You've Got Decisions: Is this N**** Selling D?

Summary

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Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions

Episode: You've Got Decisions: Is this N**** Selling D?

Date: June 10, 2026
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Podcast Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts

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Episode Overview

This episode of Decisions, Decisions dives into the complexities and suspicions of modern dating, focusing on the sometimes wild—and often hilarious—listener letters. Mandii B and WeezyWTF use their blend of humor, honesty, and real talk to dissect a listener's suspicions about whether her new suitor is “selling dick” (i.e., engaged in sex work or pimping), and what to make of red flags in their online profiles. Throughout, the hosts challenge mainstream narratives about relationships, discuss personal boundaries, and offer candid advice with their signature witty banter.

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Main Discussion Points & Insights

1. Reflections on the Podcast's First Year and Fan Engagement

• The hosts celebrate the one-year anniversary of their book, No Holes Barred, and share their excitement about recent live shows and signing events.
• Notable Quote:
  • “It's mind blowing to me. I can't believe it's been a fucking year. Seeing all your faces was beautiful.” — Weezy (03:36)

2. Listener Letters: Adventures and Confessions

(Main segment starts around 04:08)

Anecdote: The Anal Adventure

• A listener shares a story about a partner who asked “Where am I right now?” during anal sex.
• The hosts empathize and share that such kink communication is common and not necessarily shameful.
• Memorable Exchange:
  • “Well, this freaky fucker was in my ass. And what did he ask? Oh, where am I right now?” — Mandy B. reading a listener letter (05:19)
  • “It's not that it's loose, it's that like, they like to hear that shit.” — Mandy B. (05:50)

The Main Letter: “Is this N**** Selling Dick?”

• Summary:
  Listener writes about meeting a charming, well-dressed man with suspicious social media behavior. He claims to work in insurance, boasts financial freedom (“can take a month off”), but follows mostly “snow bunny” (white, often OnlyFans) women on Instagram and spends a lot of time between Arizona (notably near Nevada, known for its sex work industry).

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Key Analysis & Advice

A. Is He “Selling Dick” or a Pimp?

(Starts ~08:16; Deep Dive at 10:01 & 16:11)

• Red Flag 1: The Instagram Algorithm
  • The man follows a large number of scantily clad white women, some apparently sex workers.
  • Mandy suggests this could be a front for sex work, but notes it could also indicate he's a pimp, given the West Coast/Nevada proximity.
• Investigative Tips:
  • LinkedIn Stalking:
    • “If you have his first and last name, bitch, run him through the recamp… If he's in insurance and like it seems to be a corporate job… see if that nigga's on LinkedIn.” — Mandy B. (10:01)
  • Check Police or Public Records:
    • “Spend the $9.99 and get your ass on White Pages. You could see where niggas live, their phone numbers, their arrest records...” — Mandy B. (16:49)

B. The “Snow Bunny” Factor

(Discussed 08:45 through 21:34)

• The hosts debate whether exclusively following white women is a sign of colorism, sex work, or just a preference.
• Weezy’s Take:
  • Thinks following mainly white women could indicate a problematic pattern or preference.
  • “A black man only following white women isn't alarming to you?” — Weezy (19:16)
• Mandy’s Take:
  • Notes there are Latinas and a few Black men in the screenshots. Finds the listener may be letting insecurity guide her suspicions and notes that having preferences doesn’t always equal something sinister.
  • “I think that there's other red flags that you have… There's no way you're just thinking this nigga's selling dick because of who he's following.” — Mandy B. (20:35)

C. Is Social Media Stalking Insecurity or Just Diligence?

(21:34–22:42)

• Debate whether it’s “insecure” or “normal” to deep dive into a potential partner’s followers.
• Notable Exchange:
  • “I don't think you have to be insecure if you are trying to gauge who a man is following.” — Weezy (21:34)
  • “It's weird to look and then screenshot and then write into a podcast.” — Mandy B. (22:23)

D. Financial Freedom and “Corporate” Employment

(17:03–17:26)

• The hosts debate if it’s a red flag for someone in “insurance” to say they can take a month off. Mandy deems it suspect for a “real” 9-to-5 job; Weezy contends some insurance gigs are flexible and lucrative.

