You've Got Decisions: Quarter Life Crisis - Career Advice

Summary

Episode Overview

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Title: You’ve Got Decisions: Quarter Life Crisis – Career Advice
Date: May 20, 2026

This episode of Decisions, Decisions dives into the anxiety and uncertainty of the "quarter life crisis," especially as experienced by a listener navigating career choices and the pressure to “find your purpose.” Mandii and Weezy bring their candid energy and honest storytelling, sharing personal journeys through their 20s and demystifying the idea that you must have it all “figured out” by a certain age. They also offer practical career advice and heartfelt discussions on the shifting meaning of purpose.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Listener Letter: The Quarter Life Career Rut (05:04 – 09:05)

• Letter summary:
  A 25-year-old Black woman living in Las Vegas struggles to find direction between her stable-but-unfulfilling hostess job and her part-time modeling career, which makes her uncomfortable due to constant sexualization. She admires the hosts’ career paths and seeks advice on finding purpose and confidence in her 20s.
• Notable aside:
  The listener, who works at Mandalay Bay, jokes about volunteering as a “third” for Weezy and her partner, keeping the show's signature cheekiness alive.

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How Did the Hosts Navigate Their Own Career Paths? (09:05 – 15:52)

Mandy’s Journey:

• Early 20s:
  Bartender in Atlanta and Miami, then moved to New York for wider opportunities through temp agencies.
• Corporate shift:
  Worked at an ad agency, law firm, and as a receptionist for Ross Corporate—all through temp jobs.
• Drive for stability:
  Felt pressure to “be taken seriously” with a corporate job, even seeing it as increasing ‘wife material’ in society’s eyes.
  • “For me, I really wanted to be at the top. …bitch big four me or Goldman Sachs me. And I ended up being at both.” (11:10, Mandy)
• Pursuit of a degree:
  Returned to college at 24, chose accounting and finance for practicality and high earning potential in NYC.

Weezy’s Journey:

• Family background:
  College was less emphasized due to her dad’s entrepreneurial path; mom was a housewife.
• Lifestyle-focused planning:
  Calculated her desired lifestyle cost, then reverse-engineered her career to jobs paying ~$90K without a degree:
  • "I literally looked up the jobs that would pay around 90k with no degree. And all of them were sales…And so sales was it for me." (12:20, Weezy)
• Sales as a gateway:
  Started in retail, moved to telecom (T-Mobile) – learning sales skills shaped her future business success.
• On college degrees:
  Notes many friends have unused degrees; the 20s are for exploring.

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Honest Career Advice for 20-Somethings (19:56 – 22:44)

• On Las Vegas:
  Weezy describes the city’s economy as limited to hospitality; unless aiming for upper management there, she suggests moving to explore more opportunities elsewhere.
• Remote work:
  Mandy recommends considering remote positions as a way to break past local limitations, acknowledging tough current job markets but highlighting ongoing opportunities.

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Searching for "Purpose" Amid Social (and Internal) Pressure (22:44 – 27:49)

• The myth of a singular purpose:
  Social media creates unhealthy pressure to define one’s “purpose” as a grand, easily-labeled accomplishment.
  • “Social media gave everybody this up idea of what purpose is. …My purpose is xyz. Like, bro, it could be stay Black, be Happy and die.” (23:20, Mandy)
• Purpose outside work:
  Many purposeful jobs (teachers, social workers, nonprofits) are low-paying. Fulfillment often comes from connections, storytelling, or being true to oneself.
• Personal stories:
  Mandy shares about encouraging a friend with cancer to tell her story as impact, not just achievement.
• No rush:
  Both agree: You might not know your purpose by 25, or even 35—and that’s okay.
  • “What I do know is that question at 25, I don’t know if you need to answer it yet.” (24:16, Mandy)
• On personal change:
  Purpose can shift over a lifetime; your 20s are for exploration.

