You've Got Decisions: Am I Stupid for Sticking Around?

Summary

Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions

Episode: You've Got Decisions: Am I Stupid for Sticking Around?
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF
Date: January 28, 2026

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Overview

In this candid and comedic episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF tackle a listener's dilemma about whether she's "stupid for sticking around" in her undefined six-month relationship. The hosts explore the complexities of modern dating, non-traditional gender roles, personal boundaries, and the pressures of traditional labels. With their signature blend of humor, authenticity, and a bit of tough love, the hosts help listeners “unlearn” outdated relationship norms and invite everyone to define love on their own terms.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Podcast Vibes: Bloopers, Intros & Authenticity (03:15–08:51)

• Mandii and Weezy riff on their jingly new podcast intro, openly critique past creative decisions, and laugh about accidentally using Juicy J’s music without permission.
• The conversation veers into cultural mistakes, such as misidentifying Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s background, and reflect on the unexpected fame of certain public figures.
• “First off, our names come from slave masters. I just thought that's where her lineage took her.” – Mandii B (08:42)
• The playful banter underscores the podcast’s comfort with vulnerability and self-aware humor.

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2. Listener Letter: “Am I Stupid for Sticking Around?” (09:34–12:21)

Summary of the Letter:

• 31-year-old Black woman writes in: She rekindled things with an old high school (brother’s) friend, took the initiative ("I took him on a date"), and was upfront about her intentions.
• He responded with needing time to heal from past relationship trauma; they've spent holidays and met families, act as a couple—but after 6+ months, he hasn’t asked her to be his girlfriend.
• Friends call her “stupid” for waiting; she wonders how long is “too long” to be patient.

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3. Mandii & Weezy’s Analysis: Chasing vs. Waiting (12:21–16:34)

• Weezy’s Take:

  • Not "stupid"—but signals he knows she likes him more than vice versa. The imbalance (especially taking him out/paying on the first date) sets a tone.
  • Non-traditional actions (her pursuit) clash with her desire for a traditional title and security.
  • “When a man knows you want them that bad, they know you'll stick around for a long time.” – Weezy (14:02)
  • Relationship dynamics: When she pays/pursues, she may always have to take the lead.

• Mandii’s Take:

  • Challenges the need for labels imposed by friends/society. Is she happy, or just “lacking something” due to external pressure?
  • Asks the listener to reflect: “Sit with what a title means to you—it could mean something different to you than to your friends.” – Mandii (16:11)

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4. Pressures of Friends & Defining Security (16:34–19:41)

• Both hosts warn about the judgment of friends, and remind listeners to choose for themselves, not for fear of being seen as “stupid.”
• Notable exchange:
  • “The nut you swallow don’t make me cum.” – Mandii (16:54)
• The real question: Does the relationship lack commitment, or is it simply lacking definition? Are her needs genuinely being met?

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5. The Reality Check: When Someone Wants You (19:41–20:00)

• “When a nigga wants you, it's easy.” – Mandii B (19:41)
• Both hosts emphasize that when someone truly wants to be with you, you’ll know—it won’t be prompted by ultimatums or confusion.

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6. Real Talk about Patience, Ultimatums & Self-Worth (22:25–27:40)

• Weezy:

  • If a relationship feels “confusing,” it’s often due to another person or an internal conflict—“It’s not always you.”
  • Drawing from personal experience, she notes that when a man wants a future, the momentum towards commitment is clear and mutual.
  • “When it was fucking confusing, there is either another person or a fleeting thought... Their alignment to what you’re looking for just isn’t there.” – Weezy (22:25)

• Mandii:

  • Encourages women to ask directly: If this man isn’t ready, why wait around?
  • “If you want more with him... ask him what’s holding him up from the title.” – Mandii (25:28)
  • Ultimately, you must “choose yourself” rather than waiting for someone to choose you.
  • Emphasizes that asking men out isn’t bad, but warns about coming on too strong and removing all risk for the man.

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7. Practical Advice & Action Steps (26:19–27:47)

• Direct Conversation:
  • “Let him know: ‘Hey, my expectations are that we’ll end up in a committed relationship. Do you see that with me?’” – Weezy (26:19)
• Don’t Wait Forever:
  • “You need to ask... before Valentine’s Day... so you can book a flight for All-Star Weekend and get you a new man.” – Mandii (26:35)
• Both hosts agree: either claim what you want, or don’t be afraid to leave and find someone aligned with your needs.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• “Sometimes the way you start shit is the way shit ends. When shit starts fucked up, it ends fucked up.” – Weezy (13:02)
• “Are you happy, or is this someone else’s metric of what makes a relationship?” – Mandii (15:44)
• “When a man wants you... You're not going nowhere now. And I'm not here for ultimatums, but I want you to want more for yourself.” – Weezy (24:51)
• “You have to choose yourself.” – Mandii (25:30)
• [Repeated theme:] If you’re confused, the answer is probably in the confusion.

