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Mandy B
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Wheezy
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Mandy B
You've got decisions. Oh. Welcome to you Got decisions. Possess hope.
Wheezy
Hello everyone. Welcome back to our midweek show. This is the podcast where for about 20 minutes we discuss your life's challenges, your baby daddies, your exes, bucknigs in your life, and your boyfriend's parents.
Mandy B
Because this week the subject line is I think I've slept with my boyfriend's parents. Help now to the point that you have to write into a podcast. It is over. But we love this and we appreciate the content.
Wheezy
What? I also want to just add as an addition here, there is absolutely the possibility that the reason they're writing into us is because whatever it is is so nasty that they think Mandy and Wheezy won't judge me.
Mandy B
No, no, no. They know we judge, bitch. We listen and we judge. We started the year out that way.
Wheezy
Hmm.
Mandy B
They know we judge. We do not kink shame. But we will tell you, you dead ass wrong. And that you a hoe ass bitch. And welcome to the community. If you want to send us your letter, send it to decisionspodmail.com where we can give you all the advice on your fucked up life, or if you're a patron, you get to skip the line. Join us on Patreon. That's patreon.com Horrible Decisions. W H O R E, of course. And we will read your letter. Also, if you're listening to this on the feed, you get to see our beautiful faces on video on Patreon only. So join us there. But Weezy, this is the one. By the way, I wish I could screenshot this, but then you'll see the email. This is a real ass fucking email. This shit is really happening.
Wheezy
That's how crazy it is.
Mandy B
All right, let's get into it. Hi, Weezy and Mandy. First off, I love this show. Y' all have gotten me through long drive, bad decisions and a few situationships. I probably should have left way earlier.
Wheezy
We got you through bad decisions, honey. Well, I hope it ain't this one.
Mandy B
So. So I figured why not bring you my current chaos? I'm going to keep this anonymous for obvious reasons, but I genuinely need advice because I don't even know where to begin. So I've been dating this guy for about five months now. And when I say it's been good, I mean good. Bitch. Yeah, italicized good. We've really taken the time to get to know each other. We're spending a lot of time together and we both said, I love you. It feels solid. Like one of those relationships where you start thinking long term. We recently decided we're ready to meet each other's families. Here's where everything goes completely off the rails. We were showing each other pictures of our families, just casually laughing, pointing people out. And when he showed me his parents, my stomach dropped. I recognized both of them. Not in a small town, seeing them around type of way. In a very different way now, for context, no, I live in a small town, but it's one of those towns where people still have their own lives and can very easily not know who's connected to who.
Wheezy
This is.
Mandy B
A while back, I used to go to this BDSM club in a nearby city. It was my escape. Somewhere I could explore, have fun, and just be free without judgment. While I was going there, I met this woman. She was confident, experienced, and honestly, kind of magnetic. We ended up messing around multiple times. It was casual, no strings attached, just shared an understanding of what the space was. That woman is his mother. I wish I could say that was the only twist, but it gets worse. Before all of that.
Wheezy
Hold on.
Mandy B
Before all of that, like, way before I met my current boyfriend, I used to be on Grindr, I had a little phase. Met a few people. Nothing serious. There was this one older guy I used to meet up with occasionally. Discreet, very. This never leaves the room type of situation. That man is his father. So now I'm sitting here in a relationship with someone I genuinely care about. And I've unknowingly been involved with both of his parents in the past.
Wheezy
This isn't real.
Mandy B
That's fine.
Wheezy
Cause it's fun for Lore.
Mandy B
Do you see I'm reading this out of our email? Hold on. Neither of them know it's me. At least I don't think they do. And he obviously has no idea. But we're about to meet families in person. I'm not scared to tell him, but I also feel like this is the kind of information that could absolutely blow up everything. And I don't even know how to say it without sounding like I'm a part of some wild, unbelievable story. Like you said, do I tell him before meeting them? Do I wait and see if his parents recognize me first? Do I just disappear and move to another city? Like I'm a witness protection? I really care about him, and this is the healthiest relationship I've had. But this situation feels like the setup from the universe. Please help. Anonymous and deeply stressed.
Wheezy
Bro, it doesn't even need to be long. Let me show you.
