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Weezy
Mom, can you tell me a story?
Mom
Sure. Once upon a time, a mom needed a new car.
Weezy
Was she brave?
Mom
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Weezy
Did you have to fight a dragon?
Mom
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Weezy
Was it scary?
Mom
Honey, it was as unscary as car buying could be.
Weezy
Did the car have a sunroof?
Mom
It did, actually.
Weezy
Okay, good story.
Mom
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Weezy
like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?
Mandy
You've got decisions. You got decision.
Weezy
I do too. I feel like it's a McDonald's ad when I do it.
Mandy
I mean. Oh, someone told me to sing. Yeah, I mean, you kind of just sung a little bit. That was a little bit of singing. It was a little bit of singing.
Weezy
I tried to make it.
Mandy
Do it. Listen.
Weezy
But we're back, y'.
Mandy
All.
Weezy
It's another hump day. And also, just so that everyone knows that listens to these, if you want to watch us and see how gorgeous we are on patreon.com backslash. Horrible decisions. You actually get the video every single week. You get to see us. You get to see.
Mandy
What did I call you that?
Weezy
Everybody was like that. You was mad, Little Bill.
Mandy
Why would you bring that up again?
Weezy
Cause you're cute, Little Bill.
Mandy
You saw the comments and you was dead wrong for calling me Lil Bill.
Weezy
Joe Dirt was worse. And that's what you called yourself. I'd rather be Lil Dur is not worse.
Mandy
The mullet made sense. You called me a little bald headed black boy cartoon of a pedophilia. Oh, he's a whole PDF. What?
Weezy
When does this come out?
Mandy
What do you mean? It doesn't matter. The nigga's still in jail. I'M talking about Bill Cosmo.
Weezy
No, no, no, that's not it.
Mandy
Oh, girl. Anyway though, let's get into helping y'
Weezy
all
Mandy
be hot girls this summer. I guess we have whole mail from mom, which is crazy that y' all keep thinking that Weezy and I can help y' all out, but. Oh yeah, no, I mean this one maybe because she's young. She's young, so we at least been there, done that. At least in the young days. But we'll get into it.
Weezy
Not us giving advice based off our abortion kids.
Mandy
I mean, you know, we are sexually liberated beings and I think we can help the hoes find their way.
Weezy
Sounds good.
Mandy
If you want to send us your letter, email us decisionspod Gmail.com. let's get into it. The listener put the subject Mommy wants more.
Weezy
Ooh.
Mandy
Hi. I've been a part of the whorehive since 2020. I love y' all and am so grateful for the safe conversations y' all have shared. Being a listener to sexually liberating conversations in my early twenties was so necessary. I am very grateful for this space and have always wanted to submit some homemail. And here it is. After all this time, I hope y' all are able to read this and help a young mamacita out. So I am a 26 year old with a 2 year old and I'm still with my baby daddy. I recently went on a solo five day trip to New York with some good friends. It was so special and perfect. Although it was my two girlfriends and one guy best friend, I spent the majority of the time with him. Let's call him Go no. Me and Go no spent every day together and we even shared a bed. We sent the intention of platonic cuddling girl and it felt really sweet. He is good friends with my baby daddy. Let's call him dj. Girl, what are we doing?
Weezy
Wait a minute. Mommy needs some what? What the fuck was this?
Mandy
Mama wants more.
Weezy
Bitch, I'm not gonna hold you. Sometimes I feel like y' all might think these are fake cause they're crazy. And I agree with you bro.
Mandy
The email's there and I'm not gonna tell you her government name cause that's there too. Anyways, this he is good friends with my baby daddy and we gonna call the baby daddy dj. So Gono is like an uncle to our child and we are close back home as well. But this trip felt different.
Weezy
Bitch.
Mandy
Maybe cause you introduced cuddling.
Weezy
Oh yeah.
Mandy
We had the best time and definitely deepened our friendship. We stepped more into physical touch but like, respectfully, like leaning our heads on each other's shoulders on the train or holding hands after a long night of clubbing and walking back to the house
Weezy
holding, oh, bitch, you are really depressed.
Mandy
I felt really pure, and I was trying to step into how I would treat my girlfriends and show my love that way. I think we have so many conditioning around male and female connections that limit us from feeling safe and diving deeper. But there's something so healing about stepping into platonic intimacy with the opposite sex. I definitely can see where it can get tricky for a lot of people, though, if they take the sexualized conditioning too serious. Like maybe me. So it was all innocent and very childlike expressions of love until you was fucking. We all did Molly and went to Nowadays.
Weezy
Girl, what are you Me Do I know this girl?
Mandy
Weezy, I know you've had a night at Nowadays, so good. But yeah, I danced.
Weezy
Wait, that's what she wrote?
Mandy
Yeah, she did write that.
Weezy
Oh.