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Reflections on Self-Discovery: Confidence, Hobbies, and “Having It All Together” (25:09 – 27:49)

• Self-assurance comes later:
  Weezy doubts that anyone in their mid-20s truly “has it all together,” joking about her own experience starting the podcast at 27.
  • “I said, bitch, what the fuck can a 27 year old help you with?...you being 25, I'll be honest with you, this is going to shift for you.” (25:57, Weezy)
• Importance of hobbies:
  Both advocate for embracing hobbies and simple pleasures (reading, films, the beach), not only productivity or career.
  • “It could also be as simple as reading. It doesn’t have to be this big fucking thing…” (26:49, Mandy)

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The Pressure to Succeed, Money, and Realistic Timelines (27:49 – 28:30)

• Internet-fueled anxiety:
  The expectation to be “rich and successful by tomorrow” is common and unlikely to disappear, especially given today’s cost of living.
  • “Bitch, that ain’t gonna leave.” (27:58, Weezy)
• Real talk about money:
  Even with later financial success, the struggle is real due to expenses.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On career confusion:
  “I feel like I’m 25 going on 40. I feel this pressure to be rich and successful by tomorrow. Maybe social media or maybe my own anxiety contributes to that.” (08:10, Listener letter)
• On societal pressure in career choice:
  “I felt like going corporate, for me, was the way to have stability… so men would take me more serious. …I would be more quote, unquote wifey material…” (10:30, Mandy)
• On not having one 'grand' purpose:
  “My purpose is xyz. Like, bro, it could be stay Black, be Happy and die.” (23:20, Mandy)
• On not knowing your purpose:
  “I don’t know if you need to answer it yet. …maybe something else will shift when I’m 50 or 60…” (24:16, Mandy)
• On ongoing anxiety about success:
  “The pressure and anxiety I don’t think is going to leave you, especially for as long as you just want more for yourself.” (28:00, Weezy)

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Key Timestamps for Important Segments

• Quarter Life Letter & Listener Background: 05:04 – 09:05
• Hosts' Early Career Stories: 09:05 – 15:52
• Modern Career Advice (Remote work, Moving Cities): 19:56 – 22:44
• The Purpose Conversation: 22:44 – 27:49
• Realistic Talk on Success & Anxiety: 27:49 – 28:30

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Closing Thoughts

This episode provides an honest, funny, and occasionally raw perspective on the pressure to have it “figured out” by your mid-20s. Mandii and Weezy draw from their diverse backgrounds to show that it’s normal to feel lost, to pivot careers, and to experiment with both jobs and passions. Their advice: Focus less on achieving a single definitive purpose, and more on exploration, connection, and determining what genuinely fulfills you. Success and clarity come in phases—and it’s okay if yours isn’t here yet.

Transcript

[Mandy]

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[Weezy]

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[Mandy]

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[Weezy]

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[Mandy]

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[Weezy]

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[Mandy]

Jorge, we have a surprise.

[Weezy]

That's right. We are hitting the stage like we've done for so many years. For one night only. Weezy, tell them where it's at.

[Mandy]

So it's at Stony Hall, June 9. It's only one night only. Because it's not us getting along tour. And we just getting along.

[Weezy]

I don't know why you keep saying tour. Because not a tour.

[Mandy]

One date for the tour. Because not us getting along, sis. If we keep getting along, we finna add another date.

[Weezy]

So whether you go to the Sony hall website or the description of this episode, make sure you get a ticket now. Because it will only be one show until we decide to make it more. Get your tickets now. June 9, Sony Hall, New York City. See you there.

[Mandy]

If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?

[Weezy]

You've got decisions. You've got decision.

[Mandy]

And I do too.

[Weezy]

Boom. And y' all need to make the decision to pull up on us. New York City, June 9th. We are going to be live in onstage at Sony hall, baby.

[Mandy]

Very horrible. Very horrible. Coded. Very disgusting. Bring your. Hmm.

[Weezy]

Bring your what?

[Mandy]

Okay.

[Weezy]

What are you telling them to do

[Mandy]

if you're not coming with a homegirl? Bring your sneaky link. Oh, Lord. Because I just feel like at one of our shows, I don't know if I ever told you this. A girl told me that at our Toronto show, she ended up linking with a woman. She was a couple. It was a couple.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

Onto a show a few years back, and she was like, I just wish I never brought my man to a show like that. Because we weren't prepared as a couple to be, you know, one of the only men in the room. Like, she was like. So they was on his ass thinking, I'm about it. And basically she's like, it went haywire.

[Weezy]

So basically, if you are non monogamous, bring your nigga.

[Mandy]

If you aren't sure what you are yet, bring a nigga that you fuck on sometimes.

[Weezy]

Cause even though there's not sex happening, the girlies be ready. However, this is a Tuesday show and we know y' all gots to go to work, so, you know, it might not be too bad, nigga. So, I mean, I'm just saying. Ooh, should we go to.

