Roots, Stones, D***s & Bones

Summary

Decisions, Decisions – “Roots, Stones, D***s & Bones”

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF
Date: September 24, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this wild and candid episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, joined by guests Jazz and Kasha, share their personal stories and hard-hitting advice on the intersection of non-traditional relationships, sex-positive travel, and spirituality within Black dating culture. The episode is split between hilarious, unfiltered accounts of a sex-positive travel event in Jamaica and a thoughtful listener letter about spirituality and dating, leading to an honest discussion on how spiritual practices affect intimacy and relationships in the modern dating landscape.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Sex-Positive Travel & Lifestyle Recap

• Mandii and Weezy are joined by Jazz (party curator for Choco Bliss Travel) and guest Kasha, recounting explicit and humorous tales from a recent lifestyle trip to Jamaica, particularly at the notorious Hedonism resort ("Hedo").
• Inside the Group Dynamics: Jazz describes her non-traditional family structure spanning two decades: her wife, best friend, girlfriend, and now also a husband, reflecting fluidity within their polyamorous and queer relationships.

  "My wife has been around for, like, over two decades, right? She and I, you know, best friends, but, you know, have touched each other...my wife is like my best friend, slash sometimes girlfriend, and he's my husband, slash, you know, whatever else." — Jazz [04:34]

• Memorable Moments:
  • Kasha onstage at a live show, requesting a playful "spanking" with her partner’s enthusiastic support, showing off their D/s dynamic.
  • Vivid storytelling about the infamous pool party initiation at Hedo, where 27 first-timers lined up naked, took body shots, and performed group rituals to break the ice.

    “He says, yo, I need a vet...All the OGs...stand in front of...So, all the women pour the shots, it runs down their body, and all these people are in front of them…like, so it’s coming off of the body…” — Mandii [11:01]

2. Listener Letter: Spirituality and Dating

• Letter Summary: A listener, a hoodoo practitioner and Orisha devotee, writes about dating difficulties, specifically an incident where a casual partner took and shared pictures of her spiritual altars without permission. She asks: Should spiritual items be disclosed before inviting someone over? How do Mandii and Weezy feel about dating someone deeply invested in spirituality?
• Hosts’ Honest Opinions:
  • Weezy admits she finds a lot of “spiritual” types messy or performative, expressing skepticism:

    “Every bitch I know that's doing a spell don't got a nigga. Every bitch I know who manifesting, claiming-- like, 'oh, I'm doing this, I'm doing that.' They ain't got no motherfucking money.” — Weezy [17:16]

  • Both agree spirituality is private, and there’s no obligation to disclose unless items are visible (“If you feel like someone may not be into this thing, I think you put it away until...you and this person are becoming closer...” – Mandii [23:20])
  • Cultural Nuance: Mandii suggests the listener seek partners familiar with Black diaspora spirituality, joking to “date a Haitian/Zoe” instead of Black Americans who may not understand or accept those traditions.

    “If you're saying you date other black American men, I do think that maybe you should lean into dating some Zo's then like maybe…That's Haitians for the folks that are not from Florida." — Mandii [19:58]

3. Boundaries, Disclosure & Dating Dealbreakers

• Disclosure is About Comfort, Not Obligation: Both hosts believe you should decide if you want to “warn” a partner about spiritual objects (or anything “taboo”) based on how deep the relationship is, not because you owe them that information upfront.
• Dating Red Flags in Others’ Homes:
  • Both detail things that would make them walk out on a hookup:
    • Random or hard towels, dirty bathrooms, cats out of control, and especially seeing family or wife photos everywhere are major turn-offs.
    • “...If you know that a nigga is gonna judge you for your altars and you don't wanna be judged for your altars, bitch, hide your altars.” — Mandy [24:17]
    • “If you don’t even have to do it, use the bathroom. That’ll quickly let you know if you finna give that nigga the buns or not.” — Mandy [32:19]
• Advice to the Letter Writer:
  • “A. Hide the shit. B. Data zone. That's what I'm giving you.” — Mandy [33:14]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Altars and Judgment:

