EP 451: Our Poly Family Getaway (feat. Tahir Moore )

Summary

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Decisions, Decisions – EP 451: "Our Poly Family Getaway" (feat. Tahir Moore)

Date: December 15, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Guest: Tahir Moore (Comedian, Podcaster)

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Episode Overview

In this candid and engaging episode of "Decisions, Decisions," Mandii B and WeezyWTF are joined by comedian and podcaster Tahir Moore for a deep dive into the realities of non-traditional relationships—specifically, polyamory and open partnerships. The hosts and Tahir explore boundaries, communication, jealousy, and family dynamics, sharing both vulnerable and hilarious stories. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in modern relationship structures and the honest, sometimes awkward, truths of navigating them.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Birthday Dinners, Class, and Splitting Checks

• The episode opens with a fun discussion about the cultural expectations and financial realities of birthday celebrations with friends (03:32–07:51).
  • The trio jokes about restaurant etiquette, "MP" pricing, and group dinners, with humorous takes on who should pay.
  • Tahir mentions, "If we have Pizza Hut, absolutely. Go crazy, bitch. I got a $250 fare for everybody." (06:02)
  • Weezy shares her plans for a Cheesecake Factory birthday, balancing cost and personal enjoyment.

2. Introducing Tahir Moore: Family & Openness

• Tahir shares background on his age, parenting style, and his daughter’s dynamic with their non-traditional household (09:42–11:52).
  • On letting his 20-year-old daughter stay at home: "I'm just excited for her to get out… I'm not taking care of no grown adults." (09:59–10:04)
  • Talks about open communication and trust with his daughter, especially regarding their family’s poly lifestyle.

3. Defining and Navigating Open and Poly Relationships

• The hosts ask about Tahir's introduction to the lifestyle and how he and his wife transitioned from being 'open' to 'poly' (11:28–15:24).
  • Tahir explains the distinction:
    • "When we went open, it was just a physical thing… When we went poly, it was a more mature conversation. We ended up just having our own partners." (11:51–13:14)
    • They informed their daughter about both transitions—at age 11 for open, later for poly.
  • Open and honest disclosure with the family was prioritized due to Tahir’s public profile.

4. Communication, Therapy, and Unlearning Old Patterns

• Tahir details the necessity of therapy for overcoming past trauma and learning to communicate effectively in his marriage and poly dynamic (15:24–16:58).
  • “I would associate conversation immediately with conflict because of the way I was raised… I had to get therapy. My third one was really good.” (15:24–16:15)
  • Sought a woman therapist for comfort, given his upbringing.

5. Jealousy, Boundaries, and Emotional Labor

• The group examines how jealousy and emotional challenges manifest in poly relationships (17:13–19:52).
  • Tahir: “I've always been a freak. But why is it okay for me to do it and you not to do it? That's how we perpetuate the stereotype.” (18:18–18:48)
  • Discusses types of sex (casual vs. intimate) and how emotional connection with a partner’s other partner can shift personal boundaries.

Notable Quote

“When we first decided to go open, we sat down and talked to [our daughter] about it... When we decided to go poly, we sat down and talked to her about it.”
— Tahir Moore (11:38)

6. Real-Time Discovery of Boundaries

• Tahir shares a vulnerable moment of discovering discomfort observing his wife’s intimacy with her partner:
  • “It was different with her boyfriend. I couldn't be a voyeur with her and him... Because there was an emotional connection.” (23:39–24:10)

7. Family and Polycules: How It Works

• Explanation of their polycule structure, regular family gatherings including partners, and how everyone communicates about major decisions (13:36–14:51, 27:09–28:02).
  • Emphasis on non-hierarchical polyamory and transparency.

8. Societal Judgment and Male Response

• Tahir addresses how his male peers perceived his wife having a boyfriend:
  • “None of them niggas pay bills in my house, period. Not a single one of them. So you can feel however the fuck you want to feel. But we good over here.” (17:41–18:18)
  • Both hosts and Tahir debunk toxic masculinity around double standards.

9. Truth or Dare, Sexual Preferences, and Humor

• The conversation detours into a playful segment including truth-or-dare about desires, boundaries, and funny stories around drug culture and gender expectations (28:43–33:35).
  • Tahir admits pedicures and head rubs are his surprising turn-ons, sparking laughter.
  • The group jokingly reflects on acts of service, pampering, and unexpected behaviors in and out of the bedroom.

10. Communication in Open Relationships—Lessons Learned

• As the episode wraps, the hosts ask Tahir for his #1 advice:
  • “If you don't know how to communicate, don't do it. … It's not gonna save your relationship, it's not gonna save your marriage if you haven't done the work. ... You have to be able to have the capacity to be like, 'Hey, this has been bothering me. Can we have a conversation about it?’” (63:16–64:02)

Notable Quote

“Don't rob somebody of the opportunity to make a decision... Give people the opportunity to say yay and nay.”
— Tahir Moore (60:39)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Poly Family Communication:
  “We vacation together, we spend damn near the New Year's... That'd be our whole tribe.” (13:38)

• On Navigating Jealousy:
  “Jealousy and anger, those are all both secondary emotions. So it's starting from something else.” (14:10)

• On Male Ego & Double Standards:
  “Why is it okay for me to do it and you not to do it? That's how we perpetuate the stereotype.” (18:39)

• On Therapy & Healing:
  “My third [therapist] was really good… I wanted a woman just because I think I feel more comfortable with women, I was raised by women.” (16:15–16:25)

• Advice for Newcomers to Polyamory:
  “If you're not good at communicating, if you can't converse with someone without getting up in arms and storming out and cursing, you're not ready for this." (64:02)

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Important Timestamps

• 03:32–07:51: Group dinner discourse, financial etiquette
• 09:42–11:52: Tahir’s family dynamic, parenting openness
• 11:28–13:14: Open vs. poly defined, conversations with kids
• 15:24–16:58: Therapy and communication lessons
• 17:13–18:48: Jealousy, societal expectations
• 23:39–24:10: Discovering personal boundaries with partners
• 27:09–28:02: Family and partners’ interactions
• 60:39–61:59: Consent, honesty, and handling boundaries in non-monogamy
• 63:16–64:02: Core advice for opening relationships

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Flow, Tone & Style

The tone is open, playful, and “no holds barred”—true to the hosts’ brand. Tahir’s comfort and storytelling skills match the hosts’ chemistry, and the episode balances laughs with deep, thoughtful discussion. All three engage candidly about vulnerability, growth, and the importance of honest dialogue for anyone navigating love beyond “the norm.”

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Summary Takeaways

• Communication is non-negotiable in poly/open relationships.
• Establish clear boundaries, revisit them, and talk through new revelations.
• Transparency with partners and family members, even (and especially) children, is crucial to avoid secrecy and mistrust.
• Therapy and personal growth are vital for unlearning outdated narratives and making healthy relationship choices.
• There is no one-size-fits-all in non-traditional relationship structures—your experience may require unique navigation.

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For more:

• Follow Tahir Moore (@tahirmoore) on socials and check out his comedy specials and appearances.
• Bonus content and after-dark episodes available via Patreon/Horrible Decisions.

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Transcript

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[Mandy B]

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[Weezy]

Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

[Mandy B]

I don't think you should say Decisions Decisions. It sounded like you was talking. It cursed him.

[Weezy]

You definitely say the welcome.

[Mandy B]

Welcome to the new podcast.

[Weezy]

Oh, wait, you want to say it together?

[Mandy B]

Decisions. Decisions. Hey, guys. Welcome to another episode of Decisions. This is the Owns. I'm your girl, Mandy B, AKA Peg the Stallion, AKA Peggy Bundy, AKA Peggy Merkel, AKA that bitch.

[Weezy]

What's good, y'?

[Tahir Moore]

All?

[Weezy]

I'm Weezy. Welcome back to another episode. We have a guest in the building today, and I'm so excited because me and my mama been standing this. First of all, I just call you the light skinned nigga with the nose ring. My mom be like, the freckle nigga. We always be confused. And then finally one day, you were like, follow me on my IG to here.

[Tahir Moore]

I was like, there it is.

[Weezy]

Shout out to comedian and podcaster and all of the things that I'm not reading in this bio yet to hear more.

[Tahir Moore]

Yay.

[Mandy B]

Give it up, Give it up, Give it up.

[Tahir Moore]

Get up. I appreciate it. I'm very excited to be here.

[Mandy B]

And where we haven't liked. I haven't got to see you live. You are highly spoken of.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

We have a mutual friend. And so I'm just glad that we're super man able to finally make this happen.

[Tahir Moore]

It happened when it was supposed to happen.

[Mandy B]

Shout out to I.O.

[Tahir Moore]

Hey, Chef I.O. the best.

[Mandy B]

By the way, if y' all are on Patreon, there is a whole lesson that Chef IO did with us where she taught us how to cook goddamn.

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[Weezy]

Did we do well?

[Mandy B]

No, no, no. It was so, so fucking good. And I was like, abrah, this is my shit. Now, mind you, when you go to a steakhouse, yes, normally, it's really black and uncultured to order chicken.

[Tahir Moore]

Yes.

[Mandy B]

But Ruth Chris is the only goddamn steakhouse exception. Hey, listen, for the goddamn chicken.

[Tahir Moore]

I haven't had the chicken there.

[Mandy B]

You haven't had the chicken there. Just know you won't be looked at like, it's chicken at a steakhouse. Yeah, it is the chicken.

[Tahir Moore]

Well, here's the thing. If you order it like you like, hey, we ordered a lot of stuff. Just order for the table. That's how you can get around it, okay.