E. What to Do Next?

(25:08–25:54)

• Mandy playfully suggests the listener should actually “see if the dick is good before you think he's selling it.”
• Both encourage having honest conversations to figure out the truth about new partners, rather than jumping to conclusions based on social media.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On modern “networking”:

  • “LinkedIn is where the professional people are meeting each other. Yes, very much so.” — Mandy B. (11:23)

• On the ‘investigation’:

  • “Girl, spend the 9.99 and get your ass on white pages.” — Mandy B. (16:49)

• Perspective on “type” and insecurity:

  • “He just seems like someone you don't trust overall… Your concerns to me don't really match up with the follower part.” — Weezy (23:07)

• On the listener's fears:

  • “There's no way you're just thinking this nigga's selling dick because of who he's following…” — Mandy B. (22:23)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 03:31 — Hosts discuss their one-year anniversary and connecting with fans
• 05:19 — Listener recounts “anal adventure”
• 08:16 — Introduction of “is this n**** selling dick?” main letter
• 10:01 — Mandy speculates about the guy being a pimp
• 16:11 — Mandy and Weezy discuss ways to investigate via LinkedIn and public records
• 17:03 — Debate about insurance jobs and work flexibility
• 19:16 — Weezy discusses the red flag of only following white women
• 20:35 — Mandy addresses listener insecurity and alternative red flags
• 21:34–22:42 — Discussion about whether looking into followers is normal or insecure
• 25:08 — Suggestion to focus on enjoying the guy’s company and not overanalyze

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Recommendations & Final Thoughts

• Remain vigilant but don’t let suspicion overshadow genuine connection opportunities.
• Use online tools for basic vetting, but don’t obsessively stalk or overanalyze social feeds.
• If a partner’s online behavior triggers strong discomfort or brings up issues about prejudice or dishonesty, have an honest conversation or walk away.
• Trust your intuition—if you feel you can't trust him, that’s a red flag in itself.

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Final words:
“Hopefully, you just have enough conversation with this man to actually figure out what he's doing… Good luck. And also, even if you are a light-skinned black woman, the idea that you could even question whether a man was colorist or not and still be attracted to him… let’s not give these niggas no fucking pass.” — Mandy B. (25:54)

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For listener letters or advice, contact:
[e-mail]
And check out No Holes Barred paperback wherever books are sold!

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Transcript

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[Mandy B.]

Hey, guys. Welcome to you Got decisions, baby. And I do too. And you do, and we do. And hopefully we here to help you. Welcome, guys, to another episode. Shout out to everybody who joined us in New York City for our live show. Once again, if you are unaware, we have reached our one year anniversary of the no hold, no hoes barred. If you are into paperback books, you can now order and purchase yours and get it A. Sappington, because it is now available for purchase. So get your paperback.

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What I will tell y'. All. I cannot believe it's been a year.

[Mandy B.]

I can't believe it.

[Weezy]

It's mind blowing to me. I can't believe it's been a fucking year. Seeing all your faces was beautiful. And also just being able to like, talk about it a little bit with y' all is great because when we were stopping off at different stores and, you know, meeting y' all in person and doing like signings, no one had really read it yet. So it was just like, you're gonna love it and now we know you love it.

[Mandy B.]

Yeah. So love that, love that, love that. You know, depending on how we feel, we may do another popup before the end of the year.

[Weezy]

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[Mandy B.]

It depends if we getting along, y'. All. While tickets lax. We don't know the cities yet, but it's possible. I don't know, but y' all not getting no tour no time soon. So just letting y' all know that as well. Um, if you want to send us a letter asking for advice, make sure you send it over to decisionspodmail.com weezy this one is a little wild. So before getting into it, there is someone who wrote in and wanted to share that they recently had one of the same experiences as they've heard on the podcast. Okay, wanted to quickly read this real quick. It says, new fan, same experience. Hi, ladies. I'm a new fan. So I started at the beginning and I'm slowly trying to catch up. Love y'.

[Weezy]

All.

[Mandy B.]

And I love that y' all make freaky feel normal. But pun intended. I wanted to share that you popped in my head during a recent sexual adventure. I did anal the first time with a guy I've been seeing for a few months. We gotta do other stuff before and they gotta earn anal. Well, this freaky fucker was in my ass.

[Weezy]

Not a freaky fucker.

[Mandy B.]

A freaky fucker. Well, this freaky fucker was in my ass. And what did he ask? Oh, where am I right now? And wanted me to say that he was in Fact in my.

[Weezy]

Oh, I thought, bitch, it was that

[Mandy B.]

loose that he couldn't tell I about die. No, I think I shared this about me, like n love for you to just tell them that you're in my ass, bitch.