  “They could get into your pussy, but not get into your business of spirituality?”
  “Sex is casual, but I think spirituality is more intense and deep.” – Mandy & Weezy [18:46]

• On Non-Traditional Love:

  “This is love, I’m not gonna lie...he was just making sure you were good, you were having a good time. Do you need anything? I loved watching y’all together.” — Mandy [06:58]

• Hilarious Pool Party Recap:

  “I observed at this point was 27 synchronized swimmers end up in a V upside down...every face is eating you.” — Jazz [12:08]

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Timestamps for Key Segments

| Time | Segment | |----------|-----------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 02:25 | Mandii and Weezy introduce guest Jazz and Kasha, lifestyle discussion begins | | 04:33 | Jazz describes her polyamorous/married family dynamic | | 05:49 | Live sex demonstration and description of kink at Billy’s show | | 08:15 | Thursday’s “chill” day at Hedo; pool party build-up | | 09:43 | Hedo pool party initiation, “naked newbies” body shot ritual | | 12:21 | Preview of “Horrible Decisions” Patreon, show transitions to listener Q&A | | 14:19 | Listener letter: navigating spirituality, dating, and disclosure | | 17:03 | Weezy’s take on spiritual people in dating | | 19:30 | Advice about disclosure and cultural nuance (Haitians/Zoes & spirituality) | | 23:20 | Further advice: Hide what you don’t want judged, just like you’d hide a pet | | 28:19 | What would keep hosts from having sex at someone’s house? | | 32:19 | Cleaning and hygiene as dating dealbreakers | | 33:14 | Mandy’s final advice: “Hide the shit,” “Date a Zoe” |

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Tone & Style

• Candid, Unfiltered, and Real: Both in humor and vulnerability, Mandii and Weezy create a supportive space that validates non-traditional and marginalized experiences.
• Relatable and Practical: Advice is rooted in real-life scenarios, offering both empathy (toward the listener’s discomfort) and tough love.
• Celebratory of Black Female Sexuality: Language is affirming, openly sex-positive, and layered with cultural references and “insider” jokes.

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Conclusion

This episode mixes wild tales from the sex-positive side of travel with honest, nuanced advice about spirituality and boundaries in modern relationships. Mandii and Weezy’s raw storytelling, combined with thoughtful advice, ensures listeners come away laughing, learning, and reflecting on how boundaries—whether spiritual, physical, or emotional—shape our intimate lives.

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Next Steps for Listeners:

• Submit your dilemmas for future episodes: decisionspodmail.com
• Check out Mandii and Weezy’s new book: “No Holds Barred: A Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power”
• Join their Patreon for even rawer stories and bonus content.

Transcript

[Mandy]

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[Weezy]

I'm going to be playing the role of you viewers at home.

[Mandy]

So I wasn't in Jamaica at one.

[Weezy]

Point when Mandy said she going to do an episode. I'm like you want me to go no.

[Mandy]

She literally said you don't want to do it by yourself? I said no, you have to be here because you gotta tell me. Navigate the Conversation, y'. All.

[Jazz]

You need to make sure she's there next year.

[Mandy]

No, no, no, listen. Yes. Let me tell y'. All. The episodes that y' all are about to hear deter me from coming. So watch out, ladies, have your pan liners on Bella's. Put a blanket or something over your pants because you about to protrude through it. I am joined by Jazz, who is the founder.

[Weezy]

Not founder.

[Mandy]

And creator. What's the title of it?

[Weezy]

Not founder, Co host.

[Mandy]

The co host. And. Hold on. Party curator. Party curator. Party curator of Choco Bliss Travel. And then I am joined by someone who was brought on the trip, like myself. Posted. Kasha. Yay. My.

[Weezy]

I gotta tell y' all how I know Kasha. So we've been in a different environment recently, I admit to Billy's live show.

[Mandy]

Okay.

