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Wheezy
If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what? You've got decisions, y'all. I have to just start this off the top because this tea is so hot and I'm so glad that I have Jacob here with me. Jacob Willis from the Just Us pod. And what's your other pod called?
Jacob
On My Own.
Wheezy
On My Own pod. I'm in la, so Mandy is unable to be here. But this tea is so hot and. Ooh. Are you ready?
Jacob
I'm ready. Let's go.
Wheezy
Sorry for the long DM wheezy, but I really need help. It wasn't even that long. Right off the top. This is from a man. I just recently found out that my wife and my sister in law get drunk and sometimes kiss. We've been married for six years with two kids and a pretty normal sex life. My brother and his wife live about a two hour drive away, so whenever we get the kids together, one of us usually stays at the other's house for the night. My wife has been going bi weekly to stay upstate while the kids play with their cousins. Recently we installed a baby camera as my daughter has asthma shout out to the wheezy girls and we'd been wanting to watch her. I could literally see on the camera my wife and my sister in law sitting at the edge of the bed kissing while my daughter was going to sleep. A year ago they got drunk on IG Live and played a truth or dare game. And when someone asked if they'd ever messed around because of their chemistry, according to my homeboy, I didn't see this for myself. My sister in law said what else will we do when the kids are asleep? What makes this worse is is that I had also found out about a kiss after watching a movie where my children said that's what auntie and mom do. I thought it was a joke. On top of the fact that all of this is unbelievable, my wife had recently asked me for a threesome with another woman. A year ago she mentioned that she wanted the woman to come in me to come in blindfolded so her and the woman could take advantage of me and the woman would leave. Here is my dilemma. 1. What do I do? 2. Do I tell my brother? 3. How do I approach this situation? 4. I have not told my wife.
Jacob
Damn, that's D.
Wheezy
Let's start with number one. What do I do? I feel like I don't know if y'all got this from reading it, but I feel like he was turned on by it.
Jacob
I feel like he was confused more so about it. But he ain't saying nothing. So maybe he is really liking it secretly. Because what advice would you need? Any other man would be furious and nip it in the bud. He just let it go on and on and on.
Wheezy
Okay, you said nip it in the bud. The first thing my man said last night when I was reading this, and I couldn't believe it. He was like, I would leave you if you slept with. He nailed it.
Jacob
That's what I mean. Address it at hand. Like, nip it in the bud.
Wheezy
He's like, can you imagine?
Jacob
That's disgusting.
Wheezy
Taking the kids over there and then.
Jacob
You fucking her in front of my.
Wheezy
Daughter on the edge of the bed. Okay, the other thing, when she said the blindfold thing, I think that it.
Jacob
Would have been his sister right now.
Wheezy
Do you tell the brother, man, that's deep.
Jacob
I think you should. They watch the pod.
Wheezy
I mean, the man do. Oh, my God. Not the wife. There's no way the wife.
Jacob
Oh, no, I'm talking about the man. He broke this in.
Wheezy
This is sent in.
Jacob
Oh, listen, if you want to stay with her, you need to seek therapy and deliverance, because that's sick as fuck, really.
Wheezy
If he wants to stay with her. There's no forgiveness here.
Jacob
No, absolutely not.
Wheezy
Why? Because it's the brother's wife or because the kid being on the edge of the bed or them being on the edge of the bed.
Jacob
The edge of the bed. And then also that's your family member that you're kissing. That's disgusting. It's a sister, right? Of the wife.
Wheezy
Sister in law.
Jacob
In law.
Wheezy
Oh, it's his brother's wife.
Jacob
That's still disgusting. I don't. You gonna let you gonna stay? Would you stay?
Wheezy
No. But then I started to think, right? One, they're going too far. But I was like, okay, I wouldn't want to stay. But if they said they've been together six years, I can't remember how many kids. I don't know when women are exploring or when men are exploring. Maybe you don't know how else to do it.
Jacob
Girl, you saying that cause you bisexual. Let me tell you something, what they look like. If you love. If you love her, you know, you don't want to leave your, you know, break up your happy home. Dysfunctional home. I would definitely have that conversation. It just. There has to be a conversation. You have to let her know that you know and how it makes you feel.
Wheezy
But see why it's so fucked up is cause. No, they're not blood related, but this is his brother's wife. Now you involving my family in it, I got to leave you. My brother got to leave his wife. The kids get affected to do it so that he saw it on the baby cam. That was crazy.
Jacob
Yeah, that would have done it for me. I would have laughed for sure.
Wheezy
If you were so scared about the daughter's health that you gotta sleep in the room with her, you couldn't even give that a fucking second before you had to go start fucking with this bitch.
