Podcast Summary: "You've Got Decisions: Is it Because I'm Black?"

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Release Date: February 11, 2026
Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts

Overview

In this candid and humor-filled episode of "Decisions, Decisions," hosts Mandii B and WeezyWTF respond to a listener’s heartfelt letter, unpacking questions about sexual relationships, intimacy, and whether race is a barrier in pursuing something deeper with a long-term situationship. Set against their signature mix of vulnerability, laughter, and unfiltered conversation, the duo gives “big sis” advice on dating, self-worth, and the complexities of dating as a Black woman in a predominantly white state.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

A Tour of Unusual Kinks & Fetishes

• [00:40 – 07:00]
  • The hosts kick things off by exploring obscure “Mother Earth” themed kinks:
    • Actorasty: Sexual arousal from the rays of the sun.
      • Quote: “Therefore, someone with this fetish would love being intimate outdoors or under a large window on a sunny afternoon.” — Mandii B [01:21]
    • Aquaphilia: Sex in water (“fucking in the water”).
    • Brontophilia: Arousal by thunderstorms.
      • Memorable Moment: “When I hear that goddamn rain and thunder, my whole body shuts down and I just get horny.” — Mandii B [02:21]
    • Chasmophilia: Attraction to caves, crevices, valleys.
      • Anecdote: Mandii describes having sex in a faux cave at a Jamaican resort. [04:04]
    • Tactile Exploration: Using texture in the bedroom for sensory play (silk sheets, cool lube, temperature play).
      • Practical tip: Place lube or massage oil in the fridge for a new sensation. [07:00]

Personal Anecdotes and Light Banter

• [07:30 – 14:40]
  • Weezy shares a playful roleplay story gone awkward due to a mix-up between lube and massage oil.
  • Both hosts riff on Atlanta’s car culture, Tesla trucks (“Tesla truck gives little dick now” — Mandii B [13:16]), and their judgments around dating men with certain vehicles.
  • Short reflection on dating norms and how splitting the bill on dates is received differently across cities.

The Listener Letter: Navigating Sex, Intimacy, and Race in Maine

• [14:46 – 18:02]
  • Introduction of the main topic — a Black woman writes in from Maine, detailing a 15-year-long sexual relationship with a Hispanic man. She wonders if her race is the reason their connection has never turned romantic, especially since his other relationships have resulted in long-term bonds and children with Hispanic women.
  • The letter is raw and detailed, highlighting:
    • Feelings of isolation as a Black woman in a white state.
    • The intensity and longevity of the sexual relationship.
    • A shift to more intimate, sensual sex (less rough, more passion and eye contact).
    • The struggle of wanting more, questioning self-worth, and wondering about the impact of race.

Mandii & Weezy’s Candid Reactions

• [23:14 – 25:49]

  • Immediate responses: Both hosts doubt that race is the primary factor; attribute the dynamic more to “situationship” patterns and emotional comfort zones.
    • Quote: “My initial thoughts were not because she was black at all.” — WeezyWTF [23:14]
    • Quote: “When a nigga wants you, they want you.” — WeezyWTF [23:59]
  • Mandii raises the nuanced point that perhaps the listener feels this way because her situationship’s other partners are not Black, leading to concerns about being fetishized.

• [25:49 – 29:45]

  • They empathize with the letter writer’s evolving self-confidence and shifting expectations, noting the listener wants a different dynamic now than at the relationship’s start.
    • Quote: “You're now in a place where...you do feel like you can demand a man to treat you as more than just sex.” — Mandii B [25:49]
  • Both caution about conflating increased frequency and intimacy (“oxytocin and good dick make you think you like this guy” — Mandii B [28:22]) with a readiness for a real partnership.

• [29:45 – 32:36]

  • The value of emotional safety is stressed.
    • Quote: “Your connection with him being sex and you being at a place where you're even considering wanting to give him a baby — what are those conversations?” — Mandii B [29:45]
  • They recommend the listener initiate a real, honest conversation about relationship potential, but also question building more with someone who has openly said he’s not monogamous.
  • Weezy: If he isn’t providing emotional safety, is this really a person to “scramble your brain about”? [32:11]

Final Thoughts and Big Sis Advice

• [32:36 – End]
  • Practical advice: Date other people to avoid putting all your hopes in one person, especially one providing solely sexual fulfillment.
    • Quote: “Get on the apps. Do the surrounding states, honey... just say you’re even engaging and talking to somebody else so he’s not your only focus.” — WeezyWTF [32:36]
  • Split emotional and sexual needs: “You could date and get to know someone and find that emotional connection and just fuck this nigga.” — Mandii B [32:45]
  • Closing affirmation: “If you have any doubts about your value in this man's life because of your race, you have a lot of feelings of unsafety... so I would be wary of even wanting to not only be in a relationship, but procreate with someone that you have to ask if you're valued by them.” — Mandii B [31:22]

Memorable Quotes

• “When I hear that goddamn rain and thunder, my whole body shuts down and I just get horny.” — Mandii B [02:21]
• “Tesla truck gives little dick now.” — Mandii B [13:16]
• “When a nigga wants you, they want you.” — WeezyWTF [23:59]
• “You're now in a place where...you do feel like you can demand a man to treat you as more than just sex.” — Mandii B [25:49]
• “Oxytocin and good dick make you think you like this guy.” — Mandii B [28:22]
• “Get on the apps. Do the surrounding states, honey...” — WeezyWTF [32:36]
• “If you have any doubts about your value in this man's life because of your race...be wary of even wanting to not only be in a relationship, but procreate with someone that you have to ask if you're valued by them.” — Mandii B [31:22]

Important Timestamps

• 00:40 – 07:00: Kinks and fetishes segment
• 07:30 – 14:40: Host banter, dating anecdotes
• 14:46 – 18:02: Listener letter is introduced and read
• 23:14 – 29:45: Hosts' analysis and personal reflections
• 32:36 – End: Actionable closing advice, final thoughts

Tone & Style

Warm, irreverent, honest, and laced with humor. Both Mandii B and WeezyWTF blend personal vulnerability with playful banter while offering thoughtful, experienced perspectives on modern love and sex.

For listeners:
This episode offers a nuanced, relatable discussion about the challenges of translating long-term sexual relationships into something deeper, the intersection of race and dating, and the importance of emotional safety — all wrapped in the unfiltered, empowering style that defines "Decisions, Decisions."