You've Got Decisions: Is My Boyfriend Gay?

Summary

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Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions

Episode: "You've Got Decisions: Is My Boyfriend Gay?"

Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Date: October 29, 2025

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Overview

This candid, entertaining episode of "Decisions, Decisions" dives into the complexities of relationships, family dynamics, sexuality, and self-discovery. Mandii B and WeezyWTF guide listeners through real-life dilemmas—first through Mandii’s personal marriage story, then by unpacking a listener’s email titled “Is My Boyfriend Gay?” With their signature humor, authenticity, and vulnerability, the hosts encourage open-mindedness and challenge traditional relationship norms.

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1. Mandii's Marriage Story: Lessons from a Non-Traditional Relationship

(01:21 – 13:18)

Key Points:

• Mandii recounts her marriage's dissolution, including her husband's emotional distance and a startling 47-page breakup letter.
  • "He tried to isolate me with the letter. The first page he said, 'Read this when you are alone and by yourself. Just remember you asked for this.'” —Mandii (01:48)
• Issues of partnership, patriarchal expectations, and individual growth are scrutinized.
  • Mandii’s ex claimed to want her to “have her own”—but, as Mandii points out, this was about his desire for space and independence.
  • Weezy and the co-hosts discuss whether one should act out of duty or personal desire in marriage (03:32).
• Cultural and religious identity (“Harlem Muslims”): The conversation sidesteps stereotypes while pointing out realities for those who convert in prison and adopt new lifestyles.
  • "If you're not willing to convert, women, don’t do it. It's tough."
• Family background and privilege: Mandii discovers later that her ex came from a wealthy Harlem family and possibly married for ego validation rather than deep commitment.
  • "His family got money. I didn’t really know that…until one of my lovers in Brooklyn got word."

Notable Quotes:

• “I was his wife and he moved me out of the house while I was out of town.” —Mandii (02:28)
• “The marriage served the purpose of ego stroking.” —Mandii (05:56)

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2. Listener Dilemma: “Is My Boyfriend Gay?”

(16:42 – 33:46)

Advice Segment Begins — Letter Details (16:42)

The Listener’s Situation:

• Met her boyfriend on a dating app in January. He lived out-of-state but relocated for a job; after just weeks, they became exclusive.
• His longtime “roommate” (nine years!)—an immigrant friend—moves with him into a new city, occupying a single-bedroom apartment.
• Signs of concern:
  • Boyfriend flirts with men in front of her, avoids phone calls, and is reserved about his sexuality.
  • Intimacy is nearly nonexistent: they've only had sex twice, he avoids tongue kissing, and he couldn’t keep an erection each time.
  • The “roommate” seemed unaware of the girlfriend when they met.
• Listener wonders if she’s his “beard” (a woman used to conceal a man’s homosexuality) and whether to end the relationship.

Host Reactions & Major Insights:

2.1. Is this about sexuality, sexual compatibility, or honesty?

• Weezy’s Perspective:

  • Points out the real question isn’t “Is he gay?” but “Are you okay with this relationship as is?”
  • Suggests examining what the listener actually wants, emphasizing self-reflection over solving his sexuality.
  • “Are you fine actually being a beard?... Because to know you’re still with him makes me feel like you’re not that bothered by it. So maybe this is your chance to actually have the conversation, not questioning his relationship.” (23:33)

• Co-host’s Perspective:

  • Adds another layer—maybe he’s asexual rather than gay. Lack of sex and affection could stem from being uninterested in anyone sexually.
  • “What if he isn’t gay? What if he’s asexual?” (24:21)
  • Shares personal anecdotes about being wrongly suspected of being gay due to disinterest in sex.

2.2. Analyzing the Red Flags

• Both hosts agree the roommate situation—two men, nine years, a one-bedroom apartment—raises red flags.
  • "If a man moves to another city and gets a one bedroom and has a guy move in, I think that's a lot. Like, are y’all sleeping together at night?" —Weezy (27:05)
• Both hosts call out the lack of consistent sex and intimacy as uncommon, even in bi or gay men—suggests something more fundamental is off.

