Ep. 457: Tacky

Summary

Podcast Summary: "Decisions, Decisions" Ep. 457 — Tacky

Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Release Date: January 26, 2026
Theme: Exploring non-traditional relationships, dating standards, miscommunication, and the realities of modern love

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Overview

In this solo(ish) episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF dig deep into the nuances of "tackiness" in dating, examining modern relationship expectations, self-sabotage, and the essential role of honest communication. With a signature blend of humor, transparency, and spicy commentary, the hosts discuss juicy listener stories, personal dating conundrums, and the emotional rollercoaster of navigating non-monogamy — all while calling out bad behavior on both sides of the gender divide.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Turks Trip Drama: When Expectations Become “Tacky”

• The Situation: Weezy recaps a controversy involving her friend, who clashed with a man over who should book a flight for an island trip they planned together.
• Listener Engagement: The friend's reaction to podcast comments revealed the emotional depth and public scrutiny dating decisions can attract.
• Quote:
  • “I just feel like...because you happy in your relationship, you can't see what it's like to be courted right now.” — Weezy’s friend (04:01)
  • “Man or woman getting rid of a situation because you didn't get 100% of what you want is straight up self-sabotage. Nobody gets 100% of what they want.” — (04:17)

Breakdown:

• The friend’s approach (pressuring for the flight and later apologizing) was seen by her date as a test, and he found the behavior "tacky."
• Context: The friend is used to dating high-status men through her career (MSG), possibly leading to outsized expectations.
• Mandii B’s Hot Take:
  • “I would rather be called a slut-ass hoe than a tacky bitch. ...If a man calls you tacky, that's like BOP.” (07:42)
  • The hosts agree the issue is not just standards, but how poorly and aggressively those standards were communicated.

Segment Timestamps:

• Story intro & backstory: [01:41]–[03:38]
• Friend’s apology and text exchange: [04:53]–[06:46]
• Hosts debate tackiness, standards, and self-sabotage: [07:09]–[09:19]

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2. Self-Sabotage vs Realistic Expectations

• The hosts examine the tension between high standards and sabotaging potential good relationships.
• Mandii B: “A lot of you bitches ain't shit. ...And you're not fun to date.” (13:55)
• Both agree women can also be to blame for failed connections, especially when communication is poor or inflexible.

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3. Communication Breakdown

• The story revealed both parties were unclear and made assumptions about trip logistics (timing, who books what).
• Mandii B: “She lacks communication. She assumed things, and she damn near threw a fit over $380 like a broke bitch.” (16:47)
• The group discusses the importance of expressing desires and not testing partners in passive-aggressive ways.

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4. Notable Listener Story: Secret Engagement

• Mandii B's story: A friend hooked up with an ex, only to discover he’d proposed to another woman on the same trip and kept it secret.
• Mandii: “He proposed to a whole bitch while he was keeping you up to date with his fucking trip.” (24:35)
• Emotional impact: The friend briefly felt she missed her “shot,” but later realized the ex’s dishonesty would have made him a terrible partner regardless.
• WeezyWTF: “I think what's most hurtful...is knowing that to watch someone get engaged to somebody else while you would spend...” (26:54)

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5. Who Do Men Marry?

• IG Takeaway: Men don’t marry the love of their lives, they marry the woman who’s there when they're ready (27:30–29:33; summarized from Taylor Conroy).
• Weezy's Reflection: “I always checked in with my man, like, are you sure? ...Because I want to make sure that I am with the person I'm meant to be with.” (29:33)
• Discussion: Men marry when ready, not necessarily due to any one special partner. Women, by contrast, may be more influenced by love than timing.

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6. Mandii’s Non-Monogamy Dilemma

• Mandii opens up about considering breaking up with her boyfriend due to his sexual priorities and lack of life stability.
• Quote:
  • “I'm not even gonna say what I was about to say ‘cause I'm gonna say it off air, but the priorities just aren't there either.” (44:27)
• Detail:
  • Her boyfriend flies to see/fuck various women (and couples) every weekend, some of whom he barely knows or doesn’t even like.
  • Mandii is bothered not just by the promiscuity, but by the lack of communication, questionable priorities, and his readiness to spend money on sex versus improving his actual life setup.

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7. Breaking Up for Petty Reasons

• The crew swap stories about surprising or “petty” reasons for ending relationships.
• Examples:
  • Dirty feet in a nude photo (51:24)
  • Wrong flowers (52:23)
  • A partner calling protesting “a waste of time” (53:19)
• Weezy: “I had a [guy] told me protesting was a waste of time… and I was like, I'm good.” (53:19)

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

• “A lot of you bitches ain't shit. ...And you're not fun to date.” — Mandii (13:55)
• “I would rather be called a slut-ass hoe than a tacky bitch.” — Mandii (07:42)
• “Men don't marry the love of their lives. They marry the woman who's there when they're ready.” — Recap of Taylor Conroy’s viral IG (27:53)
• “You're not my savior. You're not the only nigga that can make me squirt... For me now, it's a little bit beyond dick.” — Mandii, on why she’s less impressed by sexual prowess alone (55:02)
• “If a man calls you tacky, that's like bop. Like, he don’t like you. He gonna go out to eat with you, probably just not anymore.” — Mandii (09:19)

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Important Timestamps

• Turks drama & recap: [01:41]–[09:19]
• Discussion on expectations/self-sabotage: [13:44]–[16:47]
• Listener’s secret engagement story: [21:14]–[26:54]
• Men “marry who’s there when ready” discussion: [27:30]–[29:33]
• Mandii’s non-monogamy relationship issues: [32:07]–[47:01]
• Petty breakups & red flags: [47:02]–[54:13]

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Takeaways & Tone

• Candid, funny, and sometimes brash: The hosts never hold back, roasting friends, listeners, and themselves in equal measure.
• Key themes: Self-sabotage, the pitfalls of poor communication, real-world non-monogamy, and how expectations must be managed in the wild world of modern dating.
• Mandii and Weezy repeatedly stress: Know your worth, but communicate it clearly, and don’t expect perfection. Also, reflect on whether your standards come from a real sense of self or just ego and habit.

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Closing Thoughts

If you’re navigating non-traditional relationships, struggling with dating standards and communication, or just love messy, honest dating stories, this episode captures it all. Mandii and Weezy blend actionable wisdom with hilarious realness, making “Tacky” the go-to listen for anyone wanting to ditch outdated narratives and laugh at the messiness of modern love.

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Want updates on Mandii’s breakup and more tea? Tune into their Patreon for all the behind-the-scenes debriefs.

Transcript

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[A]

I don't think you should say Decisions, decisions. It sounded like you was talking. It cursed him.

[B]

You definitely say to welcome.

[A]

Welcome to the new podcast.

[B]

Oh, wait, you want to say together. Decision.

[A]

Decision. Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of Decisions Decisions.

[B]

Ooh, I heard the flim.

[A]

Oh, shut up. I know, it's so nasty. It's beautiful. Anyways, guys, welcome. I'm your girl, Mandy B.

[B]

Hey, y', all, I'm Wheezy. Welcome back to another episode. Listen, y' all begged for us to be be solo and alone, bitch.

[A]

Now y' all got a solo hoe. I ain't gonna hold it.

[B]

I'm solo ho.

[A]

Solo ho. Even though last week they had another guest, it was like these bitches only gave us one solo. All right, so bitch, the next three about to be solo on you hoes unless we get that special guest we working on.

[B]

Ooh, yeah.

[A]

Oh, that'll be cute. That'll be a treat for you bitches. Okay, A treat. Eat it up.

[B]

Just like a trip to the Turks would have been a treat.

[A]

Okay, so y', all, if you listened to the very first episode of the year, we was listening and judging and not agreeing on one of Weezy's friends. Um, a lot of people in the comments was agreeing with you, but them bitches probably lost and clueless too. Okay, so you know, at the end of the day, the day gonna end. But also, actually, they said two things could be true.

[B]

Uh huh.