[Weezy]

And I'm just gonna admit it now. You know when you say you gonna show up to tell one's event, and you just like, fuck, I gotta check this thing off the list.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

I just kind of wanted to stay in bed. But we get out the house, had such a good time.

[Mandy]

Kasha get her ass on stage.

[Weezy]

And my N said, this is turning up. This is the way it was. I don't wanna give away Billy's live show, but what I will say is, started off with her being amused for someone that was doing a demonstration. And the craziest thing in the middle of this is she goes, hold on.

[Mandy]

Is it okay if I get spanked, Daddy? And I'm turning around like, where is it?

[Jazz]

And my wife was there, so I got in trouble. I didn't tell you that. I got in trouble that day.

[Weezy]

Yo, who?

[Jazz]

My wife. I got in trouble that day because she was there also.

[Weezy]

Okay? So that was.

[Mandy]

I'm only bringing you, by the way, y'. All.

[Jazz]

That's my baby.

[Weezy]

Let me. Let's do the family tree.

[Mandy]

Yeah. What? So.

[Jazz]

So my wife has been around for, like, over two decades, right? She and I, you know, best friends, but, you know, have touched each other, so.

[Mandy]

And others together.

[Weezy]

Got it.

[Jazz]

So when I first entered the lifestyle, I didn't have a man. Me and her just used to, like, pick out victims and knock them down.

[Mandy]

That's all she wants.

[Jazz]

Yes. So me, you know, so now I got me a husband a little later. And the wife and the husband, you know, they. They have a great relationship, first of all. So we joke all around, but, like, it's like, my wife is like my best friend, slash sometimes girlfriend, and he's my husband, slash, you know, whatever else.

[Weezy]

I wish I could have seen that.

[Jazz]

And they were both sitting there. So when I said to him, daddy. She was like, what the fuck is that?

[Mandy]

She was.

[Weezy]

Ever since sitting across from him.

[Jazz]

She was with the blonde hair. She went on stage and did the moaning contest in the beginning. So I was like, oh, I can't look up.

[Mandy]

You ain't asked for her permission.

[Weezy]

Now, let me tell you what makes this outfit so entertaining. She got a nigga in a boxing outfit getting ready to spank her. Punching her pussy, by the way. Punching her pussy. So her man comes to sit and watch. And here's what made it so entertaining. She got her beautiful body, and it's very. To me, what you would say is stallion. Like, when we think of stallion, we think height, we think big ass. But in shape, we think this. There's just a look, and there's also a walk. I think you could be a short stallion too, if you got a wall.

[Mandy]

Not the mini pony, Pony, pony. Now, she doesn't want to hold on.

[Jazz]

At the ass, but smaller than the ass.

[Weezy]

So this is the most entertaining part. Meanwhile, you seeing this woman damn near half naked, get her pussy punch. But the most entertaining part was her man, who me and my man couldn't stop looking at. He's like, oh, my God, look at this nigga. I was like, oh, my God. He was enjoying every minute, mind you. You guys will soon hear her episode on Decisions, Decisions. Their episode. Excuse me. This nigga's bigger than everybody.

[Mandy]

Looks like security. He does personal also.

[Weezy]

I was like, oh, my God, is he hard? And then she looking at him and talking to him.

[Jazz]

He like, he was holding my legs open while the sex machine. So first of all, there's a mini boxing glove on the edge of a sex machine going like that to my pussy, and he's holding it open and just like, ha, ha, bitch. So you know, that's what happens when you get with a sadist.

[Mandy]

This is love, I'm not gonna lie. Meeting. Meeting him, he looks so big and dominant. And yes, he's masculine. But what I loved viewing all week with you guys in Jamaica was how serving he was to you. Yeah, he helped you with. He helped you with your demonstration. Every time I saw y' all together, he was just making sure you were good, you were having a good time. Do you need anything? I loved watch. That's why I wanted both of y' all on the episode because it was so beautiful watching y' all together and him just support you in what is traditional in terms of work.

