Amy Poehler’s podcast about marriage boosting success—guests debate if romantic relationships really “elevate” women.

• Mandii and Chy agree it depends on the partner—some relationships distract and derail, others inspire you to build, create, and succeed.

• Chy:

  “I’ve seen women lose themselves entirely... they focus on the man, lose friends, become domesticated…”
  (33:34)

b) Jealousy, Growth, and Engagements Ruining Friendships (36:16–40:41)

• Hosts read viral social media comments about how engagements and marriages can break up friendships due to jealousy, shifting values, or changed priorities.

• Winter shares a personal anecdote about a friend who “looked down on me” post-breakup, highlighting how money and status can shift female friendships.

• Chy reveals times she withdrew from friends who chose to marry abusive partners, emphasizing emotional safety over fake support:

  “I can’t sit here and see my friend experiencing that. Sometimes friends just want the ring so bad.”
  (40:41)

6. Accountability & The Minefield of Sharing Too Much (46:01–51:52)

• The group discusses whether (and when) to tell friends every detail about toxic relationships or to hold back to preserve peace.

• Mandii:

  “Your friendships can’t forgive as quickly as you can… I’m not about to tell you every single thing.”
  (47:08)

• Winter and Weezy both note the limits of support, especially when friends repeatedly cycle in and out of toxic relationships:

  “I want to be the person who’s like, I’m going to be here for you, whatever decision you decide.”
  —Winter (50:53)

7. How Friendship & Business Collide (60:00–70:21)

• Winter and Chy get candid about repairing their own podcast partnership after near breakups, citing issues like communication breakdowns, holding onto old arguments, and bringing up past grievances instead of focusing on the now.
• They stress the importance of dealing with issues head-on, understanding that friendship arguments don’t have to mean the end, and learning to accept different communication and processing styles.

Quote:

“If I hurt her feelings… I could be like, okay, you’re right, I’m not gonna do it again, let’s move forward. I want to move forward.”
—Winter (62:16)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “People don’t expect that I’m as introverted as I am… what they see online is just a part of it.” —Winter (08:33)
• “I hid all his left shoes, threw hella sh*t in the pool… and I beat him with a bag of chicken wings.” —Winter (22:19)
• “Sometimes the best work that I’ve gotten done is when I’ve been broken up.” —Winter (31:55)
• “I can’t sit here and see my friend experiencing that… friends just want the ring so bad.” —Shy (40:41)
• “Your friendships can’t forgive as quickly as you can… I’m not about to tell you every single thing.” —Mandy B (47:08)
• “Sometimes I’m not as emotional… people say that about us. But we just handle it differently.” —Mandy B (65:29)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Introductions & Guest Banter: 03:06–05:45
• Breakups & Emotional Styles: 06:04–09:14
• Tour Life & Extrovert Overwhelm: 09:14–11:44
• Bad Advice & Petty Confessions: 14:02–19:14, 20:26–26:08
• Do Relationships Elevate Us? 30:08–33:34
• Engagements & Friendship Breakups: 36:16–40:41
• When Friendship and Romance Collide: 46:01–51:52
• Repairing Friendships in Business: 60:00–70:21

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Overall Tone & Takeaway

The conversation is unfiltered, vulnerable, and often gut-bustingly funny. Each host and guest brings a unique perspective—sometimes clashing, sometimes harmonizing, but always keeping it real about modern relationships and the power (and chaos) of female friendship. The key lesson? Growth comes from honesty, accountability, and the willingness to laugh—even when things get super petty. And sometimes, you heal by admitting how much you’ve really crashed out.

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Additional Resources:

• Behind the Likes podcast: Drops Wednesdays (IG: @behindthelikespodcast, TikTok: same)
• Decisions, Decisions bonus content: Patreon.com/horribledecisions
• Their book “No Holds Barred” is available wherever books are sold.

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For listeners who haven't heard the episode:
This summary captures the core themes, the biggest laughs, and the hard-learned lessons shared—with all the spicy realness that Mandii, Weezy, Chy, and Winter bring every time they grab a mic.

Transcript

[Winter]

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[Weezy]

Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

[Shy]

I don't think you should say Decision Decisions. It sounded like you was talking. It cursed him.

[Weezy]

You definitely say the welcome.

[Shy]

Welcome to the new podcast.

[Weezy]

Oh, wait, you want to say it together?

[Shy]

Decision. Decisions. Hey, guys. Welcome to another episode of Decisions Decisions. I'm your girl, Mandy B, aka Peg Thee Stallion, aka Megan Markle, aka Peggy Bundy, aka that bitch.

[Weezy]

Hey, everybody, I'm Weezy. Welcome back. We have some guests in the building. Every time I say btl, I want to say gtl. Like Jersey Shore, JTM Laundry. Let me try to do a very good intro.

[Mandy B]

Ooh, I love a good intro.

[Weezy]

Winter and Shy, the social media influencers, who are two women bringing unique perspectives in life on a hilarious little personality that just make you laugh out loud on their show. Social media has been a part of their lives for as long as they can remember. They are IG hoes. Oh, that's not in there.

And they understand that it's a platform over likes. So Winter believes in pushing the boundaries and living life to the fullest, while Shy is all about inspiring and empowering women to reach their goals. And you're not. I am. Wait, was this her?

[Mandy B]

This was our y'.

[Winter]

All.

[Weezy]

She cheated.

[Mandy B]

This was her intro on her website.

[Weezy]

Yep. Put it in there. All right.

[Winter]

Oh, we did.

[Weezy]

Anyway. Let me finish, you cunt. So anyway, together they take you on a journey that explores the complex world of social media. But I'm gonna tell you what I think they show. I think it is such a cute show before. If you've never heard of their show, I know a lot of our listeners. I got to go on their show. Haven't crossed paths yet. I would describe your show as like, friendship and current events and very, very authentic. I love that y' all have had episodes about almost breaking up. Yeah. And then getting back together and crying and like, to me, that just feels like very real and raw podcasting. So introducing y' all to Shy and Winter.

[Mandy B]

Hey, y'.

[Shy]

All.

[Mandy B]

No, that was a great intro.

[Weezy]

I love it.

[Mandy B]

I shouldn't interrupted it. Y', all, my big sim came right off that.

Peter. Hold up. Cause, look, I've done better. Cause I be using ChatGPT for my intros. ChatGPT, that is my husband.

[Winter]

You'll never know.

[Mandy B]

I call mine. Look, Gloria, she knows. She gets.

[Shy]

Wait, Gloria?

[Mandy B]

Gloria Patricia Tabernacle. That's what I call her. I say I gotta ask Gloria some questions.

[Winter]

I don't have that. I'm old school.

[Shy]

Me, too. Okay, see, look at.

[Mandy B]

No, I seen that. When you said something about ChatGPT on your story, I said, bitch, not too much. Not too much on shit.

[Shy]

I said, you're not gonna be talking about.

[Mandy B]

Exactly.

[Shy]

I go on it a lot.

[Weezy]

People be writing, like, really? Like, even passive aggressive emails.

[Shy]

Yeah, bitch, you ain't gonna try to.

[Weezy]

Cuss me out with chat ho.

[Shy]

I am.

[Mandy B]

I'm forever doing that, I say. Furthermore, I'd be like, let me handle it, Chat.

[Weezy]

Handle this.

[Shy]

Yeah, right.

[Weezy]

I've had emails from PR teams, agents, all this shit. That's ChatGPT. And I'm like, oh, y' all bitches is really paying for someone else to write it? Hell, no. Anyway, so today I really wanted to do an episode all about breakups and makeups. Because if you guys don't listen to behind the Lights, Shy's been really open about a breakup. Mandy's been open about her breakups. I've been open and, like. And, well, I know you ain't going through one right now, so we gotta.

[Winter]

I'm not.

[Weezy]

But we've all probably winter.

[Shy]

Don't cry over these niggas.

[Winter]

I do. Ooh, I be crying.

They don't know, though. Oh, they don't know, but I do. She know.

[Mandy B]

Just kidding.

[Shy]

You cry publicly, you cry in your bed.

[Winter]

I mean, I cry to my friends, I guess.

[Shy]

Okay.

[Weezy]

Yeah. Tell us your sign so that people can know.

[Mandy B]

So I am an Aquarius, and I am not emotional at all. But this relationship has gotten. I've been going through the motions. I've been.

[Shy]

What's the four stages of grief again?

[Mandy B]

Yeah, now. Now I'm at. I don't give a fuck to talk about it right now, but I really am not a crier at all. Like, we. We talk all the time about our difference of emotions because we are so polar opposite when it comes to it. But, y', all, I had this podcast I recently went on, and I was like. I was in the middle of crying again. I was like, I probably shouldn't agreed to do this. Literally. I was like, I am really. I've cried, like, four different times.

[Weezy]

I believe it'll be out by this time. So, like, yeah, Shan.

[Mandy B]

Oh, my God.

[Weezy]

But Shan will get you there.

[Mandy B]

Shan will get you there, and she'll just stare at you with this. Not even, like, with this. With this love. And her green eyes are just piercing.

[Shy]

Into you, and I'm just like.

But.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, I'm an Aquarius.

[Weezy]

You have a little Kim cry face.

[Mandy B]

And I was literally crying. I was like, do I still look nice?

[Winter]

No. Yeah, I am a Taurus. I definitely am really, really an emotional person. But it's just so funny because when people first, like, meet us, they would assume she's, like, the softer one, the more emotional one. But definitely I'm more emotional than she is, like, by far.