[A]

The bitch was acting like a bird and self sabotaging the relationship. But also she really didn't like him. But apparently there's an update cause y' all not the friend listening to the episode.

[B]

Okay, share with the people. This how I know the bitch was pressed. Temp, can you throw me your water? I gotta make sure I'm lubricated for this room.

[A]

Tempe, not lubricated.

[B]

Room. Temp. Temp. Okay, so let me tell y' all about these.

[A]

And by the way, Edith, you was a little quiet last time we had the conversation about this. We need you to weigh in as the man.

[B]

Yo, I was kind of mad when Mandy left. Wolf was like, nah, I agreed with you.

[A]

Well, where were you? Well, he wasn't mic'd up. You kept trying to talk to Wolf ass. And Wolf didn't have a mic. So this time, as the man in the A man with a mic. All I need is one mic.

[B]

Should we recap for people that didn't catch that episode?

[A]

No, because fuck them hoes. They better go back and listen. We need all the views. Go back and listen. Two episodes ago. Pussa hoes for the first 20 minutes. If you want to hear what we talking about, then come back. Don't recap. Bitches say Netflix. You don't get a motherfucking in the last episode. No. Take your ass back and listen.

[B]

We've got to get her out of Atlanta.

[A]

Bitch, you do. I'm in New York right now.

[B]

Okay, True.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay, so update. No, no, no. You asked Eden.

[A]

No, no, no, no. I told Eden. She wants me to choo.

[B]

Chime in. Chime in.

[C]

She wants me to chime in.

[B]

Okay, so basically when the episode dropped.

[A]

No. We said, we not give a.

[B]

No, no, no.

[A]

Okay, but it's important.

[B]

So the girl told him, you need to get my flight. And he's like, we don't need to go nowhere. That was Saturday. I recorded with you on Sunday.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

The episode came out on Monday.

[A]

Yes. Come on. Timeline, baby.

[B]

Monday, 9:30. She hit me like, I've listened to the full thing she said. I even listened to the end to see if you bring it up again. And.

[A]

And we did.

[B]

She's like. And I went through the comments and there's a comment that really affected me. And not.

[A]

Not bitches being affected in the comment section.

[B]

But you know what it is? She was like, oh, I just feel like. Cause we were on the phone. She's like, I just feel like. Cause you happy in your relationship and shit. You can't like see what it's like.

[A]

You can't step out of it. Yeah.

[B]

You can't step out of and be courted right now.

[A]

I do agree with that. Like, when you all lovey dovey in a relationship, you don't know how to really talk to a single bitch out here in the street.

[B]

But wait, I feel like because I'm in a relationship, I could give some great advice Because I see the things that I've changed. Now. This is the comment she referred to. So shout out to you. Okay, man or woman getting rid of a situation because you didn't get 100% of what you want is straight up self sabotage. Nobody gets 100% of they want. Nobody.

[A]

I did see that. Said I ain't gonna hold you.

[B]

He said, I don't like that comment. I don't think she liked him that much. So she gets.

[A]

You agree, right?

[C]

I don't think so.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay. So here's her text. I watched your episode lol knew Mandy would agree. But. But I said so she called me. I said, don't call me. I need you to write this out so I can read it.

[A]

Not just turning your friend into content.

[B]

What she don't. She's not a podcast girl. One thing she is wrong about is I actually do like him. But my real truth is I don't care how much I like a. I will never settle. She wrote that in all caps and I wrote girl dot, dot, dot. She said, I'm about to speak to him. Keep you posted. Please give full detail and screenshots. Okay, we just had a conversation. I'm going to share with you how it started me. Hey, I realized I was out of line with some of the things I said to you and I would like to formally apologize if you'd be willing to answer my call.

[A]

And this is her writing to him.

[B]

I'm actually.

[A]

I'm not a bitch. Given accountability, it's 10:26 shout out to your friend.

[B]

Right.

[A]

But let's see where it go from there.

[B]

Okay. She said, I guess he didn't answer a call. I actually wanted to call you and let you know I have the Turks with another.

[A]

But no, I'm just playing.

[B]

I was absolutely willing and still am able to pay for this. And I would also like to take you out to dinner during one of our nights on the island to keep up if you'd like to keep our trip. He wrote back and said, just to be clear, I have no intention on rebooking our plans. However, you could give me a call. Here's what she wrote back. An hour later, we just had a talk. He said he's looking for someone that's very serious and intentional about dating and spending time together and felt that the way I approached the situation was very tacky. He implied when I mentioned the word test, which I didn't think it was until you and Mandy debated it, that it was not a test, but he felt so disrespected by my approach to the flight. He believed it was a test that was given to him from me. Yes. As almost if it was a test to see if he would be the man for me.

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Oh, he implied that he wasn't willing.

[A]

He.

[B]

No, sorry. He said that I implied that I had higher expectations out of the men I had been with. Now, for context, I asked her if I could say what she does for a living. Before, the reason she had dated so many athletes was because she did. She had a high position at msg. Okay. And so she had been working in MSG for years and around them niggas.

[A]

Okay?

[B]

And so his comment was, I don't know if it's because of your past or previous work and the people or clientele you're used to being around, but I'm absolutely a standup man. I felt I did everything I could to make this destination easy for you, as you were already on a worse work trip. But again, this was completely tacky, and I felt very disrespected by your approach.

[A]

She there a calling a tacky is in. Oh, you know, the barrage. Like, oh, you know what?

[B]

There's been a watch.

[A]

Listen, girl, I ain't even gonna hold you. There's a lot of things a man can say about a woman. Like, I would be rather. I would rather be called a slut ass hoe than a tacky bitch.

[C]

That's hilarious.

[A]

Like, I swear to God, no, I'm not gonna hold you, like, for a bit.

[B]

I think so, too.

[A]

Like, but Mandy, I'd rather go selection.

[B]

I felt that the whole time from her. That's why I was like, bro, what you have to think this is a man that also is doing well, almost 40, booking the place you want. Also, when Mandy, when you were like, she had to pick the place, to me, that's choosing, what do you want? I'll give it to you, like, getting everything you want.

[A]

And then, I mean, we not go. We not gonna go back on that. Okay? Like, you know what I mean? Like, no, you invite me on a trip, nigga get my flight.

[C]

Wait, so is the issue that he's using the word tacky or is that she is tack?

[B]

No, no, no, no.

[A]

I just feel like if a man call you tacky, that was some tacky behavior.

[B]

Oh, bro, when I read this text, I was like. Like, my skin crawled a little bit of tacky.

[A]

No, hold on. Wait.

[B]

Listen to my reply. I said, holy shit, bitch. Holy shit, Holy shit. He said tacky or you wrote tacky? To me. She said, no. He said, tacky. Yeah. She said he doesn't want to rebook the trip, but he would. He says we could have dinner, which was the night they were gonna go on the trip, if we would like to settle the conversation. I said, girl, don't get upset. You fuck that up and you can never look past her.

[A]

Wait, is she. Is she paying for the dinner? I don't know.

[C]

Probably not. He's not gonna.

[B]

He's not gonna let her. No, no, he's not gonna let her. But she speaks the gesture. He's definitely not gonna let her after she did that whole thing. So I said, don't get upset. You fucked that up and you never gonna forget that nigga called you tacky can end up with him.

[A]

I. I don't think he would end up with a tacky bitch. Like, that's why. Like, like, like, I ain't even gonna hold you. Like, if a man calls you tacky, that's like bop. Like, he don't like you. He gonna go out and eat with you. Probably just not anymore. You know what? He probably wanna call you Techie to your face. Bitch, don't go out with him. Like, I hope she don't go out with him.

[B]

Like, so let me.

[C]

I hope she does. And he run up. They run up out with him.

[B]

I want her to go out with him. So we have the tea.

[A]

I would. I'm curious if he a real n. Like, if he a real n. What he would do is be like, yeah, let's go out to eat. And then last minute say, something came.

[B]

Up.

[A]

Just because, like, I did go out of this way, you don't get to come back.