[Jazz]

Yes.

[Weezy]

The thing is because he knows he could whoop everybody ass. That also is a funny.

[Mandy]

You know what's so funny? Because you can fucking squirt while sucking his dick. Like, you make me feel like I. Like, I actually might want to hire you because I have a nigga right now that wants me to, like, have those type of things. But, like, seeing you do that. And y', all.

[Weezy]

We're gonna do we start from day one?

[Mandy]

No, no, no. We are. We're starting day one. Yeah. So, okay, here's how. Here was my introduction, by the way. We're not gonna start with my first night. We'll get to my first night later. No, no, no. It was the same night. Friday was kind of the. No, Thursday was the first day day.

[Jazz]

First day.

[Mandy]

Not like a chill day. So Thursday is the first day. And Jasmine, this was the first time I ever saw this. I want to start because this is probably where it's going to end for y' all listening. I want to start with the welcome pool party. Oh, and I want. That's Friday. That is Friday. That's Friday. So I'm not going to start with my night on Thursday.

[Jazz]

Oh, you're talking about the 27 ducks.

[Mandy]

So Friday is the welcome pool party. Because everyone is really kind of arriving on Thursday, so some people may miss the daytime.

[Jazz]

Right?

[Mandy]

So Friday night, everyone just. Thursday night was just like, the welcome in, like, kind of. It was light. So Friday is the welcome pool party. So I'm like, okay. Mind you, it's at the nude pool. So even for people that are just like, I don't really want to get naked. You kind of want to go, because that's where everyone's at.

[Weezy]

We're ripping the band aid off. Straight, straight.

[Jazz]

Getting naked.

[Mandy]

This is Thursday.

[Weezy]

This is Thursday.

[Mandy]

Okay. Day one. Day one. Was that goose. Yeah.

[Jazz]

The outing was, like, off site.

[Mandy]

It was off site. It was the clubs. The clubs. I'm going to bring back what I did, though, that night, because that was when I met my first boyfriend. Yes. So, anyways, let's start Friday, though. So welcome party is at the nude pool, y'. All. I've never seen anything like this in my life. The DJ goes, hey, whose first time is it here at Heedo? Women?

[Weezy]

Which women?

[Mandy]

Is this their first time in Hedo?

[Weezy]

Where are the newbies?

[Mandy]

Where are the newbies?

[Jazz]

And they don't know what they was raising their hands for.

[Weezy]

They do not. They do not know.

[Mandy]

What I need y' all to do is everyone come sit in front of me at the DJ booth, find a Side at the end of the pool.

[Weezy]

And they're all naked right now.

[Mandy]

Everybody. Everybody's naked.

[Jazz]

And they're, like, bordering the entire pool, sitting outside of it. He said 27 women.

[Mandy]

Oh, that was our biggest one. That was our biggest one. 27 newbies. So next thing I know, I see Jazz and the other girl. They have towers of cups and shots. So I see balancing acts of about 10 shots stacked in these plastic cups.

[Weezy]

10 dark, 10 light.

[Mandy]

There we go.

[Weezy]

10 dark, 10 light shots. 10 dark, 10 lights.

[Mandy]

10 dark, 10 light. And probably whatever the additional seven were. So I'm literally looking at them. Balancing acts of shots. So everyone gets a shot at the pool. The DJ then goes, wait, wait, wait. I'm not just gonna ask y' all to take a shot. He says, yo, I need a vet. Anyone who's been here, men or women? I think they asked before, who's into men, who's into women, right? They asked all the women sitting on the side. And so they all ask, and then they're like, okay. Based on their responses, all the OGs, all the vets go stand in front of.

[Weezy]

Find a woman.

[Mandy]

Find a woman, stand in front of. So I'm like, bitch, what am I about to see by this time? Because I'm short and I'm in the pool. I go to the other side of the pool to have, like, an eyeliner. A good eye. Yes, a good eyeliner. So I'm watching this. I'm like, what the fuck about to happen? So, okay, so everyone has a cup. There's now a person, a man or woman in front of everyone. In front of the pool. There is one man that got greedy and sat between two bitches. I was like, damn. Yeah, he did.