[Shy]

So it's crazy, because I don't think I knew what to expect. And I know you. You funny. You fun. I met her, she was, like, squatting in the bathroom, dancing, bro, when I first. And mind you, like, I didn't know I was gonna get that from her. Well, she was popping her above the toilet, and you have to tell her to get. She was climbing the stall, and I was like, I did not expect her. Well, you weren't crying that night. I'll tell you that.

[Winter]

You were.

[Shy]

Yo, I'm not crying.

[Winter]

I did.

[Mandy B]

I cried every single morning and every single night.

[Weezy]

Oh, my. But, yeah, I was not.

[Shy]

You didn't expect that. I wasn't.

[Winter]

I'd be having to warn people. Not, like, in a bad way, but I'd be like, she's a partier. Like, she wants to have a good time. She dances on the bar tops and the tables and all that. So I didn't know that people didn't know.

[Weezy]

She said, you're the little loose one.

[Mandy B]

I know.

But people. It's so different sometimes. They. It's like, it does. It's not even that bad. But when. When we're together, it'd be like, I'm so extreme to her. So.

[Winter]

But you get there. No, I get. I can get there. But people don't expect that I'm as introverted as I am when I'm outside. Like, you know, they don't really realize.

[Shy]

I think I also realize how tall you was.

[Mandy B]

Bitch, I'm five. Five eleven.

[Shy]

I was about to say six foot eight. You had the flats on. I looked down. I said, bitch, she got flats on. This is astound.

[Weezy]

Wait, what are your signs? Y' all actually give the most. You give tall. Look like you ain't gonna be the one who. Cause you know what? I Mean, if we've seen Winter online, we don't think, oh, she gonna be the one turning up. So I like that it gives a little opposite.

[Winter]

And we say, asia, baby. Yeah, we say that a lot. Like, when people meet us in person, they're. They're surprised at, like, the polar opposite of what they thought was.

[Weezy]

I just recently, maybe I said it to Jacob, I can't remember, but I said recently that I met someone who said, when's the next time you're on tour? And I was like, ooh. Like, it gave me this big wave of. And you guys just got off tour. Vinny was there.

[Winter]

Shout out to Vinny.

[Mandy B]

Shout out to Vinny.

[Weezy]

He came through, he said, y' all show was great. And so we, you know, we, like, we're having this conversation, me and this guy outside. I was at a UNO party, and he said, why is it that tour is giving you anxiety? What are your fans like? And I was like, wow, that's interesting you said that. Because that's probably the thing that's exhausting. My fans is turned the fuck up. My fans is turned up. If I'm not turned up, they're asking me why I'm not turned up. I felt pressured to be more extroverted because what they're receiving on the podcast is high energy and meeting.

[Mandy B]

Exactly.

[Weezy]

They got that high energy.

[Winter]

That is what it is for me too. Like, I'll just feel so overstimulated with the amount of people we have to meet and talk to. And just like, I'm just not how she is. She's a social butterfly. It's easier for her to come natural to her. For me, it takes a lot of effort for me to, like, push myself out there and talk to a bunch of people and be nice to a bunch of people and giggle with a bunch of people. So, like, that's.

[Shy]

When I say draining. It's funny that you just used the word. I've been talking to a guy. It's so weird because we fucked years ago. And he like, just be on my phone now. Cause we live in the same city and I'm just not interested. And I feel like I'm not interested because I can't remember the dick. So it's like, I don't even wanna go back to it. Cause I don't remember it. Which means it wasn't memorable. It wasn't memorable. It wasn't memorable. So let's just be friends. And literally every time he hit me to hang out, I'm like, I'm recharging. Cause I'm overstimulated, and I didn't realize how often I use the word overstimulated. But it's that between work, between traveling, between constantly having to be performative, essentially. Like, you know, they don't care about what we going through in life. You're going through a breakup, whether someone died in your family, whether you're dealing with, like, heartache. When you see people, you gotta hug them. Hey, be nice. You have to, you know. And so I literally am like, whoa. Every week, I have to do, like, two to three days of, like.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Recharging. Yeah.

[Shy]

And so, you know, and then I go so hard not remembering how I got home. Cause then when I go out, bitch be out, bro.

[Winter]

That's us for sure.

[Mandy B]

I will say, I don't think she gives herself enough credit when it comes to that, because we are. We do take our time. But, like, in that moment, you are so loving, and so you give them your all. We give them all our all. But you'll see moments on, like, the Patreon, because we'll try to film behind the scenes. There'll be a moment, like, after the show where we just, like.

[Winter]

Like, literally just exhaust. But they won't pick that up, though. They won't pick it up. Like, they won't pick it up while we there.

[Mandy B]

But genuinely, does you know what to do?

[Weezy]

It's not even like you're really faking it. No, you're getting it. And so you can deplete.

[Mandy B]

And our fans.

[Weezy]

What do Beyonce do?

[Mandy B]

Right?

[Weezy]

Both.

[Mandy B]

She's on tangents. But I.

[Shy]

Fans, you know, literally on stage.

[Weezy]

But you guys, it doesn't even matter if she meets somebody. Think about being that famous. You walk out of the venue, people are looking like the security guard, the driver you have. You go to a restaurant, everybody is freaking out about you. So whatever we feel for them, 30 minutes.

[Winter]

That ain't nothing. Yeah, I couldn't do no more, though.

[Weezy]

Now I have a game for y'. All. This is called poetry. It's our poetry, but it's a song that y' all know, and it's gonna be read as a poem. Okay. Okay. So you're gonna have to try to see who could guess this first Shall.

[Winter]

Definitely the song. Guess the song.

[Weezy]

Okay, though.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I wish we had a buzzer.

[Weezy]

No, bitch, you scream on. It's fine. Okay. Just want to get your attention. Really want to be.

[Winter]

Oh, Neo.

[Weezy]

No, bitch.

[Mandy B]

Really want to get your attention straight fast. Yeah, exactly.

[Winter]

Really?

[Shy]

No, wait. I really want to give y' all oh, that's who it is, Usher. But you sung the song. You knew.

[Weezy]

I knew.

[Winter]

I knew.

[Weezy]

That's only if you ain't scared. You still didn't name the song. And I won't get your attention really.

[Shy]

Want to get your attention I won't.

[Weezy]

Ring no bells Just.

[Mandy B]

I know this.

[Weezy]

I'll get you so hot I know you oh so well I know this.

[Shy]

So when I walk in Y' all.

[Winter]

Got the schedule I want to. Daddy.

[Shy]

Yeah, daddy.

[Mandy B]

Daddy's home.

[Winter]

Daddy's home. Daddy's home. Daddy's home. Daddy's home. Daddy's home.

[Shy]

Okay, Daddy got it, like three words in, bitch.

[Winter]

I know, but I.

Sing the song, bitch.

[Weezy]

Sign the song.

[Shy]

Now I do want to going from there. We did Yalls podcast behind the likes, by the way.

[Weezy]

Love that.

[Shy]

It's in the merch. Yeah, get our merch. Y' all had us draw things from a hat.

[Weezy]

Yes.

[Shy]

And so apparently ours was. I can't wait to see how real crazy it gets.

[Winter]

These were their original questions.

[Mandy B]

It's supposed to be just for them. Yes.

[Shy]

So now.

[Winter]

But we didn't read these, y'. All. We got left with them, so we're gonna do it.

[Shy]

Y' all got left with this. So you draw yours.

[Weezy]

I know exactly the ones she printed the show on.

[Winter]

She not.

[Shy]

Look. There we go.

[Weezy]

Let me.

[Mandy B]

Oh, this is a horrible one. What? Oh, no. It said, what's the worst advice you've ever given on the mic? They give a shit for our advice section.

[Weezy]

Oh, bitch. So what you say?

[Winter]

Worst advice for anything.

[Mandy B]

Okay, this is horrible. Please, y', all do not judge us. One time we should. I tell them.

[Weezy]

Just say it. We actually like y'. All.

[Winter]

I know, and I shouldn't say it. I'm not gonna lie.

[Shy]

This is so good. I want all of us to answer that.

[Weezy]

Yes.

[Shy]

Yeah, I like this one.

[Mandy B]

So there was one time where.

[Weezy]

I don't know what you're gonna say.

[Mandy B]

Where we said something wasn't really sexual assau.

[Winter]

It was.

[Shy]

Oh, no, wait.

[Mandy B]

What was it? But here's the thing. Here's the thing.

[Shy]

What was it?

[Mandy B]

Have you been learning stuff I have to remember? No. And now we. We really are. You know, live and learn.

[Winter]

Live and learn.

[Mandy B]

We live and learn. Honestly, we made a. We made a bad case of judgment, But I'll tell you the.

[Winter]

The advice that we kind of stand by it a little bit.

[Mandy B]

Okay. No, I don't really stand by it because there's different versions of sexual assault. You know what I'm saying? And you can't Define what somebody's version is. So that's where we will say we are. We are at fault at.

[Shy]

Okay, so what was the scenario?

[Mandy B]

The scenario was basically this. This girl, she had a gu. And, you know, they would flirt a lot. They would flirt a lot. And she let them sleep in the bed. Like, they slept in the bed together. They had made out, but she said, all right, we're going to sleep. Do not. Do not touch me anymore. Do not do anything with me. Like, you know, we have a pillow.

[Winter]

I don't know if she said that. She didn't say pillow between us. She did not say pillow between us.

[Shy]

Okay.

[Mandy B]

She said, we noticed.

