EP 464: Jezebels

Summary

Decisions, Decisions – EP 464: Jezebels (March 16, 2026)

Episode Theme & Purpose

This candid and humorous episode of "Decisions, Decisions" delves into the impact of societal judgment on women who choose non-traditional paths in love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Hosts Mandii B and WeezyWTF process the fallout from a previous controversial episode with guest Sarah Fontenot, especially the backlash labeled with the term "Jezebel"—a loaded word meant to shame women's sexuality. Through laughter and vulnerability, the hosts unpack the baggage attached to this word, the pain of public criticism, the double standards for women, and what it means to live authentically outside patriarchal narratives.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The “First Class” Archetype and Confidence (05:08–18:00)

• Weezy’s Airport Story: Weezy shares a story about talking to a flight attendant who can always tell who’s in first class based on attitude, dress, and demeanor—not just how people look or what they wear.
  • “She said, the way you got on the plane, you didn't need to know where your seat was... there’s an attitude of the person.” – Weezy (09:23)
• Discussion on Social Cues & Class Perceptions: The hosts break down flight attendant “archetypes,” from over-dressed “first-timers” to “urban aesthetic” millionaires.
  • “There's a look when it comes to jewelry in a Southern aesthetic...that's different from cheap jewelry.” – Weezy (13:27)
• Confidence Matters More Than Looks: Both hosts and the flight attendant note that true belonging in elite spaces comes down to confidence, not appearance.
  • “Confidence is an energy that so many people lack, but when you have it, no one can question you.” – Mandy B, referencing a story from 2 Chainz’s book (14:53)

2. The "Jezebel" Label & Societal Backlash (25:40–47:00)

• Responding to Online Harassment: Mandii B and Weezy open up about the wave of criticism following their discussion with Sarah Fontenot, with “Jezebel” being the most cutting insult used.
  • “The word Jezebel hurts so bad. Now hear me out…literally diminishes us to…nothing. And it was so hurtful.” – Mandy B (27:15)
• Double Standards for Women: The hosts and Eden discuss how women are shamed for traits celebrated in men, such as independence or eschewing “wife”/“mother” status.
  • “There are so many things that as a woman—Scarlet A—yeah.” – Weezy (28:31)
• Career, Wealth, and Accomplishments Deemed Worthless: Mandii B reflects on how hard-earned success means nothing in the face of societal views that judge women solely on relationship status.
  • “Reading these comments on the Internet…and knowing the connotation of [Jezebel]…literally diminishes us to…nothing.” – Mandy B (29:29)

3. Internalized Misogyny and Pain from Other Women (30:05–34:00)

• Most Painful Comments Come from Women: Weezy is especially hurt by a comment from a Black female viewer: “‘Weezy will never be married.’” – (30:42)
• Why Women Police Each Other: The hosts note that many women reinforce patriarchal standards, shaming each other over relationship choices.
  • “These niggas, I have the lowest expectations for, but these women are higher.” – Weezy (31:27)
• Manifesting as Rebellion: Despite the shaming, hosts double down on living authentically and not letting negativity dictate their futures.
  • “Anybody that’s ever told me, no, it’s just the battery in my back, dog.” – Weezy (33:51)

4. Marriage, Religion, and Changing Narratives (34:13–58:38)

• Marriage vs. Love: Weezy and Mandy break down the debate around marriage-mindedness vs. living for love, critiquing patriarchy-centric models over authenticity or connection.
  • “Love is above marriage to me. Love is above all. Love is a romance.” – Weezy (35:29)
• Mandii’s Refusal to Remarry: Mandii clarifies that her choice against remarriage isn’t just “trauma,” but rooted in reality and previous negative legal/financial experiences.
  • “To me, it's rooted in reality...I've gone through a divorce already...That person came after my fucking livelihood, came after my money." – Mandy B (46:31)
• Religion as a Justification for Judgment: The hosts challenge the idea that only religious worldviews are valid, highlighting hypocrisy and double standards.
  • “Her response to that was, 'Well, there’s a difference in books.' And I was like, oh wow. So if my religion was the Quran, would you put your book, the Bible, above my beliefs?” – Mandy B (53:12)
• Spirituality & Traumatic Use of God: The hosts discuss how some women use religion as a “rebound” after heartbreak instead of accountability or growth.
  • “God is the most ghetto rebound nigga for these bitches that could exist...waiting for healing to just arrive.” – Mandy B (55:38)

5. Non-Traditional Relationships and Unlearning Patriarchy (74:34–76:27)

• Society Accepts Infidelity Over Openness: Mandy B points out society is more comfortable with cheating than with openly non-monogamous or non-traditional dynamics.
  • “Society is more accepting of a cheating husband than a relationship that's open, bitch. And that's the truth of it.” – Mandy B (74:34)
• Visibility and Representation: The hosts debate whether alternative relationships should be displayed more openly to normalize their legitimacy and happiness.
  • “Alternative marriages should be shown...the fact that it’s good and safe and healthy should be displayed.” – Weezy (74:05)
• Fear of Judgement: Despite their confidence, both worry about the impact of public commentary on their love lives, especially with potential or current partners.

6. Emotional Toll of Persistent Shaming (68:08–73:12)

• Why This Hurts More Now: The hosts are dismayed that, even as they feel the best about themselves in years, societal expectations still judge them harshly.
  • “To be in the best place that I've been ...and for the Internet in the world to not feel that or uplift that...it just feels like this uphill climb that I'm constantly gonna get pushed back down.” – Mandy B (68:43)
• Questioning the Legacy: The episode ends with reflection on whether all their work to push sexual revolution and female empowerment is enough in the face of enduring stigma.
  • “Have we fought a fight that we're gonna inevitably lose?...I don't like that. That’s why it hurts so bad.” – Mandy B (69:53)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On First-Class Confidence:
  “There's an attitude...you didn't even want champagne. ...There's a lot of things you did that let me know, oh, she must be a frequent flyer.” – Flight Attendant Story, Weezy (09:23)

• On Being Called 'Jezebel':
  “The word Jezebel hurts so bad...literally diminishes us to...nothing. And it was so hurtful.” – Mandy B (27:15)

• On Online Harassment from Women:
  “Don't you tell me what the fuck my future is gonna be. Who the fuck are you?” – Weezy (31:04)

• On Marriage and Independence:
  “My romantic partnerships not being looked at from a serious lens to where...I do want partnership. I do seek love. I do want a healthy situation with another person.” – Mandy B (40:25)

• On Society’s Standards:
  “Society is more accepting of a cheating husband than a relationship that's open, bitch. And that's the truth of it.” – Mandy B (74:34)

• On Finding Confidence:
  “Confidence is an energy that so many people lack, but when you have it, no one can question you.” – Mandy B (14:53)

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Structured Timeline of Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment | |-----------|---------| | 05:08–18:00 | Airplane/class/culture: Confidence as a currency & archetypes of first class | | 25:40–34:00 | Labeling and internet backlash: The "Jezebel" wound, double standards | | 34:13–58:38 | Marriage, religion, and morals: Unpacking motives and resisting traditional pressure | | 68:08–73:12 | Deep emotional impact: Why stigma hurts differently now | | 74:34–76:27 | Alternative relationships: Visibility, acceptance, and hope for change |

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Overall Tone & Language

The episode showcases Mandii and Weezy’s signature mix of unfiltered honesty, profane humor, and real vulnerability. They laugh through pain, interrogate their own choices, and openly challenge listeners—and each other—to rethink what it means to be a fulfilled woman outside of patriarchal judgment. The language is bold and irreverent, but always in service of revealing hard truths.

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Final Takeaway

EP 464: Jezebels is a raw, insightful exploration of the social costs of living authentically as a woman. Through stories, jokes, and heartfelt admissions, Mandii and Weezy remind listeners that choosing oneself is radical—and still fiercely resisted. Yet, by voicing their struggles, they offer a blueprint for self-respect, refusing to let shame dictate their futures, no matter what label gets thrown their way.

Transcript

[Mandy B]

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[Mandy B]

Decisions Decisions welcome everybody. Not an episode of Decisions Decisions. I'm your girl Mandy B AKA Peg Thee Stallion AKA Peggy Bundy AKA that

[Weezy]

Bitch and my name is Weezy. I'm living the glamorous life like first class under the sky.

[Mandy B]

Let me tell you what song is that?

[Weezy]

Fergie.

[Mandy B]

But under the sky that's a. That's a lyric.

[Weezy]

Up in the sky that's like.

[Mandy B]

I was like what song is okay by the way, I'm mad That you just did that because I sent you the meme of me out of the ordinary. You got me stuff with the car in the missionary. And I said. She said, who that supposed to be? I said, bitch me. I messed up the whole lyrics. So I love that. You just messed up Fergie. That's classic.

[Weezy]

Then let's cut it out. So basically this is all I was going to say. Okay. I was talking to this flight attendant and it just. Mandy and I just started talking about Delta and this was like, ooh. I was like, yo, I'm going to spill this tea for the girls on a flight to how to get a sugar daddy. Okay.

[Mandy B]

Oh, this is how we're starting. We're starting out hot.

[Weezy]

Yeah. Because I'm a Jezebel, so.

[Mandy B]

Wow. And then, guys, we might get into a little bit of therapy on this fucking J word.

[Weezy]

That's so our catch up.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no.

[Weezy]

So let me tell you why I made the first class joke in this Delta story. So I'm coming back from la and it's fresh on my brain because it's two days ago. There's a guy in front of me. He got on the plane late, but while he was walking on. I don't know why, but I just knew he was in first class. You know, he just.

[Mandy B]

No, okay, real quick, what color was he?

[Weezy]

This is a white guy.

[Mandy B]

I know it was. Do not do that.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, no.

[Mandy B]

Assume a white guy is in first class.

