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This is an Iheart podcast.
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Remember the Bad Guys? Well, they're back and funnier than ever. DreamWorks animations, the Bad Guys 2 is the wildest, funniest comedy of the summer. Everyone's favorite crew of criminals is trying their best to go good until they're roped into a globe trotting heist by a new crew. The Bad Girls. Your kids, your parents, everybody is going to love it. Get Tickets now for DreamWorks animations, the Bad Guys 2. In theaters August 1st. Rated PG.
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If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?
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You've got decisions. You've got decisions.
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Happy hump day, everybody. We're back for another one. And today we. I believe this is our first update. Y' all need to be updating us more because we really be sitting there in the comments telling the bitch what to do.
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We really be giving y' all the tea on what to do and we don't know if you did it. By the way, if you have any question that you want advice from us for, make sure you email us decisionspodmail.com we do have an update and let's see what happened. Um, so this comes from the listener who was the only entrepreneurial friend. She said. Hi Mandy and Weezy. I just finished the episode where you addressed my questions and thank you, thank you, thank you. You both are incredibly motivating and helpful. I just wanted to follow up and let you know that between my email and now, I have talked with my girlfriends, made the effort to see them more. And we all understand that this chapter of mine is something I really care about and need to focus on at the moment. Not only to retire my mom, but also so I can be in that first class with a lay flat for my next trip. I'm very good. We are in our late 20s and have been friends for eight years. Like Weezy said, they aren't going anywhere and they love me and will always support me, which has never wavered. I guess I just needed a reminder since this journey with my mom has been such a blessing, but also isolating in ways. Thank you again and I'm manifesting our paths crossing one day. By the way, she's big girl. She did go ahead and if you guys want to support her, the business is nantucketbound cookies dot com. Oh no. Hold on. Yes, you did what?
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Hold on, hold on, hold on now I'm about to judge. So you and her did a whole thing. Bitch, you did that Shit on purpose. Ho.
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What? She did what? What's the problem?
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Could she drop that motherfucking shit? You knew this was.
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She said that was a P.S. if you curious about the business, this is what it is and let me know how I've done so far.
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Now I'm going to look. Hold on. Nanta. Is she black? Do we know? Check the name.
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I don't know.
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Okay, let me see.
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I can't tell if she's black. I don't know.
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Nantucket. You know, Nantucket is particularly white. Our online minimum order is 5 cookies. Due to the rising cost, we've increased our prices. Okay. Flatbed. Okay, hold on. She may be black. It's. Her name's Tina with two eyes.
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That is not actually the name in the email, so maybe that's just some. Someone else.
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Oh, it says Fernandez too, so.
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Oh, damn. I hope.
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No, no, no.
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I'm not gonna give the last name. I am seeing the full name in her email and it is giving white and she says mum. So. She's also British, I assume.
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Anywho, now let me tell you something. White lady. Are you lucky. I'm gonna just pretend that you might.
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Be a little gay.
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Cause it was Pride Week and we'll do a free ad for that. And you know, I'm allergic to eggs. So whenever we're in Boston. Cause I feel like that's close to Nantucket. I expect eggless cookies.