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Important Timestamps

• Listener Letter & Setup: 09:34–12:21
• Hosts' Initial Analysis: 12:21–16:34
• On Friends' Pressure and Titles: 16:34–19:41
• “When a man wants you” Reality Check: 19:41–20:00
• On Confusion and Alignment: 22:25–24:51
• Advice: How to Navigate the Situation: 25:19–27:47

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Tone & Style

Authentic, irreverent, and deeply real—the hosts blend pop culture references, blunt language, and playful banter. There’s no sugarcoating, but underneath the jokes is genuine support for women’s agency in love and sex.

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Conclusion & Takeaway

Mandii & Weezy challenge listeners to interrogate what they really want from relationships, and to communicate those desires honestly—regardless of what tradition, friends, or fear dictate. The message is clear: don’t wait in situationships out of fear of being “stupid”—choose yourself, have the hard conversation, and embrace self-worth as you define love on your own terms.

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Transcript

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If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?

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You've got decisions. You've got decisions.

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That was good. That was like.

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That's the jingle from like you got Mail. Like, I feel like we gotta have somebody do that.

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Like, oh, that was good.

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One of y'. All. Do y'.

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All.

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Y' all creative out there. Somebody give us a goddamn jingle.

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Shout out to Luke. And he has a Grammy now.

[C]

Luke, Wait, for real?

[A]

Oh, my. Yeah, I think he has a Grammy. And he made our boom, boom, boom. Yeah. Ho. You didn't know he had a Grammy.

[C]

Do we still start that way? No, we don't. We did a new one, by the way. Have you listened to it? It's like us giggling, and I was like, oh, my God, girl, you gotta.

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Give it away, y'. All.

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Intro of decisions, Decisions of decisions, decisions. Go on the audio. You gonna have to skip about six months. Hold on.

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Okay, wait, I see selective ignorance. Hold on, bro.

[C]

Bro, Go listen to it.

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It's not bad. It's not bad, bro.

[C]

It's so usbi.

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Naturally. Welcome to Decision. Decision. I don't think you should say decision, Decision like that. Yeah, listen, you definitely say welcome.

[C]

Welcome to the new pod.

[A]

Oh, wait, you want to say it together. Decision. Decision.

[C]

Hey, guys. Welcome to another episode, bro. That's our intro. That, by the way, you listening for the first time and me just finding out over the holidays. That's how our show start. I think we need a new intro, bro.

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I.

[C]

Wait. How long has it been like this, bro? I think Dwayne made it in. He had to use our bloopers, bro. Ew, we sound gross. This is how our podcast starts. Yuck. They said you Say welcome. Welcome. Decisions, decisions.

[A]

I should talk to someone.

[C]

I hate it. We gotta talk to Black Effect immediately.

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Okay, wait, let me do it now. Make a decision.

[C]

Mandy, wait, but what's my lie?

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Then? You gotta be like, decisions, decision.

[C]

No, I gotta say, we not making horrible decisions. No mo.

[A]

No, I thought decisions, decisions was like. When you're like, decisions, decisions, y'.

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All. We might need a jingle for that, too. At this point, we need to revamp. While we're in this good creative spirit together. We have to revamp all of our shit.

[A]

I'm in agreeance because this. This is not okay, dog.

[C]

I heard that, but it's because my Uber driver played it because he wanted to know what I was. So I told him to listen to the.

[A]

The Uber driver didn't know you, but asked, right?

[C]

And then decided to play it in the car while I was there. So I'm listening to it, and I said, now. What the fuck is this intro? I. I hate it. Sorry, Dwayne, I know you're listening to. Put this out. I fucking hate it.

[A]

Is he listening? Has he listened to anything? Because the CM's like, Fire, bruh.

[C]

I hate it.

[A]

You know what? This is why you can't give. Like, sometimes two people get a little too creative. Nigga heard a blooper and was like, let me blend this up.

[C]

No, let it bloom, bruh. Bruh. So our music, that used to be. Yeah, none of that's there no more. We need.

[A]

This is not cool.