[Weezy]

Cause that was funnier.

[Mandy B.]

It's not that it's loose, it's that like, they like to hear that shit. After hearing on the podcast that you had the same experience. I about died sending love from a good girl. Yeah, no, I think that literally that happened with me and 24 7. Um, but yeah, I've definitely shared that a guy wanted me to let him know which hole he was in because it was so dirty. Not that it was dirty literally. I know it was my asshole, but no, just the fact that, yeah, nigga, your whole dick is in my ass. You're in there, babe. Anyway, this next one is quite funny, quite sad, and I don't know where to go with this one, but let's get into it. The subject line is, is this nigga selling dick, bitch?

[Weezy]

Y' all are funny as fuck with these subject lines.

[Mandy B.]

Block.

[Weezy]

What was last week? Block or black?

[Mandy B.]

No, last week was a girl that wants a threesome. The other one, the one before that was spin the block or back to being blocked. But this girl is writing in to ask if we believe her partner is selling dick. So here we go. Hey, Weezy and Mindy, longtime fan, love y' all down. To make this short, I met this nigga at Soho. Fine chocolate, dress good, smell good, all that. He says he works in insurance and wants to take me out, buy flowers, all of the good shit. We're texting and he asked to exchange Instagrams, which we do. Now he has over 6,000 followers and only follows about 700 people. And they are all snow bunnies for what is worried. I am a light skinned black, so maybe he's a colorist. But I'm also very much slim, thin, and with the exception of Lebron James, he follows mostly bbl, big Pamela Anderson titty type white bitches. Some have onlyfans, some don't. And most of his followers are the same type of girls he claims to be living between two states with most of his quote unquote, insurance business in Phoenix, Arizona.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy B.]

Says things like, oh, I don't have a schedule, I can stop working for a month if I wanted. He was supposed to be in Arizona for another two weeks and all of a sudden he says he's coming back out of nowhere. And this could very much be business dealings above my pay grade. But I Don't know. I'm suspicious that with this much money, this much freedom, and what seems to be nothing but thick ass, half dressed women on his Instagram. Is this really just his type? Is he selling dick or is there something else going on? Thank you. Now, well, just so you know, in the email, she does also send screenshots of what these girls all look like. She sends like three pages of white bimbo snow bunnies. Um, and yeah, they. Some of them are onlyfans girls. Some of them just look like they could be onlyfans girls. Um, but girl, it's all he follows again, outside of LeBron J. I have a thought. Me too. I have a thought now. Could he be selling dick? Yes. But another suspicion that I would lean into because depending on how attractive he is, knowing that he's in Phoenix, which is right next door to Nevada, he's a pimp. Not gonna hold you. I actually, when I read this, I was like, maybe he's a pimp. Especially because that culture is very prevalent on the west coast. I would. If you have his first and last name, bitch, run him through the wreck camp.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B.]

See if that nigga's on LinkedIn. See if that has gonna say like

[Weezy]

the police records to see.

[Mandy B.]

No, I would say LinkedIn. If he's an insurance and like it seems to be a corporate job and niggas be finding on LinkedIn too.

[Weezy]

Like I, I niggas find on LinkedIn is crazy, bro. I would get. Is that true?

[Mandy B.]

Like, even with my home? Yes, bro. That is like the profession, like, you know, Ry is for celebrities. LinkedIn is for the professionals, bitch, they be on there, girl, for a second.

[Weezy]

I never heard of a bitch meeting a nigga on LinkedIn.

[Mandy B.]

You kidding me? And I'm bitch, yes. They be calling it networking, bitch.

[Weezy]

Joking.

[Mandy B.]

No, like, you know what's crazy too? Even all of my friends who end up meeting niggas on seeking arrangement, they may not have an Instagram, but them niggas got a LinkedIn. It's that.

[Weezy]

Now we're talking about two different things.

[Mandy B.]

No, we're not. I'm talking about professional niggas. If. If niggas have a job, especially a corporate job of some caliber, they would have a LinkedIn profile before an Instagram. Wait, wait, wait.

[Weezy]

I agree with that. The way you just said it is that. That people are meeting in a romantic way.

[Mandy B.]

That too. Yes. Yes.

[Weezy]

Bitch, you're going to have to tell me.

[Mandy B.]

I want to say we just had this conversation on a podcast. It wasn't with me No, I think it was with Killa, actually. I think it was brought up maybe. But no, this is happening like, Bro, LinkedIn is where the professional people are meeting each other. Yes, very much so. Wait, professional?