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Oh, my goodness. All right, well, for this week's you've got decisions. Here is the subject line, post iud dick, a blessing, curse, or a challenge? Hey, y'. All, first off, I just want to say how much I love you both. I seriously admire your tenacity, grit, vulnerability, boss bitch energy, and the way you show up so authentically for the world. Thank you for being exactly who you are. And congrats on your new book tour. That's right, baby. Make sure you get your tickets now@hbtour.com. now onto my reason for writing. Your girl needs some advice. I've been with my man for six years now. I love him down. He's my best friend, my ride or die. And our sex life is thriving like a hundred out of ten. Best dick I've ever had. I always knew he was packing. Don't ask me the exact size. Neither of us have measured. Not for the lack of trying on my part, but ever since I got my IUD out, which I had for almost 10 years, even before we met, things have felt intense. As a. As a proud hope for life. I've Always prided myself on being able to handle whatever dick comes my way, but this is next level. Honestly, it feels like he's hitting my cervix. When he's all the way in. It's not just full. Sometimes it's straight up uncomfortable, even unpleasant, to the point where I have to ask him not to go so deep. And trust me, he does everything right. He'll finger me or eat me out until I'm super wet squirting before moving on to penetrative sex. He takes his time, tries different positions, focuses on my pleasure, gives me positive reinforcement, and coaches me through all of it. When I asked him if he if sex feels different for him, he said it doesn't, but he can tell when it's too much for me and will pull out a bit. He also told me he used to fill the strings for my iud, even after my gyno cut them shorter so he'd pull. He'd pull out a few inches so they wouldn't poke him. I was like, so, sir, a few inches. Part of me feels robbed slash bamboozled. But another part of me is like, wow, this man really loves me and is attentive to my needs. Quick backstory. When we first started dating, he mentioned a stabbing feeling during sex. So I went to my gyno and asked her to trim the IUD strings. She was surprised he could feel them at all, but she cut them as short as possible, just enough so I could still check that they were in place. Well, maybe it's a pride thing, but I really want to be able to take all of him and enjoy it. We're still having same tantalizing, toe curling, mind numbing, nasty, sexy sex. But I want to be able to handle everything he's got. Would love to hear your thoughts now.
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I pulled up a little something about IUDs just so we can all hear it. So while most partners don't feel anything, 27% of men feel the strings. Around half of it believe it interferes with sex. And if the strings are too long or haven't softened, it's more notable. Noticeable for the strings are plastic strings that are long enough for a doctor to remove the iud. So that's basically why the strings are there. And they're usually trimmed to a length that lies against the cervix. So it's not supposed to be painful for a partner, but it does kind of change the way that the vagina can feel. And honestly, like, there's just so many things that I've Been hearing about the iud. I'm just pulling up something from npr. We might have already read it. Where doctors are urged to treat pain for IUD insertion. Have you seen this? So basically, the IUD is known to be so painful that. And people say it's excruciating. I think there was even someone I asked that said it was close to, like, a quick feeling of childbirth. Like, that's how painful. And so basically, it's now recommended by the American College of OBGYN that these procedures have an urgent need for lidocaine and local anesthetic. Not like, you know, when they do the dental blocks, like in some cases even anesthesia, because it's that painful. So I say all that to say there's been so many things that have come about with the iud, so many changes, so many conversations. I have always felt like the IUD is not in its best form yet.
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Oh, I agree. I agree.
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Because it's just a little too much. And don't get me wrong, when I was on the show talking about how I was gaining weight from pills, people were like, iud, iud. But an issue I hear most often is pain or some kind of sensation with the iud. So the one thing I will say is if it's prohibiting your sex life in a way that's bothersome to both of you, I would get rid of it, like, if it was uncomfortable. But the fact that he's happy you guys are still having mind blowing sex. I wouldn't take it out.
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Wait, I don't know if you listened. She removed it. No, no, no.
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I'm saying, like, I wouldn't take it out. I'm just, like, giving you.
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No, she did take it out. She did take it out. That's what she's saying.
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But she was saying, what do I do?
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No, the letter. No, no, no, no, no. The letter was saying that she had the IUD for 10 years. Even with the IUD, she cut the strings while she had it because that was bothering her. She now has taken out the iud and sex is painful for her and she doesn't know why she can't take the dick.
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I thought the IUD was blocking the dick.