[C]

We need to look up like an R and B singer that has the word decisions in a song and be like, hey, yo, could we use that? Because y' all don't know. We never asked Juicy J. But luckily, he never came after us. I ripped that bitch. I ripped that straight from. And then my homeboy was like, yeah, you know, that's Juicy J. And I was like. I mean, I took it from YouTube. Whatever.

[A]

Juicy as in the Juiceman Gucci.

[C]

Oh, no, no, not.

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I know, bitch. Three Six Mafia.

[C]

Oh, okay, okay.

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The nigga with one hand.

[C]

I didn't know we biracial.

[A]

So, wait, he got one hand, right?

[C]

Yeah, but, like, I made a huge mistake today and thought that Ruth Gator. Ruth Bader gave. I thought she was a white woman, but she was Jewish. I thought she was a black woman. I'm sorry.

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Oh, I was going to say Jewish is white.

[C]

I thought she was, like, giving Rosa Parks fair skin, but no, she's white. She's Jewish. Speaking of Jewish, it's only because. So I sent. I think Crystal this Video of this husband trying to figure out, like, you know, the slideshows that you give people, and they got to guess who the people is. So I told Crystal, I bet you you don't know these white people. So it got to Ruth Gator, Ruth Bader Ginsburg. And she was like, that nigga don't know Judge Judy. I said, that is not.

[A]

Anyway, polite people be so damn famous.

[C]

I thought Ruth was black, ho. I thought I knew she was for the people, so I just thought she was black making strides and differences with, you know, abortion rights out here.

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Anyway, I mean, I appreciate that you thought Ruth was a black lady because of how impactful she was.

[C]

Yes, there we go.

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But the full name doesn't give what's supposed to be gave.

[C]

First off, our names come from slave masters. I just thought that's where her lineage took her. Okay, fair.

[A]

That's fair.

[C]

That's fair.

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We'll take that.

[C]

Okay. Anyways, if y' all want to send us a question about your raggedy life, bitch, send that shit over to decisionspotmail.com because yalls letters are like housewives to me. It reminds me, that ain't that bad over here. So I appreciate these letters every single week.

[A]

I'm not gonna hold you. Sometimes the letters do make me feel like. Like I literally said to my one day we was in an argument, I was like, you know what? It's in my email talking about my man got another. I was like, we.

[C]

My nigga's not that bad.

[A]

Ain't that bad.

[C]

Not that bad.

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At least he got no other baby. But now, at this point, since the.

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Knew him two years, like she said last week.

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Okay, go, go. Sorry.

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Well, this one literally the subject line is, am I stupid for sticking around? So nine times out of 10 of.

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You, it's gonna be a yeah, but you are. All right, come on, sister.

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Let's, let's, let's, let's.

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Let's help her out.

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All right, here we go. Hello. Just for some context, I'm a 31 year old black woman. I need to know if I'm done for sticking around because according to my friends, I am. But your friends could be haters. So we're here to see if they're right or wrong. In June of 2025, I decided to shoot my shot at an old high school friend. Well, he was more of my brother's friend than mine. I thought he was so cute back then, and he's still fine as hell now. I. Oh, Lord, I took him on a date. Jesus. And Stated Mandy just.

[A]

Mandy put her hand over her mouth like something smelled bad.

[C]

I took him on a date and stated that my intentions were pure and genuine. What girl? This is what she said. I told him that I wanted to see where this goes because I could see us being together. He told me about his trauma from his past relationship and that he's still healing. I understood because I had to heal from a five year situation. So to the present moment. We've been dating really heavy for the past few months and everything is going great. We spent holidays together, we met each other's family. And now Valentine's Day is approaching and my friends are wondering where he is going to ask. Oh, when he is going to ask me to be his girlfriend? Oh, when is he gonna pay?

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I'm sorry. Go.

[C]

Ooh. Me and him have had countless conversations about what it is that we are doing. To be honest, he still has a lot going on that he needs to work on. And I've been understanding, even helping him work through some of the things. We know that everything takes time and we just want to take things slow. But my friends are making me feel bad because he has yet to ask me to be his girlfriend. Yes, I would like to be his girlfriend and much more. And I really am trying to be patient with him. But like, come on, nigga. Does it really take six plus months to figure out if you want to be with someone? And maybe I'm too understanding. But I don't mind what we have going on now. We go on frequent dates. Hell, we even travel together. Our sex is amazing.

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Who pays?

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Don't date other people. Our families get along literally doing everything a couple does. But why do I have to feel so pressured to even put a title on it? Maybe it's the Scorpio and me, because I love hard and get jealous from time to time. Sorry, Mandy. I know you don't like the stars and moons talk. Lol. But I really want him to be mine. But I'm also willing to stick around and be patient with him. But how long is too long before I become stupid? Thanks.