[Winter]

I didn't say all of that, though. But she didn't do all that. She just was like.

[Mandy B]

She said, we're not fucking. So she said she woke up, and.

[Winter]

He was playing with her pussy, and.

[Mandy B]

We were both like, I Like a little finger in the pussy, you know?

[Shy]

Problematic.

[Weezy]

Yeah. Okay.

[Shy]

No.

[Weezy]

If I hugged you before.

[Winter]

No.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Winter]

Here's. Here's my thing. Here's my thing. If I woke up and I'm like. Had made out with a. We was cuddling in the bed. I woke up, and he's trying to touch my. I'mma just be like, stop. And then after, he don't stop. I'm be like, do you not hear me saying stop? But it's like, if it just happened. I'm not about to be like, you sexually assault.

[Shy]

Well, the first time he did it was the assault because you said, yeah, we don't want to. You fingering is a part of sex, just like oral sex.

[Weezy]

But did, like, did she ever tell him?

[Winter]

No, I think he just was, like, touching her coochie. I don't know. But it don't matter.

[Shy]

You touch my coochie, bro.

[Winter]

Regardless, sexual assault. I guess I've been.

[Mandy B]

And I should have never brought.

[Weezy]

Because there's a question I have that I actually think we cut it out because we started arguing about it. So we had a question come in. They were like, oh, my boyfriend's, like, always wants to have sex, and I don't. How do I get out of this rut? And I was like, just literally get in the mood or get breakup dates. Like, have sex and take yourself there. So then Mandy was like, no, like, you're forcing someone to fuck. And I'm. And so in. What I'm saying is, like, you know when you don't want to go out the house? And then you do, and you're like.

[Winter]

Oh, man, why did you Had a good time?

[Mandy B]

Yes, I had a great.

[Weezy]

That's all I'm saying.

[Winter]

Yeah, he's already your man.

[Weezy]

You already live with him. Like, to me, sometimes when I'm saying, just do it, go through the motion is because it's actually easier to get stuck not fucking than it is to just take the leap so many times. We'll just be like, we gonna do it tonight. We gonna do it tonight. And then we don't. No. Actually make the measure. Put on the lingerie, put the music on, feel, be in that energy again. Because a lot of times couples kind of like we fucking with that same T shirt on.

[Shy]

Like, if I knew the fuck I ain't feeling.

[Winter]

Yeah. If I don't want to fuck, I'm not fucking at all. Yeah, if you don't like that, though.

[Weezy]

You'Re in a rut. I'm not fucked.

[Mandy B]

You know what I'm saying?

[Shy]

Even when you don't want to.

[Mandy B]

For the most part, I haven't not wanted to fuck. Okay. You know.

[Shy]

Okay.

[Weezy]

I'm a little horny.

[Winter]

If I don't want to have sex, I'm not having fun.

[Mandy B]

I'm not fucking. If. I really am just being, like, petty about it, but I always. If I'm in a relationship and I love you and I love our sex, I'm always gonna want to fuck. You know what I'm saying?

[Shy]

I'm not mad at that.

[Winter]

Yeah, sometimes I'm just, like, not into it sometimes. Like, if we had sex the night before, my coochie sore.

[Shy]

Or if I'm just tired and exhausted the night before. Babe, wait, I did.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, I did want.

[Shy]

What is the worst advice you've ever given? Went to.

[Winter]

No, that was the worst advice.

[Mandy B]

That was the same.

[Shy]

I actually just gave the worst advice. And I felt kind of bad. I even was like, sorry, this is the worst advice I think I've given in all nine years. It happened on Patreon.

[Winter]

Oh, no.

[Shy]

And we had a guy. A guy had a question where he assumed, like, his stepbrother or someone that wasn't related to him was kind of attracted to him by how he was acting. And I pretty much told him to, like, gay bait him and see if he would, like, terrible advice. I said, take him to the gym, maybe spot him, set your dick on his forehead and see me. Like, I gave the worst advice.

[Weezy]

That was a joke.

[Winter]

No, no, no.

[Shy]

Then I was like, ooh. So all the porn I watch, like, you know, they be playing video games and, like, they make a bet for a little hand Job. Oh, my God. And I said, just see how he reacts. And it was me, like, trying to put him in all these fucking gay, gay scenarios.

[Winter]

He wanted to be gay with him.

[Mandy B]

He wanted to, but he was trying to see if he got it.

[Weezy]

He's gay.

[Shy]

And he felt like he was getting this energy from someone who identifies as straight. And I was like, bro, gay niggas identifying straight all the time. But if he's giving you those signals, he just may not be comfortable going on.

[Mandy B]

What you said was that bad?

[Winter]

Look, that's what I thought, actually. Yeah, that's what I was like.

[Mandy B]

And you know what? You.

[Weezy]

No, no.

[Shy]

Me saying, put your dick on his forehead.

[Winter]

Okay, dick on my forehead is crazy.

[Shy]

That's wild.

[Mandy B]

But you know what's crazy? I love a good gay porn. I don't watch it often, but I love a good gay porno intro. So I'd be like, just put it on. See how you react.

[Shy]

What's the intro that you like about it?

[Mandy B]

Like, I've never sucked dick before. Yes, you have.

[Winter]

I don't like intro.

[Shy]

You have sucked some dick.

[Winter]

Yes, you have, Johnny. I don't like intro to porn at all. I just skip to what I need to get to, and I keep it pushing.

[Weezy]

What's your favorite part of porn? Winter.

[Winter]

Do you like favorite part?

[Weezy]

The clum shot. Do you like the.

[Winter]

I would say the ending. I would say, like the cum shot. The middle part the same.

[Mandy B]

No, I love a good story, storyline and a plot. I love on the van. And they start talking about.

[Weezy]

And then he's never.

[Winter]

None of them hoes can ever rubbing.

[Mandy B]

His homeboy penis and be like, yeah, we just been roommates. Yeah, y' all been.

[Shy]

I like when they pick up a guy and I guess he's struggling financially and he's like, I'll get. I can get you money.

[Weezy]

I too, like destitute porn.

[Winter]

You know, I like that too, though. I like that too.

[Weezy]

I'm gonna pay this bill.

[Winter]

Like, here's $15.

Do you have one?

[Weezy]

Or are we gonna.

[Winter]

Are we getting a question?

[Shy]

You have a question?

[Mandy B]

Oh, you have a question?

[Winter]

Compliment your co host.

[Weezy]

Oh, this is a little much. Oh, y' all are petty for making us to do this one.

[Shy]

Okay, hold on.

[Mandy B]

I'll let you look another one because.

[Winter]

Yeah, actually, like, this is, like, nice and scarab.

[Shy]

Oh, okay.

[Mandy B]

Sexy way, like.

[Shy]

Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.

[Winter]

What's the pettiest thing you've ever done after a breakup?

[Shy]

Oh, and you petty. I will hear it.

[Weezy]

I got.

Huh?

Yeah.

[Winter]

Okay, well, yeah, I mean, in the yard, I was talking.

[Shy]

That's all I heard.

[Winter]

Yeah, I was talking. I was like, dating this guy and like, it was getting, you know, pretty serious, like, to the point where, like, vow to really be in a relationship. And basically he was in Florida for work stuff, and I was in la. And then.

[Weezy]

Shut up.

[Winter]

And then. And then he had flown me, you know, obviously to him. And, you know, I'm chilling in the house and I am starting to notice some odd things around the house. Like, I noticed a little bit of something that could be makeup on the bed.

[Weezy]

Oh.

[Winter]

So mind you, I knew that the housekeeper had come like two days before. So I'm like, no, this should not be here. Like, I'm. There ain't no way. So I'm like, investigation time. So I go to the bathroom, I start going through that bathroom trash. I find lashes. Strip. Strip lashes. Strip lashes. And then I go into the bathroom, I start doing what? I find a make wipe still on the counter that has makeup on it.

[Shy]

Then I'm like, she was there with it 48 hours, right?

[Winter]

Yes, yes. So I'm like, hold on, hold on. Now I gotta go back to the bed and look at this makeup stain. I see a little mascara, a little glitter, a little. A little foundation. So I'm like, all right, bet it's on and popping now. So mind you, he's at work. Mind you, I had just. What the. I had sent him. I forgot what.

[Mandy B]

Mind you, she's calling me mid crash out.

[Weezy]

Mid crash out.

[Mandy B]

What should I do?

[Weezy]

What should I do?

[Mandy B]

I know better. Sometimes it's like the blind leading the blind. I was like, I knock him in his.

[Winter]

Yeah, so, so, so, okay.

[Weezy]

So, boom.

[Winter]

I go downstairs, I' Let me make sure. When the housekeeper came, he had his photographer downstairs. So I go downstairs, I'm like, hey, when was the housekeeper here last? He's like, oh, Monday, two days ago.

[Shy]

We asked the question.

[Winter]

I said, okay, boom. So he gets home, I'm like, oh, can you send me some money for something? Something, something. He sends me like three bands.

[Shy]

I'm like, cool.

[Winter]

Got me a little bit of money. Mind you, by that point, I had already hid all of his left shoes thrown hella his in the pool. You hid all his left shoes? Then I stole his PS5, put it in my suitcase and had it ready to go out the door. So when he sent me that money, I said, okay, come, come upstairs for me real quick.

[Shy]

I want to show you.