[Weezy]

Cause you can't wait no damn chicken out of steak.

[Mandy B]

Okay?

[Tahir Moore]

Absolutely can. Cause I want a fan.

[Weezy]

That one.

[Mandy B]

You can't.

[Weezy]

That one is the known one. But I be like, every time I get to a steakhouse, I'd be like.

[Mandy B]

Chicken, egg at it.

[Weezy]

Oh, wow, y' all got branzino. That sounds good. I'll take the filet.

[Tahir Moore]

Listen, I'll get the brazino.

[Mandy B]

I Do the fish. I love a good fish.

[Weezy]

We need to be eating with a lot of people. Cause you see when these people online start being like, how do you split the check? Da da, da, bruh. To me, that's my time to be gluttonous.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, yeah.

[Weezy]

Like, I beg.

[Mandy B]

Oh.

[Weezy]

I literally have a dinner tonight. It was me and a homegirl. I was like, invite. Make it a girl game.

[Mandy B]

Let's invite more bitches. I tend three things on the menu.

[Weezy]

I want, and it's only two of them.

[Mandy B]

Nah. When I tell you, I just. It's funny because in terms of organizing, everyone wanted me to have a birthday dinner this year. Right. And I was just like, no. I said, first off, this year has been rough for a lot of people.

[Tahir Moore]

Yes.

[Mandy B]

So literally, even being out here in la, there was a friend that was supposed to join us, and she literally had to tell my friend on the side, like, I'm probably just gonna have water. Cause it's a little rough. And when I go out, bitch, I like caviar. I like the steaks. I like the things that are priced at mp.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

And so when I'm like, that's market.

[Tahir Moore]

Price for these periods that don't.

[Mandy B]

The supermarket give me mp. So the idea of a big group dinner where also everyone has different ways in which they spend their money. Sometimes food ain't it for somebody, but.

[Weezy]

They'Re not at the age, I think, where we can have a birthday dinner where people gotta pay off.

[Mandy B]

No, it ain't even.

[Weezy]

Like, we should be hosting it. And like.

[Mandy B]

And that's another reason you think on my birthday, I want to feed a whole bunch of brokies.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, you got it. No, I'm not feeding everybody like that.

[Mandy B]

I'm not feeding everyone for my birthday.

[Tahir Moore]

If we have Pizza Hut, absolutely. Go crazy, bitch. I got a $250 fare for everybody.

[Mandy B]

But the idea of also, like, wanting to celebrate myself. But I'm paying for the dinner. I'm paying for y' all to eat with me for my birthday.

[Tahir Moore]

I feel both sides of it.

[Weezy]

Wait, no.

[Tahir Moore]

I feel both sides of it because.

[Mandy B]

It'S like, no, okay, give us both.

[Tahir Moore]

I'll pay for it if we're. Again, if we're going to a place that's affordable. And it ain't no big thing like bowling or something like that. And I'mma order the apps. Just take care of y'. All. Yeah, but I'll take care of the bowling and I'll take care of the apps if y'. All. Whatever drinks y' all Want y' all get yourself okay. Yeah, but if we going to like. My favorite steakhouse is a place called Bourbon Steak in Glendale, California. I've been there.

[Weezy]

No, that steak Boulevard I like though.

[Tahir Moore]

I, me and my wife have gone there a number of times and the two of us have racked up $700.

[Mandy B]

That's what I'm saying. For two people, bro, I ain't doing, I ain't feeding 12.

[Weezy]

This is why we need to be picking them birthday places. Like, my 35th birthday is coming.

[Tahir Moore]

Uh huh.

[Weezy]

I'm gonna do it in la. Cause my dad is here, he's not as mobile. And I'm like, you know what? All I want is my close friends and I want to take everybody out. Where are we gonna go? Bitch, I shut down a room at the Cheesecake Factory. I already have it on hold. Hey, I said, y' all niggas got an ox cord?

[Mandy B]

Bitch, my birthday is marked.

[Weezy]

I like planning this out. But I was like, you know what? I like the Cheesecake Factory in my brain. I'm like, what would I be willing to spend to have this moment with my friends and my family? Because it's a party essentially. It's probably gonna be what, fifteen hundred dollars, right? It's eight of us at the Cheesecake Factory. I doubt it'll get there. However, my nigga better be taking me to get some fucking MP that night.

[Tahir Moore]

Hey, listen, listen, I don't know your level of friends. Like, even when Kev like takes us all out, I still pull him side like, yo, let me put something on it.

[Mandy B]

Put something on it.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah. He be like, no nigga, I got it, I gotta spend it or else he does it as a tax write off. But I always offer. Cause I know it can get expensive. All right, let me take care of the tip. All right, there's eight of us. Let me take care of the tip or something like that. Just so I can put something on it. But I understand both sides.

[Weezy]

Yes.

[Tahir Moore]

Huh.

[Mandy B]

Has anyone Kev's taking, He's let me.

[Tahir Moore]

Take care of the tip a couple times.

[Weezy]

That's nice.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah. And I know he don't need it. And I, I do need, Yeah, I do need it. Right? But I, I be holding the N. They know every time like, no, no. Woo.

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[Tahir Moore]

I thought that nigga, he took a little while. I thought he was gonna say yes on that one, but. But I, I just don't want him to ever feel like I'm taking it for granted or it's expected. Like, I will always pay my own way. But if you treat, nigga, you know I wanna block my blessing.

[Weezy]

Have you heard of Cipriani? Oh, you have Cipriani in New York?

[Tahir Moore]

What was that?

[Weezy]

Cipriani. Cipriani.

[Mandy B]

So it's this like Italian.

[Weezy]

Italian high end restaurant. And recently I went with a friend in Questlove and he's been in my life and family for a few years now and always takes us out. So I said, let me take you to dinner. I never take you to dinner. And I'm not saying I didn't mean it. I just didn't think he'd be like, that's so sweet.

[Tahir Moore]

Sure. Yeah.

[Weezy]

And I was like, and now you.

[Tahir Moore]

Got to go to a good place because you don't want to insult him.

[Weezy]

Nah, no, we were already there.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, shit. So now you picked the wrong place.

[Weezy]

My homegirl's like, oh, my God, I think I'm gonna have another Vesper.

[Tahir Moore]

I ain't gonna believe what happened to.

[Weezy]

The grace of God. I told this nigga to his face. I said, this is the best day of my life. We get the check and the guy comes over and said, it's actually already been taken care of. Someone over there is a huge fan of you.

[Tahir Moore]

Wow.

[Weezy]

You changed my life. You changed my life.

[Mandy B]

I said, thank you. Thank you.

[Tahir Moore]

Hey, that's amazing, Doug.

[Weezy]

You know what? I have great karma.

[Tahir Moore]

Yes. Favor ain't fair. Hello? Favor ain't fair.

[Weezy]

Now I'm gonna intentionally do it at like. I found this really cool indie Jamaican spot. You wanna know I'm gonna do some shit like that.

[Mandy B]

It's so funny. Cause listen, I'll be petty. I'll be like, I got it at happy hour. You just get the next spot.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Yes. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy B]

I'll be like, let's do this. Let's do this.

[Weezy]

So we got some questions for you, sir.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay.

[Weezy]

Age, sex, location. Would love to know that before we get into your relationship, I'd like to do a little something starter, just like the AOL screen game. Cuz that's our age.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah. Okay. I'm 41. I am straight male and I live in LA LA right now.

[Weezy]

And so you're a dad?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

How do you have one kid? Two.

[Tahir Moore]

Just one, actually, her birthday was yesterday. She just turned 20.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I love it. You excited about the 21 age? Is it?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, I don't know. I'm just excited for her to get out.

[Mandy B]

Oh, she's still living at home?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, she living at home. She ain't going to school.

[Mandy B]

What's the count?

[Tahir Moore]

I don't know. You know, I'm trying to be like, I moved out at 14, so I'm not trying to force, like, the way I was brought up on her. But at the same time, I'm like, nigga, you gotta do something. I ain't taking care of no grown adults.

[Mandy B]

Is she able to bring boys to the house? Is that.

[Tahir Moore]

She has her friends over.

[Mandy B]

Okay, okay.

[Tahir Moore]

Ain't no nigga been over the crib yet, though. No.

[Mandy B]

You gonna do, like, what they do in the bad boys.

[Weezy]

Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah.

[Tahir Moore]

I ain't gonna do all of that. I mean, he'll know I'm crazy, though. Like, if he came over, it'd be guns out. But I ain't going, like, put no gun on him. I just. I just cleaning the gun. Like, hey, what's up? My. You good?

[Weezy]

No, she don't have good guys. She's a gamer.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, but I mean, the gamers be weird too, talking to each other.

[Mandy B]

No, no, they're serial killers on that thing.

[Weezy]

Training, so Hood nigga might be better.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

What?

[Tahir Moore]

I mean, listen, listen, listen. She ain't. She. Thankfully, my. My. My daughter is still very much like a. Like, she likes hanging with us. She likes watching movies with us. She don't like. She hangs her friend every now and then, but she's like the mother hen when she hangs with her. Wow. She's the one to make sure everybody drink water and stuff. Like, she doesn't drink. She don't smoke. Every now and then she'll do an edible with us.

[Mandy B]

But are you sure?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah. Because I know she would need money now, and she gets all the money for me now.

[Mandy B]

One of the reasons why our mutual wanted you on this show so much and what I love is because we never able are really to have this conversation fully with men. We've had couples on and things like that. But you're in the lifestyle.

