You've Got Decisions: C0rn May Be Ruining Me! Help!

Summary

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Podcast Summary: "You've Got Decisions: C0rn May Be Ruining Me! Help!"

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF
Episode Date: July 15, 2026
Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts

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Episode Overview

In this candid and humorous episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF tackle the complexities of modern relationships, identity, and desire through personal stories and listener questions. The central focus becomes an advice letter from a listener concerned that his frequent porn consumption is impacting his sex life and marriage. The hosts use this as a springboard to discuss wider issues of sexual fulfillment, cultural identity, and the importance of authenticity in relationships and friendships.

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Key Discussions & Insights

1. Essence Fest Recap and New Orleans Love

[01:36 – 05:25]

• Mandii shares her recent trip to New Orleans for Essence Fest, detailing how the city—its food, music, and creativity—continues to amaze her.
• The hosts reflect on New Orleans' unique multicultural identity:

  "I was real in it. Hearing the white people speak Creole...they just sounded black. And I know it's Creole, but I couldn't do it. I was so thrown off." – Mandii ([03:14])

• Both express appreciation for how "everyone kind of sounds the same" in New Orleans regardless of ethnicity—an emblem of the city’s cultural blend.
• Wheezy plans to surprise her man with a New Orleans trip, emphasizing the importance of experiences like the second line.

2. Challenging Stereotypes Around Travel and Blackness

[05:33 – 12:50]

• Wheezy recounts an uncomfortable experience where a Black acquaintance dismissed her Ibiza vacation as "white people stuff," prompting a deeper discussion about Blackness, travel, and inclusivity.
• Wheezy strongly rejects the notion that Black people can only have authentic experiences in traditionally Black spaces:

  "I'm going to travel the world, not dependent on what anybody thinks is going to happen...I don't need to constantly go to a Jamaica or, or a Johannesburg to hope that I have a black experience because I'm going to find it. Because it's intentional when I land in a place." – Wheezy ([08:12])

• She also highlights the intentionality in seeking out Black spaces globally—using apps, influencers, or networks:

  "I'm going to fucking Google black parties. I'm going to follow the black influencers there and see where they're at. It's available to us." ([08:51])

• Both hosts bemoan the shrinking of friend groups as they grow older due to closed-minded attitudes.
• Mandii underscores her love for varied Black cultural experiences, from carnival to dancehall, stressing the need to reject restrictive definitions of Blackness.

3. Listener Letter: Is Porn Ruining My Sex Life?

[14:10 – 24:48]

• Letter Summary:
  A long-married man writes in, worried that excessive porn viewing is making it difficult for him to orgasm with his wife. He notes watching porn has become routine, and even his wife previously struggled with overuse of her vibrator.
• Wheezy's Perspective:
  • Believes porn can absolutely raise unrealistic expectations and create sexual desensitization.
  • Advocates for cutting back (not quitting cold turkey) and being intentional about enjoying real-life intimacy:

    "The more we see nudity, the more we're desensitized to the body...Porn is the exact same way." – Wheezy ([16:17])

  • Recommends reducing porn consumption gradually—by frequency and integrating enjoyment with one’s partner.
• Mandii's Perspective:
  • Shares she watches porn daily and uses it as a sleep aid, arguing it hasn’t diminished her sex drive with partners.
  • Suggests the issue might be more about needing increased visual stimulation, and proposes:
    • Watching porn together with a partner
    • Recreating favorite scenarios from porn in the bedroom
    • Adjusting social media habits to reduce accidental porn exposure

    "I wonder where it's something where maybe your wife isn't dressing up for you anymore. Maybe she's not dancing. Maybe she's not giving you a thing." – Mandii ([18:23])

  • Urges discipline but also incorporating porn into the relationship in a healthy way.
• Mutual Suggestions:
  • Both agree some reduction is necessary if it’s affecting marital intimacy.
  • Advise focusing on non-orgasmic pleasure, making sex playful again, and prioritizing the partner’s pleasure as well.
  • Request the listener to provide an update in two weeks for follow-up discussion.

4. Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Creating Your Own Space:

  "No matter where I fucking go, there's going to be white people and I'm going to make my fucking space." – Wheezy ([08:09])

• On Rejecting the Monolith:

  "I hate the monolithic idea that we can only be one way." – Wheezy ([09:59])

• On Sexual Fulfillment:

  "Don't let coming ruin it. Even in New Orleans, we were...we had been drinking. Maybe two of the nights he didn't even come, and we woke up the night." – Mandii ([23:48])

• On Friendship and Growth:

  "The friend group gets, like, this tiny the older we get. I want to be every single fucking person." – Wheezy ([12:10])

5. Advice Recap and Listener Engagement

[24:22 – 25:10]

• The hosts encourage open communication and experimentation in relationships, stressing that sexual routines should evolve over time to maintain intimacy.
• Invite listeners to send their follow-up stories and new questions for future episodes.

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Key Timestamps

• 01:36 – Mandii recounts Essence Fest/New Orleans trip
• 05:33 – Wheezy’s Ibiza story & confrontation about Blackness and travel
• 08:12 – Wheezy on creating Black cultural spaces anywhere
• 14:10 – Listener letter: “Porn may be ruining me”
• 16:17 – Wheezy on desensitization and porn
• 18:23 – Mandii on needing visual stimulation
• 23:48 – Mandii on focusing less on the orgasm

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Tone & Style

The episode is open, vulnerable, humorous, and sometimes confrontational. Both hosts use their personal anecdotes to ground broader relationship insights, challenge stereotypes, and invite listeners into honest, nonjudgmental dialogue.

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TL;DR

• Mandii and Wheezy share personal and cultural stories around travel, Blackness, and sexual fulfillment.
• A listener's concern about porn impacting his sex life prompts deep discussion about healthy consumption, sexual expectations, and communication with one's partner.
• Both hosts agree: there’s no single right way to achieve intimacy or define cultural authenticity—just the path that fits you and fosters connection.

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For more candid advice and bold conversations, tune in next week or send your dilemmas to the pod.

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Transcript

[Mandy]

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[Wheezy]

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[Mandy]

You've got decisions. You've got decisions. Hey, guys. Oh, there we go. See? Look. Okay. Okay. Do it again. Just a little genuine. Do a little jingle. Since you want to sit here and out sing me by the way. By the way, y'. All.

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No, no, no.

[Wheezy]

That was bad. The redemption was bad.

[Mandy]

No, the redemption. Yours was bad.

[Wheezy]

My redemption was bad.

[Mandy]

I agree because I am a baritone singing bitch. I am a T. Boz Toni Braxton type of gal, you know.

[Wheezy]

So we're back and we're up to date. Hannie, we tan. I'm tan. I don't know where you been.

[Mandy]

Don't do me. Don't do me.

[Wheezy]

You ain't got that. That same bar trip need to happen tomorrow.

[Mandy]

It's happening at the end of the month. I mean, I did New Orleans, so. Oh, well.

[Wheezy]

Tell us about Essence Fest. I don't know why it looked more fun than the year we went.

[Mandy]

There's nothing for me to tell you. I worked Friday and Saturday, and then my man came Sunday. We stayed an extra day. I was there. I was there Friday to Wednesday. I worked, I ate, and I went out. I did not go to the concert. I did not go to any. I went to one Essence Parties. It's called Queer Space. And it was really fun. It was hosted by Monica Sampson, who came on our show with Kendrick Sampson.

[Wheezy]

Wait, they both don't have the same last name. Monica Samson.

[Mandy]

One is Sampson, one is Simpson.

[Wheezy]

Samson and Simpson. Yeah. I don't even remember that.

[Mandy]

Yeah, so that was cool. But I can't tell y' all about Essence. My man came down and it was giving my man, my man, my man, everybody. I said I was gonna link up with and didn't that Instagram status.