[Mandy]

Oh, never mind.

[Weezy]

See, I don't even know what you talking about.

[Mandy]

I was going to say the place where you. Right. Where you used to live. Should we go after the show?

[Weezy]

It's so small. I don't know. I wouldn't even promise you that right now.

[Mandy]

We're not going to be able to. Okay, okay, fine, fine, fine.

[Weezy]

It depends if I'm on my period or not. Because, bitch, if I'm not, it's probably getting fucked.

[Mandy]

You can't hang with the Hive if you're bleeding.

[Weezy]

No, because if I am bleeding, they will see me. If I'm not bleeding, I will be getting fucked down. Okay.

[Mandy]

Are you going to bring one of your boyfriends?

[Weezy]

Probably not. Probably not. Not even doing that. Not even doing that.

[Mandy]

I wouldn't either.

[Weezy]

100%.

[Mandy]

So they can be like, that's hers.

[Weezy]

Yeah, no, I'm not doing it.

[Mandy]

But that's all they do now. If they see a. With locks in a spot that I'm

[Weezy]

in, girl, they know what your man look like now. Girl, even. Even in la, when old girl came over, she was like, I saw your man standing over there.

[Mandy]

I've been with us for three years. Of course they do.

[Weezy]

Well, so don't be looking shot when I say they know what your look like bruh.

[Mandy]

Oh, no, the way you said it, they're like, they know he. I'm just like, yeah, but we be

[Weezy]

out so they know what he look like.

[Mandy]

No, actually the problem is we was on the apps. That was the problem.

[Weezy]

And you still on the apps.

[Mandy]

Unpause.

[Weezy]

Well, we're looking forward to seeing y' all check the description of this episode for the link or just head on over to sonyhall.com to get your tickets. Anywho, we helping bitches with quarter life crisis today. Okay. Mind you, quarter life, I feel like we could help.

[Mandy]

She's 25.

[Weezy]

Great. Literally. So quarter life, we could help midlife. We would have to send these hoes to therapy for black girls or something because we not at a midlife yet. We can't help them hoes. I have midlife friends. I was like, here we go. Not midlife, midlife.

[Mandy]

Oldest homegirl, by the way.

[Weezy]

Probably Lena, my friend who's married to the doctor. She's 43 or 44.

[Mandy]

Okay. So I have. Oh no, I have a few homegirls in the mid-40s. But I have a new friend who's 50 and I met her through Nia. This be having more tea than my young friends because she's 50 and singles also she looks 40. So beyond her and she got the booty and the titties and whatever. But she was like, girl, they just be on my line. And I was like, yo, but she be stressing out over these n. And I was like, oh, it never ends.

[Weezy]

I pray. Well, first off, girl, I told you, you be watching the younger shows. All the housewives, bitches be in their late 40s and 50s and be stressed over these niggas. Okay?

[Mandy]

I don't like seeing you.

[Weezy]

I know that it don't get no better, but I just pray that that's not my testament.

[Mandy]

Me too.

[Weezy]

Half life. Anyways, let's help the girly out.

[Mandy]

Alrighty.

[Weezy]

She wants some career help advice. So this doesn't look to be fully sexual, which I love because I think we can help. Hi, ladies first. I want to start with how much I love you guys. I've been following since the Anwar episode and I've been hooked ever since. I'm a 25 year old black woman living in Las Vegas. Currently in my life, I'm struggling to hone in on a career. I'm a hostess at a restaurant and I model part time. My hostess job pays well and has benefits, but it's not where I want to be. Long term. Modeling is fun and Pays more for less time. But I don't like relying on my looks for money. It feels unfulfilling. And I keep getting casted for these super sexy campaigns or jobs, and it's exhausting being sexualized all the time. Both of you ladies inspire me that you have built businesses together and separately. I'd like to be successful one day, travel, and be more financially free as well. I'm searching for my quote unquote purpose in the world, and I'm not exactly sure. How did you navigate your career path in your 20s, and how or when did you feel more sure of yourself, or did that only happen in your 30s? I know you both had different careers before the podcast. Why and how did you pick those careers? I don't know why, but I feel like I'm 25 going on 40. I feel this pressure to be rich and successful by tomorrow. Maybe social media or maybe my own anxiety contributes to that. Also, my dating and sex life is trash, but maybe I'll send a separate email for that. Fun fact. I met Mandy at the Mandalay Bay last year. That's where I work. And Weezy, if you and your man need a third, I volunteer as tribute. Thank you in advance if you ever read this.