[Tahir Moore]

I am in the lifestyle.

[Mandy B]

And so I would love to know if you could share even your introduction to lifestyle and how you're able to navigate it in a marriage with an older daughter too.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah. Well, first of all, we're very open with our daughter. When we first decided to go open, we sat down and talked to her about it. And then when we decided to go poly, we sat down and talked to her about it.

[Mandy B]

Wait, open and poly were two different conversations?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

Explain that.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay, so when we went open, it was like just. It was just a physical thing. Like, we weren't Looking for anything with the people that we might play with. We weren't keeping anything going like that. So, you know, like, hey, I might be coming home late. Me and mom have decided to, you know, try this out. Blah, blah, blah. This is open door policy. You can come talk to us at any time about it. You have any questions? Like, we went into detail with her, but you know, what age. Yeah, this was. This is 20, 25. So she might have been like 11.

[Mandy B]

And that's just because you told an 11 year old.

[Weezy]

Hold on, wait, wait, wait. This is really interesting to me because a lot of people act like this should be reserved for, like, an older kid.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

So you told an 11 year old and expected her to understand and like, how did you say it?

[Tahir Moore]

Well, we didn't go into, like, the details of, like, yeah, I'm. We fucking bitches out here.

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[Tahir Moore]

But, like, you know, because my thing is, like, with me being in entertainment and then embracing a lifestyle, if somebody snaps a picture of, like, yo, I thought to hear out with another person. And my daughter at that time, she wasn't on social media as much, but it was still around. Like, if it's floating around, I don't want her to see some shit. And then she's like the last to find out about it. So it was more so like, hey, listen, this is what me and mommy are doing. We're doing this because of this. This is a decision that we both made. So if you hear anything, you see anything, then feel free to come to us, ask us any type of questions like that.

[Mandy B]

I love that. And then at what point did you go from open to poly? And how was the conversation different?

[Tahir Moore]

So when we went poly, it was probably like 20. 20, 20, 21. And it was a more mature conversation. Hey, me and mommy are deciding to do this. We're looking for. Initially, we were looking for a third, and then we ended up just having our own partners. And so we told her because she had met both the partners already at that time.

[Mandy B]

So it was like the daughter met your wife's boyfriend and your girlfriend.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

And they've met each other. Mm.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, we.

[Mandy B]

We've.

[Tahir Moore]

We vacation together. We spend damn near the New Year's. I over. That'd be our whole tribe.

[Mandy B]

You get to travel as husband and wife with both of your partners.

[Weezy]

Are y' all swapping or are you.

[Tahir Moore]

No, no, no, not swapping.

[Weezy]

You're just vacationing.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

So what's the poly? What is that considered? Cause right now I'm solo poly. But what is that Polycule considered.

[Tahir Moore]

Well, I mean, it depends on like your arrangement to, you know, that's hierarchy and that's non hierarchical. So, you know, non hierarchical is everybody's.

[Mandy B]

On the same, everyone's on the same plane.

[Tahir Moore]

So anytime you make a life decision or you. You're planning on making a major life decision, like getting a car, moving, investing in something, like, you know, you bring it to the table so everyone can weigh in because it could affect everyone. So it's just a lot of communication. A lot of communication. And it's not to say like, niggas don't get jealous, like niggas still get jealous and do. It's just about being able to have the capacity to have the conversation and converse about what the insecurities are arising. Jealousy and anger, those are all both secondary emotions. So it's starting for something else. So, like, what is, what is stirring up this insecurity? What's earring up this jealousy? What's stirring up this, this anger? But you have to be in a place to be able to have that conversation.

[Weezy]

Been to therapy.

[Tahir Moore]

Listen, when I first got married, a was not like I was a shut down type. We have a conversation. I associated conversation immediately with conflict because of the way I was raised. And I grew up in a very violent household. My mom was beat by my sister's dad. Anytime she questioned or the conversation got too heated, he would just, you know, he beat me too. So I just seen that. And then my uncles, all of them fighting and fighting with their old ladies. Anytime, like a conversation got heated or she would raise her voice, I would shut down.

[Weezy]

Ooh.

[Tahir Moore]

I would either leave or just walk out the room. And then there's tents in the house for a week. And I was like, I don't like this.

[Mandy B]

So did you guys take this? Did you do therapy by yourself first or did you both decide to get therapy?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, I had to get in therapy. And I tried. Like, I had tried two different therapists. None of them was working. Like, I have a crazy backstory, you know, been shot, set on fire, kidnapped, all this type of shit. And it's all at 14. And so I'm telling the first therapist about this and we're doing it virtually, and I see her go, right, mouth right. And I was just like, this ain't gonna work. So I already know, like, if this shit's shocking you, like, this is just the intro. This is right after the Ford, after somebody do the Ford like this on the first page. And you doing damn right now. Nah, it's too many Cultural.

[Mandy B]

How many different therapists did you have to get before you felt like you could go from sharing your backstory to getting to your conflict resolution?

[Tahir Moore]

My third one was really good. And this is after the first two. Like, I canceled them, like, within, like, a month and a half.

[Weezy]

Did you have an idea of, like, man, woman, black?

[Tahir Moore]

I wanted a woman just because I think I feel more comfortable with women. I was raised by women, and also, like, you know, I'm a Pisces.

[Weezy]

Me too.

[Tahir Moore]

I was raised in the hood, but I also have, like, a lot of sensitive qualities. So I wanted someone that would understand that but also acknowledge it too. Like, you know, it takes a lot of strength to be like, yo, I'm scared, or I'm insecure, or, I don't know how to talk about this, or whatever. And sometimes I feel like women are more encouraging and comforting and nourishing to build you up and strengthen that muscle so you feel more confident doing it.

[Weezy]

I feel like it's so hard to even, like, go back to sex, you know, when someone start saying something you like, I've been shot. I've been on set of fire. You're like, okay, so about fucking dick. But I actually more so have a question that's on my mind. Pisces to Pisces now. Because jealousy arises, but sometimes jealousy is sexy.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

You as a straight man, what was your homeboy saying when you said your wife had a boyfriend? And I think I want to ask this really in depth, and you tell us a lot about it, because so many women are watching that are maybe in dynamics where their boyfriend won't let them have a boyfriend.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, absolutely.

[Weezy]

Or I could get some pussy sometimes, but you can't or whatever. Like, and we see that so much, and we see that it's so hard for them to have those conversations. I would love to hear, like, who was judging you and what was that like?

[Tahir Moore]

I'm sure a lot of niggas felt away. You know, they hit you with that old black saying. I mean, hey, nigga, if you like it, I love it. And honestly, a lot of times you have to just move with that, you know? Like, honestly, the people that did have something to say or felt away, like, none of them. The niggas pay bills in my house, period. Not a single one of them. So you can feel however the fuck you want to feel. But we good over here. Every bill is paid. We got cars, we got groceries. We flip a switch, lights come on, nigga, we chilling. How you feel about it? It's cool. But also, I'm not trying to push it off on you. I'm not recruiting. We're sharing. Right. I'm sure some shit that you eat that I don't fuck with. And I don't. I ain't finna like, what you eat don't make me shit.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Tahir Moore]

So I'm not tripping off of that. When it comes to, like, how I got to this point is we. I don't know. I've always been like a. Just an equal person. Oh, like you. I mean, yeah, I always been a freak. I've always been freak. But why is it okay for me to do it and you not to do it?

[Mandy B]

That's how I feel.

[Tahir Moore]

That's how we perpetuate the stereotype. If a woman fucks with a lot of people, she's a hoe. And if a guy do it, he's just like, being a guy.

[Mandy B]

He's a man.

[Tahir Moore]

That shit is stupid to me.

[Weezy]

How did you table jealousy? Or not even table jealousy, but more so know that you could handle it. What testers did you guys have? Were you starting with certain lifestyle parties? Did it other people?

[Tahir Moore]

I think just trial. Not trial and error, but like just knowing what you think you may be comfortable with and trying that sex is me is. I mean, there's different types of sex. It's a quick little right there. I just want to get this off. It's an exchange of energy. They're all really feeling this person. I like your vibe. The energy is good. We connect it right here. I want to see what this, like on a different level. And then there's like the more intimate sex. Right. If it's just sex right here. I don't give a about that.

[Mandy B]

I don't give.

[Tahir Moore]

I don't give a about it. Matter of fact, like, like, I never understood when they had the. I think the Muslims, like, when they do the suicide, they go to heaven. They get 40 virgins. Nigga who the wait wants 40? That's the thing that was like the promised land you get.

[Mandy B]

The promised land is 40 virgins. That doesn't even sound like fun.

[Tahir Moore]

That sounds like train 40 people.

[Mandy B]

That actually sounds like a punishment.

[Tahir Moore]

It's a punishment. What I want. Somebody wants some on the job training.

[Mandy B]

I wouldn't want 40 new dicks that ain't never been in the pussy.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, no, no, no. I got to see trying to ride.

[Mandy B]

And suck this up.

[Weezy]

Because niggas really don't want a virgin. They just want you to have like three, four bodies.

[Tahir Moore]

They don't. Yeah, they don't want, they don't want to run into somebody that you before, right?

[Weezy]

Oh, we'll be getting into that.

[Tahir Moore]

My thing is like, I got her now. Like, why are you tripping? You fumble, nigga. So why does it matter? Like, oh, well, I had it. Well, nigga, thank you for, you know, you know, teaching her whatever you taught her. But here we are now she's, she's flourishing with me. I don't know what the happened with y' all.