[Wheezy]

I was on it. Mandy and I be dming now. So she pops up on my Instagram thing, and I saw El in love,

[Mandy]

and I was like, nice or safe? When I say New Orleans is now our city, we love live music. It's funny because I'm a. I'm gonna invite you that Monday that I said I'm coming to New York. We gonna take you, you and your boo to our spot in New York. We got spots.

[Wheezy]

That's really dope, though.

[Mandy]

New Orleans.

[Wheezy]

Remember after essence, I was like, I should move here. Speaking of moving here, bitch, Texas is out for me. I don't know what the fuck I was thinking. I. I don't know what I smoked that day. I said I would get a house in Texas. I lied.

[Mandy]

No, you know what? New Orleans is not a city I would ever want to move to, but I enjoy it. I enjoy the food, I enjoy the live music, the talent, the creativeness that's there. I will say I was real in it. Hearing the white people speak Creole. I don't know why I thought that was a black thing, but it's not. It's like a everybody in New Orleans thing. And the white people, right, they was

[Wheezy]

throwing me for Cajun people. Wouldn't they be saying Cajun Creole?

[Mandy]

But no, baby. Like, it was. They just sounded black. And I know it's Creole, but I couldn't do it. I was so thrown off.

[Wheezy]

That's why New Orleans is one of my favorite places, because everybody kind of sounds the same.

[Mandy]

It's crazy to me.

[Wheezy]

And there's not many places in the world where N is going to sound the same.

[Mandy]

Like, white people. Asian, bro. There were Asians that sounded like that.

[Wheezy]

And I was like, that's what I'll be telling you. When I got my nails done, it was like, Vietnamese Creole.

[Mandy]

I'm like, what is happening?

[Wheezy]

So anyways, I am actually gonna. I'm gonna use New Orleans as one of our date nights. So y' all know how my man and I plan each other a date night that no one knows about? He's been to New Orleans, but he's never seen a second line before. And they're on Sundays, so I'm a planet around then. And just tell. Our date night is going to be, like, two days, and then we're going to jump on the plane. So I think he's. He's okay.

[Mandy]

Okay.

[Wheezy]

Because I love me some second line.

[Mandy]

I loved it. I loved it. It was incredible. He went there.

[Wheezy]

Must have had a very strong orgasm. If y' all could only see the video. Head over to patreon.com decisions. This is ridiculous. It was.

[Mandy]

It was great. It was like, mind you, so good. Like, we, like, both decided to stay an extra day. We were supposed to leave Tuesday.

[Wheezy]

Best friend.

[Mandy]

We were like, fuck it, we're gonna leave Wednesday. Then we thought we were gonna leave Wednesday morning. He's like, let's do like five or six. So then we left Wednesday night. Oh, bitch. We was. It was cute. It was really nice. Let me take this bang. Outside of my face. Okay? Anyways, guys.

[Wheezy]

Damn, bitch. Can I talk about my vacation?

[Mandy]

Oh, I mean, I thought we. You did. On Patreon. What else happened to you?

[Wheezy]

Something else happened. Let me spell. Let me give you a. We listen and we judge, Bitch. I had to cut a hole off about my vacation.

[Mandy]

Why?

[Wheezy]

I don't know if I all the way cut her off, but I got so mad. So get back from vacation or whatever. We're all at a little LA dinner. I ain't that cool with her. Whatever. I was invited to the dinner by somebody else, okay? Me and her talk casually. And one of the girls there was like, fuck. Cammie Crawford's bachelorette party was in St. Barts. My other homegirl was doing Cannes line, so. And so was traveling. She's like, I feel so left out. And she's like, I think my next trip is going to be Visa. Wheezy. Tell me what it was like. So I started talking, right? And, bitch, let me tell you. How we going to bring this back to the Milk and Melanin episode with the Black and white couple. So I said, yo, this is my fourth time going. And it was the first time I really saw the daylight. And I think it's because I was in a couple like, you know, Ibiza's very party till nine in the morning type shit. And then you go out at night. So I'm telling my homegirls, yeah, I really fucked with it. We had such a beautiful time. I was like, y' all know I'm a party girl. But, like, the exploration we were doing, the boats we were taking during the day was just such a beautiful city that I've only experienced through partying before.