[B]

So let's dive into this a little bit because her and I did get on the phone at some point when she was getting upset this morning, she was more so. Like, it really hurt my feelings to hear you say, I've bitched about being single. I've bitched about being single. And basically she's like, even though I understand what you mean, like, about me, you know, needing to sacrifice something or whatever, or maybe that my expectations were too high, I felt like you had an underlying tone of. Because I'm so upset about being single, I should take whatever. And I was like, I don't think that something of this magnitude is whatever, though. And the other thing, something we talked about when you walked out about Claudia Jordan, she is fine, well known, good looking as fuck and got mad access. And if that woman is saying dating is hard, that's really what it is. It's like, it could be hard for anybody. It doesn't matter how good you look. And so one of the things I was saying to her on the phone was, yes, you're gorgeous. Yes, you do. Well, that doesn't mean that there isn't a bunch of other women like this and a bunch of other men like that. But guess what? We're not meeting them. I'm sorry, but I was not meeting the greatest guys all the time. I met fun niggas. I met cute niggas. I met rich niggas. I did not meet well rounded guys. And so because she has this facade in her head of what dating should look like in feminine energy and masculine energy, you're fucking your shit up. And you were calling me Kevin Samuels earlier. But I feel like she on that shit because she's like, I'm high value. I gotta be like this, like, bro, like, cut the shit already.

[A]

It's interesting because here's the thing too, right? Going back to the comment that mentioned the 100%, I think, good one. That was a great comment. But if you do go in and you want a man to do certain things because we didn't talk about any of the other qualities that he has, we don't know if he's a good listener, if he communicates clearly, he doesn't communicate well. We talked about that.

[B]

They're not.

[A]

They both don't communicate well with each other.

[B]

Wait, wait, let's revise the communicate because I actually think she's a terrible communist communicator. Here's why we dug into after. She's like, oh, you left some things out about what really happened and how the conversation went.

[C]

Ah, well, yeah, we're not gonna put everything.

[B]

Yeah, because she looked well, I don't really remember, but now this is why she felt like she wanted to apologize. She's like, I'm not saying sorry because I'm desperate for the trip. I'm actually saying sorry because I fucked up first. Here's what she says happens first, they book the hotel while they're at the Blue Note. They look up dates they could both go. She said, we booked the shortclub in the Blue Note. The reason we didn't do flights, because everybody need to figure out timing. So when she said, I'll be in on the west coast for work, he was like, cool, let me grab. What do you think? You want to leave in the afternoon? Okay, cool. I'll get our flights home. You gonna come back to New York? That was how that Happened. All of that was done there. She was then supposed to say what time she would be able to come in after work. So I do feel like he would have bought that flight if she would have hit him and said, hey, I'm done at 12:00pm all right, cool. I'll grab it.

[C]

I agree.

[B]

However, she's like, I felt like he didn't follow up with me. I told him maybe my meetings would wrap in the afternoon, blah, blah, blah. When he hit her about the driver, she said it was a clear like, oh, you must be handling this. She says one other thing she did realize from the conversation. He knows her work flies her around. He knows her work is booking all the fucking travel. So maybe he thought that she was booking the flight, the return flight to that, like, you know, to that destination.

[A]

I ain't gonna hold you.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

The more we talk about this bitch. Cause that's how I feel about it now.

[B]

She's tacky.

[A]

She's tacky, Ho.

[C]

It's giving.

[B]

Mandy was not feeling this.

[A]

Here's the thing, too. At the end of the day, we always want to talk about niggas ain't shit. At the end of the day, a lot of you bitches ain't shit.

[B]

I know.

[A]

And you're not fun to date. You're not. I'm busy so bad.

[B]

I still love her.

[A]

Pussy ain't that great. There's other options for these niggas. And I do think that women just got. There's women that just shouldn't be dating.

[B]

Now, you didn't have this tone the other night when we recorded what?

[A]

Oh, because how I am, bitch, a nigga go book a round trip, or we ain't gonna see each other. But to me, I have the way I want to date. Like I told you, literally, I think I now am able to not only present what I want, but I do the things whether a man is there or not. Which is why, like, one of my little boos just took me to a basketball game. He wanted me to go to a basketball game with him. He knew, bitch, if I invite Mandy to this game, we got to sit courtside. And also, she might want to bring her friend. So let me see if there's three courtside tickets, because I'm also gonna pay for her friend. Courtside.

[B]

Okay, so, Mandy, you okay?

[A]

It doesn't matter.

[B]

No, it does matter, Mandy.

[A]

Well, what I'm saying is.

[B]

But no, like, it really does matter, though, because that is the issue that my friend is having. My friend is not dating.

[A]

This is not an Athlete. This is a nigga.

[B]

It doesn't matter. I don't actually. I don't know. Courtside seats? That. What good paying job is someone spending 15k on what I'd wear?

[A]

Okay, let me tell you real quick. First off, I'm in Atlanta, Georgia. They were playing the Clippers. Not sure if you know, it was given. YMC YMCA versus how much were the tickets? 1200 a piece.

[B]

Oh, okay. Well, that's not normal Courtside.

[A]

Mandy for three. So it was $1,200.

[B]

Okay, so now you keep trying to say this is normal courtside. It's not.

[A]

But it was in Atlanta at Phillips, and they played the Sixers. Let's be very clear if it was the next game when they played the fucking warriors. $100, bro. Courtside. And okay, when I say courtside, I was on the wood, but on the third row. On the wood.

[B]

Uber, Ivo. The uber.

[A]

Sorry, one moment. Y' all, hold on. You think it's grabbing our caffeine? And we're back.

[B]

Tacky.

[A]

Oh, fucked up my. This is a tacky goddamn coffee spot. They fucked up my goddamn order. Gotcha.

[B]

So, yeah, where I think, like, the management of expectations come. The. The 100% comment that we talked about to me was really important because men and women really do need to manage.

[A]

No, your friend, Techie. Sorry, friend. She wasn't tacking you yesterday. You was like, yeah, no, because that's how I move. Like, again, we were just talking about not even my expectations. But a man will show up, especially if you. If they know, like, what you're used to. Like, it's why we say now, when you're dating, don't let your new prospect know all the ways you were mistreated in your last relationship.

[B]

But wait, what? So then.

[A]

So what I'm saying is, if a man shows up a certain way with me, he knows how he has to show up to fuck with me. This man may not felt like he had to show up that way for her.

[B]

So then why is she tacky? Because yesterday you said she wasn't.

[A]

No, no, no. I just think she's tacky because she lacks communication. She assumed things, and she damn near threw a fit over $380 like a broke bitch.

[C]

So let me ask you a question.

[B]

You didn't say none of this yesterday.

[A]

I'm saying now that you done added more details. Cause apparently she said you got the story wrong. You didn't share all those details, bruh.

[B]

She sounded like a toot.

[C]

She started. She started with that, though.

[A]

I think they both miscommunicated. I felt like if you didn't go on a trip with him, I'm still standing on. She don't like him that much. But if she also just doesn't like him that much, I think the fact is she don't need to be dating. Right?

[C]

Hold on.

[A]

So she like, I still stand on what I was saying.

[C]

She started with saying, hey, I'll still pay the 380.

[A]

That's what I'm saying.

[C]

That was crazy. That wouldn't, like, starting off like that is.

[B]

Shut up, bro.

[A]

Like, you. You coming back to him, like, now.

[C]

You'Ll spend the money because it sounds like the trip is a priority.

[B]

Well, no, no, no, no, no. I think the reason she went back and said is because she was. Oh, am I sounding bummy? Am I sounding like I wouldn't be that person?

[A]

Yeah. Also to come back and say, hey, actually rebook the whole trip again.

[C]

Yeah, that's kind of wild.

[B]

Yuck, bro. Here's the largest problem.

[A]

That's the tacky part.

[B]

The first. No, the tacky part was fucking calling that nigga about it.

[A]

I'm still not mad at.