[Winter]

He comes upstairs, I put the lashes and I stick them to his like chest. And I'm like, boom. And I'm like, so what is this about? So you was having in here? He was like, it was, it was these girls and they had to sleep in the bed cuz I had a party and they just had to sleep here. And I didn't even go to sleep. I. I pulled an all nighter and I said, I said, where'd you meet the girls? He said, I just met them off a fin. I said, pull up their thing. He goes, I forgot their thing. Like I forgot it. Blah, blah, blah. Whatever the. So I end up leaving. I end up. I'm like, I'm leaving. I'm. I'm out. Like, blah, blah. I go. I end up getting drunk as hell. I'm like, no, I'm going back for round two. I go back. I had ordered some chicken to the house. So I had a little snack when I arrived.

[Weezy]

And after cousin is leaving after.

[Winter]

I'd already like got on him, whatever. And then it was just even more on and popping. I put my hands on him and I beat him with a bag of chicken wings in front of his photographer.

[Shy]

No, that's.

[Weezy]

He blocked pictures.

[Winter]

He blocked. Oh, I do have pictures. I do have pictures.

[Weezy]

Oh, shit, the chicken wings.

[Winter]

I have pictures of me throwing all his stuff in the pool.

[Shy]

Yeah. No.

[Weezy]

What are you doing on the phone?

[Shy]

What?

[Weezy]

You was low key, like, get him, get him again.

[Winter]

I have pictures of the crash.

[Mandy B]

I was like, no, because here's the thing about it. I try. I'm very level headed in certain situations. I was like, yeah, he kind of having a mascara right there. The makeup was. I say he kind of got it.

[Winter]

Pictures of the makeup. Here's the picture.

[Weezy]

Here's the makeup wipe.

[Shy]

Oh, you took pictures.

[Weezy]

It looks like shit and blood, right?

[Shy]

No, that's just probably that.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Shy]

Oh, you was looking.

[Weezy]

Oh, because they were.

[Winter]

Oh, makeup. Makeup on the extra.

[Mandy B]

You know, on that side.

[Shy]

Yeah.

Wait a second. Girl talking to Mike. You. You recording all this?

[Winter]

I recorded all of this.

[Shy]

Why would you have all this evidence.

[Weezy]

That you committed everything he makes.

[Winter]

That's PS5 that I stole. Look. Wait.

[Weezy]

This smile's kind of fun.

[Winter]

Diabolical was funny as hell.

[Shy]

No. Diabolical.

[Winter]

Oh, here's the lashes in the trash.

[Shy]

No, I do have to ask a question. Because crash outs when women do all these things. You did all of this?

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Shy]

Did you see him again? Did y' all continue talking? Did you ever.

[Winter]

No, no, I did not. But he just recently unblocked me off of Instagram, so I'm really excited about that. Oh, my God. Kind of. You know, I kind of do miss him. We had a really, like, great.

[Weezy]

That bitch said, you better miss the son of Miami.

[Mandy B]

The girl you so crashed out, so.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah, she's crashed out.

[Mandy B]

I crashed out horribly bad to where I never want to crash out again in my life. I crashed out so bad it made me go the complete opposite route. I'm doing yoga meditation. I'm in therapy.

[Shy]

Did your knees crash out?

[Mandy B]

My crash out, I can't even talk about right here. I would go to jail.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

No, it was really fucking hard.

[Winter]

Worse than mine. So I'll just say that worse.

[Weezy]

And I feel like the next part of this episode actually isn't going to be fair.

[Winter]

Wow.

[Weezy]

Literally. I pulled a clip about success in relationships because I feel like we talk too much shit about relationships.

[Shy]

I wanted to get the good side. Gonna fuck these niggas out.

[Weezy]

Damn.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

All right, look, I'm about to play this.

[Mandy B]

I started doing therapy, so my crash outs. I am no longer that type of woman. Seriously.

[Shy]

You know what's crazy? I talked about it. I talked about it. One of my longest relationships. So I think guys don't think I like them as much as I do because I don't crash out. I don't argue. I don't do the. If we gonna argue, you could just leave. I'm not gonna argue. I'm non confrontational with my nigga. But when we broke up, my mind went to key his car. And then I was like, let me pay a crackhead to key his car because I don't want to go to jail. Then it led to what would that do to me? Like, I'll think about a crash out. I've thought about a crash out and never filmed it to a crash out.

[Winter]

And you.

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[Weezy]

All right, so we're gonna play this clip, and I want y' all to tell me if you agree with the fact that relationships can elevate you. If you read the sentiment. This is from Amy Poehler's podcast.

[Shy]

They say, like, 80, 86 of the most successful men are married.

I love her face.

[Winter]

Just saying.

[Weezy]

I mean, that's gotta.

[Shy]

You know, they need that grounding.

[Weezy]

They need that home base.

[Winter]

And women don't?

[Weezy]

No, no.

[Shy]

Because they find it in friendships.

[Winter]

There was a study. If you ask men who their best.

[Shy]

Friend is, most of them say they're wives, Right?

[Winter]

And if you ask a woman, she's really got her friends every time.

[Weezy]

I do think, because one of the things that I had brought up recently was like, okay, a relationship doesn't make me better, per se, but relationships give me routine. Because when I'm single, I just be ended up in relationships like niggas be wifing me. It happens. So I'll be like, let me use this time wisely. If you knew your next relationship is coming, how would you spend the next. Your soulmate, your husband? How would you spend the next 90 days? That's how I'd be treating you.

[Shy]

I'm just kidding.

[Weezy]

I'm like, it's Tuesday night. Oh, my God. So and so. Got a table at the Box, and they sh. I'm going. I treat every single day in New York like it's Fashion Week.

[Shy]

What I'm saying.

[Weezy]

But what I would say is relationships have made me sometimes get more on a straight and narrow path. Even my gym. I've had the idea to build a concept for a gym maybe five years. Somehow I did it 10 months into my relationship. Like, literally just start an LLC. 10 months into.

[Winter]

I agree.

[Shy]

I agree.

[Winter]

I definitely think it will help you get on this straight and narrow path. Like, when I'm in a relationship, I can't be outside doing as many things and, like, like part. I mean, I can be, but, like, I'm not really worried about going out because, I mean, now when I go out, when I'm single, it's fun because it's like, where the hoes at? Like, you know, like, when I'm in a relationship, I'm more Like, okay, now I'm at home with my man. I'm gonna go to a Pilates class in the morning and cook dinner and make some content for it later. Like, that's like the vibe I was on.

[Mandy B]

It also depends. For me, it depends on the relationship and it depends on the type of man that you're with as well. Like they. I think it is kind of true when they say men lead the relationships. Like you kind of follow suit with what a man is doing. Like, if a man is chaos in a relationship, that relationship is going to be chaotic. So I feel like with me, sometimes in certain relationships I wasn't level headed because the situation that I'm in isn't really a level headed relationship. It's a tumultuous relationship. So sometimes the best work that I've gotten done is when I've been broken up. You know what I'm saying? I'm going to get my bachelor's degree, I'm about to finish school, I'm about to start this business, I'm about to write a book. I don't know what the fuck I'm about to do with my life, but I feel like sometimes it depends on relationships and where you at. Oh, but you know what?

[Weezy]

I think that's different though. Shy. Because the breakup is the clothing line.

[Mandy B]

Yes, very true. But it dep. Like I said, I think it depends on like the man that you with because it. We talked about this before too. Like we said, you date a man who's always consistently working and doing things. You feel like a piece of shit when you at home not doing things.

[Winter]

I would feel like that.

[Mandy B]

So that's why I'm saying I agree with your standpoint as well. Because it's like, all right, I gotta figure out business move too. If you date an entrepreneur, you get that gratification. It's like, all right. Or that influence. Like, I want to do the same thing. You know what I'm saying?

[Shy]

I mean, I want to respond to the clip because I don't think that that's what the clip was saying. No shit. We forgot all about the clip. I just want to respond to my thoughts. Yeah, on the clip though. I want to respond to that because we're going to react to it. I do agree with the sentiment that men, especially more successful men, need to be married, but that allows them to focus on their career because the woman normally takes care of the household and takes care of everything else. So for me, I kind of disagree with the sentiment. I've seen women lose Themselves entirely.

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah.

[Shy]

Because they're now just focused on this man in relationship. They lose out on friends. We see now that even Ayesha Curry has constantly been talking about it too.

[Weezy]

Right.

[Shy]

And we talked about that on another episode, but I think so many times because of the patriarch and because we're now in a space where cool as entrepreneurs, we could talk a certain way. But the. But the majority of women still want to lead with being a wife and a mother and be at home and be domesticated. And I've seen more so than not, women completely lose themselves to adapt or be in a type of way.

[Winter]

But that just depends on how you are as a person. Like, I feel like if you are comfortable with, like, not really, like, having your own shit going on. There are a lot of women who are like that. Like, I know a lot of women who are like that.

[Weezy]

Me too.

[Winter]

Who will, like, lose their friendships and they are comfortable getting lost in a relationship. They always end up regretting it down the line. For me, I'm not like that. Like, when I have a relationship and I have a man who's, like, working really hard, I feel like I have to have something going on. Even if this man is paying all my fucking bills, I need to be stacking up all my bread. Like, I'm just not like that. But you're 100%.

[Shy]

I also wanted to respond to the friendship thing, too. I think there's a difference. It's so weird the way we grow up as girls with our friends. I think it's just different with men. They either connect through sports or through hobbies. We connect with far more emotionally. Right. Which is why I think women will always have a best girlfriend or a home girl and then their partner.

[Weezy]

Right.

