You Got Decisions: UPDATE: What Did He Say?

Summary

Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions

Episode: You Got Decisions: UPDATE: What Did He Say?
Date: March 26, 2026
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF
Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network x iHeartPodcasts

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Episode Overview

In this candid and humorous episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF continue their deep dive into non-traditional relationship dilemmas with an update from a listener whose international fling has gone fully off the rails. The episode revisits a previous letter from a listener struggling to navigate a relationship defined by a stark language barrier, cultural differences, and plenty of red flags—serving up wild stories, messy advice, and a reflection on self-worth, communication, and boundaries in modern dating.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Listener Dilemma Recap and Update

• Background: The listener, a 38-year-old woman, has been seeing a 29-year-old recent African immigrant who doesn't speak English (primarily speaks French). They've been sleeping together, but cannot communicate meaningfully—the language barrier is absolute.

  • "Her question was if it was wrong that she kept having sex with him because they couldn't even really talk." (09:13)

• Listener’s Concerns:

  • Embarrassment at possibly meeting his mother without speaking French, plus the age gap.
  • Questioned continuing the relationship due to communication struggles.
  • She refers to her own "grown ass" not being able to communicate (09:42).

2. The Mascara Incident & Google Translate Argument (13:36–16:09)

• The listener discovers mascara in her lover’s room that isn’t hers.
  • "I find some mascara...I'm like, yeah, this ain't mine." (13:36)
• When confronted, the boyfriend acts out using mascara himself and claims in broken English that it’s not his.
  • “He takes it out my hand and looks me dead in the face and says, like this. And proceeds to act like he's putting mascara on his eyelash.” (14:29, Listener quoted by Mandii V.)
• The argument escalates, conducted via Google Translate.
  • “Now we arguing via Google Translate because I just cleaned your house a couple days ago.” (15:36)
• The absurdity is not lost on the hosts:
  • “Visually, this is crazy.” – Mandii V. (16:11)

3. WhatsApp, Infidelity & The Blow-Up (20:07–23:27)

• A week later, during another visit, the listener notices a WhatsApp conversation full of flirty French messages to other women with "baby" and kissy-face emojis.
  • “I get up yet again, I'm leaving because what the fuck you log out for? If I'm assuming now you look guilty as fuck.” (22:01)
• The boyfriend logs out to hide the chats; confrontation escalates into him barricading her in his apartment and snatching her phone.
  • “He sees it and barricades me in his apartment, snatches my phone and won't give it back.” (22:06)
• The listener is shocked at how quickly things turned abusive, noting the alarming size difference and aggression:
  • “She even was just saying...He barricaded and snatched the phone out her hand. Bro, she felt barricaded in his house.” – Mandii V. (23:54)

4. Mandii and Weezy’s Analysis: Boundaries, Communication, and Realism

• Boundaries & Safety:

  • Both hosts underscore the seriousness of feeling unsafe in a relationship and draw a line at the boyfriend's controlling and possibly abusive behavior.
    • "Outside of that nigga being a liar, outside of that nigga being a cheater, you just got the slightest hint that he possibly could be abusive too or controlling." – Mandii V. (23:52)

• Expectations in Situationships:

  • They emphasize that without a clear agreement about exclusivity, getting upset over other women is inconsistent.
    • “If y'all hadn't had the conversation through Google Translate about being exclusive...you getting so upset about the mascara and you getting upset about the other girls is a little nutty.” – Mandii V. (25:38)

• Language, Culture, and Dating “Blind Spots”:

  • The hosts point out the ignorance in conflating African countries, languages, and cultural identities:
    • “Nigeria is in West Africa and South Africa is in a completely different part.” – Mandii V. (27:53)
    • “Congo, Senegal, Cameroon and Mali speak French. Ivory Coast. Maybe she means Nigeria. I don't know.” – Weezy (29:13)
  • They lampoon the idea of trying to communicate or even co-parent with a total language barrier ("Raising a child through Google Translate." – Mandii V., 25:38).