[B]

How do you know what she could have done that would have actually solved this whole thing?

[A]

What?

[B]

She could have felt maybe a little distaste when he texted her, like, let me know the time because the driver's right now meeting it too. You could have booked it and then brought it up when you got there. And guess what? I've definitely had a nigga give me red bag. Book it. I'll give it back to you. Like, I'm sure you have too. Grab whatever. I'll pay you back. I'll send it to you. Like, if it was that pressing, I just don't know if I would have really called him and bitched about it. And I agreed too. That was the thing that was like you having that expectation and doing all that.

[A]

She needs to talk to the lady. She just needs to talk to the lady. She is not in any sense healed or knows how to communicate what she wants or what she expects in a relationship. You know why I don't think it's wrong?

[B]

Because she's used to dating.

[A]

But I don't think anything's wrong with having standards. Standards and expectations. The problem is not being able to effectively communicate those things. And she clearly don't know how to communicate. She. She threw a tantrum like a 5 year old.

[B]

I do think that there is a problem, though, with expecting. This is a true thing for me. Standards and expectations, like I don't expect expect every single man to do xyz. I think that the expectation that everything should be laid out for you based that you've been dating multi millionaires compared to a guy that works on the same floor with you at your financial firm. Manage that, bro. To be quite honest with you, Mandy, the fact that he booked a hotel at 700 a night, I think that is extremely high actually.

[A]

I mean he could have put on a credit card.

[B]

I think that's whether it is. He's still got to pay for it.

[C]

Yeah, but she couldn't give him 380.

[A]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like that's why at the end of the day it's all techy.

[C]

How is that even a night of the trip?

[A]

But if we're gonna.

[B]

I'm just ready for them to have this dinner because if she end up fucking him.

[A]

Oh, I hope he doesn't show up.

[C]

Wait, they have remind me they haven't fucked before.

[B]

No, that's what I said.

[A]

But they date, bro.

[C]

Yeah, they're not dating. That's not.

[A]

No, they're not dating.

[C]

They're not dating.

[A]

They ain't even fuck.

[C]

And it's not cause of the fucking.

[A]

He probably. You know what? He probably.

[B]

It's been a month.

[A]

He probably wanted to go on this trip so he could get that pussy.

[C]

Now he ain't gonna do it.

[B]

I'm getting out. Hold on. Wait, wait, wait.

[A]

Oh my God.

[B]

The sex has to happen for it to be.

[C]

No, no, no. That's what I'm saying. It's not. It's not because they didn't. It's just I'm realizing all these elements is.

[A]

But also why the you going on an island trip with a. You ain't even yet.

[B]

Stop.

[A]

I think they probably ready out of here, bro.

[B]

I think this is their fourth or fifth date.

[A]

If a fly you to an island, you giving that up.

[B]

I think she wanted to too.

[A]

I don't think she wanted to. I think that's the problem too. Maybe she felt like, bitch, I ain't paying 380 to fuck you. Are they already fucking see you holding details. Oh my God. Anyways.

[B]

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[A]

We listen and we judge. I want to share tea about my friend real quick.

[B]

Bitch, did you fuck him?

[A]

That I heard this morning. That I heard this morning. And it's kind of crazy.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Kind of a little crazy.

[B]

Yikes.

[A]

So my homegirl calls me this morning at like, a quarter to eight. Bitch, I was sleep. She hits me again and is like, damn, bitch, you sleeping in today? And I'm like, I am sleeping. I'm gonna. They didn't even give me my shit right.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

They didn't even play. I said my shit. Anyways. So she hits me and she was like, girl, I got some tea. I said, bitch, I'mma call you when I get up. So she dated my homeboy two years ago, and I didn't know they were dating until they broke up, but they was traveling everywhere together. They were seeing each other. He had a surgery.

[B]

Dating?

[A]

No, they was together.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

Like, they.

[B]

I was just trying to be fun.

[A]

With the D word.

[B]

They was.

[A]

They was overly dating. They were.

[B]

They were not overly dating.

[A]

They were overly dating.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Anyways, he ended up getting depressed and they broke up.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Because he was also just lying. So they break up. She hasn't seen him in two years. For the last six months, he's been, like, trying to rekindle, like, wanting to see her, offering to fly her out, asking if they could go on a trip together, all the things. She declined because she's like, bro, what are we doing? Like, I don't want to just get back into that. The way we broke up wasn't good.

[B]

Ah, ah, ah.

[A]

So he finds himself in New York. They link up, they have sex. He just invited her to Atlanta because he gonna be in Atlanta next week. Tell me why.

[B]

Mm, mm, mm.

[A]

Her homegirl, the mutual friend calls her and says, I told him he's wrong, but. Ah, ah, ah. His fiance posted their engagement.

[C]

Hope.

[B]

So my mutual friend told her.

[A]

Their mutual friend was like, because the girl's page is blocked.

[B]

So anyway, your homegirl couldn't see it. Is that what.

[A]

Yeah, but she saw it.

[B]

But did your homegirl know they were even dating?

[A]

No. Mind you, when she just gave him pussy in New York, he didn't say he was engaged, mind you. He got engaged in August. Bitch, it's January. Bitch, While he was out in another country, because he was in another country, he's texting my homegirl, He. He's sending her pictures, bitch. The same pictures in my homegirl's phone while he's on this foreign trip, he's.

[B]

On the down on one knee pictures.

[A]

That he proposed to the bitch. So the day that he proposes to this girl, he's in my homegirl phone saying, yeah, I'm on this trip. You know, I got some mutual friends out here. We're just having a good time. Ah, ah, ah. So, bitch, she's sending me all the screenshots of the fact that here he is texting me while he's in fucking Bali, right? Here's his proposal post. Bitch, same pictures. I said, bitch. Now he proposed to a whole bitch while he was keeping you up to date with his fucking trip.

[B]

So I asked her, that's so sad.

[A]

So I'm like, damn, well, how do you feel? And we went through two different things, two different fields. The first emotion was the fact that she feels like had she been more responsive with his advances, that that would have been her. And it's because while they were together, he said, I'm just waiting to get this job. Once I get this job and I'm more secure, I'm gonna marry you.

[B]

He said that to your friend?

[A]

He said that to my friend two years ago. He has that job and he just proposed to this new girl in August.

[B]

Damn.

[A]

I want so a part of. I'll show you. So part of the conversation was, I'm really sorry her feeling like that was supposed to be me. But also then I wanted to. I was like, but would you have really wanted to be with a man who. Bitch is, he's been texting you, he just fucked you, didn't even tell you he was engaged, but just fucked you and been in your phone not even telling you he done proposed and is planning a whole life with another woman. Then the other question was, and this step from her, she was like, as soon as I got sent the post, I wanted to write to the fiance and tell her everything because, bitch, we just fucked. Now was it wrong? I don't know. But ladies, if you got an ex and you fuck him raw and you double back nine times out of ten, you gonna fuck em raw still. So damn. She said that she sat with it and I guess talked to the lady and decided not to tell the fiance.

[B]

Not she talked to the lady.

[A]

Not she talked to the lady and somehow the lady told her it wasn't worth doing. But she has since called him, wrote him mad messages like, why would you come and be with me and spend time with me and even invite me to another city and not let me know that you proposed to a bitch three months ago and that you're currently engaged? So to me, it's interesting as well, like, seeing the lack of communication that your homegirl has while dating. But also, it's even more interesting to see how these niggas really just don't be telling you what's going on in their lives.

[B]

I think what's most hurtful, though, is knowing that to watch someone get engaged to somebody else while you would spend.

[A]

All that time they were together for.

[B]

Like, a year, to not give me the choice to want to fuck you after you're with someone else. Like, it's just.

[A]

Oh, let's be very clear.

[B]

It feels very like you put egg.

[A]

On my face, came back in and been like, I need that pussy one more time. But I'm engaged. I guarantee you she wouldn't have fucked him.

[B]

I know she wouldn't have him. You know why? Because that nigga's tacky.