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Love you both.

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I'm gonna let you go first, Weezy. Okay. First off, do you think being stupid.

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I don't think you're stupid. I would never call a woman stupid for that. But what I would say you like him more than he likes you. Oh. And he knows it. He feels it. He knows it. Sometimes the way you start shit is the way shit ends. When shit starts fucked up, it ends fucked up. I said that a lot on the Show. And I think to get to the point where a man let you take him out. Now, this is not.

[C]

Oh, oh, stay there. Stay up. Okay.

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Because I am if a really with you, their ego is not going to let you take them on the first day. Not the first. It's different now. I think once you've been kicking it with somebody, picking up the check and is cute. Right? Like teamwork is a very normal thing in relationships. 5050 is very normal. But there's something about the courting a man which lets me leads me to believe you gonna have to ask that nigga to be your boyfriend.

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You have to get on one niece's.

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I don't know if he's ever gonna do it for you because he knows how bad you want him. Like for you to say the things about my intentions and this and that on a first date, it's just even though we are non traditional women, there's certain things that we have to acknowledge and admit are traditionally not something that goes on. So it's interesting that you did something so non traditional, but are expecting by Valentine's Day to be someone's girlfriend. Sounds very traditional to me.

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Yeah.

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So I'm not gonna hold you. One of my homeboys is gonna ask this girl he's dating on Valentine's Day to be his girl. Could it happen to you? Sure. Am I being pessimistic? Maybe. But the reason I'm doing it is really because of how he was sought after in terms of paying for things. Pretty much maybe the last three relationships I've been in, I paid for things with Old Bay. I paid for things with Scissors. I paid for things, you know, like, I'm not dating like super duper wealthy people. We just do well and we share some things sometimes. With Scissors, it was more 50 50. With Old Bay and my current boyfriend, it's not, I would say more like 75, 25, which some women even think that's too much. So I think it's really all that you're comfortable with. Right. So I'm not trying to shade you for paying for something, but I did. But no, I'm shaming her for like the pursuit. The pursuit just feels a little bit like, whoa. And the fact that you're like waiting on him to do this thing. I just think you may be waiting a long time. And I think it's because of how you set the tone. When a man knows you want them that bad, they know you'll stick around for a long time. So are you stupid for dating six months Without a title. No, I actually think that's right around the time that my boyfriend and I committed.

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Well. And I was very natural. I was even gonna say, have you sat with what this title means to you? Because you said that you're feeling pressured to put a title on it because everyone else around you is calling you stupid. But are you happy? Because what this is giving is you feel like you are lacking something. So the fact that you had to say, we travel together, we go on frequent dates, our sex is amazing. We don't date other people. Our families get along. There's something in here that you're not telling us that is missing from the commitment, which is why you're wanting that.

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Actually a great point, because you're making the point of, like, our families are this and that we don't date other people.

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Like, I don't know, is this a relationship or is it not? And so what you're saying, you're being pressured to put a title on it, but realistically, sit with what a title means to you because it could mean something different to. To you than your friends that are applying this pressure. Are you comfortable? Do you. Do you feel secure? Is it a security blanket even?

[A]

Oh, and let me tell you, friends will make you feel like shit about choices you make with the men you choose to.

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I didn't listen. I told y' all in 2026, I ain't got no opinions on the niggas y' all choose to suck and. Cause it ain't my decision, but if it was, it wouldn't be them niggas.

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Oh, boy.

[C]

We decide we gonna suck and fuck different niggas. I ain't got really no opinion on the nigga you suck because the nut you swallow don't make me. Okay.

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I don't know if you guys could hear the drill in the back, but the handyman are loving that.

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But, yeah. So for me, it's. It's weird because if you've been with this man for six months, I'm curious, too. Do you refer to him as your boyfriend? So I wonder if it's.

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No, it's how.

[C]

Girl, I'll be calling. I be calling my boyfriend, clearly.

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But no, when I was. I mean, I still call my. My.

[C]

But I made all these niggas be like, you my boyfriend, right? So I'm your girlfriend. You my boyfriend. And this is what it is. Just because now we got a responsibility to one of. Well, but to me, you know what.

[A]

I would start doing? What? I would start calling him my boyfriend and see what he do?

[C]

Especially if your families get along.

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I be like, girl, I'm with my boyfriend.

[C]

I'm curious what your families, if they're that intertwined, what they refer to y' all at? Because also there's a difference between your family's having been in the same space once and the casualness of it to it being a common thing that yalls families just hang out. I don't.

