EP 467: Ozempic Chique

Summary

Decisions, Decisions — Episode 467: "Ozempic Chique"

Podcast by The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts
Hosts: Mandii B & WheezyWTF
Date: April 6, 2026

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Episode Overview

In “Ozempic Chique,” Mandii B and WheezyWTF delve into the evolving culture of beauty, body image, and modern relationships. With their hallmark blend of humor and unfiltered honesty, they discuss everything from exclusive NYC restaurant culture, changing body ideals, and the social repercussions of weight loss, to the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships. Throughout, the hosts share both personal anecdotes and cultural commentary that challenge stereotypes around sex, love, and body politics.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Restaurant Reservations and Exclusivity Culture ([05:00]-[16:00])

• NYC vs. Atlanta Dining: Mandii laments the hassle of restaurant reservations in Atlanta, where many spots don’t offer them, while Wheezy critiques the exclusivity created by reservation systems in NYC.
  • “Reservations are ruining New York.” — Wheezy [05:50]
  • “New York City is the culture of walkability. And now you telling us we can't walk in anywhere because everywhere's so exclusive.” — Wheezy [09:03]
• Bar & Restaurant Hotspots: Double Chicken Please and Corner Store are highlighted as coveted spots with both pros (anyone can come if you’re willing to wait) and cons (long wait times, privilege).
  • “Anybody can come if you have up to three hours of wait time.” — Mandii [09:44]
• Impact of TikTok: TikTok is blamed both for blowing up small businesses (good for business, bad for exclusivity and experience) and for creating viral hype that can ruin a spot’s vibe.
  • “TikTok ruined a lot.” — Mandii [12:22]
  • “Once a restaurant gets too blown up. I don't know, like, is it that great now?” — Wheezy [12:31]

2. Dining Costs and Lifestyle Privilege ([13:03]-[15:35])

• The hosts joke about sticker shock at even chain restaurants (Cheesecake Factory bill: $245 for three!). Drinks are the real budget-killer.
  • “The only time it was cheap for us to get out was dry January.” — Wheezy [14:45]
• Discussion touches on access and privilege in these social spaces.

3. Sex, Food, and Body Reactions ([21:10]-[22:44])

• The group humorously navigates digestion issues and sex—how eating certain foods can disrupt romance and the reality of adult bodies.
  • “When you got a shit and shifts—” — Wheezy [21:55]
  • “One of the worst things that's been happening ... I've been having to stop in the middle of sex to pee.” — Mandii [22:35]

4. The Social Pressures Around Body Image & Weight Loss ([32:13]-[43:59])

• BBLs and Body Trends: The hosts reflect on the rise and reversal of Brazilian Butt Lifts, with prominent women now seeking reduction as thinness (the “Ozempic/Heroin chic” look) becomes trendy again.
  • “You could tell how old a woman is by if she has a BBL or not, because it was a constant. It's a generational thing.” — Mandii [33:11]
  • “To the new heroin chic Ozempic body? ... That's what the white girls call it.” — Wheezy [34:12]
• Experiencing Social Feedback: Weight loss is critiqued for being valued only when it reaches an extreme or looks “sick”. Both Mandii and Wheezy discuss being subject to internet comments about their bodies.
  • “The only way ... my weight loss matters is if people are like, nah, you have to stop or are you sick?” — Mandii [37:09]
  • “I'm 155 pounds. ... And so to get on the Internet and still be looked at as the big one...” — Mandii [37:37]
• Notable Moment: Mandii expresses frustration at being body-shamed at any size and the impossibility of external validation.

5. Skin Care & Beauty Investments ([40:43]-[44:00])

• The hosts joke about the expense of high-end skin creams (Tatcha, La Mer).
  • “$400 for this cream, but I got it duty free.” — Wheezy [41:26]
  • “Tell a nigga to just nut on my face. They say the protein and nut help, too.” — Mandii [42:14]

6. Pop Culture and Microaggressions in Social Spaces ([47:52]-[50:22])

• Wheezy relays a story about confronting a white woman’s performative “yo yo” at a bar, and the group reflect on acceptable racial dynamics in nightlife.
  • “This microaggression shit of ‘Yo Yo’...” — Wheezy [49:11]

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Main Segment: Non-Monogamy – Pros, Cons, and Communication ([53:03]-[72:20])

Key Themes:

• Jealousy & Transparency: Mandii describes having to overshare her whereabouts with multiple partners, but simultaneously not receiving transparency in return.
  • “They want to know my every move, but you're not safe to let me know the things that I ask you of.” — Mandii [58:14]
• Communication & Boundaries: The hosts emphasize the importance of explicit boundary-setting and regular check-ins (“the third of every month”) in their open relationships.
  • “My boyfriend and I have a monthly check in ... we have to do this monthly check in on the third.” — Wheezy [60:22]
• Rules, Reporting, and Emotional Labor: How many people is it “okay” to sleep with? How much detail should be shared? The conundrum of reconciling new feelings or jealousy even with ground rules set.
• Confrontation vs. Resentment: Avoiding unspoken resentment by addressing discomforts openly, even if confrontation is hard.
  • “When you're quiet, you build up resentment.” — Mandy B [70:56]
• Navigating Lies and Trust: Even with a framework for openness, the ingrained patterns and fears of traditional monogamy can create misunderstandings.
  • “He didn't realize there were boundaries in non-monogamy.” — Mandy B [65:20]

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Relationship Q&A & Reflections on "Being Chosen" ([73:19]-[79:32])

• Marriage & Open Relationships: The hosts muse about whether adding a ring changes the dynamic, especially feelings of security.
  • “Do things change?” — Eden [73:27]
  • “I think they just get more secure for me.” — Wheezy [73:41]
• The Value of Being Chosen: Both admit to deep satisfaction at being intentionally chosen by a partner, challenging the stereotype that independent women shouldn’t want traditional romantic milestones.
  • “...day he asked me to be his girlfriend, there were roses all over my house, and he put circle, yes or no. I was so hyped, and I felt embarrassed ... because I was excited about being chose.” — Wheezy [77:11]
  • “I've—I have the creme de la creme when I want them ... It's like, even if there's other people, we're choosing to navigate this together.” — Mandii B [78:48]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Reservations are ruining New York.” — Wheezy [05:50]
• “TikTok ruined a lot.” — Mandii [12:22]
• “The only way ... my weight loss matters is if people are like, nah, you have to stop or are you sick?” — Mandii [37:09]
• “Being thin is like, super. I just know it's not in my genetics.” — Mandii [34:40]
• “They want to know my every move, but you're not safe to let me know the things that I ask you of.” — Mandii [58:14]
• “Choosing each other. Yeah. Even if there's other people, like, we're choosing to navigate this together.” — Mandii [78:47]

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Important Timestamps

• Restaurant/Culture Chat: [05:00]-[16:00]
• Dining Out & Cost: [13:03]-[15:35]
• BBL & Body Trends: [32:13]-[43:59]
• Non-Monogamy Deep Dive: [53:03]-[72:20]
• Being Chosen/Marriage: [73:19]-[79:32]

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Tone & Language

Throughout, the conversation is candid, irreverent, and layered with the hosts’ personal humor, often poking fun at themselves, social trends, and even their audience. The rapport is intimate, almost conspiratorial, inviting listeners to reflect on their own relationship boundaries and beauty standards.

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For New Listeners

If you’re new to “Decisions, Decisions,” this episode offers a rich and relatable exploration of body politics, love, and evolving relationship structures. Expect real talk that skews both vulnerable and hilarious, with plenty of sharp cultural commentary. Skip for advertisements and focus on the above timestamps for each themed segment.

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End of Summary

Transcript

[Wheezy]

I was like, I gotta tell these niggas I'm famous. So they let me back in. One of the managers comes up to ask how my meal is. I was like, well, someone that listens to my show actually got me in. Yes. I have a podcast. Millions of people listen. You know, I wasn't able to get in. I was talking shit.

[Mandy B]

Let me keep my information. Mind you, the week I came up to try to, I was like, I'm gonna get in corner sweater shit. I didn't even do the jab. I was like, I'm gonna make sure I can eat this food. The Internet is a cruel place to me. The fact that even in the comments with you and Sarah, they're like, the big one needs to put the cookies down, yo. The big one. By the way, I'm not getting. I'm sick yet. Which is apparently what I have to reach for. I have to wait till people think I've paid in order to fucking without think I'm serious. The only way that I even feel like my weight loss matters is that people are like, now you have to stop or are you sick? Are you okay? This is an I heart podcast. Guaranteed human.

[Wheezy]

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[Mandy B]

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[Wheezy]

of Jezebel's United.

[Mandy B]

A. Decisions, decisions. I'm your girl Monday B. I'm your girl Jezebel.

[Wheezy]

And thank you for watching this episode. If you have holy water, please spray it on me.

[Mandy B]

Did you just say holy water?

[Wheezy]

That's what. Holy agua.

[Mandy B]

No, you need to. You need to become a real and say Florida water, B. Oh, I'm.

[Wheezy]

I'm just repeating what the nigga said.

[Mandy B]

No, fudge that. We not quoting him.

[Wheezy]

Well, yo, how you doing YouTube angles? Like, once you're doing the fucking talk show side, side, side reaction clips. I'm like, man, they really. He really wants this to be a business and a life changer for him.

[Mandy B]

But you know what? We support creators.

[Wheezy]

I do. So you should just film it here.

[Mandy B]

What we doing? What we talking about?

[Wheezy]

Let's talk about New York City and these reservations.

[Mandy B]

Bitch, you know what's so crazy? I know you're about to like, go in with the most bougiest, most elite rant that you can, and I can't Wait, however, it's not that bougie. Well, you're bougie. I just want to say I'm on. I'm so mad. I'm in Atlanta now. They don't even have reservations for mad restaurants. And I hate it. Bitch. It's like first come, first, sir. Yuck,

[Wheezy]

bitch, poor you.

[Mandy B]

You can't even fucking make reservations for a lot of restaurants in Atlanta. And I hate it. Maybe because niggas booking don't show up. I was about to say, yeah, sorry. But a lot of it is like, hey, we don't take reservations.

[Wheezy]

Gonna be honest with you, I actually.

[Mandy B]

Wait, which one? Okay, hold on.

[Wheezy]

Okay.

[Eden]

Don't say anything bad.

[Mandy B]

You'd rather do the walk in.

[Wheezy]

I don't.

[Mandy B]

Okay, okay.

[Wheezy]

Reservations are ruining New York.

[Mandy B]

Talk about it.