[Weezy]

I know when someone black is in first class too. And we gonna have this conversation that I have with the flight attendant.

[Mandy B]

They're very problematic out the gate.

[Weezy]

I know every single type of first. I don't know why, but I.

[Mandy B]

You know why I don't like that? Cause I feel like n still be looking surprised when I go into first class. I don't look like a first class nigga and I don't like it.

[Weezy]

Mandy, I'm telling you, the formula this bitch had that the flight attendant gave me, let me know. You could just be looking different. Okay, let me know. So the white guy that came on looked disheveled but had a suit on.

[Mandy B]

Oh, wait, I be looking disheveled.

[Weezy]

He looked disheveled, had a suit on. He had on a ramoa bag. We know those are expensive, the aluminum.

[Mandy B]

I've been asking so many niggas for the removal.

[Weezy]

Not worth it.

[Eden]

I had to think, like, how expensive are we talking about?

[Mandy B]

Like $2,000, $1500 for the carry on. Oh, yeah, like, and it's silver.

[Eden]

I'll just give My way.

[Mandy B]

Carry. Hold on, wait, wait, wait. You said you're going to keep your away my way? Yeah, I'm going to keep my Burlington. Excuse me.

[Weezy]

Listen, this is love a Burlington. Okay? So. But he had on a hat that said yacht club something. So he sits down right in front of me. I'm like, oh, I knew it. I knew it. Throughout the flight, the flight attendant, white blonde girl. He keeps saying, and I can't hear what he's saying. Oh, excuse me. He keeps pulling her in, pulling her and pulling her in, and then finally I see out of her mouth, no, I work tonight, I work later. Sorry. I was like, now I'm like, let me just go be messy. So I go to the bathroom. I was like, girl, I seen him trying to talk to you. And she's like, oh my God. She's like, I'm not even supposed to talk about that with you. I can't talk about other people on the plane. But she all's like, but you must want to right now. And I was like, yo, he looks like a rich, rich piece of. She's like, dude, he was saying so many things to me that I just found inappropriate. She said every time he pressed the call button, it was for nothing. It was for a pack of gummy bears. It was for chips, it was for extra ice.

[Mandy B]

That's something. No, I' ma ring the light for some gummy bears.

[Weezy]

I would too.

[Eden]

Having a mid flight wanting for gummy bears is weird though.

[Mandy B]

No, you know what? I asked for them little salted chips. They be good.

[Weezy]

Oh, the Miss Vickies.

[Mandy B]

Oh, the Miss Vicky's bitch. I don't know who Vicky is.

[Weezy]

That hoe put gummy bears be getting me.

[Mandy B]

That hoe put her foot in them chips and they salted. Bitch, I be cooking. I like your sweet salt combo. Why do you want to be me so bad, bitch, you want to be

[Weezy]

me raising that popcorn?

[Mandy B]

Uh, bitch, that was me. I did do that last night. But what I do is the Miss Vicky salt chips and the little misha something cookies. Okay, that a mischief something. What's the Biscoff? No, they're not the Biscoff.

[Weezy]

Why are you looking at him like he look.

[Mandy B]

I don't know.

[Weezy]

He look like a nigga that eat cookies.

[Mandy B]

They're the ones with the chocolate in the center. Wait, wait, wait.

[Weezy]

They do.

[Mandy B]

You don't know the. They're in the pink packaging on the plane. They have the chocolate in the center.

[Eden]

What the fuck?

[Mandy B]

They're so delicious. Not y'. All.

[Eden]

Someone's gonna Know not y' all don't.

[Mandy B]

Y' all ain't beat it.

[Weezy]

They'll be screaming it in the comments.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, I'll look at it.

[Weezy]

Okay, so here's the first class tea, let's.

[Mandy B]

First class tea, let's.

[Weezy]

So I said to her, he looks like he's about to do fucking cocaine all night and go to jail. And she was like, I know. There's a look that people just have when I can tell that they're wealthy. She said, I can also tell who's in first class or not. I can always tell. I was like, yo, I have a podcast about sex and shit. You got to tell me, because I got to tell the girls. She goes, actually, I knew you were in first class. I want to tell y' all what I had on and what was crazy about her saying this.

[Mandy B]

Let me see. Let me see if I got it in my closet.

[Weezy]

So she said, oh, no, I was wearing my travel outfit. It's Aritzia sweatpants, black and black hoodie, whatever. She said, the way you got on the plane, you didn't need to know where your seat was. When you sat in your seat. I asked you if you wanted. She was like, oh. She's like, there's an attitude of the person. She's like, you didn't even want champagne. You didn't pull your phone out. There's a lot. Like to take a picture. There's a lot of things you did that let me know. Oh, she must be a frequent flyer. She's like, but when you walked on the plane, there was something about your attitude, the way you wore your clothes. She was like, maybe how your luggage was positioned. And also, sometimes people just really look cool and a little bit different.

[Mandy B]

They said, you look cool, and didn't you look cool? That's the fucking piercing.

[Eden]

I mean.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, you know what I mean?

[Eden]

The piercing, the tattooing. Yeah.

[Weezy]

I was going to say, she said, you look cool under my hoodie, you cunt. I was wearing a Palestine. Oh, stop killing Palestinian shirt girl on the plane.

[Mandy B]

No, that's why she had a hoodie on. Because they will. They will not kill the Palestinians.

[Eden]

No, I know.

[Mandy B]

Oh, they will take her off.

[Eden]

I just understand that the political.

[Weezy]

And Nina's, like, sitting on top of the luggage. And I think the dog.

[Eden]

I mean, the dog.

[Weezy]

Definitely the dog.

[Mandy B]

You have a little tiny parasocil dog. That's the point of.

[Weezy]

So wait. I was like, yo, that's crazy, because there's some times where I feel like I'm not dressing up Enough for first class. She goes, you know, when I really know, she didn't say bitch. She was like, you know, when I really know the girls have never been. She's like, when they're almost too dressy, she's like, I meet a lot of hot girls on the way to LA or New York, and I know they're with somebody rich, and they're almost so dressed up for first class that I know they're there to take pics.

[Mandy B]

And so maybe they know I'm here first class. Cause, bitch, I be looking like a bum.

[Weezy]

So she said, there's different artists.

[Mandy B]

But I do order a mimosa, bitch, and you better have my drink before we leave this Runway.

[Weezy]

She said, when you see the sweatsuit, she's like, in a combo of expensive accessories. She's like, for example.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I do that.

[Weezy]

She said, men and women. She said, even, like, it could be the air. What is it over the ear? Not the ear.

[Eden]

Headphones.

[Mandy B]

Headphones.

[Weezy]

She's like, expensive headphones. Yeah, the luggage, which she's like, not a lot of branding, right. She says they have a very clean look with the sweatsuit.

[Eden]

So you've been there?

[Weezy]

Everything looks very clean looking.

[Mandy B]

A mess.

[Weezy]

I do too.

[Mandy B]

I. But then, first off, I'm supposed to be comfortable, but apparently not too comfortable. You see?

[Weezy]

You see Tampa, but you have a Le Duffel. Did you see Tampa with no more pajamas?

[Mandy B]

No more pajamas.

[Eden]

I kind of understand that a little bit.

[Weezy]

I feel it's so. I hate that white people. Okay, but I wear, like, this black people or this is racist a little bit. Sorry. No, it's not. White, white, white trash. I've been seeing it white, but it's

[Eden]

like, now they could dictate our sweats to be pajama.

[Mandy B]

It's not only sweatshirt bitch. Even the budget airlines. I had a homegirl who got denied, like, boarding because she had on a little crop top, leggings too tight, and she looked like a whore. And they said the only way you can board this is if you go get a hoodie right now. Otherwise, we're denying you border.

[Eden]

But that's.

[Mandy B]

You also can't go on the. On an airplane looking like you just left the strip club either. They won't let you on a fucking decorum.

[Weezy]

Oh, okay. These are the archetypes. She's like, when someone's extremely hot, she's like. Like that girl sitting behind you.

[Mandy B]

Oh, wait, that's why they know. Bitch. Extremely hot.

[Weezy]

The girl sitting behind me was fucking the bitch had on raggedy clothes. Jawline, crazy sexy ass Bob. Like, the bitch was lit. She was like, there's also. And she's like, I fly out of Atlanta airport a lot. And she's like, there's a look when it comes to jewelry in a Southern esthetic. She was like, is an urban esthetic. It just is what it is. She was like, that's different from cheap jewelry. She was like, the watch could be simple. The glasses are expensive. She was like, I've seen flight attendants say someone's ghetto and blah, blah, and they're fudgeing millionaires. They're owning, like, so many different restaurants in Atlanta. They're owning.

[Mandy B]

They have.

[Weezy]

They'd be in different airport hangers. She was like, they different. She talked about the baddie aesthetic. She's like, every time I see, like, you know, when the butt is very overdone, I was like, the bbl. Yeah. If I see that and they don't have, like, what she say?

[Mandy B]

She didn't say.

[Weezy]

I can't remember what she said. The BBL had to go with something. But she's like, they always. She's like, when their hair looks really pretty and they have on big glasses and a little lip gloss, they do this, okay. She said, if it's white men. She said, I rarely see white men dressed down in first class. They're typically corporate and depending on the light. She said, on the early flights, they're in a suit. She's like, if a white guy is dressed casual and looks cool, she's like, a lot of tattoos. Sometimes. Tell me, maybe first class artistic production. She's like. And then everyone else in between is just forgettable.

[Mandy B]

So.

[Eden]

Rory.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah, I think that's exactly it.

[Eden]

Rory.

[Weezy]

Yeah, but she said that so many people are forgettable and. And the ones that she has to double take, she said almost 8 out of 10 are first class. She's like, some people just. I could serve them 100 times and forget who they are, right? And then there's some people that stick out to me, and those are the ones. And I was like, you know what? To me, that also speaks volumes as to, like, the attitude of confidence a little bit.