[A]

But I think a lot.

[B]

I want to read something that I.

[A]

Had.

[B]

Be beyond what we were talking about because. And it's crazy because you brought this up. There's a guy on ig. I'm not playing the clip because it was kind of like three minutes long, but I summarized it. White guy named Taylor Conroy. I think his IG is Taylor Love. And the highlights of his clip. Men don't marry the love of their lives. They marry the woman that's there when they're ready.

[A]

Oh, yes.

[B]

And here's the gist. I pulled the gist of what he said. Men are exploring in their 20s. They find their purpose by 36 to where they know what type of partner they want. Ooh.

[A]

36 was the age of both niggas with a PhD.

[B]

Oh, wow. So maybe that's why they were ramping up already. Yeah, it says that it's the type of partner that they want to get to get to their goals or to help support their goals. They think about their strengths and their weaknesses to see if it's complimented by their prospect at the time. It doesn't matter if a girl from the past had it. Whoever's there right now, do they compliment these things? Whereas women, we could be 22, 32, 42, any age. Love makes us feel like that's the thing that'll push us forward. Opposed to the person that we're dating, the man we're dating, they're going to see if a woman has those things.

[A]

To compliment time and place, like, as a woman. And that's the funny part. Like, I think a lot of women spend so much of their time figuring out how to come across as wifey, when in reality, you really just gotta stumble across the right nigga at the time he want to be or at the time he's ready to settle down. Like, a lot of it. Like, it's funny because I know we say the with you is silent, but a lot of times men know when they're ready for something more or they want to settle down or they want to wake up to a woman every day, or they want to get out the streets and just have one woman. Men know when they're ready. And oftentimes it's not who they end up just falling in love with, it's who ends up coming into their life at that very moment.

[B]

You know, something that I had tried to figure out maybe a year ago in my relationship was, am I getting this great version of this man because his ex made him or molded him? Am I getting this great version of this man because he's just ready now? Is it me? And it was actually something that I felt very insecure about for a long time because I had always believed this. My homeboys that end up getting married or in long term relationships or move in with a bitch, it's always because they're ready. Always because they're just ready. They were ready before they met that girl. They'll literally tell me, like, yeah, I'm about to slow down, da da. And then it's just that bitch. So I had always checked in with my man, like, are you sure? Are you sure? Is it me? Is it xyz? Is it da da da? And I think that he would sometimes laugh about it, like, why is this bitch acting so crazy? But it really was because I want to make sure. Bless you.

[A]

Thank you.

[B]

That I am with the person I'm meant to be with. And there is a question that this guy poses. I don't know how you would phrase this question. I'm actually interested to know how it.

[A]

Would work for you, how I would pose it.

[B]

Well, if you want to, like, seriously date, first off, he says, you don't.

[A]

Think I'd be seriously dating. I'd be serious. Would I be dating?

[C]

Well, what's dating for you? That's the question. We just talked about the D word with you.

[A]

I don't know if you don't think I'd Be serious. Serious. Would I be liking these?

[C]

I ain't say that.

[A]

But if you felt that, what you just said, I actually.

[B]

Hold on. Let me stand on. Let me stand on this. No, but I'll tell you why I'm really seriously. But I'll tell you why I say that.

[A]

Oh, please.

[B]

Because I'd like to hear it.

[C]

You really liked it, but you'll be dating them.

[A]

I don't like that D word.

[C]

Exactly.

[A]

We be relationing.

[C]

That's worse.

[A]

It's a relation.

[B]

Relationship.

[C]

It is a relationship.

[B]

I think the reason I don't think it's serious is because I don't like.

[A]

You judging my motherfucker.

[B]

No, I'm not judging. I think the reason that I don't assume it's serious serious is because you make them sound very replaceable.

[A]

Okay, agreed. So I'm having that problem. I am having that problem.

[C]

That's accountability right there.

[A]

Like, n. You could go like.

[B]

That's kind of your vibe. Okay.

[C]

They're disposable.

[B]

And I don't.

[A]

To be fair. No, I let them know why I like them, but a lot.

[B]

So to me, it's someone serious. It's like you're gonna. You're not putting up with shit. You're not gonna be like, oh, let's work through this issue. You don't sound like you're at.

[A]

I work through shit.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

You know what's crazy, though? You saying that as we're sitting here, I was literally like, I was thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend.

[C]

Oh, my God.

[B]

Okay, which one?

[A]

The one I met at Heedo.

[B]

Why is this.

[C]

Wait, but is this not new?

[A]

What the he do one? No, we've been. We've been together like four months now.

[C]

That's new.

[B]

Wait, what made you think about breaking up with him?

[A]

I don't like how he moved. What are you looking for?

[B]

That you.

[A]

Okay, so it's crazy because. Did you hear us arguing yesterday?

[B]

No.

[A]

So when I walked in, that's who I was talking to. And I was like, we gonna talk about this later, because you.

[B]

You.

[A]

You violated and you ain't communicating with me, and I don't really like it.

[B]

If I would have heard argument, I would have circled right back in and.

[A]

Went, so we're both navigating non monogamy. We're both navigating.

[B]

It is always a journey, by the way.

[A]

It is a journey.

[B]

Nobody got that shit perfect.

[A]

So what's crazy is. Oh, and I don't know if I'm oversharing because I know y' all whatever. By the time this come out.

[B]

I was gonna say, by the time.

[A]

It'S come out, we've probably broken up.

[B]

Oh, no.

[C]

Damn. You already broke up with him in your mind?

[A]

In your mind? I think I did. It's crazy because he texted me this.

[C]

Morning, and you're like, ugh.

[A]

And a part of me like, so here's the crazy thing, too. So he just. He just flew out to see a bitch. And the same thing that he didn't like about her is what I'm now not liking about him. And so basically, he's cool with the fact that I only split my time. Like, I really only have two boyfriends, kind of two and a half now, because, you know, that other one ain't going nowhere. So there's only two other guys besides him that I, you know, see and make time for. So he was fine with that. He just went and saw a girl who has, like, six people in rotation.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Including a couple like. But she's just open with all these people. And in his mind, he's like, ooh, like that. Non monogamy. The way we talked about it, the way she moved, I didn't really like it. It didn't feel like there was intent. Like, how could you have that much time and be. Be purposeful with this many partners? Like, he felt like he would be an afterthought. And I said, well, you know, I have multiple partners, and how does that make you feel? He was like, yeah, but you have two. He's like, two, I think, is realistically my max. And we make it work. We talk enough.

[B]

I'm not mad at him saying that. Now six can become easy to.

[A]

Here's my thing. Me and him are in this relationship where we openly discuss things, but to me, bro, every free chance he has, if I'm not available, there's another bitch he's flying to see. Yeah, he has two couples that he fucks, so he fucks two lesbian couples.

[B]

Swag.

[A]

One on the west coast, one in the Carolinas. And then he just went and saw the bitch that he saw. You ready? That he just went to go see was a bitch he just met at Heeda.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

And I literally told him that was the only thing he had to do. The only thing he had to do was tell me if he saw a bitch that he would consider seeing out. I found out about this trip when he went back home. And so as I'm hearing him talk about his issues with how many people this person plays with, a part of me is Just like, damn, nigga, even though you're not dating these women, every weekend you're traveling to see another bitch. Even though you still fit me in every month to come see me, I don't like that you're like, why do you have to go see a bitch every weekend that you're free?

[C]

Is this your favorite one? Is this your favorite boyfriend out of all them?

[A]

This is my boyfriend that, to me, makes me feel the most like I could be myself. Because he's lifestyle. He doesn't want kids, and we have so much in common.

[C]

Okay, so.

[A]

But he's not the one that's been around for, like, long, but that he.

[C]

Still is making time for you as requested. It's just that he's making time for other women.

[A]

Like, a part of me is like, damn, how many bitches gonna get his dick?

[B]

So you.

[C]

But what's the problem?

[A]

Like, to me, I. What?

[C]

What?

[A]

I don't like this nigga just giving it.