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Yeah, that's interesting too, because families meeting like, I don't know.

[C]

But also remember she said that this nigga is her brother's friend. So bitch, is it just he cool with your brother or is he cool with your family?

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Because why does he usually doesn't date other people? I'm curious.

[C]

Ooh, bitch. Don't have her thinking he out here. She said they don't, so maybe they said they not.

[A]

Oh, okay. If he said, I only want to.

[C]

Date you now, you know she didn't say that in the letter. This is why we might need to be.

[A]

See, y' all need to get a deeds, bruh.

[C]

I know I've been saying don't date other people, but also she used that D word. I told y' all in 2026 that word is so. But is he fucking other people? Because maybe he don't take other bitches on dates and cake up on the phone with them, but is he entertaining situationship wise with other bitches?

[A]

Mm.

[C]

Like, is it a conversation about.

[A]

I mean, she's vacationing and doing all this stuff with him, so she sees that she's taking the bulk of his time.

[C]

So you went on vacation with a married man. What the fuck that mean? We done went on a trip together.

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So. You the main. You the main. But I will tell you this. I'm gonna be 35 in a few months. And what I will tell you that I have learned that I Learned this at 30. Boy, when a nigga wants you. Is it loud?

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It is loud.

[A]

It's easy.

[C]

Oh my God, it is so loud. I've learned that now. I've like it maybe took me to 34. 35. 4 to 5, 4 to 7. Do do do do.

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When they don't want to lose you, they. You're not going nowhere now. And I'm not here for ultimatums, but it's weird because I want you to want more for yourself if you want a relationship. You sitting here saying, you willing to be patient, until when? Until he go out, find somebody else. He like. And now you sit here sitting here with pain on your face.

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Yeah.

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Like, if you want to be more with him, if y' all are going about Everything that entails a relationship. Ask him what. What's holding him up from the title, then.

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Agreed.

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And then you need to decide what you want. But it can't be to just wait around for a man to choose you. You have to choose yourself.

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And I think, you know, we have such poor dating experiences that we like to take leaps ourselves. So I think asking a man out on a date isn't terrible. Be like, I wanna. But I think offering to pay is.

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The way she said, I took him out on a date. She definitely paid.

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So it was something about the language of, like, my intentions and taking you out.

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I said, I want to be genuine and with intent and yuck.

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Yeah. I think it's like, I'm gonna cover. I'm gonna, like. It's like, ooh, okay.

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Yeah, you're giving off that you like him more and he's not. He doesn't feel like he's in a risk of losing you. And so he's gonna say he's gonna stay bringing you along until, you know. This is also, by the way, you.

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Wrote us for answers. And I'll give you the immediate one. After all this shade we've thrown, you need to have a conversation with him, letting him know, like, hey, like, my expectations of where we're going is that we'll end up in a committed relationship. Do you see that with me? I asked, go.

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That's what you got to ask to me. And you need to ask him that before Valentine's Day so that you have time to book that flight to allstar weekend and get you.

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You know, Cammie, we did Cammy Crawford's pod and she said something about getting. No, no.

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Oh, no, no.

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She did. She said, I'm getting married soon.

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She did.

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She was like, I don't have to know. It's. And you know what?

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Yep. And she got that ring, bitch.

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I understand, because I had a conversation when we were in Brazil where it was like, I don't know, maybe I've never said it like that before. Like, I already knew what track I was on. But I was like, yeah, when? Like, what gauge do you have? Because I'm going to let you know my.

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Like.

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And it was very. And I remember that nigga was choked on the fucking water. Oh, yeah. But I could tell. Can we have one of those? Because, like, as women, we need to know where our future is going, right? Like, we need to know. We need to feel safe in making decisions, etc. And I think the same for starting relationships. So talk to that nigga. And don't be scared to talk to him either. You're worth it. You've been dating him six months.

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Yep.

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You're someone that he's not going to want to fuck this up with. But you need to ask.

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I agree with his mouth. You need to ask or go date somebody else. That's what I will tell you. Anyways, if you want to send in your letter and get our amazing advice because you always have a decision, make sure you email email us decisionspotmail.com and if you want to watch the full video of us looking all natural, no makeup. A bitch got lip gloss on though. Go ahead and join us on the Patreon that's patreon.com horribledecisions where you also can get a bonus episode of Horrible Decisions because pussy hoe it ain't going nowhere. It's just $5 a month. You can go over there and get an extra bonus episode every month. And there's other tiers with blogs and blogs and all the Things. Again, that's patreon.com Horrible Decisions Bye.

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