Mandy
But yeah, I danced so hard and sexy, it was like I was reclaiming my femininity and my body again. We were dancing all night, and at one point, I ended up dancing with Gono. And when I say we were dancing, we were grinding and dipping, hands on hips and all. It was really horny. But definitely because of the Molly and just the sexy vibe of the club and music. It was so hot. I keep thinking about that night and how in sync our bodies became. So, yeah, this is where the platonic perspective started getting tricky for me. Nothing happened. And we've since. And we've since had conversations about how we obviously want to stay friends and honor boundaries and respect my partner dj, because we both love it.
Weezy
Respect.
Mandy
It was just a fun night with movement and drugs. When I came home, DJ felt so cold. Going from a trip where everyone was loving so deeply, then coming home to him, the contrast was striking.
Weezy
Oh, honey, it's.
Mandy
We talked about it, and he said he was feeling envious of Gono and seeing us together through pictures just made him feel weird. I think it's valid. But we also wanted him to be there on the trip that he chose not to come on. So we all still went. I felt a little guilty, but as I've been sitting with it, I recognize that I haven't done anything wrong. Bitch, we'll get there. I allowed love to flow through, and it didn't cross boundaries and conversations have. And conversations have been had to eliminate any romanticism. But this whole experience just showed me how. How much I want to love on my people and I want to Dance freely and sensually. I don't feel like I can. She's 26. Oh, yeah. I don't feel like I can without guilt because of the expectations that come with monogamy. I feel like this experience just awoke something in me that I'm confused about and would appreciate your perspectives. He has since become really insecure about my friendship with Gono, and it's been frustrating. It's been frustrating because I understand his insecurity, but it also feels so fear based. I genuinely only want Gono as a friend, but his role sparked a lesson for me about what I feel I want in my relationship. I feel trapped by monogamy, and I feel like my body and the way my love flows has to be channeled through a man's expectations of me. Do y' all have any advice on how to move through this and what steps I. I can take? I don't want to be selfish and make rash decisions, but I also don't want to be tied to something that feels like I have to push parts of myself down. Help. Okay, sorry, Mandy. I know you don't like long emails, but I love y' all and thank you so much for reading this far. If you have. Wishing y' all the best. And of course, she shared her IG for Wheezy. I'll give it to you later. Wheezy,
Weezy
let me talk to you. Young Molly. Girl, the phase that you're in right now gives non monogamous only because you don't really want to be in a relationship sometimes, okay? When we're in this mode of partying and having fun, you made a comment about wanting to dance and express your love and blah, blah, blah. That actually doesn't give non monogamy to me. That gives non monogamy starts. You don't need to be out and want to exercise it. Non monogamy is thoughts that you could have sitting at home. I don't know if you could validate this, Mandy, but, like, I don't feel non monogamous when I'm tempted. I feel non monogamous in my being, right? Like, I don't need to see a fine ass nigga outside to be like, maybe I'm non monogamous. That doesn't happen. What I think is happening is your mom. You've got, you know, things that make you feel tied down at home to where you want to be just so free and expressive. But that's single girl shit. Because if you're not feeling it necessarily when you're at home, here's some other things too that I want all the listeners to understand when it comes to non monogamy, your boredom as a mom or as a wife, if you're listening, boredom doesn't make you non monogamous. Okay? Wanting to go out and party doesn't make you non monogamous. And a lack of sex in your life with your current partner doesn't make you non monogamous. These are things that kind of lack from your life. They don't making you think non monogamy could fix it. I'm not saying you all the way aren't. I'm just saying the instances you're bringing up don't coincide with how non monogamy works. So I think that because you're 26 and a mom, you haven't had those years to fuck off and get up and go to fucking nowadays and whatever. Whereas a lot of us who didn't have kids early got to so I think you're in a phase of needing to play around and have a good time while also respecting your relationship and wanting to respect yourself as whether that whatever that looks like as a mom. But what you're doing with his homeboy is so fucking wrong.
Mandy
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Weezy
Oh, me?
Mandy
No. Oh, hear me out. You are lying to yourself.
Weezy
Yep.
Mandy
And you are lying to your partner. And I say that because you did not introduce this as a woman who has a two year old with her partner or boyfriend. You started this and was like, I'm a mom. Yep. And I'm still with the baby daddy. The way that you even referenced the baby daddy was interesting to me because it didn't seem like you were happy in your relationship. Another reason why I don't feel like you were happy in your relationship was because as soon as you got away with him disrespecting the relationship that he has with this man that you're on a trip with, you chose intimacy, physical intimacy with another man, which makes me believe that you are lacking that at home. Thirdly, in this entire email, you referenced the conversations that you and Gono had, the friend about how you're gonna not make this romanticized. I would love to know.
