You've Got Decisions: Two Bold Empowered Women Helped Me Find My Freedom

Summary

Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions

Episode: You've Got Decisions: Two Bold Empowered Women Helped Me Find My Freedom
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Date: December 17, 2025

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Overview

This episode of "Decisions, Decisions" centers on the power of candid conversations, the importance of self-acceptance, and the impact of challenging societal norms around sex, relationships, and womanhood. Hosts Mandii B and WeezyWTF dive into listener stories and their own experiences—celebrating freedom, addressing criticism, and exploring what it means to find agency and healing in community.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Edging, Empowerment, and Sexual Techniques

Timestamps: 02:20–06:01

• Weezy shares a detailed story about trying a new edging technique during sex, focusing on guiding her partner vocally and physically to a heightened orgasm.
  • Highlights the importance of non-penetrative pleasure and verbal communication.
  • Offers a tip (or "hors d'oeuvre") to listeners for introducing more mindful edging in their encounters.
• Both hosts reflect on their comfort with candid sexual stories, setting the episode’s unapologetically open tone.
  • Quote: “My hors d'oeuvre is to edge and stroke until he comes.” —Weezy (05:59)

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2. Listener Letter: Healing and Freedom Through the Podcast

Timestamps: 07:57–11:20

• A listener email titled "Two Bold Women Helped Me Find My Freedom" is read.
  • The writer, a Haitian American woman from Miami, tells how Mandii and Weezy’s conversations helped her heal from childhood shame, understand her desires, and embrace her womanhood.
  • Describes growing up with sexual shame, her cautious approach to intimacy, and how the podcast changed her relationship with herself and her husband.
  • Emotional responses from both hosts follow, emphasizing community impact.
  • Memorable Quote:
    “Listening to you taught me that there was nothing wrong with me. I just hadn't learned how to relax, explore, and feel safe with myself.” —Listener Email (09:47)

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3. Reflections on Purpose, Vulnerability, and Giving Back

Timestamps: 11:35–12:29, 15:43–17:20

• Mandii and Weezy discuss how sharing their struggles and personal stories serves others, especially women experiencing shame or isolation.
  • Mandii compares the healing impact of the show to her own need for relief during depressive periods.
• The act of giving back—whether through community service or honest podcasting—is discussed as both selfless and fulfilling.
  • Quote: “If I'm going to feel good from doing anything, it can be this.” —Mandii (16:18)

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4. Handling Criticism and Negative Public Opinions

Timestamps: 17:20–19:01, 22:15–23:48

• Both hosts share frequent experiences with harsh internet criticism and slut-shaming.
  • They recall being told they’re “hurting the black community,” that their content is “disgusting,” and those who criticize often miss the point of being empowered and unfiltered.
  • Discuss the struggle of ignoring hate comments and the emotional toll it can take—contrasted by the uplifting impact of positive feedback.
  • Weezy: “These whores are nothing. And those comments we see every day.” (17:35)

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5. Topic Shift: Public Scrutiny, Relationship Critique, and the “Akash & JustLean” Discourse

Timestamps: 18:48–29:46

• Mandy introduces a discussion about online commentary toward Akash and JustLean (a couple in the podcast community), focusing on JustLean’s sexual past and public persona.
  • The double standard for women who are outspoken or visible is critiqued—public women receive disproportionate criticism compared to men.
  • The hosts note how the podcast world and social media exaggerate negative opinions, particularly when women talk openly about sex.
  • Mandy: “Now she’s a piece of bitch, gold digging whore.” (22:16)
  • Weezy: “The way that we treat women when we think they’re whores is crazy.” (23:48)
• They reflect on their own decisions to keep partners private to avoid similar public attacks, and the consequences of public scrutiny for relationships.
  • Weezy: “I think for you and I, it's felt different because we take on these comments by ourselves, because...we're not public with our partners.” (24:03)

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6. Advice: Navigating Others' Judgments About Your Relationships

Timestamps: 26:39–29:46

• Weezy and Mandii give advice for listeners dating someone whose reputation is harshly judged by friends or family.
  • Emphasize the importance of prioritizing personal happiness over outsiders’ opinions.
    • Mandy: “Everybody's always going to have a fucking opinion...when you feel good, when you're happy…what do you give a fuck?” (28:41)
  • Recommend being prepared for “I told you so” moments, but ultimately holding strong to one’s own choices and boundaries.