[Shy]

And my friends and I've talked about this on the pod. All of my friends come before my niggas. They will sit before you. They gonna be here after. I agree with my friends come first. I've never separated from my core values with my friendships because of a relationship. But I think many women.

[Winter]

I feel like when you're married, I feel like that is a different ball game and that becomes your complete life partner. And that's when you have to start thinking about putting your husband over your friends. But I feel like when you're in a relationship, I'm never. First of all, I'm never gonna be put in a position where I have to choose between a friend and a man. Like, that's not gonna happen.

[Mandy B]

And a friend shouldn't put you in that position either.

[Shy]

I Agree.

[Mandy B]

So it depends. And I feel like with me, I feel like how are you gonna get to that point of marriage if you're constantly putting everybody else over your significant other? I mean, so it just, to me it's like a fine balance. Like how are we gonna ever get there if we're constantly putting our friendships, our this, our this, our that, and our third? I think you have to figure out in relationships that there will be a time that your man, your relationship things will actually have to come first. And not saying but as a friend, I feel like there are certain times where you have to allow that friendship to be able to maneuver the newfound relationship. So I feel like there has to.

[Weezy]

Be friends, have a family. I feel like you have to have.

[Mandy B]

A balance because sometimes it can be overwhelming for a friendship who's dealing with friendships in a relationship and not in people around don't understand that balance.

[Weezy]

So I want to bring this up because a lot of women are getting engaged right now. Skylar Marche, shout out to Kami Crawford, Justin Pocket, Ryan, Destiny. This is just the era of young people getting engaged and I fucking love it because we don't really get to see honor and commitment really to me like shown with young people to hear about the older stories. I like seeing people under 30 or in their 30s. But many friendships break up during engagements and marriages. And I watched a TikTok like time and time again someone's losing a friend when they get engaged. And they say that friendships break up for three reasons, growth, jealousy and misaligned values. So either you get engaged, one person may get jealous, or maybe your values shift. Now here's two comments that I actually completely agree with both on. This is 2 comments on Friendships breaking up their engagement. One woman says, I agree that this happens, but the bride too changes. Sometimes they just begin to ignore friends expect everyone to spend on them, look down on their single friends as if they suddenly have the upper hand. Yup, that be a motherfucking fact.

[Winter]

I got what to say.

[Mandy B]

I got you.

[Weezy]

Here's the contrary. Another person said, I think it's rooted in that friend not being in the center of attention at the moment. The friend is used to the bride coming through for them all of the time. And now they feel like they've been inconvenienced because the bride has some other new thing that they like to focus on. Both are true.

[Mandy B]

Two things can be true. We've been saying that a lot lately.

[Winter]

Two things can be true for sure.

[Weezy]

Married do be acting like no, I have.

[Winter]

I, I literally have Something to say about this because I had a friend and, like, we were like, super close before. She was. She's not married, but, like, she got really serious in her relationship. And I know how to deal with, like, my friends getting in relationships. Like, I've had to deal with it before, so I'm not gonna like, be invited my friends to the club and out there on two hand tricks. Like, you know, I respect those. Like, like, you know, whatever. But when I was in a relationship, when I was in a relationship and she was in a relationship, like, we stayed close. And then when I got out of relationship, I felt like she was like, judging me for being back single and being back on the dating scene. And I immediately noticed, like, her shift in basically with me. And like, also, I mean, like, I. My last relationship, I was with a very rich man. Like, you know, he took care of me. He did everything. And, you know, she is too. And I felt like she was looking down on me because now I didn't have that. That, you know, I wasn't a wag anymore. Like, you know, I wasn't a wag anymore. So I definitely felt that way. And now we don't even talk.

[Weezy]

And you know what sucks? I feel like it may not even be her more than it's the shit these niggas put in your head. I don't know, because no, men really do be acting like, oh, I can't tell you how many times I'm sure I've been the quote, unquote, hoe friend. I have a friend that stopped fucking in a relationship. And as I grew as a businesswoman, suddenly the respect level changed because her nigga needed me to maybe like, oh, hey, I have this production shit shifts, right? Because people can judge you in different ways. And I really do think when the woman acts like that, it's the man not encouraging her.

[Shy]

I mean, there was a scenario that wasn't presented in those comments that I've experienced with two different friends. For me, I just didn't think the men were good partners. So both partners were abusive with both friends, one friendship no longer exists. The other friendship, they're no longer engaged. And so she got out of a tumultuous relationship. And for me, knowing that the proposal was coming.

I just didn't support the union. And as a friend who is not gonna support a woman being in an abusive relationship, because I believe physically, Physically, and if I believe you deserve better, I understand you wanting to be a wife, but that's where I've expressed my dis. What Is it dislike?

[Mandy B]

Dislike? Disdain.

[Shy]

Disdain for the union that that friendship ended up ending. Cause if you wanna be a wife so bad that you gonna let this n keep beating on you, and I gotta be around to hear him talk, talk to you like that and put his hands on you, and it don't get better. This doesn't work for me. Cause I can't sit here and see my friend experiencing that. So for me, it could also be an end of a relationship. Not because the single bitch is jealous. Not because, you know, she mad that she ain't a nigga ain't proposed to her. But you see here flaunting a ring to a nigga that you not. You're not fully happy with. And it's not a healthy union. It's not a healthy relationship. And sometimes friends just want to continue being in delusion because they just want the ring so bad.

[Mandy B]

And you don't want to support that delusion.

[Weezy]

I'm not going to support that. Physical abuse, I think is, like, obviously hard.

[Shy]

No.

[Weezy]

For all of us.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

But if you just don't like the niggas, I have definitely seen some.

[Shy]

Look not y'. All.

[Weezy]

Oh, so you ain't like.

[Shy]

Y' all must not like each other.

[Weezy]

Partners and shit sometimes. Oh, I'm not bringing up a sore spot. Cause I'll shut up. I mean.

[Winter]

Yeah. Been for a minute.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Shy]

No, you're not.

[Winter]

You can talk about it.

[Weezy]

Yeah, No, I don't know where it is. It's just funny because it's just like I do.

[Winter]

We have a lot, but we don't really get into.

[Shy]

It's not a few, so.

[Weezy]

Hold on, let me finish this part. What I was going to say was, is it okay if we don't. Mindy just expressed he was abusive. I don't support it if we don't fuck with the nigga. That's why we show up.

[Shy]

That's why I was going to ask you. Because in terms of not liking a partner, bro, if I gotta sleep with him and fuck them. So I don't give a fuck.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Shy]

What makes either of you just dislike a partner? Be cuz.

[Winter]

Cool.

[Shy]

It ain't gotta be a. You would date. Yeah. How do you just dislike someone for your friend if they're not being unhealthy and abusive? What makes you not like a partner that your friend chooses?

[Winter]

I feel like for me, like, in the times that I've been in that situation, it's hard to learn how to navigate because it's. It's hard when, like, you have. You're watching somebody that you really genuinely love and care about go through these ups and downs and it's like it becomes emotionally draining for you as well because it's like when you back cool, I gotta be cool within it or like him when y' all fall out. Now I gotta hate him. Now I gotta be back okay with him. And it's just like, bro, I can't switch on and off because I don't love this man and I really don't give a about him. So it's like I care about you. So it that's when it has become hard for me to figure out you.

[Shy]

Don'T like the unhealthy relationship.

[Weezy]

Did you did your friends get angry with you or your ex when you.

[Shy]

My friends were never a part of.

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My relationship like that.

[Weezy]

But no, I mean like if they know you went through a breakup, okay like cuz you were, you'll say I we broke up 13 times we did. So if you hit them and you're like oh this D do they get okay? Mandy like did you feel any of that in your friendships? Irritated with you for taking him back, for going back?

[Shy]

I mean maybe because it was like my first love, my first real relationship. They gave you great and the happiness that I did feel when I was happy, they enjoyed seeing the version of who I became with him. Now of course when I'm sad is fuck that nigga. But I think my friends supported the growth that I was experiencing in the relationship and they had never really seen me in one.

[Mandy B]

It was different.

[Shy]

I don't think they did. I do think that.

Because I don't like it, I stopped oversharing all the things. So, like, yeah, I tell all of y', all, we broke up 13 times. My friends maybe only knew about seven of them because we would break up sometimes in increments of a week and get back together. This isn't. And it wasn't a big enough thing for me to be like, girl, we.

[Winter]

That was something.

[Mandy B]

You know what I mean? Yeah.

[Shy]

So sometimes you just gotta keep some of that information to yourself.

[Mandy B]

And I feel like with me, I felt like in those situations and instances, I agree with what you said, because at certain point, your friendships can't forgive as quickly as you can. So it'd be like, I'm not about to tell you every single thing.

[Weezy]

And we.

[Mandy B]

And, like, I remember one time we had a clash in. Because I said, regardless of whatever you're going through with anybody you're going through, I'm not going to. And she has. When I use this word.

[Shy]

But.

[Mandy B]

But I was like, I never feel that invested in any relationship here.

[Weezy]

Dang.

[Mandy B]

So it's just like, why are you that invest? Like, not that invested. But why are you. Why is it affecting you to that manner that I will never even understand with someone else's relationship? And because it's like, you hold grace in these things, and it's like you're figuring it out together, and it's like it's multiple different relationships. You have to maneuver. But with me, I was like, after a while, some of this shit wouldn't even be reason for us to break up. You know what I'm saying?

[Shy]

We would just talking shit.

[Mandy B]

It would be dumb talking shit right now. And then my friends are like, honestly, that's the straw that broke the camel's back. Fuck him. And I'm like, I ain't never.