[Wheezy]

For example, there's a bar right now on the Lower east side called Double Chicken. Please. It's. Oh my God.

[Mandy B]

I have it saved with the, with the chicken and caviar.

[Wheezy]

If you ever want to go, let me because, you know, let's go after this. No, I'm in the Lower east side. You have to. There's no reservations. You have to put your, your number down and walk around and do something else. There's no way to reserve.

[Eden]

Always a wait list.

[Wheezy]

Wait, let's wait, let's wait. Listen. But what I love about that, it is the number one bar in the world right now. Michelin Guides, the cut, New York Times, more than Mexico City, which has amazing bars. All this shit, right? And my boyfriend and I were like trying to figure out how to go. And so finally we walked over and they're like, yeah, maybe it's a two hour wait, maybe it's three hour wait. Maybe it's 45 minutes. But you can either wait online or, you know, we'll text you. And so we got mad. We had to fucking. We had last lap waiting to go. And like, I'm mad. And he was like, yo, you know what though? This is special because now anybody can experience this shit. Like, reservations be so coveted for all these restaurants. I'm gonna talk about corner store. Hold on.

[Mandy B]

No, bitch. I tried to go to corner store the last time I was here when you got pneumonia. And so hold on. You ready? It opens at 4 5. So there was. There's no reservations for months at this place. So I was like, okay, no worries. So there's a trick that they say. Well, they accept walk ins. There's a certain amount of walk ins available. I get there at 4:50pm There's a

[Eden]

line Yeah, I was gonna say too late.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. Of like 20 people. Oh, calm down.

[Wheezy]

Calm the down.

[Mandy B]

4:50. You ready? There was snow on the ground. It was brick outside.

[Wheezy]

Hold on.

[Mandy B]

And it was a Tuesday. I said, but it was terrible. I get there, there's a line. You ready? I'm in line standing. This guy comes out and is like, reservation. Have you been in line? Did you put your name in? Hey, guys, I swear to God. 455. Hey guys. We're no longer accepting anyone in the line, so if you didn't already put your name down, sorry.

[Eden]

This is real. Bro.

[Mandy B]

Bro. So luckily though, I went right across the street. There's. They just opened another restaurant.

[Wheezy]

Mela.

[Mandy B]

No, I can't remember the name now, but it was so good. Oh, it was so good.

[Wheezy]

They did. There's 86. There's all these.

[Mandy B]

86. Not it. But yeah, keep going. I'm not gonna hold you. I was mad.

[Wheezy]

So this is why I feel like reservations are ruining New York. I had a homegirl coming to town, she's a New Yorker, moved to LA for work. And she was like. And mind you, she's in her 50s. New Yorker. So she's like, oh, bitch, we out. What you want to eat? And I was like, damn, I don't know if we're going to get a reservation anywhere. And she's like, what does it matter? Let's just walk in somewhere. And I'm like, girl, it's sad.

[Mandy B]

You could do that with one person.

[Wheezy]

Who?

[Mandy B]

Like one person. Oh, you.

[Wheezy]

I know you can. You could do that. I'm like, yo, we're not going to have a fucking good night. Let's just meet for drinks. Let's not do dinner. And I literally was having a conversation with her once we got to the bar, and she was like, new York City is walk ins. New York City is walking around. New York City is accessibility.

[Mandy B]

A resh. By the way, is there other.

[Wheezy]

Oh, yeah, I saw it. So she's like, new York City is the culture of walkability. And now you telling us we can't walk in anywhere because everywhere's so exclusive. She's like, bitch, we got money and we can't get a rental restaurant. This is crazy.

[Mandy B]

You gotta blame TikTok.

[Wheezy]

No, it's not. No, it's TikTok's fault. That's what I was gonna say. But also, like, the way they structure reservations now. Carbone, Teresi, corner store. Not saying these restaurants aren't good or whatever, but, like, we aren't even looking at the other shit. And so to know Double Chicken, Please, which is the number one restaurant or number one bar in the world right now. And by the way, four times I've been able to go. Every single time. Phenomenal. And I feel like they have to be shouted out because they're keeping that culture of anybody can come. That is so important.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, but anybody can come if you have up to three hours of wait time.

[Eden]

I get it, though, because that's another level of exclusivity.

[Mandy B]

Like, that's. No, but it's not like there's a level of privilege.

[Wheezy]

I haven't been waiting three hours. I never waited up to that long.

[Mandy B]

But there's privilege in being able to make it there, put your name on the list, and have something else to do.

[Wheezy]

But the only reason it's long is because it's so, so special, this new place. Well, let me gas this shit real quick. Y' all gotta go get you a little LES night. You gotta go. Here's the deep cut on how to get in this hole. You gotta go an hour before it closed. Cause the line ain't crazy. So you gotta go, like, limb the clock, bitch.

[Mandy B]

I'm not eating in.

[Wheezy]

No, there's no food. It's not a food thing.

[Mandy B]

What is it?

[Wheezy]

Double Chicken Please is a bar. They serve food. But it's like.

[Mandy B]

But they have the. The. The fried chicken with the caviar, right?

[Wheezy]

You're talking about cocoa.

[Mandy B]

That's what I'm talking about, Coco.

[Wheezy]

Oh. Cause I said Double Chicken. Okay.

[Mandy B]

No, they have. So cocoa something.

[Wheezy]

It's okay.

[Mandy B]

But they have.

[Wheezy]

No, no, no. I'm telling you, it's okay.

[Mandy B]

It's not good. But I'm talking about food now. You talking about drinks.

[Wheezy]

No, I'm talking about Coco Dac. It's okay.

[Eden]

Stop saying like that.

[Wheezy]

The fried chicken and the caviar was just okay. Okay, but. Okay. Double Chicken, Please basically has their entire menu where the drinks are kind of inspired by food. I had some Thai basil curry cocktail. My boyfriend was like, what the fuck? That sounds gross.

[Mandy B]

That's some shit I would order, bitch. That sound good?

[Wheezy]

They brought out a popsicle that had a little bit of a basil curry cream flavor. It's light. Then my drink had the greenery, bruh. I don't know who the fuck making drinks in that hoe. They got vinyls. They have, like, the hi Fi speakers. The fucking design is lit. They're playing rap music. Some of it is international music. Like, shit kind of lit. And all the fucking Koreans is making the Cocktails. It's a lot of Asians, you know, they do next level shit.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, I know. Cause I'm Asian.

[Wheezy]

I'm saying, like, they just do, bro. So dope. So where I have an issue with now where the world is going is like, well, to war.

[Eden]

Well, they're at war, bitch.

[Wheezy]

Besides, there to the end.

[Mandy B]

There to the end.

[Wheezy]

I just don't like that now. It makes it so hard to connect with people and have community anymore. Like, everything is another step. It's weird. If I'm talking to someone random is. It's like just the fucking. TikTok should have it all. Am I grateful for TikTok? TikTok helped Trap House, if I'm being totally honest.

[Eden]

I was going to say. But that's also like, why I like that whole weight in line thing. Or wait for a couple hours and, like, because of TikTok. TikTok did ruin other places, though, comparatively to just supporting business.

[Mandy B]

No, TikTok ruined a lot.

[Eden]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Which is crazy, because I know y' all love it, but TikTok ruined a lot. I like it, but I've been waiting, actually.

[Eden]

But then on the other side, it's like, for Trap House, it's like, cool. Like, that's fine.

[Wheezy]

This is a small business. It's a new business. It's woman, whatever. So it's just like, yeah, great. But then it's like, at the same time, I do hate it when it comes to exclusivity of things. And I also believe quality control is a big deal. Like, once a restaurant gets too fucking blown up. I don't know, like, is it that great now? My fucking expectations are like, out of this world, bro. When I went to Tatiana, I enjoyed the food, but I enjoyed it more the second time I went. Because the first time I was like, damn, this is what, like, was so hard.

[Mandy B]

I get it. But there's also. Look at me trying to connect to people. There's such privilege in even us going to those places. Only because, like, me and my. A good friend of mine, he makes more money than I do. And we were having a conversation because we were drinking and I love my little dirty martinis. And it's funny because somehow we got to the conversation where we're looking at prices of things now. And so it's crazy to me how also expensive everything is. So the restaurants also that we're talking about, it's $100 to $150 per person.

[Wheezy]

Mandy, I just be real with you. Where can you eat? My boyfriend took me and My mom at a Cheesecake Factory. And the bill was 245. And he was like, what the.

[Mandy B]

What did y' all order, bro?

[Wheezy]

I'm not gonna lie to you. He talked about it the whole way home. Cause he was like, yo, I could have.

[Mandy B]

What did y' all order? The cheesecake. Fact. Wait, 2:45 at the cheese Head. This was with tips.

[Wheezy]

I don't remember.

[Mandy B]

Cause that's giving to her.

[Wheezy]

But the whole way home, and I was like, damn, I hope my mama don't think my nigga cheat. But he was like, why the fuck did I take y' all there? Like, if we were gonna spend this, why didn't I spend.

[Mandy B]

Wait, what did y' all order at the cheesecake? I need to know what y' all order.

[Wheezy]

An app and an entree, my nigga.

[Mandy B]

No, no, no. Each person had an app and an entree.

[Wheezy]

Yeah, why not?

[Mandy B]

And a drink.

[Eden]

Why not?

[Wheezy]

My mom was the only drinker.

[Mandy B]

How many drinks she had?

[Wheezy]

You know, Ms.

[Mandy B]

Jewel.

[Wheezy]

Ms.

[Mandy B]

Jewel knew I was gonna say, Ms. Jewel love a martini. She had three. Does it say one?

[Wheezy]

Don't put too much in. I want to taste the vodka.

[Mandy B]

But real quick. Cause even though it's buffalo blast, about $20. So if you do.

[Wheezy]

That's what I'm saying.

[Mandy B]

So if you do an appetizer plus an entree, that's 50 per person, that's 150. Plus Ms. Jewels drinks, that's 200. Plus tips, 240.

[Wheezy]

The only time it was cheap for us to get out was dry January.

[Mandy B]

No, bitch, when I was going out now. Well, in January, not now. When I was going out in January. Them 18 days I made of non drinks. I ain't made the whole month. But, bitch, I was like, oh, bitch, it's cheap. When a bitch don't.

[Eden]

Yeah, drinks are.

[Mandy B]

You don't drink.

[Wheezy]

Yeah, bitch, we had some omakase we found in the city. He's like, Damn, it's only 150 for 2. Like. I was like, you know why? N. Cause we ain't getting no fucking sake.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, you gotta get the drinks.