Weezy
I would've rather you talk to if
Mandy
your daddy or your partner knows that you are cuddling, holding hands, and sensually bumping and grinding with his cousin.
Weezy
Terrible, terrible, terrible.
Mandy
Like, I feel like you said that he was jealous because.
Weezy
That's right. They're cousins, bro.
Mandy
That's his cousin.
Weezy
God, I forgot.
Mandy
You mentioned that he was cold because of the pictures and because he didn't attend the trip, you did not say, hey, babe, while I was on this trip, me and your cousin cuddled. Hey, babe, while I was on this trip, me and your cousin held hands. Hey, babe, on this trip, I also was bumping and grinding on your cousin and it felt a little less platonic, but we didn't take it all the way. So your idea of non monogamy, I also think is stemming from the fact that, you know, you've actually crossed the boundary and pretty much cheated. Sit with if you would be okay if your baby Daddy did this with your cousin?
Weezy
Hmm.
Mandy
Is your baby daddy allowed to platonically cuddle with a bitch? Is your baby daddy allowed to hold hands and party and grind and do all the physical, platonic, intimate moments you had with his cousin? Would you feel betrayed to find out he did that with another woman?
Weezy
Here's also the thing. Forget another woman throwing me in your face. I also want to bring up something about non monogamy. So when I, when I jumped in, said, when would this release? We'll post this because I want to bring up something that happened last night that's related to this engagement. Okay? So if you all got to see my Instagram today, you now know I'm engaged. Yay.
Mandy
Cool. The post is out.
Weezy
We're great. I went to a dinner for Shan Booty last night, okay? She is the new chief intimacy officer of a vibrator company called Plus One. And the dinner was for Cosmopolitan Shout Out. Shan Booty. We love Sham Booty. At the dinner, I'm gonna text you
Mandy
who the girl was, okay?
Weezy
There was another person at the dinner. You know who this is? And I was like, all eyes on her. Blah, blah, blah. She's so hot. Okay? So I start talking to the girl, and Cammie and Nina Parker were like,
Mandy
damn, bitch, did you've been engaged for, like, 72 hours?
Weezy
And I was like, so I'm still excited and in love with him. Like, what the fuck does this have to do? Like, y' all act like I'm cheating because I'm having this moment with somebody. And it's funny because when I got home, I called him and said the same thing. And I realized that was when my non monogamy really hit me. Because as I was leaving the dinner, I seen this nigga. So 550. It is so crazy too. He's like, have we met? We have never met. I was like, no. Da, da, da. So then we chatting, and I'm like, yo, I'm obsessed. Can't wait for this wedding. I can't wait for this moment in my life. Can't wait to have babies and live happily ever after. Ain't changed. And that is at my highest point and peak of happiness for you to consider non monogamy in moments of unhappiness.
Mandy
Yep.
Weezy
You know you want to cheat. This is where we get the Klay Thompson. This is where we get. That ain't shit that we always talk about.
Mandy
Oh, maybe I'm polyamorous.
Weezy
Maybe this right? And so I just want to say this honorably for people that are monogamous that should just leave their partner. That's what makes it worse. Besides the fact that you being trifling on some other shit. You bringing up non monogamy actually is an insult to all of us that are ethical about it. You know what I'm saying?
Mandy
Because that's what I'm saying. She. She left out like nothing in here says. And I had to sit down with my partner about how intimate I was with his cousin. You didn't say that part. So like you're starting off this idea of non monogamy lying and being distruthful to your partner. And I agree. I think that those intimate moments with his cousin, that physical touch is perhaps what you're lacking in your own relationship. I agree with that. That's crazy.
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Weezy
That this was probably not. Me and Mandy agree fully.
Mandy
But.
Weezy
But really I think it's just hurtful because low key. I'm so sorry. I know you wrote in. I know you're only 26. I know you got a kid. I don't want to drag you. But this the. That be making like us look bad, bro.
Mandy
Well, no, let's be fair too. And I think I talked about this with. With the whatchamacallit. We are now being introduced to these words in a way that you're just wanting to excuse your behavior and put it under an umbrella of something that sounds good, but you're going about it the wrong way. The same way Weezy, you said, clay, you can't sit here and say you think you're non monogamous after cheating. This is exactly what this listener did. You cross a boundary that in your mind you know you did. But now because it felt good and you liked it, although you didn't tell your partner. You're like, I want to feel this again. But it's probably because you're just lacking something and you don't know how to effectively communicate to your boyfriend that you're lacking this. But now you really can't communicate that you got it from his cousin.
Weezy
Col. I know. Col.
Mandy
I'm not going to lie. My advice would be to first be honest with him.
Weezy
This is very Jerry Springer, by the way.
Mandy
Now this is crazy.
