Decisions, Decisions – “Roots, Stones, D***s & Bones”

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF
Date: September 24, 2025

Episode Overview

In this wild and candid episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, joined by guests Jazz and Kasha, share their personal stories and hard-hitting advice on the intersection of non-traditional relationships, sex-positive travel, and spirituality within Black dating culture. The episode is split between hilarious, unfiltered accounts of a sex-positive travel event in Jamaica and a thoughtful listener letter about spirituality and dating, leading to an honest discussion on how spiritual practices affect intimacy and relationships in the modern dating landscape.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Sex-Positive Travel & Lifestyle Recap

• Mandii and Weezy are joined by Jazz (party curator for Choco Bliss Travel) and guest Kasha, recounting explicit and humorous tales from a recent lifestyle trip to Jamaica, particularly at the notorious Hedonism resort ("Hedo").
• Inside the Group Dynamics: Jazz describes her non-traditional family structure spanning two decades: her wife, best friend, girlfriend, and now also a husband, reflecting fluidity within their polyamorous and queer relationships.

  "My wife has been around for, like, over two decades, right? She and I, you know, best friends, but, you know, have touched each other...my wife is like my best friend, slash sometimes girlfriend, and he's my husband, slash, you know, whatever else." — Jazz [04:34]

• Memorable Moments:
  • Kasha onstage at a live show, requesting a playful "spanking" with her partner’s enthusiastic support, showing off their D/s dynamic.
  • Vivid storytelling about the infamous pool party initiation at Hedo, where 27 first-timers lined up naked, took body shots, and performed group rituals to break the ice.

    “He says, yo, I need a vet...All the OGs...stand in front of...So, all the women pour the shots, it runs down their body, and all these people are in front of them…like, so it’s coming off of the body…” — Mandii [11:01]

2. Listener Letter: Spirituality and Dating

• Letter Summary: A listener, a hoodoo practitioner and Orisha devotee, writes about dating difficulties, specifically an incident where a casual partner took and shared pictures of her spiritual altars without permission. She asks: Should spiritual items be disclosed before inviting someone over? How do Mandii and Weezy feel about dating someone deeply invested in spirituality?
• Hosts’ Honest Opinions:
  • Weezy admits she finds a lot of “spiritual” types messy or performative, expressing skepticism:

    “Every bitch I know that's doing a spell don't got a nigga. Every bitch I know who manifesting, claiming-- like, 'oh, I'm doing this, I'm doing that.' They ain't got no motherfucking money.” — Weezy [17:16]

  • Both agree spirituality is private, and there’s no obligation to disclose unless items are visible (“If you feel like someone may not be into this thing, I think you put it away until...you and this person are becoming closer...” – Mandii [23:20])
  • Cultural Nuance: Mandii suggests the listener seek partners familiar with Black diaspora spirituality, joking to “date a Haitian/Zoe” instead of Black Americans who may not understand or accept those traditions.

    “If you're saying you date other black American men, I do think that maybe you should lean into dating some Zo's then like maybe…That's Haitians for the folks that are not from Florida." — Mandii [19:58]

3. Boundaries, Disclosure & Dating Dealbreakers

• Disclosure is About Comfort, Not Obligation: Both hosts believe you should decide if you want to “warn” a partner about spiritual objects (or anything “taboo”) based on how deep the relationship is, not because you owe them that information upfront.
• Dating Red Flags in Others’ Homes:
  • Both detail things that would make them walk out on a hookup:
    • Random or hard towels, dirty bathrooms, cats out of control, and especially seeing family or wife photos everywhere are major turn-offs.
    • “...If you know that a nigga is gonna judge you for your altars and you don't wanna be judged for your altars, bitch, hide your altars.” — Mandy [24:17]
    • “If you don’t even have to do it, use the bathroom. That’ll quickly let you know if you finna give that nigga the buns or not.” — Mandy [32:19]
• Advice to the Letter Writer:
  • “A. Hide the shit. B. Data zone. That's what I'm giving you.” — Mandy [33:14]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Altars and Judgment:

  “They could get into your pussy, but not get into your business of spirituality?”
  “Sex is casual, but I think spirituality is more intense and deep.” – Mandy & Weezy [18:46]

• On Non-Traditional Love:

  “This is love, I’m not gonna lie...he was just making sure you were good, you were having a good time. Do you need anything? I loved watching y’all together.” — Mandy [06:58]

• Hilarious Pool Party Recap:

  “I observed at this point was 27 synchronized swimmers end up in a V upside down...every face is eating you.” — Jazz [12:08]

Timestamps for Key Segments

| Time | Segment | |----------|-----------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 02:25 | Mandii and Weezy introduce guest Jazz and Kasha, lifestyle discussion begins | | 04:33 | Jazz describes her polyamorous/married family dynamic | | 05:49 | Live sex demonstration and description of kink at Billy’s show | | 08:15 | Thursday’s “chill” day at Hedo; pool party build-up | | 09:43 | Hedo pool party initiation, “naked newbies” body shot ritual | | 12:21 | Preview of “Horrible Decisions” Patreon, show transitions to listener Q&A | | 14:19 | Listener letter: navigating spirituality, dating, and disclosure | | 17:03 | Weezy’s take on spiritual people in dating | | 19:30 | Advice about disclosure and cultural nuance (Haitians/Zoes & spirituality) | | 23:20 | Further advice: Hide what you don’t want judged, just like you’d hide a pet | | 28:19 | What would keep hosts from having sex at someone’s house? | | 32:19 | Cleaning and hygiene as dating dealbreakers | | 33:14 | Mandy’s final advice: “Hide the shit,” “Date a Zoe” |

Tone & Style

• Candid, Unfiltered, and Real: Both in humor and vulnerability, Mandii and Weezy create a supportive space that validates non-traditional and marginalized experiences.
• Relatable and Practical: Advice is rooted in real-life scenarios, offering both empathy (toward the listener’s discomfort) and tough love.
• Celebratory of Black Female Sexuality: Language is affirming, openly sex-positive, and layered with cultural references and “insider” jokes.

Conclusion

This episode mixes wild tales from the sex-positive side of travel with honest, nuanced advice about spirituality and boundaries in modern relationships. Mandii and Weezy’s raw storytelling, combined with thoughtful advice, ensures listeners come away laughing, learning, and reflecting on how boundaries—whether spiritual, physical, or emotional—shape our intimate lives.

Next Steps for Listeners:

• Submit your dilemmas for future episodes: decisionspodmail.com
• Check out Mandii and Weezy’s new book: “No Holds Barred: A Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power”
• Join their Patreon for even rawer stories and bonus content.