2.3. Possible Scenarios:

• He could be gay and closeted, using the listener as a beard.
• He could be asexual—“all roads don’t have to lead to gay and dick sucking,” notes the co-host humorously.
• Alternatively, maybe neither is truly invested; they note a lack of communication for a supposed serious relationship.

2.4. Tough Love and Self-Inventory:

• Weezy offers pointed advice:
  • “What do you want out of the relationship and are you being fulfilled?... Talk to him about getting some other dick or whatever else you want elsewhere and see how he responds." (29:15)
• Co-host suggests it may not even be a “real” relationship (30:02), emphasizing the importance of clear, direct conversation about needs and boundaries.

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Memorable Moments & Quotes

• Mandii on her ex-husband’s avoidance:
  "All plans are pretend plans in the eyes of God. So I have no future plans." (09:33)
• The hosts on bisexual/bi men sexual energy:
  “Bi niggas, fuck.” —Co-host (32:13)
• On the possibility of being an asexual beard:
  “Maybe they both asexual. Because I don't see how you...You've allowed two times in ten months.” —Co-host (31:31)
• End-of-segment plea for an update:
  "Please let us know how the conversation goes. Is that his boyfriend?...We'll find all of this out next time on Dragon Ball Z." —Weezy (32:39)

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Key Timestamps

• 01:21–13:18: Mandii’s marriage, patriarchal norms, religious conversion, black nepotism, and personal growth.
• 16:42–17:01: Weezy introduces the “Is My Boyfriend Gay?” email.
• 17:01–21:43: Listener details her situation—dating, roommate red flags, lack of sex.
• 21:44–29:15: Hosts analyze the situation—possible sexuality, asexuality, and honest advice.
• 30:02–33:46: Tough love; the importance of communication; hosts solicit follow-up.

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Takeaways

• The real issue isn’t always labels—sexuality, “beard,” or asexuality—but whether the relationship is fulfilling and honest.
• Communication is vital: If things feel off, both hosts advocate for candid conversations, not speculation.
• Relationships aren't one-size-fits-all: Whether non-traditional, poly, or unclear, your personal boundaries and needs take priority.
• A plea to listeners: If you relate, reflect on whether you’re truly satisfied—or just avoiding a tough truth for the sake of comfort or image.

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Contact & Participation:
Want the hosts’ advice? Send your dilemmas to decisionspodmail.com. And if you’re curious what happened next with “Single and Confused,” stay tuned—the hosts (and everyone else) are waiting for the update.

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Transcript

[Mandy]

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[Mandy]

You literally moved me out the house and then you wrote a letter to me in 2020 to break it off with me.

[Weezy]

Wait, he broke up with you with a letter?

[Co-host]

Not a four page? No, no, no.

[Mandy]

It was not four pages. It was 47.

[Co-host]

It was.

[Weezy]

Wait, he broke it with you with a book? A 47 book page letter.

[Co-host]

What are some of the highlights that.

[Weezy]

Made you this was a chapter when.

[Co-host]

You were reading it. I'm sure it's too long, but what are some of the things that made.

[Weezy]

You be like what, the 47 pages.

[Mandy]

First of all, he tried to isolate me with the letter. The first page he said, read this when you are alone and by yourself. Just remember you asked for this. Now, what he meant by that was for an entire year, all of 2019, I had been asking him questions about what was going on because I already knew that we were uncoupling because I felt it. I know the signs when the N is trying to avoid me. Right. And he was very emotionally avoidant. Right. So for a whole year, stopped answering my emails, text messages, calls, and would check in when he wanted to.

[Co-host]

But how is that. So you already were living apart?

[Mandy]

Yeah, because he moved me out the house while I was out of town.

[Weezy]

So this was before the Divorce?

[Mandy]

Yes.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

This was in 2019, April. But I was on tour, so I was moving around, doing my tour.

[Co-host]

Was your relationship been a happy point? Was it a shock?

[Mandy]

Moving me out while I was out of town was a shock because it completely turned my world upside down. And he also like, displaced me with a person we had moved in with us who was houseless. Now, I wasn't houseless because I got my family in Chicago, so that's where I went back to. But you're my husband and we're living together and you just uproot my whole life. It's a whole lot behind that. But then he started like dropping letters on me, right, to explain things. And in one of his letters, his whole reasoning from us moving out was, well, you said you never had your own. I want you to have your own. I want you to grow. But really it was like he wanted his own space. He wanted his own thing. And he didn't want to have to be responsible for somebody because he's their husband. Because he would always say things like, I'm not doing this for you because you're my wife. I'm doing it because I want to. Wow.