[Mandy]

I was like.

[Wheezy]

I was seeing a different DJ every night. I saw all my favorite DJs and the girl's at the table, and she goes, yeah, but to the person asked, you know, I wouldn't go if I were you because you like the black experience. And, you know, Weezy will stay in Europe. And I just don't find that white shit is really for us. So, mind you, let me preface this by Saying we're all eating at a Soho house. And you why you talking about how white shit ain't for us? Bitch, what the fuck are you talking about? There's the gathering spot in LA and I don't see any of us linking

[Mandy]

up to go there.

[Wheezy]

I ain't see anybody bringing up a black owned restaurant and you the one who picked wherever you supposed to fucking go. So I was like, excuse me, but you think I had to drag my Nigerian ass black ass man to a place he didn't want to be so we could be the outcast? She's like, yeah, I know you listen to that white shit. I said, girl, I didn't see one white DJ. I was in Ibiza for five days and saw nine black DJs, intentionally two on accident. I don't understand what the fuck your

[Mandy]

problem is with me.

[Wheezy]

I was like, but maybe that's some shit you could do. Because I'm going to be honest with you, no matter where I fucking go, there's going to be white people and I'm going to make my fucking space. I'm going to travel the world, not dependent on what anybody thinks is going to happen, on how I want to fucking move.

[Mandy]

So fudge you.

[Wheezy]

So we then get into this conversation where I bring it up again and I'm like, you know what really pisses me off about what you just said about me? I said, mandy and I had a guest on who's a black girl in her 20s dating a 60 year old white man, saying that black men didn't share interests with her. And I felt sorry for her because I can only imagine how much it sucks to have such a closed mind where you think black people can't exist in places that you want. When I tell you I ran into six people I knew in Ibiza that were black that I knew from New York or la. I ran into hella fans every single night. I was texting you about it.

[Mandy]

Yeah, it's not hard for me, bitch,

[Wheezy]

because I put myself in the fucking places I want to be. I don't need to constantly go to a Jamaica or, or a Johannesburg to hope that I have a black experience because I'm going to find it. Because it's intentional when I land in a place. I'm going to fucking Google black parties. I'm going to follow the black influencers there and see where they're at. It's available to us. Yes, we have The Atlanta, the DCs and the Houston where it's easy and we can be around each Other, and we're not the minority, but that doesn't mean that I'm not going to find a space for me because I know it's there. And I get in the car, Mandy, and she texted me and said, girl, you got me feeling a little bit bad for what I said, but low key. I just find that biracials really find way to find the blackness. So I get why that happened for you.

[Mandy]

Wait, she didn't apologize? She went into the biracial bag of it all.

[Wheezy]

I ain't gonna hold you. She might have been right. Maybe Mix bitch be doing too much to try to be on their other side, but.

[Mandy]

But no, no.

[Wheezy]

I just couldn't believe you didn't apologize because she really tried to embarrass me.

[Mandy]

Mind you, I told you so. There's even a stink. She didn't feel bad for what she said.

[Wheezy]

Oh, I called her on the phone, she ain't answer. She said it hit you back. I said, don't worry about it and blocked her. So then she text all the other friends trying to figure out why I did that. And I'm like, yo, I flew to Europe to go to Afro Nation, a black fucking festival in Portugal. I did other shit along the way, as black as I could if I chose to. But the thing that really got me upset is I hate the monolithic idea that we can only be one way. And that episode that we had makes me think about it so fucking much. Because when she said it, you know, I want to slap and I liked her, but I just think that's a cop out. Look, I want everyone listening to this show to know we do cater to the black experience, which we're speaking from the black woman experience. We're speaking from that lens. Most of the stories, at least on my end, are black. At least on Mandy's end, I'm saying, are black men right. Oh, list. On all of our end, most of the stories are. Most of our experiences are.