Jacob
Right?
Wheezy
That's disgusting to me.
Jacob
But the fact that he saw it on a baby cam and he hasn't said nothing. He is low key. You're low key. Turned on by that.
Wheezy
That's what I was thinking.
Jacob
You're low key. Freak. I see what you're doing here.
Wheezy
Maybe.
Jacob
Okay. Did you. Did you think we were gonna be turned on with you by sending this in?
Wheezy
I think that's what I thought. The blindfold in Vanity was crazy.
Jacob
The blindfold? Yeah. What did he do with the blindfold? That was going to be the sister in law.
Wheezy
So he said that it's been going on for a year. She's been asking for a threesome. Right. Now, here's the layers. 1. When it comes to coming out, when it comes to discovering sexuality, is there any grace given for being private, being confused? Not like, what are some things maybe you've experienced with friends or people you've met with, like, how far they've gone.
Jacob
Like, with their sexuality when they're with somebody else?
Wheezy
Yeah.
Jacob
Me personally, I dated a guy and he had sex with a girl and started seeing her more than me.
Wheezy
He had never been with a woman.
Jacob
No. But he met a girl and was like, actually, I think I kind of like her, but we're together. But he was like, I don't want to leave you, but I think I'm a little more bisexual. So for me, I think it just broke me because I'm like, well, I can't get pregnant, but she can. That's my only problem with that. But now I'm like, open to it. I feel like a lot of people will go deep because they want to just kind of like, you know, touch the water. But for me, I just feel like if there's a communication, I wouldn't mind. But as far as going like and fucking another person, that's where I cross.
Wheezy
The line that, you know, I mean, but here's the thing. We don't know if they fucked is the kissing okay? Because the kissing ain't okay to me.
Jacob
They only show enough on a baby camp. I mean they ain't gonna do all.
Wheezy
Of it in the baby camp. But I mean to not even realize you got access on your phone to this fucking camera. So here's the other thing.
Jacob
And they know the camera's in there. So do they know that he knows too?
Wheezy
I don't think they know.
Jacob
Surely they don't think that he ain't gonna look at the camera.
Wheezy
Cause a baby cam nowadays, if no one knows or you haven't seen it recently. I actually just saw this and I was judging this AVN weekend, we're talking to this Korean couple and on the table is a baby sleeping and a little camera. I was like, oh my God, you're spying on the nanny. She's like, no, she's upstairs, she's five. And so me and my dad are like, are we judging this bitch? They had to leave their kid upstairs, but they're watching the kid on the. So what do you do? So basically it's on your phone. So what I think happened is they have the camera on for everybody does in case they hear her do something. And the husband went in and looked. Now I have a few feelings about the family thing. One, I would feel so violated. One, you gotta tell you now share this thing with your sibling. Like both of our spouses are fucking each other. That's insane. Two, I think when fidelity infidelity comes to at the sake of your children. Now I feel like you're so sex brained you can never think clearly. There's nothing rational but the fact that.
Jacob
The child knows that they kiss. Didn't you mention the oh my God.
Wheezy
Watching a movie and he thought it was a lie, right?
Jacob
So for me that's, that's crazy. Hold on, that's the eye opener right there.
Wheezy
The question number two, do I tell my brother? Now I'mma tell you this sir, if you at the point where you write into a podcast, I know you don't know what to do. And I ain't going to lie to you, I don't know what to do either. But for you to have held this water almost makes me question if you're even that mad. I think there's a part of you that must feel safe because it's your sister in law. Whereas most people would be even more mad. I think one, you're slightly turned on cuz she's been building this fantasy up of a threesome. I think two, you're like if she gonna do it with anybody, it might as well be her.
Jacob
I really feel like he is seeking you for the answer. Because if he wanted to leave her, he would have already done it. He just want to hear you say, you know what, thug it out. That's what he needs to need your confirmation.
Wheezy
You think for real?
Jacob
Yes, for real. That's why he wrote into this podcast. He needs that cushion. He needs that, the verification.
Wheezy
That's not my. No, you do not thug it out. I think for someone to be going away, he said that they drive two hours upstate to be together. Hell no. Like you can't just fuck this bitch without my kids involved in it. No, hell no. No, no. You know who else she gonna fuck when you take her back? They high school teacher, when they 16. Everybody. If your mama and daddy still alive, she gonna try to get that too. Hell no. I really think like there should be no. For me it's like my enemies, my colleagues and family, them, the three UK fuck.
Jacob
Right? But my thing. Were they doing it before the marriage?
Wheezy
Six years.