[Wheezy]

But anyway, say all that to say, I don't really know if I think dining out, period, is expensive. And I think, like, these experiences we want to have because of TikTok. It's not because they're super Lux and, you know, expensive. It's genuinely because you're telling me this is the best fucking thing.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Wheezy]

Like, when I went to corner store, Eden got me in. Shout out to Issa. She's a fan.

[Mandy B]

Hey, Eden, you can get me into the corner store.

[Wheezy]

Oh, bitch, you know when she said

[Eden]

all that right now, you wanted me to not tell. No, no, that's fine. Shout out to Issa and Christopher.

[Wheezy]

But.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no, I want to go tomor.

[Eden]

I'll. I'll ask.

[Mandy B]

But we don't record it at 4 o'.

[Wheezy]

Clock. Chris Potato. That's what they said his name was.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. Are we about to bleep all this out?

[Eden]

No, no, that's fine.

[Mandy B]

You better get me in the club.

[Eden]

So. No, it's not that. It's just when she started saying that about the line, I was like, oh, yeah, you got to be there a little earlier. Because I was like, damn. It's cuz. Issa saw that. That Weezy wanted to go. She's a fan of the show.

[Wheezy]

Where did she see it?

[Mandy B]

I put it on my Instagram story. Eden. So I want to go, too. I even went to a rush.

[Eden]

Issa.

[Wheezy]

Maybe she was.

[Eden]

Issa, please.

[Mandy B]

No. By the time this come out, Christopher. By the time this come out, bitch, I'm going to have corner store in my shit.

[Wheezy]

Mandy, you know I've already got.

[Mandy B]

I'm about to be shitting out corner store.

[Wheezy]

Oh, wow.

[Eden]

Jesus.

[Mandy B]

I want the motherfucker know what they

[Wheezy]

got like, I'm going tonight. You know why I'm going tonight? Because. Okay, once look at my face.

[Eden]

What?

[Mandy B]

So we going tonight?

[Wheezy]

I'm on a double date.

[Mandy B]

So we going to. I'll be fifth wheel.

[Eden]

Wait, you better go again.

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah.

[Eden]

Because she hasn't even been once.

[Wheezy]

No, no, no. The reason I'm going again.

[Mandy B]

And then she said, bitch, you can't come with me. I thought we were good.

[Wheezy]

It's a definite.

[Mandy B]

Oh, we're not.

[Wheezy]

No. I'm gonna ask if we could go tomorrow again for the. For the vlog.

[Mandy B]

We should vlog it. Okay, yeah, you should. But are you going tonight?

[Wheezy]

So this is what happened. And my N was like, you so extra. So basically, once I got in, I was like, yo, I gotta show Eden and Shorty love, because I know how hard it is to get in here. And I was trying to vlog, but I didn't want to be ghetto.

[Mandy B]

I got my Cosmo.

[Wheezy]

Basically, this what happened. I was like, I, you know, I'm a twerk a bitch. And I'm like, I got to tell these niggas I'm famous. So they let me back in. So one of the managers comes up to ask how my meal is. I was like, well, someone that listens to my show Actually got me in. Yes. I have a podcast. Millions of people listen. And you know, I wasn't able to get Mandy's face. I was talking shit. And he was like, what?

[Mandy B]

Let me keep my information. I didn't even mind you. The week I came up to try to, I was like, I'm gonna get in corner store this bitch. I didn't even do the jab. I was like, I'm gonna make sure I can eat this food. I said, I ain't doing a little shot this week. A bitch gotta eat. By the way, I ain't take it this week either, because I knew I was coming to New York. I want to eat in New York.

[Eden]

Some good food.

[Mandy B]

Mind you. Mind you, I've got to take. Gotten to take Weezy to, oh, only one of my restaurants.

[Wheezy]

But there's other.

[Mandy B]

There's other ones. First off, no, your Chinese pill made you do that, bitch. Cause you were fine the next time.

[Wheezy]

My God, I want it anymore.

[Mandy B]

You took your nigga to it and you didn't shit your brains out. I know. So don't be putting shit your brains out to one of my favorite restaurants. Cause it's good food.

[Wheezy]

You know, it was good. If I shit my brains out and went back.

[Mandy B]

That's how you valid.

[Wheezy]

Cause while we were eating the food, one of the items is a lamb pizza.

[Mandy B]

And then, oh, I like you the chicken pizza, bitch. We tried that. Cause a king don't eat lamb. Oh, the lamb was here, so no, the chicken one I think is better than the lamb one. I was like, mind you, chicken's nasty.

[Wheezy]

That sounds so nasty, bro.

[Mandy B]

It was so good.

[Wheezy]

What we're saying is so nasty. No, this is how I knew when it came out. My N was looking at it and he goes, maybe this is what got you diarrhea.

[Mandy B]

Why? Because it looks bad.

[Wheezy]

But it tastes so good.

[Mandy B]

It tastes so good. Like if you were on Chopped zero for presentation.

[Wheezy]

Speaking of crazy ass pizzas, cuts and slices went TikTok crazy for a while.

[Mandy B]

It's who for the oxtail pizza.

[Wheezy]

They're black owned. That's why I shouted them out. Even though there's been people that are like, really angry.

[Mandy B]

You can talk about their bad shit after you shout them out, bro.

[Wheezy]

Well, I don't know how true this is. People were like talking shit about the staff and saying they were being rud and da da da.

[Eden]

I mean, that jerk chicken.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie, you can cuss any out for a establishment that sells oxtail is gonna be rude because hello comes with when you ask for extra gravy. Matter of fact, someone is Jamaican in there. They gonna be rude, right? They gonna be rude.

[Wheezy]

Are there any small restaurants we should all shout out right now that we love, that we wanna show?

[Mandy B]

Nope. The one that I love, my friend said, bitch, stop shouting them out. And they just moved to Brooklyn and I heard they going to.

[Wheezy]

Well, Cadence, I ended up running into some fans of Horrible. Who's the bald dude that always be on the town hall? Sorry, I shouted out Cadence, a vegan soul food spot that I loved. And, like, we. I actually ran into fans there. Mango Bay is a Jamaican spot that's renamed. That's in Brooklyn. That was very good food. I only been once because I'm a sandwich.

[Mandy B]

There is a sandwich spot at Colony Square in Atlanta that is really good. Oh, my God. Their tuna melt is fire. But they're the corner sandwich spot at Colony Square. And she's a listener of the podcast.

[Wheezy]

Okay.

[Eden]

Shout outs to the Heights locksmith, because.

[Wheezy]

Oh, me and Rosie was there.

[Mandy B]

Nah, that shit was fine. We got the steak and eggs.

[Eden]

Yeah, yeah, I got the steak and eggs, espresso martinis, the porn star martinis.

[Mandy B]

Porn star martinis. It was good, you know, Porn star.

[Wheezy]

Oh, la. And apparently, this ain't a deep cut. Sento. That spicy pasta with the green on top, and it got a cream, and he got a white burrata. What the fuck? Literally, when me and my nigga eat it, we both collectively be like, okay, like, we're not having sex tonight. That's how much cheese is in it. But we keep going. And this.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie.

[Wheezy]

What?

[Mandy B]

I don't know if I wanna go to a restaurant that makes me and my nigga be like, we not fucking tonight.

[Wheezy]

I mean, he wants to fuck through it.

[Mandy B]

We getting fucked tonight. We getting fucked tonight. I'm getting fucked tonight. Unless I'm on my period. Then, baby, we. I'm. If I'm with you, we're. I mean, hey, y', all, you go to restaurants on purpose that you know you're not gonna.

[Wheezy]

Why you.

[Mandy B]

You taste a little gassy. Like, what happened?

[Wheezy]

We gonna eat.

[Mandy B]

This is. Does the cheese make you gassy? You not a. If he farting. It's not just farting. Oh, it's not just fart.

[Eden]

They're both lactose, right?

[Wheezy]

Yes.

[Eden]

Yeah.

[Wheezy]

I mean, but then some shit be hitting. Like, we have to make a choice.

[Mandy B]

Well, then you just don't eat his ass that night. No, you could still fuck a nigga if he.

[Eden]

I'm sure it's uncomfortable.

[Wheezy]

And then when you got a shit and shifts.

[Mandy B]

Shifts. What's shit and shit?

[Wheezy]

You gotta, like. I gotta lie. I don't wanna talk about it.

[Mandy B]

But wait, do you not have a. Do you know what's crazy? Do you not have a. What's the. What's the thing? I just got bidet. There we go. There we go.

[Wheezy]

It's not that. It's just.

[Mandy B]

You can't just bidet your Buddha ho, for example, and breathe after you shit. You just gotta do a deep breath.

[Wheezy]

I had a pizza and then started sucking dick the other day. And I was like, making a face.

[Mandy B]

You might try to shit.

[Wheezy]

No, I ate a lot of pizza. But he didn't. And so I was making it a face, and he's like, what's wrong? You don't seem into it. And he was like, you got a shit, baby? And I'm like, no. He's like, go. Cause I can't handle you like this.

[Eden]

Go.

[Wheezy]

Shit.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I'm not gonna lie. One of the worst things that's been happening, and maybe this was. Is with age. Bitch, I've been having to stop in the middle of sex to pee.

[Eden]

Oh, maybe.

[Mandy B]

Oh, my God. I'm like, what the. Like, literally.

[Wheezy]

Wait, are you drunk when it happens?

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah. Well, that doesn't count.

[Eden]

But also part of age, too, Dude.

[Mandy B]

I was sure. But I'm like, bitch, I'm taking this dick. But in my mind, I'm like, we

[Wheezy]

the Pee Pee girls.

[Mandy B]

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[Mandy B]

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[Wheezy]

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[Mandy B]

You said that I am not a pee pee girl.

[Wheezy]

I was like, oh my God, baby, look, they called us pee pee girls in the comments. And he was like, I ain't peed on you in a minute and you ain't peed on me in a minute. So we're going to Cabo in a few days for a wedding. And then it came up in a text last night and he was like, you know, we ended we peeing and I was like, oh, okay. And he's like, no, no, no, for real.

[Mandy B]

I mean, I'm not gonna lie. It's not becoming an everytime thing. But it's because we get in the shower and when we're in the shower,

[Wheezy]

you only do it in the shower

[Mandy B]

so the water gets hotter. It's not water.

[Eden]

And interesting is this like a 2pm text that he sends. Like what's.

[Wheezy]

I'll tell the time right now. Let me type in peeing.

[Mandy B]

First off, you could talk about peeing any time of day because you let

[Wheezy]

me type in the word.

