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Decisions, Decisions – EP 451: "Our Poly Family Getaway" (feat. Tahir Moore)

Date: December 15, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Guest: Tahir Moore (Comedian, Podcaster)

Episode Overview

In this candid and engaging episode of "Decisions, Decisions," Mandii B and WeezyWTF are joined by comedian and podcaster Tahir Moore for a deep dive into the realities of non-traditional relationships—specifically, polyamory and open partnerships. The hosts and Tahir explore boundaries, communication, jealousy, and family dynamics, sharing both vulnerable and hilarious stories. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in modern relationship structures and the honest, sometimes awkward, truths of navigating them.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Birthday Dinners, Class, and Splitting Checks

The episode opens with a fun discussion about the cultural expectations and financial realities of birthday celebrations with friends (03:32–07:51).
- The trio jokes about restaurant etiquette, "MP" pricing, and group dinners, with humorous takes on who should pay.
- Tahir mentions, "If we have Pizza Hut, absolutely. Go crazy, bitch. I got a $250 fare for everybody." (06:02)
- Weezy shares her plans for a Cheesecake Factory birthday, balancing cost and personal enjoyment.

2. Introducing Tahir Moore: Family & Openness

Tahir shares background on his age, parenting style, and his daughter’s dynamic with their non-traditional household (09:42–11:52).
- On letting his 20-year-old daughter stay at home: "I'm just excited for her to get out… I'm not taking care of no grown adults." (09:59–10:04)
- Talks about open communication and trust with his daughter, especially regarding their family’s poly lifestyle.

3. Defining and Navigating Open and Poly Relationships

The hosts ask about Tahir's introduction to the lifestyle and how he and his wife transitioned from being 'open' to 'poly' (11:28–15:24).
- Tahir explains the distinction:
  - "When we went open, it was just a physical thing… When we went poly, it was a more mature conversation. We ended up just having our own partners." (11:51–13:14)
  - They informed their daughter about both transitions—at age 11 for open, later for poly.
- Open and honest disclosure with the family was prioritized due to Tahir’s public profile.

4. Communication, Therapy, and Unlearning Old Patterns

Tahir details the necessity of therapy for overcoming past trauma and learning to communicate effectively in his marriage and poly dynamic (15:24–16:58).
- “I would associate conversation immediately with conflict because of the way I was raised… I had to get therapy. My third one was really good.” (15:24–16:15)
- Sought a woman therapist for comfort, given his upbringing.

5. Jealousy, Boundaries, and Emotional Labor

The group examines how jealousy and emotional challenges manifest in poly relationships (17:13–19:52).
- Tahir: “I've always been a freak. But why is it okay for me to do it and you not to do it? That's how we perpetuate the stereotype.” (18:18–18:48)
- Discusses types of sex (casual vs. intimate) and how emotional connection with a partner’s other partner can shift personal boundaries.

Notable Quote

“When we first decided to go open, we sat down and talked to [our daughter] about it... When we decided to go poly, we sat down and talked to her about it.”
— Tahir Moore (11:38)

6. Real-Time Discovery of Boundaries

Tahir shares a vulnerable moment of discovering discomfort observing his wife’s intimacy with her partner:
- “It was different with her boyfriend. I couldn't be a voyeur with her and him... Because there was an emotional connection.” (23:39–24:10)

7. Family and Polycules: How It Works

Explanation of their polycule structure, regular family gatherings including partners, and how everyone communicates about major decisions (13:36–14:51, 27:09–28:02).
- Emphasis on non-hierarchical polyamory and transparency.

8. Societal Judgment and Male Response

Tahir addresses how his male peers perceived his wife having a boyfriend:
- “None of them niggas pay bills in my house, period. Not a single one of them. So you can feel however the fuck you want to feel. But we good over here.” (17:41–18:18)
- Both hosts and Tahir debunk toxic masculinity around double standards.