[Weezy]

And so can I ask you, first.

[Co-host]

Of all, if you're so much about the text, why aren't you doing it? Because I'm your wife number one. I know it's a controversial, but the way that Dr. Umar talks about family dynamics and honoring people and the hierarchy and prioritization of women, wives, et cetera.

[Mandy]

I wish he practiced it though.

[Co-host]

It's a shock.

[Mandy]

I'm shut up about him.

[Weezy]

Wait, wait, wait. So you think he's just talk.

[Mandy]

I'm gonna shut up about him?

[Weezy]

Well, no, this is. You can say here. What?

[Mandy]

What? No, I don't think that he practices what he talks about. I think he's. He is a hot take and he knows that. And he has been a hot take for like two decades. And I know people who's personally interacted with him like he had. He does help. He has a lot of. And he. Anyway, child, that part I didn't know. Anyway, child, I think he got that.

[Co-host]

Suki with the good too.

[Mandy]

Oh, he definitely did. But you know, and I'm just saying that off of just optics, I don't.

[Co-host]

Think a bunch of people makes you less.

[Weezy]

Well, no, but to me, however, I will say if you're a man who values a woman's place in a family dynamic and you don't have a family dynamic.

[Co-host]

I thought he got married to a woman before two girl I'll tell you this.

[Weezy]

What do you do?

[Co-host]

The way he gonna get some white.

[Weezy]

I'm gonna be shot.

[Co-host]

Oh, if Dr. Umar White Woman, I might just go on a limb and.

[Mandy]

Be like, oh, you must be gay too. He ain't gonna say it. I know.

[Weezy]

I will say, though, because he. He goes viral so much. I think if he's a white woman, she would have came out by now.

[Mandy]

Oh, he got her on an ironclad NDA.

[Weezy]

But I. Maybe. Maybe you're right.

[Mandy]

I doubt it, though. He really. He really is about pan Africanism and like our people.

[Weezy]

So I will say that there's white Africans.

[Mandy]

Yeah, there is. I've seen them when I went there.

[Weezy]

Seen them too.

[Mandy]

The proceeds white Africans.

[Weezy]

But we're not African Americans.

[Mandy]

Charlize Theron is white and South African. Elon Musk is a white African.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Co-host]

You know, but anyway, hey, we are also American, but we were brought here. So I don't like to act like white people have their ground and their.

[Weezy]

Anyway, everybody everywhere. But yeah, Dr. Umar. But yeah, So I hear him saying, I'm doing this because I want to, but as if he has no obligation to live out his role as a husband to a wife is crazy. Because you're right. He was separating.

[Mandy]

What this loser ass do for a living. It's a whole. Oh, my God. So it's a whole backstory with this man. And I really do think that the marriage served the purpose of what I said before we got on this mic. Ego stroking. Because he grew up. He grew up in practicing Islam, so he was a Muslim.

[Weezy]

Man, I'll never do it again. And never. I never again. Never again. My boy was a Muslim. Oh, what? Yes. And he was a Harlem Muslim.

[Mandy]

37Th Street.

[Weezy]

Exactly. Is it instant the Harlem Muslims is like they became Muslims through one of their family members getting locked up in the prison. And they learned the Islam in prison and came out and became out, bro, literally.

[Co-host]

My mother and I were talking about my uncle who passed her brother, and I was trying not to laugh. We're in a car with my man, it's Christmas, and we're talking about family and how she's the only one left because her siblings died. And she's like, you know, when he became Muslim in jail, he was like, the far side.

[Mandy]

I.

[Co-host]

You knew, you met my cousin. And she's like, you know, he just took a lot of those principles on.

[Mandy]

And I was like, but you know what?

[Co-host]

I will say I would rather men in jail find Islam than anything else. Like, I must say, that.

[Weezy]

But find a hobby. Learn how to do tattoo girl.