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7. Accountability and Conversations on Abuse in Relationships

Timestamps: 29:48–32:55

• Reflect on a recent episode with guests Winter and Shy, where the complex topic of domestic violence and accountability for women was explored.
  • Both wish for more nuanced and self-reflective public conversations about women’s participation in abusive dynamics.
  • Weezy: “There's really not that conversation amongst women as to how we need to not even think we can lay our hands on men.” (31:43)
  • The nuance of such issues in lesbian relationships is briefly mentioned.

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Memorable Quotes

• Weezy (regarding edging):
  “Ladies, if you have someone that you feel like you were super connected with in the bedroom…right when you feel he's going to come…slide out, turn around, stroke his back, and talk him through it. Jack that thing…until he comes.” (05:10)
• Listener Email:
  “People who judge you, they're just mad they can't be as free. That used to be me. I'd listen and clutch my pearls, like, did they just say that? But the more I listened, the more I realized I was the one who needed to loosen up.” (10:26)
• Mandii:
  “If I'm going to feel good from doing anything, it can be [helping others].” (16:18)
• Weezy:
  “We take on these comments by ourselves…they’re attacking their union. That would be even harder.” (24:03)

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Notable Moments

• Both Mandii and Weezy become visibly emotional after reading the listener’s letter, showing the impact their work has on their community.
  • Weezy: “Are you crying? Yes. My period just started.” (11:20)
• Direct, raw advice on love and relationships: Both hosts reinforce that others’ opinions about your partner’s past or choices are ultimately less important than your own fulfillment and experience.
• A frank, female-centered perspective: The episode models the type of liberating, shame-busting discourse the listener email celebrates—proving the healing power of open dialogue on sex, love, and feminism.

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Conclusion

This episode of "Decisions, Decisions" is a candid tapestry of sexual freedom, gratitude, and critique of societal double standards. Mandii and Weezy deftly balance humor with vulnerability, giving listeners tools for both pleasure and resilience—while reaffirming the podcast’s mission to help women find, and boldly claim, their freedom.

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Additional Resources

• To send your own questions or confessions: decisionspodmail.com
• Full, uncensored episodes and bonus content: Patreon - HorribleDecisions

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End of Summary

Transcript

[Weezy]

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[Mandy]

Oh, you're through the mattress. That's right.

[Weezy]

Oh, my God. But no, I was able to make this nigga come, like, three different times without penetration. But the one I'm going to share is with. Because this is, like, my first time doing a part of, like, edging with a verbal technique. But it was so great. So basically, he was fucking me from the back, and it was great. And we just had a rhythm, we had a motion. So he's fucking me from the back and immediately, like, I, I, I can feel when a dick gets harder in my pussy, ladies. You kind of feel it. You kind of know when, like, they're getting there. And so he's fucking me, he's fucking me, he's fucking me, he's fucking me. And right when I feel like maybe he's. Because he's making. I hear his breathing. I'm like, okay, okay. I. Immediately as I know he's about to come, I scoot out, I scoot out. And you could hear a big old sigh out of his mouth. So I scoot out, I pull the condom off, and you could. He seemed pissed because he was like, I was about to come. And so what I did in that moment was I start stroking his dick and rubbing the back of his head with my nails. And so as I'm doing that, I just start kissing him. And I'm like, oh, no, you're gonna come for me. You're gonna come for me, I promise you. And I literally, in the moment, start talking through, keeping his dick hard, and I'm rubbing the back of his head and I'm like, kiss me right now. And I'm literally, like, breathing into his mouth, doing, like, this thing while I'm stroking him at the same time. And bruh, he screamed when he came. Like, on some. What the fuck was that? And also, how the fuck did you know I was about to come?

[Mandy]

Just the Y N, bruh.

[Weezy]

Yeah, quarter zip. So I literally. And he was just like, what the fuck? What the fuck was that? But also, his thing was, how did you know I was about to cut? Like, basically, how did I know?

[Mandy]

I'm feeling throb.