[Shy]

I didn't.

[Mandy B]

I'm not.

[Shy]

I guess that's the thing, too. Like, in terms of women, we all know that we have again, and we talked about it, we'll go back to a man that did us wrong, dragged us through money when we like it, when the dick good, we gonna keep going. And as friends, as women, we all know a woman not gonna leave until she ready to leave.

[Mandy B]

Exactly.

[Shy]

In Rose Pray and Goggles, sometimes as friends, you just kind of. And again, I'm not supporting a abuse. I'm never gonna sit here and rock with a bitch saying. With a nigga putting his hands on her.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, no, that's.

[Shy]

But for me, the. The. I love him. I don't love him. We got an argument. This ain't working.

[Weezy]

And then you can't even argue with the bitch about, like, I don't know if you've had an intense convo about one with one of your friends that got abused. I recently did. She went back to a dude. She sent me a tape one night of him screaming and throwing something at her. And she said she started filming because she thought he would do something. She's like, I just needed it on just in case. And I was like, like, bitch, you knew you had to turn your fucking camera on.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Like, I never got in an argument. My nigga thought, let me.

[Mandy B]

Let me record this.

[Weezy]

Yeah. And I don't mean that as shade by any means. I've been in those moments before with men. But I mean, to know that you had to. I'm like, you can't do this. So we get into this discussion maybe a few days ago because they're in a relationship now and they're doing well, and he's really trying. And I said, I just don't understand how you had a line, especially with your family trauma with men putting hands on women. Me, he threw something at me. He never put his hands on me. I said, repeat that sentence to me. New Year, babe, and tell me how silly you feel.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, something.

[Winter]

Yeah, I mean, I do. I. I agree with that. And then, like, also, I agree with, like, what you were saying about when you have to, like, hold back and, like, not tell your friends every single argument. Like, that is 100% true. I'm a super open book. But also, I haven't been in, like, one of those type of toxic relationships since my early 20s, for real. So, like. Like, I don't really go through that, like, now. Like, I'll tell my friends all the business and, like, it's whatever. Because this is not somebody I'm, like, going back and forth with for, like, years. But it even came to a point where, like, I have had to be like, stop telling me stuff. Like, I don't want to know anything because it's hard for me to, like, hear. And, like, how you use the word, like, why are you so invested? Or whatever the case may be.

[Weezy]

Yes.

[Winter]

You know I hate that word.

[Mandy B]

I couldn't think of another word. I literally said it's.

[Winter]

But it's just like, I. I don't.

[Mandy B]

Bro.

[Winter]

It's just like, I don't. I can't. Like, I literally cannot. And I'm gonna have my own personal opin. And also, it's like the rose colored glasses thing. And also, I don't want to be. I don't want to Be the friend who's like, fuck him, leave him. You, like, blah, blah, blah. Like, I. I want to be the person who's like, I'm going to be here for you. Whatever decision, you decide whether, in my mind. Yes, leave it, please. Like, I'm not. I don't want to, like, put that on you and put that pressure on you so that you feel like you can't never talk to me. Because even, like, we came to a point where it was like, I'm going to try to hold my tongue so that she feels comfortable opening up to me. Like, I don't want to have to be like, so what happened? Like, she would, like, start to feel like. Like, I'mma just tell you what happened and what's going on. And I would just be like, okay.

[Mandy B]

I feel like, honestly, as adults, the older we get, I don't want to. It ain't even about relationships. Sometimes. Sometimes I feel like things should just be kept to ourselves, just in general. And to answer, like, with the wife thing or with, like, a friend judging you because you're with somebody or because you're not with them anymore. I have never been one to even do that because I feel like, the same way you could be in, like, the same way I was in a relationship for four years, and out of nowhere, I'm not in one anymore. Things can turn around so quickly.

[Shy]

They do.

[Mandy B]

So why. Who are you to judge anybody to be in a relationship or to not be in a relationship or how they handle relationships?

[Weezy]

There's definitely a hierarchy we could do, but I think we do have to hold our friends accountable. Because there's a thing of, like, she gonna leave when she want to leave, which we all know just look at ourselves. But also, I think when children are involved too, I hold my friends to a different standard, but I used to take a lot of shit on the chin with them. Going to them, like, you know, coming to me and telling me all these terrible things about these men. But now I'm like, I really do wanna hold my friends accountable because it was the only things that got me out of a bad relationship.

[Shy]

Like, do better. Yeah, like, at first, the do better is tricky.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Shy]

Especially the do better is the do better.

[Mandy B]

First of all, who are you talking to?

[Shy]

The do better? Well, the do better is tricky because I think, like, there is. There are these things that. I mean, I think either we saw the trauma from growing up that people do. Gotta work through in therapy. I get that.

[Weezy]

Right.

[Shy]

You asked a question earlier. If a conversation had ever been had that got spicy with me and a friend, and it actually got. It happened recently, and boy was. And I responded with zero empathy because I felt attacked. So basically, there was an incident when she was with her partner who was abusive. We were all out one night. We had plans. People flew in. We were supposed. We had dinner reservations, all these things. He got in the car and said, nope, we're going back to the house. Everyone's eating pizza. And I felt away because I'm like, bro, everyone flew in. We got these dinner reservations. And, bitch, I don't play that. So I hopped out the car. I said, bitch, I'm going to the restaurant.

[Mandy B]

And I'm like, are you dressed?

[Winter]

No.

[Shy]

Yeah, we're dressed. We're dressed. We're out. We've all been out all night. Like, for during the day. We're outside, and we have a reservation. We're all in this car now. And he gets in the car, and. Real attitude. Yeah, take us home. We can order pizza. And hold on. And my response like, bro, we all in town. The reservation's made. This was a hard reservation to get. And I respond like, hell, no. Then I'm like, oh, y' all still going? And the other friends and her went home. I got out the car, didn't know what transpired. After all of this.

She got her ass beat. And he blamed me. So she came years later and was like, you know what you did that night? You caused me to get my ass beat. And so I literally sat there and I said, what you're not gonna do? And this is why I chose never to come around that situation ever again. Because you having the nerve to blame me for why this man put his hands.

[Winter]

You're not gonna blame him.

[Mandy B]

That's not like Ike and Tina, right?

[Weezy]

Like pumpkin cake, bitch.

[Shy]

And I was just like. And see? So when you say you could do better, even the logic that after this relationship, this is. This is what we gonna do. Cause you got out the car, bro.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Shy]

And because I called Steve, and.

[Weezy]

She.

[Shy]

Got her ass beat. And then years later, she's still having the conversation. She's no longer with us, but years later, she.

[Winter]

Because holding a resentment, and she held that.

[Shy]

And I. Oh. But in the moment, I said, oh, yeah, bitch, you dead ass wrong. Cause I ain't called shit.

[Weezy]

You don't make me so emotional.

[Shy]

Oh, I was.

[Weezy]

You were crying.

[Shy]

We were crying.

[Mandy B]

It was emotional.

[Weezy]

It was high of a pedest. Still. I'd put friends on and niggas, bitch, now I might beat your ass.

[Shy]

Like, no, no, no, that's crazy. I felt offended, like, as a friend who also after that night, I saw the dynamic and I said, oh, I'm good. Don't ever invite me out while you're around him, while you stay with him. I understand this is the partner you choose, but I didn't choose to invite this man into my life. And I think that's the tricky part about even marriage, relationships with women, all these things. Unfortunately, a friend get with a nigga, next thing you know he's joining in on all the girls nights, he's joining at dinner. And it's like, eh, I didn't choose this man as a friend, but you're making me now have to make friends.

[Mandy B]

Have Debo in the relationship. Yeah, I get what you're saying, girl.

[Shy]

You with him, not me.

[Mandy B]

Why he gotta party every girl's night? Yeah, I do have one regret for.

[Weezy]

His friend that I wish I could take back. And he always sticks out with me.

[Shy]

So we gonna have to put a trigger warning on this episode.

[Mandy B]

No, no, no.

[Weezy]

I mean, this friend break.

[Shy]

No, just the domestic violence part.

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah, right.

[Weezy]

He's basically like. He wasn't whooping her ass or nothing, but he just was really mean and nasty. So we would all hang out real in LA one night and it was something similar. I'm lit, but we're all lit. I think we're leaving like an everyday people like day party. And I was like, ah, we out. Da da da.

[Shy]

I already got a table at Uri hall party.

[Weezy]

And he's like, who the fuck said they going to Uri party? I was like, me, nigga, we out. So. And I booked this for everybody thinking I'm being nice. Think it was her birthday. So long story short, he starts telling me like, you want to make plans with people, Then you let people know you making plans, mind you, like, talking to you.

[Mandy B]

Crazy.

[Shy]

Yes.

[Weezy]

There's other people in other cars. I really was genuinely like, being playful, like, oh, I made a yeah, so.

[Mandy B]

Thanks out of my mouth.

[Weezy]

Who the fuck do you think you're talking to? You think you're talking to her? Nigga, look straight. Cause I'm in a motherfucking bag.

[Shy]

I don't get talked to like that.

[Weezy]

Fuck you, nigga.

[Shy]

No, that's what the fuck Cardi B said about latto and had to apologize. You can't call a bitch pussy and that's your ass.

[Weezy]

That's.

[Winter]

I mean, you can say I'm not your. Like, don't talk to me like that. Or you could say, I'm not.

[Weezy]

I'm not.

[Shy]

Okay with.

[Weezy]

That's what I said.