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No, it literally says post IUD dick. She can't take it. She doesn't know what's wrong with her. So for me. So there's a few things, right? I don't know if removing the IUD caused any sort of trauma that maybe what you're experiencing is a level of vaginismus where it's getting. Or, like, maybe you need to go to pelvic floor therapy to, like, maybe there's literally something contracting from the removal of it. Or. Or only because I had a friend who used to say that pain was excruciatingly painful to her, and it was because of a fibroid, which I don't know if y'. All. Y'. All. Y' all will listen to the episode coming up, but I recently got a new sex partner whose dick is massive. And the first two times we fucked up, it was excruciating. Like, it was painful. It was so painful. And I was like, damn. Like, it was so painful, it made me want to go see my primary care physician. Because I was like, bitch, is there something in me? Do I have a fibroid? Has my anatomy changed? Like, I literally was like, something ain't right because, bitch, me too. I am prideful about how well I can take some dick, especially big, long, girthy dick. So to me, if you're experiencing this pain, it is something that I would actually bring up to my doctor. I would advocate to get an ultrasound and just see kind of what's happening, because it could actually be something completely different. And it is strange that with the iud, the sex was fine. Before the iud, the sex was fine. He had an issue with feeling the strings. But now that the IUD has removed the. You literally don't. You can't take his dick. I would say that there's probably something else happening, and I would. I would say go get that checked.
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A lot of women are experiencing pain during sex and chalking it up to anything but getting checked. Like, they're not using enough lube. They're not accounting for dryness. Also, the second that you're assuming you're about to feel pain, your body's going to tense up. Right? So I did pelvic floor therapy for a few months, and it helped me tremendously. Like, my body started to clench at the thought of entry because I had experienced pain. So I'm not really sure why it's happening. I'm also not really sure why you think Mandy and I got the answers, but what I would say is, I'm glad you took it out because it seems like it was something that was, like, an issue in your head. But I'm also really scared for the future of, like, I don't know, contraceptives. Like, knowing that you've already had this traumatic issue. It's like fudge. Are you going to be scared for the next thing? Because the most women that choose the IUD want something non hormonal. Like, they want to not be able to get those cravings and pimples or acne or mood swings, all that shit. So it's like.
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I did. I did also end up. Because when I took this. Y'. All. Y' all don't understand. I literally could not take this man's dick. And I was embarrassed because, bitch, I was a runner and a track star because I was running really fast from that goddamn dick. And so for me, the next time we fucked was, like, maybe two weeks later, and I was able to take it. And so what's crazy is I actually ended up looking up if it had anything to do with my cycle. And in fact, there is a correlation between your pussy and size and where you are in your ovulation cycle. So I do want to share this because I just looked and your ovulation cycle, nothing to do with dick size. Like, especially if you're a woman who just. You feel like you could take dick, like, good for me, I was like, damn. I was trying to blame everything, but having size, that's interesting. But no, Anyone with a pussy during your cycle, literally, I don't know if y' all have the flow app or whatever you do, but your pussy actually does change in size during different moments within your ovulation cycle. So after ovulation hormones drop and the vagina may feel less flexible and even drier, leading to the perception of tightness. And then, of course, with increased levels of estrogen and progesterone, that makes the vagina more lubricated and actually elastic during that time.
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Mandy, tell me how much you hate getting a fee on something.
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I hate it. Especially the ones that are hidden, the ones where you see there's a total, and then next thing you know, there's a fee at the end, like rentals for the weekend and concert tickets.
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For me, it's a missed payment because, girl, we've been busy, okay? And honestly, every dollar counts for me. I got vacations to go on.
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You my favorite part?
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Forget the fee, girl.
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Getting paid two days early. That's what I'm talking about. Up to two days early with direct deposit.
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The 247 customer support. It's just always so convenient considering you never know what time zone you and it might be 3am we in the club we need that card to work the tools helping me with just balance updates and letting me know where I'm at in real time. That's what I'm talking about.
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Open your account in two minutes@chime.com decisions. That's chime.com decisions Chime feels like progress.