• Advice for Listeners:

  • If you want more from a relationship, you have to advocate for it and communicate clearly—language and emotional boundaries matter.
  • “No matter how old you are...sometimes we don't advocate for the things that we want in a relationship or know how to clearly communicate what a relationship is.” – Weezy (32:18)
  • “Hopefully you find someone new that you can communicate with verbally outside of Google Translate. I really at least pray that for you in 2026.” – Mandii V. (32:52)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Absurdity of the Argument:

  • “This has to be the stupidest craziest shit I ever did. If dumb was a person that'd be me.” – Listener, read by Mandii V. (20:07)

• On Defining Relationships:

  • “I think you getting so upset about the mascara and you getting upset about the other girls is a little nutty. Unless you were fucking him unprotected. And then I’m just gonna call you a stupid bitch.” – Mandii V. (25:38)

• Inner Reflection:

  • “This is my final piece of advice. This is a testimony to no matter how old you are, sometimes we don’t advocate for the things that we want…” – Weezy (32:20)

• On Learning Languages for Love:

  • “If you really like a nigga, you finna take night classes to learn French.” – Weezy (31:57)

• On Co-Parenting with Language Barriers:

  • “Having unprotected sex with a man that you don’t see long term… Y'all about to communicate co-parenting, raising a child through Google Translate.” – Mandii V. (25:38)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Listener’s Story Recap: 09:13–10:59
• Language Barriers & Relationship Boundaries: 11:10–12:17
• Mascara Incident—First Confrontation: 13:36–15:36
• Google Translate Argument: 15:36–16:24
• WhatsApp Cheating Discovery: 20:07–22:01
• Physical Barricading & Escalation: 22:06–23:52
• Mandii & Weezy’s Analysis & Advice: 24:05–32:20

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Episode Tone and Takeaway

Blending humor, tough love, and real social commentary, Mandii and Weezy encourage listeners to advocate for their boundaries, acknowledge cultural blind spots, and recognize unhealthy relationship dynamics—no matter how "fun" or passionate things might seem at first. They keep it raw and relatable, reinforcing that hot sex and good food aren’t enough if fundamental needs—especially communication and safety—aren’t being met.

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Final Word:
If you’re having to rely on Google Translate for arguments, and literal barricades are part of the breakup, it’s a sign the dick is definitely not worth it (and maybe sign up for Duolingo instead).

Transcript

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[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

moved me out the house and then you wrote a letter to me in 2020 to break it off with me.

[Mandy V.]

Wait, he broke up with you with a letter?

[Weezy]

Not a four?

[Mandy V.]

No, no, no.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

It was not four pages. It was 47.

[Mandy V.]

It was. Wait, he broke it with you with a book? A 47 book page letter.

[Weezy]

What are some of the highlights?

[Mandy V.]

That's what the chapter when you were reading it.

[Weezy]

I'm sure it's too long, but what are some of the things that made

[Mandy V.]

you to get like what the 47 pages.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

First of all, he, he tried to isolate me with the letter. The first page. He said, read this when you are alone and by yourself. Just remember you asked for this. Now what he meant by that was for an entire year, all of 2019, I had been asking him questions about what was going on because I already knew that we were uncoupling because I felt it. I know the signs when the is trying to avoid me.

[Mandy V.]

Right.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

And he was very emotionally avoidant. Right. So for a whole year, stopped answering my emails, text messages, calls, and would check in when he wanted to.

[Weezy]

But how is that. So you already were living apart?

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

Yeah, because he moved me out the house while I was out of town.

[Mandy V.]

So this was before the divorce?

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

Yes.

[Mandy V.]

Okay.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

This was in 2019, in April. But I was on tour, so I was moving around, doing my tour.

[Weezy]

Was your relationship in a happy point? Was it a shock?

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

Moving me out while I was out of town was a shock because it completely turned my world upside down. And he also like displaced me with a person we had moved in with us who was houseless. Now I wasn't houseless because I Got my family in Chicago, so that's where I went back to. But you're my husband and we're living together, and you just uproot my whole life. It's a whole lot behind that. But then he started, like, dropping letters on me, right, to explain things. And in one of his letters, his whole reasoning from us moving out was, well, you said you never had your own. I want you to have your own. I want you to grow. But really, it was like he wanted his own space. He wanted his own thing. And he didn't want to have to be responsible for somebody because he's their husband. Because he would always say things like, I'm not doing this for you because you're my wife. I'm doing it because I want to.