[Winter]

But I mean, I don't know. I. I think I could say that, cuz I'm not. You don't talk to me like I'm your. I'm not saying you talk to her like that, but I'm saying I'm not your girl. Don't. Don't come to me with no aggression, cuz.

[Weezy]

I.

[Winter]

Now I got a for you.

[Weezy]

No, but I.

[Shy]

You about to have your third boyfriend.

[Weezy]

To die when it all like, came to a head. I recently apologized to her and I told my man what happened. Cause we were all out with him and he was like, what were you saying to him that was so bad that you apologized to him too? I was like, I was calling him a pussy. I'm like, puss ass nigga. Like, I know niggas who the fuck. I was like, drives, don't even look.

[Shy]

Back here because that's on him. And I ain't gonna lie as a friend. Back to what you said about your friend. Not one bitch could call my man out his name.

[Weezy]

Like, I think you're not about to scream at me.

[Shy]

I get that. But to call your man a pussy, and mind you, that's over seven for sure.

[Winter]

How would you feel if your man's yelling at your friend?

[Weezy]

Oh, no, no, no.

[Mandy B]

That should have happened.

[Winter]

He yelled at her.

[Weezy]

If my homegirl gets yelled at by my man, call him what you want to, babe, because you don't deserve it. And I'll do it again.

[Mandy B]

Don't talk to my friends that way.

[Weezy]

The only thing I should have never said was that I'm not her. But screaming at me in the back, I'm telling you right now, I'm not.

[Shy]

Like.

[Mandy B]

What was your friend saying?

[Weezy]

So he was like, how did. Why did you apologize to him? Like, what did you say to him? So I told him what I said and he responded by saying, you've really had n talk to you. Crazy. To where you couldn't even check him because you know, like, that's your like, trauma response. Yeah, like you saying this, you saying that. Now, granted, my nigga didn't even tell me I shouldn't have said that to him. He was like, he really loves you like that. And the dude apologized in front of him as well. Yeah, but I think what it really is is she had later told me kind of the same as your friend. Now he knows. I told everyone. He talks to me crazy.

[Mandy B]

Oh.

[Weezy]

And I think to that point I would say time and time Again. Again. Well, my man would be like, do you tell your friend of our disagreements? I'm like, for the most part, no. But if you ever did something crazy. Yeah, yeah, yes, yes. If you ever, like, cheated on me crazy, screamed at me crazy, expect that they all fucking know. Yeah. I am not your only judge. My family is your judge. My friends are your judge.

[Mandy B]

Jesus.

[Weezy]

Jorge's your judge, nigga, if you feel like it. And the no holds barred book.

[Shy]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Do not play with me. Do you think that you are so special that if you were nasty, I'm going to sit and hold it.

[Shy]

Alana didn't move.

[Mandy B]

What did. What did Katt Williams say? He said, you don't get to dictate how I think you show up in my life. And that's what he said, right? He said, you don't get to dictate how I show. Like, how. Or would I tell people you show up in my life? But I asked, what is your friend say in that moment while he was yelling at you? Like, did she just. She's crying. Oh, she was crying, dog.

[Weezy]

When he yelled at me, she knew. Like, I can't.

[Winter]

I can't even imagine if any of.

[Mandy B]

My friends, any of my friendship.

[Winter]

I would be like, bitch, you better check your heart.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Winter]

No, you can't do that.

[Weezy]

You can't.

[Shy]

Immediately, I'm like, girl.

[Weezy]

Your elbows were up on that.

[Mandy B]

No, you can't. But those boundaries should never just be crossed in general. It's like, no, you got to check that man in that moment. And you have to also check the woman, because it's like, you can't cross those boundaries.

[Shy]

You can't.

[Weezy]

What's something that you and Winter like? Just for everyone listening, we were on their pod and you guys made up and kept doing your show. And I know your listeners are so fucking happy.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

What's a boundary or promise you guys have made to each other in your friendship? Friendship, then made it not a friend breakup, but a makeup.

[Winter]

Like, recent. Yeah, a boundary. I mean, I think our stuff was more, like work related and we just really needed to. We need to still kind of, like, go over some stuff, but we just want to. Okay. Well, a. Well, there's a couple things I would think, like, for.

[Weezy]

But all how you move forward. Not, like, no.

[Winter]

Yeah, how we move forward. I would definitely say there was something that I had brought up to shy, which I think it's, like, worth talking about because we've already gone through it, but, like, not holding on to things from the past and, like, bringing it Up. Up in current. Because that's kind of what happened. It was like a, A boil over of this little thing.

[Mandy B]

This little thing.

[Winter]

This little thing. And then like, it was kind of like brought forward and I was like, I don't want you to be bringing up that we've already gotten through and worked through. Even if I understand you're trying to like prove your point, it's like a slap in the face because we have had to get through a lot of stuff and it's just like you can't be bringing up from six months ago to prove your point because now we gotta argue again about the point from six months.

[Weezy]

Did you really work through it?

[Winter]

I feel like we did.

[Weezy]

Because if I bring something up, I don't believe that.

[Mandy B]

I don't think we. Yeah. And that's how I kind of feel too. I, for the most part with me, with certain things, it's just like, it's like to me, I'm trying to explain a misunderstanding. And the problem with me sometimes is that when we've talked about this, when you were on the podcast, we were like, things will build up and build up and build up. And then when I blow up, it's like, it will be confusing and it'll be like, well. And I have to explain to you why that buildup was to me. And for her it would be like, all right, this seems like a tit for. It seems like a thing that you do very differently.

[Winter]

We communicate very differently and we argue very differently.

[Weezy]

I date a lot of Tauruses, and one thing that's been difficult for me, but it's also kind of beautiful about a Taurus. They're a little too matter of fact. I don't know if you're that way, but I felt like sometimes when I'm emotional in an argument with a Taurus, they'll kind of just be like more so trying to like steer back to a point or maybe be. Aren't being a good listener. And that's how I'm interpreting it. They could really only handle one issue at a time.

[Winter]

I. Yeah.

[Weezy]

And you're water sign girl, not me.

[Winter]

I don't like. I just don't like feeling like, like you're holding resentment towards me. Because I will get through some. Like, I can take my accountability. I can be wrong.

[Mandy B]

Like, I'm.

[Winter]

I'm okay with that. I can, when I. If I hurt her feelings or if I do something and I know I'm wrong, I could be like, okay, you're right. I'm not gonna do it again, whatever the case, blah, blah, blah. Let's move forward. I want to move forward then. Like, I don't want to keep bringing this shit up because I'm here.

[Shy]

Because then the next time I'm bringing something up. If you're going back there now, we're not taking care of the matter at hand. It's the. And I've brought this up in therapy a lot, too, just in terms of being able to express your emotions. And I dealt with this with my ex. Oh, my God. A lot.

[Weezy]

But.

[Shy]

But it came to be where you feel like it's never a safe space to share how you feel. So the resentment is okay. Well, if I can't say I have an issue right here, because instead of us addressing it, you're gonna bring something else up from the past that you didn't get over that I thought we already worked over. Then at this point, we know that.

[Weezy]

I think is awful. Right.

[Shy]

I do, too.

[Weezy]

In a love moment, when you're like.

[Shy]

A lot of moments sharing your feelings.

[Weezy]

Just be like, hey, like, I feel hurt by this. So we can't live in the accountability that. I think a lot of people need maturation for it, too. Like, it takes time. Like, it takes a lot of healing. Like, I think that might be everybody's number one issue in an argument.

[Winter]

That was, like, a big thing for me, too. Like, because it was like, I felt like if I don't agree with something, it's hard for me to tell you that, because I feel like you're holding onto other things and it's going to make you automatically be defensive. But I'm not trying to come at you. No way.

[Shy]

You talk like me. Like, just because I disagree with you doesn't make this an argument. We're supposed to be able to agree and disagree. Yeah. Not everything's an argument, but I understand.

[Winter]

Yeah, I understand. From her perspective, though. Like, I understand, like, why she would maybe be defensive because of arguments or disagreements we've had in the past. But, like, also, it's like, you guys.

[Shy]

Get over those, or do you never get over them? Is that the thing?

[Mandy B]

For the most part, Our most recent argument, when we talk about this on the podcast, to me, like, when she said she feel like we would go through these things, I was like, there were certain things that I have never said vocally out loud. And why I'm bringing up these things, why I'm saying is because of these things. Like, when I would say I would give examples for certain things. And that's, to me, it was like, examples of why I feel this way. It wasn't a. I genuinely was not trying to. You know, to me, I feel like if we can get over it, if we can get past it, then it'll be fine.

[Weezy]

What do you want, Chai to tell you something. Really, Mother.

[Winter]

I mean, of course I do. Of course I will.

[Mandy B]

But things aren't. Things don't be that deep too. Like, you know, to me, it's like, if we can get over this, if we find things.

[Winter]

She's like that. She likes to. She honestly, like, shy's the type of person that would be like, okay, well, whatever. Like, let's move on. Like, we could just brush it. I'm the type of person to be like, we kind of got to like, address the shit. Like, you know, that's gonna hold on. Like, I will. Like, I will have my feelings hurt until I express my feelings. She don't feel the need to always express herself. But then when she does, it's like a fucking pile up. If I'm like, and you know what.

[Weezy]

You have, that's a real blessing, a safe space. She's like, willing to hear you. Like, the main problem with friendship to me, when friends argue is like, if I've been burned telling you something, like, I'm so sensitive about my parents that if I've had a friend not get deep enough for me, I won't tell you shit about it.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Like, you could be like, I didn't know all that happened. Oh, yeah. Because I didn't feel like you were warm for me. The fact that you have that. I think you guys will always be able to, like, be okay in your work relationship.