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Remember the Bad Guys? They're back and they're funnier than ever. DreamWorks Animation's the Bad Guys 2 is hitting theaters. It's the boldest, wildest, baddest comedy of the summer. I mean, this time everything's bigger. The action, the laughs, the hilariously questionable decisions. Everyone's favorite crew of criminals is trying. Emphasis on trying to go good. Spoiler. It's not going well because they get roped into a heist that takes them all over the world by some new rivals. A slick, stylish and seriously bad crew known as the Bad Girls. This movie is packed with outrageous gags, epic action and so many laugh out loud moments you might spill your popcorn. But here's a tip. See the Bad Guys two in a theater. The energy of the crowd will make every joke in hit even harder. Kids will love it. Adults will love it. Your inner bad guy or bad girl will love it. Get tickets now for Dreamworks animations. The Bad Guys 2. In theaters August 1st. Rated PG. So if you look at your. And maybe I'll put this on Patreon or maybe I'll see if there's a chart that I can put it on our thing. But there are literal moments within your cycle where your vagina will be tighter than other moments. And so I would look and maybe use that track when your cycle is. I know you may be someone who fucks often, especially if you really, really, really, really, really like having sex with this man. And y' all been together for so long. I would say maybe track that.
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And I think my biggest is probably thrown off because of the IUD too.
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Like, what do you mean?
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Just, I'm saying just like, you know, removing, removing the iud. Like, who knows, maybe her cycle's not the same. Like, I'm really hoping that it is because I think it's really helpful to give to any gyno your last period and the trends of your period. Like that is so important. Especially when there was a Sex and the City episode. Y' all know I reference it all the time, but basically Charlotte had vaginismus or no, it was vulvodynia and she had to do a vagina journal of what it felt like for the day if there was dryness, wetness, like whatever was going on. And so in the FLO app or different period apps, I use a different one. There's literally notes for that. I do the same thing. Like if I see a little blood early, I'm like, boop, boop, like, and I track it and I literally hand it to the guy and I'm like, here was my pussy. Here are the details.
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I also wanted to add too, in terms of your period, because y', all, listen, first off, y' all got us being Googlers over here and doctors. We are not doctors. However, I wanted to add though, because you mentioned in your email that you feel like he's hitting your cervix. The position of your cervix actually does change throughout your time, your cycle. So it gets typically the lowest mid cycle and at its highest at the start and end. So that clearly makes the amount of room inside of your vagina different and, of course, changes changes in hormones too. Um, could have your cervix move and cervical mucus and vaginal fluids change as well during your menstrual cycle. But that's the thing. If you feel like he's hitting something, he actually may be, and it may be because of where you're at in your cycle. Kind of like what Weezy said. Though the fact that hormonal changes are probably different now that you've removed the iud, it could just be throwing all of it. And maybe your cervix is saying lower than normal because you didn't have IUD for this long.
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For anyone listening when you have vaginal pain, the best advice I'd got from a doctor was, like, being able to describe your pain, because I was really even confused even when you mentioned removal in the beginning of the thing. It's so confusing because you associate the entry of the IUD and the IUD itself to be the pain. So what I would say is describing the pain so that you can figure out what it is. For example, sharpness, poking, tightness. There's another one that I remember my doctor was telling me. Like, burning. When we hear burning, we think a lot of times, like, std type of pee burn. And it's not that. It's just like, you know, if something's really raw, almost think if you're, like, putting on lotion and you're, like, sunburned like that, that's the burn where it feels very tender. Like, figuring out the words to describe your pain because you gonna go down a Google hole, bitch.
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Wait a second. Now you. Now you got me thinking when I was taking that dick, how would I describe the pain? You know what's crazy? I literally, first off, I felt he was right in my belly button. So I literally felt like he was in my stomach, like, for one. And I was just like, what the fuck? Like, to the point where, like, after we were done, I felt like I could still feel him in me. Like, in my stomach. Like, I felt like he punched me in my stomach. I don't think I was feeling poking as much.
