You've Got Decisions: Homie Hopping

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Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions — “You've Got Decisions: Homie Hopping”

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Episode: You've Got Decisions: Homie Hopping
Date: December 31, 2025

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Overview

In this candid, hilarious and refreshingly honest episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF tackle the complexities of “homie hopping” (dating or hooking up with someone’s friend after things didn’t work out with them) and how modern dating has evolved past traditional boundaries. The hosts offer advice on navigating situationships, cheating, forgiveness, and why you shouldn’t feel bad about moving on — even if it’s with a friend of an ex. They share stories from their personal lives, debate “dealbreakers” and “hot takes,” and respond to a listener’s dilemma about feeling guilty for kissing a friend’s homie.

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Main Discussion Points & Insights

1. Year-End Advice for Women (02:43-04:07)

• Weezy kicks off with an observation of a new trend: many women getting pregnant within a few months of knowing their partners.
  • Weezy’s Advice: “If you get pregnant by a nigga that you only knew for three months — you gotta abort. Abort mission. Abort the baby. And take some time to get to know this nigga before you decide to have to be connected to him for the rest of your goddamn life.” (03:13)
• Mandii agrees, stating it brings unnecessary drama and complications.

2. Reevaluating Dealbreakers & Cheating (04:07-08:19)

• Mandii reflects on a friend’s breakup due to infidelity:
  • Her friend left a highly compatible partner over cheating, but both are now miserable apart.
  • Mandii’s Hot Take: “I believe I was one of those people: ‘cheat, I’m done.’ But now…I’m like, would I leave my nigga?” (05:54)
• The duo discuss how age and modern dating norms have softened their stance on infidelity.
  • Weezy: “I would much rather convince my friend to stay with her cheating ass nigga that she love than to convince my friend to keep a baby after knowing a nigga for three months.” (06:41)
  • Mandii: “I think you could forgive a little bit. That’s what I’m saying.” (08:14)

3. The Changing Landscape of Dating (08:30-10:48)

• They muse on how their parents’ generations didn’t face the same temptations or friendship dynamics (e.g. male-female friendships) present today.
  • Mandii: “My daddy has never cheated on my mama, but he didn’t have Instagram. He didn’t have a hinge. He didn’t have apps.” (08:47)
  • Weezy: “This is why I don’t want to deal with no millennials...we’re in between the super traditional and the generation that is fluid.” (09:27)
• Friendship circles are also different—few married friends, more single or co-parenting friends now.

4. Listener Letter: The "Homie Hopping" Dilemma (15:03-25:10)

• Email Summary: Listener asks if she should feel bad for kissing (and possibly developing feelings for) a friend of the guy who treated her badly.
  • She clarifies it wasn’t out of spite; the new guy treats her better, but she feels guilt.
• Weezy: “I don’t care about the first guy’s feelings…but yes, I look bad as a person that I homie hopped. This new guy is honestly so sweet and treats me like a lady…What do I do?”
• Mandii’s Advice: “Bitch, you better fuck that nigga friend and tape it and send it and put oops.” (16:42)
  • But also cautions: “You need to make sure that nigga ain’t trying to play your ass either and just get some pussy. Cause he heard your pussy was good.” (17:10)
• Weezy: “Why do y’all be feeling sad or guilty for men who don’t treat you well?…Treat them niggas how they treat you. So hurt his feelings by sleeping with his friend.” (25:10)

5. Personal Tales of Homie Hopping (17:55-23:43)

• Mandii & Weezy both share stories where “homie hopping” worked out (great sex or a good connection) and where it crashed and burned (e.g. being unable to be taken seriously for a relationship due to the friend connection).
  • Weezy: “For me, a good homie hop was a teammate…ended up being my first experience with pegging. So I would say thumbs up.” (20:03)
  • Mandii: “It never really backfired. But I’ve never ended up with a friend.” (19:05)
• Downside: Social circles and male pride often prevent serious outcomes. One of Weezy’s situationships was cut short because the guy couldn’t accept that his friend would be at their hypothetical wedding, having slept with his wife. (22:31)

6. The Rules of Homie Hopping and Emotional Impact (23:43-25:10)

• Homie hopping is still taboo (“they gonna never want a wife,” Mandii jokes, 23:38), but time and context matter.
• The hosts note that people are less judgmental about old college exes than recent connections.
• Sometimes, homie hopping has a happy ending (e.g., Mandii recalls a friend who married someone she met a decade after dating his friend in college).