[Weezy]

But, yeah, so it was really, really, really, really great. And it was like. But now here's the crazy part. I feel like I gotta see if I could do it with two more niggas before I really know what I'm doing. Cause it could have just been. We was in the moment, we was feeling it. You know what I mean? Like, it could have just been that, like, we were in sync. We were in motion. We were in rhythm. But I made them come. I was talking them through it. I was breathing. I felt like, ooh, bitch, you putting it on him. You putting it down, putting it down, putting it down. That's what I felt like. So anyways, my.

[Mandy]

Or dirt stroking the dick and the back of my head.

[Weezy]

My hors d' oeuvre is to maybe practice edging in this way. So, ladies, if you have someone that you feel like you were super connected with in the bedroom, my hors d' oeuvre for this would be to right when you feel he's going to come and bust, slide out, like, get from underneath him or get from in front of him, and immediately turn around, stroke his back, and just talk him through it. Talk him through it. Jack that thing all spit, girl. I was grazing. Grazing the balls with my nails. I was doing it all, and I was like. I was breathing in his mouth and was like, no, you gonna come for me still? I got you. I knew it was coming. Like, I was being real nasty. So, yeah, that's my hor d' oeuvre is to edge and stroke until he comes.

[Mandy]

Well, boy, do we know what the clip's gonna be.

[Weezy]

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[Mandy]

If you would like to have us answer your questions, if you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?

[Weezy]

You've got decisions. You've got decisions.

[Mandy]

Welcome back, y'. All. We have another episode for you today. All about your issues, your problems, and us judging, because that's our favorite thing to do.

[Weezy]

Oh, we're definitely gonna be judging for sure. If you want us to give you our thoughts, opinions, and judgments on your life, then go ahead and email [e-mail] and we will read you for filthy when we get to your goddamn email.

[Mandy]

It's only because y' all listen to this show and you judge us. Every week we see fucking another bitch with him. It's always saying, oh, my God, I got spinach in my teeth. See, it's something to judge.

[Weezy]

Oh, you know what's crazy? I have a few things in my life that I'm Taking to therapy now because I actually refuse to be judged by you bitches. I'll let y' all keep judging me, interrupting people, but I'm not gonna let you bitches judge my life. Um, and if you are on Patreon, I guess that's where you can judge me, because I talked about no longer really judging people or the men they choose to fuck, because I choose to fuck a guy with CTE and autism. So there's that. Um, nonetheless, before we get into judging you on your bullshit, we did actually Weezy receive a really good email.

[Mandy]

Finally.

[Weezy]

I wanted to start with the title is Two Bold Women Helped Me Find My Freedom. Oh, my God. Listen, I saw this email and I was like, you know what? I need to give this some public reading because I think people forget that we really be out here doing the Lord's work.

[Mandy]

Okay, so it's just news work, but okay, sister.

[Weezy]

I mean, Allah's work, the Lord's work, Jesus Christ's work, you know, the universe's work, whatever. Whatever you believe in, that's the work we doing, bitch.

[Mandy]

Okay. I like universe.

[Weezy]

Okay. Dear Mandy and Weezy. Hey, ladies. I just wanted to finally write the fan letter I've been composing in my head for years. I'm a Miami girl, born and raised Haitian American. So when y' all start talking Miami nonsense or cracking those jokes only Floridians really understand. I feel seen. And I went to school in Orlando. Fall seven. What's up, Chapel City?

[Mandy]

No, she did.

[Weezy]

I'm 38 now, a wife and a mom of two beautiful daughters. And I've been married for eight amazing years. My husband and I are both tax attorneys, and I have to thank him for putting me onto your show. Growing up, I had experiences that made me feel uncomfortable, ashamed, and way too exposed to things before I was ready. That early confusion and hurt stayed with me for a long time. And then came the Internet shout out to my younger self. Accidentally finding porn while trying to look up Lil Wayne and the Hot Boys. Y' all search hot boys with a z dot com. By my teens, I was making choices I didn't fully understand. Trying to feel connected or grown even when it didn't leave me feeling good about myself. Then a pregnancy scare in college had me slamming the brakes hard. I basically went into a PG rated lockdown until marriage.

[Mandy]

Okay.