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You know what? That. That. What I heard, too, is that's uti. Could be tenderness. I don't know if you just got back from Cannes or just going or whatever, but. Water, bitch. Okay.
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Dehydration, healing.
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Like, when. When you a UTI during sex can give you that feeling too. It's like inflammation, and then there's another thing. Oh, well, not to scare you, because, I mean, well, this didn't happen to you because you wouldn't know my homegirl's uterus tilted from a big dick. And she said that she remembered. She, like, tells the joke all the time when we're drunk. She's like, bitch, I'm gonna tell you what happened with this nigga. And she always says. I said, it's in my stomach. And she said when he pulled out, she felt a movement. Get the fuck out of here, bruh. She's been to our LA shows. You've met her. I'm telling you, the bitch. Every time she told this story. And the last time I saw her, too, we were out somewhere, and I was like, bitch, tell so. And so she was like, how he fucked my pussy up. And I was like, girl, no.
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About your recent move.
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Like, no. Like, she's so used to telling this story because it's so unbelievable.
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But the show, I'm not gonna lie. Like, I wouldn't think that a dick could be too big to move anything around, but not only is this dick really big, it got a curve. So I'm not gonna hold you. I feel like he. He rearranging my pussy. I ain't even gonna hold you, like, so I wouldn't doubt that something is happening up in there and that he might tilt. Drop something with something.
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Hey, y' all might be fucking the same nigga. Where's she. This ain't Nantucket.
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No, no, no, no, no, no. This is. No, no, we're not. No, wait, hold on. Let me look.
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How you know y' all ain't the same?
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I don't say because he said that. She been with this man for six years. I am not anybody with a girlfriend. Baby, this is not. This is not horrible decisions from eight years ago, okay? The nigga is very single. Very single and destroying my insides. Anyways, we do hope that you do go to a doctor. I will say that. And like Weezy said, explain your pain to them. I would advocate for an ultrasound and make sure that everything is where it needs to be or that you don't have anything extra growing inside of you.
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Because we'll be wheeling you and Mandy around on the NHB tour. Make sure you go, because we are still horrible. Go and get your tickets right now for NHB tour.com there. It's gonna be the live shows that you always know. We are literally blending in the book into our live shows. So some of the stories you read, we're bringing the pages to the stages.
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That's right? And we're excited to see you guys all there. I really, really, really hope we were able to help you. We clearly. You just made me talk about a dick that's big to me, too, and was painful, but now I feel like I'm used to it, so I did take it the third time, but I would maybe do that, too. Maybe just keep fucking.
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Yeah, man. Stretch that pussy thread and be like, let me tell you what's going on with my pussies.
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Listen. Anyways, guys, thank y'. All. And once again, if you want advice from us or you want us to share our big dick stories, just like y' all big dick stories, go ahead and send it into us decisionspodmail.com and we will see y' all next week.
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Bye, everybody. This is an I Heart podcast.
Podcast Episode Summary: "Decisions, Decisions" – Episode: "You've Got Decisions: Post IUD D"
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In this episode of "Decisions, Decisions," Mandii B and WeezyWTF address a listener's personal struggle following the removal of an Intrauterine Device (IUD) and its impact on her sexual relationship. The conversation navigates the physical and emotional challenges that arise post-IUD removal, offering medical insights, personal anecdotes, and practical advice to listeners facing similar issues.
The episode centers around a heartfelt email from a listener in her late 20s who has been in a six-year relationship. She expresses gratitude towards Mandii and Weezy for their previous advice, detailing how she has reconnected with her friends and focused on personal growth and caring for her mother. However, she shares a pressing concern regarding her sexual relationship:
Listener's Email: "Since I got my IUD out, things have felt intense. It feels like he's hitting my cervix... sometimes it's even uncomfortable, to the point where I have to ask him not to go so deep."