Weezy
I just watched Ringmaster a few weeks ago and I don't know if anyone ever saw the Jerry Springer movie is so funny and cute. Not cute. It's ghetto. But it is just very. Like I'm fucking flirting with my baby daddy's cousin. Like, are you crazy, bitch? Talking about you non monogamous. How can I Practice this.
Mandy
What the you think?
Weezy
Cause we both do Molly and go to nowadays. I'm on your side.
Mandy
Yep.
Weezy
She do. When you guys write in, and I want everyone to understand this, and I mean this deeply. You bitches write in and make me side with the man. What a disappointment to my life and my career. You know, you gotta be fucked up.
Mandy
Y' all know that's my job. That's my job to side with the men, y'.
Weezy
All. Mandy and Sarah Fontenot. Y' all bitches side with the dick.
Mandy
That's how you know. You really brought up here and said, I can't remember nowadays. And how do I now you not gonna loop me in with Sarah, bro. That's what we not finna do, bitch. Cause I did not agree with a lot.
Weezy
She. Hold on. I agreed with Sarah a few weeks ago. She's basically had a clip. And I was like, I see what she's saying. She was like, posting swimsuit pics and stuff like that. As a woman in a relationship. Like, it's for the beach and the pool. You can't just be up in a bathroom, like, posting your shit. I was like, I feel that. But then let me make you laugh. I put on a sports bra and a pair of underwear, and I was like, damn, I'm looking good. And I started taking pictures in the bathroom.
Mandy
You can do that.
Weezy
And then I hit my. I mean, you can send it to
Mandy
him, but yeah, you. I mean, but that's. But you know what? You can bitch if y' all can. Bitch, you can. If your nigga says it doesn't bother him. Fuck the Internet. You be like, my nigga don't. He don't mind.
Weezy
But it's like the message you. But what message can I send, bro? I mean, in an E and M relationship where I don't fuck with his cousin. How about that?
Mandy
Anyways, hopefully this helped. I think you need to talk to him. You need to set boundaries. But before you even do that, you have to be real with yourself. If this is a relationship that's fulfilling, because as long as it's not, non monogamy is not the answer. You need to make sure that this is a healthy relationship before introducing another person or other people within this dynamic. Hope this helps. Hope you look more into the definitions of these words and understand that you cheated. That this platonic intimacy that made you and the cousin have to halt the romanticized elements of this means that it went too much. You did too much.
Weezy
Anyways, and keep in mind, everyone else that's listening to this episode has the exact same opinion as us. So you don't need to write in anywhere else. Don't even tell a friend. Be embarrassed.
Mandy
Oh my God. Anyways, if you want to send your letter in, send it to decisionspodmail.com again. Thank you everyone who showed up to the one night only show last week. We enjoyed seeing the Whore Hive. It was a reunion, babe. And thank you guys so much. Until next time, see you next Wednesday. Hump day, Puss ass ho.
Weezy
Love y'.
Mom
All. Bye.
Mandy
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Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Release Date: June 17, 2026
Podcast Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts
This episode of "Decisions, Decisions" explores the complexities of platonic intimacy, particularly within the context of traditional relationships and shifting societal norms. Mandii B and WeezyWTF respond to a listener's letter that unpacks issues of emotional and physical boundaries, non-monogamy, and the confusion that arises when deep platonic bonds blur with romantic or sexual attraction. With humor and candor, the hosts reflect on their own experiences and provide a raw, honest critique of the letter-writer’s choices, highlighting the messy reality that often accompanies attempts to break free from relationship scripts.
On Rationalizing Boundary-Crossing:
"What you’re doing with his homeboy is so fucking wrong." – Weezy (11:47)
On Self-Deception:
"You are lying to yourself and you are lying to your partner." – Mandii (13:53)
On Non-Monogamy as Identity vs. Impulse:
"I don’t feel non monogamous when I’m tempted. I feel non monogamous in my being." – Weezy (09:44)
On Retroactive Justification:
"You’re just wanting to excuse your behavior and put it under an umbrella of something that sounds good, but you’re going about it the wrong way." – Mandii (19:37)
True to the show’s brand, the discussion is candid, unfiltered, and at times playfully confrontational. Mandii and Weezy blend empathy for young women’s confusion with tough love and pointed humor, never shying away from calling out what they see as self-deception or rationalization. Their advice urges radical honesty—both with oneself and with one’s partner—grounded in respectful and ethical frameworks, especially when challenging traditional relationship norms.
Summary:
"Platonic Intimacy" is used as a springboard for deeper questions about honesty, boundaries, and emotional needs in relationships. The hosts challenge listeners to differentiate between wanting more freedom and genuinely seeking non-monogamy, emphasizing that open conversation and ethical behavior are absolute requirements for any meaningful re-negotiation of relationship terms. The episode is an entertaining, pointed reminder that intimacy—platonic, romantic, or otherwise—always comes back to honesty and respect.