[Weezy]

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[Mandy B.]

so if he's telling you that he's in insurance, get his first and last name and see if he has a LinkedIn. Because at least his LinkedIn would have his education. It would have his previous work experience. Something to let you know that he really is even in that field or has ever even had a job. Or like Weezy said, if you do have the first and last name, y' all know I found out my homegirl was dating a married nigga. Girl, spend the 9.99 and get your ass on white pages. You could see where niggas live, their phone numbers, their arrest records and I would say do that.

[Weezy]

It's.

[Mandy B.]

But let's.

[Weezy]

Let's go back to a few things.

[Mandy B.]

Yes.

[Weezy]

You brought up this snow bunny thing. So you think he's a pimp. Because basically he's saying he could be. He's saying he's taking time off, blah, blah, blah. Okay, so that could be a red flag, right? Or he could take a month off if he wanted to.

[Mandy B.]

It is a red flag for a guy with a corporate job to say

[Weezy]

that insurance isn't corporate. Corporate, though.

[Mandy B.]

It's corporate. It's a 9 to 5 or it's.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, it's not. No, it's not.

[Mandy B.]

It's blue collar. It can be white collar. Yes, it is. No, no, no.

[Weezy]

I'm just saying, like, insurance isn't this.

[Mandy B.]

It could be remote. It could be remote, but you can't just take a month off and be good.

[Weezy]

Okay, so one of my friends sells insurance. I didn't know that. They make so much money, but like, she be bouncing around like a too. It's one of those, like, you gotta like, scout it, like B2B type shit. So that's why that part is believable to me. But the following white girls wouldn't make me think he's selling dick or pimping more than it would make me think, like, because he follows the same type of girls. It's in his algorithm. Because you said they're the same type. Right? Okay, ig baddie white girls, whatever. Let's just say so he has a type that he's interested in. That, to me, is actually the only alarming thing. It ain't the insurance thing. It ain't anything. I. I don't know if I could date someone that had exclusively or 90 of their dating history was white women. I. I have a lot of strong opinions about interracial dating, as you guys know, if you listen to this show. But for me, the strongest opinions from Internet racial dating come from when someone makes that a trend. There's a girl that go. Gets very like. Or that's very popular. The Courtside Les girl, we just saw her on Paul and Azar's pod talking about or was a clip. Yeah, I only date black men. I feel like it's weird. I feel weird. I feel like it's fetishy. I feel like.

[Mandy B.]

I don't know.

[Weezy]

Even though I get it, like, there are certain white people that cross over into certain spaces. For example, Adam 22, right? If Adam was dating or married to a black woman and doing this show, it would kind of almost feel inauthentic as to his connection to hip hop. Right? Oh, she gets me more blah, blah, blah, blah. Like, I think some people align themselves with what they want to be like or want to.

[Mandy B.]

But do you think just a man following that, that indicates that.

[Weezy]

Yes, yes. Why wouldn't he be following a mixture of different types of women? He's only following snow bunnies. That's alarming. A black man only following white women isn't alarming to you?

[Mandy B.]

I mean, again, maybe if he's a

[Weezy]

pimp, a black woman, but.

[Mandy B.]

But to me, the following fact that he's talking to her and they're like dating or engaging to me doesn't make me feel like he only likes white women because he's clearly talking to her, which is why the fact that if it bothers her, I don't think she should talk to him because she clearly said maybe, then he's a colorist.

[Weezy]

She brought it up though.

[Mandy B.]

She thought she brought it up that maybe he's a colorist then. So it's not that he's only exclusive to.

[Weezy]

You can see some badass light skinned girls then, but you don't you see the.

[Mandy B.]

I mean, they're talking. I don't know. I, I think that if you've already deep dove into his followers and now you're looking into that, I think that there's other red flags that you have. There's other red flags that you see and this is just something you are pointing out to make everything else for sure.

[Weezy]

For sure.

[Mandy B.]

But there's other red flags. You don't just say this man is following nothing but white women. Is he selling dick? Girl, you have other reasons why you think this nigga selling dick. By the way, I'm looking through the screenshots. There are four here that are Latina. On this screenshot, by the way, he's also following someone named Micah Jones, which is the black man and a, a nigga that's a doctor. So, bitch, looking through your screenshots that you sent, these women aren't all white snow bunnies. There's three other men that I've seen other than Lebron James, and there are some that look Latina. Now it is a screenshot, so I can't click on each one. But yeah, they do look like Bimbo Y, but they're also all not white. So me looking at your own screenshots, babe, I think you're looking too far in it and I think there's a little bit of insecurity here.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, no. I don't think you have to be insecure if you are trying to like, gauge who a man is following.