[Mandy B]

You eat breakfast and yeah, you go to lunch.

[Eden]

Toilet.

[Mandy B]

Yeah. But you can talk about pissing anytime with your.

[Eden]

It's like a 2pm piss talk is interesting.

[Wheezy]

Oh, here we go. 4:58pm yeah, it's giving a happy hour.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Eden]

Happy shower.

[Mandy B]

You talk about piss during happy hour, hero.

[Wheezy]

No, never mind.

[Mandy B]

But wait,

[Eden]

just read the text.

[Wheezy]

It was something about getting sloppy. But the funny part is we started

[Mandy B]

talking about where and, you know, you like, swallowing it?

[Wheezy]

No. The flu. No, not like that. Not localized on the body.

[Mandy B]

But the. I just love.

[Wheezy]

We've only done it, like, on balconies because of the concrete or like a. We get the bathtubs on the balconies. And so then I was like, you know, it don't be no carpet in the little Caribbean hotel rooms. It's the JW with Cabo. And I said, oh, they definitely not going to have carpet. So then I was like, should we lay down? Because we ain't never done a.

[Mandy B]

You can lay down in the tub. That's where we be doing it.

[Wheezy]

Oh, you do a lay down? We haven't done that.

[Mandy B]

We do it in the shower.

[Wheezy]

The other thing that's kind of like. You guys see how much water I'm drinking, and I'm just kind of amping it up because it's only in 48 hours. And I don't know if he wants to do it on day one or day two.

[Mandy B]

Of what period?

[Wheezy]

No, no, no, Mandy.

[Mandy B]

Of the trip.

[Wheezy]

I just want a clear flow.

[Mandy B]

So then you.

[Wheezy]

But you gonna see him next Friday, so I feel like we could discuss.

[Mandy B]

I am not asking your nigga if he piss on you when I see him. No, I mean, hey, so when y' all were in Cabo, did you do golden showers? It's been a minute. Haven't seen it in a while. Like, bro, I'm not asking y'. All. Nigga, if y' all pissing on each other in fucking Mexico, I'd be like, oh, shit.

[Wheezy]

When I was podcasting, like, I know

[Mandy B]

we're doing good, but, bro, that's kind of inappropriate. You better never ask any of my niggas if. If they. If I pissed on them the last

[Wheezy]

time we were together. I'd be like, do Mandy really be tapping out when she be on top? I would ask that.

[Mandy B]

Do I get on top? No, I don't tap out.

[Wheezy]

Ask.

[Mandy B]

Wait. Like, do I tap out when I get on top?

[Wheezy]

I'd be like, yo, Mandy be talking shit about how she don't ride, but

[Mandy B]

they will be like, and she don't. And don't. And they don't. It ain't no hot talk. They probably will respond.

[Wheezy]

And don't I be like, did she really be. I'm gonna say this. When you go to the bathroom, okay, tell me the truth. Do Mindy really be cussing you out when she be fucking like, do this, do that?

[Mandy B]

Does she be like and do and do?

[Wheezy]

I'm gonna triple check. I'm be like, she's a Nemo real bad.

[Mandy B]

No, I run that shit.

[Wheezy]

But you also like to do a little fake joke and be shady so I could see you walking in, seeing my nigga and be like, hey, I don't know if I should hug you. Cause y' all was peeing.

[Mandy B]

You think I would do that? Never would I ever. Never would I ever. Weezy, you made the outline today. That's why we're not on it yet. Okay, whatever that happens, we'll talk about how I went to the tall people meetup, but we'll talk about that later.

[Wheezy]

Okay? You sure you don't want to?

[Mandy B]

No, because the fucking fans were being haters. They all were like, oh, my God, Mindy, why the fuck are you here? Because it's a tall people meet up. I said, bitch, I got the soul of a sixpo, nigga. That's why.

[Wheezy]

Oh, that's right. So you got to keep going. You got to make sure you around your tribe, you know? Okay, so this week I wanted you to see this clip because I feel like I'm seeing and hearing this a lot lately, and one of my friends has it and is doing the same, so. Okay, tell me what you think and what your reaction is to this.

[Eden]

At 50 or 60, it. It. I'm telling you, it does not look good. The procedure everyone will regret is I

[Mandy B]

think it's gonna be the BBL, because imagine that gigantic buttocks at 50 or 60. It might look a certain way when you're 28 or 32 with the thin waist, but at 50 or 60, it.

[Eden]

It.

[Mandy B]

I'm telling you, it does not look good. There's a trailer.

[Wheezy]

It's hard to reverse it.

[Mandy B]

Yeah. One procedure you refuse to do.

[Wheezy]

I don't do the bbl.

[Mandy B]

Too dangerous.

[Eden]

Not worth it. Fair enough.

[Wheezy]

So we already know because of the artery, it's very dangerous, but I have actually been experiencing friends wanting to reverse their bbls. I don't know if you have, but one of my homegirls has actually talked about attempting to reverse it. She's had silicone before and fat injected. The doctor said, try weight loss first to see how much you can get rid of.

[Mandy B]

It's funny because I saw something on the Internet that Was saying you could tell how old a woman is by if she has a BBL or not, because it was a constant. It's a generational thing.

[Wheezy]

Oh, Eddie, can I have more water?

[Mandy B]

So most.

[Wheezy]

Sorry.

[Mandy B]

So Most women with BBLS right now are realistically in their mid-30s. Yes, I know. Bernice Burgos just went online about filling in something for her bbl. Oh, she just talked about it.

[Wheezy]

Cardi has a clip recently.

[Mandy B]

Oh.

[Wheezy]

With Kehlani, where she was saying, kehlani,

[Mandy B]

after this tour, this ass.

[Wheezy]

Eddie, stop trying to hide. They know you're here. Thank you.

[Mandy B]

After. Hey, Eden, hold on, hold on. Walk a little. Strut a little bit for the camera.

[Wheezy]

Yeah, show them a little.

[Mandy B]

Hey, hold on. There we go. That was terrible.

[Wheezy]

No, that was like the Bob's Burger one.

[Mandy B]

You didn't. Them knees look, they need.

[Eden]

I saw the. I saw that clip, too, about Cardi B. Not wanting to have.

[Mandy B]

She said it's a Kehlani. I'm not gonna lie. I think it is.

[Wheezy]

So. I think what it is. I think.

[Mandy B]

What do you think?

[Wheezy]

To the new heroin chic Ozempic body? I swear to you, I think heroin chic is crazy. That's what they're calling it. That's what the white girls call heroin chic.

[Mandy B]

Heroin chic. I have not heard that. What?

[Wheezy]

That's what the white girls call it,

[Eden]

but I believe it now.

[Mandy B]

You see, they calling Demi Moore, Oprah and Gayle, Oprah and Kelly because they got so little.

[Wheezy]

Do you know how I know being thin is, like, super?

[Mandy B]

I just know it's not in my genetics. I have lost over 80 pounds. I can't. I look thick for the YouTube. But these thighs, nothing is leaving me. Oh, I want to get small. Well, that's why I. I want to reduce my tits. I feel like my tits make me look big.

[Eden]

Like there's something that been seen a lot.

[Mandy B]

Not like breast reduction.

[Eden]

Not like, for health reasons. Because I have a friend that. That hers are so huge.

[Mandy B]

That genuinely for her back. Yeah, but I want that, like, Doja did it. My thighs, though. These holes ain't going.

[Wheezy]

When I was at Colabo in LA at work this past weekend, white girl that's there was like, oh, my God. Wheezy. What did she say? Best you've ever looked, right?

[Mandy B]

Wait, real quick microaggression. Was this with her without the braids? Yeah, I'm just. But then she talked about. Wait, it does.

[Wheezy]

So. Good point, good point, good point. So I was like, oh, bitch, I got my braces off. Da, da. Da. I genuinely believed that. And she was like, oh, no, you're skinny.

[Mandy B]

Very la of her.

[Wheezy]

It bothered me so much, bro. I was talking about it on the way home and, like, not emotional, but okay, to be honest with you. Opening trap was a very big pressure for me to lose weight because the image with this dude, I never cared. I always felt healthy and fit. I always did. But then there were moments where I was taking pictures with some of my staff members that I was like, no, I'm not what I think I am. So that fucked with my head. On top of hormonal birth control gaining a £15 now, I lost more than I thought I would. But the thing that feels even weirder now is people telling me how much better I look being skinny. Actually, there was a clip that Adam22 sent me of us on a Reddit, and it was the Joe Budden Reddit.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, I'm trying to get out of that sphere.

[Wheezy]

And like, five people talked about how much better I looked.

[Eden]

Is a societal, like, subconscious, bro.

[Wheezy]

I'm wearing the same braids and the same tattoos. My style didn't change. I just lost weight. You could say braces, but whatever.

[Eden]

Yeah, maybe braces.

[Wheezy]

Now the braces change, like, my face a little bit. The teeth change my face. But, like, it's skinny is skinny. It's true. And so I was telling welcome how

[Mandy B]

I know, because the Internet is a cruel place to me. The fact that even in the comments with you and Sarah, they're like, the big one needs to put the cookies down, yo. The big one, bro. I'm 155 pounds. This is like the smallest I've been since high school. And so to get on the Internet and still be looked at as the big one, mind you, when people meet me in person, then it's the. By the way, I'm not getting. I'm sick yet. Which is apparently what I have to reach for. I have to wait until people think I don't in order to fucking look out. Think I'm serious. Like, I like. The only way like that I even feel like my weight loss matters is if people are like, nah, you have to stop. Or are you sick? Are you okay? Fucking did we not learn anything from chat with Bones?

[Wheezy]

Brings up your weight a lot. That sounds crazy. But you see, my makeup artist. My makeup artist is overweight.

[Mandy B]

Everyone brings up my way.

[Wheezy]

No, no, no. To me, in the way of, like, shock. Like, bruh. They be really acting like Mandy Big. This is so she says it to me often. She's been Saying that to me for years.

[Mandy B]

Oh, the Internet.

[Wheezy]

And you. I think I maybe said this on the show before. You undressed in front of her at Views, and she was like, oh, no, no, no, no, no.

[Mandy B]

Hey, Sorry. Hey, I just met your engineer.

[Eden]

Sorry, Chris.

[Mandy B]

I said, hey, nice to meet you. By the way. You need to look away. We get dressed in front of people, titties out, and I ain't got no drawers on today.

[Wheezy]

I was like, mandy wants it.

[Mandy B]

I ain't trying to make you see a coochie.