[Mandy]

But all my stories, Black men, child, bitch.

[Wheezy]

I had a stint. All.

[Mandy]

I just want to say all of them.

[Wheezy]

I had a sugar daddy in a tender white stint. But look, I still really want to reject this idea that I can't be pro black and do whatever the fuck I want. And I'm genuinely not in a place where I want to keep anybody around me that's going to act like I'm a sellout or I'm phony or, oh, you be doing this on Instagram. But you go to Ibiza, I'll be

[Mandy]

on Ibiza on Instagram, bitch.

[Wheezy]

Yes. Trap house is also the house music. It's mainly black. Some of the fucking songs be a little white. What the fuck we playing A Jeff Carlo. I be dominant.

[Mandy]

Oh, my goodness.

[Wheezy]

God. And it really bothered me, and I just kind of feel like, I don't know. I want everybody around me to be excited for who I am. I want all my bougie black homegirls to not give a fuck when I play Kodak. You know what I'm saying? Because some of my la hoes be a little too bougie when I want to do ghetto shit or go to some trap shit or they won't even hang with me. Mandy. When I want to go to, there's a spot called the District that Amber and Jacob put me on to, and

[Mandy]

it is a little hood. And sometimes I want to go, but

[Wheezy]

in the bougie, black girls don't want to go. So what the fuck is it, then? Y' all only want to hang around the athletes today?

[Mandy]

Of course I do.

[Wheezy]

Can we not do it all, man? Can we not do it fucking all? And that's how, just like you were saying, the friend group gets, like, this tiny the older we get. I want to be every single fucking person.

[Mandy]

I mean, that's why I love that I met Asia. Like, none of my friends think the juve even looks exciting. Like, I love the carnival experience. I love reggae. I love Soca. I love dancehall. Like, hello. And then experiencing juve the way that I do, they're like, it looks dirty. Okay? So don't worry. No one's with me. I'm going to go by myself. And luckily, I have Asia now to enjoy it with. So, I mean, I think that's.

[Wheezy]

That's dope, though.

[Mandy]

That's just where she put you on to your Friday.

[Wheezy]

Or you met her there. Did she put you on to the first?

[Mandy]

No, I met her. We both were booked for St. Croix for mosque, but okay.

[Wheezy]

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[Mandy]

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[Mandy]

let's get into the question of the day. And this comes from a man.

[Wheezy]

Mm mm.

[Mandy]

Porn may be ruining me. Boy. Let's get into it. What's up, Mandy and Weezy? Been a fan for years and truly enjoyed your book. I'll make this as quick as possible. I think I've consumed so much porn that it's now affecting my sex life. And I think mentally, I need a factory reset somehow. It's to the point where I can casually watch porn without having the urge to masturbate. Thanks to my Twitter feed slash algorithm, I can watch it like it's an Instagram reel or a YouTube short on a daily basis.

[Wheezy]

Oh my.

[Mandy]

I'm a happily married man and my wife knows I watch porn. But now my bigger concern is the last couple of times we've had sex, it took longer than normal for me to come. Almost like I'm becoming desensitized to sex with my wife. I've been married for 16 years, and for the first time in our marriage, I had to think about a recent porn scene I saw in order for me to climax. My immediate idea is to take a long break from watching porn. Also, my wife went through the same thing mentally, except it was the overuse of her toy instead of porn, and now she no longer uses her toy at all so she can fully be present when we have sex. Have either of you experienced something like this? And if so, what did you do?

[Wheezy]

I don't know if we're going to have the same opinion, okay? But mine is that porn is absolutely ruining it. I. I encourage and welcome porn to everybody, but I do absolutely 100% believe that the expectations for sex can get higher with porn. I had a conversation with my man about porn specifically, and he said to me, like, you know, when I was younger, I was watching that shit so much. Like, you know, you're a kid, you want to jerk off all the time.