[Mandy B]

It's so funny that you say that. I went to. It was a bookstop for 2 Chainz yesterday with Deontay. Kylie.

[Weezy]

Did you see Jan?

[Mandy B]

No, Jan wasn't there, but Maria was

[Weezy]

on tour with him.

[Mandy B]

Maria was. So got to see her. And you know what he allegedly talks about in his book is how walking with confidence and being in rooms. Confidence is an energy that so Many people lack, but when you have it, no one can question you. And he shared this funny story about going to like All Star Weekend or something and having tickets. And he walked on the court, but he wasn't supposed to be on the court, but niggas knew him. And he just walked on the court to where someone tried to stop him who worked there. And he said, my confidence was so big, I almost looked at him like, n, what you doing here? And clearly he worked there, but he was just like, there's a thing about confidence that when you enter a room that everyone actually acknowledges and it's so weird that so many people don't have that.

[Weezy]

I, I and I, when her and I started talking about confidence, right? We then started talking about dating, me and her talking for 30 minutes. And she was like, there's just something with the walk. She was like, I don't know. And that's how when you aren't dressed well, she's like, or dressed dressed up. She's like, I just know. And she's like, I don't even know if it's posture. And I was like, so when you're dating, like, can you get people's numbers on plane? She's like, I can. It's allowed. I'm not supposed to pull my phone out if I want to, like slip something. It's, it's not, it's frowned upon. And she's like. And for me, I was like, so do you always get the Delta class niggas and Delta one niggas? And she was like, no. She's like, sometimes it's the really hot, confident guy. She's like, I've gotten guys who are just out for a bachelor, bachelor weekend and they all the way in the back in the middle. She was like, confidence is like striking to me. Because what I've learned being a flight attendant in a first class flight attendant as a seniority.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

How they do it, she's like, is how much money people have and how much confidence they lack. The money gave them the confidence. She's like, it's almost like if you stripped all the way, like the guy that was hitting on her, it's gone. It's fucking gone. And she said over the years she's been seeing younger people. She's like, first class. Years ago was so like, everyone in a suit. She was like, now no one fucking cares to drink.

[Mandy B]

I mean, the same as the NBA.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie. I felt real old at All Star Weekend. And I was like, where are the Suits? Don't you miss seeing the guys come down the thing in suits?

[Eden]

Girl, that's the early 2000s.

[Mandy B]

I know, but this is where I was just like, I miss seeing, you know, the little fine, fine shit and some suits. Now they just wearing, like, outfits that make them look on the spectrum of sexuality. Oh, you know what?

[Weezy]

Shalotti Hampton, she be giving them niggas cool.

[Mandy B]

That's cool.

[Eden]

And all.

[Mandy B]

I want a N in a suit, Not a N in a skirt. You know they be wearing.

[Weezy]

But I'll take a skirt.

[Mandy B]

They be wearing leather pieces. I won't. And I'm just like, can we just get the boys back in suits?

[Eden]

Are we taking issue of men wearing skirts here?

[Weezy]

Not today. We can't do this. Only if you paint your nails.

[Mandy B]

Wow. Wow.

[Weezy]

Can we talk a little bit about confidence in work, too?

[Mandy B]

Oh, I was gonna say how I done lost all confidence this last couple weeks, but go ahead. We could talk about being confident in work.

[Weezy]

Oh, no, I was just gonna say how a confident stripper ran me and my nigga through some money in atl. Confidence. Hold on, hold on. Wait.

[Mandy B]

She said. She said confidence is tr. No, it's called manipulation.

[Weezy]

First of all, let me finish my point. We fought. You know, you sit down and you in there, and he like, you spot the bad bitches, right? So we get the bad bitch, bruh.

[Mandy B]

You were just in Atlanta. Or you went, oh, wait, y' all went to Cheetah.

[Weezy]

So we had dinner, and we're like, all right, after we eat. So the baddest bitch in there, we call her over.

[Mandy B]

What was her name? Okay. I was making sure it wasn't my bitch.

[Weezy]

Who was her name?

[Mandy B]

Mistress.

[Weezy]

Didn't see her that night. Oh, no.

[Mandy B]

I got.

[Weezy]

No, wait, no, Now I feel bad. Cause I'm about to say, well, bleep.

[Eden]

She good, bro. You gave her all the bread.

[Weezy]

Like.

[Mandy B]

I know. Cause she gonna talk shit. Cause what we love to do is talk shit.

[Eden]

All right, I'll bleep it.

[Mandy B]

We gonna bleep the name.

[Eden]

I'll bleep it.

[Weezy]

Okay, so this particular don't bleep out.

[Mandy B]

Mistress. That's my dog. Okay, y' all go see Mistress.

[Weezy]

Shout out to Mistress Cheetah.

[Mandy B]

Mind you, it's about to close in December, so get there before you can. I loved it.

[Weezy]

So she comes over and she's like, hey, where y' all from? And whatever. Her energy was so fucking whack. And so she was like, oh, cool. Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Weezy]

One dance. Y' all wanna dance? And so she Dancing on him. And he was like, like, yo, just fantasy ruined. She was smiling or whatever, but just like, shoulders down, whatever. So then this funny looking girl come over. Wish I knew her name. And he was like, is she coming over here? And he was like, please don't let her come over here. And I was like, oh, shit. Comes over to the table and she's like, what? Y' all done eating?

[Mandy B]

I don't care. This might be my bitch.

[Weezy]

And she said, no, no, that's not your bitch. This bitch whack.

[Mandy B]

But you don't remember her name.

[Weezy]

This bitch is whack.

[Mandy B]

Oh, my ain't whack. Okay, keep going.

[Weezy]

So she was like, y' all done eating?

[Mandy B]

What?

[Weezy]

She was like, so you ain't come for no dance. Don't play with me.

[Mandy B]

And I was like, ooh, I kind

[Weezy]

of liked your little attitude. I was like, fuck it, give him a dance. She was like, mm. Cause you wanna watch. I know you wanna watch me.

[Mandy B]

And I was thinking to myself, bitch, okay. Cute, but okay.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah.

[Mandy B]

No, definitely not my bitch.

[Weezy]

And let me tell you, we paying this bitch, Paying this bitch, paying this bitch. And when he left, when she left, he was like, yo, we need to have a conversation about how fucking attitude will take you to a next level. He's like, I will fuck that bitch all night over that bad bitch. I really would. He was like, I need that shit in my life. Like, being surrounded with people that are the vibe, okay. It just takes you up notches. I literally saw the first bitch and said, okay, let's take out a thousand. This bitch look good. Fuck it, bro. When I saw that other girl, wouldn't have thought.

[Mandy B]

I said, how long were y' all there for you like the strip club? 5. You were there for five hours?

[Weezy]

4. What's nine to 12?

[Mandy B]

3. Bitch, you were way off with the man, dog.

[Weezy]

When it comes to the 10, 11, 12. Yeah, I'm thinking 9, 10, 11, 12.

[Mandy B]

Well, that's still 5. Not 11, not 5.

[Weezy]

I was in tech. You were in math. Whatever.

[Mandy B]

I was in accounting and finance. Foot. You just said nine to 12 was five hours. That's crazy.

[Eden]

I did have to use my fingers.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie, mind you.

[Weezy]

You know who people had a six hour work day?

[Mandy B]

You know. You know who out for five hours that night? Me.

[Eden]

Doing what?

[Mandy B]

Oh, I went to dinner, then I went to a dive bar. Then I ended up at Flo, which is a party DJ'd by Brian Michael Cox.

[Weezy]

Is it a lesbian?

[Eden]

Oh, shout out. Yes.

[Mandy B]

But I went with Terrace Martin and Robert Glasper cause he had a show at the winery.

[Eden]

Damn.

[Mandy B]

And Kelly Rowland caught me. Beautiful. So when I tell you if y' all bitches be in the comments, why

[Weezy]

did Mandy talking shit?

[Eden]

Mandy's jiggling her titty.

[Weezy]

Oh they really

[Mandy B]

said oh my God you beautiful bitch. And so now y' all can't say nothing.

[Weezy]

Not gonna lie, that's like Beyonce.

[Eden]

Well they said something.

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[Mandy B]

okay. Can we get into it?

[Eden]

We can.

[Mandy B]

Okay. If you guys are OG whorehive members, you go back to episode six.

[Weezy]

That's what one it was.

[Mandy B]

It's episode six.

[Weezy]

That wasn't Be Simone.

[Mandy B]

So it's episode three. Damn.

[Eden]

Damn, Threes are working.

[Mandy B]

Episode six was, I think probably be Simone. Episode three.

[Weezy]

Whoa.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Don't know what to tell time, but

[Eden]

the three that works.

[Mandy B]

By the way, I don't think our episode six, whatever that episode is, doesn't exist anymore because yeah, damn, our first episode would be Simone doesn't exist anymore. Anyways, we had a discussion early on. I called, I said that weezy and maybe myself. Maybe I didn't include myself. I don't know. I was petty, was promiscuous. This became a constant trend of us having conversations about that word specifically. Now we are three, two, three weeks out of the Sarah Fontenot Shorter debacle of what took place here on Decisions Decisions. If you guys haven't Watched that episode yet. Go back. However, I did a vlog is available on Patreon right now. But before Sarah came on, I did her podcast. So for three weeks, y', all, those comments were good. Not on. Oh, on. On YouTube they were. Not the clips that she collaborated with me on. Mind you, I like Instagram because you

[Weezy]

posted it on Patreon. And I feel I saw a bunch of people like, this is great.

