Podcast Summary: "Decisions, Decisions" Episode: You've Got Decisions: To Leave, Or Not To Leave? Release Date: July 2, 2025 Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF Produced By: The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts

Introduction

In this episode of "Decisions, Decisions," hosts Mandii B and WeezyWTF delve into the intricate and emotionally charged topic of whether to stay in or leave a relationship fraught with significant challenges. The episode, titled "You've Got Decisions: To Leave, Or Not To Leave?", addresses the complexities that arise when a partner faces serious health issues, specifically cancer, and how it impacts intimacy and the overall relationship dynamic.

Listener's Dilemma: A 37-Year-Old's Struggle

At the core of this episode is a heartfelt question from a listener:

"Hi. I'm a new listener and have enjoyed listening to your pod. It helps break up my boring ass days at work. So thank you. I'm writing today for some insight on what to do with my relationship... I'm a 37 year old female and my partner is 54, male. We've been together for two and a half years. He's recently battled stage two prostate cancer... Since the surgery, we haven't had any vaginal sex. He hasn't had an erection since before the surgery... I've been celibate three times prior to this for more than a year each time, but that was by my choice."

(Timestamp: [02:21])

The listener expresses her deep frustration and emotional turmoil over the deteriorating intimacy in her relationship following her partner’s battle with prostate cancer. She grapples with the guilt of potentially leaving him, fearing she'll be labeled as the one who abandoned a cancer patient, yet she yearns for the intimacy that has vanished since his surgery.

Hosts' Response and Discussion

Initial Reaction and Empathy

Mandii and Weezy begin by acknowledging the gravity of the situation. Weezy emphasizes the importance of considering whether the relationship aligns with the listener’s long-term vision, especially given the added strain of health issues.

Weezy: "If this isn't someone that you see yourself long standing, staying with, to me. I hate, I want the guilt."
(Timestamp: [08:22])

Mandii echoes the sentiment, highlighting the need for grace and understanding towards someone undergoing such a traumatic experience.

Mandii: "So it's like, I think maybe giving Grace to the person that's going through something way more traumatic because maybe this isn't the best version of himself."
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Setting Boundaries and Communication

The hosts stress the importance of setting clear boundaries and communicating needs effectively. They suggest establishing a timeframe to address issues rather than prolonging discomfort.

Weezy: "How long do you extend that grace?"
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Mandii: "I would set a time frame from when I'm acknowledging that they're doing something wrong."
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They advocate for direct communication about how the partner's behavior affects the relationship, emphasizing that it's not solely about sex but about the overall connection and mutual support.

Mandii: "I need more connection. And the reason you need to make sure you say it's not about sex is because that's the literal thing that he can't do."
(Timestamp: [14:00])

Balancing Compassion and Self-Care

Mandii and Weezy explore the delicate balance between being compassionate towards a partner’s health struggles and prioritizing one’s own emotional and physical needs. They discuss the potential for continued dissatisfaction and the emotional toll it can take.

Mandii: "I need more connection... that's his reality now. And he may have more grumpier or more grumpier days than not because of his health."
(Timestamp: [20:34])

Weezy underscores the importance of self-preservation, encouraging listeners to consider their own well-being and to make decisions that honor their needs without succumbing to societal pressures or guilt.

Weezy: "When you're young, sometimes you gotta choose yourself, bro."
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Challenging Societal Narratives

The hosts confront societal expectations surrounding relationships, particularly the stigmas associated with being unmarried or without children later in life. They advocate for personal agency and rejecting harmful narratives that dictate one’s worth based on marital or familial status.

Weezy: "The narrative that you're old, without a wife or a husband does not mean that you a fucked up person or that you suck or that you're unwanted."
(Timestamp: [21:32])

Personal Anecdotes and Broader Reflections

Throughout the episode, Mandii shares personal stories about her parents’ long-term marriage and the sacrifices made in the name of love and partnership. She reflects on the enduring commitment required in relationships, especially when faced with life-altering circumstances.

Mandii: "This to me, is when you can... be selfless."
(Timestamp: [18:07])

Weezy adds insights about the unpredictability of health conditions and the importance of realistic expectations in relationships, reiterating that enduring love must adapt to changing realities.

Weezy: "Cancer comes back even after you beat it sometimes. Like, it's a very big possibility."
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Conclusion and Final Advice

Mandii and Weezy conclude by reinforcing the listener’s autonomy in making difficult relationship decisions. They emphasize that choosing to leave a relationship out of self-care is valid and that maintaining one’s mental and emotional health should take precedence over societal or self-imposed obligations.

Weezy: "If it doesn't work for you, leave. And I think that we have to as people be fine with just leaving people because we don't want to deal with their health."
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They advocate for honest self-assessment and courage to make tough choices, reminding listeners that it's possible to support a partner while also honoring one's own needs.

Notable Quotes

• WeezyWTF: "When you're young, sometimes you gotta choose yourself, bro."
  (Timestamp: [20:35])

• Mandii B: "I need more connection. And the reason you need to make sure you say it's not about sex is because that's the literal thing that he can't do."
  (Timestamp: [14:00])

• WeezyWTF: "The narrative that you're old, without a wife or a husband does not mean that you a fucked up person or that you suck or that you're unwanted."
  (Timestamp: [21:32])

Closing Remarks

As the episode wraps up, Mandii and Weezy encourage listeners to engage further by submitting their own letters for advice and to join their Patreon community for exclusive content. They also promote their book, "No Holds Barred: A Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power," celebrating its success and urging listeners to share photos with the book to be featured on their platforms.

Mandii B: "Go buy the book 'No Holds Barred, a Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power,' and stay tuned."
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The episode provides a candid and empathetic exploration of the difficult decision to stay or leave a relationship affected by serious health issues, offering listeners both practical advice and emotional support.

Tags: #RelationshipAdvice #HealthAndRelationships #IntimacyIssues #DecisionMaking #SelfCare #CancerSurvivorship