[Wheezy]

But no, it was the AVN Awards. Okay. And you were able to put on your gown. And she was like, I don't understand. Mandy's body is so nice. Like, Mandy's. I don't.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. Are you ready? And I talked about it a couple of weeks ago. The niggas I fuck disgust my body every time. Like, I just was with one of my exes anyways. He even was like, this is. You're at this. I've never you this size. Because he used to me as a big. Why?

[Eden]

Why that comment?

[Mandy B]

I don't know. But, like, he was like. He was like, you're so tiny. Of course, it was after I've made

[Wheezy]

that comment with a woman, too. And I learned on this show from hearing Mandy say it like, bro.

[Eden]

But I don't. I know it's not.

[Wheezy]

But then also probably someone naked that recently lost weight is like, kind of.

[Mandy B]

But not only that, they see me online. These ISOs aren't forgiving.

[Eden]

And this shit in 4K.

[Mandy B]

And listen, I know GB. Hey, when a bitch leaned back. Cause I'm laughing. Don't use that in the clip, motherfucker. Like, it just be getting all types of ch. Okay, but yeah, like, so to me, like, a part of me is. I hate when people are like, wow, you're so much smaller. Like, it's it. To me, the conversations on you look

[Wheezy]

great is better than saying you look hotter. Better.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no. Oh. I mean, no, no. You ready? I immediately say, that's why I'm taking YouTube away from you motherfuckers. I'll be threatening that we not going to be a video podcast. Wait, we don't get a lot of views on that bitch. Anyway.

[Eden]

I just want to say something really quick because as much as. And I sincerely mean this, right? As much as I understand this criticism, like, you know, it could be hurtful, right? Especially the choice of words. I do want to shout out the people that did see as much as all those comments a couple weeks ago that they were really rough on y'.

[Wheezy]

All.

[Eden]

There was a lot of people who were giving y' all a lot of compliments.

[Mandy B]

Oh, they said we look good.

[Eden]

Talking about the colors that y' all be wearing, the how the studio will be looking. You know, Mandy, we. They tape at Mandy's studio. And of course, they'd be taping here at wtf.

[Wheezy]

We both got good teeth now. Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Like, yo, like.

[Eden]

So just also, please make sure y' all go, okay.

[Mandy B]

I do. I do absorb the good comments, too.

[Eden]

You deserve those comments for a reason. Y' all been, like, doing this for almost 10 years.

[Wheezy]

Like, I'm not gonna hold you. I be eating them up.

[Eden]

As you should.

[Mandy B]

They were like, oh, look at that skin. I have been working on my skin. Which, by the way, y' all bitches don't realize if you are under 30 listening to this podcast and you battling with skin, it's because it's expensive to make it look good, bro. My Tatcha, my little cream I use is not an ad. You're $75.

[Wheezy]

I know, miss, for what the purple is. I don't want to got Morpheus.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. I wouldn't have got Morpheus 2,100 facials. Like extractions.

[Wheezy]

I thought I was gonna be able to go back to Tatcha, bro.

[Eden]

Oh, wait, can we go back to why that cream is 75? Hold on.

[Mandy B]

She just got one. That's more than that.

[Wheezy]

I only wanted to try it as a test. I don't even want to tell you guys, mind you.

[Mandy B]

Tasha, I get the dewy one. You get the purple one or the green one?

[Wheezy]

I get the purple.

[Eden]

Just let me tell how much is this cream?

[Wheezy]

Okay, La Mer. All the girls know it's a very coveted brand. It's been around years. Yeah, 400 for this cream, but I got it duty free.

[Eden]

Like, 40, right?

[Mandy B]

You got it as 400.

[Eden]

400.

[Wheezy]

400 for wow cream.

[Mandy B]

Wait, how many ounces?

[Eden]

I'm sorry.

[Mandy B]

It's a lifetime supply.

[Wheezy]

I think you have to buy, like, two a year. But wait, so let me tell you. But. But it lasts me longer than Tasha. And let me tell you, because me

[Mandy B]

and a bitch last long.

[Wheezy]

No B.

[Mandy B]

And I use that in the morning and at night.

[Wheezy]

Okay. I just did a little my Lamar's last name, but I can tell you why. So the thing I didn't know about this for anybody that's ever wondered about this cream, because I've been seeing Brooke Devar post it, and Brooke knows so much about skin and doesn't promote a rich Ass niggle. Brooke got Bray.

[Mandy B]

I'm sure she do too, but so does a girl.

[Wheezy]

Nah, bruh.

[Mandy B]

Brooke cool down.

[Wheezy]

Don't do my dog. Brooke grew up on horses, bitch.

[Mandy B]

Well, bitch, I don't give a fuck. $400. I'll tell a nigga to just nut on my face.

[Wheezy]

I'm not going to agree. I think Brooke was using La Mer before that nigga.

[Mandy B]

Ooh, but nut on my face. They say that the protein and nut help, too. Give me a facial, nigga.

[Eden]

I think it's the zinc, but.

[Wheezy]

Yeah, but the zinc. Okay, so Lamar. So I went into the duty free, and I was drunk. That's why it's across from that Delta Lounge.

[Mandy B]

I love that you get so drunk you'll buy 400.

[Eden]

$400 cream dog.

[Mandy B]

She's. So you want me names? I fucked with those drunk dog. Here I go. Matt, I gotta get.

[Wheezy]

But duty free. They be doing the discount, so I got it for 300. So I'm like, yo, no, no, no, no.

[Eden]

Hold on.

[Wheezy]

No, no, no. Mandy, that's a lot of credit.

[Mandy B]

Even the Engineer is laughing.

[Eden]

$300.

[Wheezy]

I've been wanting to try La Mer since early 20s.

[Mandy B]

Wheezy, bro.

[Wheezy]

They say it's the best in the world. And let me tell you why I'm saying it again. Okay, so what I learned about La Mer, right, You know, what you put on Tasha, and it's just. You could spread it all over your face. Whoa, La Mer, you can't do that because it's so concentrated. Tatcha is like 50% water. La Mer is like less than 5. The cream is so thick. It's that hydrating. It got me through winter. Nigga, like, you can't even spread the cream because it's like a. It's almost like spreading like clay.

[Eden]

I thought you were gonna say, but

[Mandy B]

I love that for you. I live in the South. We have something called humidity. Mad moisture in there.

[Wheezy]

I'll fuck up.

[Mandy B]

I'll stick with shy.

[Wheezy]

Now, is it worth the 300 I paid? I think it's worth 200.

[Mandy B]

And the only reason you only paid 300. Cause it was duty free. So it's not worth the 400.

[Wheezy]

I'mma tell you why I said 200, though. Because I spent 75 on tatcha. Yeah, and this is triple, baby. So maybe go get that. I don't know.

[Mandy B]

It's not on sale for $200.

[Wheezy]

I'm gonna give you some tomorrow. Okay.

[Mandy B]

All right. So are we done with the BBL talk? I know, bro. Our add Is bad.

[Wheezy]

Oh, Eddie.

[Mandy B]

Bbls to fucking.

[Eden]

I do have Hoetry for this week.

[Mandy B]

My Hoetry.

[Eden]

Okay, ready?

[Mandy B]

All you gotta do with say a sorry ho Tree Flow tree.

[Wheezy]

Ready?

[Mandy B]

Let's go.

[Eden]

It's only one track.

[Mandy B]

What do you mean it's only one track?

[Eden]

Oh, one song. But baby, let's chill and get fried.

[Wheezy]

Yeah, yeah, I'm fried. I'm fucked up. Shorty. She a vibe, right?

[Eden]

Nope. I don't even know he fuck with me. I'm a vibe. Eh, just got my hair done. Looking fine. Damn, the 32 she just told me I'm yo.

[Wheezy]

No, I like the ad libs.

[Eden]

It's blonde. Ooh, he's asking can he get some time? No, I'm a turnt up bitch in my prime. Let's go.

[Mandy B]

It's giving Kesha you.

[Eden]

You know what I. What that mean? I'm outside. No, that's right. Won't settle till I'm 45. Hold on. Hey.

[Wheezy]

No Chlorella.

[Eden]

Nothing?

[Mandy B]

It says something about blonde hair. It's not a white bitch.

[Wheezy]

Nope.

[Eden]

He want to hang with a bad bitch he want to hang with a bad bitch he want to hang with a bad bitch.

[Wheezy]

He want to hang with bad bitch. Oh, I don't know the Y N songs.

[Eden]

This is Sexy Red, y'.

[Wheezy]

All.

[Mandy B]

Ah.

[Eden]

Y' all don't know this song?

[Wheezy]

What the fuck are you saying?

[Eden]

If I play this out, it's because of how I'm reading it.

[Mandy B]

Wait, wait, wait, wait. Well, don't, because we're. We're trying to make money on YouTube.

[Wheezy]

But wait, we need it for the clip. Cause what the fuck you talking about?

[Eden]

Just so you could hear it.

[Mandy B]

I know this song.

[Eden]

That's what I was just singing.

[Wheezy]

Do you think I knew the beginning words?

[Mandy B]

Wait, this is the song with her caribou and it's her and Key Glock.

[Eden]

Yes. I thought.

[Wheezy]

You know, I hear this at Trap, but I don't know what the she's saying. Oh, you played Mumble Woman rap for us?

[Mandy B]

She's not blonde hair.

[Eden]

Well, that's an. I think that's one of her wigs that she wears.

[Mandy B]

She. I've only seen her in red hair.

[Wheezy]

Now I want to see how New York Eden is. I'm going to give you a hoetry.

[Eden]

Oh, I like this.

[Wheezy]

Damn. It's going to be so hard not to rap it like she said it. Oh, fuck.

[Mandy B]

That was crazy Eden. Mind you, there was nothing sexy in there.

[Wheezy]

If Peter Piper pecked him, I betcha Biggie bust him. He probably tried to fuck him. I told him not to trust him lyrically I dust em off like pledge hard hit sledgehammers Bitch with the platinum grammar Are you serious? I'm a diamond cluster hustler queen bitch supreme bitch killing nigga for my n By any means bitch. What?

[Eden]

Well, I can't say half of those words.

[Mandy B]

Disease free bitch.

[Wheezy]

Check it,

[Mandy B]

this nigga said I can't

[Wheezy]

anyway, so Lil Kim, everybody just forgot about her.

[Mandy B]

I knew you were going to Lil Kim.

[Eden]

I figured it was Lil Kim, but I don't.

[Mandy B]

But also I'm not gonna lie, I'm

[Eden]

not versed on Lil Kim. I'm not gonna lie to you.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie. I'm a Florida bitch. I was Trina Kya.