Jacob
Yeah, they were doing this before. This ain't nothing new. They just got. Finally got caught. They've been doing this. They've been had a little love triangle. Yeah. They've been bumping coochie. This ain't nothing new. When I tell you, and you probably knew that too. You just didn't think that you was gonna. She probably stopped. But then you caught her again. But now you don't want to say nothing. Cause you lowkey turned on about it. That's what I thought.
Wheezy
Oh, he 100%. He low key turned on. This is like steps, step, step, step fantasy.
Jacob
Yeah.
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Wheezy
Now, if you knew, let's just say you were gonna forgive your wife. Your brother's got three kids. I don't know how many kids the brother got, but would you tell him or would you be like, damn, I Don't wanna fuck up everybody's house.
Jacob
I'm a Virgo. I know that doesn't matter to a lot of people. What's mine is mine. I'm in love. Like if I love you, I love you, nobody can touch you, kiss you. None of that. Like we could play around. But if. Especially if it's family member, I'm going to tell. I'm gonna definitely tell the brother in law because it's right of them or we gonna. I'm gonna blow the place up.
Wheezy
Cause imagine if your brother, six years.
Jacob
You'Ve been lying and he's like, you knew but you didn't tell me. So now you're wrong too. No. Oh, damn. I ain't even plot twisted.
Wheezy
I would tell my brother when she's sleeping over. That was also something I thought was weird. Like why does the wife sleep over? Maybe not. Maybe not. If we live two hours away and my kids going to visit their cousin. Maybe I'm asleep in the guest room. That's not weird, I guess.
Jacob
No.
Wheezy
I'm now sexualizing everything. Are you telling your brother? No.
Jacob
Oh, I don't know.
Wheezy
You don't know? I mean, I think circumstances different. Okay. So I have this thing where I recently went to a sex club and saw a friend have sex.
Jacob
Girl or guy?
Wheezy
Excuse me? Girl have sex with another man. Her boyfriend is my friend now. I didn't say anything, didn't want to say anything for one main reason. I felt like I just walked in a space where everybody's supposed to be safe. And now I'm going to be the person that outs you. And that was the main reason I didn't do it. I was confused because she gives openy rhymes. He doesn't. Ran into him, started talking about it and found out they're monogamous. So that hurt. I called my boyfriend to talk about it and he was like, teammate, I want to tell you, he's. He's allowing her to fuck other niggas. Like, don't bring it up. That might be a secret. That's private for them. You have no idea how they carry on their relationship. No. And guess what? You gonna say that and they still gonna be together. And then you gonna be the bitch that told. So as far as the brother, I feel like you have to because the kids are involved.
Jacob
Yeah. Cause that's totally different. We talk about kids now, but little Elizabeth is over there sleeping and you're kissing at the edge of my bed. Absolutely not. Buttercup.
Wheezy
Can you imagine? She woke up wheezy mommy Auntie. But also the kids probably don't think nothing about the affection because they're family, right? Yeah. No, Would you tell? Yeah, I would tell.
Jacob
Oh, okay.
Wheezy
But I recently have been thinking about that story with my friend and the girlfriend. Because I didn't tell, and I'm starting to wish I told.
Jacob
Really? Why is that?
Wheezy
Catching a friend's partner out doing something? If it were me and you found out my nigga was up in that motherfucking sex club fucking some bitch. Oh, no. And it was fucking hard. Jacob, when I tell you it was fucking hard. They were fucking so hard. Kazumi, you know, the porn star? She was in the sex club. We were all, like, chatting together. She was like. That was how I looked. She was like, he fucking the shit out of that girl. Then I look.
Jacob
That hurts bad. Deep. Damn. But I'd rather you see it than, you know, they see it. But I know you scarred from that. So are you gonna go back and tell?
Wheezy
No, kid. It was six months ago.
Jacob
Oh, okay.
Wheezy
But wait, see, can I. Cause there's a statute of limitations on the tail. Cause now I'm gonna be like, oh, well, you ain't say nothing for six months.
Jacob
Fuck you, right? How close are you with his friend?
Wheezy
Close enough.
Jacob
Okay.
Wheezy
We talk every week.
Jacob
Okay. Yeah. I'll just leave it alone. It's six months didn't pass. She's like, wheezy, like, you're my girl, and you're waiting six months to tell me. Like, I don't want to fuck with any bitch that sees my man out and doesn't tell me up front.
Wheezy
Do you know this is the second time this happened to me, by the way? The first time that this happened, I wrote the person. I was like, hey, saw you. Whatever. And she was really nice about it. This next time that it happened, I was like, is this a sign I'm supposed to be telling her or not going to sex clubs? Because when you go into a sex club, you've been to one, I'm assuming.