[Weezy]

When I met my husband, we actually didn't even kiss for months, which is wild because, girl, the chemistry was chemistry, chemistry, fing. And when we finally fucked, it was delicious. But even then, I didn't Fully understand my own body, my own pleasure, or how much shame I was still carrying. And that's where you two come in. Listening to you taught me that there was nothing wrong with me. I just hadn't learned how to relax, explore, and feel safe with myself. Your conversations helped me unlearn shame I didn't even know I was still holding onto. They made me comfortable in my own identity, my desires, and my womanhood. And thanks to that, I experienced my first true orgasm with my husband.

[Mandy]

Wow.

[Weezy]

Right? Your podcast has brightened some very hard days. On mornings I didn't want to get out of bed. The thought of putting on another episode made it easier. The laughter, the honesty, the rawness was something I loved and needed. People who judge you, they're just mad they can't be as free. That used to be me. I'd listen and clutch my pearls, like, did they just say that? But the more I listened, the more I realized I was the one who needed to loosen up. You helped me see myself more clearly and accept myself more fully. I love both of your perspectives. Even when I'm not into everything you talk about. I love learning, laughing, and growing through your conversations. So thank you for being loud, bold, funny, smart, sexual, unfiltered, compassionate, chaotic, and brilliant, all the things at once. Thank you for making people feel less alone. And thank you for helping women like me heal again.

[Mandy]

Are you crying?

[Weezy]

Yes. Oh, my period just started. Emotional. I really like reading stuff like that. Oh, my God, you're wiping your face, too. Are you crying?

[Mandy]

No, I think. Okay, not crying, but I think I feel a way. Because, you know, if you've been listening to this show a long time, like, or if you've read no Holds barred and you read the Dun Dun Dun. Very sad. Oh, my God, I'm gonna Die chapter. It really was disheartening to hear how many people had given me feedback about, Like, I just kind of sometimes complain about nothing. Depression is a mental illness. And, like, I had a podcast, too, that I had to come to and listen to, and it felt fun. And I. I realized sometimes how even though I feel like I'm just sharing my life and it's whatever, or you're just sharing some funny sex story, like, it's really relief. And I appreciate hearing stuff like that because where is not. It's not hitting me because I feel appreciated. I mean, of course I do. It's more so hitting me because I'm like, oh, I've been you, too.

[Weezy]

Yeah. I think. I think for me, these are normally things we get to take so much in, especially when we tour. And I think there was so much around the book this year and we did. We still to me only did like eight bookstores, maybe nine. And it was intimate and it was sometimes less than what our meet and greet is at our live shows. And so for me, you know, even taking that break the year before, I feel like we haven't really been on the road a lot and I feel like I haven't got to take in what horrible decisions and now the rebrand and just what the overall universe has meant for people. And now even the book with people responding to what they read in the book. I just, I didn't think I would get emotional like that. But I am also bleeding profusely. And so you know Hormones bitch.

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[Mandy]

I had this conversation, I'm just thinking about it of, like, how this is like a piece of selfishness reading that. Y' all know I always talk about Brianda, my Jesus friend, my Bible girlfriend, right? And so I fed the unhoused on Thanksgiving.

[Weezy]

That's so crazy. I'm doing a pantry volunteering tomorrow. Oh, organ. Organizing food in the food pantry.

[Mandy]

I don't know why I don't do this more often, but this one is three blocks from my apartment. And I was leaving the gym and I was like, do y' all need help tomorrow? And he's like, yeah, damn. I wish I didn't say three blocks from my apartment because I really want to share where it is. But long story short, I go to this spot and all I saw is Christmas brunches the next day and. Or Thanksgiving brunch, whatever. Normally it's just a soup kitchen. So I'm thinking it's gonna be way more food than it was. It was just eggs and deli ham. And when I left, I said to Brianda, like, fuck, I feel so good. And I, like, feel so bad that I feel good. And she was like, oh, no. This is if I, like, one of God's disciples to, like, go and do this stuff. I don't care. Let this be. If I'm going to feel good from doing anything, it can be this. If I was selfish from this, like, feel good about it. Feel good that you read that. Like you want to gloat in, like, oh, my God, I helped somebody today. That is the best thing you can stand in and say, yeah, I did that. Because you're supposed to. She's like, yeah, sure, we're all supposed to be helping thy neighbor, xyz. But feeling good, who cares? Like, sorry, that's what we're supposed to do. So I think reading this sometimes, taking those moments in of like, okay, yeah, what I do is amazing.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

You know, to our Haitian Miami sista who is listening, we really hear the opposite sometimes or a lot of times. Oh, yeah. So I had a nigga tell me to my face years ago. I was hurting the black community.