[Wheezy]

You knew that song though, right?

[Mandy B]

Sure. Lil Kim was not.

[Wheezy]

I knew all the dirty songs.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie. I got hit to Lil Kim when she said she makes a sprite can disappear in her throat and there's a jump off right here. I be back with the jump up goons in the club.

[Wheezy]

I am.

[Mandy B]

And then she. And then all you want to do is party and pop a cardi like you know some more. I don't know bitch, I don't know words and fire.

[Wheezy]

Everybody party.

[Mandy B]

Black Bari dressed in Bulgari. You trying to leave in somebody Ferrari.

[Wheezy]

You did it, girl.

[Mandy B]

Spread love. That's what a real mop do. Keep it gay. So look out for the people. We gonna get to these.

[Wheezy]

Oh my God. Let me tell you how I got in an argument with a white girl at Hair of the Dog about her microaggression.

[Eden]

Why were you at Hair of the Dog first off?

[Mandy B]

No, I love a good diet.

[Eden]

They're considered a dog.

[Wheezy]

Hair sucks.

[Mandy B]

Hair the dog is absolutely.

[Wheezy]

What are you, 12? No. Okay. Honestly.

[Eden]

Well, that's why I'm like, what are you doing there?

[Wheezy]

Oh, I'm going to tell you. It was one of the trap instructors birthdays.

[Mandy B]

So I've been a hair dog a couple times.

[Eden]

No, don't get it dog.

[Wheezy]

Anyway, so we, we are out. I walked into Hair the Dog on the way out. I am. I can't remember what song was playing. I think it was something with Ja Rule. And this girl was putting her hands like this and like kind of blocking the exit but like with this yo yo, hands up like trying to rap vibe like no saying yo yo. And so I'm like, can you please

[Mandy B]

move out of the way?

[Wheezy]

And she's like, yo yo, you don't want to dance with me And I was like, girl, really?

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie.

[Eden]

I would've laughed. I would have laughed at her.

[Mandy B]

It depends how drunk inside you are. Cause, bitch, sometimes you ain't got the motherfuckin time to deal with me.

[Eden]

Was it packed?

[Wheezy]

No, I'm where Mandy was at.

[Mandy B]

You were that.

[Wheezy]

It was a packed.

[Mandy B]

It was like, bitch, I was not in the mood. Trying to get out of me.

[Wheezy]

Her apple bottom jeans was the fur. I was like, I have to get out of here.

[Eden]

I tear up the dog.

[Wheezy]

So she had on an NYU shirt and she was other people. And two of the people she was with was black. So it was all like colleagues. And I literally looked at them and said, you guys are letting her act like this. You are an embarrassment. I was like, this microaggression shit of Yo Yo.

[Mandy B]

I was like, were they men or women?

[Wheezy]

One was a guy, one was a girl. But I was like, this is embarrassing.

[Mandy B]

Black men will listen.

[Wheezy]

If Taylor Swift was on. And I said, oh, my God, do you want to dance for this? How the fuck would you feel? Get the fuck out of my way. So I'm walking out. The girl I was with was like, weezy, I don't know if you just auntied her. I don't know if you tried to give her a lesson. I don't know if you just. Sick of the bitch. But like, what the fuck? And I'm like, bro, all my life I have seen white people in bars, okay? Fucking dancing to hip hop with this. And like, doing this weird.

[Mandy B]

Like, we allowed it because of Julia Stiles, bro.

[Eden]

Well, if there was any chance that

[Mandy B]

was gonna happen, she ate that shit up.

[Wheezy]

Yeah, we wait and. What? What are you talking.

[Mandy B]

Oh, my God.

[Wheezy]

Save the last, man.

[Mandy B]

Any of the cultural references. Yes. Save the last dance.

[Wheezy]

Oh, Julia Stiles. I was thinking about Julia fo.

[Mandy B]

Oh, my God. I just saw biracial. See your guy.

[Wheezy]

No, no, you don't like I know Julia style. Like, I know who you're talking about. I just literally thought Julia Fox for a second. I don't know why.

[Mandy B]

Do you know any quotes from say the Last Dance Girl?

[Eden]

Do you?

[Mandy B]

Derek. Oh, Derek. You can't help who you love, Derek.

[Wheezy]

You could do it. Put your back.

[Mandy B]

No, that's the song. We're not getting into the song.

[Wheezy]

No, when the bitch was dancing over Horri Treat, Right?

[Mandy B]

Not us getting us as a soundtrack, by the way.

[Wheezy]

We're not talking about this.

[Mandy B]

One of the best soundtracks of all time. That and Soul Food.

[Eden]

That is your word.

[Mandy B]

Those were my two Soundtracks. American Gangster. Really good soundtrack too. But save the Last Dance Elite soundtrack.

[Wheezy]

Oh, no.

[Mandy B]

What? What are we getting into, bro?

[Wheezy]

Everybody thinks my birthday's today because partyful sends out a text and they keep saying see you later.

[Mandy B]

They better not go to your house today. Oh, no, that's ghetto.

[Wheezy]

Okay, let me keep talking.

[Mandy B]

You just get

[Wheezy]

so embarrassing.

[Mandy B]

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[Wheezy]

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[Mandy B]

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[Wheezy]

Okay, so I want to talk about non monogamy.

[Mandy B]

Ooh, let's get to it because the Jezebels are here to speak.

[Wheezy]

So the reason I wanted to get into this conversation, I did naked sports earlier, which I was very nervous about because I don't know anything about sports. It's our black effects.

[Mandy B]

Oh, we carry champion.

[Wheezy]

Carrie Champion.

[Mandy B]

Okay. By the way, she was like, I need to.

[Wheezy]

Come on.

[Mandy B]

You know what's crazy? So she did something with Jemele Hill a couple weeks ago. Maybe a couple months ago now.

[Wheezy]

Oh, tell me.

[Mandy B]

But I liked it. And then I went on her page started liking a lot of posts, so she followed me back. Carrie, come on the pod. But I would fuck. Carrie is fine, bitch.

[Wheezy]

Do you know how old Carrie is?

[Mandy B]

Do you think I just fucked a 50 year old?

[Wheezy]

No, no, I didn't say it like that.

[Mandy B]

In a threesome. It was great.

[Wheezy]

Oh, I'm sorry. Wait, let me just say.

[Mandy B]

Her birthday was 70, like 75. It was crazy. I said, oh my God, you're like six years younger than my mom. Why would you Say that I still fudge. It don't matter. But I don't care how old Carrie is. That bitch fine is giving.

[Wheezy]

That was not what I tried to say.

[Mandy B]

Oh, sorry.

[Wheezy]

I was just trying to say the bitch look that damn, she fine.

[Mandy B]

Like Carrie look good. And I know I. I was less than. I said the little couple hard emojis.

[Wheezy]

So one day shout out to our

[Mandy B]

cousins on the Black Effect network.

[Wheezy]

We want to all the cousins and have. So when I was on Carrie's show, she was like, we started talking about a few weeks ago because she saw

[Mandy B]

the clips and what are you doing on naked sports? Do you even know sports?

[Wheezy]

We didn't talk about sports. Thank you. Okay. I was very nervous. I'm like, can we just do naked? But basically she was like, she's met my man. And basically was like, you know, I feel bad that the judgment of your love comes from non monogamy. Same with you with polyamory.

[Mandy B]

And you. You judged my non monogamous love?

[Wheezy]

No, bitch, I judged you. I judged that time you said three days.

[Mandy B]

Three and a half.

[Wheezy]

Okay.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I just said not over four.

[Wheezy]

No, I actually. And. And rightfully so. It wasn't that. It was when you were talking about judgment via edit, it was where you said, I just want to experience these things.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, both of you. I.

[Eden]

And dude, I just want to make sure that I just said you chew them up like bubble gum and choose different flavors.

[Mandy B]

But I don't.

[Eden]

But I'm not saying that you don't

[Mandy B]

want the same flavor because they all look alike.

[Eden]

Well, you know, you like the same brand of gum, but different flavors. Right. My thing is not that you don't deserve a relationship or anything like that. It's just that you like different men at different times. It's not a problem.

[Mandy B]

No, I don't think that you only gave me two of those Tito's. I'm judging you. You don't know my life.

[Eden]

There's one more.

[Mandy B]

Oh, okay. So you got.

[Wheezy]

Can we save the third for the third episode?

[Mandy B]

Yes.

[Wheezy]

So I was just thinking to myself, like, literally after her episode, I'm like, you know what I think, because y' all maybe hear me talk about I be pushing people toward monogamy because I really think you niggas can't handle this life. So I was like, we should talk about the dangers, the pros and cons of non monogamy. But super honestly, let's do it. One of the things.

[Mandy B]

And there is something that I've noticed recently. Yeah, go. I've noticed one partner in particular, actually, I'm lying. Both of them do this. So they're very into knowing what I'm doing and if I'm somewhere and don't update them enough, they kind of throw tantrums and feel left out.

[Wheezy]

And that's boyfriend shit.

[Mandy B]

No, but that's what I'm saying. I get it. And so they want an oversharing me. But they still. And I'm like begging them, like, do you still not feel safe? I don't get that from them. I'm not getting what they're doing with the other partners. I'm not getting. Like, they want to. Like, one particular wants to see me in videos, so I send him videos of me and the other one. But like, I have both of them where I kind of want to know what they're doing with their other partners, what the conversations are, how fun the weekend was. I'm like, I didn't hear from you all weekend, so I know you were like. But also then when I'm out, if, you know, I'm even in a space with a nigga that I sniffed ass of, you're mad, which is what happened during All Star Weekend. Like, Snigga completely crashed out on me. Dior, because. No, not Dior, other nigga. And completely crashed out. Cause I'm open with. Listen, don't do that. What? Stop it. I didn't. I didn't share. I even fucked him. Have you shared a while?

[Wheezy]

I didn't say anything. I can't say that.

[Mandy B]

But. But there's. There's an element of if I'm having fun or I'm on a trip and I don't respond with exactly what my itinerary is.

[Wheezy]

What the fuck?

[Mandy B]

I'm getting a fucking attitude. But in response, I'm not getting it to where even when I question. So I know you was with a bitch this weekend. How was it? Conversation completely switches. And so they want to know everything I do, but I'm not being privy to their stuff. And I don't like that because I'm like, do you not feel safe? Am I walking you into this non monogamy thing? But also, how do you get to throw a tantrum? Because you don't know my every fucking move. You want to know my move, but you're not safe to let me know the things that I ask you of.

[Eden]

Is that your man or your parole officer? Like, what's going on?