[Mandy V.]

Wow. And so can I ask, first of

[Weezy]

all, if you're so much about the takes, why aren't you doing it? Because I'm your wife, number one. I know it's a controversial, but the way that Dr. Umar talks about family dynamics and honoring people and the hierarchy and prioritization of women, wives, et cetera.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

I wish he practiced it, though.

[Mandy V.]

It's a shock. I'm gonna shut up about him. Wait, wait, wait. So you think he's just talk.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

I'm gonna shut up about him.

[Mandy V.]

Well, no, this is. You can. You can say it here. What? What?

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

No, I don't think that he practices what he talks about. I think he's. He is a hot take. And he knows that. And he has been a hot take for like two. And I know people who's personally interact with him.

[Mandy V.]

Like he has.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

He does have. He has a lot of. And he. Anyway, child, that part I didn't know. Anyway, child, I think he got that

[Weezy]

suki with the good too.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

Oh, he definitely did. But you know, and I'm just saying that off of just optics, I don't

[Weezy]

think a bunch of people makes you less.

[Mandy V.]

Well, no, but to me, however, I will say, if you're a man who values a woman's place in a family dynamic, and you don't have a family dynamic, I thought he got married to

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

a woman before too.

[Weezy]

Girl, I'll tell you this. What do you do?

[Mandy V.]

I'm gonna be shot.

[Weezy]

Oh, if Dr. Umar White Woman, I might just go on a limb and

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

be like, oh, you must be gay too. Say it.

[Mandy V.]

I know. I will say though, because he. He goes viral so much. I think if he's white woman, she would have came out by now.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

Oh, he got her on an ironclad NDA. But Maybe.

[Mandy V.]

Maybe you're right.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

I doubt it though. He really. He really is about Pan Africanism and like our people.

[Mandy V.]

So I will say there's white Africans.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

Yeah, there is. I've seen them when I went there.

[Mandy V.]

See them too.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

The pro, I could say she was white Africans.

[Weezy]

But we're not.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

I mean I thought they were. Charlize Theron is white and South African. Elon Musk is a white African.

[Mandy V.]

Yeah.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

You know, but anyway, hey, we are

[Weezy]

also American, but we were brought here. So I don't like to act like white people have their ground and their.

[Mandy V.]

Anyhow, I'm just saying everybody everywhere. But yeah, Dr. Umar. But yeah. So him saying I'm doing this because I want to but as if he has no obligation to live out his role as a husband to a wife is crazy because you're right. He was separating.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

What this lose ass do for a living, it's a whole. Oh my God. So it's a whole backstory with this man. And I really do think that the marriage served the purpose of what I said before we got on this mic. Ego stroking. Because he grew up. He grew up in practicing Islam. So he was a Muslim.

[Mandy V.]

Man, I'll never do it again. And never again. Never again. Never again. My boy was a Muslim. Oh, what? Yes. And a girl. He was a Harlem Muslim.

[Guest or Narrator (possibly Mandy V. or another host)]

Y' all do know him.

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[Mandy V.]

You've got decisions. You got decisions, pussy ass ho.

[Weezy]

And I do too, period.

[Mandy V.]

So does the person writing us in this week. Now this is an update. So if you guys want to go back and listen so that y' all get the full scope little story, go and check out the episode of youf Got Decisions titled what Did He Say? That aired on February 25th. Now this is March 25th. You said what? So yes, just to recap quickly, let me pull. So just to let you guys know, basically this was a 38 year old woman who met a 29 year old man with no kids. However, the problem was he didn't know ingles. Okay? He was from Africa. We don't know what part of Africa. I do think that we get into that in this episode, but he's only been in the States for about a year. And her question was if it was wrong that she kept having sex with him because they couldn't even really talk. Now, she also thought that it would be embarrassing if she were to meet his mom because she literally wrote in the last email, I can't help but to think how embarrassed my grown ass would be telling his mom that I'm his girlfriend and I don't even speak a lick of French. And I'm also 10 years older than him. So there were.