[Co-host]

Learn how to cook.

[Weezy]

I don't want you to read the. The Islam Bible, whatever it is. The Quran. Quran, whatever. Now you randomly gotta fast when you get out of jail.

[Co-host]

I'm not.

[Mandy]

Stop praying to the east. Sorry.

[Weezy]

I'm trying to make fun of Yalls religion.

[Co-host]

Sorry.

[Mandy]

I promise you, I'm not. It's.

[Weezy]

No, but when you date someone in that religion, bro, if you don't convert, if you're not willing to convert women, don't do it. It's tough.

[Mandy]

Listen, he wasn't a practicing Muslim. He wasn't practicing Islam, but he still identified as Muslim. But at that time, you know, there's a whole thing around marriage and having family and nobody wanted to marry him. So I felt like that was. In hindsight looking at it, it was like a validation for him to have somebody that.

[Weezy]

Do you think he was proposing, though, to multiple partners?

[Mandy]

No.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

No, I don't think so. But that's the thing that just with my head, which I'm going to therapy for this is. I know that a lot of what he did for me was sincere, but he also had his own agendas. And I could tell the relationship between him and his mother, there was a lot of like, contention there. And he has mommy issues also. Daddy issues. It's a whole. It's. I don't want to go too deep into this man's personal business, but it's very deep. So I did get extremely close to him. I think closer than any other partner to the point where, like, I was there to go support him when his grandmother had passed away. Um, and you went wild together.

[Co-host]

Not.

[Mandy]

Yeah, like, when I first met him, he was kind of like in a transition of sorts, but I mean, meeting his mother, meeting his father, having relationships with his sister, like I had relationships with his family. So I think of all the partners he ever had, I got the deepest and the closest to him. Um, and I think that the things that I brought up in him, he was uncomfortable with. And so he wanted to create a distance also. I don't think that he was ready to. To be with somebody where he had to be locked in because he was so used to being free. Now, to answer your question, around what this man did, this man did a lot of different jobs, but he had no solid job. And his ideal was like, I have no future plans. That was his thing. Because again, the spiritual principles. The spiritual principles that he followed.

[Weezy]

Girl, how are you?

[Mandy]

All plans are pretend plans in the eyes of God. So I have no future plans. But the reason why that man could be like Peter Pan and just do what the he wanted to do in this world is because his family got money.

[Weezy]

Oh.

[Mandy]

I didn't really know that until I sat and I thought about it, and. Until one of my lovers in Brooklyn got word that I got married. Oh, my God. Okay. And he.

[Co-host]

How long were y' all dating before you got married?

[Mandy]

Uh, we started dating in. We started.

[Weezy]

Wasn't it quick? Like a six month?

[Mandy]

It was like six. Like a six month. Yeah.

[Co-host]

Why marriage? Yeah, why did he want marriage?

[Weezy]

And did you want marriage as well as a poly person?

[Mandy]

Yeah, I wanted it because at the time, that's what I was looking for, a primary. Yeah. So when it came. Right. And what's crazy is I wanted a primary, but he never saw me as primary.

[Weezy]

Did he have a primary or he had a primary.

[Co-host]

That can't be true to him.

[Mandy]

No, no, no. We had this conversation, and I told you. This is where it gets crazy, because I don't think that he really had the principles and the ideals around, like, structure of polyamory.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

But of course, he just wanted the freedom coming from Islam.

[Co-host]

A lot of them do.

[Mandy]

The idea is you can have multiple wives, multiple people in your life, Right? So a lot of the structure of things, even with, like, kink and BDSM and all that and lifestyle, I taught him that stuff. You know what I mean? But with him being the leader of our relationship, I wasn't allowed to take the lead in educating or leading conversations around that. And again, ego thing. And again, I was playing a role. I was like, let me just see what it's like right now, you know? So it was like he was trifling with marriage. And the way that we did it was I let him do all the research in all of the planning for the wedding and all that stuff, because he was like, I want to research marriage before we jump into it. And so he went and did a historical. A historical.

[Weezy]

We have a whole episode on the history.

[Mandy]

Yes.

[Co-host]

I hate him. Yes.

[Mandy]

He's a Rastafarian. Rastafarian, Islamic.