She elaborates on her and her partner's efforts to maintain a thriving sex life, highlighting his attentiveness and the measures they've taken to ensure mutual satisfaction. Despite their efforts, the removal of the IUD has introduced unexpected discomfort during intercourse, leaving her seeking guidance on how to navigate this new challenge.
Mandii begins by providing a medical overview of IUDs, emphasizing that while they are a popular non-hormonal contraceptive choice, they can sometimes cause physical sensations during sex due to the IUD strings:
Mandii [06:56]: "Most partners don't feel anything, but 27% of men feel the strings. Around half believe it interferes with sex."
She references an NPR article highlighting the extreme pain sometimes associated with IUD insertion, noting that the American College of OBGYN now recommends the use of lidocaine and local anesthetics to mitigate discomfort during the procedure.
WeezyWTF delves deeper into the listener's predicament, clarifying that she has indeed removed the IUD and is experiencing new pain during intercourse:
WeezyWTF [09:22]: "She now has taken out the IUD and sex is painful for her and she doesn't know why she can't take the dick."
They discuss potential causes, including physical trauma from IUD removal, possible vaginismus (involuntary pelvic floor muscle contractions), or other anatomical issues such as fibroids that may be contributing to her pain.
Mandii shares a personal story about experiencing pain with a new partner, leading her to seek medical attention for potential underlying issues, such as fibroids. She emphasizes the importance of advocating for one's health and seeking professional medical evaluations when experiencing unexplained pain:
Mandii [09:10]: "If you're experiencing this pain, it is something that I would actually bring up to my doctor. I would advocate to get an ultrasound and just see what's happening."
WeezyWTF adds that hormonal changes post-IUD removal could alter the cervix's position and vaginal lubrication, affecting sexual comfort. She also introduces the concept that a woman's ovulation cycle can influence vaginal elasticity and lubrication, which might play a role in the listener's current discomfort:
WeezyWTF [13:35]: "Your cervix actually does change throughout your cycle... with increased levels of estrogen and progesterone, making the vagina more lubricated and elastic."
Both hosts offer actionable advice:
Seek Medical Consultation: Mandii and WeezyWTF strongly advise consulting a gynecologist to rule out any physical abnormalities or conditions that might be causing the pain.
Pelvic Floor Therapy: Mandii mentions that pelvic floor therapy helped her manage pain related to sex, suggesting it could benefit listeners experiencing similar issues.
Communication with Partners: They stress the importance of open communication with sexual partners to ensure mutual understanding and comfort.
Tracking Menstrual Cycles: Mandii recommends using period-tracking apps to monitor changes in vaginal lubrication and cervix position, which can provide valuable information for medical consultations.
Mandii [20:40]: "Describe your pain so that you can figure out what it is. For example, sharpness, poking, tightness, burning..."
The hosts engage in light-hearted banter about their personal experiences with discomfort during sex, using humor to normalize and destigmatize the conversation around sexual pain. They also touch upon broader topics related to sexual health, such as the psychological impact of pain and the importance of not dismissing persistent discomfort.
WeezyWTF [22:19]: "Dehydration, healing... he might be rearranging my pussy. I ain't even gonna hold you."
These anecdotes serve to highlight that sexual discomfort is a common issue that many individuals face, reinforcing the episode's message of seeking help and maintaining open dialogues about sexual health.
The episode wraps up with Mandii and WeezyWTF reiterating their commitment to supporting listeners through personal and sensitive issues related to relationships and sexual health. They encourage anyone experiencing similar challenges to reach out via email for advice and share their own stories to foster a community of understanding and support.
Mandii [25:23]: "Listen. Anyways, guys, thank y'all and once again, if you want advice from us or you want us to share our big dick stories, just like y'all big dick stories, go ahead and send it into us decisionspodmail.com and we will see y'all next week."
This episode of "Decisions, Decisions" provides a compassionate and informative exploration of the physical and emotional challenges that can arise following IUD removal, offering listeners valuable insights and resources to navigate their own relationship and sexual health decisions.