7. Final Advice & Farewell (25:10-End)

• The hosts encourage the listener to go ahead and focus on who treats her best, not who was there first.
• Weezy: “Pass first base with this motherfucker because the other one ain’t taking you serious, isn’t giving you what you want…Have fun, sis!” (25:10)
• They close out by inviting listeners to send more letters and plugging their Patreon for ad-free and extra content.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• Weezy’s Bold Advice:
  “If you get pregnant by a nigga that you only knew for three months, you gotta abort. Abort mission. Abort the baby. And take some time to get to know this nigga…” (03:13)

• Mandii’s Perspective on Forgiveness:
  “I think you could forgive a little bit. That's what I'm saying.” (08:14)

• On Modern Dating:
  “My daddy has never cheated on my mama, but he didn’t have Instagram… he didn’t have a hinge.” — Mandii (08:47)

• Homie Hopping Encouragement:
  “Bitch you better fuck that nigga friend and tape it and send it and put oops.” — Mandii (16:42)
  “Why do y’all be feeling sad or guilty for men who don’t treat you well?…Treat them niggas how they treat you. So hurt his feelings by sleeping with his friend.” — Weezy (25:10)

• The Hard Truth:
  “Social circles and male pride often prevent homie hops from ever turning into real relationships.” (Paraphrasing, 23:43-24:05)

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Key Timestamps

• 02:43 — Advice for women in 2026 and “three-month rule”
• 04:07 — Cheating, forgiveness, and when to walk away vs. work it out
• 08:42 — Generational shifts in relationships, social media’s effect
• 15:16 — Listener letter: Should I feel bad for homie hopping?
• 17:55 — Stories of bad and good “homie hop” outcomes
• 22:31 — The relationship that ended because of homie hopping circumstances
• 25:10 — Final advice to move forward and focus on self-happiness

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Tone & Style

• Unfiltered, humorous, honest and conversational with authentic storytelling
• Empathetic but practical advice, balancing modern realities with a sense of fun and boundary-pushing
• Candid sharing of personal experience without judgment

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Summary:
This episode combines comedy, real talk, and practical advice on one of dating’s thorniest subjects — moving on to a friend of an ex. Mandii and Weezy normalize difficult decisions, advocate for self-respect, and remind listeners that sometimes, putting yourself first (even if it involves “homie hopping”) is the best decision of all.

Transcript

[Mandy]

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[Mandy]

If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend or a terrible thruffle, guess what?

[Weezy]

You've got decisions. You've got decisions.

[Mandy]

Welcome back y'. All. It's another hump day. We're closing the end of the year, but y' all are not closing your legs. And here's why we always got a.

[Weezy]

Pink and ain't, by the way. Do you have. Do you have a advice? This is like literally the last day of 2025. If you could give a woman advice based on maybe a trend that you saw happen this last year, what would your advice be?

[Mandy]

A trend?

[Weezy]

Because I. I got advice based on a trend.

[Mandy]

You got something on your mind, so go.

[Weezy]

Cause I don't know what you do. So. In the last year, year and a half, I have had four women in my life. Oh, Lord, become pregnant or have a baby by a nigga that they knew three months in. And so my advice in 2026 would be, if you get pregnant by a nigga that you only knew for three months, you gotta abort. Abort mission. Abort the baby. And take some time to get to know this nigga before you decide to have to be connected to him for the rest of your goddamn life.

[Mandy]

Okay, I don't have a trend, but now I got a hot take, baby.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

Come on.

[Weezy]

Hot take.

[Mandy]

Okay, so I completely agree with the three month shit. That's fucking stupid. I don't care. I don't care how bad you want kids and all that shit. You're bringing drama into your life. You don't know the nigga. Like, you're dumb. Do what E.K. williams did. That's dumb to me. Not calling your friends dumb. I'm just saying, like, no.

[Weezy]

Yeah. Three months is crazy.

[Mandy]

So I just did the Just Us podcast with Jacob. We love Jacob Willis. He does it with Amber. Yeah. So I was in there yesterday, and one of the things she asked me was, have any of your opinions changed that you've had over the years?

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

I said one that I'm like, oh, my. Gonna regret this later. But I'm gonna tell y' all a little bit of personal friend. We're not that close, so there's probably no one you can connect this to out here. They're. They're a mixed black couple. They live in LA or around la. They love, like, they're into some water sports, surf type shit. They're like. They love each other. They live together.