[Mandy]

You could do it nonstop.

[Wheezy]

And he's like, because I can't get enough. Like, it's a game. He's like, so as an adult, I can only imagine that that exact same thing would happen to me. And even though I don't believe that's true because we have more self control as adults. I understand. Because his horniness, like in small situations with us, goes up. I could brush by him, I could say something. And I do notice a difference with him compared to other partners I've had that watch porn regularly or jerk off regularly where not everything excites. Excites them. If I put on a T shirt, then he start being like, oh, you got panties on. Like, he's thinking about it now. If you're watching porn frequently, maybe you need to see more nakedness and. And nastiness. Maybe you need a T shirt open in my leg spread to have more of a visual. It's almost like Instagram, how the more we see nudity, the more we're desensitized to the body. Right. Where like covered up girls or cheating the look is sexier. Porn is the exact same way. So what he's experiencing from porn desensitizing him is the same thing that women can experience when overly using vibrators in different type of toys, like the rose, because then it becomes harder to achieve orgasm. So, yes, you are. And my suggestion to you would be do not cold turkey because you're already at such a high level of watching it. Right. So I would give you a challenge of watching and cutting it down if you're at seven days a week to half, and then from that half the days that you don't watch it, try to enjoy your partner in the way that you're enjoying porn.

[Mandy]

Yep. I have a different take because I watch porn daily and sometimes when I'm at home, sometimes twice a day, I watch it to go to sleep. I have to watch it while I put my. My little womanizer to my coochie. And then that's how I go to sleep. Literally.

[Wheezy]

Mandy, I feel like you better prove my point because you need niggas to nut 10 times.

[Mandy]

First off. But I not it don't take me.

[Wheezy]

No, I. Maybe if you weren't masturbating and watching porn so much, you wouldn't.

[Mandy]

I've never been a one and done. I want to keep going. Like, I think that that's why, like, so for me, I get off visually. So because I get off visually, I wonder where it's something where maybe your wife isn't dressing up for you anymore. Maybe she's not dancing. Maybe she's not giving you a thing. Like, for me, even when I'm with my partners, like, I love Just looking at them, they. I be leaking just from looking at them. But visual stimulation is a big thing for me now. I will agree with you in watching porn does create more that you want in your mind sexually.

[Wheezy]

Like, so much.

[Mandy]

So to where y'?

[Wheezy]

All?

[Mandy]

I'm into I hentai. Like, I'm watching these and I'm into taboo porn now. Oh, my God. Like, very taboo. Like. Like, it's cartoon versions of, like, dads fucking their sons, fucking their son's fiance, and moms fucking the boyfriends of the daughters and all taboo porn. Like, but cartoon versions, so there's. They be like 40 minutes long.

[Wheezy]

One of my homegirls recently told me she was into hentai and she's so square that I was like, what does it do for you? And she literally said, which I thought was kind of interesting of a take. She's like, sometimes I get really insecure about watching other women if I think their bodies look better than mine. That's hentai. Feels like fantasy. Well, I don't want it feels like a level out.

[Mandy]

So I would say I think that that's what helps me as well. I watch gay porn, so to me, I don't feel distracted from my heterosexual sex, like with a man, because it's me and a man. I would suggest opposite of wheezy. I would suggest a few different things. I would suggest maybe bringing your wife into watching porn with you or seeing what porn she enjoys. I would suggest whatever you enjoy about the porn, maybe finding ways to recreate that in your relationship. And then I would. I would say just find a way to discipline yourself with it. Like, if it's Twitter, there's a for you tab and there's a following tab. Go more in the for you tab. The for your tab is more of, like, current events, what people are talking about. Now, if you're on Twitter and you follow a whole bunch of porn sites, that's what's gonna constantly show up in your algorithm. But, like, for me, there's a way for me to get away from it. When I'm seeing a timeline of a whole bunch of people I don't follow. So that would be my suggestion to you with these, I think is going to take time. I think cutting in half is really hard. So half, I would say maybe taking. If you do seven days a week, go down to five. If you do five days a week, go down to three. Like, if you're doing twice a day.