[B]

Ah.

[A]

Went throwing up my head. But that's what y' all throwing at dick.

[B]

Ain't that what you saw?

[A]

I know, but now part of me is just like, damn, all these bitches just get your dick every weekend if I'm not free. Because he knew I was coming to New York. So you just book a flight to go see another bitch?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, that means he was about to give you the time first.

[A]

No, he didn't even ask.

[C]

You had first place.

[A]

I was going to New York, and he was like, oh, well, I had two days. He said, I planned it in two days. Why did you, like, what the fuck? Like, it's so. It's almost like turning me off. Like, fuck all the bitches.

[C]

But ain't you in a monogamy relationship?

[B]

Yeah, but I'm in a monogamy relationship.

[A]

I would have been handing the pussy out to any old nigga. So I would like my man to be a little, like, have a little bit of decorum. Like, the fact that he even said, like, she was cool. Like, every time he go on fuck a bitch, he's like, he don't want to be in a relationship with them. He don't like, it's cool. They fucked. And I'm just like, damn.

[B]

Okay, okay. No, no, no. Hold on, hold on.

[A]

I would, like.

[B]

I'm gonna tell you the truth.

[A]

What?

[B]

He's never gonna tell you when it's.

[C]

Yeah, he's not gonna tell you that.

[B]

He's never gonna tell you when it's great. He's never gonna tell you when it's Heightened. It's always gonna be like, it was cool. That's what my n. But you think he about to be like, she was screaming. No.

[C]

He'd be like, okay, yeah, good time.

[B]

Picture crazy wild sex to me. If you and I had to report to my nigga. If you are not Mandy, I am not. If you are non monogamous, it's okay, baby.

[A]

If you are non monogamous and moving in a poly way where we both can have other partners, it doesn't matter to me. Let me know if you like a bitch. That's literally the clearly does he? And look at you now.

[B]

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[A]

I'M gonna break up with him.

[C]

Oh, my God.

[A]

Apparently, yes, everybody's replaced, but he's going by the rules.

[C]

He's letting you know.

[A]

She's saying, letting you know after the fact is not letting me know.

[C]

Oh, letting you know after fact is.

[A]

Oh, you let me know. I'm like, hey, babe, what you doing getting out the car? Just got back from where? Oh, I went to go. I went to Carolinas. What part of Carolina? This part of Carolina. To see who? I said, oh, you went to go see the. The.

[B]

The. The.

[A]

The couple. Cuz I know about them now. I went to go a new bitch. You was just on the west coast with like. It's just like, damn.

[C]

So his problem is that he has too many.

[A]

Too many. But also you also just a whole bunch of that you don't like.

[C]

What a problem.

[B]

Why do you think? I don't know. I actually don't believe that, though.

[C]

I don't believe that either.

[A]

Well, it's a new no, it's. It's all multiple different bitches.

[B]

No, when you're saying don't like. So if he was really, really truly interested in people, you would feel more comfortable.

[A]

Yeah, because I feel like that there would be a reason that you're like.

[B]

A man, but then you wouldn't be prioritized and you actually wanted to get the report if he did like somebody.

[A]

Here's the thing. Here's the thing. I don't mind a lifestyle man, but I don't like someone who's just promiscuous. And promiscuous is a way I could use this word. Now he's just giving the dick out. Bitch, a month ago you just fucked six bitches of Heedo. And then since then you went to the west coast and fucked two more bitches and went to a sex club. Then you go here. Not only do you fuck this girl that you just met, you also she invited you to a game night with a couple you weren't even interested in the other two bitches, but you gave them dick. It was just like, I don't know, a part of me is just like.

[B]

At least I. Mandy, if he's telling you he's never interested in anyone, he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

[A]

I don't care.

[B]

No one is going to jump on a flight for disinterest, bro.

[A]

Every weekend it's a different bitch. So to me, I'm telling you, I would feel more comfortable if it was like, oh, you're going to see the same girl, bro. You're just flying to whoever's available. Any weekend. Any weekend. A bitch don't got her kids. Any weekend a bitch is off. Any weekend that you could find a reason to hop on fucking a flight to go put your dick in something, you do it. Have some fucking. Like, have st. Like, I want you to actually like somebody. I want you to bond. I don't like that every weekend you're fucking someone different. I don't like that.

[B]

So then how come at Heedo the only thing he had to tell you.

[A]

About was if he liked my point. So the fact that I'm finding out after the fact is you're not communicating with me. And so to me, yeah, that one.

[C]

That part is not clear.

[A]

Like, that's what I'm saying. How do I know after the fact? Oh, well, man, I had these two days off, so I just planned it two days ago. I think you couldn't tell me.

[C]

So he's messing up with the communication. Without a doubt.

[A]

Communication, that's the thing. And then a part of me is.

[C]

Like, but now you're putting a whole value to his penis.

[A]

And it's like, you put a value to his penis. I like n with. And I don't want to call it standards because maybe, maybe these bitches are pretty. I don't know. Sometimes I look.

[B]

You don't know what they look like.

[C]

Yeah, you don't even know what they look like.

[A]

He sends me pictures of some of them, but I don't want a nigga like, the same way. Even if you're in a non monogamous relationship, a man wouldn't like that. I could just go out, find a nigga and just fuck him. Because that was his problem with the girl in the Carolinas. She's just giving it out. And he literally said that. And so as he's describing his issue with her non monogamy, I'm realizing I don't like how you're moving non monogamously in our relationship. But in his mind, he's not in relationships with all those other girls, so it's fine. But now I'm realizing I don't like how much he's just fucking so many other women.

[C]

I understand that you're already, like, almost bent to trying to do the breakup, like, happen, but what would you say could be a possible solution for something like this?

[B]

Yeah, if you change something up, would you be okay with that? Because you have to think a single guy who meets someone, they're saying that boyfriend, girlfriend. However, it feels as though both of you aren't necessarily making each other a main or priority because you're really interested in this quarter zip, nigga. Right. Okay, so it's like, how. I don't know. I guess, how is he supposed to know that the volume is an issue? Now if you're posing that the volume is an issue.

[A]

No, but that's what I'm saying. Well, the communication became like a. Oh, nigga, we gonna talk about this? Cause what the fuck?

[B]

But what if he's willing to fix it? And also to that point, for someone that's super accepting of someone whose lifestyle. Just playing devil's advocate, is it him being like, okay, so one weekend I gotta be solo?

[A]

What do you mean?

[B]

So what.

[C]

What would be the. What would be the solution here? Like, what would.

[B]

If he's like, all right, so I only fly or only take a trip or only fuck so many every other week?

[A]

Yeah, I mean, yeah, like, to me, like. Or at least like, have partners that you enjoy being around. Like, the idea that you can meet a bitch at a bar or you try, like, he's going with, like, girls that met her on Instagram, I'm gonna fly out to go fuck her for the weekend. Like, it's like, bruh, you just wanna fuck people all the time. And to me, that's like, I don't like that.

[C]

Is that a problem?

[B]

I actually am not even trying to not be on your team on this one. But to me, when someone's lifestyle, that's kind of up there for that.

[A]

I get that. But the fact that he even admitted he didn't like it about somebody. Like, lifestyle is lifestyle. But again, there's.

[B]

Oh, oh, you're saying he didn't like it about him.

[A]

He didn't like it about the other girls.

[B]

But it seems like you said I knew about two couples he fucks. Okay, cool.

[A]

That's what I'm saying.

[B]

So he's got couples that like the lesbian girls.

[A]

Yeah, and I'm cool with that. But like, just going to fuck random bitches. Like, he was even about to link up with a girl that he told me the pussy was bad. Like, he didn't even want to fuck her with me.

[C]

See, he fucked up that. He shouldn't have done that.

[A]

Yeah, but like, so the fact that he already told me, you don't really like this bitch pussy.

[B]

I think he doesn't want to tell Mandy.

[A]

I said no because I wanted to fuck this girl. And he was like, I mean, if you want to fuck her, I'll fuck her with you. But he wasn't going to go back.