[Weezy]

I think it's weird to date somebody and you don't. You can't speak their parents language. But I think that's.

[Mandy V.]

Well, no, no, no, it's not the parents language, bitch. It's his language, bruh. If I met like, I wouldn't want to meet the parents when they've been. And I can't even communicate with. What are we.

[Weezy]

You know what it is? I've. I've had. My dad is first gen, or I'm first gen. Excuse me. My dad is an immigrant and like his accent's thick as fuck. All my friends still be like, bye pops. Like they don't know what the going on.

[Mandy V.]

I mean, maybe that's a conversation for your mom. I would love to know.

[Weezy]

Maybe my mom understands him fully, which is the funny part. How the hell people mumble sometimes. And she'd be like, yeah, he wants extra ketchup. And I'm like, but now.

[Mandy V.]

But I understand it was you, but I wonder if it. But you grew up with him, so of course you understand him. But I'm wondering if that was an issue maybe in the beginning of their relationship. Like, of course she understood. By the time you was born, bitch, she been with the nigga. You know what I mean? Like, I do wonder what language barrier.

[Weezy]

I mean, my dad speaks English. What am I saying? It's just his accent.

[Mandy V.]

And look, I don't, you know, I don't even like exits, girl. I'd be like, huh, the accent, okay. Accidents be tricky. Anyways, I got a letter and read it.

[Weezy]

He kind of was just like, whatever. And then my mom read it and he almost cried and I was like, he's like, oh no, no, now I get It.

[Mandy V.]

Both of them speak English well. They understand each other differently. Girl, it's a love language. It's a love language. By the way, we do have an update, though, on this email and would love for you guys if we read your letter before to send us an update on what the hell happened. I love that we've been getting updates, by the way. So if you want to send us your dilemma though, before the update, send it over to decisionspod gmail dot com. All right, sorry. Let's get into this.

[Weezy]

That's how she could be choking on the dick. They don't need to know the same language, baby girl.

[Mandy V.]

Now this is crazy because she wrote this in bold and made it large letters.

[Weezy]

Oh, she's.

[Mandy V.]

Her first email was normal letters. No bold. This shit is thick. She said, here you go. What the. Nah, you gotta sing it in the opera voice. What the.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, no. She's talking about the tick tock.

[Mandy V.]

What the. See, I didn't know. I didn't know there was a TikTok. I didn't know. Well, she. She instructed us to sing it in the hover voice. Okay, so here's the update. This nigga don't speak English. Cause he don't have to lie if he don't. Okay, so boom. Dealing with the no speaker. English, African. This nigga is the liarst liar to ever lie. Not the Nigerians, girl. One day I came over. One day I came over his house and was in his bedroom. Now wait, rewind, because I've already been here. We already fucking. And I literally spent a day here cleaning his place because I have ocd. So make this make sense. We are in the bedroom because we started sexing in the living room, and he's got a thing about having sex on his couch. So we fuck. Okay, it's midday. I. I've got stuff to do. I'm walking. I'm walking around his room gathering all my clothes off the floor that basically got thrown around. And bitch, I find some mascara. It's Maybelline, which is not a brand I typically use. Oh, I'm like the drugstore ho, girl. She's like. So I'm like, yeah, this ain't mine. He's in the bathroom. So he. When he walks in the room, I. I'm immediately like, what's this? He takes it out my hand and looks me dead in the face and says, like this. And proceeds to act like he's putting mascara on his eyelash in a stroking motion. I said, nigga, what the Gonna lie now he about to say, he using the mascara, bitch, baby, they gonna sell you a story. She said, I said, n. I know that this nigga says, oh, no, no, no, not mine. In that dumb ass broken English voice with the accent.

[Weezy]

Oh, man, he a dumbass. But it wasn't when you was getting fucked.

[Mandy V.]

I am enraged at this point. Now I'm like, no, nigga, stop playing with me. I know it's not yours. Wtf? I immediately start grabbing my clothes faster because now all I want to do is get the fuck out of there. The next thing I hear is is Google Translate talking, saying in proper in the proper English voice. No, baby, it was before you. So now we arguing via Google Translate because I just cleaned your house a couple days ago.