[Weezy]

You ain't got to give all these details about the company.

[Mandy]

This is important to the story.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

Okay. They have their thing. Like, they have a routine together. They're just so happy. He works in film and on different gigs, and he had a female best friend at work. Ended up fucking that female best friend. I don't know if it's been around six Months. But we went out for drinks the other day, and she was literally like, I'm like, yo, I think you made a mistake breaking up with him. She's miserable.

[Weezy]

She broke up with him because he cheated on her.

[Mandy]

He's miserable. She's miserable. He wants her back. She won't take him back. She's like, I don't need him. Fuck him. He's a liar. Whatever. And I was like, bro, you literally said to my face, is the most compatible person you've ever been with. How is there no room for forgiveness? Like, you dated how many years? Like, I get he stepped out, but there's no way you could forgive him. And so I say that to say my hot take was. I believe I was one of those people cheat. I'm done. But now when I'm thinking about this situation, I'm like, would I leave my nigga?

[Weezy]

Like, I mean, at this point, a.

[Mandy]

Cheat would just be a lie.

[Weezy]

Because, you guys, it kind of makes it worse. It does. I mean, we both had non monogamous relationships where we both felt like we were cheated on by those partners. And it did hurt because it was like, why you didn't.

[Mandy]

Multiple offenders, okay? But Mandy, watching her talk about it, she was like, yo, sometimes when I'm like, out there in the mornings and I got my surf, I'm like, literally like, please don't let me run into him. Like, I was like, yo. And she's like, I had to change, like, my social groups because we're so into the. The way they travel to Hawaii, all these different places. She's like, it's really hard to meet black men that are into the same things as me. And I'm just like, bitch, I'm not Hold back.

[Weezy]

I'm not gonna hold you weezy. This is not a hot take because I would much rather convince my friend to stay with her cheating ass nigga that she love than to convince my friend to keep a baby. After knowing a nigga for three months.

[Mandy]

I thought it was a hot take to take a nigga back. It's not.

[Weezy]

No. Keep your cheating nigga.

[Mandy]

If you love him, then I, I Right when I leave dinner, I'm talking about it with three or whatever, and I'm like, dog. And I'm just like, venting. I'm like, like, when you see somebody go through this, she's like, wheezy, I'm telling you right now, we're getting old. Just. No. She's like, make them pay for it. Hell no. But I get it, because it's like, yo, here's the thing. I believe we've all had so much trauma that we won't let a nigga do shit like, you ain't gonna fuck with me. I've been hurt before. Fuck you. I'm out. I got standards. I got this. I got that. I'm be honest with you. I've been fucking these niggas for a long time.

[Weezy]

They all kind of do the same shit.

[Mandy]

Now, I got a good nigga, and I'm happy I got a good nigga, but that don't mean in these. It's almost three years. I. I don't know. And I love him, and of course I trust him, but can I for sure say five years down the road, he's not going to do something to hurt me? I don't know. I don't know. And do what? I blow my life up? I don't know if I violated one of our boundaries and did some shit that he didn't like. Should my nigga be leaving me, Bitch, I don't know.

[Weezy]

Nope.

[Mandy]

So all I'm saying is I think you could forgive a little bit. That's what I'm saying.

[Weezy]

Okay, so in 2020, that's my trend. We are telling y' all to forgive a little bit and to abort mission. If you get pregnant in three months by a nigga you just met, I.

[Mandy]

Don'T want to feel like you're. I'm giving up on. On. On love, ladies. I don't want y' all to feel like I'm like, oh, well, you're. You can't get anybody else out there. It's just that. Here's why I think the hot take is relevant. Dating has changed.

[Weezy]

It has. Well, okay, hold on. What do you mean by that?

[Mandy]

My daddy has never cheated on my mama, but he didn't have Instagram.

[Weezy]

Not you about to blame Instagram for.

[Mandy]

Why Instagram? He didn't have a hinge. He didn't have apps.

[Weezy]

You just said that your friend's partner cheated on her with his best friend. They didn't meet on the gram.

[Mandy]

The girl best friendship. Okay, okay, but this is what I'm saying. This is what I'm saying. I just think that the way dating goes, everything's confusing, boundaries being crossed. My parents didn't have male, female friendships. That's more acceptable today. There's just, like, mad shit that's different now. You know what I mean? Like, I can't see a world where in the 80s, my dad going to hang out with his homegirl from work makes sense. But the world is just different now.