Mandy B
Bro, this is.
Wheezy
Let me show you what you do.
Mandy B
Wait, wait, wait. I need you to tell me.
Wheezy
I can do this.
Mandy B
Go into. Go into the starred. Bro, this is an email that someone sent us. Okay, go ahead.
Wheezy
No, that's all she has to do. For those of you listening on audio, I took a fucking hair clip and put it on my mouth.
Mandy B
Can I. Can I also say real quick, she or he. Because she said she met the daddy on Grindr, the mom at a sex club. He could be bisexual. It could be a male listener. I didn't get the sex, but it could be. This could be a gay relationship or a heterosexual one. Because this person says that they met the dad on Grindr. I'm just saying. And they met the mom at a sex club. And these bisexual niggas be freaks.
Wheezy
I would like to just point out, for those of you that listen to the radio a lot, that you hear a crazy story on the radio.
Mandy B
Those are actors.
Wheezy
Those are actors. And I think they're testing their story out on us on this show today. And unless you show me that bitch's
Mandy B
email address, I. Bro, go. Go into the decisions pod. Literally right now. Wheezy. That's why I said I can't tell the sex because of the email address. Do not read the email address out loud. But if you go to the decision spot email, go to starred because I start all of our things. I think I've slept with my boyfriend's parents. Help.
Wheezy
Sorry for yawning. I'm just tired of the lies.
Mandy B
I will say it is. It does look appear to be someone born in 1995. Because they have 95 in their email. Okay, like, this is an email, bro. Like, it's here it. They wrote us. They said that we. They love the show. It's got them through long drives like Weezy. Just give them some fucking advice. What would you do if you found out? Hold on. Cause you go to. You've been to sex clubs. You've been to heedo.
Wheezy
Take it to the grave. Never tell.
Mandy B
Okay, wait, wait, wait. No, easy. The man that you're with now, your boyfriend. Y' all are dating. You love him. He shows you pictures of his parents, and you realize you fucked both of them on a wild night out.
Wheezy
Never tell him.
Mandy B
You never tell.
Wheezy
First of all, not only are you.
Mandy B
Wait, do you think the parents also keep it a secret?
Wheezy
Yeah.
Mandy B
What?
Wheezy
Okay, let's do the most.
Mandy B
Ain't no way. Go find somebody else to love this dude.
Wheezy
The story was true. What if my nigga had a homeboy that I smashed and I didn't have an instant reaction when I saw him, and he didn't have an instant reaction when he saw me? That's an instant. Everybody's lying and we're gonna take it to the grave. Correct.
Mandy B
So he said that he messed with the mom a few times. Yep. I heard it multiple times.
Wheezy
Yep.
Mandy B
But also does share that it was in that space because let me tell
Wheezy
you what, I would do this. What you really got to do. This is actually my true honest advice. If you're not a fake person, I would not say anything. And if one of the parents said something, I'd be like, yo, you know what? It wasn't my business to share. I didn't know if one of your parents got down like that.
Mandy B
It wasn't my. You gonna put it on the parents?
Wheezy
I'm be like, yo, I didn't know if you knew your knew. I didn't know if you knew your dad was on Grindr.
Mandy B
If I. I didn't know if you wanted to know that I dethroted your dad's dick and put his balls in my mouth. What?
Wheezy
It's not like we see.
Mandy B
I didn't know if you wanted to know that your mom enjoys anal sex and her titties licked like what in my head. Cuz I feel like this is how
Wheezy
stressed out I am.
Mandy B
You would put it on the parents and you just saying that I chose to keep your parents.
Wheezy
Let's just say for example Mandy especially where he met the guy's mom. Let's just say he tells the truth.
Mandy B
So he met the guy's mom at a sex spot and then met the dad on grind.
Wheezy
And what if his mom is like he's a liar Wrong.
Mandy B
Then what you gonna do?
Wheezy
See this why you can't move the butt town because you'll someone's parents or your cousin.