[Weezy]

You saw him.

[Jazz]

I was like, damn.

[Mandy]

Even the DJ was like, bro, I never agreed. But the women let it do happen. So next thing you know, the DJ is like, all right, what you're gonna do is take the shot. You're gonna pour it between your titties. And they told the vet that they had to catch the shot before it hit the pool. Yes. So you sit here and see all the women. He says, one or two? Three, Go. So all the women pour the shots. It runs down their body, and all these people are in front of them. And then everyone gets the shot, right? So you start seeing people lick, lick.

[Weezy]

Like, so it's coming off of the body.

[Mandy]

It's coming off the body, right? I don't know what was said next. So y' all let me know.

[Jazz]

So I. I what? I observed at this point was 27 synchronized swimmers end up in a V upside down. Because basically you have, like, everybody is like, in the perfect V, and the next thing you know, every face is eating you.

[Mandy]

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[Weezy]

If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?

[Mandy]

You've got decisions. You've got decisions. Hey, everyone.

[Weezy]

Welcome back. It's another hump day with more bullshit from y'.

[Mandy]

All. Pretty much. Pretty much. Before we get started, though, we are going to start off with an Amazon customer review of no holds barred because I fuck with y' all and y' all clearly fuck with us. Um, so this one comes from Jade. She said, this is so wonderfully written and just amazing. I love both these women so much, have listened to the podcast, and this is just another wonderful extension of letting us into their journey. And every time, I come away with giggles, new fact, and more acceptance of myself, of this world, and others. So just so good by her. So if you haven't yet, absolutely make sure you get our book, no Holds Barred, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power. It is an extension of this goddamn podcast and us, and we want, you know, to hop on that list again. We can actually get on New York Times bestsellers again because, baby, we done already did it. So go ahead and help us get a second week on that list. Really excited because our letter this week comes from a listener of the book. So the subject for this is Roots, Stones, Dicks, and Bones.

[Weezy]

Well, at least it's not a co.

[Mandy]

Listen. Oh, nah, I ain't gonna hold you. The comments for that have me rolling. So if y' all haven't yet, y' all make sure y' all check that out where our last person literally was a CEO dating an inmate. All right, so here we go. Hey, Mandy and Weezy. Jorge member here since I was a freshman in college. Love the journey y' all are on and loved the audiobook and will be buying the physical copy soon and likely use it in a class I teach later in my degree program as I'm getting my master's. Congratulations. I wrote a while back about dating my n, who I thought was boring and wasn't as expansive in his worldview. I listened to Yalls advice and we ended up breaking up not too long after. I kind of already knew we were gonna break up, but getting that external feedback from y' all and my therapist and friends solidified it for me, which everyone said to leave him. We're still cool and fuck and go on dates from time to time. But that's another email for another day. This is about another scenario that I wonder if y' all could talk about. I'm obviously single now, so I've been dipping and dabbling in the streets. I've been entertaining new people and really seeing what's out there and it really is as bleak as people say. Now, I don't typically invite people over first, but this particular partner I've known for a bit and felt comfortable inviting over. For context, I'm a hoodoo practitioner and Orisha devotee. Another reason I don't like a lot of people over is with the different altars and items I have around my house. People who ain't familiar, which is most people I encounter since I primarily date other black Americans, ask a lot of questions and have preconceived notions about what I practice and who I am as a result. Long story short, the nigga I had over was taking pictures of ancestor altars and different altars I have to yamiya and ocean in my closet while I was in the bathroom and sending it to his group chat of friends. My question isn't about how I should feel because I kicked that nigga out for taking pictures of my shit. Anyway, my question is more so for you all and your thoughts on dating someone like me. Would you or have you dated someone who is into all the woo woo and crystals and shit? Is that something you would want them to disclose before coming over? Just some thoughts I had. Would love if y' all could have someone on the show as well who is a spiritual practitioner of sorts to talk about their dating slash sex life and how they navigate that. Thanks. I'm gonna let you start with this one.