[Mandy B]

It's not even that. So that's the thing. So to me, relationships. But to me, if for you. You want to know everything I do.

[Eden]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

A part of me also would love to be privy of what you're doing. It's a part of sharing. If we're gonna share what we do without each other, let's do that right at one point.

[Eden]

At non monogamy, Is it oversharing, though?

[Wheezy]

Okay, great question. Because it's making me think of my answer for what Mandy's talking about. You know, how in monogamy it's just like, don't cheat. Non monogamy has so many different rules across everybody. So I think in my particular relationship, the sharing that we do looks really different. With what you're talking about when you said, is that what this is? Is he parole? It's like, well, if Mandy was like that, this wouldn't be. If she was like that and he was like that, it would be equal. Right? So the way I like things to be shared is if I ask, we can be open about it and it's answered.

[Mandy B]

So that's my problem. But they're expecting me to share, and if I don't, they know I'm with. It gets tricky, but when I sense a change in their either response or cadence, I know they're doing something or they're with somebody. But when I ask, today was cool, and I'm like, so who was she? How was it there? I don't get nothing. I'm open with it. I know you're seeing other people. You literally have.

[Wheezy]

Okay, you also have to ask this. So a piece of advice for everyone. My boyfriend and I have a monthly check in. No matter what city he's in, I'm in. We have to do this monthly check in on the third. That's how we roll. So one of the questions, right after

[Mandy B]

rent due, I would move it to the 14th.

[Wheezy]

I don't know why we did it. I think we did it based on, like, the first time it happened. Okay. So one of the questions I asked him recently, he's like, I'm glad you asked me that, because there is a limit for me. So I was like, you know how I want to know everything sometimes, and sometimes I don't.

[Mandy B]

Which is valid. Sometimes I want to know everything.

[Wheezy]

Sometimes I don't care.

[Mandy B]

Sometimes I literally don't care. But when I fear, I care and

[Wheezy]

want to know, like, bro, especially if I got some shit going on, I'd be like, no, no, let me talk about me. Okay? So he was. I said, I never asked you how much you're comfortable sharing. And he's like, you know, it's the same answer for me. He's like, there's been times I've had sex and I'd be like, damn, I can't wait for this bitch to get out of here so I can fucking call my. My bitch so I could fucking tell her everything. And he's like, and then there's other times where I don't really feel like sitting in that energy of experiencing somebody else with you. I just want us to talk about us, but you might be so interested. And he's like. And then it makes me feel like, what did he say? I don't know. He's like, he didn't use the word reporting, but, like, I have to, and I just sometimes don't want to. And he's like. And I don't always know what you want. He's like, sometimes I'll call you if I'm coming home from somewhere. And you're just like, okay, baby, I'll go to sleep. And he's like. And then I'm like, is she mad or is she really tired? And he's like, we're still learning how this works. He also asked me in a check in recently, which I think is a very cool thing to ask, because it was something that bothered you about one of your niggas. He said to me, we've never talked about how many people are okay to sleep with in a month. And I'm like, what, are you trying to propose? And he's like, we go a lot of months where neither of us.

[Mandy B]

Oh, you're talking about the nigga I broke up with?

[Wheezy]

Yes. Yeah. He was like, we never have talked about a number. So then I got really mad because I'm like, what, do you have five bitches you want to fuck? Like, what is going on? He's like, okay, so wait, so you have a number? So it's not five?

[Mandy B]

Yeah. I was gonna say, no, we have a number.

[Wheezy]

But you know what he said to me? He's like, it's been so long since I fucked another bitch that if I went out for a weekend and like, fuck two bitches, I feel like it would feel like it's too much because nothing has happened. And he's like, sometimes it makes me feel like I almost should do something to, like, balance this out. Because one of the things he talked about was like. I guess he said to me once, I asked him recently, how come you haven't been, like, fucking up bitches or wanting to? And he's like, I don't know, maybe we just don't have time. And then he said something like, maybe you keeping me excited, I don't know. And that really got in my head.

[Eden]

Oh, fuck.

[Wheezy]

And I know he didn't mean it like that. He didn't, but that fucked me up. And he said, I know it fucked you up, because now I just feel like, damn, if a step out and I'm like, I got a bitch number. You're gonna be like, what am I not doing? And he's like, I don't want to breathe that. It just, it's just a moment. Like, I don't want you to start thinking that. And I'm like, yo, the way that you have to, like, really figure out conversion sometimes is sometimes exhausting. So that to me is a con of non monogamy. But on the flip side, I looked up Reddit threads of what people say pros and cons are every single person talks about how communication is top notch.

[Mandy B]

No, communication definitely is.

[Wheezy]

And I would agree.

[Mandy B]

But that's where when it comes to what you share, that's a part of communication, right? And so for me, if I feel like I have to share everything I'm doing, but I don't get to be privy to anything you're doing, this doesn't feel balanced. And it should feel balanced. Like, so even a part of me is like, am I not creating a safe space? Do you still feel like you have to lie to me? Like, do you feel like, what is the conversation? Cause I done caught that in a lot of lies to where literally, we were on a trip and this is how he knows I like him because I started crying. I was like, I just don't understand, like, why you feel like you have to lie to me. I've created such, like, an open space for us to, like, literally, we were in Chicago and a bitch that you fucked was there, and I picked her up for both of us. Like, you could be honest with me. We're honest together. Make it make sense. And I literally was like, why do you have to lie? And I feel like there's also an ingrainment for a lot of men who are new to non monogamy, where lying is easier.

[Wheezy]

By the way, just for to remind some of you who may have heard me say this before, Old BAE told me once, our beginning of our open relationship was great. And then he started to lie. And I was like, where is this coming from? Falling more in love with you.

[Mandy B]

Well, soulmate lied in a sense that he even through the emails and all of our time, like, Separating. He was like. And I brought it up. He felt like I kept him in a cage by telling him he couldn't go to the sex club without me. That was a boundary that I had. I wanted us to do that together. And he didn't realize that there were boundaries in non monogamy. And so.

[Wheezy]

Which is crazy, but also.

[Mandy B]

Which is why people say, wait, how are y' all fucking bitches together? But he cheated on you, bro. Because there's boundaries that are set in non monogamy, where I can feel betrayed by your actions and me setting.

[Wheezy]

I'm so. Oh, my God. Whose cho. Whose job is it to bring up the boundaries? And this is one of the things I had as a con. Both people, the fucking amateurs of non monogamy.

[Mandy B]

Oh. Should bring up the boundaries.

[Wheezy]

No, no, no. Are the issue.

[Mandy B]

Duh.

[Eden]

Well, I was gonna say. At what point was he gonna know? I mean, I. Well, no, I take that back. You expressed the fact that you wouldn't. You wouldn't want to.

[Mandy B]

Well, and that's the thing. And I think that that's what, like, fucked me up. Towards the end of our relationship, like, Weasley and I world opened back up. We was traveling. We was back on tour. We were gone a lot. And so I had literally come to him and was like, mind you, at one point, I was like, nigga, you need sex that bad, I don't give a fuck. Like, if you need somebody while I'm out of town, let me know. You can have a bitch while I'm gone. Because I understood that I was out of town a lot. And so, fine. He made it seem like I was accusing him of being a sex addict. And, like, he didn't have discernment and, like, he couldn't just keep his dick in his pants. And then, lo and behold, two bitches came to me, woman to woman. So, like, which one is it? Is it Uchiwale or is it one mic? It can't be both. Like. And so for me, it was like, bro, I gave you. I thought I provided you a space to be open with me, but also, if you need another bitch while I'm gone. Cause I get it. I'm not around as much. Have it, but don't let it interfere with you.

[Wheezy]

I don't want to compare my conversation because we hate your ex, but my man said something to me recently that he doesn't appreciate that I do.

[Mandy B]

Okay.

[Wheezy]

And it's when we have conversations or disagreements or not. Never really disagreed about anything in our open relationship. Actually, not Once when we have conversations about opening back up, if it opens and closes, I'll say, well, if you want to fuck. And da, da, da. And I start getting hyper. And he's like, yo, I hate when you start talking to me like, I need pussy. Like, I don't need to fuck another bitch. We do this shit because it's funny. You fucking act like I need to be able to, like, step out on you or something. It's like, I hate the way you say it. And you're starting to lose me on the like.

[Mandy B]

Well, there's a difference between opening and closing and a difference with noticing a changed behavior where it's like, there's another bitch. Oh, you know what I mean? There's a difference with the conversation of opening and closing and a different conversation with niggas got routine.

[Wheezy]

Mm.

[Mandy B]

And when you've been with someone long enough. I was with my ex for three years. When you're with someone for long enough, you peep and pick up on nigga. And you retired. You ain't even got a job. So, nigga, what you gots to do, bro?

[Wheezy]

I'm gonna be honest with you. I know his routine so well. That's why I was like, if something's off, I'm like, oh, maybe this is the date. Maybe that nigga must be getting me a ring today.

[Mandy B]

Since you doing something different.

[Wheezy]

You do the same shit.

[Mandy B]

Fuck, nigga. Yeah. Like, to me, it's. The conversation is. And it's crazy. Let me ask you. Yes, you've had a throuple and now two relations. Would you. Do you feel like you're an expert? Do you feel like you're someone that could lead? Do you think, like, you could be in a relationship with someone and I know you're with someone else, so this isn't like, to disrespect your relationship. But that would never someone be more advanced than you. Like, oh, how advanced do you feel like you are in communicating your needs in a non monogamous family?

[Wheezy]

I'm pretty top notch right now because I know. No, I'm gonna tell you why I'm top notch right now. Because I know when to tell you I don't like something. Okay, that was a question I had for you and I of. Has there been a situation where you stood quiet just to keep the peace

[Mandy B]

or because you felt the last relationship. I did way too much of that now.

[Wheezy]

And also not to keep the peace, but being like, am I really being open? I do a very good job when I don't like Something or something makes me feel icky. Like we are not open when we are in disagreement and not super happy or if we have personal or family stuff going on. Okay, So I think I had some family stuff going on. So it's like, without a doubt, duh. We don't even need to talk about it. That means he won't fuck someone or try to meet up with a bitch. I think when I came home from la, he was like, oh, by the way, we have a rule of 48 hours. If anyone gets someone's number, we talk about it. You don't have to report back that night, but just within a day or so. He was like, I got this girl's number when I was out with my cousin. And I'm like, when? He's like, Wednesday. And I'm like, Wednesday, when I was all upset. And he's like, but I ain't fuck nobody. I just got a number. And I'm like, so you were seeking pussy and I'm fucking calling you about how sad I am. And he's like, yo, I didn't know I couldn't get a number. I thought you didn't want me to link up, get no pussy. So I was just like, whatever. He's like, me and this nigga hit up a bar. I saw somebody cute, I pulled her and I'm like, okay, actually, I understand you didn't know. Like, it's so much little granular shit. But I feel like in that moment I was being picky. And when we did a check in, he said something I appreciate is that you ain't. You wasn't quiet about that shit. You ain't just sit there and be like, oh, okay. He's like, you told me. Why.