[Mandy]

Where is Mandalay Bay? Vegas.

[Weezy]

It's in Vegas.

[Mandy]

Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Okay.

[Weezy]

Yeah. Where do you want.

[Mandy]

What does she look like?

[Weezy]

You know, I mean, I don't know, but she did in the email send her at name, and she literally put in parentheses because you asked, boom. If Weezy wants to see me because I know she's nosy. That is hilarious. She literally put her goddamn AT name in the email so you could go look her up. It's in the start things.

[Mandy]

Okay, let me not do this while, because I'll. I'll sidetrack.

[Weezy]

Okay, so let's start with. Let's start with the first. Yeah, the first question is, how did you navigate your career path in your 20s, and how or when did you feel? Sure. So let's do the first one. How did you navigate your career path in your 20s?

[Mandy]

Hmm.

[Weezy]

I can start for me, only because I felt like I had a ton of different ones. I first started off bartending, and that started for me early on from Atlanta to Miami. And honestly, at 21, I kind of was just like, oh, my God, this can't be my life. I can't be a bartender in Miami because no one is ever gonna take me serious in life. I'm never gonna get a husband. This was literally my thoughts. And so I came to New York, dabbled in not only bartending, but I ended up getting a pinky toe into somewhat corporate through temp agencies. And that's where I really had a lot of experience in different, like, environments. I worked at an ad agency. I worked for a law firm. I even was the receptionist for Ross Corporate, believe it or not. Oh, yeah, these were all through the temp agency. And this is all before I was like, you know what? They are not willing to pay me more than 15 to $20 an hour until I get that piece of paper again. I was fed the red kool aid with the need to have a degree. I do feel like it's a little bit different now, but maybe not so much so. At 24, I actually decided to get back into college. And I think I was more. More pushed into accounting and finance. Not only for my love and ease of mathematics. Like, that was just always the thing I was good at. But in New York, it was the top industry for careers. So that's why I even went into accounting. And then for me, I just always wanted to be at the top and best. And so for me, I joined the national association of black Accountants. I was like, bitch big four me or Goldman Sachs me. And I ended up being at both. But for me, I really wanted to be the top. I remember even my sophomore year, right before I studied abroad, I even went through a full interview process with the Obama administration to be a part of them as an intern. So for me, it was always like, okay, time to go corporate. And I actually felt like going corporate, for me was the way to have stability because bartending was not. And look at me, dummy me, young me. It was the way that I felt like men would take me more serious because it was a good career. I felt like I would be more quote, unquote wifey material with that type of career. So that was my decision on navigating my early career path. Wheezy. Do you have one that may, you know, be different? And then also I have thoughts on Vegas as well.

[Mandy]

So. On Vegas. Oh, for work. For work.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

I was looking for the threesome.

[Weezy]

No, no girls. That was for you, girl.

[Mandy]

This is also not recommended, but this is honestly what I did. So college wasn't as important in my family because I came from a. Well, not. My mom was a housewife, as most of you know. But my dad was an entrepreneur his whole life and never worked for corporate. He was in the army and then just would start businesses, blah, blah, blah. Right. So what I would say is I actually Wanted a lifestyle based on how much I would make and the job didn't matter. So I knew that what I wanted in my life, where I wanted to live as much as I wanted to travel, needed about 90k. And so while I was in college, I was in college for journalism, but I dropped out. As you guys know. I literally looked up the jobs that would pay around 90k with no degree. And all of them were sales, mainly sales. Real estate was in there, but I just felt like that was too empty with nothing that was like a tangible amount of money, weekly, bi weekly, whatever. And so sales was it for me. I started in retail sales, then worked for telecommunications sales. And by that point, once I had worked for T Mobile for a few years, everybody was ready to give me a job. I will also tell you, when you watch, you know, the white guy, it's hard school in Knox or something, and he's like, can you please tell me he'll, like, chase people in their Lambo and blah, blah, blah.

[Weezy]

How did you get. Oh, yeah, how did you. What. What do you do for your money?