[Weezy]

I'm not going to hold you. This is why I don't want to deal with no millennials. Because we're in between the super traditional and conservative generation.

[Mandy]

Exactly.

[Weezy]

And the generation that is fluid. And we just trying to figure out which way to go. Because we still going to get talked about. If we date a nigga 20 years older than us or 10 years younger than us, we can't fucking win.

[Mandy]

And this, the other thing, your circle. All of my dad's friends were married with children. How many married friends do each of us have? I have a bunch of friends.

[Weezy]

I have friends. Two. Okay, so like and Lena, I got two married friends. Everyone else is single mothers, co parenting or single.

[Mandy]

Eddie and Nia, Keela and Neg and every. Oh, hold on. Wait, wait. When I say friend, I mean tight.

[Weezy]

Tight, tight, tight friend. That's why I said 2.

[Mandy]

Ryan knows a married niggas. Huh? 2.

[Weezy]

2.

[Mandy]

And also their relationships are happy too, which is great.

[Weezy]

Saying those are two relationships that I.

[Mandy]

Know, Alan and Sarita. So I'm thinking of three. Sorry, three. Other than that. So these are friendships between, I'd say a 15 year span and a 5 year span or no. I met Gila 8 years ago when I moved to New York. But that. So I see the trajectory. Cool. Everyone else be going through the pain, babe.

[Weezy]

It's tough.

[Mandy]

So I remember Gila said the other night, oh, I hope she don't get mad. I'm telling this tea, her man is on a kickball team and they love kicking it with kickball. And she's like, girl, the kickball team, she's like, they got an event after every game. And she's on the team too. She's like, bruh. She's like, there's always something to do because they're all single. Like, they're the married ones that are. Everyone on their team is single. She's like, they always got something to do. I'm like, yeah, my nigga ain't joining that team, bitch. Because they trying to. Every time we have a little date.

[Weezy]

Night, he's like, you'd be good, bro.

[Mandy]

Hell no. Nah, we are out in Brooklyn every night live.

[Weezy]

Listen, well, we hope that you take our unsolicited advice that we just gave you. If you don't, we're sure that we'll get letters from you in our email of you telling us the terrible decision you made and how to get out of it. If you want to send those to us though, make sure you send it to decisionspodmail.com.

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[Weezy]

Is a great way to end the year out because Good goddamn y' all just be doing whatever the subject line for this one Weezy is Should I feel bad for homie hopping?

[Mandy]

I want to say no unless it.

[Weezy]

Was because we both homie hopped before. So let's do this. Hello Mandy and Weezy. I wanted to start off by saying I love your guys pod. So I've been on and off for years with this man I met at the gym but then left to the military. We would text all the time and FaceTime while he was deployed and when he came home we would always hang out and of course be intimate. I was so attracted to this guy and gained a lot of feelings. He bullshitted me and made it seem like we were going to be something and we weren't. To fast forward, he ended up getting a girlfriend when he got home and then they broke up and I went back. He called me names and just overall treated me poorly. Now I met one of his friends which I got close to. He's really cool and always wants to treat me well. After a drunk night we ended up kissing and I can't stop to think but to feel bad. I didn't do it out of spite either. I genuinely wanted to. Should I feel bad?

[Mandy]

Girl we start talking about something else.

[Weezy]

No, I don't care about the first guy's feelings. But yes, I look bad as a person that I homie hopped. This new guy is honestly so sweet and treats me like a lady. I'm not sure if feelings are getting wrapped up, but I'm confused. What do I do? Bitch you better go that friend.

[Mandy]

Bitch you better fuck that nigga friend and tape it and send it and put oops.

[Weezy]

Because if this man is treating you better than this other man did. You admitted that he treated you poorly. You admitted that he went and got into a relationship even though it didn't last and even though you expressed your feelings. He said bitch, I don't really want nothing more.

[Mandy]

Does she feel bad for a kiss.

[Weezy]

Bruh, A kiss you Better kiss the head of that dick. So hold you. I don't think this.

[Mandy]

Now, there's one thing, though, sister, before we fuck a n. Historically, they treat us real good before it go in facts. So you saying the feelings is getting there and shit like that. You need to make sure that nigga ain't trying to play your ass either and just get some pussy. Cause he heard your pussy was good.

[Weezy]

Cause they could have had a conversation. And clearly this other guy only wants sex with you.