[Weezy]

He's spiritual.

[Mandy]

So it's crazy because the whole situation around him just being very flighty around what he does in life, like, he already had money. And I didn't know that until my lover from Brooklyn told me that his people in Harlem told him, oh, your girl got married to some rich dude. And I was like, is that a guess? But y' all know that. But I put two and two together based on the properties and things that his family owns and manage in Harlem. And I was just like, oh, what the. But he didn't act like it. He didn't act.

[Co-host]

He didn't act like a wanna be black sheep.

[Weezy]

Can I ask you. I know you said you're in therapy.

[Co-host]

Definitely that they like doing that they like acting like. I have met so many rich kids. I would. I would say the only person I know in my life that is a black sheep but really got her own is Liz Goldwyn.

[Mandy]

Yes. I love her.

[Co-host]

Liz is a Liz sweet. She is like for it. Like when we talk, when I look at pictures of her from the past, I'm like, wow, Now I really believe rich kids grow up and they just want to be rejective of that because they're like, oh, well, it's not cool. It's not.

[Mandy]

He got nepotism.

[Co-host]

Black nepotism is black great.

[Weezy]

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[Co-host]

If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible throuple, guess what?

[Weezy]

You've got decisions. You've got decisions.

[Co-host]

Hey, everybody, welcome back. Another hump day, Another problem in our lives. In our lives as you listeners. I guess it's gotta pretty much be a problem if you hit us up. But also, we'll take some other questions, give us some co worker shit, some family drama shit. I feel like it's always the romance and love. We know other stuff.

[Weezy]

Listen, it's because these folks be just waiting for a man, honey. Or they be with a man too long and they know that it's time to go. Speaking of that, y' all can read about that in our book no Holds Barred, A dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power out now for you pussy assholes. But yeah, I agree. I would love to hear more. Like maybe scenarios about your work life, maybe friendship. I mean, we know that this is a sex, dating and relationship pod, but God damn it, do you guys want to ask us questions about aliens? Do y' all care our thoughts on the democracy? What about like some hypotheticals? Like give us something cute and fun because God damn, your relationships are depressing.

[Co-host]

The guys that secretly listen. I would actually like them to be hitting us up for advice. Because what I realized over the years as two women hosting a show men don't really want to say out loud. They listen into decisions decisions. So if you are listening, just use a little alias, say don't read my name.

[Weezy]

Which we don't. We don't even read you bitches names on here.

[Co-host]

It's only if you write it. I like when y' all do little adjectives like single and confused. That's the shit I'm into.

[Weezy]

Well, please send us your questions where you need advice and you can send that to decisionspodmail.com.

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[Weezy]

This one is interesting because the subject of this email Bitch, you asking us? Why don't you just ask your n. Now the question for today is oh no. Is my boyfriend gay?

[Co-host]

It's cause you live in Atlanta bitch.

[Weezy]

All right, let's get into it girl. Gays live outside of Atlanta, but here we go. Now this one's a little long, so bear with me. But that means that there's a lot of details for us to dissect. So let's get into it. Hi Mandy and Weezy. I recently got into a relationship and I'm wondering if my boyfriend is gay. In January of 2025 we matched on a dating app and quickly set up a coffee date. I met him for coffee during my lunch break from work and we hit it off. He actually lived in another state and was in town for work. After coffee, he asked if I would be open to joining him for dinner that night and I gladly said yes.

[Co-host]

Okay.

[Weezy]

Dinner was great. Right out the gate, dinner was great. But he had to go back home the next day, so we weren't able to spend much more time together. After we went back home, we talked via text and voice chat every day. We had a couple of calls over the phone, but he said he wasn't much of a phone talker. I didn't mind since the communication was so consistent. He came out to visit for Valentine's Day and mentioned that he also had an interview. I got him a small gift, but he didn't get me anything. He felt bad and got me something from a store we stopped at for Valentine's Day. We went to dinner and hit a couple of bars and he asked for us to be exclusively in a relationship. I said yes. That's funny. That's how. That's the timeframe I got in my relationship this year.

[Co-host]

You mean Valentine's?