[Mandy B]

Because that's the worst part, you know, because we put. We have to put our friendship first. And, you know, it is a. It is a vulnerability that sometimes, like, maybe, like, I. Sometimes I'm not as emotional or, you know, and people, like, say that about us sometimes. Like, we had an episode where they were just like, shy just not have. Don't seem like she doesn't have empathy. And it's like, I do. I have so much empathy in these situations, but we just handle it differently. Like, she will cry. Like, lately I've been crying out in public. She will cry in public. I'm crying in the shower. You know what I'm saying? Like, and then I have to show up. I am this personnel. It's weird when I don't show up as myself. So I am just a. We just handle emotions differently and just how we do it kind of shows up in our communication. Because if I can get. If I can get over this situation. And I also have four older sisters. I know we can argue. I've never.

[Shy]

How many siblings do you have?

[Winter]

I have half siblings.

[Shy]

So you're an only child?

[Winter]

I mean, no. Did you grow up with.

[Shy]

Were they in the house with you?

[Winter]

They weren't in the house with me all the time.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Winter]

But sometimes.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Okay. But so that's what I. That goes to show that, like, I can understand the dynamic of, like, we might just have this big ass fucking argument and then two hours later. Can I borrow your shirt?

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Winter]

She's like.

[Mandy B]

She's like, things don't really like. And yeah. And this is like, this is my, like, my sister. Damn near so to me. But the thing is that, like, I have to remember sometimes it's not just friendships, it's business.

[Shy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

So in business, the difference is we have to address these things now. And I feel like I've gotten better with that. But then I be. Be like, it'd be certain things, but, like, I would just say even.

[Winter]

What set our. Our argument off was so dumb and petty.

[Mandy B]

It was so mad. I called her a dictator.

[Winter]

I was no this.

[Mandy B]

She like that me a dictator.

[Winter]

And I needed to learn how to be a partner rather than a problem. And then she takes it to the group chat with the assistant. She goes, I think we winter. I said, okay, you want to take.

[Shy]

It here now Some aggressiveness.

[Winter]

Eight months, bro.

[Mandy B]

I'm like, I was being extremely aggressive. I told you what the I was doing. You know, it was passive, and I hate that when she.

[Weezy]

I'm like.

[Winter]

I said, you want to talk about Queen Winter?

[Mandy B]

I said, you know what the going on?

[Winter]

Mind you, it was. It was so dumb. It was over a picture that we were going to post on Instagram, but.

[Weezy]

Now we got to see it.

[Winter]

It was so dumb.

[Weezy]

As we end this episode, y' all sharing this motherfucking picture.

[Winter]

We hard.

[Mandy B]

We hardly wait. No, it ain't going to happen behind the lights.

[Weezy]

Cuz we agree with.

[Winter]

Oh, yeah.

[Mandy B]

This was like, don't post shit with me on that page. I said, you think you hurting me?

[Weezy]

I don't give a fuck.

[Winter]

It was. I was like, do not post me on nothing.

[Mandy B]

It was petty. It was. That argument was her fault.

[Shy]

Did you not post me on nothing?

[Winter]

I was like, yes, because now we were in the petty moment because she wanted to post some.

[Weezy]

No, it wasn't.

[Mandy B]

Because I knew I was gonna be in peers. I knew I was gonna be gone so I'm like, we're gonna do something very creative.

[Winter]

Nothing wrong with that.

[Mandy B]

Wasn't it cute? Like, how creative? You commented and said, y' all bitch is creative as hell with the cardboard. I love that. So.

[Winter]

But that wasn't the issue with the photo.

[Mandy B]

No. She said, Ms. Queen done Instagram for 45 years, day and night.

[Winter]

Mind you, the week before. Mind you, the week before, she knew. Mind you, the week before the picture was asking me how to do an Instagram dungeon.

[Mandy B]

But this wasn't. This wasn't a part of that. This was just like, we need some shit to promote. And it was cute. It was cute.

[Winter]

That wasn't the problem. That wasn't the problem.

[Mandy B]

No, we not arguing. We love each other.

[Weezy]

This is really healthy for me and.

[Shy]

No, no, this is. This is just funny. Cuz we've had the same argument over pictures.

[Winter]

It was so dumb, bro.

[Shy]

Like, literally moving forward, I'd be like, well, fine, I'm gonna get my. I wasn't allowed to post Getty images. And I said, they on the Internet.

[Weezy]

I didn't get it on the Internet.

[Shy]

And she was like, don't post none of them. And I was like, I paid so much money for this glam. And all of our pictures were together on Instagram. Yeah, well, I tried to cut you out and then it didn't fit on Instagram, so it didn't figure out how.

[Weezy]

To cut it out.

[Shy]

But yeah, like, it's so funny. Like the pictures thing becomes a thing. But.

[Mandy B]

But it's like these small, little. It was small little things that trickled over to make this big thing. And I'm happy that we did address it. And I do still feel like she said it was basically putting things together, but I was like, there were certain things I said I had never spoken about and I didn't feel like were resolved, so I had to lay everything out on the table. Not even for you, for myself. So I could be like, I know everything that I've said from this point forward, moving forward, we have to move as a unit. You know what I'm saying?

[Weezy]

Can y' all laugh about an argument though? I think really can feel good.

[Winter]

Cause the argument part was funny. No, that was the initial argument part part. The other that came after was not funny. But that was what started laughing when.

[Shy]

I said, queen Winter.

[Winter]

No, no, no.

[Weezy]

King Winter, bitch.

[Winter]

And I was laughing when she was like, dictator. I said this dumb ass bitch. And I was like, ah, you mad?

[Shy]

That's how you responded. Are you mad?

[Winter]

I was like, you Weird. I was like, saying some shit, but at that point it was funny, then it didn't. It wasn't funny then.

[Mandy B]

Then at a point it wasn't funny.

[Winter]

Yeah, no, but it's not always funny.

[Shy]

I love that y' all made it through. I always say, like, in terms of friends, I say, listen, as long as you're prepared for one or both things to end. Either the friendship, the business, or both. I've been in one where both ended. And so kudos to y' all for working through it.

[Weezy]

And you guys have, like, so many people. They're doing live shows, y', all, so I don't know when y' all next one is, but we're probably watching this in December, so hopefully y' all got something right, actually.

[Winter]

Well, when in December? We're thinking about doing a show in early December in la.

[Mandy B]

In la, so be in tune for that.

[Weezy]

Oh, my God, I can't wait to see it. I want to be the drunk bitch falls the same.

[Shy]

Oh, no.

[Weezy]

Literally.

[Mandy B]

Cuz we. I told about one in Houston. Like, our shows do get a little crazy. And like, we noticing the difference because we went to a venue with no hard liquor and we used to be like our guest.

[Winter]

We were like that. Boring, boring.

[Mandy B]

And we used to feel overwhelmed with people, how much they interrupted us.

[Winter]

And I would be like, we want.

[Weezy]

You to be drunk as.

[Winter]

And somebody damn near broke her ankle falling off the stage in Houston, drunk as hell.

[Weezy]

So I asked. So Vinnie helped them with their Houston show, and I hit him up. I was like, how was it? He said, remember when that bitch ran up on you in Phoenix, that.

[Winter]

That trying to fight you?

[Weezy]

No, no, no. She was just drunk.

[Shy]

And then, oh, no. She said, I'm here. I bought my ticket. I'm a part of the show. And just walked on stage and inserted himself into our conversation. And we were like, what's.

[Weezy]

But they were drunk.

[Winter]

No, our people were.

[Shy]

Phoenix was lit.

[Weezy]

But you loved.

[Shy]

You know, one of my favorite cities.

[Winter]

No, that was my favorite show, Houston. It was a grand ghetto drunk ass bar.

[Shy]

We go back on tour to run up on stage because.

[Mandy B]

No, no, don't never.

[Weezy]

The stage too high in the theaters.

[Shy]

Now, but Shayla Winsters tell everyone where they can support you. Listen to y' all fuck with y'. All. Follow y' all Slaughter Yalls DMs.

[Weezy]

What's the day of the week? What?

[Mandy B]

What.

Podcast drops behind the likes? Podcast drops every single Wednesday, you guys. Maybe on a Thursday. Sometimes we behind, but we're not gonna do that no more. I'm just kidding.

[Shy]

Don't do that no more.

[Mandy B]

No, we're not doing that no more. So every Wednesday, behind the Likes Pod drops. Our Instagram is Behind the Likes podcast. Tik tok the same. My personal Instagram is chy f shy.

[Winter]

F. And mine is W I I n T R R. So if y'.

[Shy]

All were sick of our biracial light.

[Mandy B]

Skin ass saying the N word here.

[Weezy]

Skin.

Fly. Exactly.

[Shy]

Yes.

Anyways, guys, if y' all want more bonus content, make sure y' all head over to our Patreon. Patreon.com back. Horrible decisions. That's right. The sex, the talk, all the raunch is still over there on Patreon. So go ahead. For as little as $5 a month, you get literally a Horrible Decisions episode. Goddamn weekly. Okay? Also, if you haven't yet, no host bar, a duel manifesto, sexual treaty.

Make sure y' all get our New York Times bestselling book. It is available wherever you purchase books. And y', all, thank y' all so very much for listening to another episode of Decisions Decision. Bye.

[Mandy B]

Go on our Patreon too.

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