[Mandy]

Well, we don't know if the other guy. Oh, you mean the first one.

[Weezy]

The first one. Right, right.

[Mandy]

So we don't know if the new.

[Weezy]

Nigga, like, if they had a conversation about you. And now unless you're a rapper and.

[Mandy]

Athlete, a lot of these n don't want to be like, oh, I'm not about to date him. I'm not going to wife her. He had her first. Da, da, da.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I don't know. I guess. Let me ask you, like, how good.

[Mandy]

Of a friend, too.

[Weezy]

And we. We can both share stories. Has homie hopping ever ended really, really good? Like, was it a really good decision? And on the other side, when did homie hopping for you become regrettable? I have two examples for both as well.

[Mandy]

I told you on Cammie's show, I don't regret it because it was old Bae's friend, okay? And he deserved it.

[Weezy]

But you did it out.

[Mandy]

I was kind of.

[Weezy]

She did. This was. Yeah, this was. She's saying that she's not doing this out of spite. So you homie hopped one time out of spite. You don't regret it?

[Mandy]

No.

[Weezy]

Was there a homie hop that you did regret?

[Mandy]

It's hard to go back. When I was on my real ho, I was younger. Like, there's. I feel like there's a. That's gonna come up to me one day and say, we. I'm be like, no, we didn't. He gonna hold up the phone, be like, so this ain't your number. I really. Did I ever regret the thing that's most regretful for me? When I was young and dumb, if my homegirls knew a trick ass, maybe I would have with one of them or something like that. And it was like, you know, club. But that's not. Then I would honestly say no. It never really backfired. Okay. But I've never ended up with a friend.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

I will tell you this why I feel that she's, like, feeling the most feelings. The most recent situation I had was a few years ago, maybe a 2022 situation where there was a nigga that Obey knew, and it wasn't that one, but me and him were having, like, a really strong chemistry, and I always thought he was attractive. When I was dating Obey, I think the chemistry was only strong because you were like, well, now it's time we could if we wanted to. But it never made me feel like, oh, it's him. Like, I began butterflies that I sparked like a car. So I feel like when.

[Weezy]

When.

[Mandy]

When something is forbidden and bad, it's more exciting.

[Weezy]

Okay, okay.

[Mandy]

Knowing that the reason y' all know each other is from a person you used to fucking is kind of like, ooh, okay.

[Weezy]

I'm not mad at that. I'm not mad at that. For me, a good homie Hop was a teammate. That nigga, he introduced me as a friend, so his bad. And that teammate ended up being somebody that I dealt with for years.

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[Weezy]

And he was the first guy that I got to peg. So to me, that was a good homie hop. Like, I went from one motherfucker to the next, and that person actually was my first experience with pegging. So I would say that. Homie Hop, thumbs up, the thumbs down. Homie hop was one that I shared on this podcast multiple times. I slept with this other guy, athlete. It was the worst dick I ever got in my life. Terrible. Wouldn't recommend. What's funny about that is just found out a homegirl recently is fucking him now, and it's still bad. So to know that 15 years older, the dick still sucks. Crazy.

[Mandy]

Is this the one with the attractive baby mama?

[Weezy]

No, he doesn't have a baby mama. Oh.

[Mandy]

There was a nigga you fucked years ago, and I was like, oh, my God, he's so cute. And he was an athlete. And you were like, terrible. It was terrible.

[Weezy]

And, you know, that might be the.

[Mandy]

Wait, let me go in the chat.

[Weezy]

Wait, no, wait.

[Mandy]

Public. Can people see it?

[Weezy]

Which one you talk. No, they can't see this. Which one you talk about? I never him.

[Mandy]

I was another cute from back then.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I ain't never that, y'. All. I'm just gonna say it. Cause she put it in the chat. She thought I d. Rose, girl, that is not.

[Mandy]

It was someone else from that time, and he was really silent.

[Weezy]

I'm about to type it in the chat. This O. Terrible dick. Anywho. So I ended up dealing with one.

[Mandy]

I heard he got terrible dick from somebody else, too. So I know you.

[Weezy]

It's terrible. One of my homies, I ended up fucking with one of his Childhood friends. And we ended up dealing with each other for years.

[Mandy]

His childhood friend.

[Weezy]

Yeah, girl. And when I say I thought me and this man was gonna be together.

[Mandy]

No.

[Weezy]

Really, really liked him. And when we got to really, like getting on that level, like, girl, I met his family. I was going to. I can't even say what city. Cause now it's gonna give it away. But I was going to his city. And, you know, all the things, you.