9. Truth or Dare, Sexual Preferences, and Humor

The conversation detours into a playful segment including truth-or-dare about desires, boundaries, and funny stories around drug culture and gender expectations (28:43–33:35).
- Tahir admits pedicures and head rubs are his surprising turn-ons, sparking laughter.
- The group jokingly reflects on acts of service, pampering, and unexpected behaviors in and out of the bedroom.

10. Communication in Open Relationships—Lessons Learned

As the episode wraps, the hosts ask Tahir for his #1 advice:
- “If you don't know how to communicate, don't do it. … It's not gonna save your relationship, it's not gonna save your marriage if you haven't done the work. ... You have to be able to have the capacity to be like, 'Hey, this has been bothering me. Can we have a conversation about it?’” (63:16–64:02)

Notable Quote

“Don't rob somebody of the opportunity to make a decision... Give people the opportunity to say yay and nay.”
— Tahir Moore (60:39)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Poly Family Communication:
“We vacation together, we spend damn near the New Year's... That'd be our whole tribe.” (13:38)
On Navigating Jealousy:
“Jealousy and anger, those are all both secondary emotions. So it's starting from something else.” (14:10)
On Male Ego & Double Standards:
“Why is it okay for me to do it and you not to do it? That's how we perpetuate the stereotype.” (18:39)
On Therapy & Healing:
“My third [therapist] was really good… I wanted a woman just because I think I feel more comfortable with women, I was raised by women.” (16:15–16:25)
Advice for Newcomers to Polyamory:
“If you're not good at communicating, if you can't converse with someone without getting up in arms and storming out and cursing, you're not ready for this." (64:02)

Important Timestamps

03:32–07:51: Group dinner discourse, financial etiquette
09:42–11:52: Tahir’s family dynamic, parenting openness
11:28–13:14: Open vs. poly defined, conversations with kids
15:24–16:58: Therapy and communication lessons
17:13–18:48: Jealousy, societal expectations
23:39–24:10: Discovering personal boundaries with partners
27:09–28:02: Family and partners’ interactions
60:39–61:59: Consent, honesty, and handling boundaries in non-monogamy
63:16–64:02: Core advice for opening relationships

Flow, Tone & Style

The tone is open, playful, and “no holds barred”—true to the hosts’ brand. Tahir’s comfort and storytelling skills match the hosts’ chemistry, and the episode balances laughs with deep, thoughtful discussion. All three engage candidly about vulnerability, growth, and the importance of honest dialogue for anyone navigating love beyond “the norm.”

Summary Takeaways

Communication is non-negotiable in poly/open relationships.
Establish clear boundaries, revisit them, and talk through new revelations.
Transparency with partners and family members, even (and especially) children, is crucial to avoid secrecy and mistrust.
Therapy and personal growth are vital for unlearning outdated narratives and making healthy relationship choices.
There is no one-size-fits-all in non-traditional relationship structures—your experience may require unique navigation.

For more:

Follow Tahir Moore (@tahirmoore) on socials and check out his comedy specials and appearances.
Bonus content and after-dark episodes available via Patreon/Horrible Decisions.

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EP 451: Our Poly Family Getaway (feat. Tahir Moore )

Transcript

Summary

Decisions, Decisions – EP 451: "Our Poly Family Getaway" (feat. Tahir Moore)

Episode Overview

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Birthday Dinners, Class, and Splitting Checks

2. Introducing Tahir Moore: Family & Openness

3. Defining and Navigating Open and Poly Relationships

4. Communication, Therapy, and Unlearning Old Patterns

5. Jealousy, Boundaries, and Emotional Labor

Notable Quote

6. Real-Time Discovery of Boundaries

7. Family and Polycules: How It Works

8. Societal Judgment and Male Response

9. Truth or Dare, Sexual Preferences, and Humor

10. Communication in Open Relationships—Lessons Learned

Notable Quote

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

Important Timestamps

Flow, Tone & Style

Summary Takeaways