[Mandy B]

I don't know. Yeah, for. For us. No, bitch. I was introduced to her audience, which is a little bit more traditional. We little bit were introduced to the world because them numbers went up. And y', all, I. I cried multiple times over the last couple weeks. And I did know that the word Jezebel hurts so bad. Now hear me out. It might be because I watched Handmaid sales and the Jezebels were like, not great, but literally, my mind went down the hands made rabbit hole of damn. As a woman, our money means nothing. Our confidence means nothing. Because how they distinguish where women align is a who you're married to. Those were the commander's wives, your ability to procreate, which were the Handmaid's tales. Then they had the other women that were the cooks and the people in the house. The. I forgot their names. And then you had the Jezebels.

[Weezy]

Only good for sex.

[Mandy B]

Only good for sex. And then of course, everyone else in between, probably the others that we almost got canceled on and Edna had to save us, were in the field.

[Weezy]

Have you seen what.

[Mandy B]

Because there was the field.

[Eden]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

There's a video of a woman saying, let me tell you all of the things you can't be as a woman that you'd be celebrated for as a man. You would be celebrated for having gray hair. You'd be celebrated for not having children. You'd be celebrated for being independent. You'd be celebrated for putting your partner second to yourself. You'd be celebrated for choosing your career over your family. Like, there are so many things that, as a woman. Scarlet A. Yeah.

[Mandy B]

And so this, this week was literally, and I hate to say this, I was like, damn. A part of me wish I was a man. Because the things that I find so much pride in, mind you, the autonomy that we've been given in this part of history, like being able to be C suite, being able to be entrepreneurs, being able to live on our own, being able to choose whether we want to be moms or not, being able to do all these things, I was like, damn. Like, reading these comments on the Internet this week and being referred to as a Jezebel and knowing the connotation of it or where it aligns us literally diminishes us to LeBron James. Puff like nothing. And it was so hurtful because in a way that I've been so proud with going to therapy, with building what we've built together, with living in my dream loft and all the things I've accomplished. I was like, damn. When you read the comments, when you see what we've accomplished as a woman, that don't mean shit to a motherfucker.

[Weezy]

Do you know the comment that hurt me the most?

[Mandy B]

Oh, you screenshotted it.

[Weezy]

Her name is Nysha. She lives in Los Angeles.

[Mandy B]

Oh, pussy asshole. And we gonna find your job and tell them that you talking about black women on the Internet.

[Weezy]

Oh, she's a black woman, self employed. Beautiful, actually.

[Mandy B]

Is she beautiful?

[Weezy]

I think so.

[Mandy B]

You be fake nice to these bitches.

[Eden]

Like first class beautiful.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, first class beautiful.

[Weezy]

To tell. She made. She made her page private once I tagged her.

[Eden]

Of course she did.

[Weezy]

But

[Mandy B]

about her comment, I'm curious, and

[Weezy]

it's such a simple comment, but something about it, like, activated me. And it said, wheezy will never be married.

[Mandy B]

Not me sighing at Wheezy, Wheezy won't be married.

[Weezy]

It is what it is, okay?

[Mandy B]

And I'm like, wait, that was a comment?

[Weezy]

That was a comment. It didn't keep going. Weezy won't be married.

[Mandy B]

It is what it is. I got it.

[Weezy]

I got right now, here's. But here's what. How I really felt about that. I thought, damn, this is someone that's left comments. I clicked on her. She left comments on her page before she views the show. Don't tell me what the fuck I'm ever gonna have in life. You know what I'm saying? You could say I'm a whore. I'm this, I'm that. Don't you tell me what the fuck my future is gonna be. Because who the fuck are you?

[Mandy B]

Who the is you?

[Weezy]

I click on her page, she has some failed lip gloss line. Then she, like, works in event planning or silent or whatever it was. And I was thinking to myself, oh, you'll never be successful.

[Mandy B]

How does that feel?

[Weezy]

How dare I tell you what the you ever gonna have in life? And I think the reason it hurt more is because it was a black woman that I know has been in our content before and says something like that to me. These niggas I have the lowest expectations for, but these women are higher. And you don't you know that I'm not a terrible person. That's why you watch the show. I'm not awful. Right? I don't know how much we can. One can hate watching she's grown.

[Mandy B]

Like grown and miserable.

[Weezy]

And you had the nerve to get on there and say, I won't have this. It is what it is. I really think it's nasty to ever tell somebody they won't be successful. They won't find love, they won't access a certain point in life. And that's why I really had to tell her she won't be successful. And I believe it. Everything I say comes true. It's true. I get everything I want every single time. And when I'm sitting here married, I'm going to bring you up again. And that lip gloss line is still. That godaddy subscription is going to be gone by the time I'm married. And I'm sorry you had to say that to me. And I'm sorry if what I'm saying hurts your feelings. I'm sorry you didn't use another page to say this and that I was able to access you. I'm actually very sorry for that. But what you should be sorry for is thinking that your thoughts are. Your words are that powerful to where it won't happen. Because anybody that's ever told me, no, it's just the battery in my back, dog. Like, I think I really started another one of the studios because somebody told me, you guys won't be able to expand. It's too soon. Like everything like that really puts a battery in my back. A woman saying that fucked me up. The other things more so like hurt my feelings. Like a little burn, like a little sting. But that just like crushed me because I thought we were doing this for women. I thought the strength I displayed in that episode was very loud. Hey, choose yourself. Love, my man. We all know I'm obsessed with him. I realized in that episode I'm not as male centered as I thought that the fucking comic section is that episode with my mom and I where I said, I want to cook for a nigga. I want to do xyz. That made me look very pick me male centered. Which I thought I was until I sat with Sarah. And I'm not calling Sarah a pick me.

[Mandy B]

You're not?

[Weezy]

No, I'm just saying that.

[Mandy B]

You don't think she's a pick me.

[Weezy]

I think Sarah is.

[Mandy B]

Because to me there's a difference between

[Weezy]

male centered but not a pick me.

[Mandy B]

It's weird because that was the interesting thing to me about her, it didn't seem like. I feel like she was marriage centered. She was patriarchal centered.

[Weezy]

That's male centered.

[Mandy B]

But I think it could have been any man, you know what I mean? A part of me was like even her husband now being her friend first, her breaking up with the boyfriend she was with, it was marriage was the goal. Not even the fact that she wanted to show up as this person for a man and give everything to a man. It was that she wanted the title of a wife more than the man mattered to me.

[Weezy]

That's how I get, I think the reason I dis. I know a lot of people feel that and believe that. I'm slightly not sure about that because she could have been married two other times. The first time, sorry, that was the abusive dude. Nevermind. She could have been married one at a time. That second one, she could have had him. And that's what made me think you don't want marriage, that you would choose yourself first. Sarah has chosen herself.

[Mandy B]

So.

[Weezy]

But what was weird or questionable about Sarah's choice to all of us as viewers, the people that didn't like what she said was the six days and the person before and them not dating. That was the weird thing. I don't know if that's pick me though, but it's male centered because she said something about that guy has a marriage mind. I think what Sarah displayed. And we should also talk about this when we sit together again because there's so much dissecting from our conversation.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, sure, I'd love to sit with

[Weezy]

her is when she said the marriage mind to me. And I wish I asked her more about this because me, I was like, damn, if you ask me right now if I could be with the love of my life for even fucking 10 years or just have a good partner that's a husband for till the day I die, I would rather be in love. Love is above marriage to me. Love is above all. Love is a romance. Love. And we share that in friendships. You know what I'm saying? Like love. Real fucking love, dude. Take, Give me that. Run me that.

[Mandy B]

It's interesting because even your response to the comment is, bitch, I'm gonna show you when I'm married. And for me, the comments have been so much more harsh in me as a being. Fuck how I see my romantic partnerships. Right, Chris? Xof, if y' all want to tag him, feel free. It's two S's, Xof, Chris's response to everything I've said is, but you're nothing without a man. And so for me. Oh, bitch, for me, the comments leaning into my existence as a woman, as a being, as an entrepreneur, as a friend, as a sister, as a daughter, no other titles in life matters until a man fucking crowns me a goddamn ring. And so for me, I know, I love that so many of the people who listen to our podcast are this modern day. I could say trope. But being of a woman where we're kind of tearing down these labels identifying us, do you know how that.

[Weezy]

To me, it's not just because I was gonna say, of course that nigga said that.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, and he did.

[Weezy]

But what's stranger about this is how valuable it is to women as well. And I say that because when I get married, that's just what's going to happen in my life. Right. If I ever had an issue or something ever went wrong, that girl Nisha would be so excited to see. Well, you got married, but it didn't work. Women also.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no. They're ready.

[Weezy]

Oh.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no. Do you see the comments? But.

[Weezy]

Okay, that's why I want.

[Mandy B]

Um, but should we bleep that? Yeah, let's bleep that. Let's bleep that. But it's why it's difficult. Because when a woman does find her knight in shining in her armor, let's be very clear, I was with my ex for a year in bliss, and everyone's like, ooh, can't wait till she hit the rough patch. Like, people also can't wait for people to be unhappy because they want you with them.

[Weezy]

Hey, Weezy, you'll never be married. You won't have this thing. I would love to know why. Won't have it. And then once I do have it, you don't want me to have it anymore. Like, bro, it's a weird thing of us kind of being obsessed with wanting to knock someone off a peg. It's a weird fucking thing.

[Mandy B]

Hey, you say.

[Eden]

I also think it's that people can't accept as a L word. They don't want to see y' all be different people. Maybe also, also for the sake of the show, which is a little weird.

[Mandy B]

Bro, she could still fuck bitches, get money. I didn't have any money.

[Weezy]

Fucking met, like, be different people. That's genuinely the only reason why I pitched that idea to Mandy that we spoke about privately, because I know for

[Mandy B]

a fact can't talk about it and then bring it up on the mic.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, I'm not gonna say it. I'm not gonna say it.

[Mandy B]

It's Only the topic we talked about privately.