[B]

I don't believe I'm telling you. I think he's. There's some lie going on here, but even that.

[A]

You know what? I don't want to date a fucking liar. Yeah, I don't like liars. If your lifestyle. And I'm fine with you fucking other bitches. I just tell you, these are the things I need. We need to communicate. And we should be able to tell each other that, bro. That's the simple part. So I don't need a nigga lying to me, but also I don't want a nigga who. I'm not even going to say what I was about to say. Cause I'm going to say it off air, but the priorities just aren't there either. So I'm going to say it off air because then it's going to be me talking shit.

[C]

All your feelings are valid. It's just. I feel like the bleak.

[A]

This out. BLEEP this out. He broke the nigga. No, no. He has a lot of money.

[B]

Don't tell me you got kids.

[A]

No, no kids. BLEEP all this out. The nigga literally doesn't have a. And only has a.

[B]

Girl.

[A]

No, literally none.

[B]

Cause he's busy. I don't.

[A]

He's literally spending his money on flights to fuck every weekend. Which is why I haven't gone to go see him yet. Because bleep the nigga doesn't even have a. He live, bro. But he's there for work, so I'm on the phone. Mind you. We FaceTime and every. Bro, we've been dating now four months, and bro, you ain't done this so that I could be comfortable when I come see you. But, bro, you spending your money every motherfucking weekend on a flight to go fuck off some bitches. Well, that's all to me.

[C]

That's all you got to do.

[A]

Like, as an adult. The priorities, bro, you ain't got. You ain't got a. You ain't believe all this, but you ain't got this shit. You ain't got this shit, girl.

[C]

He don't got a saying.

[B]

Bleep all this is funnier than the shit.

[C]

Now. I'm definitely. I want to. I'm bleeping. I'm not going to wait.

[A]

Kind of now want it. No. This shit is pissing me off, girl.

[C]

No.

[A]

So then, fantastic angels, look at y'. All getting me down to the real nitty gritty.

[B]

That's what.

[C]

That is what it is.

[A]

Now a part of me is like, where's your priority? And as a man.

[B]

Man, do you know what sucks about this?

[A]

What? You know what?

[C]

You know what his priorities are?

[B]

Liking a nigga. Suddenly you saw some shit.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

That ain't bother you before. It ain't bothered me before.

[C]

But now you know his priorities ain't bitch.

[A]

And now you gotta BLEEP that.

[C]

I know. I will. I'm sorry.

[A]

So, Okay. I wonder what people gonna think it is. Y' all really dug it out. Y' all might be therapists. Cause, yeah, okay, fuck it. It ain't even all the other bitches.

[B]

It's that shit.

[A]

Yeah, it's priorities. And as a bonus fan, I need you to get that together. Like, so part of me is like, maybe just we downgrade our relationship.

[B]

You know how we should.

[A]

Like, maybe we should wait.

[B]

Let me. Like, this is how we gotta wrap the episode. Cause I actually want to tell you, this is How I feel. One of my homegirls and I started going in about. Actually, we was with our homeboys, too. We was just hanging out at Living Room in la and we're like, all right, everybody go around about some dumb ass shit you broke up with a nigga for.

[A]

Okay, real quick. If I broke up with him now for that reason fair, y' all would be on my side.

[B]

Cause it's like, deeper than that.

[A]

Yeah, deeper. You feel me, y'?

[B]

All.

[A]

I know it sounded crazy. And y' all be like, these little non monogamous, delusional, confused bitches. Don't know what they doing. It's a deeper rooted issue that they understand.

[C]

So at least we figured that out.

[B]

My homegirl. Thank you.

[A]

Cause now when I tell him why we're breaking up, he could either get it.

[C]

You're not going to tell them mean.

[B]

But I would tell.

[A]

Wait, that's mean.

[B]

No, it's. It is what it is, but I.

[A]

Got to find out. I'm going have chat help me on how to say it.

[B]

Now everybody frustrated because they don't know what it is.

[A]

That's what they're not, frustrated. Fill in the blanks, bitch.

[C]

Yeah, figure it out in the comments.

[A]

No, don't figure out in the comments. They're going to be like, yep, that's what it is.

[B]

When you said, okay, okay. So this is also why other people influence the. Thought I could say her name because the shit was mad funny.

[A]

So Gabby episode is we listen and we judge clearly.

[B]

Oh, tacky.

[C]

Oh, I already put tacky. So that was what I put.

[B]

Gabby was dating an older story, but I remember it. Gabby was dating this dude, and she showed me a photo of him, and she was like, oh, you used to be married. I'm like, show me the ex wife. First thing I say. Why?

[A]

Why you always want to see a picture? I want to see, you know, Reezy's uniform. I see somebody in the clutching logo. So on Patreon, bro, we be talking about how we hate fucking having to dress up all the goddamn time. So I said, let's get a uniform. Let's get a uniform. So somebody in the comments was like, weezy should get a uniform with a shirt that says, let me see what they look like.

[B]

No, bitch. Cause I need to know.

[A]

She always got to know what somebody.

[B]

Hey, y' all want to know how deep it goes?

[A]

Y' all want to know how deep the painter nigga. She said, if you want to work for her, you gotta be attractive. People got to want to fudge you. If you want to work for Weezy.

[C]

Well, it's a gym.

[A]

Wait a second.

[B]

It is a.

[A]

Is this why you hire Ed? Oh, wait, I hired you.

[C]

I'm attractive.

[B]

Thanks.

[A]

Of course you are. Yeah, you kind of.

[B]

You.

[A]

You want to try to slide.

[B]

Plus, temp is hot and tall.

[C]

And he's tall.

[B]

Exactly.

[C]

Yes.

[A]

You're the only one with height around you.

[B]

No, but you know what? That was. Thank God he had brains first because Alex was like, I need somebody. We got this new. Anyway, okay, fast forward. So Gabby, boom. I'm letting Lucy, the ex wife. And she's like, oh, shit. Okay. So I see what she looks like. I don't even like a sound. She was so unfortunate looking that I fortunate looking that I said, whoa, pass the phone to my nigga. I said, look at this. My nigga pick up the phone and said, ooh, I hope you ain't his first bad bitch. And a week later, Gabby started to notice he was acting a little nuts. Let me know when you're home. Oh, I know you're out of town, but just let me know when you get in safe. Give me a call. All these check ins. Cause he don't want her to fuck no other niggas. And I'm like, bitch, it's because the ex wife was funny looking and now he's dating a hot girl and he don't know how to act. I was like, you need to break.

[A]

Up with him, bitch, because all the exes is ugly.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

Hello.

[B]

Great reason to break up, is it?

[A]

Not petty reason. You know what? You give really contradicting advice.

[B]

All my exes are the way.

[A]

You want bitches to rough it out for some reason and then other reasons. You're like, leave that man. You can't be as like, you really, bitch, get real. Do you want the girlies to be happy?

[B]

She had to let him go also. She was like, okay, this is doing too much. Okay. So then we start going around the table, right? So we all hanging out. Everybody's going in on their dumbest reason for breaking up with somebody.

[A]

Bitch.

[B]

One of my homeboys, like, bro, you remember that baddie we met at blah blah blah? I'm like, yes. He's like, yo, she sent me a nude. He's like, she looks so fucking good. Titties look good. Everything look good in the back of the nude. There's a mirror behind her and her feet are showing in the mirror.

[A]

They was dirty.

[B]

Dirty as fuck.

[A]

Feels like dirty feet.

[B]

And at the top of the kitchen counter was like, Trash. There's cans. There was also a fast food bag.

[A]

But they weren't dating. They weren't together. Well, cut up with the D word, bitch. They was fucking and he said, break up with somebody.

[B]

Cut it off, whatever. So there's fast food in the bag, right? So I was like, oh, I see the feet. And he's like, hold on. But look at this bitch. He fucking zooms in on those food bags and there's two. It's Jack in the Box and Arby's. He's like, I can't f this hoe.