Jacob
Yeah. Oh, excuse me. All the time, honey.
Wheezy
So you know how they do a speech?
Jacob
Yes.
Wheezy
And they're basically talking about privacy. No phone. Oh, always about.
Jacob
I never been to one that did a speech. Maybe because I only go to the gay bathhouses. I've never been to an actual, like, sex club where there's women I never been. I get invited, but I never go to.
Wheezy
Okay, then what's your sex club experience?
Jacob
Well, you go inside. This is most gay sex clubs. You go inside and you check in, you get a locker or room. There's lubricants, they give you lubricants, towel, a key. You can buy poppers, all of the things you go inside. If you get a locker, you just go take a shower, you walk around, there's glory holes. There's like porn rooms and stuff like that. People have their door open so you can go in. Like if their doors open, they're laying down on all fours. You go in there.
Wheezy
How is the door open? How is there a bunch of rooms in a bathhouse? What are the rooms supposed to be for? Massages?
Jacob
No, it's for you. Like if you want to spend the night there or if you want to bring somebody in your room and have your privacy, you can literally go in there and close the door. Or if you're like traveling, you know, because you're up, I think you have to. You have up to about five hours and then that's when your, your thing expires. So a lot of people that travel, they like to do that. A lot of men, straight men that have corporate jobs and they just want some head. That's where they go. They go to the gate. Cuz it's no woman allowed. It's strictly men. You go inside, there's glory holes. Yeah, that's my experience.
Wheezy
I just saw glory holes.
Jacob
There are snacks too in there too. I don't know about y'all, but we got snacks.
Wheezy
Okay, let. Let me show you this glory hole. I went to go on Sex Sells. Julie Ginger is her name. She's a BBW that has a company called BBW Angels. And we covered the fact that she directs Glory Hole porn. I cannot even believe I was looking at this. Look at this. This so goddamn crazy. Oh, she's instructing her. You know, talk, talk and spit. And there you go. And that's what I need you to do. Okay? If I need anything to change up, I'll let you know. All right? All right, go ahead, do your thing, girl. This is so crazy, right?
Jacob
I know. I knew your cameraman was turns off.
Wheezy
Oh, oh, I know they was. Wait, look at the guys getting ready.
Jacob
So you know how to suck dick and you know how to like, verbal.
Wheezy
You see how they're rubbing themselves to get ready for the glory hole. The glory hole, though, no shade, Julie. It was a little seedy in a sexy way. So like when I get to it, there was cum all over it and spit.
Jacob
So do they not clean it up for the next.
Wheezy
So she was like, oh, well, you can. You take the fabric off and you clean them she's like. But that's kind of the fun part is the dirtiness a little.
Jacob
Oh, okay. That's the shit they hear. We listen and we don't judge. Unless you ask for an opinion.
Wheezy
No kink shaming.
Jacob
No kink shaming.
Wheezy
Anyway, quick follow up before we get out of here. If he decides to forgive, what are the boundaries he now needs to have?
Jacob
Okay, I would say if you guys are going to do this, because I feel like he can't stop this at this point. I mean, six years. They're gonna find a way. Just communicate. I mean, communicate. Let me know or don't let me see it. Just don't let me see it.
Wheezy
And keep fucking the sister in law. Are you crazy?
Jacob
He's not gonna stop doing it. She's been doing it for all this time.
Wheezy
She'll stop doing it.
Jacob
She knows she wrong. You think so?
Wheezy
No. When you start cheating and you really get caught up and you think you gonna lose somebody. Yeah. You stop fucking that person or you.
Jacob
Get more turned on. Cause it's like, oh my God, he knows. Let me sneak into it. People have that. That kind of turns.
Wheezy
Okay, my boundary will be she can't. You all can't be a lump and get them no more.
Jacob
Yeah, yeah, I like that boundary.
Wheezy
Your T mobile minutes in night calls and see if you want to phone this bitch.
Jacob
Right. Somebody adult has to be present at all times when we're together.
Wheezy
I say you guys gotta be separated and she needs some therapy because that's really fucking crazy to be doing with them kids. But if you decide to forget, put up a boundary. I already know y'all finna be in these comments. Like forgive.
Jacob
They probably all go. Just have they menage as well. That's gonna be one of the boundaries. I gotta be in it.
Wheezy
Brother's wife fucks my wife dot com. Anyway, I don't know what butt fuck town you guys live in, but I'm really sorry that this is happening and I really hope you tell that ho off. Check us out next Wednesday for more you've got decisions. And check out Jacob's podcast. Just us podcast and on my way, right? No.
Jacob
Did you say on my way?
Wheezy
No, I did. Yes.
Jacob
On my own.