[Weezy]

Fine. I'm just saying, like, it was the idea that Weezy, the mic, he threw it.

[Mandy B]

I know.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

What do you want me to do? Talk? Be a podcaster.

[Eden]

Have y' all not lost friends because they were being weird? Because you guys were, like, actually developing and changing and being different people? It's the same thing.

[Mandy B]

No, I'm. I'm a lot of the same.

[Weezy]

I have not lose, but I have

[Mandy B]

lost friends when they've reached different parts in their lives.

[Eden]

Sure.

[Mandy B]

So, like, if. If friends got partners or had a baby or things that they just know I don't want for myself.

[Eden]

But you separated. Had differences. That's it.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, that happens.

[Eden]

That's the weirdo side of it when it comes to, like, people that even, like, fuck with y', all that they can't handle situations like that.

[Mandy B]

Well, it's different because I think. I think for me, it's baby's wife. Cool. I don't want either. So for me, it's also been the then what? So. Well, it's not the then what. And I talk about this in. In my vlog, the two guys that I dated in Atlanta only dated two guys since I lived in Atlanta. Both. When I expressed that I didn't want to be a wife and didn't want to be a mom, one was like, so why date you? And the other was like, so do you want to be a ho forever?

[Weezy]

What?

[Mandy B]

What? That was their responses.

[Weezy]

Oh, wait, I remember.

[Mandy B]

Yes, I told you. And so for me, it's also, like, then sitting with the two of you and Ed and U2 at the top of the year, my. My romantic partnerships not being looked at from a serious lens to where. Wait, I. I do want partnership. I do seek love. I do want a healthy situation with another person. I also hear that you guys talk a lot about how we lean into our conversations from a heterosexual lens. Y'. All. I fuck bitches. I just fucked one this weekend. Hold on. I don't know. I don't know what her name was, but it was a good time. And so for me, it was supposed

[Weezy]

to just keep potting right now.

[Mandy B]

No, but I genuinely don't, like, have the desire to romantically be in a homosexual relationship.

[Weezy]

Let me tell you something.

[Mandy B]

I want a man, and I want something.

[Weezy]

I wish you worded differently on the pot.

[Mandy B]

Wait, what do you wish I worded differently? First off, you know I have an insecurity about my Florida education. How do I word shit?

[Weezy]

Okay, I should be wrong.

[Mandy B]

Girl, you shit is moving?

[Weezy]

No, but it's good. Leave it like that, okay?

[Mandy B]

Yeah. Subscribe to YouTube Gracia.

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[Weezy]

so I wanted. I wish I worded something differently and I wish you worded something different.

[Mandy B]

Talk to me.

[Weezy]

I wish I had said when I choose myself first, it's because what is my relationship without the best version of me? And I don't believe that the best version of you exists if someone else is before you. This is why moms suffer a lot. Moms suffer a lot when they get wrapped up in their mother identity. And a lot of my homegirls, I'm sure you've had a friend or two be like, bitch, I don't know, like I haven't been taking care of myself. I haven't been doing. Yeah, I gotta be team A, right? A team that I said in a way that wasn't translating well with yours. What I say, ho, I believe wholeheartedly and don't think it would even be judged about you not getting married. But your answer, what was wrong with my answer was rooted in like protecting your heart, you know, what's crazy or protecting yourself.

[Mandy B]

It wasn't root. And so I've been responding hearing it.

[Weezy]

It was though.

[Mandy B]

But I've been responding to people about that. So my answer was I've gone through a divorce already, so everyone believes that my idea, my reasoning for not wanting to be married is rooted in trauma. And heartbreak. No. To me, it's rooted in reality. To me, it's rooted in. And to me, it's also no different than if someone's already been married and they say, you know what? I don't want to go through that again. To me, I've been in that situation to where the person that I had a friendship with that I love that da da da, da, da, da. At the end was not. And came after my fucking livelihood. Came after my money and I didn't get to keep anything. So for me, for.

[Weezy]

And I've met not like that in business.

[Mandy B]

No.

[Weezy]

You would do another podcast.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. You ready?

[Weezy]

Another big hold on. And did.

[Mandy B]

And you ready, Baby, that paper will look. Look real different than us in that.

[Weezy]

That doesn't matter, though.

[Mandy B]

It does. I'm not. I'm not in partnership with anyone but anymore after. After this. Hold on, baby. We are the last of a bohemian.

[Weezy]

No, you and Tempest have a business.

[Mandy B]

And it's not the same, girl. Shout out to point. Shout out to power and IP. It is. I am no longer 50. 50 with assets the way that partnership is written up. Hold on. My selective ignorance agreement. Baby, it is me. Baby, it ain't the same.

[Weezy]

You would try again and wouldn't. That's not true.

[Mandy B]

I'm telling you. And wouldn't.

[Weezy]

This is basically why I said it's rooted in.

[Mandy B]

Ma'. Am. Ma'. Am. And wouldn't I have two other businesses that are nothing like after that divorce?

[Weezy]

Correct. But you would start another business.

[Mandy B]

Hold on, hold on, hold on. Starting another business is not getting into a marriage with one other person.

[Weezy]

I. But you're getting into still another. Whatever.

[Mandy B]

No, it's not the same. Bitch. It ain't no 50.

[Weezy]

50 nothing. Fair. You can say it's not the same,

[Mandy B]

but it's not the same.

[Weezy]

I do think.

[Mandy B]

But it's not the same.

[Weezy]

Bro. You want me to say her name?

[Sponsor Voice]

Damn, bitch.

[Weezy]

It ain't.

[Mandy B]

But it's not the same. My last name is not ending in Kelly.

[Weezy]

God.

[Mandy B]

It is. It is not the same.

[Weezy]

Atlantan woman. Isn't that what that nigga called the Atlantic woman?

[Mandy B]

It is not the same.

[Weezy]

Okay, you said that.

[Mandy B]

Wait, can I play that clip, too? Before? No, no, no.

[Weezy]

I'll play it.

[Mandy B]

You gonna play it? Oh, I have the quick weezy. When I sent her this clip, said, I really hate that you just sent that to me. You ruined my day.

[Weezy]

Because I just ignore shit. Like if I see like a thousand mentions.

[Mandy B]

Oh, it was bad.

[Weezy]

I just.

[Mandy B]

I won't look okay. So to be fair, mind you, when I first sent it to her, I said, come on reaction video. And then I watched the call and

[Weezy]

I was like, okay, here's the clip that I sent to Breonda and I said, help. I said, these your people?

[Mandy B]

That's the problem. But not a man.

[Weezy]

Always first and then my kids and then God damn,

[Mandy B]

here's my holy water. The Jezebel spirit is right.

[Weezy]

Oh, from the Atlantan woman. Okay.

[Mandy B]

Oh, wait, that you, you cut that. That clip was way longer.

[Weezy]

No, I just put a little edit and sent it to my friends. Like of a nigga saying they need holy water from you.

[Mandy B]

Of course, she and I, that nigga went in on us.

[Weezy]

Oh, I know, but I didn't want to play a minute.

[Mandy B]

It's like the whole going in on,

[Weezy]

I feel like reliving it. But I will tell you this.

[Mandy B]

Well, we won't relive it in the

[Weezy]

Holy Spirit with the nigga saying that where's his holy water? On my birthday, I'm going to get a shot of Patron, pour it into my mouth and like kind of double click clip the holy water. Few things I want to say about that moment, right. I think the be kids God thing, if I could elaborate on it, even though I don't really care, because whatever the reason I said that is because religion is not something I'm. That is that important to me. I don't practice it daily just because I believe in it. I don't pray before my meals. I don't read the Bible. I don't read the Quran or the Torah. I don't go to church.

[Mandy B]

Hallelujah.

[Weezy]

I have faith. I'm a spiritual person. My partner and I pray before bed because we want to speak words out together, but he won't even say Amen. Like, we are not the traditional religious couple. When I say God, I really just mean everything around me, universally, whatever. I know that my ancestors are gods to me now. My grandmother, my aunt. That's what God looks like for me. Not saying I'm an atheist or agnostic. It's just when I say God, sometimes it looks different. I want to also remind everyone that watches this show, the Bible. God and homosexuality being a sin was something that was difficult in my breakup with Scissors and affected my relationship. The ideology behind religion. I grew up Jewish because of my father and they all hated my mom and didn't welcome her in a synagogue. And then I would have to sneak off to church with my mom because she wanted to feel something. And then while in Church, I was dating a woman and then every time I'm talking about scissors, I almost say her name. And then, you know, she also dealt with some of those feelings too, about how she felt because she's so religious. And I've just seen religion not necessarily heal and help people in my community.

[Mandy B]

Not only heal, there's a. There's a layer of do not kill me, bitches. There's a layer of delusion. Let me tell you a conversation I had this morning. So I was talking about the response from what I said on that episode with a friend of mine. Not gonna say her name, but I was having this conversation with her and she immediately went into why marriage means something. And she said, well, normally it's from religious values. And I said, okay, but I'm not religious. So she said, so where do you get your morals from? Where do you get your view on life?

[Weezy]

Very good question.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. So she asked me that, like, in terms of how you show up for your partner, your friends, where do you get your values? And I said, well, not only from lived experiences, but from books and things that I read and things that I take in and history, because, you know, you can change. Like history repeats itself often. So I go into saying that I get it from lived experiences and books. And it was so interesting because she was like, well, I'm confused because what do you mean books? Like what kind of books? And she scoffed at me saying books. And I said, bitch, like the Bible that you based yours off of, isn't that a book? And she's like, yeah, but who writes the books that you read? And I was like, bitch, who wrote the book you read? I said. And then she said something so hypocritical. I said, got em. She said, well, there's. Her response to that was, well, there's a. I wanna say, she said, hierarchy. I can't remember now the exact word. But she's like, well, there's a difference in books. And I was like, oh, wow. So if my religion was the Quran, would you put that. Would you put your book, the Bible, above my beliefs? If I was a Buddhist and believed in Buddhism, would you put your beliefs above whatever book they come from? Because essentially your faith derives from a book that was written by man. How else was the fuck it written? And so it was so interesting, us having this conversation that I was like, we could stop here. Because your faith and the book that you read from and the way that you align your life, I'm saying the same exact thing, but because it's not your religion. And you just don't want to even accept my answers. We can stop this conversation because I

[Weezy]

don't want to argue with someone about their religion. Right?