[Weezy]

Valentine's, yeah. Well, the week before. Cause I was going All Star Weekend. Um, anyways, shortly after him going back home from his visit, he tells me he landed the job and he will be moving to my town the following month in March. I was excited for the potential of this new relationship. I was skeptical that this happened so quickly, but tried to keep a positive outlook. He mentioned that back home he had a roommate, which was a friend from college that needed to get back on his feet because he was an immigrant and a visa expired at the end of March. My boyfriend moved out here and got an Airbnb until he was able to get an apartment two weeks later. I came to the apartment once and never again because he said he didn't have any furniture. As we continued to see each other, I started noticing that he found men attractive by some of the comments he made and one incident where he was clearly flirting with a man and asked for his Instagram right in front of me. I tried to ask him about his sexuality and that topic was uncomfortable for him. He came from a very religious family, so I figured that is where the discomfort was and thought he might be bisexual but not ready to speak about it. Regardless, flirting with another person in front of me is disrespectful and it didn't sit with me well. We continued to spend every day together until he went back home to get his belongings to move to his new apartment. That's when everything changed. His roommate from back home came to move with him and into his one bedroom apartment, which I wasn't initially made aware of. I came over once to meet the guy and it wasn't clear that he knew I was the girlfriend. He was showing me their plans and asking him that I show him around town. I found this strange. I asked my boyfriend if he knew his friend was moving with him. Why not get a two bedroom instead of a one bedroom? He said he isn't supposed to stay here very long. Okay. I then asked how long he had been living with him back home and he replied nine years. All of the alarms started going off in my body and I thought to myself, this is his boyfriend and I am his beard. Ever since his boyfriend moved into town, we have started seeing each other less and less. The times we do spend together, I paid more attention to him and noticed that he only checks out men. I should have known better because the intimacy, eh, wasn't there. He didn't like to tongue kiss and would only give me pecs. And we've only had sex two times.

[Co-host]

Oh boy.

[Weezy]

Both of those times he couldn't keep it up and at one point started talking about the gay guy we previously met whom he was flirting with. I was like, omg, he is fantasizing about other men to try to be aroused enough to have sex with me. I'd like to hear your thoughts on whether or not you think he is gay or whether or not his friend is actually his gay life partner and should I break up with him? Thanks so much. Love y'.

[Co-host]

All.

[Weezy]

A beard for the boy.

[Co-host]

You mean single and confused?

[Weezy]

Well, she's in a relationship and confused.

[Co-host]

I don't. But here's the thing. Sometimes when. When I get. And this is advice for anyone, this is actually unsolicited advice. Sometimes when I think the worst, even about somebody and it could be someone I know is the worst, a situation that I'm like, this is a fuck, nigga. This is a person I've been burned by before. I still am like, why would they want to do this? Why would he want to have his boyfriend fake the relationship? Why would he want to get. Now does he need the beard? Like, if he's been living with this person so long, why would he be putting them in on this plan to coerce you?

[Weezy]

Like, I don't think it's a coercion. He. She mentioned that he comes from a strong religious background, so she feels like that's where his discomfort lies. It's also Interesting to me that this is your boyfriend. You are writing this, by the way, this is brand new. We just got this email at the end of September. So, girl, you started dating him back in February, you met him in January, and you only had sex twice. So to me, here's my question. If you're not bothered enough to already break up with him, are you fine actually being a beard? Are you fine being with a man that you find bisexual? You even said at the top of this letter you actually thought he was bisexual and you still chose to stay with him. Yes. Flirting with other people, whether it's a man or woman in front of you you find disrespectful, but you didn't seem turned off or completely dis attracted to him or unattracted to him with the fact that he was even flirting with a guy. So I would have you actually ask the questions to yourself. This isn't for me to determine whether that man is his boyfriend or whether your boyfriend is gay. The question is, are you fine with existing as a quote unquote beard to a man who may also have attractions and a potential relationship with a man? Because to know that you're still with him makes me feel like you're not that bothered by it. So maybe this is your chance to actually have the conversation, not questioning his relationship. But if you need more, I'm assuming also you don't need more sex. However, he's showing up has been enough. So I'm curious to know if maybe you just have to sit with yourself to know what's being left out for you. Because it's not his sexuality that that seems to be the problem at all.