[Mandy]

Percent of them are sales, bro. If they're not entertainment, they're sales. It's real estate sales, it's sex, sales, something. And they all talk about being a good salesman. So for me, the way that I got my start in my twenties was learning how to be a great seller at all things. It's why I feel strongly on calls. It's sometimes why I tell Mandy when she's like, how is XYZ going to go? And I get too tight B. And I'm like, everything's going to work out. I'm in this brain of, like, selling it all and putting on the good face. Because you kind of learn this mask being in sales, even when you're not the most confident. So for my 20s, I knew that if I didn't want to go and pursue a degree, I didn't want to fall into student loan debt. It was that it was sales. And I became so good at it that it really reflected now into the businesses I have. But most of my friends pursued college degrees, and most of my friends don't use those degrees any longer. They did. They were happy about it. But I feel like Almost our early 20s is so hard to figure out what you want to do. But the age of 25 is great because you've kind of dipped and dabbled and seen things. You kind of maybe know what you would be passionate.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah. I'm actually so glad I. I did go to college at 24. And not at 18, because my ass thought I gave great advice to my homegirl. So I wanted to be a fucking psychologist. Not even knowing to make any sort of money, you got to go and get your masters and maybe your doctorate. Because isn't Crystal.

[Mandy]

Did she.

[Weezy]

She's criminal justice.

[Mandy]

I don't think she was in school to be a therapist.

[Weezy]

No criminal justice.

[Mandy]

But she was though.

[Weezy]

Never. I don't know who.

[Mandy]

You're never talking.

[Weezy]

None of my friends went to school for psychology.

[Mandy]

Not Crystal. Crystal from the read used to talk about Crystal.

[Weezy]

No, she. She's a cert. She certain. I mean, she went. She got her masters. I don't think that she practices as a certified therapist. It just meant a lot to her.

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[Weezy]

For me, I would say my advice for you on navigating your career right now, honestly, especially being at 25, you didn't mention having any kids. My first bit of advice because one of my best friends live in Vegas and is literally looking at leaving it as well. Las Vegas has hospitality. That's it. And so for me, unless you want to be a hotel manager, casino manager, or stay in the hospitality realm with restaurants and clubs and all of that, my advice would be to leave this City. I think it's really important in your mid-20s, when you're not bunkered down by a relationship or a child, to just see what other cities have to offer. And so, because also with what you're doing now, I wouldn't consider like a Hollywood or even a New York. A, they're expensive, but B, you look like you're not really wanting to stay in modeling. You don't like being sexualized. You said it's exhausting. And so for me, it would be what Weezy said. Look into some career paths that make sense and see what cities offer those. Like maybe even considering going to like, a Dallas or an Austin or cities that are fairly affordable to live in, but they also offer a lot of options with jobs. Also, I am aware we are living in the worst job market ever, so I would also start suggesting you just start applying for remote positions. They are still available. They are still out there. And so, yeah, I would do that.

[Mandy]

The top remote, too, is a lot of people find that to just be like the. This is my side money gig. I don't know if you're necessarily looking for money. A Passion, longevity. Sometimes those things conflate at 25, because all we know at 25 is, I want more money. And that, to be fair, she did

[Weezy]

say she is searching for her purpose now. With purpose, but purpose.

[Mandy]

I don't know if it's.

[Weezy]

But that's what I'm saying. I don't. So for purpose. I think purpose goes outside of your scope of work. To me, I think we. We all don't get lucky with getting jobs that lean into our passions or our purpose. Also, a lot of jobs with purpose don't pay a lot of money, I. E. Teachers, I. E. Social work, health care, I. E. Nonprofit organizations. Right. And so for me, your purpose is something I'm actually helping my mom with right now. And a lot of times, outside of being a mom, a lot of women don't know where their purpose lies. Again, you didn't mention kids, so I feel like that's something that you have to sit with now.

[Mandy]

I have a conversation about purpose that I want to talk about because we, my boyfriend and I were talking with a friend of ours about her struggling to find her purpose. When we got in the car, it just reminded me of something the person who wrote in said. He's like, social media gave everybody this up idea of what purpose is. He's like, because there's no way. And the person we know is happy. And now they're starting to figure out what's this thing I need to find in life? And he was like, it's surprising to me that it has to be this identifier. And like, why is it this identified thing? My purpose is xyz. Like, bro, it could be stay Black, be Happy and die.

[Weezy]

You know what I'm saying?