[Mandy B]

And I don't tell her how to live her life.

[Weezy]

I put God, universe, religion, spirituality third. I just do.

[Eden]

I put it, I think, the way you like.

[Mandy B]

Was that not a thing? Was that not a cliffhanger?

[Eden]

That listing thing was crazy.

[Weezy]

I gotta be honest with you, Eden. I would say it again.

[Mandy B]

I actually wanted to ask you if, If. If you sat with it because it was such an on the spot question, if your list changed and it didn't, does it change? She said, fuck you pussy ass hoes.

[Weezy]

So, nigga, sorry again.

[Mandy B]

Who you pointing at?

[Weezy]

Who is that?

[Mandy B]

Who is that? Oh, shit.

[Weezy]

Hey, W. Hey, wolf. I just see a fucking butt.

[Mandy B]

Wait, mind you, I, I horny. I saw tattoos on her arm. I said, who that?

[Weezy]

So, like, yeah, Point of it all is, is like, if God doesn't center my everyday life, why am I going to lie in this moment if I'm not going to church, if I'm not visiting, if I'm not basing my morals, ethics, and values off of the Bible or religion, how can I now pretend in front of everyone that knows me? Fuck the thousands of people that just discovered me from that clip, People that have been watching this show for years. How many times have y' all heard me talk about praying or God or my relationship to God? You know what I'm saying? I did produce a Bible.

[Mandy B]

I ain't gonna hold you. Sorry if y' all are listening to. Because I love y'.

[Weezy]

All.

[Eden]

No, you're not.

[Mandy B]

I love y'. All. No, no, no, no. I don't love everyone listening.

[Eden]

I'm saying. You're not saying you're not sorry.

[Mandy B]

I love my homegirls that listen, right? But I will say, being in my 30s and certain bitches entering heartbreak and God being the nigga they fall on right after. Oh, bitch, that shit has been one of the hardest things. Bitch, I know you, and I'm not gonna hold you. God is the most ghetto rebound nigga for these bitches that could exist. They be breaking up with these niggas and God be their rebound, and it just be like they turn into whole new bitches waiting for healing to just arrive.

[Eden]

But he got all the answers.

[Mandy B]

No. And that's what they say.

[Weezy]

I'm not gonna lie to you, bitch. I've had a breakup where I was like, how do I do it?

[Mandy B]

No, bro, bro, no, no, no, no, no. It's, it's, it's. It's almost like, fuck therapy. Fuck holding the mirror up to how you showed up in that relationship. Fuck any accountability. I'm going to go to church and Bible study. And now that I go there, God is going to heal these wounds and find me a better man.

[Eden]

It's not.

[Mandy B]

And it's like, bitch. And then. So when I'm talking, having threesomes, picking

[Eden]

up bitches at the clerk, I mean, that's a little.

[Mandy B]

Now I'll be a motherfucking judge, but I'm happy. But, bitch, you're still not healed. But because God has entered your life and God can.

[Weezy]

That was good. So everyone get the clip?

[Eden]

Okay, so this is the clip right here.

[Mandy B]

Yeah. But it's like, okay, I get it. God can, right? And he will.

[Eden]

God can.

[Mandy B]

Hallelujah. But no, like, God cannot be your rebound nigga. You need to do the work to actually get through whatever it is.

[Weezy]

See, this patriarchy. Is God a nigga?

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Eden]

That's why I said she earlier as well.

[Weezy]

I mean, wait, according to Malcolm X.

[Mandy B]

Okay, but when talking to the heterosexual bitches, they not finna believe they rebound as a woman.

[Eden]

The Christians are not gonna like this one.

[Weezy]

Okay, I know they're not gonna like it, but there's just one other thing I have to say.

[Mandy B]

Let's just.

[Weezy]

The Christians in my life that I really fuck with, I started a business with two Christians, Jeff and Breonda and Traph House.

[Eden]

Hallelujah.

[Mandy B]

Right?

[Weezy]

Hallelujah. And I'm going to be real with you. I genuinely find, like a closeness sometimes with modern Christians. I think it's because faith can make you a great person. Because having this rule book, immorality to follow. Cool. A lot of people can't get to that. Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Because also the world is so fucked up if you don't believe that you going to go to heaven. You might not want to be.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I can't go radical. To me, radical Islam is as bad as radical Christianity. Like, the way they was talking to me in them comments, like, are you bitches fucking for me? Like, what's.

[Mandy B]

Oh, my God, it was so bad. And it was like, God would not approve this YouTube comment.

[Eden]

That's not bad.

[Weezy]

So I say all that to say it's hard to be that open about it, especially to Sarah, who has a great relationship with God and with her own self and her own religion. I don't want to push back on it and make it a thing like that.

[Mandy B]

I mean, and we've never done that. That's. To me. If she's leaning into marriage for religious beliefs. If you believe in marriage because the sanctity under the Bible means more to you in this. In this union. I'm not mad at that. I think that that's the thing for me, when I think of the way I view marriage, it's from more of a business sense. I've had a divorce and I'm not as religious.

[Weezy]

And, you know, we've had to have this conversation, my boyfriend and I. Up.

[Mandy B]

Sorry, y'. All. This is what happens. The outline. Sorry.

[Eden]

Because we have again, Eddie, I gotta watch all these.

[Mandy B]

Not too much. We add ADHD up in this house. Shout out to the neurodivergence.

[Eden]

I'm not gonna lie. Best episodes.

[Weezy]

God wanted this.

[Mandy B]

I don't know. We.

[Weezy]

I don't know.

[Mandy B]

This is. This is. The people gonna be like, oh, the

[Weezy]

Christians could be like, oh, I fought with the Christian.

[Eden]

It's not my fault. That's what they said.

[Mandy B]

J Word is not allowed. Jesus judge your Jesus. Jezebel.

[Eden]

Oh, sorry.

[Mandy B]

This just called us Jezebel.

[Eden]

They called y' all Jezebel, not me.

[Mandy B]

You added to it.

[Eden]

Do I have to say J Word?

[Weezy]

I want glitter shirts that. Oh, my God. Let's do Jesse about merch.

[Eden]

Oh, I love it. Yes, I agree. I agree. I agree.

[Weezy]

Oh, my God.

[Mandy B]

We have.

[Eden]

I agree.

[Mandy B]

The word that made me cry.

[Eden]

Yes. I had to make you rich.

[Weezy]

It's, like, horrible. We have to come up with a Jezebel Pine. Come on. And you know it.

[Eden]

Look, that Lip House line is not gonna do anything. Might as well make the shirts.

[Mandy B]

Come on, Eddie. Bring it back around to that. Bring it back around to that hoe.

[Weezy]

I'm sorry. She's not a hoe. She's gonna be married soon.

[Mandy B]

Where is her ho? Ho? Get married, bitch. You about to get married.

[Weezy]

Hey, Mandy, I'm. You know, it's funny.

[Mandy B]

Hoes get married, too.

[Weezy]

I really was actually. Oh, let me tell you. I was.

[Eden]

Another shirt.

[Mandy B]

Not worried. Let's get married, too.

[Weezy]

No, that's a good shirt.

[Mandy B]

Wait, you actually have party, by the way, y'.

[Sponsor Voice]

All.

[Weezy]

I'm not.

[Mandy B]

Hey, y' all better not, motherfucker. Take none of this shit because y' all know it's gonna take us a couple months.

[Weezy]

I'm not engaged or anything. I just do not. Do not spend what I want is gonna happen.

[Mandy B]

And we be having these ideas. Boba's later. Hey, guys, did we ever talk about this?

[Eden]

I'm gonna see that on Etsy so fast.

[Weezy]

No, we need someone to like, send in the notes of like a recap. Can Gemini watch tell us to make the shirts? We just gonna be like, no, no, we gotta.

[Mandy B]

Can we make an email? Put Alex in it.

[Weezy]

Let's get

[Mandy B]

hoes, get married too.

[Eden]

Okay.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Boom. So I've been wondering when I watched the episodes and I. And I'm seeing the comments, like, what's my gonna think?

[Mandy B]

So that. That was another part of me crying. I said, oh, my God, my two boyfriends, mind you, I know for sure one of them, he has other women he talks to. We're open with whatever.

[Weezy]

Not the most brought it up.

[Mandy B]

What? Hold on. The way he be telling me my clips get sent to him and they don't know about me.

[Weezy]

The bitches send it, bitch. That's hilarious.

[Mandy B]

So mind you. No, but bitches. That bitches are fans. I'm fine. They don't know that that's my nigga. So they just be like, look at this clip. And so he's like, man, I got your clip sent to me today. And so I was just like, which one? Oh, my God, that one. That one that I don't really talk about on here.

[Weezy]

Wait, what? What the.

[Mandy B]

That one. Dior, bitch.

[Weezy]

They sent him the clips. I meant the clip.

[Mandy B]

Oh. Oh, no. Multiple clips. And so I was through that. I said, he likes me and supports me. What if he read these comments on this clip? And I was like, he's not gonna think I'm as lit as I am with him because these bitches are fucking shitting on me. And I literally do that. I'm like, I think I ain't. Because of these comments. I literally think of that too. So you boyfriend. I have two boyfriends. And I'm just like, what if they read these comments and then they don't think they gotta with me no more because the world thinks I'm a Jezebel.