[Co-host]

So I'm starting to think maybe he's just, like, taking the gay out of it. What if he isn't gay? What if he's asexual? Because sometimes people that are asexual genuinely do have the attraction to you. They want the intimacy they're able to perform in romantic scenarios so they can show up for you how you need in life. They can do all these things, but they're not necessarily going to want to fuck you. And sexual friend before that always had women think that he was gay. And it was like, super frustrating to the point where even he was like, I really don't like men. But, like, the pressure that everyone's making you feel when you don't want to be sexual is really heavy. So I actually think the larger question is the sexual aspect.

[Weezy]

I agree. I was about to say, damn, y' all know I would date A bisexual man. But so I was about to say, damn, what's worse, your man be engaged, your man not wanting to have sex. And I'm like, whoa, I definitely want you to fuck me. So I think I agree with you, bro.

[Co-host]

Like, because to me, even a gay nigga that's gonna end up with you gonna fuck like, like it's just only twice from February to September. It's just.

[Weezy]

So then maybe the question is if you move to a conversation for him to admit that maybe he's bisexual or he has any sort of attraction to men, right? I think to find out his level of sexual energy or appetite comes from maybe seeing if he's actually had sex with men. And if so, hopefully getting to the point where he can express how often he has sex with men.

[Co-host]

Because if this part he wasn't that excited, like, maybe he wasn't flirting with the gay dude. Maybe she's just so. What's the word when you're like, she's looking for something. Damn, I can't get this word.

[Weezy]

She's looking for something like, damn.

[Co-host]

I feel like it's such a basic word. I'm going to probably get it later tonight. When you're so, oh my God, girl.

[Weezy]

And you know, bitch, I can't help you with the words.

[Co-host]

Okay, wait, hold on. It's the word when like you're looking around, suspicious.

[Weezy]

Oh, okay, okay, okay.

[Co-host]

Maybe she's so suspicious about what the fuck is going on, that maybe he wasn't flirting with the gay nigga, maybe he just friendly ass nigga. Like, I don't know. Because like, if you really are suspicious about something, let's just say it's even a cheating guy. You're gonna start looking at every woman in his life. The girl he works with, the bitch, a cousin. You finna look at everybody because you're so suspicious. So at this point, because you can't figure out why you're not having the volume of sex that you want, now you're looking at these other areas like that may be completely innocent. We're just labeling the gay on there. Do you live in Atlanta, sister?

[Weezy]

Yeah, gay is a lot. I mean, well, I even don't even think where she lives matters because he moved to the city. So he was living. He was living somewhere else. I'm curious to know too. I'm not gonna lie. I just don't think if only a couple months later, first off, he moves to another city and gets a one bedroom and has a guy move into the one bedroom. I think that's a lot like, nigga, are y' all sleeping together at night? Like.

[Co-host]

I don't know. What am I? Okay, I ain't gonna hold you with her fucking cousin for like a year.

[Weezy]

That's family. A cousin is different than two people sleeping in this or sharing a room.

[Co-host]

Together because they had a two bedroom.

[Weezy]

Before, and so maybe they. Maybe the city that they moved to is more expensive and he could only get a one bed.

[Co-host]

Bro, why did that nigga move? That is kind of crazy.

[Weezy]

That's crazy. Is it not?

[Co-host]

But I just don't think it's his boyfriend.

[Weezy]

Why don't you think that they're boyfriends? Do you just not think, like, what makes. Based on all the information we got, what makes you think that's not his boyfriend? Cause it's leading to boyfriend to me.

[Co-host]

We're in 2025, okay? One can be religious and one could be out, but it's pretty crazy to think that two people are gonna be lying about the relationship.

[Weezy]

Well, so they're not lying, so. No. She expressed that when she went to the house, he seemed. The roommate guy seemed oblivious to the fact that he even had a girlfriend and called the plants in the house their plants. So it's not that the roommate could be hiding at all.

[Co-host]

Yeah, but I don't think the oblivious about the girlfriend is even bad. I don't think that's bad. Like, they've been living together nine years. Of course they're their plants. But if there was. If it was his nigga, she would have been able to see something else. Like, what if she was over the house?