[Weezy]

Just imagine the setting, the scene.

[Mandy V.]

Visually, this is crazy. Like, blah, blah, blah, blah.

[Weezy]

And then you hand the phone.

[Mandy V.]

No, no, this is all the same.

[Weezy]

That's how I know this did good.

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[Mandy V.]

We're prohibited by law. CTNC21+ sponsored by Chumba Casino she said and now we're arguing via Google Translate Cuz I just cleaned your house a couple days ago and now you trying to tell me I I must didn't see it when I was cleaning and it's not his job to go through his apart his apartment to ensure I am not upset from the things I find from previous relationships. But damn I am livid because for one I had to pause in between thought to type it out to make sure you understand and two, now I gotta wait on you to type your damn response out. This has to be the stupidest craziest shit I ever did. If dumb was a person that'd be me. Fast forward a week later I've pacified myself into saying maybe he was telling the truth Jody, my Jody. So oh oh maybe he was telling the truth. I am tripping. Where, where am I? Where, where? Now I'm back at his house in his bed Jody, my Jody. So we are cuddled up watching a movie and talking. So of course we are using the Google Translate on his phone and as I'm typing my part his WhatsApp is just steady bing bing bing oh baby you know I said fuck this translate and I tapped it when I say hoes galore and every combo was straight French but what I did understand is baby and kissy face emojis to death coming from BV me and kiss so I say what's this? Why you calling all these hoes baby? He says the convos in French are He says the convo's in French why are you assuming I said assume I know what baby looks like it translates about the same. So we get into it and mind you we are still using Google Translate. I go back to the WhatsApp and

[Weezy]

bitch hits logged down a better update than I thought. I mean no offense, it's fucked up that you're going through this but damn

[Mandy V.]

this is tea girl. Niggas that don't speak English cheat too. So she said so we get into it and mind you we are still using Google Translate. I go back to the WhatsApp and bitch it's logged out. I get up yet again, I'm leaving because what the fuck you log out for? If I'm assuming now you look guilty as fuck. He goes, he goes they're all back home so it doesn't matter I can't see them, I just see you nigga. Bet I'm throwing on my clothes and I'm like fucking done. I deleted his number right then and there and hit Block. He sees it and barricades me in his apartment, snatches my phone and won't give it back. So now we are fighting over my phone because he is mad that I deleted his number. He is steady trying to call his phone from my phone to be able to unblock it. And I just really wanted to go. Granted, he's 62 and I'm 54 and he is solid in refusing to let me out of his apartment until I basically get the fuck over it. I'm like, how the fuck did this go? So left so so fast. And with a nigga I don't even understand, to say the least. It's over. And yes, it was definitely giving. I've flown to Africa and that nigga temper flared. I wouldn't have ever been flying back. And yet let him tell it, I'm the crazy one.

[Weezy]

Well, many of you.

[Mandy V.]

She said she feels like had she let that nigga fly her to Africa, she feel like she wouldn't have even been able to. She wouldn't have gotten back to America. Which lets me know. Bitch, outside of that nigga being a liar, outside of that nigga being a cheater, you just got the slightest, the slightest hint that he possibly could be abusive too or controlling. Bitch, don't you ever go back to that non English speech.

[Weezy]

Wait, wait, wait, wait.

[Mandy V.]

What was the hint?

[Weezy]

Because he was barricading and blocking.

[Mandy V.]

He barricaded? Yeah, he barricaded and snatched the phone out her hand. And she even her even mentioning the size difference in the two of them. Bro, she felt barricaded in his house.

[Weezy]

You know what I took from this? Like it's crazy because we see images like this in a movie so much someone trying to block the door, stop you while you're moving, etc that it's almost like. I don't know, it just. I've never gotten in that bad of an argument with my boyfriend. But if, if that did happen, imagine how used to like how toxicity translates to love. Yeah, not even be an abusive man more than he thought that's what she wanted, not to let her go.

[Mandy V.]