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[Mandy B]

I'm curious to know because it's different with everybody. I'm finding out my boundaries now with my boyfriends and I, like, it's actually also my boyfriends and when we have sex with other people, how we need to move because I also bring my friends in. So it's also boundaries with my friends who join me in the bedroom.

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[Mandy B]

But I want to know what boundary you didn't know you had. It happened and you were like, oh, shit, I need to communicate that this is a boundary. And I found out in real time that it's a boundary, right?

[Tahir Moore]

So my wife, I'm a voyeur. I love watching people. I love being watched. I love that shit, right? It was different with her boyfriend. I couldn't be a voyeur with her and him, okay. And I think it was because there was an emotional connection, right? It was more than just the physicality of it, right? With other people I could, you know, peep in. But like.

[Mandy B]

You'Re like, no.

[Weezy]

Was it also because this thing when.

[Tahir Moore]

They say, ooh, shit, bae, I'm like, oh, this n a mean it.

[Mandy B]

I don't say, I don't want to say that.

[Tahir Moore]

I don't.

[Mandy B]

But you learned it in real time. Have to be like, yeah, yeah, it.

[Tahir Moore]

Happened in real time. Yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Tahir Moore]

So I mean, and that's cool. But she still like, likes to watch me, you know? Like, she still. And I. That's something that I admire about her. Like, she really gets off seeing me being pleased. And that is, that's a special trait. Like, I, I again, if it was a fuck off, I could see that, right? But like, because it's, it's so much love. Like, when she started dating him, I was like, this nigga Finn fall in love. And I know he was because she that motherfucker. You not Gonna fuck with my wife on the first date. I guarantee, if y' all on that type of date and that type of time, you gonna want a second date immediately.

[Mandy B]

Nigga, I love it.

[Tahir Moore]

Because it's impossible to not fall in love with her. She's one of the dopest people in the world. Like, hands that just super fucking dope.

[Weezy]

How is it when you and him have a conversation? What is that? Like? Did you guys have a conversation as it moved further?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah. I mean, there were tons of conversations. The crazy part is I knew him before she even moved out here. I had met him through a friend. He was the brother of a friend. We had worked together on some projects and stuff like that. And he came to one of my parties. I used to throw parties at this. This bar. Regular parties.

[Mandy B]

I was about to say thank you.

[Tahir Moore]

At the game nights.

[Weezy]

I was like, well, of course you knew him.

[Tahir Moore]

And he asked about a shirt she had on. And that's how the conversation started. So they actually. The first time they hung out, we were all together anyway. So, you know, it was. It was. It was cool. We talked, but I. I think she wanted it to move faster than it was. And I was just like, I can't make that happen. Like, I. Like, it has. Yeah, it has to. Cause it wasn't something like. We hung out prior to regularly. Like, we worked together and we knew of each other, we spoke, we saw each other. Was gorgeous like that. But he wasn't the Virginia calling, like, yo, nigga, let's grab a drink or something like that. So, like, it still had to take his natural progression. I wasn't gonna rush it. Cause it just. I felt like it would have felt phony.

[Mandy B]

Is she friends with your girlfriend?

[Tahir Moore]

Mm.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Weezy]

You think you be talking shit about you.

[Tahir Moore]

No, he said, I mean, that my shit. I ain't perfect, nigga. Fuck up. You know what I mean? I'm sure if I just fuck shit, she'll call up like, this nigga.

[Weezy]

That's what I mean. Like, I'm really, like, just being facetious. But I'm saying, like, you get in an argument or not even like a real deep. Some shit, it's like, are they going to vent to each other? Because technically, if we're being honest here, when we talk about disagreements and sharing it outside, to me, in that polycule that is our relationship. Like, I would rather you venture to my boyfriend about something so you guys.

[Tahir Moore]

Can kind of like, yeah, work it out, talk it out, you know, I mean, they have the. Like, we. We've been In a situation where the three of us were talking and my wife brought up the situation and my girlfriend was like, no, I totally see why he did that. Like, I would have did that too.

[Mandy B]

I love that.

[Tahir Moore]

And it's like, that was comforting for me. Cause it was like, I knew she wasn't doing it to, like, just support me. That was her true feeling of it. But it also showed that, like, she's moving still with, like, the solo mind of, like. No, in my case, in my situation, this is what I would have did. She wasn't saying something just to appease my wife and get on her good side and get points. She was like, no, we. Like you said, we all on the same level. So I can give my honest opinion. Like, I would have did the same thing. And this wasn't something big. This was just, like, a situation where I think I said something or did something. And she was like, no, I see why. I see why he did that.

[Weezy]

Does your daughter, like, have presence with all four of you together? And what does that dynamic feel like?

[Tahir Moore]

Only like, if we do something at the house. Like, we have, like, dinners at the house or something like that. Because my girlfriend doesn't live here. She.

[Weezy]

She.

[Tahir Moore]

She. She's out of. She's out of state. So when she's in town, she'll come. She'll come. We'll see the kid or something like that. But typically, I go out of town to see her. It's just easier that way.

[Weezy]

And what kind of questions did she have for you? Like, as a. As a kid, she really didn't have.

[Tahir Moore]

Much because she had already seen it. She knows. Yeah, she's perceptive as hell. And, like, she would see me on the phone with her, My girlfriend, my wife on the phone with her boyfriend. And, like, she. So she knew, like.

[Mandy B]

But it's also crazy, too. Like, everything is so much more open now. Like, in terms of what we see on television, what's available on these phone devices, like, where we think kids are way more green and unaware.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

They really aren't. They know what the hell's going on. They know what's going on.

[Tahir Moore]

My daughter gay. She big gay. She already part of.

[Mandy B]

You know, that's why they were all guys. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Tahir Moore]

Well, you know what? At first, I wasn't gonna say anything. Cause I couldn't remember if she had, like, said it on anything. But we've talked about it on other podcasts, so I just never wanted to.

[Mandy B]

Come out for her.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

I love that. Oh, so. So it's the water in their house.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah. She started wearing Jinko jeans. I was like a little bit right here.

[Weezy]

My dad had a moment when I was a kid and I remember he was looking at me and he was thinking, is she getting this from her mama friends? But anyway, so we got truth or dare.

[Tahir Moore]

Ok.

[Mandy B]

But it's truth and dare and you.

[Weezy]

Know you gotta do both.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay. This is a wild show. Can I drink on this show?

[Mandy B]

You got the.

[Tahir Moore]

I didn't want to put. I didn't want to put camera. I didn't want to. It was behind the water bottle. I was trying to be respectful. See, you can't even see it right there.

[Mandy B]

Okay, okay, okay.

[Tahir Moore]

See?

[Mandy B]

Listen, I've been waiting to drain.

[Tahir Moore]

Listen, I'm just trying to be respectful.

[Mandy B]

Listen, it's my first time here.

[Tahir Moore]

I want to be invited back. I'm having a great time.

[Mandy B]

Me too.

[Tahir Moore]

Great time.

[Weezy]

Next episode, I want to be like, bring the.

[Tahir Moore]

Don't bring.

[Mandy B]

Let's talk to her.

[Tahir Moore]

Is that bringing cocaine?

[Mandy B]

Not bring. We had already talked.

[Weezy]

Why did someone call me B2K? I just real.

[Mandy B]

Anyway, yeah. We just found out that B2K means bump, bump, bump. And it means coke.

[Tahir Moore]

I have. Let me go on the record for saying this. I have never done.

[Weezy]

Hold on. So you have a septum and I have a septum.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

And we're different type of black people. Okay.

[Mandy B]

Yeah. Anyway, so truth is, you're not biracial, right?

[Tahir Moore]

I'm not. I've got Irish in my family, hence the red.

[Mandy B]

So you're biracial. Hold on. Stop saying that.

[Weezy]

I don't do coke with white people. Anyway, to the weirdest thing that hurts you. I don't. That's like an actual hard line. If they don't with, I don't feel.

[Tahir Moore]

Safe because the white people haven't got to be niggas. That's a wild ass lie. Like, oh, yeah, coke.

[Weezy]

Yeah, yeah, that's fine.

[Tahir Moore]

It's like. Hey, hey, hey, wait. What's this cracker doing here? No, no, no, not with this.

[Weezy]

Oh, bro, I'm not playing up.

[Tahir Moore]

They be doing different.

[Weezy]

That's what I'm saying. You know what the nice thing about black people with drugs is? Like, we not.

[Mandy B]

We're private.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I, I would say this though. I not. I've been around a lot of people that do coke. Stuff like that. I ain't never.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, you live in la.

[Tahir Moore]

I went to an after hour spot. O Right. And I don't know if y' all know this one, I don't go out like that, man. Let me tell you something.

[Weezy]

Damn. I really want to know what you said. Cause now I want to.

[Tahir Moore]

I'll send you. I'll send you the next invite. We went there and my homeboy invited me there. We go there and his homegirl is spinning. So we catch the end of her set. We're on the inside of the spot, and then we leave outside of the venue and there's like a. There's a real trolley, like a trolley car right here on the fucking venue lot. So we get on a trolley and shit like that. And if it's 15 of us within five minutes, nine of them start doing coke.

[Weezy]

Oh my God, I found that bus.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Okay, so it's like a warehouse looking thing.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, it's a big door. Well, it's a trolley, not a school bus. But so it's a big, big ass gate. Black gate or red gate, you walk through that door.

[Weezy]

You black people, right? Yeah, okay.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, it was mixed.