[Weezy]

But you know what's crazy? His brothers be watching. Like, they be like in the sphere. Like, they saw the Paul Pierce episode and he was like, man, I be knowing your go. And my brothers be like, oh, I saw Gili. Anyway, so I literally was sitting there with.

[Mandy B]

He saw that one too. You know, that one popped up on the algorithm.

[Eden]

Does he like watch the episodes or just Eclipse clips?

[Mandy B]

He's a clips guy. Yeah.

[Weezy]

I think most people that we've dated or friends only watch clips.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, like, my friends actually love to tell people they're my best friends, but don't watch my. They be when people come up to me and Be like, oh, my God. I listen to. They'd be like, you know, my friends love to say I don't listen to her stuff. Like, I don't have.

[Weezy]

You know what's fucking funny? My friends love to say, I ran into Chris. Or not ran in. I was in Orlando with Christopher, and he's like, what's going on with you? I'm like, a few months back.

[Mandy B]

That's hilarious. For real.

[Weezy]

Okay. So basically that whole moment happened where I'm like, yo, everybody's, like, ragging me right now on the Internet, and I want him to see it because I'm like, let's sit together. Like, I was like, you know, because we don't have a family and kids. And I was like. And I want all the whore hype to know, like, Holmes can have his life too. And he was like, I mean, you're not really home life, but, baby, I was. We have to accept this. Like, do you understand?

[Mandy B]

But the world still sees you as one now.

[Weezy]

And that's what I said to him. Like, they all think I'm a fucking whore still. And then that's when he was like,

[Mandy B]

the world thinks I'm single. I don't identify as such. I'll be trying to give me a label. Like, imagine if someone just wanted to call you gay or a lesbian. Y' all don't be liking titles. Right. So y' all better stop putting that single title on me.

[Eden]

But then technically, you're taken.

[Mandy B]

I am in a really. To where? When? Come up to me and they try

[Weezy]

to talk to me and they're ugly.

[Mandy B]

I literally.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, no, no.

[Mandy B]

Let's be very clear. Fine. Too. That I'm interested in. You say, I have two boyfriends. Oh, like, I welcome them to be the third. But I am not a single lie.

[Eden]

If I were to hear two boyfriends, I'm like, okay, so I have a chance. If you hear one boyfriend, you're like, oh, cool.

[Mandy B]

Oh, then maybe you have a chance.

[Weezy]

I've got a shot.

[Eden]

Yeah, exactly. I have a shot.

[Weezy]

I kinda see. Oh, okay.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, okay. I like that. But. And yes. And do.

[Eden]

Right.

[Mandy B]

The second I see, but I'm not single.

[Weezy]

Start approaching me.

[Mandy B]

That's why, like, when I see all these single, lonely bitches. A bitch ain't lonely at all.

[Eden]

And you're not signal.

[Mandy B]

I'll be having a. It's a calendar. Okay.

[Weezy]

Yeah. This is what y' all gotta do when ugly niggas come around. When I just start loading them on.

[Mandy B]

Those rings aren't even. I Don't even have.

[Eden]

They know what an engagement ring looks like.

[Mandy B]

Nobody cares about that.

[Weezy]

That's how ugly they be getting. I just start loading them all.

[Eden]

That is so mean.

[Mandy B]

That is not what.

[Eden]

Let me see that ring.

[Weezy]

Ugly, bro.

[Mandy B]

Nothing. This won't even look like a wedding band.

[Eden]

That's. That's kind of my point too. Yeah, my.

[Weezy]

Better be this big. What? I hate big rings.

[Mandy B]

You want a big ring?

[Weezy]

No. You know what's actually crazy?

[Mandy B]

Oh. Cause hey, be ready for that.

[Weezy]

What?

[Mandy B]

You get the ring, bitch. They zooming in. They about to. They about to talk. They about to be like, that last ring. That ring ain't even cute in opal. Who gets a opal? Like, they like the way.

[Weezy]

Cause you know, I don't want no traditional ring.

[Mandy B]

The niggas is going to just talk shit about the ring. Even though you finally get a ring, they going to talk shit about the ring. I ain't going to hold y'. All. I'm going to do a social experiment.

[Eden]

I told you, don't do like a two piece ring.

[Mandy B]

Oh, just listen.

[Eden]

Why do I remember that I will

[Mandy B]

be going to Candler Road? I will be going to the biggest hair store because they got all the things. I'm gonna come in here and tell y' all I'm engaged. Social experiment. Six months. I'll wait till after you so that you don't feel sad that I'm engaged first.

[Weezy]

No. You know what? I don't want to future so nice. About to be excited. We're doing a little too much that's gonna happen because Cami Crawford came on and she has an assignment. I know it's happening.

[Mandy B]

No. And it did like a month later. So manifest, you know, so funny. You know what we manifested being a New York Times bestseller. We did. Everybody didn't think we would even be. It was like, you witchy.

[Weezy]

We mentioned about 100 the way that I want a ring. They're gonna talk about it. Like, when my and I talked like a year ago about stuff I like. He was like, what about? I was like, no, too plain. Plain, plain, plain, plain. I was like, is there something asymmetrical? At one point I was like, give me a black diamond. Like, give me weird. I don't want anything to be normal. If we're gonna be non traditional, get me a weird. Like. And I was like, it has to be big. Like four or five. And he was like, what?

[Mandy B]

Four or five what?

[Weezy]

Carrots.

[Eden]

Oh.

[Mandy B]

Oh. Do you want to be able to lift your hand?

[Weezy]

But then at the Same time when I put on Cammy's ring. Cammy's ring is like five carrots. And you know what I really with about Cami? I literally saw her after she got her ring, and I'm like, oh, my God. I don't know what I would like. And she was like, oh, here, so I can offer her hand, see if it's in good shape. And she's sitting right there with me, and like, yeah, I see what you mean. I mean, maybe you need big. And I was like, you know what? I actually don't want a fucking crazy big thing. But also, my sick brain is like, well, bitches think my don't love me if it's small.

[Eden]

I don't.

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah. No, no, no, no. Are you kidding me? Have you not been on the Internet? A small ring means that you're poor.

[Eden]

No, I don't think you're crazy for thinking that. That's my point.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah.

[Mandy B]

You don't know. The Internet's gonna think you're either poor or he doesn't love you that much.

[Weezy]

Right?

[Mandy B]

I get Walmart.

[Weezy]

Y.

[Eden]

Let me ask y' all a question.

[Weezy]

I care to.

[Eden]

You guys have been doing this show for almost 10 years. Just saying that, right?

[Mandy B]

Yeah. Wrap us up at an.

[Eden]

You guys have seen.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Eden]

Because I just want to lay it to rest. You guys have seen so many comments year to year, day to day, week to week. Why is it that this time around that y' all feel like it really hurt outside of the handmaid's Tale? Like, and when I say hurt, y' all know what I mean? Like, something that you're like, oh, word. This is how y' all really think about.

[Mandy B]

I'll be honest, and this is gonna sound crazy, but if you read no holds barred, a dual manifesto of sexual activity.

[Eden]

That's right, Bugs. How are coming soon?

[Mandy B]

I actually find myself to be the best version of myself right now. I've done five years of therapy. Financially, I'm in a good place. I'm in a good place with my family and my friends, my love life. I feel loved. I feel respected. And so for me to be in the best place that I am emotionally, physically, and with the people that surround me. Shit, even weezy. Like, I find myself just texting her, like, I really love this right now.

[Weezy]

Wow.

[Mandy B]

But to be in the best place that I've been from, like, a work point, standpoint, bank account point, all the points, and for the Internet in the world to not feel that or uplift that or to still poke at me In a way that if someone said the things that they're saying about me now, when we first started the pod, I felt those things about myself, but now I don't. And so to be in such a healthy space with myself and proud to be kicked down to where nothing you do is gonna matter. Your therapy, your money, how healthy you are, how the people in your life respect you, we don't. And when I say we, it's society and the world, it just feels like this uphill climb that I'm constantly gonna get pushed back down. It's like a mountain I'm never gonna reach the top of a hill that I'm never gonna reach the top of. And kind of what we've been doing for 10 years and what I put my legacy at in terms of us being pioneers in this sexual revolution, it's like I've questioned, damn, have we fought a fight that well, we're gonna inevitably lose? And it's made me question everything. And I don't like that. That's why it hurts so bad because of where I'm at in my life right now.

[Eden]

And I don't think it's a fight that you'll lose. I think it's just a fight that just won't stop.

[Mandy B]

Not even that won't stop. I mean, and I always reference it now, like with the reversal of Roe v. Wade, to see all of these athletes that have domestic violence charges and sexual assault charges still get multi million dollar fucking checks the following year. Seeing that women and children now don't matter with the Epstein files, seeing how much like a woman's safety, well, being what they experience, their trauma to men doesn't really matter. And we can cover it up because fuck a woman's life. But also, you better let me put a make you my wife and give you a kid, because that's your only value here. That's your job that gets that, that hurts.

[Eden]

Right? How about you, Weezy?

[Weezy]

I don't know how to talk that right now. Trying to really think, because most of the things you said were kind of my reasons too. But I'm trying to figure out a specific thing.

[Mandy B]

Why did it hurt? Do you think it's also because someone that you genuinely love, that has seen you for you, might also read those comments? I know for me, when we've talked about it, it's like, oh, my God, my boyfriend's in the comments right now, like, all week. You've literally told me multiple times that your boyfriend was reading the comments.

[Weezy]

He was. Well, I was. I Was sharing that with him.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Weezy]

But no, no, no. He was very. One thing that feels good is seeing all those things. Even at the point of defending Mandy. Like, I don't like how people. It just. I actually saw this week.