You know what I'm saying? Okay, I have a toxic take somewhere

[Weezy]

now with her I believe. But a lot of women be like, no, I'm done, let me go. But they really want the nigga to beg.

[Mandy V.]

Now here's my toxic take on this. Oh, and Weezy, check me if I'm wrong. The last email she wrote, they were just fucking. I know they were not. They were not mad, they were not in a relationship. She even was Just saying I would be open to a relationship, but I got him by 10 years. I don't understand his language, and I would probably be embarrassed to even meet his family. So is it okay for me to keep fucking this man that I don't

[Weezy]

understand and you saying, bitch, you shouldn't even be mad

[Mandy V.]

a part of me if you're not. Now, here's.

[Weezy]

Here's the thing.

[Mandy V.]

If y' all had the conversation through Google Translate about being exclusive and not fucking other people, sure. But if it wasn't the conversation, y' all weren't leading into getting into anything exclusive or in a relationship, and you really were just fucking him and having fun. I think you getting so upset about the mascara and you getting upset about the other girls is a little nutty. Unless you were fucking him unprotected. And then I'm just gonna call you a stupid bitch. Because if you don't even understand this man, you're not gonna be in a relationship with him. To me, having unprotected sex with a man that you don't see long term, heaven forbid you gotta have a baby with him. Bitch, y' all about to communicate co parenting. Raising a child through Google Translate. Like, my advice to you last time was maybe if you liked him, to get your ass on motherfucking, you know, hooked. What's the thing that teaches you other languages?

[Weezy]

Duolingo.

[Mandy V.]

Duolingo. Stop it. Get your ass on the YouTube and learn some French.

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We will.

[Weezy]

I'm not gonna hold you while you were reading it. I was just enjoying the mess. But one of the things I actually thought of was, oh, I. Is there something I missed about them being together?

[Mandy V.]

No, they weren't literally. Her. Her last. Last email, literally talked about.

[Weezy]

No, I meant in the update.

[Mandy V.]

There was nothing in the update that they were even.

[Weezy]

Which is an interesting thing, right? Because it's like, one, you can get mad there's another woman in his life, but two, can you get mad if the way you were talking a few weeks ago sounded like you were completely disinterested?

[Mandy V.]

Should I stop fucking with him?

[Weezy]

Should I do this? And also, what if he basically was like, oh, I'm enjoying my time with you here, but I thought long term, like, you're not learning French, so this ain't gonna work out. Because assuming that he's learning English on the daily because he's working in the

[Mandy V.]

States, I also want to tell you how ignorant she sounds. Only because I'm looking back at her last email. She said, he invited me to South Africa, but then in this update, she calling him Nigerian. Bitch. Nigeria is in West Africa and South Africa is in a completely different part.

[Weezy]

But he probably invited her to South Africa. A lot of Nigerians, like, traveling there,

[Mandy V.]

but she made it seem like that's where he from. She said, however, he has invited me back home to South Africa. I don't know about, like, I don't know, maybe that could be my ignorance. But bitch, is he South African, which is his home, or is he Nigerian? Because you calling him a Nigerian in this. In this email.

[Weezy]

Yeah, but South Africans speak English, like,

[Mandy V.]

apparently only like 8, which is also weird. Well, no, I think 10 of South

[Weezy]

Africans speak full on Zulu or African.

[Mandy V.]

Well, it's not. It's not Africana. She said his language is French.

[Weezy]

That's what I'm saying. So I don't. I don't think he's South African.

[Mandy V.]

I don't know, child.

[Weezy]

That's what I mean by that. If he was South African, the chance of him only speak like, speaking like.

[Mandy V.]

Well, first of all, let's be very clear.

[Weezy]

Wait, French isn't even.

[Mandy V.]

That's what I'm saying.

[Weezy]

Please.

[Mandy V.]

That's what I'm saying. So to me, even here's the thing too, about that, right?

[Weezy]

Congo, Senegal, Cameroon and Mali speak French. Ivory Coast. Maybe she means Nigeria.

[Mandy V.]

I don't know. She says South Africa in the first email. Listen, all I know is we have to get to a point where we have a globe. We will that to. Bitch, y' all know geography is not.