[A]

He's like, what? Yo, I'm not going to lie. This is where we're at as a society.

[C]

Can I understand why that's such a problem?

[A]

I was about to say breaking up with bitches because they eat Jack in the Box at Arby's.

[B]

Well.

[A]

And got dirty feet. She walked to bed.

[B]

Yeah. I'm not going to lie.

[C]

The combination of the three is pretty terrible.

[A]

Black feet together.

[C]

Girl, throw the bags out and go take a shower.

[B]

Yo, like, why are you not taking a fucking Clean the house down.

[A]

The reason you broke up with a new.

[B]

Oh, I'm going to tell you right now.

[A]

Y' all heard mine.

[B]

Mine.

[A]

Mine was cuz I ain't like the flowers.

[C]

I, I, I understand, but yours makes sense, cuz it was like it was the wrong one. Yeah, yeah, it was the wrong flowers.

[A]

Flowers.

[B]

I ended a date early because the man, maybe it was true, but I don't give a cuz y' all know me like that be trying to therapize me.

[A]

What?

[B]

He told me I had an anxious attachment style and I was like, third person.

[A]

I was. So you broke up with Sugar for being honest?

[B]

I didn't break up. I just was like, oh, wait, I forgot.

[A]

Cause y' all were dating. I, bro.

[B]

But I basically was like, you can't.

[A]

Break up with a nigga that you're not with.

[B]

No, but I mean, like, cut somebody.

[A]

Off was the dumbest reason you broke up with a partner.

[B]

I'm talking about cutoffs right now. But the reason. So when he said that to me, I was like, that's interesting because you really wouldn't know how I attach considering we don't know each other well.

[A]

He's like, oh, this is like you were talking to somebody.

[B]

Yes, we were.

[A]

On the first dumbest reason I stopped talking to it. Oh, Oh. I really don't be liking people.

[B]

I had a told me protesting was a waste of time. And I was like, I'm good.

[C]

Yeah, that's kind of weird.

[A]

That's crazy.

[C]

I mean, maybe, like, if you meant like a type of protesting, I get it, but, like, protest.

[B]

No. I think it was a day we were supposed to kick it. And I was like, I'm going out to do this. Blah, blah, blah. And he was like, lol, yes. Go save the world. So I didn't think he just salty.

[C]

Because it ruined your plans, but I.

[B]

Thought he was maybe just trying to be silly. And then I was like, I will. And then I sent like, a Captain save a hose gift, and he was like, nah. But dead ass protesting is a waste of fucking time. The system will always be what it is. And da, da, da, da, da. And I was like, I just. I could tell you're the negative Nancy nigga, and I'm.

[A]

Did you. Did you fuck him?

[B]

No.

[A]

That's why the dick was good. You would have just glossed over that. Lol. Yeah.

[C]

He wouldn't have said that to you if you.

[B]

Yeah, you're right.

[A]

Nigga got good dick, bitch. I'll let him be a whole conspiracy theorist. Okay, baby. Y' all see, I think, bruh, every.

[B]

Time my man say something problematic, I think about it.

[A]

D, baby. That's how I know. Me being with a nigga who thought the earth was flat.

[C]

Wait, let me ask you a question.

[B]

Mandy thought it was flat, too.

[A]

So this guy made me think the earth was flat.

[C]

Bitch, this guy you're having a conundrum with, right? Like the one, the guy that you.

[A]

The conundrum is crazy.

[C]

It's a conundrum, right? Like, is the dick that good?

[A]

He made me squirt five times on the first night.

[C]

So why are you complaining?

[A]

Dick is good.

[C]

Because now it's not good enough.

[A]

No, no, no, no. To me. To me dick. By the way, I am God's chosen. I get good dick. Y' all done heard me for about almost 10 years. Talk about how good. Like, I get good dick and multiple niggas demand me squirt. Now, you're not. You're not my savior. You're not the only nigga that can make me squirt. Niggas out here making bitches squirt now. Thank y' all for doing your motherfucking research. So you're not.

[B]

Thank you guys so much.

[A]

You're not special now. Like, you're not the only nigga to eat ass. You're not the only nigga to make me squirt. You're not the only nigga to be nasty and choke me and do all the nasty Shit, I have chemistry with ten niggas. Shut up.

[B]

Shut up.

[A]

I don't have that much, but over like my lifetime, I get sexual partners that we have the same chemistry. So for me now, it's a little bit beyond dick. Like it goes beyond sex now with someone that I want to consider.

[B]

How old is the guy that you breaking up with?

[A]

36.

[B]

Oh, yeah, he's too old to be having fun with that, Bruh.

[A]

I did 36.

[C]

My boyfriend was told to have fun like that.

[B]

No, no, no, no. Let me explain. My boyfriend said something a few months back that I was like, this is silly, but I understand this young guy thinking. So it was somewhere. It was something about Korea, Philippines and another like African country he went to. I was like, what made you go to those places? So he started laughing. I'm like, the women. He's like, I wanted to like, why else would I go? And I'm like, I know, but like 23 years old, you just think Korean. He's like, yes. Like, I jumped on a plane because I want to experience what that's like. Say this to say. I thought it was silly at the time, but I do understand men wanting to travel. If you're a single guy traveling. Yeah, because low key, when I was thinking, where do I want? I want them Parisian African niggas, I want the London thing. Like, that was my shit. So I get it now. Was I looking for a husband to come home with me 90 day fiance. Yeah. But it's just so men needing to travel and exploring cities that way. I understand, but at 36, to be taking your time every weekend to not be home, you know, just enjoy your own spot, enjoy your own city, enjoy your own friends just to be out that much. You can't tell me you want to see what Texas is like that much or Tampa Bay, like, there's not that much.

[A]

Oh, he done went to Mississippi because.

[B]

You know what I mean?

[A]

He go to city, like whack ass cities for some coochie.

[B]

Now if a bitch is in Chicago or something, like, I.

[C]

It's the cities, not the shorties that you're making.

[B]

No, that's what.

[A]

No, that's what I realized. I was thinking that these are the shorties. It's the other thing. I don't like how you're spending your money at this point. Like, it's not responsible.

[C]

Wow, we really did uncover that route.

[A]

Y' all did uncover it. Because I have a fucking problem with it. Because that's why the fuck I haven't like.

[B]

And tell Your therapist take the week off? What's her name?

[A]

Listen.

[B]

No, I'm sorry. The people know her name.

[A]

You know, I've said it.

[B]

Oh, yeah. Serita. Sorry.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

No, don't. Yeah, it's tricky. It's tricky. But. But yeah, look, y' all really got me thinking. I want to text him right now. I think this isn't going to work.

[B]

Well, if you guys want the breakup update, the only place you'll get it is on patreon.com.

[A]

No, I don't think I'm going to break up with a Netflix.

[C]

But you. The way you. What is this?

[B]

Can I bring people to the.

[A]

Oh, to the promised land.

[C]

My bad.

[B]

Patreon.com Horrible Decisions, where Mandy gives a full update transcript and his photos go. Right now. Hurry up.

[A]

No, I'm not going to give his photos because I think a couple of the patrons fucked.

[B]

Okay, well, shit, just go.

[A]

They don't fuck the patrons to them.

[B]

Girl got other shit.

[A]

Not me. Not me being Eskimo sisters with some patrons.

[B]

Them bitches.

[A]

He. I know, okay? I know. God damn it. Thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Decisions, Decisions. Sorry, y'.

[B]

All.

[A]

We were all over the place this episode.

[B]

No, they like it.

[A]

This was like. This is what happens when Weezy does the outline, y'. All. We didn't get to the outline. Like, we didn't get to shit. Did we get anywhere?

[B]

Yes, I read.

[C]

Don't put me in this.

[B]

Hold on. The outline was the update from Turks. It was the men love women. Men marry.

[A]

I love how you. Uh huh.

[C]

And how you about to break up.

[A]

With your boyfriend, bro. Y' all really say y' all.

[B]

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