[Tahir Moore]

It was mixed, but it was a lot. I was like.

[Weezy]

So let me tell you what's funny. My homegirl, now I'm also joking a lot about cocaine because it's in, no holds barred. And I also feel like once your shit is memorialized, who cares?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

So my homegirl's like, I really want you some coke. Do you have something? And I was like, nah. But like, I feel like they're doing it on there.

[Mandy B]

She's like, I don't wanna go on there.

[Weezy]

It's probably stanky shit. I'm like, bitch, if there's a place to hide, they're doing cocaine. We get on that motherfucker. And she's like, how do I do? How do I ask for it? I'm like, bitch, you look around.

[Mandy B]

Not to look around.

[Tahir Moore]

See, now this is pretty privileged. This is exactly what the fuck I'm talking about. Cause if your homegirl was ugly as fuck, you know, ain't no good goddamn way somebody gonna give her a little bump. Yeah, bitch, you gonna take your rhinoceros ass the fuck up outta here. Gonna find a nigga on the street. That's pretty privileged.

[Weezy]

That's how you know what she look like she got on that bus. Now I'm behind her to you. And I heard her say. Cause like, it's tight to get in. I keep calling it a bus. I guess it was a trolley. Yeah. And I heard her. Someone be like, oh, do you want. Yeah. She's like, I'll call you later, Weezy. Don't worry.

[Mandy B]

I was like, oh, okay, bitch. I call got the help. Cause I know how to talk and ask and sell.

[Weezy]

Nah, like, yes, that's afters.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay. Anyway. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Weezy]

So truth, now I feel like this is too basic. What's the weirdest thing that turns you on?

[Tahir Moore]

Weirdest thing that turns me on? Oh, shit. Ooh. Fuck. I like pedicures.

[Mandy B]

Okay?

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, it's relaxing, it's soothing, and it turns you on.

[Weezy]

It makes you, like, you get hard.

[Tahir Moore]

It don't make me hard. It makes me relaxed. And if I'm relaxed, I can fuck the shit out of you.

[Mandy B]

All right?

[Tahir Moore]

So that just puts me in a good state to get ready to knock some walls down.

[Mandy B]

A good pedicure.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, man. But not. Cause I go get pedicures and manicures regularly at Hammer and Nail. But like, somebody just at the crib, like, just. Like. I had a chick one time, like, just pampered me. She put my foot in the soaking thing. I ain't had one in. No, I can't. I would normally, but no, I got. He had to calm down for my shit tomorrow. I've been on the road, baby. I've been on the road. So my shit tomorrow before I go to San Diego. But yeah, I think that. And a good head rub, too.

[Mandy B]

I don't think I've heard the head rub makes sense. But getting horny like a pedicure being an aphrodisiac, I don't think I've ever heard that.

[Tahir Moore]

One time that pampered me put my foot in the thing and then she massaged it and she oiled it up and then she clipped it and everything like that. She was nasty. So after she watched this, she sucks up. She sucked.

[Weezy]

All I could think of is hammer and Dad's fun.

[Tahir Moore]

Didn't have it there. All right, Just for the record, I ain't trying to get them fucked up. It did not have her.

[Mandy B]

Okay? There was no happy ending with the.

[Tahir Moore]

Toe stuck at this place.

[Mandy B]

This was a private in home pedicure.

[Tahir Moore]

This was. Yeah, this was. Somebody invited me over and was like, yo, I want to take it.

[Mandy B]

Slit the nails and then sucked both toes.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay, when you say it like that, you sound like you judging me. Don't yuck my young.

[Mandy B]

You know what?

[Tahir Moore]

Don't yuck my young.

[Mandy B]

You know what's crazy? No, no, no. I say it in a way because recently one of my old booze, we're still friends, and he got. He got a new. Like, he got a bitch. He got a new Bitch recently divorced, so. But he has a girlfriend. And we were supposed to go get drinks one night, and he said. So I had to stay in. And I said, why, nigga? He showed me that this bitch, like, had rose petals on the bed, lit candles everywhere.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, man.

[Mandy B]

And I was like, oh, bitches are out here. Wait, that's not the thing that men have to do for women. No, I said, wait, there's women doing the rose petals on the bed and candlelights.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, just destroy these gender constructs, bro.

[Weezy]

For, like, a birthday, right?

[Mandy B]

No, bitch, it was just a. It was like a Wednesday. Yes, there was. There was no birthday. There was nothing that happened. And I was just like. And I was just like, oh, she wanted to make sure you ain't go out. Maybe she was trying to keep you in from me.

[Tahir Moore]

I don't know. Maybe. Maybe she knew, maybe she didn't. You know what he did?

[Weezy]

He did the UNO reverse. That nigga said, you see how you bitches be sending motherfucking. Oh, I got this from my other nigga.

[Mandy B]

This.

[Weezy]

What the fuck?

[Mandy B]

Is that not so He's. Well, I'm not. We're not there.

[Weezy]

No, I'm saying, like, that's what I'm.

[Mandy B]

We ain't there. So he gonna say that. But I wanted to respond to you and saying, oh, you judgy.

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[Tahir Moore]

Right?

[Mandy B]

There's just been certain things that I've heard that women have done. And I was like, oh, bitch, I gotta set myself up.

[Tahir Moore]

You know what? I love an assertive woman. I'm very attracted to women who do what they say they're gonna do, who are motivated, who are innovative with whatever they got going on. Especially if you're in an entrepreneur space. Like, I like motherfuckers that do that shit. Like, that assertiveness, that leadership, that entrepreneur spirit. That shit's sexy as fuck when you do what the fuck you say you gonna do.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no. I know.

[Tahir Moore]

Let me.

[Mandy B]

Let me pussy.

[Tahir Moore]

My pussy wet.

[Mandy B]

My pussy wet when I say so. Just hearing, like, when women, like, really be on some shit that I haven't done, I'm like, oh, shit, I gotta do it. It's crazy. Cause my boyfriend recently, we were talking about having a threesome, and he got. I said, but I wanna do it with a nasty bitch. Don't put all the pressure on me to bring a friend. Cause I've already done that. It gets complicated. So he's like, ooh, I got this freak bitch in Miami. Like, you would like her. She got big titties. Da, da, da. And she be sending me mad videos of her sucking dick. And I said, I feel like that was your way of telling me I'm slipping. Because he enjoys watching me with my other boy. Like, he enjoys videos, seeing, watching. And he sent all these emojis, like, just a little bit like, I want more videos. And I'm telling you now, you gotta.

[Weezy]

Hit other niggas to get your man off.

[Mandy B]

No, you don't even understand. I'm in my phone.

[Tahir Moore]

I wish I liked head, man.

[Mandy B]

Listen, I'm in my phone going back to 2018.

[Weezy]

You say, I wish I liked head.

[Tahir Moore]

I wish I liked head more.

[Mandy B]

Here we go.

[Tahir Moore]

I fucking liked it. You know what it is? I don't.

[Mandy B]

You like it, but you like it.

[Tahir Moore]

A lot from it a lot, right? Oh, okay. And because of that, I often look at it as a chore for the person that's doing it.

[Mandy B]

Cause they gotta be down there a long time, right?

[Tahir Moore]

And because I'm a people pleaser and I didn't find out to like. I mean, I'm talking about maybe, maybe like eight years ago, that there are women that actually enjoy giving a head. Like, I had no idea. I just always felt guilty. I was like, bitch, you gonna die down there. You might as well forge your mail to my penis. Cause that's what you finna beg you.

[Mandy B]

Till you die, bitch.

[Tahir Moore]

I ain't never gonna go in at.

[Weezy]

41 to tell a woman that. And she's like, that's cause you ain't had me and you like.

[Tahir Moore]

And they think. They think that I'm saying that for that. And I'm like, bitch, no, no, no, no.

[Mandy B]

Men do. This is absolutely something. It's a reverse psychology that men will be like, I ain't never come off head to convince us to try to be down there so they can get some confidence.

[Tahir Moore]

It's not me, bitch. I will be doing a sudoku puzzle. I've fallen as. Like, I. I want to come.

[Mandy B]

Wait a second. You fell asleep.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay. On the psychological shit, I think you just.

[Weezy]

You got relaxed.

[Tahir Moore]

Well, no, no, no. So originally it was because, like I said, I was raised by all women. Right?

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Tahir Moore]

And initially, all of my. My cousin, uncle, like, yeah, there's been something I did this, something I did. And it was kind of like, it sounded degrading when it was kind of brought to me. Okay. Then most women are doing it on their knees, so they're already in a subservient position. Right. And I got some bad head where a bitch used too much teeth. And I'm just like trying to squeeze my ass cheeks together. Like I just want to come. I just want to blow this bitch head off. Right. And so because of those bad experiences and the like the subconscious mind and then me never arriving, I'm just like, nah, I'm over it.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Tahir Moore]

Like I will go down on you. I go crazy.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Tahir Moore]

I live down there. Let me inside your pussy. I want to put my face inside my entire head. You stand up, it's your shoulders from the rest of my body. I love eating pussy. Right.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Tahir Moore]

When it come to head, I'd be so.

[Weezy]

You know better about eating pussy though. It's like you almost gotta earn the wetness. Like, we gotta wait. Don't get me wrong, it's pre cum, sure. But like with pussy you're like, oh, it's more. Yeah, it's just like a lot. I mean, not that you probably have something to consider.

[Tahir Moore]

It's like a sucker that changes flavor.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Tahir Moore]

You know what I'm saying? Caramel apple suckers, they start with the caramel, then it gets to the apple part, the little green part right there. That's how pussy be. Cause you got the flavor.