[Mandy]

Know, small city, too. It ain't like she could say Atlanta. It's something.

[Weezy]

Like, it's a lit city. But he was like, I know that you slept with my friend. And so my mind goes to. If we ever get married, I had to know that a man who would be considered one of my best men, my groomsmen, slept with my wife. And I don't think I could ever get past that. And so, because he could never envision even a wedding because he knew that someone at his wedding would have fucked his wife, he's like, I don't think we can really ever go forward. And, baby, I was distraught. Mind you, this is pre pandemic. This is pre. My ex that I was with for bad years or whatever. But this was a n that went from kind of like a fuck buddy situationship to a situationship to, let's just be together. And we even had the same career path at one point. And I was just throwed, y'. All. I was motherfucking throwed. And that homie hoppy situation clearly ended up not good. So thumbs down, do not recommend.

[Mandy]

So it's the same thing. I thought. It's like, then they gonna never want a wife.

[Weezy]

Yeah. So. Yeah. I mean.

[Mandy]

But I did go to a Nigerian wedding recently, and I'm not even lying to you. One of the girls there was with another family member when I first started dating my nigga. And I was like, whoa.

[Weezy]

But maybe you could cousin hot.

[Mandy]

Oh.

[Weezy]

Or like, third cousin.

[Mandy]

Like, that's not worse.

[Weezy]

No, you're right. That's family. Okay.

[Mandy]

That's worse.

[Weezy]

That's worse, that's worse. But if they don't have the same last name, I don't think it's that bad. That would be considered homie hopping then.

[Mandy]

Oh, yeah. It's like we all aunties. That's true. Yeah.

[Weezy]

Like, if it's a different last name. But also, this is some ho shit advice. Sorry.

[Mandy]

Who got married to a homie hop.

[Weezy]

See, like, some homie hops end out well. I would say.

[Mandy]

I don't know if it counts. Okay. Their story, it's not one of the people I dated.

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[Mandy]

All. Sorry it's not Syreta, Nia, or Gila. But I remember she and I were talking about it because she was like, oh, I met him 10 years before we got married. And I was like, shut the fuck up. Were you dating someone else? And she said, I sure was. And that's when I found out. So she said when they were in college. They're in their 40s now. When they were in college, she was fucking. One of his friends broke up. They both ended up moving to New York, met through the app, and he was like, I know you. And she's like, I know you, too. Boom. Yeah.

[Weezy]

So you don't count exes from high school and college? I don't think so.

[Mandy]

All right, well, I thought to make.

[Weezy]

It less homie hoppy ish. Anyways, our advice to you is move forward, pass first base with this motherfucker because the other one ain't taking you serious, isn't giving you what you want. And also, you admitted that he treats you poorly. Why do y' all be feeling sad or guilty for men who don't treat you well? Make it make sense. You need to treat them niggas how they treat you. So hurt his feelings by sleeping with his friend. That is our final advice to you, and we welcome this activity into the new year. Have fun, sis. Anyways, again, if you want to send your letters over to us, send it over to Decisionspot at gmail. Y' all can hear this every Wednesday on our feed. And if you want to watch the video, go ahead and join us over on Patreon. That's patreon.com backslash horrible decisions for the $15 tier, which is where you get all of the video content. So $15 a month gets you the video to all of our bonus episodes, our ad free video and audio to our decisions decisions episodes and and Weezy and I are bringing you vlogs in 2020.

[Mandy]

And the ad free shit is honestly the best value to me. It is because every time I play our podcast. Oh, nevermind. Love you, Charlamagne.

[Weezy]

But also, if you know we understand the recession is hitting Everybody just for $5 a month, you do get all of the content ad free. You also get an additional bonus episode a week, which is horrible decisions. So if you miss the sex, the raunch, the X rated things, and all of our sex capades, you can go on over and hear those now on Patreon. Anyways, guys, we want to wish you all a very happy New Year. Make sure y' all make the motherfucking Black Eyed Peas. Make sure you have your vision board parties set within this week or next week and also if you are going out for New Year's, get your ass a designated driver or get them coins ready for Uber Lyft her whatever rideshare app you take. Please please please Waymo do not drink and drive. Get in Waymo Trust trust the no driver car but please please please do not be out here drinking and driving. Anyways guys we want to wish you guys a happy New Year. Bye guys.

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