[Mandy B]

Well, because when you're quiet, you build up resentment.

[Eden]

I was just going to say that.

[Mandy B]

And so it's difficult because do you sit and build up resentment or do you dread the confrontation? And I'm someone who genuinely hates confrontation. And again, I'm someone in my last relationship that was like, I just want to keep the peace. I want us to be at a high for as long as we could be at this high. Because when we reach our lows, it gets really low.

[Wheezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

And I. That's when I realized I was losing myself in the relationship because I was silencing my. My thoughts and my needs just so that we could keep having a good time. But there were things that bothered me. It's.

[Wheezy]

It's very good to make sure that you can assess yourself.

[Mandy B]

Yeah.

[Wheezy]

Like something I said That I noticed recently. So strange issue to have. But like I mentioned a few minutes ago, because both of us aren't really doing shit. I feel like everybody's just waiting for the moment it starts and it's like, well, why did it happen? And I'm trying to pull back that feeling. And I literally was like, we gotta have a combo together about celebrating each other's sex lives. Because we've been in this open relationship, non monogamy ship for so long that maybe we're just in a routine of not wanting to.

[Mandy B]

Celebrating your partner's sex life. How much of the other woman do you want to know? Do you want to see what they look like? Do you want to know what they do for.

[Wheezy]

Oh, yeah, we want to see.

[Mandy B]

Oh, okay.

[Eden]

You don't think that's oversharing?

[Mandy B]

I'm not going to lie. I don't want to.

[Wheezy]

I have seen the photo. If I think he fucked, this is very low, so I don't know how he's going to feel about it. You only fought like two, three bitches without me lashing. Maybe that's it. That's cool, you know.

[Eden]

Okay, so what is a window?

[Wheezy]

But you know, like, there just really isn't room for that. And a lot of the time we spend, so most of it is together. But like, I do remember one of them I was like dying to see because of how he described her. I was like, show me, show me, show me. Okay, but.

[Eden]

And then. Did you see her?

[Wheezy]

I did. I forgot how. He was like, oh, okay, look her up. I saw it. They're always beautiful. Like, he don't. I think you got some good taste with his problem, you know, it's always a bitch. I'm like, wow, model. Okay. Or even if they're not a model, they just have the aesthetic that's so fire that I'm like, bitch one bitch he fucked. I sent a video of him. A video to him. Like, yo, her shit's so fire. And he was like, oh, you know Somalian girls tell you that.

[Mandy B]

Oh, cool.

[Wheezy]

Awesome.

[Eden]

Can I ask you a mildly personal question?

[Wheezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

You asking us to wheezy?

[Eden]

Yes, but sure, let's. I want to ask you too, even though I know you're not. You're not going to be in this realm, right? Well, you don't want to be when you get the ring on your finger.

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah. Don't ask me.

[Wheezy]

That ain't for me.

[Eden]

Do things change?

[Wheezy]

I think they just get more secure for me. And I have to be totally honest. It's a conversation I would love to have once married.

[Eden]

And I don't have security. I don't. Because I know. I feel like, yeah, you guys would.

[Wheezy]

There is a semi security.

[Mandy B]

The security.

[Wheezy]

And we were talking about this in the clip where Mandy and I were talking about Jazzy, and he was like, she not wrong, but, Jazz, you definitely want to be married. He's like, well, Mandy's not wrong. And I'm like, no, I agree with Mandy's sentiments too, but it was more so like, bitch, you not gonna tell me this one. Don't. But when you were like, marriage doesn't fucking save you from.

[Mandy B]

It doesn't for a lot of.

[Wheezy]

Right? And so one of the things we talked about was like, what will that do for us? If and when will it make the other feel more secure? Would it do that for you? Would it do that for me? And I was like, honestly, a little.

[Mandy B]

I think it's different for women than a man. Men cheat all the time.

[Wheezy]

No, I think it's more so just,

[Mandy B]

like, I don't know if the security is what men view not cheating.

[Wheezy]

Hold on. Wait. What was your question? It wasn't cheat.

[Mandy B]

Like, no, he just said no. I'm just. Does the dynamic change when you're married?

[Eden]

Or how does it change?

[Wheezy]

Oh, how does our open relationship change?

[Eden]

Because I would believe, without a doubt, for your relationship particularly, I could see communication being a lot better. Of course, it's just more so of now that you've added a ring to it.

[Mandy B]

Like, is there a boundary that changes?

[Eden]

Yeah.

[Wheezy]

Damn. I know we're over time, but the reason. There's something that I watched that I think would affect me. I sent it to him, and I said, I think I feel this sometimes. And he's like, I really hope that gets out of your head. Blah, blah, blah, blah. But it's just the truth.

[Eden]

Is it more. It's something.

[Wheezy]

It's a fear. Got dumped by a married man yesterday, and damn, the compassion that I feel for his wife is real. So they're in an E. M. Relationship.

[Mandy B]

And right now, I prefer to date

[Wheezy]

either people who are in relationships or open because I do not have any interest in being in a committed relationship for a while. And we really vibed.

[Mandy B]

We really connected. I haven't connected with someone like this in a very long time.

[Wheezy]

Like, I was very excited to see him again, and she had a really hard time with how excited he was to see me again too.

[Mandy B]

And you know what?

[Wheezy]

I fucking get it. My excitement doesn't bother him, but his excitement Would bother me. And that is something that I've had to assess. I know for a fact if I'm excited and maybe it's ego. He just feels like, ain't no motherfucker gon fuck my bitch in his world. Like me. He doesn't care. He's just. He's very. He's a lot better at conversion than me. Even in threesomes, the way he talks to me like, enjoy yourself, baby. Enjoy yourself. Like, he's just really great at it. Mine is more a kink shit of watching him fuck. That is terrifying for me. And I think it would somehow maybe mellow itself out with marriage. Don't know why I think it would, but it's not a necessity for me. I don't need a ring for that. I want a ring for a different kind of honoring love. But I thought about that, and the thing of being chose might do that as well. And I want to have an episode talking about that. The pick me being chose thing, I think some of it is good and healthy, and some of it is not. Like, I don't want any nigga to choose me. I'm not fucking going out here. Like, I need it. I just want to be chose by the person I'm obsessed with.

[Mandy B]

I'm not mad at that.

[Wheezy]

You know what I'm saying? Like, I genuinely really mean this. I don't want to tell y' all it's excited to be chose, but the day he asked me to be his girlfriend, there were roses all over my house, and he put circle, yes or no. I was so hyped, and I felt embarrassed to tell my single and homegirls that because I was excited about being chose. Is that in a fucking embarrassment? A little, kind of.

[Eden]

It shouldn't be.

[Mandy B]

It shouldn't be.

[Eden]

It's also because of who he is and how he's doing it, and he knows how much that means to you. He could have just asked you. And some girls, let me just tell you, don't even get asked. They just get left. They just turn the realm of is that my man or not?

[Wheezy]

No. You know, bitches be like, niggas just be like, okay, you're my girlfriend now. Like, they'll just be like, yeah, I know what you're saying.

[Eden]

Yeah. So it's like, in. But I understand, you know, where you feel that embarrassment. But I think it's something you deserve in terms of, like, being asked properly.

[Wheezy]

Yeah.

[Eden]

How he courts you, like, that's why you get so excited.

[Wheezy]

Do you feel that way then for yourself? Is there any part of you that can enjoy a choosing feeling or, like,

[Mandy B]

being chose or choosing Both. Both. I get every nigga I want.

[Wheezy]

No.

[Mandy B]

And chose, but chose. Like, the. Like, I've. I have the. The creme de la creme when I want them in. Like, I'm. That's why I said, like, my. My two guys specifically. And, you know, the zero point fives that are around, they're the choosing of each other. And I literally check in and be like, are you getting what you want out of this relationship with me? As you're that time? And it's like, yeah.

[Wheezy]

Choosing each other. Yeah.

[Mandy B]

It's like, that's it. Even if there's other people, like, we're choosing to navigate this together. We check in with each other. We care about each other's careers and successes and. And tapping in. And I share the pictures of my behind the scenes even. I just did a cover magazine and I sent a behind the scenes, and he just saw it, and I was like, you know, you look good. And even just to hype me up when he can. Like, I appreciate that.

[Wheezy]

Me too.

[Mandy B]

Like, it's good. It's good. It's dope.

[Wheezy]

I can't smile from a nigga and not be a feminist.

[Mandy B]

By the way, I know y' all think we hate men, but we don't.

[Wheezy]

I think I'm gonna get very hate men when married.

[Mandy B]

You're gonna get what?

[Wheezy]

I think I'm gonna just because I'm gonna see and reject it. I'm gonna see the validation and reject it.

[Mandy B]

I be telling people I don't hate men. I think bitches is just as crazy and Delulu and nutty as these niggas.

[Wheezy]

And if you want to hear about nut, head over to patreon.com backslash horribledecisions. Buy no holds barred the paperback. When it comes out, make sure you pre order it just like you preordered a hard one. And join us for the vlogs. Mandy and I have been vlogging. I went to Costco for the first time. Mandy cried. She saw the bast boy. She went to SeaWorld. I went to the fucking furniture store. We gonna get deeper, period.

[Mandy B]

So deeper.

[Eden]

Pause.

[Wheezy]

Head on over for the deep end.

[Mandy B]

And this has been another episode of Decisions Decision. Hope you enjoy.

[Wheezy]

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[Eden]

Some stories are just too crazy to keep to yourself.

[Mandy B]

The Hindenburg is a German ship.

[Wheezy]

Was. Was it sunk?

[Eden]

It did crash.

[Wheezy]

Okay, so go.

[Eden]

This month on Snafu with Ed Helms,

[Wheezy]

I've got hilarious guests Chelsea Handler and Adam Scott. All I do is drink tomato juice when I'm on flights. That's my. That's.

[Eden]

That's it.

[Wheezy]

I don't like doing anything else.

[Eden]

Listen to snafu on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

[Mandy B]

This is an iHeart podcast. Guaranteed Human.