[Mandy]

Like, sometimes Mandy talks a lot about her purpose. You talked about the book.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah, it's this right here. And I mean, I've been encouraging my best friend Crystal lately that, okay, what do you leave on this earth when you're gone? Especially now that she's battling stage four cancer. And I've been encouraging her to tell her story, like, letting her know that she can save lives, letting her know that she can actually have an impact on this world by leaving her story or impression into others. So I've talked a lot about, you know, purpose and passion as well with my friends on what they can do. So to leave something, especially because she's also a woman with no kids, right?

[Mandy]

So I don't know if I would want, like, when I think about that, because that's so impactful and she has something to share. I don't know if mine is this show. I feel like it's one of them. Like, I see. I feel fulfillment from us helping people, for sure. The connection to people more than helping. Sometimes I say this podcast helps people, but more so I really think it's just the connection and friendship that we have with people we don't know. That's what my connection to it is. But purpose, I don't even know if I truly know it or can say it's this because I'm so early on in my life, right? I'm only 35 years old. Maybe something else will shift when I'm 50 or 60, and it's maybe a larger skill thing. I don't know. But what I do know is that question at 25, I don't know if you need to answer it yet. I think you need to find the things that you.

[Weezy]

Yeah, it's. I'm not gonna lie. And she did say that. She said, did you know when you're. I mean, for career wise, in the letter, she did ask if we. If we were sure about ourselves at 25. Or did it only happen in your 30s? I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm arguing with my mama right now because her therapist is 27. My mama is 54. I said, bitch, what the fuck can a 27 year old help you with? I literally told her yesterday. I said, when we started this podcast, I was 27. I couldn't imagine giving nobody, you know, a mother of three who dealt with a narcissist and dealing with whatever she's dealing with, any sort of fucking advice. I said, bruh, we finna fire your goddamn therapist. Cause why the fuck you go into a 27 year old?

[Mandy]

I agree.

[Weezy]

So you being 25, I'll be honest with you, this is going to shift for you. So I do think right now finding out, and this was really important too. I also just had this conversation with my mom. I said, what makes you happy? And I know for my mom it's the beach. She literally wants to be cremated and thrown into the ocean when she dies. And she loves fishing, bitch. She lives in Orlando, landlocked. And so she doesn't get to a beach often. But I'm just like, what do you like to do, bitch? I've known you for 35 years of my life and I don't think I know what you like to do. And so I think when you.

[Mandy]

That's interesting. Hobbies.

[Weezy]

Yes. So you. What is your hobbies? What genuinely can you do with no one else and be happy, be fulfilled? And this isn't like going to the club. This isn't like. But genuinely, is there something that you.

[Mandy]

It could also be as simple as reading. It doesn't have to be this big fucking thing if you know that you love and are passionate about film, reading, writing, whatever it could be that can be an anchor in your life. Like, people act like reading is this bullshit thing, but like, truly it's fulfilling. Like, I didn't discover that I was going to be this avid reader until last summer and when it happened to me. Like so many social events circulate. Not to like nerd out right now, but like, I pull up to so many bookstores for different, like artists. I mean, author talks different things. Like, I'm constantly going to the New York library and I've never done that before. Never even knew there was a library in the Lower east side. And I've lived in this neighborhood for seven years. Like, it's become something that I'm hella excited to do. I have a new assistant and the saw two hour block where I put reading time. And I was like, oh, hey, are you free for a call? Oh, I don't think you get it.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I do also want to add, one of the other things that you put in this letter was that you feel the pressure to be rich and successful by tomorrow. Bitch, that ain't gonna leave.

[Mandy]

Girl, that's that Internet shit.

[Weezy]

The way that I wish I was making the money I'm making Now back in 2010 because I felt like it would have went a lot further. Bitch. Rent, these flights, groceries, going out, everything is just so expensive right now. So unfortunately that pressure and anxiety I don't think is going to leave you, especially for as long as you just want more for yourself. I do wish you the best of luck. I am going to make sure Weezy, I'm going to forward her this email so she could see your name and if she's interested, maybe you get to eat her pussy and suck her nigga dick soon. Anyways again guys, make sure June night sonyhall.com get your tickets one night only. Horrible Decisions is taking the stage as the show you guys remember and so much more. We are celebrating our one year anniversary of no Holds Barred which is a New York Times bestseller. But June 9 also makes the release of our paperback. So for anybody who really enjoys paperback books, you can get that now. You can pre order it and it will be available June 9th. Anyways guys, if you want to send your question in, make sure you send it to decisionspodmail.com we will see you guys next week. Bye.

[Mandy]

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