[Weezy]

I think my answer is gonna surprise you. Okay, so I believe in that stuff. I like using it, whatever. But spiritual people always be fucked up.

[Mandy]

Like oh my God.

[Weezy]

Like. Like let's be honest, every bitch I know that's doing a spell don't got a nigga. Every bitch I know who manifesting claiming they like, oh, I'm doing this, I'm doing that. They ain't got no motherfucking money. They really don't be about what they be screaming about. So sometimes when someone's leading forward with the spirituality as their personality, I don't be into it either. Now when it's more private and I start to see that it really is, like, meaningful. Like, most people aren't telling you every minute they pray, but for some reason, spiritual people are screaming at you when the moon is blood. Like, you know what I'm saying? It's like a little too much. It would bother me. And it would bother me if they were bringing it into our dynamic. Like, it would bother me if we had a conversation and they'd be like, that's so Pisces coded.

[Mandy]

Like, bitch, shut the fuck up now. What about, though? Like, what she's saying is, this is clearly in her private space. She has her altars. Is it something you think she should disclose before having these new partners come over?

[Weezy]

No, I think religion and spirituality is personal. Unless they're going to see the altars and stuff. Yes. But a lot of my homegirls that have altars choose to, like, put them, like, hide them for something.

[Mandy]

It seems like her are out in the open. If he was taking pictures of them while she was in the bathroom. It's giving that these aren't hidden altars. Like, they're not in closets, they're out in the open.

[Weezy]

I just don't like opening up the dialogue for somebody to get into your business that deep.

[Mandy]

Right.

[Weezy]

Cause then it might.

[Mandy]

Wait, wait, wait. They could get into your pussy, but not get into your business of spirituality.

[Weezy]

I think sex is casual, but I think spirituality is more intense and deep.

[Mandy]

Yeah, bitch, I thought you. Bitch, you ain't used to say that sex was spiritual.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I think sex is special. I'm just saying, like, in this particular instance, a nigga coming over to learn. Like, I have. I've had casual sex too. I'm just saying, like, as far as this goes, for some reason I just feel like she'll sound like a coconut. Because I think people assume once you gotta, like, warn them about your shit. Like, if someone wants to ask you, let them ask you. But every bitch nowadays, we gotta have a little Buddha in the corner or some shit or some candles. Maybe they won't think nothing. I just wouldn't.

[Mandy]

Yeah, I think it depends what your altar looks like. I mean, I ain't gonna hold.

[Weezy]

It does depend what it looks like.

[Mandy]

As a bitch who's not a Stars and Moons. If I go to a nigga house and see an altar, he not getting no pussy. I'm not eating his food. We not taking shots I am not here for would turn me off personally. And if you're saying you date other black American men, I do think that maybe you should lean into dating some Zo's then like maybe.

[Weezy]

Oh my God.

[Mandy]

What? That's my advice. Like maybe you need to date a nigga to kind of know a little bit more about all of that. And to me, that's Haitians for the.

[Weezy]

Folks that are not from Florida.

[Mandy]

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[Mandy]

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[Mandy]

To me, I think the same way I had I hide my cat, right? Like some people aren't cat people. So I put that nigga in a room. If I have someone coming over who might not, you know, be into cats. So for me, if you feel like someone may not be into this thing, I think you put it away until it's something to where the relationship, you and this person are becoming closer with each other, then you open to that. If it's just casual sex, I think you share the things you don't want to explain and not your dick. If you got a dick, share that before they come over. But for anything in your house, I think that you should absolutely, you know.

[Weezy]

So basically for me, I think the reason that I don't like to bring shit up ahead of time is because I feel like it gives room for judgment.