[Wheezy]

But would you agree that whole got to go down.

[Mandy]

I go twice a day. Like, again, if I'm napping, I'm masturbating, and before I go to sleep, I'm masturbating. So, I mean, yeah, I, I, I, I understand the concern, but I think that there's a way to just incorporate it into your marriage in a way where you find desire to do it with your partner. And I do think that, again, porn is such a visual stimulant. Maybe just make things more sexy in the bedroom. Like, I've been doing that. Oh, my God. I've been doing that. Like, even if it's.

[Wheezy]

That's the thing, though, he does have to cut it a little. So we both agree there. That's number one.

[Mandy]

Depending on the amount. Like, if you're only doing it, like, you know, five days a week, I don't think there nothing wrong with that. I ain't gonna hold you, bitch. Damn, Mandy, now you got. Are you telling me something's wrong with me right now?

[Wheezy]

No, I'm talking about if he's experienced an issue with needing more from his wife or not being able to get off.

[Mandy]

He's saying it's taking him longer to come, but that's where I'm. To me, I think you need to add more of a visual stimulant into the bedroom. So, like, even with foreign. Foreign bae. Oh, my God. I was leaking on the back of his thigh because I was massaging.

[Wheezy]

Leaking is, like, cracking.

[Mandy]

What I was leaking. And then, like, for me, too, I stood on the bed the other day in between rounds and just gave him a little dance. Like, so, like, to me, it's like finding a way to have fun in between the rounds. Like, that's the thing, too. Around can go longer as long as you're both having fun in it.

[Wheezy]

No, it's already going long.

[Mandy]

But he's saying it's going long based on how long it's taking him to come. But, like, bro, you also have to get into, like, don't let coming ruin it. Like, I. Like, even in New Orleans, we were. Baby, we was on molly, we was on shrooms. We had been drinking. I think maybe two of the nights he didn't even come, and we woke up the night.

[Wheezy]

Oh, yeah. I don't.

[Mandy]

Oh, my God.

[Wheezy]

But that's different, though, because this is. He's having a different conversation. This isn't marathon. Let's have fun. Orgasm in the. Isn't the goal. I'm assuming this person is talking about, hey, we about to go to bed. Let's get off. And that's the arm.

[Mandy]

So that's what I'm saying. Maybe he should just feel as though. Okay, you don't. The pressure of nutting doesn't have to happen all the time.

[Wheezy]

Agreed. Agreed.

[Mandy]

So maybe your. Your focus here needs to also be making sure that she's pleased and then going in the bathroom and waking off

[Wheezy]

to the to the person who wrote in. I would like you to hit us back. Mandy and I are going to try to encourage updates. We're reading one next week about that crazy ass story with the wife in the dom and her replying. I just want if you could tell us what you think, what you've researched, and if you'd be willing to cut it down and how it goes. Hit us back in about two weeks and let us know if you did the cut down and how it worked.

[Mandy]

Yeah, let us know. Anyways, I hope that helped. I feel like Weezy's trying to tell you something's wrong with you, which means something would be wrong with me, and I don't like that because I don't see nothing wrong with a little watching porn.

[Wheezy]

Oh, okay. Because we definitely can't say the other one. He's canceled.

[Mandy]

I know. I mean, bitch, bump and grind hoe. I still sing R. Kelly. Fuck you.

[Wheezy]

Okay, everybody, thanks. Have a great day.

[Mandy]

Anyways, if you want to send your letter in, send it to decisionspodmail.com where we can give you our unofficial expert advice on what the fuck to do in your life. Okay. Anyways, thank y' all so much for tuning in. You got decisions, Puss Ass Ho by.

[Wheezy]

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[Mandy]

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