Mandy B
First off and this is coming from the person who at business meetings let people know that she them because she likes Sharon that she done had moments with people. Weezy you be letting people know that you done explored on vacations or you let it be known when the maybe that's why. Y' all know I have been going through it with my hair all the bleach, not getting the right moisture to my scalp. And since switching over to Baskin Lather, let me tell y', all, my hair has never felt so soft and scalp so hydrated. And that's probably because the stimulating scalp and hair balm nourishes and hydrates from the inside out with 100% natural ingredients. Now when used regularly, users have seen results in as little as three months. They also have a really dope hydrating hair mist that keeps any hair type soft, shiny and hydrated. And ladies, it's 2026. We know the importance of having healthy flourishing locs. Okay? And we can only do that with using the right products. What else I love about Baskin Lather is that they are black owned and family operated. So hair care here starts with family love. The history behind how this brand started is also super dope. When a dermatologist misdiagnosed CEO Shayna's younger sister and said her hair may never grow back, the family basically took things into their own hands. And today her hair is down to her hips. You hear me? So explore the viral bestsellers and products of healthier hair of all types of From Bask and Lather, go to baskinlather co.com and use code decisions for 20% off. That's 20% off at bask and lather co.com code decisions this is Mandy B.
Wheezy
And Weezy. WTF from Decisions Decisions.
Mandy B
We just sat down with Keke Palmer to discuss a topic that is often overlooked. Sexual health.
Wheezy
In this special episode, we we dive into the facts self care and share tips for navigating intimacy with confidence. No shame, no stigma. Here's a sneak peek.
Mandy B
We live in this world, y', all, where it's like one second is fluid out city girls and the next minute, don't ask me about my health. It's literally that. And and we were talking. Why is it either porn or not? Nothing.
Wheezy
And that's the problem with those comments that day. It was like, what happened to the conversation about abstinence? It doesn't. It's not real. And the problem with the abstinence conversation is you discourage people to be honest, to get tested and to disclose. And then I'm looking at these comments
Mandy B
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Mandy B
I'm not going to lie, okay? I'm not going to lie. I will be honest. Y' all been dating for five months. It's been a great five months. The universe is telling you this is your karma that you don't get to stay with this person. You have to break it off. This will never last. It will not work. And there will be more drama and turmoil in the future if you stay with this person. You genuinely gots the lead now, Weezy, I want to switch this off. I'm going to tell you the most
Wheezy
similar thing I heard.
Mandy B
Okay? Talk to me.
Wheezy
My ex boyfriend, my first boyfriend, I wrote about him in Noel's bar. He wasn't a great guy. He was very Abusive to me. We were filming for, like, a reality show when I was, like, 18 years old, and the woman that was producing the show is now his wife. Before he started dating his wife, he cheated on me with her sister. Yeah. This is not a joke, by the way.
Mandy B
No, it's not.
Wheezy
Remember that?
Mandy B
That's why this. This email with what we know in life.
Wheezy
He fucked her sister. The sister would come, fuck him at his office, do all this shit. To this day, he's still married to this woman. And y'. All. All I could think every time I think back is like, is what Thanksgiving is like, what do they do at Thanksgiving, bitch? Because even though I've had niggas, I've only fucked once or twice. I can be around them like it's nothing, but it's also because I'm not around them often. They aren't the father to my nieces and nephew. You fucked your sister before he was your husband, and now you gotta be around him all the time. And you know what? I don't know. Oh, wait, am I the one that exposed that on Twitter, or did she know that he was fucking her sister before that?
Mandy B
I don't know. Because you're not on Twitter no more. I don't even remember that era. Because, bitch, you've been up for decades, by the way.
Wheezy
Y', all. This is 2009. So basically, when I found out she was dating him, I was like, oh, my God, you're so weird because, like, you met us through this show and blah, blah, blah. And I was like, that's why your nigga was fucking your sister. So I was wild out on Twitter. Now, I don't know if she knew that before then, but also, if I found out that you were fucking my
Mandy B
sister because you don't have siblings, I feel like parents. Like, I have two sisters. If I fuck someone in Orlando and found out that one of my sisters fucked them, I would think they're weird as fuck for not mentioning it, for not telling you. Yeah, but like, my parents. But you fuck my mama or my
Wheezy
daddy, I couldn't do it.
Mandy B
And your daddy, bitch, like, no, that's. That's not even an or. This is an and. Like, this relationship cannot continue, cannot move forward. No.