Wheezy
On my own in the description is in the bio. I'm so embarrassed. Bye.
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Podcast Summary: "Decisions, Decisions"
Episode: You've Got Decisions: I Caught My Wife Kissing My In-Laws (Ft. Jacob Willis)
Release Date: February 26, 2025
In this compelling episode of "Decisions, Decisions," hosted by Mandii B and WeezyWTF from The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts, the hosts tackle a deeply personal and complex issue submitted by a listener. The episode delves into the intricacies of non-traditional relationships, infidelity, and the emotional turmoil that accompanies such discoveries.
The episode kicks off with a listener reaching out for advice on a distressing situation:
Listener: "I just recently found out that my wife and my sister-in-law get drunk and sometimes kiss... We've been married for six years with two kids and a pretty normal sex life..."
(00:40)
The listener reveals that he discovered his wife kissing his sister-in-law through a baby camera installed for monitoring their daughter's asthma. Additionally, he mentions a recent unsettling request from his wife for a threesome, further complicating the emotional landscape.
WeezyWTF and guest Jacob Willis respond with shock and disgust upon hearing the listener's predicament. They emphasize the severity of the betrayal and the complexity of the emotions involved.
WeezyWTF: "That's disgusting."
(03:07)
Jacob: "Oh, that's deep."
(03:06)
Their immediate response sets the tone for a candid and unfiltered discussion, reflecting the podcast's commitment to addressing taboo topics openly.
The hosts delve into the listener's possible emotions and underlying feelings, questioning whether there's a hidden attraction or confusion about his sexuality.
WeezyWTF: "I feel like he was turned on by it."
(02:25)
Jacob: "He just wants to hear you say, you know what, thug it out."
(08:56)
They explore the listener's hesitation and the possibility that he might be grappling with more than just betrayal, hinting at complex emotional layers such as confusion over sexual identity or suppressed feelings.
The hosts strongly advise addressing the issue head-on rather than ignoring it. They emphasize the importance of confronting both the wife and the sister-in-law to halt the damaging behavior.
WeezyWTF: "You're low key. Turned on by that."
(09:02)
Jacob: "If you want to stay with her, you need to seek therapy and deliverance, because that's sick as fuck, really."
(03:37)
Jacob underscores the necessity of therapy and indicates the severity of the situation, advocating for decisive action to prevent further harm.
A significant portion of the discussion centers around whether the listener should disclose the affair to his brother. The hosts weigh the implications of involving another family member, especially considering the presence of children.
WeezyWTF: "I think you should. They watch the pod."
(03:21)
Jacob: "I'm gonna blow the place up."
(11:23)
They ultimately suggest that involving the brother is crucial, especially because the children are affected and the betrayal spans beyond the immediate marriage, affecting the broader family dynamic.
The conversation shifts to the challenging topic of forgiveness. The hosts discuss whether forgiveness is feasible and, if so, what boundaries must be established to prevent future infidelity.
WeezyWTF: "I say you guys gotta be separated and she needs some therapy because that's really fucking crazy to be doing with them kids."
(18:32)
Jacob: "He can't stop this at this point... communicate."
(17:56)
They propose that forgiveness would require stringent boundaries and possibly complete separation to ensure that the trust is rebuilt and that the family remains intact without further betrayals.
Beyond the listener's situation, the hosts share personal stories and broader insights into sexuality, relationships, and societal norms. They discuss experiences with sex clubs, boundary-setting in relationships, and the challenges of navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics.
WeezyWTF: "If there's a communication, I wouldn't mind. But as far as going like and fucking another person, that's where I cross."
(06:35)
Jacob: "No kink shaming."
(16:14)
These anecdotes and discussions provide listeners with relatable scenarios and advice on handling complex emotional and sexual landscapes in modern relationships.
The episode concludes with a reiteration of the importance of open communication, setting clear boundaries, and seeking professional help when dealing with infidelity and complex relationship issues. The hosts emphasize that while such situations are incredibly challenging, addressing them with honesty and support can lead to healthier and more authentic connections.
WeezyWTF: "I'm really sorry that this is happening and I really hope you tell that ho off."
(18:53)
The hosts encourage listeners to confront uncomfortable truths within their relationships and to prioritize emotional well-being and family integrity above all.
"You've Got Decisions: I Caught My Wife Kissing My In-Laws" offers a raw and honest exploration of the complexities of modern relationships. Through empathetic discussion and frank advice, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, along with guest Jacob Willis, provide valuable insights into handling betrayal, setting boundaries, and seeking authentic connections amidst societal expectations.
Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own relationship dynamics and to engage in open, honest conversations to foster healthier and more fulfilling partnerships.