[Mandy B]

Oh, this week was way better than last.

[Weezy]

No, no. This weekend last how much my niggas in alignment with what I'm doing.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Weezy]

That felt good.

[Mandy B]

I love that.

[Weezy]

There were so many times where he's like. Like, yo, like, Mandy can't even fucking with, like, really say, like, she want to be or can't say this or can't say that. And then, like, the point where she was like, you've been. And he was like, everything for these people is religion. Like, he's like, no one's thinking for themselves. He's like, the two of you almost look like scholars in dating experiences. He's like. And at one point, oh, the comment that bothered him when someone said that Mandy and I cannot speak about dating and only Sarah could. And he was like.

[Mandy B]

He's like, but what?

[Weezy]

Does she have more of dating experience than y'?

[Mandy B]

All?

[Eden]

I think that's just the troll.

[Weezy]

No, I think it's just him being, like, saying, you have to understand, I've been dating my boyfriend. It's not a long time. Three years. He just saw us come out with a book. He saw us rebrand. He's seeing us being better in a relationship.

[Eden]

He's giving credit where credit.

[Weezy]

So he's really like, and now y' all can't do this. You're New York Times bestseller, but you can't give dating advice. And y' all really been dating.

[Mandy B]

He's like, every version of it.

[Weezy]

She had one boyfriend, now she got three boyfriends. What the would, you know?

[Mandy B]

Don't be adding, oh, sorry, Two and a possible.

[Eden]

I was thinking, she's manifesting. She's manifesting.

[Mandy B]

But I don't. I actually am so good right now. I don't want to think.

[Weezy]

When I said, oh, my God. Every time he had a new comment about it, I realized, like, oh, he's on the same angry level as I am. And the thing that it was highlighting to me was the same thing. You felt like, oh, there's nothing you

[Mandy B]

could do, there's nothing we can do.

[Weezy]

There's nothing you can do to ever make this go away. The other thing that kind of scares me a little bit, just to be totally honest with y'. All. We talked about hard launching a lot, and, like, maybe when we have.

[Mandy B]

Y' all ain't never gonna see my

[Weezy]

Niggas online, I'm not gonna hold you. It kind of set me back again. But then also, there was this thing that we talked about where he's like, I don't think people understand. Love like this can exist, and it almost makes you want to put it out there more.

[Mandy B]

But then if you put it out, love like this. Do you know what that is?

[Weezy]

Love like this? No. Oh, what you talking about?

[Mandy B]

Comment.

[Weezy]

Never mind. Oh, okay.

[Mandy B]

It's okay. We're two different biracials.

[Weezy]

Okay. So basically, the fact that Sarah and her husband have. And by the way, I don't know, their marriage, that's the only reason I'm saying the words this way. Sarah and her husband are perfect online.

[Mandy B]

Yes.

[Weezy]

Right. Well spoken, attractive, beautiful house. Whatever, lovey. He's like, I really feel like alternative marriages should be shown. You and I don't give a fuck about respected marriage in the Bible and not fucking holes together.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, no. Alternative marriages get shown on tlc. And.

[Weezy]

And he was like, and the fact that it's good and safe and healthy should be displayed. But is our. Our love good and healthy and safe? Because it's not online.

[Mandy B]

You want to know something that I read that was so interesting? Society is more accepting of a cheating husband than a relationship that's open. Oh,

[Weezy]

bitch.

[Mandy B]

And that's the. That's the truth of it. We are still in a place that we have to unlearn so much, but we are still at a place we're not. Where we're not welcoming to other dynamics

[Weezy]

of love and imaginary that I. I feel safe in this. He feels safe in this. What will his family think about us talking like this publicly? They already know.

[Mandy B]

Hey, bitch, hold on. We good. We not into this part yet?

[Weezy]

No, no, no, no, no, no.

[Mandy B]

That family. Hey, if I got to meet them, I'm. Hey, bam. I like okra. Oh.

[Weezy]

What if him and I ever displayed public? Because basically that means that all the opus. Everything, like, what if we ever did that? And so it's like, is my relationship so healthy because it's peaceful? Then again, obey. It wasn't healthy, and it was peaceful. So. But it's just weird. It's like, you know, I talked about maybe one day I was making a piece of content together. And then with that said, I'm like, damn, it's gonna be like two hoes used to in the comments, like, he's a liar. He texted me like. And I'm like, yo, will it disrupt? Like, oh, I don't know, bro.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna hold You. I. I have a thing for hoes and I'm actually working through that now. Why the I. I love it. I love a hoe ass nigga. Is that how we've stayed together over fights over the years? Hoes. Hoes gotta find each other. I'm saying hoes gotta find each other. Anyways. Woo. No outline. Luckily you just sent it right before I got here, so it gives me time to look over the one shade.

[Weezy]

I was having a bad day. The cat scratched me. Worse.

[Mandy B]

The cat was last night. That wasn't this morning. Anyways, guys, thank y'.

[Eden]

All.

[Mandy B]

Hope you enjoyed this. This was like a therapeutic. Okay, before we go, drop in the comments, I had an idea.

[Weezy]

You want to do therapy again, but differently.

[Mandy B]

We are approaching our 10 year mark. So you like the same bitch? No.

[Weezy]

Oh. Ooh.

[Eden]

That would be nice to know if

[Mandy B]

you had even better Ed and you've been here.

[Eden]

Oh, God.

[Mandy B]

Alex Yomi Wolf. I wanted to roundtable what the dynamics of working with us through a tumultuous behind the scenes has looked like, what good times have looked like, what bad times have looked like, and share kind of an inside glimpse of what it's been with all of us for the last decade.

[Eden]

I know that you don't want to do this.

[Weezy]

I wish you had a camera.

[Mandy B]

Edit. Edit space is like.

[Weezy]

Because I'm.

[Eden]

I'm thinking, I know you said good times and then you said bad times.

[Mandy B]

Bad times. Oh, it's gonna be crazy.

[Weezy]

Alex talks about a time.

[Mandy B]

Come on. You ready?

[Weezy]

We jumped.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. You ready? We fired and hired and fired both. You, Alex, Yomi, like, niggas have been in and out of us like a wave.

[Weezy]

I would want like, hold on.

[Mandy B]

Wait. Even to where we brought Chris Morrow on.

[Weezy]

You did? Oh, I thought you meant on Twitter.

[Mandy B]

No, I'm talking about we do maybe a two part roundtable style where we literally talk about what it's been like.

[Weezy]

Like him and Char with us, like

[Mandy B]

growing this show from a personal standpoint. Some of our relationships have grown personally off camera, on camera. The things we've endured over the last 10 years. Kind of like a therapy episode, but behind the scenes of a tumultuous successful podcast.

[Eden]

I'm gonna give y' all an example. There was definitely one time in my life where I had to play telephone amongst them too, because they couldn't talk to each other.

[Weezy]

Wait, really? Oh, yeah.

[Eden]

Really? Yeah.

[Mandy B]

See, like that happened. I don't recall.

[Eden]

That was fun sometimes.

[Weezy]

You know what's crazy? I like the idea. I 100% believe you, I display sometimes like bad fucked up memory.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no, they've been bad.

[Eden]

Oh, no. You saying that, like, unlocked it for me.

[Mandy B]

Oh, so that's. You got to do that on camera.

[Weezy]

I only know Alex's because he brings it up on work calls.

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah. No, Alex's were bad.

[Weezy]

He'd be like, yo, remember that time where you jumped up and Mandy was like, I don't. I don't know what happened, but I think one of us must be.

[Mandy B]

What you gonna do? Yomi thought I didn't like her. And, you know, she works with me now and she's had to tell me energies of us being.

[Weezy]

Oh, I remember Naomi being like once, like, oh, I don't know what I. She just becoming.

[Mandy B]

And. Yeah, so sit on it. We have a couple months to decide.

[Weezy]

But yeah, anyway, I think the bulk of it.

[Mandy B]

Accomplishment.

[Eden]

Boring.

[Mandy B]

Boring.

[Eden]

Let's talk about the zoom calls when

[Mandy B]

y' all hang up.

[Eden]

Those are more fun.

[Weezy]

That's definitely me.

[Mandy B]

Anyways, if you want to see the vlog of me literally doing my skincare routine and crying. Yeah, I got tears and turmeric that hit my lips. Not tears and turmeric. Head to patreon.com Horrible Decisions. By the way. Weezy and I are dropping a lot more vlogs together, so you will also get to see what this day of recording looked like from entering the studio all the way to filming and all the things. So join us on Patreon. That's patreon.com horribledecisions. By the way, you can also pre order our paperback version Dance right of no holds barred. It will be available this summer in June. So make sure you pre order your paperback, AKA softcover. Nonetheless, check out Selective Ignorance every Tuesday, Friday. Check me out on Hot 1079, 6 to 8 every Saturday. Weezy, drop your things and then let's get on up out of here.

[Weezy]

I just saw another annoying comment.

[Mandy B]

Bitch, I want another drink. You. You were reading comments just now?

[Weezy]

I just got.

[Mandy B]

Well, I'm telling them about supporting us.

[Weezy]

No, I just had mad fucking text about fucking chat. My friends are also just like cussing people out.

[Mandy B]

No, I told my friends.

[Weezy]

I was like, can you all just stop? You're embarrassing me.

[Mandy B]

It's too much.

[Eden]

No, that's worse. Yeah.

[Weezy]

Stop.

[Mandy B]

For fact sake. Wtf? Trap house. Get with it.

[Weezy]

I just bought a home. I can't like. You can't.

[Mandy B]

You're.

[Weezy]

This is very low brow.

[Mandy B]

Oh, my gosh.

[Weezy]

I need you to stop.

[Mandy B]

Thank you guys for tuning in to yet another episode of this Is Y. This is Y. Bye N.

[Weezy]

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[Mandy B]

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