Wheezy
Okay, question. If someone had to, one of them.
Mandy B
Okay, it would definitely be my dad because he's a. So I.
Wheezy
Would you rather it be.
Mandy B
I would absolutely not be surprised if I had a fun night out, went to the club or went to a sex club, ended up playing with a woman. Me and that woman Become friends, and I find out she fucked my daddy.
Wheezy
Like, what you gotta type, well, bitch,
Mandy B
I'm talking about me. Ho.
Wheezy
I know. I'm saying there was something about y' all genetics.
Mandy B
No, bitch, maybe that we both short. Cause my daddy a short king. But, like, how tall is your dad, baby? Five, eight?
Wheezy
I've never met him. Right.
Mandy B
My mom is taller than my dad.
Wheezy
Wait, I think I met him once.
Mandy B
I feel like you did one time, but my mom is taller than my dad.
Wheezy
Okay?
Mandy B
So for me, the way that we as women just always to compare women that are men have fucked. I don't think a man that would fuck me would fuck my mom because she's white.
Wheezy
But you and your mom have the same really fun energy.
Mandy B
We do have the same. We do have the same energy. I will say we definitely have the same energy. But I know the niggas my mama has picked over the last 35 years of my life. And I would never. Like, I feel like. And I think that's why I said that my dad has fucked some joints. My mama, e. Yuck. I wouldn't fuck any nigga even, like, now, even as an adult, looking back through all the years, none of them niggas I would have fucked. So, like. But I feel like there's been like two or three bitches my dad. My dad was talking to that I would have played with or brought into the bedroom with one of my niggas.
Wheezy
Okay? So something that's on my mind that maybe I really wonder if that whole family has an energy. I don't know if I ever told this story, but I was at a Walmart in what's that city I used to live in when I was dating a Deltona.
Mandy B
Okay.
Wheezy
I was in a Walmart in, like, the Deltona area or some. And I was chatting with this lady, and the lady was like, you remind me of my niece. It was either that or I said she reminded me of my mom.
Mandy B
Do you remember that story? No.
Wheezy
And she was my aunt.
Mandy B
You just said you don't know if you told this story. Bitch, I don't think I know this story.
Wheezy
Okay? No, I didn't know because you would repeat it. Okay? So anyway, she ended up being related to my mom, which is fucking crazy because my mom's family's from New York, and I'm at this random Walmart in Deltona, Florida. So we were just like, what the fuck? Like, how it happened years later. We talk about this all the time. She's still alive. We still chat and she's like, you know, it really goes to show you how similar people are that we are around, how much we pick up on habits, how much we turn into each other. Her and her husband have been married 40 years. She's like, and me and Bill, we act just the same, we say the same stuff, we do the same thing. And now that I'm thinking about it, when we interview Kennedy, Ryan and her husband, they act the same.
Mandy B
Yep.
Wheezy
And like, I wonder if they flirt the same. Like, do they have the same things they say?
Mandy B
Do they have the same energy?
Wheezy
Like, what the fuck is it that you ended up with three people of the same genetics?
Mandy B
That's crazy. I mean, and they said they were in a small town, but not that small.
Wheezy
No, they're in a butt fuck town.
Mandy B
They gotta be in a butt fuck town. Not sure what you guys would do. I am telling this person to break up with their partner and move on because they had their past is catching up to their present. Weezy says not to tell the parents, not to say anything and hope that everyone takes their secrets to the grave. That is crazy. But that is Weezy's advice. If you stay with this person or break up with this person, please give us an update. I beg of you. Anyways, if you have a question that you want to send to us, send it decisionspodmail.com make sure you check our new episodes every Monday and if you want horrible decisions, join us on Patreon patreon.com backslash Horrible decisions. We drop new episodes every Tuesday and then you get to see the video to this Wednesday. Drop every Wednesday. Thank you guys so much. You always got decisions. Hope see you next week.
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Mandy B
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Episode Title: You've Got Decisions: I Think I've Slept with My Boyfriend's Parents...HELP!
Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Release Date: May 13, 2026
Duration (main content): ~22 minutes
In this jaw-dropping edition of "You’ve Got Decisions," Mandii B and WeezyWTF confront an unbelievable listener dilemma: what do you do when you realize you’ve unknowingly slept with not just one, but both of your boyfriend’s parents, and you’re about to meet his family? The episode delves into the nuances of non-traditional relationships, taboo encounters, and the limits of honesty in partnerships. Mandii and Weezy, in their signature no-filter style, offer advice both practical and hilarious, pushing the boundaries of what a confessional podcast can be.
The Reader’s Letter:
A listener, keeping anonymous for obvious reasons, reveals an escalating crisis: after dating a man for five months and reaching “I love you” territory, she realizes (while swapping family photos) that she previously hooked up with both of his parents—separately, in non-overlapping kinky contexts.
Mandii B reacts (02:26, 03:46):
“Now, to the point that you have to write into a podcast, it is over. But we love this and we appreciate the content.”
“This is a real ass fucking email. This shit is really happening.”
Weezy's skepticism (06:43):
“This isn’t real.”
She jokes about how crazy radio stories are usually staged—yet is convinced after examining the sender’s email details.
Sexual Orientation & Fluidity:
The hosts discuss that the listener’s gender/sexuality isn’t explicit in the letter. Mandii points out the possibility of a queer or bisexual scenario, since both parents were met in different scenes (Grindr and a sex club).
(08:02) “This could be a gay relationship or a heterosexual one. Because this person says that they met the dad on Grindr. I'm just saying.”
The Advice Fork:
Weezy's Take:
(09:47–10:06) “Take it to the grave. Never tell.”
She insists on silence, suggesting the parents would also keep quiet to avoid rocking the family boat.
Mandii's Counterpoint:
(10:12) “Wait, do you think the parents also keep it a secret?”
The duo imagine various awkward scenarios if the secret comes out and who would bear the fallout.
Ultimate Deflection:
(11:03) Weezy: “If one of the parents said something, I'd be like, yo, you know what? It wasn't my business to share. I didn't know if one of your parents got down like that.”
Mandii pushes the envelope with wild hypotheticals about what details could be revealed ("I didn't know if you wanted to know...").
Mandii’s Firm Stance:
(16:16) “I'm not going to lie... The universe is telling you this is your karma that you don't get to stay with this person. You have to break it off. This will never last. It will not work.”
Mandii argues that no matter how good the relationship is, the situation is irreparable and will only lead to more drama.
Weezy’s Anecdote & Counterpoint:
Weezy recalls a past relationship drama involving infidelity with siblings, underscoring that sometimes, even outrageous family history can be worked around or at least tolerated.
(16:51–17:20) “My ex boyfriend... he cheated on me with her sister. To this day, he's still married to this woman... all I could think every time I think back, is like, what do they do at Thanksgiving?”
Would You Rather?
The hosts riff humorously on which parent would be more disturbing to have shared partners with, revealing their own comfort zones and boundaries.
(19:01) “And your daddy, bitch, like, no, that's not even an or. This is an and. Like, this relationship cannot continue, cannot move forward. No.”
Family Dynamics:
The conversation shifts to how people in the same family may have similar energies or behavioral patterns, explaining how the same person might be attracted to multiple family members without realizing the connection.
Weezy reflects on an odd family resemblance and how people “turn into each other” after years together.
Small Town Woes:
Mandii jokes that this could only happen in a “butt fuck town,” but admits the town isn’t that small, amplifying the weirdness of the situation. (22:51)
Mandii B’s Humor:
“If I… I didn't know if you wanted to know that I dethroted your dad's dick and put his balls in my mouth. What?” (11:28)
Weezy’s Practicality:
“Never tell. First of all, not only are you—take it to the grave. Never tell.” (09:47–10:06)
Mandii’s Final Word:
"You're not supposed to be here! The past is catching up to the present. Move on." (paraphrased, 22:53)
Audience Engagement:
The hosts beg for a follow-up if the writer stays or breaks up, underscoring their genuine interest and investment in the listeners' real lives.
Listener involvement is encouraged—the hosts urge the letter writer to provide an update, illustrating the participatory and communal vibe of the show.
Skip the intros, ads, and focus on the raw, hilarious, and often surprisingly wise discussion at the core of "Decisions, Decisions."