[Weezy]

I mean, if it's two niggas in the closet.

[Co-host]

This is hard because even though all roads lead to gay and dick sucking, I'm just like, it can't be that.

[Weezy]

But all roads literally lead to. That's his boyfriend. Your man is gay. Insists. You need to. I'm not even gonna tell you to break up with him. Well, that's the thing. I'm not even gonna tell you to break up with him. That's why my advice was to that last question. What do you want out of the relationship and are you being fulfilled? And if this is a relationship that you do want to keep intact, but you need more sex, you know, the conversation always is to me, talk to him about getting some other dick or whatever else you want elsewhere and see what his response is to that. Because if this all happened in, like, March. April, bitch, it's October. We in Q4. Ho. And you still with the man. You didn't even want a hot girl. Summer. You stayed with him thinking he was gay all summer.

[Co-host]

Maybe it's really not a real relationship. And hear me out.

[Weezy]

Oh, cuz, bitches do be delusional if.

[Co-host]

It happened that fast. Like, do they even talk every day? Like, I. Have you ever.

[Weezy]

Okay, they met. Okay, they met on. They met on a dating app in January, met in person in January, met for coffee, then had dinner the same night. Limited communication. And I say limited because even if it was consistent, I don't consider texting away. You would get to know somebody. His next visit was Valentine's Day. So even if y' all met on New Year's Eve, the most y' all knew each other was six weeks before he said, be my girlfriend.

[Co-host]

That's not crazy, though. He just. I just think they just chatting. I don't know how old they are, but I'm gonna be real with you. I've met a lot of women and men that be in relationships. But, like.

[Weezy]

But if a man. If a man asks you to be his girlfriend and to be exclusive, that actually does indicate that you're in a relationship with that man, right?

[Co-host]

I'm saying it's not a relationship in the way that we think a relationship should be. The way that most people are in relationships is they're gearing to date for the long haul. For xyz, whatever. I feel like both of them aren't taking this shit serious. Like, to be having sex twice and not communicating about it. How real is your relationship? Nigga, you can't get an attitude twice. Before I bring it up. What?

[Weezy]

Maybe they both asexual. Because I don't see how you. I don't see how you. You've allowed two times in ten months for how. How many times you done got your back blown out, sis.

[Co-host]

It's just off. That's what I'm saying. They both just feeling off, bitch. Maybe.

[Weezy]

And I think that she wants to be an asexual beard. I think she's fine with being a beard. I just think she needs to be proud. She literally signed the email, a beard to a boy.

[Co-host]

I still think he asexual. I don't know why. It's just the twice don't make sense. Like, think about when you've, like, had interactions with bi men fucked up by whatever they.

[Weezy]

They are. Them niggas. Fuck.

[Co-host]

That's what I'm saying. Me too. Like, bruh, I've had bi niggas be on my dick.

[Weezy]

So, bitch, they're almost an unhealthy amount of sexual bisexual men are like well shit. Bisexual women maybe too. That's why we so goddamn horny.

[Co-host]

He's been inside of you once, why wouldn't he want to be in you again also?

[Weezy]

Well, he did go again. Just not again. Again and again.

[Co-host]

Yeah, something's off. Like I really don't think the vibe even matters.

[Weezy]

I'm not gonna lie, this is one of those where sis, please let us know how the conversation goes. I do wanna know if you can get down to the answers. Is that his boyfriend? Have they been together for nine years? Are they sleeping in the bed together? Is he asexual? And we'll find all of this out next time on Dragon Ball Z. But no, seriously, please send it in to us decisionspodmail.com would love, love, love. I'm gonna even respond to your email now. Bitch, we need the tea. We need the update. Give it to us.

[Co-host]

Cause I ain't gonna be able to live bitch until I find out if your nigga don't want to.

[Weezy]

I need to know. I actually wants to know and drive me your thoughts. And below again, if you are on Patreon, you get to see this full video. So go ahead and drop your thoughts if you're on Patreon. If not, head on over to our social channels and let you let us know what you think needs to happen here. Should she break up with him or she should she just live her best life as a beard? Let us know, okay? And we'll see y' all next week.

[Co-host]

Bye.

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