[Mandy B]

It's a gusher.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Like literally, you know, like the gushers. When literally it's just like it tastes like plastic. We don't know why we like it, but when it bursts it, then it's like, oh, there go the good stuff. Hey, listen, good shirt.

[Tahir Moore]

My first squirter. Did not tell me she was a squirter. And I ain't know she was that type of squirter. Like, I had seen it on porn, but I had never had it in your head. Listen, I almost drowned. I can't swim. I've almost drowned in the shower. This.

[Mandy B]

You're very black. Listen, I can't swim.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah. I can't swim. I know how to not drown. I do not know how to swim, okay? Because I be doing know how to swim. Like, I didn't. I was on a vans war tour. We went to this gorge and I jumped off this 40 foot cliff into the water. I've been snorkeling, I've done all type of swim shit. Can't swim. I know how to not drown.

[Mandy B]

Okay?

[Weezy]

You are a vacation nigga. This is vacation swimming. Yeah. I'm with my homeboy. We've been to like so many different countries together.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

And then finally I'm like, oh shit, I think I'm be at the pool today. You gonna come swim? I don't know swim. I'm like, nigga, we was jumping off of y'.

[Tahir Moore]

All.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I had that shit on.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Tahir Moore]

I'm like, absolutely. I done jumped in the water in Mexico off of the catamarans and all that. Absolutely. I did that shit.

[Mandy B]

And you're still here with.

[Weezy]

I'm still here. Anyway, now we ready for the dare.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, let's do it.

[Weezy]

Okay. I feel like you've acted, so this is fine. Okay. To hear more. Decisions, decisions. Now, have a vibrator. You have to sell it. You have 20 seconds to make sure that our audience buys it. You got to talk about what it's going to do. You got to talk about how it feels, how amazing it's going to be.

[Mandy B]

What color it is, what speed.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Do they plug it in?

[Tahir Moore]

Is this a vibrator for penetration, or is it for stimulation on the outside?

[Mandy B]

Oh, I know that's right. Look, you better pray.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay, listen, I just need all of. I need to know the parameters so I know what the I'm selling. Here we go, ladies. How you doing? It's to hear more, your mama's favorite boyfriend. Listen, this is what I want to tell you. You've been doing vibrators the old way for so long that you don't recognize that you could be changing your life. We have the new Magic Dick 2000. All right? This is. This is designed for stimulation and penetration. We have eight speeds and nine different pulses, all right? Battery stays charged for 12 days, even after four days use. You cannot get a better quality dildo than this. And I'm not talking about, like, regular dildo. I'm talking about you can actually send in a mold of your favorite person's dick and have it molded to that. You can completely customize it. If you want a skin tone, you want it flesh, you want a neon, it has multiple attachments. Not only that, it has built in WI fi so you could connect your favorite song to it so it posts to the goddamn beat. Wow. Listen, if you want to stay with the old stone age with your typical plug in the wall vibrator, by all means, baby, do you. I'm not here to yuck your yum. But if you want to step into the new age and get that new shit, then come fuck with it. If I graded 2000, it's only $18,000. We do a Steph Corner, y'.

[Mandy B]

All. Now, we ain't gonna lie to us. That real good. You should have just said 29.99. Keep it. Keep it a point. We in a recession.

[Weezy]

It's a thing.

[Tahir Moore]

It ain't for everybody here.

[Mandy B]

It ain't for everybody.

[Tahir Moore]

In a goddamn recession, everybody appreciates and admires a Rolls Royce. Everybody can't afford it.

[Mandy B]

I ain't gonna hold you for 16,000. I need the robot. I need the whole body.

[Tahir Moore]

Hey, listen, that attachment, he said, but.

[Mandy B]

You can get to a body. You can get it.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, we got that.

[Mandy B]

I'm working with Tesla right now with the box. Yo, shut up. That nigga right here got an Elon vibrator. Yeah.

[Tahir Moore]

How led face? You have any face on there now you the Rock?

[Mandy B]

That's not who I would ch I.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay, well, whoever your the Rock is.

[Mandy B]

You know, to me to you never.

[Tahir Moore]

Heard someone say the Rocky the Rock.

[Mandy B]

No, he said the rock.

[Weezy]

Oh, the Rock is rock.

[Tahir Moore]

The Rock.

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[Mandy B]

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[Weezy]

Okay, so poetry is our segment where we basically are gonna be reading you a song lyric that you know. However, we're gonna be reading it like poetry.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, yeah.

[Weezy]

Now I got two because I think you may get this one too soon.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay.

[Weezy]

I'm gonna do my best to make it not sound I'm gonna be real and say what's on my heart to hear let's take.

[Mandy B]

You can't be adding words in it because then it makes sense.

[Weezy]

I only said his name. Let's take this chance and make this love feel relevant. Didn't you know I loved you from the start? When I think about all the years we put in this relationship who we knew we'd make it who knew we'd.

[Mandy B]

Make it this far?

[Weezy]

And then I think about where I would be if we were to just fall apart and I can't stand the thought of losing you Meet me at the altar.

[Tahir Moore]

I'm just Jagged edge.

[Mandy B]

That's what.

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[Tahir Moore]

Okay. I was gonna say. Cause I don't know all the verse. I know the beginning.

[Weezy]

Me neither.

[Tahir Moore]

Because I was like, I thought you were gonna first of all.

[Mandy B]

But she literally took up.

[Tahir Moore]

Motherfucker.

[Mandy B]

Literally.

[Tahir Moore]

I knew it.

[Weezy]

Literally.

[Mandy B]

That's what I was like. I was like, damn. She added words. She done removed words. And I'm like, so. That's tricky. That's tricky, motherfucker.

[Tahir Moore]

It's okay.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy B]

So you invited to a game night. See what she gonna do?

[Weezy]

See what I did yesterday? We was filming with Suri hall, and my first words were, keep me up all night.

[Mandy B]

And she was like, keep me up all night. Just take it up. And I was like, God damn it.

[Tahir Moore]

I get you. I get you. You have to. I'm not mad at it, but I was questioning.

[Mandy B]

But if you had a card game. That's not what it would do. The card games give you the goddamn word.

[Tahir Moore]

But you know what? Let's keep it a buck. Which one of us plays by the complete box rules of a card game?

[Mandy B]

We're not going.

[Tahir Moore]

We don't do that with Uno. We don't do that with Uno. We don't do that with spade. We don't do that with tongue.

[Mandy B]

So no, it's. So that's what we have to do. Hey, guys, we created this game and we changed it. Now we cheat to make it harder for you.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, we create the house rules.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, but see, there was no house rules given.

[Tahir Moore]

Hey, you know when you sit. I was just ready.

[Mandy B]

You know, when we sit, play spades. Hey, we doing Deuce High. Joker's involved. House like. You know what I mean?

[Tahir Moore]

You gotta do that.

[Mandy B]

Can you overbook?

[Tahir Moore]

Well, here's the thing. Here's the thing. There's no possibility of us fighting from this game. Spades is something different. Spaze. My grandma called me a bitch.

[Weezy]

I feel like everybody spaze.

[Tahir Moore]

Something different.

[Mandy B]

Spaze.

[Weezy]

Didn't everybody got a place?

[Mandy B]

Cause we gotta.

[Weezy]

Yeah, you know, you'll be like, okay, I guess not. We know there's fights at game night. I realized I had black people living next door to me because. So I don't really live at this crib in LA too often. Right? But I feel like I'm hearing, like, violence, and now I'm like, yo, is this domestic? What the fuck is going on? Should I call 911? So I called downstairs. My mom and I got apartments downstairs from each other. I said, mom, is there a woman next door? Cause I feel like somebody beating her. Like, it's two people in there screaming. No. They're so sweet. They have a game night every Friday. That's funny. I said, ah, them niggas playing Uno.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I ain't gonna hold you. I brought a game night to my house recently in Atlanta.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, she's amazing. Boy.

[Mandy B]

Boy. Now, just like every neighbor I walked by had something to say, and I said, next time. I'm just gonna let y' all know when I do this again, because it got, like, really loud, and it was Charades. It was uno.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, charades, too.

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[Tahir Moore]

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[Mandy B]

Charades. And it was like this one. Like, when you're like, oh, heads up, heads up. Here we go. When I tell you.

[Weezy]

Did you write video recording?

[Mandy B]

I said. I said, oh. Cause it records you in the app. And I was good. I'll show you guys. But literally took out the trash, I think went to go. Like, when it got the mail, I ran into, like, two or three neighbors that. This is the first time they all spoke to me and said that last night was fun. You had a good time. And I was like, everyone in the building heard me.

[Tahir Moore]

That's a shame.

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You know what I mean?

[Mandy B]

It's like, we didn't call the cops, right?

[Tahir Moore]

But, you know, we heard you, bitch.

[Mandy B]

We heard you.

[Tahir Moore]

And if you're gonna do it like that, at least invite the nigga. Oh, that be my. Invite me.

[Weezy]

All your neighbors black?

[Mandy B]

No, one of my neighbor did. You know what's crazy? So I moved into, like, this loft building, and it's so, like, chic with, like, it's unlike. Basically, I thought it was artsy enough to where no black people would live in it, even though it's in Atlanta. I was like, this gotta be full of white people. And I bought it from white people. Well, I'm leasing it from white people. I'm renting it from white people. Me and my friend went in there, and I was like, bitch, all my neighbors are black.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

And we had to really remind us.