[Mandy]

Good. Judge me and don't fuck me. Like I want people to be up front. Be upfront with who you are. Hide it. When I say be upfront with who you are, that's if you're looking to date this person, right? If you're just looking to fuck the person and you don't wanna be judged, hide the shit that you already are insecure about, possibly being judged about. It's that simple. Like, for, like, if I know my house is a mess, like, let's take this away from altars. Let's take this away from spirituality. If I know my house is a mess and I want a nigga to come over, but I don't want that nigga to judge me as a messy bitch, I'm gonna go ahead and throw some shit into a room and clean up my house real quick. If you know that a nigga is gonna judge you for your alters and you don't wanna be judged for your alters, bitch, hide Your alters.

[Weezy]

And your.

[Mandy]

Wives and your kids because they casting.

[Weezy]

Spells on everybody out here.

[Mandy]

Yeah, I mean, to me, to me, I think this, this is definitely something that like, bitch, just date a Haitian bro. That's literally my advice to you. Fuck the, the, the black African Americans. They're not as in tune. I will talk I. E. Me, black.

[Weezy]

Africans really don't fuck with spell work. So, like, my man said this to me a few months ago about like, how when he went to Nigeria for the first time that his family and this is a Nigerian man, we're like, don't let them say this to you. Don't let nobody hand you money because they're like, you know, doing kind of like work and shit like that. An exchange of energy. And I found this IG where a dude does pranks on like uncles and shit like that in London and be like, what's your name? And he'll say their name and he'll start being like, I'm going to get these spells from you, blah, blah, blah. And the dudes start running down the street. Like, he just basically freaks African elders out. And I'm saying this to say some people take spirituality and witchcraft as devil worshiping. And so when you think of it in that way, I think sometimes people can't even respect your religion until they get to know you. Like, a lot. I got a few woo woo homegirls. And to be honest with you, well, the one that's real serious, she's Haitian and she be doing my makeup. I ain't know that shit for at least a year. And I was like, damn, bitch. Okay. And she was like, yes, it's private.

[Mandy]

Nah, that shit was. That shit for me growing up was always like talked about. Cause my little sister is Haitian and so getting to know her family, oh, baby. My mama was in tune with everything that my sister's aunties and shit was into. And we talked a lot about voodoo, hoodoo, all the things. Now let's be very clear too. Altars aren't necessarily voodoo or witchcraft. They literally could just be an offering or prayer station for your ancestors and things like that. So even her altars, I won't say is spelly or witchy, but for the people that aren't familiar with that from a religious standpoint, from a spirituality standpoint, from whatever, yeah, baby, that shit gets scary. And we even in America have a thing where you not supposed to even eat a bitch's spaghetti. So if you are walking into a woman's home who has these alters, I could See why any man not only would be judgy but would be fearful in doing anything with you romantically, but.

[Weezy]

Also I think this is the thing though that makes me say maybe keep it to yourself. Especially if it's black American people. Right? Just like Mandy saying, date some Zoes. People may not understand that if you have offerings that you're giving to, let's just say, I don't know, your grandmother, he might think, well, now this bitch wanna put a spell on me. That's the type of shit I'm saying. Like, I think sometimes it's too high level for people to understand. But again, if you are gonna end up dating them, you gonna have to tell them anyway. I'd just be choosing to keep shit until is necessary it outside of Alters podcast to ask the question.

[Mandy]

So outside of alters, is there anything that you can think of that would make you not want to have sex with a girl or guy if you went to their house? Like you and your partner have, you know, sex with other, other women, Right. What would keep you? You could be completely interested. What would make you not want to have sex with them if you went to their house and saw something?

[Weezy]

A cat. Bitch, let me tell you something, these cats be out of control, okay? We was at a bitch house, just kicking it a little aft. Maybe we were gonna fuck, maybe we weren't. She started making them drinks and I said, oh, the cat just jumped off the counter where the cups are coming from. Ah, okay, okay. I said, hold on now. Then once we all get on the couch, then the cat get into attack. And I said, you know what? If the cat ain't got a room, bitch, if the cat don't got an area. When you got motherfuckers over, you need to warn me because it's one thing, you know, you need an older cat. They be chilling in the house. You don't really see them. Some people house, you know, you can smell them if they don't take care of their home. Yeah, but you know, that cat out of control. I don't want to have to find my underwear.