[Mandy B.]

I think, wait, when you, if you start dating a guy, going through his followers is a thing that doesn't make you insecure.

[Weezy]

I think you just are curious why insecure is. Like, why are you worried about worry and wanting him to unfollow if you want him to unfollow models or influencers? Like, one of my homegirls doesn't like her man following. Like, only fans girls. And I think that's weird, but just very weird is not weird. Who cares weird. I weird.

[Mandy B.]

I couldn't imagine being someone who, when I start talking to someone that I'm going through, who they're following on Instagram.

[Weezy]

I don't think it's weird to look most times.

[Mandy B.]

Like, I mean, it's weird to look and then screenshot and then write into a podcast. There's a. Like, what are we talking about? Like, that's. That's a little bit like there's other red flags. There's no way you're just thinking this nigga's selling dick because of who he's following.

[Weezy]

I think screenshotting the girls and sending them could be weird, but I don't think looking is weird because then also

[Mandy B.]

saying he's trying to find out more about people all the time through your own screenshots. I just saw two other niggas and Latina bitches. I will say I didn't see one black girl. But you only sent three screenshots. But there were other people besides goddamn LeBron and white girls. So also six, seven. What are you talking about?

[Weezy]

I don't even know what that means. But here's the thing. He just seems like someone you don't trust overall. That's all this really seems like, right. Like the insurance thing to me isn't crazy. I think you could ask someone more about their work so you could feel like it's trustworthy. You know what I mean? But your concerns to me don't really match up with the follower part.

[Mandy B.]

You know what I mean?

[Weezy]

Like, because you were like, oh, he was supposed to be somewhere and then he's saying he's coming back out of nowhere. It could be beeling business dealings, but in reality, he could just be with another bitch. He might be dating someone else. Why does that not where our brains went to? To me, when a man is unavailable and available and unavail like it's a bitch.

[Mandy B.]

Well, I think the reason why she thought he was selling dick most. Is that a. His job doesn't seem to be a job he really has. So I think she's questioning his free time and the amount of money he has and then the women that he follows.

[Weezy]

Now the thing about her saying that this much, he's. He's got a bunch of half naked women on his Instagram. I just want to say that's normal guy behavior to me. Like following hot girls. So what now? If it's following all hot white girls? Okay, I could see.

[Mandy B.]

Maybe that's. I follow hot girls.

[Weezy]

Him following bad bitches that are half naked. Like, so I follow hot girls and

[Mandy B.]

a whole bunch of fine niggas.

[Weezy]

You necessarily clock too much behavior until you spend a bit of time together.

[Mandy B.]

Right.

[Weezy]

That's the other thing.

[Mandy B.]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

You met a in person and now you're just having Instagram chat and trying to meet up again. Like you haven't really had a date yet. Like, he may not be selling date.

[Mandy B.]

Girl, let me see if she got the dick. No, she just said fine chocolate dress good, smell good. Yeah, girl, you see if the dick is good before you think he's selling it. God damn, he gotta look real good.

[Weezy]

You went through them followers, bitch. Been there, sister.

[Mandy B.]

Let me see if I could see. No, I can't see his name through

[Weezy]

these screenshots because I want to see the nigga be tripping back.

[Mandy B.]

I could just see who he's following. I'mma look it up. I'm going to find this nigga. I am. Fuck that. I'm a look. Anyways, good luck. Hopefully you just have enough conversation with this man to actually figure out what he's doing. Um, and yeah, again, good luck. But also, I will say, even if you are a light skinned black woman, the idea that you could even question whether a man was colorist or not and still be attracted to him. Girl, come on.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I know.

[Mandy B.]

Come on, come on. Let's not give these niggas no fucking passive. All right? Anyways, if you have a question, please send it in decisionspodmail.com and once again, baby, our baby is 1 years old and you can now get the paperback version of no Holes Barred wherever you get books. So ask your local bookstore, let them know you want to order. Or head on over to barnesandobles.com or Amazon.com to get your paperback version of our New York Times bestselling book.

[Weezy]

We love y' all so much.

[Mandy B.]

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[Weezy]

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