[Weezy]

My mama could just maybe living in South Africa, but that sounds like he's Senegalese or Congolese or some sh.

[Mandy V.]

Whatever he is, she don't know how to talk to him. She mad that he a liar. But also, girl, you were just having a whole dilemma as to what you should do with him because you really just like that you getting dicked down and that nigga cook for you. I think that's the problem. A lot of us get into these little real casual, real flirty type situationships.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy V.]

And then when we realize we're not the only one, we blow the casket.

[Weezy]

So I think there's a few things here. And this is what loneliness and not dating other people attributes to no shade, because maybe you aren't. So when I was younger, I dated this Russian. He's really from Moldova, but for y', all, it's Russian. So I was a small Dovan dude and he was a chef and he was a phenomenal cook. And all he did was work and want to come over and like, be A fucking simp for me. Like, rub my feet, do all this shit, whatever. When he approached me one day and said, I feel like you don't really like me. And I was, like, trying to keep him. I was going crazy about him breaking up with me. Basically, he was saying to me, like, I really want to date somebody that's very interested in me that, like, can't get their hands off me. And I don't feel like you have

[Mandy V.]

that lust for me now.

[Weezy]

He wanted you to be obsessed, and I was not. I was obsessed with the chicken soup.

[Mandy V.]

I was obsessed with the steak.

[Weezy]

I was obsessed with the.

[Mandy V.]

How's she being obsessed with white people food? Where is the seasoning hunch?

[Weezy]

He was me how to make. He taught me and my mama how to cook a steak proper.

[Mandy V.]

Okay?

[Weezy]

Teaching us with the Lowry's, how you scrape, how you make sure the garlic butter.

[Mandy V.]

You reduce it.

[Weezy]

You do this like.

[Mandy V.]

Bitch. He was lit, but

[Weezy]

didn't want to let him go. And I remember Vinnie was going in on me back then. He was like, girl, you just don't want to let this nigga go because he's doing all of the things that make you feel like you have a boyfriend. And so it just satisfies the itch. You not dating other niggas because you got him around to eat and fuck you. You don't really like him, but he's just feeling the place. Oh, the way that she sounded from that last email. Bitch, if you really like a nigga, you finna take night classes to learn French.

[Mandy V.]

I agree. I said that. I said, if you really like him, learn his language. But, yeah, over there, you call. I mean, to block him, overseeing him, text other women and finding a mascara. But he's not your exclusive partner. Y' all aren't together, and you literally are just getting fucked and fed by him. Girl, you might be crazy. I ain't gonna hold you.

[Weezy]

But you know what? This is my final piece of advice. This is a testimony to no matter how old you are, because you were like, I'm gonna feel old if I meet his mama, and blah, blah, blah. This is a testimony that no matter how old you are, sometimes we don't advocate for the things that we want in a relationship or know how to clearly communicate what a relationship is. It's not no young shit. It's not. It's just literally like, we get lost

[Mandy V.]

in the sauce, and, baby, you lost in the foo foo and okra soup.

[Weezy]

Or maybe she's lost in escargot. I don't know what he is. She's.

[Mandy V.]

I don't know. I don't know either. I don't know either. Well, hopefully you find someone new that you can communicate with verbally outside of Google Translate. I really at least pray that for you in 2026 at the very least. Okay, so get dicked down by someone who speak English. Boy, the bar is in hell. All right, well anyways, if you guys want to send a letter to us, send it to decisionspodmail.com we'll read it here. And if you want to watch the full video of me and Weezy, make sure you join us over on Patreon. That's patreon.com backslash horrible decisions where again, horrible decisions exist. You get all new episodes of Horrible Decisions every Tuesday and you get to watch this the you got decisions video every Wednesday and of course the regular Decisions decisions ad. Free audio and video. So head on over there and for as little as $5 a month you can get some content. Okay. Anyways, thank you guys.

[Weezy]

Well, lingo costs a little bit more than that, so I would suggest you going over to Patreon first.

[Mandy V.]

It do. Anyways guys, thank you all so much for tuning in. See you guys next week. By.

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[Mandy V.]

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