[Mandy]

Yeah, I, I put, I put Bodhi up sometimes. He was really well behaved this weekend and I had a whole threesome.

[Weezy]

Oh my God, me too.

[Mandy]

He was just really well behaved. So I was like, literally when everybody left my house, I was like, bodhi, you are so good.

[Weezy]

Not the energy of the cat or the people.

[Mandy]

He was so good. He was so good all weekend. I had a whole nigga at my house all weekend and he like did not Bother him at all. And I was like, oh, my goodness, you are so good.

[Weezy]

They growing up.

[Mandy]

No, he definitely is not half as bad as he was, I guess. There's a terrible twos for cats too. Bode's now five, so he's good.

[Weezy]

But Bodhi cats be all right.

[Mandy]

But them young ones, I think for me, I'm trying to think of what I could go into a man's house and see and not fuck. Oh, easy. Pictures of him and a bitch. Don't let me come to your house and it's pictures of your wife or pictures of like. Like what? I know people that are okay with going and fucking. People who have wives, have situations, and there's pictures of them all over the house, on the fridge, on the counter, on the wall. I couldn't do it. I used to be a fucking side chick. If y' all read the book, I talk about it. But never, not once did I go to a married nigga home and fuck him in his married nigga bed. So to me, that would be a thing. On some casual, like, fuck shit, you gotta go ahead. Yeah. Another thing. I mean, I'm not really dealing with married men at the moment right now anyways, so that's not my thing. But that would. That's always kind of been a thing. We not doing this. The other thing that would keep me from sleeping with a nigga if I saw it in his house. And this would be. If I'm just looking too hard would be going into your bathroom. And it's nasty. Like, I need to hair around the toilet. I need to make sure that you do not have mildew in your tub. I need to make sure that you have a washcloth that isn't the consistency of cement. I need to make sure that you have soap. And I'm not talking about the orange kind that might say dial or lever 2000. If you have lever 2000, I might not fuck you. Like, there's certain things regarding hygiene that I need to see present that if you do not have in your bathroom, your penis is not coming near my mouth.

[Weezy]

Cleaning is a hygienic thing. Besides the penis, to me, it's the bathroom.

[Mandy]

To me, it's the bathroom.

[Weezy]

Hmm. Trying to think other than a bathroom. Cause the bathroom's a good one, and.

[Mandy]

I wanna use the bathroom. You know what? Like, ladies, if you go to a nigga house, if you don't even have to do it, use the bathroom. Use the bathroom. That'll. That'll. That'll quickly let you know if you finna give that nigga the buns or not.

[Weezy]

You know what used to bother me? This is so random, but when I was younger I used to fuck with this nigga that was just living in a studio and he was like a little broke, whatever. And I remember he had a hard ass towel that used to be over the bathtub. And I used to be like thinking to myself, maybe he just leaves it there for like cleaning when he needs to clean the bathroom. One day I walk in there, I'm brushing my teeth, he jumps in the shower to go to work because he was a club bouncer. And I saw that nigga wet that rag and I said, you have been using that bitch. I think I was fucking him for a month and a half. It was the same green towel, bitch. Hard as a rock. How did it.

[Mandy]

What? Yeah, hygiene. Hygiene is big for me. So yeah, I would say that. I guess. Overall advice for our listener this week is A. Hide the shit. B. Data zone. That's. That's what I'm giving you. That's it. If you want to send your letters to us for us to give you our unofficial experted as unsolicited advice, please. Well, I guess it's not unsolicited because you're writing it into us. Go ahead and write us decisionspodmail.com and we will read your letters, give you some advice and hopefully help you. Clearly we helped you out with one of your past situations. Hopefully we help you out with this one. And again, make sure you get our goddamn book. No holds barred. A dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power.

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