[Tahir Moore]

You know why?

[Mandy B]

Because we live in Atlanta.

[Tahir Moore]

Them all the n that thought the same thing you did. All them niggas went in there like, oh, ain't gonna be no niggas in this bitch.

[Mandy B]

Well, no, even the doper thing about it is I'm the only one renting. Everyone in the building owns it.

[Weezy]

Fire.

[Mandy B]

So the hoa. Everyone in the building owns it.

[Weezy]

You really are an only white.

[Mandy B]

I am the. I'm the.

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[Weezy]

You said you rented for white people.

[Mandy B]

No. And they moved out. So I'm now the only one renting in this building. And all the owners now, they might.

[Weezy]

Have someone else they wanted to give it to, which I do. We have to make it fair.

[Mandy B]

Yes, we gotta make it fair.

[Weezy]

So long. It's like. And she's not owned.

[Tahir Moore]

They kept giving them the eyebrow. Every time they walk by, like, y' all still up in this.

[Mandy B]

Hey, they saw you.

[Weezy]

They said, maybe she's listening.

[Mandy B]

Well, no, I had to. Like, when I first apparently, like, there was a Rapper that used to live in the building. So when I moved there, she was like, girl, I think you live in such and such old place. I end up running to him in the club. He did used to live in my building.

[Tahir Moore]

Really?

[Mandy B]

And I was like, oh, wow. Yeah. So he must have sold it. But regardless, I was like, now Mandy.

[Weezy]

Trying to tell y' all she got a nice apartment.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, she's real bad. She flex real hard now.

[Mandy B]

Spiral staircase.

[Tahir Moore]

And she's flexing real hard now.

[Mandy B]

I couldn't wait.

[Weezy]

He saw Usher on the elevator. I wanted bitches to know.

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[Weezy]

Listen, when you can say something like, oh, I was having dinner and so and so was there. Oh, I was on my flight and so and so was right behind me. I'd be like, yeah, I'm getting money. That's just a little.

[Tahir Moore]

Just a little flex. But when you can say, yeah, I'm staying in TI's old flex, old spot right now.

[Mandy B]

TI, by the way, well, that was.

[Weezy]

TI's little run through events.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, listen, a lot of niggas I know that got little run throughs right over here. Right over here.

[Mandy B]

I'm not rich enough yet, but I want one.

[Tahir Moore]

I feel you.

[Mandy B]

I want a bachelor pack.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

I want a whole house.

[Tahir Moore]

I can see the space where I can go to when I'm.

[Mandy B]

I do, but I want to get one. But right now, it's like I can be open and free and they can come over.

[Weezy]

Now, this clip, I feel like we're all gonna have the same opinion, but it's just so crazy and wild to me.

[Mandy B]

Nope. I don't know if we'll have the same opinion. Oh, okay.

[Tahir Moore]

I wanted to know her list of who she. I need. I wanna know names, addresses. I needed to know. I have.

[Weezy]

Oh, my God.

[Tahir Moore]

And I'm gonna tell you why, though. I want to know. Because before I sit up here and really keep moving and elevating our relationship, I want to know who got one up on me and if I'm willing to take on that burden. Because why? I want to know if you had any type of relationship intimacy experiences with people that I really know. I need to know that I'm old. That's that. Because if you don't give me that, you got me. Hey, y', all, this my girl. And you got somebody over there in that corner. Like, nigga, that's our girl. Been there, done that.

[Mandy B]

Been there, done that.

[Weezy]

What if a woman asked you, let's say that you're dating someone who's a bigger celebrity than You?

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

And she's like, I need a list.

[Tahir Moore]

I'll give her that list. I mean, it ain't gonna make no difference. I'll give it a. Listen, here's the thing. For me, one thing. My wife, we did run into an issue with, like, as a comic, like, I. You know, I had knocked a couple people down before, and sometimes they would still pull up to a show. She'd be like, I need to know if somebody's in the room with you that I'm in with me that you have sex with. Right? And initially, I didn't get that, but then I understood, like, you know, having. Like, if she's engaging with this chick and, like, she's being forthcoming and chill and shit like that, and this bitch has ulterior motives. You know what I mean? Like, I'm not finna let her fuck with it like that. But, like, where he's coming from the point until he said, if you've been with somebody I know, I was just like, nigga, for what? Like, I don't give a fuck who you been with. Right? Like, I don't. Unless it's somebody I know somebody I'm gonna be interacting, or if we're in the same space with that person, let me know. Give me the heads up.

[Mandy B]

The clip was also cut off early. He goes further to say, now, if I know them, that's fine. However, if we are close and I have to see this person often, doesn't matter how beautiful, how much I like you, I would have had to let you go, because this person is gonna continue being around. So it's not even that, like, it's someone, like, casual. Like, okay, of course I'm gonna. But he literally says, too, like, if it was one of my teammates and this.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, that I get.

[Mandy B]

But for context to y', all, this was Cam Newton on his podcast with Parker McKenna. But he goes further. Like, he does go further to say it. Now, we had a recent. You got decisions where to me if I get with a partner who asks for my list, but I've avowed with someone else that this is something we keep in secret, that you not gonna tell nobody. I ain't gonna tell nobody. I don't.

[Tahir Moore]

Ooh, what are you doing that. Ooh, hold on. Wait.

[Mandy B]

You know what I mean? This is what we doing.

[Tahir Moore]

This.

[Mandy B]

What we doing in that position. Yes. Hold on, man. And I say that. I say that only because. I say that because there have been two men. What about me? There have been two. Yeah, two in my life where I've literally became upset because it was something to where, bro? One of them. We engaged with and interacted multiple times, had threesomes, all those things. He ended up getting married.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Who he got married to, I've shared rooms and spaces with.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

And. And I don't be weird. Me and him did not engage after he got married. And he was like, oh, well, she already knows about you. And I was upset because I'm like.

[Tahir Moore]

Bro, why wouldn't you tell me?

[Mandy B]

Why wouldn't that be a conversation with me? Because now I've seen her out, we've been in spaces and essentially in that sense, she has one up on me. And you completely disrespected me. And we said we wasn't gonna talk.

[Tahir Moore]

And share about it.

[Mandy B]

Now. Now, the other person who did this, we fucked once.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

I ended up years later and I've talked about this person on the pod. I ended up dealing with his brother's homeboy.

[Tahir Moore]

Uh huh.

[Mandy B]

We ended up really liking each other.

[Tahir Moore]

That means raw for those at home. That means. No, no, you really like somebody. No, no. You was fucking raw. You was fucking raw.

[Mandy B]

Yes. They really liked him.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

And then we both leave it in.

[Weezy]

Leave it in what, a leg, like, for me is cream.

[Mandy B]

No, like really liked him. Then we both ended up going into like the same career path.

[Tahir Moore]

Oh, fuck y' all fucking at venues.

[Mandy B]

Shut up.

[Tahir Moore]

Okay.

[Mandy B]

No, no, what's crazy is actually, you actually wanna know the crazy part about this. Fuck the whorehive. He came to a D.C. show and literally a bitch came up to him at the bar. Cause I had a tie and was like, you here for Mandy, ain't you? And I. He was like, bro, your fans are wild. And I was like, anyway, too that's.

[Weezy]

Happened with my nigga. And I wasn't around him.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, you know, Wheezy, I feel like.

[Tahir Moore]

Now, like, you would know her.

[Mandy B]

But I didn't like that. I didn't like that. Anyways, this friend, I didn't say nothing, cuz it happened once.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, that's it. Yeah.

[Mandy B]

He ended up not only telling this person.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, bro. Cold.

[Mandy B]

Because we ended up. We were fucking with each other for years. Like, y' all have heard him, his name is dc. I think I used to call him DC on the. Not only did he tell this nigga and this nigga completely went to a. I really like you, but I could never marry you because he would be at the wedding and I can't have a nigga that fucked my wife at the wedding. Not only did he do that he started fucking with my best friend's best friend. So the best she wants removed. The best friend she wants removed now. Nah. So the best friend cussed out my homegirl, like, why you ain't tell me? Mandy fucked so and so. And it just became like a whole thing. Not only fuck, he said, we dated, so now it just made it a thing. And I was like, bruh, I ain't tell when it was bad dating. That made it even worse. Now you tell that everybody.

[Tahir Moore]

I don't even count this nigga.

[Mandy B]

I literally didn't count.

[Tahir Moore]

Even the whole, like, he said, like, put the pencil on the paper. Nah, nah, that's okay.

[Mandy B]

That's okay. I'm have pumps in one position. I do not count it. So, like, for me, in terms of hearing this, a person coming in, just expecting a whole list of everyone I fucked. If there's prior conversations that I've had where this isn't something we both even are explaining to people. That's what makes it tricky. It makes it tricky.

[Tahir Moore]

Anytime you're in a lifestyle, anytime you're in something that's non traditional, there are less beaten paths to go down of things that you should do. So in this type of situation, it is very sticky because do you honor your new partner or do you honor the arrangement and agreement that you had with this previous person? Right. And so I think if you choose to honor your partner, then at that very time, like after you had the conversation with your partner, you need to have that conversation with the person. Like, hey, listen, things got serious with this person. I wasn't expecting to get this person, but we wanted to put it all on the table. So I mentioned you. Right? So at least they have the heads up. So if they're in the same spot.

[Mandy B]

Me not having a heads up with other nigga men.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, that's the part that's kind of fucking to me.

[Mandy B]

Even in lifestyle though too, if we're in play or we're out of place, like, you know, don't bring a. Like, and my ex did it, which was felt completely violating. Don't bring someone to play that y' all have something that I'm unaware of.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

You know what I mean? So I guess now being in lifestyle.

[Tahir Moore]

There'S like, just bring her in and be like, hey, this bitch sucked my dick on Tuesday. So in the back would like to know. Yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

Before I agree to let her have Percy in the club.

[Tahir Moore]

Wait. Cause it's Thursday. Wait, did this just happen like two days ago? Okay, yeah, yeah.

[Mandy B]

But I think for me though, being more in lifestyle, being able to just, just communicate more allows me to understand everyone's feelings, emotions, mine being violated and how I would have liked to be thought of or considered in different levels of communication with what I'm having with partners, previous partners, promises, honorings. If I'm in a place, how people are going to perceive that, I just would like that to all be.

[Tahir Moore]

Lifestyle permits itself to all different stages of learning on the curve.

[Weezy]

Yes.

[Tahir Moore]

Because a lot of the shit, again, we are not doing traditional lifestyle thing. So the, the conversations are. A lot of times you don't know you need to happen until you need to have it right. So you'll find out on the fly, like, oh, I feel like I might be violating a boundary or a parameter that somebody said, let me talk to this person to see if they're okay with this, whatever. And a lot of it is using. I won't say common sense is like. Like treat people how you want to be treated. Right, Right. And. But which is fucked up because sometimes some people don't give a. Like, I fuck with chicks that don't give a fuck. Fuck me, the homeboy and all types of shit. And she don't tell nobody. She just move like that. That's just her thing. So I would say that give people the opportunity to say yay and nay. Don't rob somebody of the opportunity to make a decision.

[Mandy B]

For a lifestylist. When you and your wife decided that you could each have partners outside of the marriage, were there any stipulations of what those partners could or couldn't be or who they could or couldn't be or what they could or couldn't do?

[Tahir Moore]

Like, were there no friends?

[Mandy B]

Oh, it couldn't be any of your friends.

[Tahir Moore]

Anybody of her.

[Mandy B]

You couldn't date any of her friends. Yeah, that was the only.

[Tahir Moore]

That was the main one right there. Besides specific people.

[Mandy B]

But not the smile.

[Tahir Moore]

Some people she was like, not this bitch.

[Weezy]

Well, I think that the veto.

[Mandy B]

Okay, not this bitch is not. I'm not mad at that.

[Weezy]

So a lot of people don't discuss what the veto looks like. And basically that. Not these people. And listen. So I have that in my dynamic where if it's. If I'm uncomfortable and there's no questions that, like, I'm just done with it. Yeah, but that to me is something that's so important because that's when open relationships get weird.

[Mandy B]

Once I gotta go back and forth.

[Weezy]

With you about somebody. What the. Yeah, if we got a boundary, we got a line like, nah.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah. And. And that's the thing.

[Mandy B]

Like no friends and not this.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But. But even with that, like, it's okay if somebody does say not this. Like, ask why. Because like sometimes like I'm the type of person, bitch, don't tell me what the fuck to do. I need to know the reason why. Otherwise it's like I don't. Like, yeah, I'll bread out. I'll bread out, bitch, but I bought you the Louis purse.

[Mandy B]

I'll bread out my dick.

[Tahir Moore]

One nothing about you the first. Like, I'll bread out. Right? But I needed to know. Now I need to know why. Because sometimes that helps me understand. Like, she's too close or I feel like she's messy or she's gonna move too loud or, or I watched her. I don't like the way she interacts or she's too loose at the mouth. She gonna die, whatever it is.

[Mandy B]

But this isn't a back and forth. I love that you're just like, it's not because I said so.

[Tahir Moore]

Yes.

[Mandy B]

If it's a no, not this person I'd not met you say a why should be followed with that.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I didn't know why. Like, cause like they telling me just cause I said so. Like, bitch, I'm not seven, I'm not a kid. Don't tell me to go to bed. Cause you said so. Like, why the fuck I gotta go to bed right now?

[Mandy B]

Right?

[Tahir Moore]

Right. So that's all it is for me. I need that understanding and that clarity. And that also makes me be more empathetic to your needs and your wants and your. And your wills. Because like, all right, I'm gonna take on what you have going on because you're my partner. So if you say this and you give me the reason for like, all right, well, I just fuck this bitch forever then. So now we riding together, but they're telling me. No, it's like forever. Forever.

[Weezy]

Now, as we're nearing the end of this episode, it actually is.

[Tahir Moore]

Fuck that. Cancel whoever Next this three hour episode.

[Mandy B]

They're right outside.

[Tahir Moore]

I'm about to change the clothes. I'm finna put my shorts on. I got no drawers on. I'm seeing live.

[Weezy]

Look at that print A thing that you would love people to know that are thinking about getting an open relationship because you've been doing it decade.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

So tell us like the biggest lesson learned and something that you wish you knew in the beginning.

[Tahir Moore]

If you don't know how to communicate, don't do it.

[Mandy B]

I Agree with that.

[Tahir Moore]

It's full over here. It's Atlanta. We don't need no new niggas over here. Like, don't do it. It's not gonna save your relationship, it's not gonna save your marriage if you haven't done the adequate and appropriate work. It is not a bandage for anything. It is about, well, it's about whatever you make it about. But it should be about the experience, the lifestyle of having that transparency and that freedom with your partner. But you cannot have any of that if you don't have adequate communication. If you're not, if you're somebody that's docile and you don't speak up for yourself, you don't question, you don't ask why, no, not this bitch, then you're not, you're not ready for it.

[Mandy B]

I like that.

[Tahir Moore]

Because you're going to get, like I said, so many on the fly situations where you have to adapt really quickly. And the only thing that can save it is going to be communication. And if you're not good at communicating, if you can't converse with someone without getting up in arms and storming out and cursing and all that shit, you're not ready for this. Because there are going to be a lot of times where your patience, your jealousy, your, your morals, all of that shit may be conflicted at some point. And if you can't conduct yourself in a, in a manner, and I'm not saying like, you got to be prompt and, and, and proper every time, right? But you have to be able to at least have the capacity to be like, hey, this has been bothering me. Can we have a conversation about it and allow that person the space to say, yeah, does this day work? Or can we do it later? Because, just because it's important to you and it's been on your mind for the past four days, this person might not have been thinking shit about it. So you, you bombarding them like, yo, I need to talk to you right now. Hey, you know what? They in the middle of what they got going on, they might be dealing with something they just haven't shared with you yet. Like, allow them the space to create a safe place to listen to you, not defensively, but like, listen to you and, and be open to why they said they did what they did or said what they said. And try to do it from a place of understanding. Because if you're doing it, if you're going in it completely defensively, right? And you're just, this, you did this, you did this, you did this. And Whatever they say, it's not gonna matter. Cause you just, you're hurt at that point. So if you're not in a place of truly understanding them and trying to get some resolve to the situation, you're just gonna be mad. So if you're gonna do it, do it for the right reasons.

[Weezy]

The open relationship whisper, y'.

[Mandy B]

All.

[Weezy]

Thank you, Tahir. That was so fucking good. We need a part two because now I feel like I got follow up.

[Tahir Moore]

Hey man, there's a part two after dark. I'm gonna wear lingerie. I got the fenty robe.

[Mandy B]

Shut up. Fenty robe is crazy. Can I also say real quick too before we leave, knowing that you have a robe, fenty robe, whatever. That has been the one thing I've hated about sex clubs down south. They don't dress as elegant. Like, I don't wanna see multiple robes. I do not wanna see a man in basketball shorts, a wife beater and Jordan slides with socks.

[Tahir Moore]

I'm gonna show, when we get off camera, I'm gonna show you my outfit. I'm gonna show you my outfit. For the last party I went to, I was dressed like a centaur. So I had like furry legs. Like I had, I had furry chaps on with. With the ass out. I had the horns, I had the harness on it. Yeah, it was, it was a whole, like I, I dressed for the.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no, no, no. I actually. I need a picture of you.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, I got you.

[Mandy B]

I just need a picture.

[Tahir Moore]

I got you.

[Mandy B]

Please let our listeners where they can follow you, where they can support you, where they can come see you live.

[Tahir Moore]

Hey, listen, my only fans is with you. It's at to hear more on everything, man. This show is probably gonna up my chances of getting on this other comedy.

[Mandy B]

Competition, but you know, this was a very mature.

[Tahir Moore]

Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure, for sure. It is, it is. I'll tell you afterwards. You got the NDA shit. No, but at to hear more on everything, man. I don't have a website right now. I'm working on it. It went down because I didn't pay godaddy. I wasn't selling at the point, so like. But I'm coming back. The new T shirts is up there. Also my special is all aging out. You can catch that on Apple TV prime and you can buy it on YouTube. Also, Churchy Season 2 is on BET plus and the hospital's on BET and yeah, Abbott elementary, keep looking out for.

[Weezy]

That too because you're on Abbott this season.

[Tahir Moore]

We'll see. I mean, I appreciate everybody to watch the previous seasons of Abbott. I appreciate y'.

[Weezy]

All.

[Tahir Moore]

Thank y' all so much.

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[Mandy B]

Thank you.

[Weezy]

Got money? I didn't even know.

[Tahir Moore]

Relax, relax.

[Mandy B]

No make sure y' all get our book. No hol and if you want bonus content, head on over to Patreon where you'll get a vibe more like this episode. Horrible Decisions is all over there. Patreon.com Horrible Decisions this has been another episode of Decisions Decisions. Bye.

[Tahir Moore]

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