[Weezy]

Oh, we get that. And I think, to me, I guess even just from our clips that go viral, I think every day there's an interaction where people are saying we're unworthy. Who's ever gonna take us serious? Is it the type of woman you shouldn't listen to? This is disgusting content. How did it land up in my algorithm? These whores are nothing. And those comments are the ones that we see every day. Just because it's Instagram, it's collaborated, it's hard to just not read them. I know y' all say don't read them, but it's. It's literally in our feed, like Internet because.

[Mandy]

Where someone might just put a crying emoji and laugh and lol. Oh, my God, so funny. The next one is a paragraph dissertation about why we're so terrible. So it's hard to ignore it.

[Weezy]

It is. It really is. So I think just receiving this, and when I saw it in the email, I was like, this needs to be shared. Because I was like, it felt good to hear. It feels good to, like, have someone say, these are the thoughts that's been in my head. So I want to share it with you guys.

[Mandy]

And.

[Weezy]

And I think just receiving that feels good.

[Mandy]

You know, I wanted to share that.

[Weezy]

Before we now talk shit about the person who. The other person who wrote in. Oh.

[Mandy]

I was going to say, I actually thought it would be a good time to talk about bad comments and we could talk about something a bit topical and talk about Akash.

[Weezy]

I mean, I. I'm cool with doing that too.

[Mandy]

Okay.

[Weezy]

So we can make this a little different. I'm fine with that.

[Mandy]

I have a lot of thoughts about the Akash. Just lean shit.

[Weezy]

You know what's crazy?

[Mandy]

Was it we were involved in the first half of it.

[Weezy]

Was it. I wanna say it was Eden. So I'm not gonna lie. He had to send it to me. That was not something that landed across my algorithm, is it?

[Mandy]

Cause you weren't. It wasn't. Me neither. Me neither.

[Weezy]

Because I don't. I don't follow flagrant stuff. I follow Schultz still, but even his stuff doesn't show up on my algorithm or timeline. Akash isn't a part because he's on flagrant. My algorithm on Twitter is still very black. Twitter. He's Indian.

[Mandy]

Right, right, right.

[Weezy]

I didn't see it. So when Eden hit me and was like, are y' all gonna talk about this? I think you're in that universe you should. I was like, nigga, what is this?

[Mandy]

So if you guys also haven't heard of it, the reason that it came across my feed is because I interviewed on Horrible Justine and Akash before they were married. And I don't know the number of the episode, but just lean hit me was like, girl, have you seen this? And they were on a flight headed, they're doing fine, like whatever. But she was just like. Because it was me.

[Weezy]

So basically they pulled, they pulled clips from that interview of her saying she.

[Mandy]

Had flirted around and done stuff with other men, but she hadn't had sex. And I also don't know why people find that to be unbelievable. Like they don't believe her.

[Weezy]

Yeah, but because it did come out to be a lie, right?

[Mandy]

No, she made a video and said when I was in college. And that's the thing about niggas really trying to pull your card. But they're not. I was at the frat houses popping my pussy out every night. And so now when people heard popping my pussy, they were like, oh, you were. Because they don't know.

[Weezy]

Do people not?

[Mandy]

No.

[Weezy]

Even when you say pussy, pussy, pussy, popping or popping on a handstand or.

[Mandy]

The freshen fit pussy popping on a.

[Weezy]

Handstand is literally popping your pussy dancing.

[Mandy]

And you know when she said it, the second I watched the clip, because they compiled all these clips to her, I was like, okay. And even the way she said it, it's like I laughed. Cause I knew exactly when I watched it, like, oh, this is what this shit is. No, she didn't have sex with anyone before Akash, but she did have like sleepovers, makeouts, touching. Like she's went to different bases and she said it on horrible. Okay, what I was thinking about bad comments. Number one, fuck with Akash. And he's the reason I went to their wedding. I'm technically cooler than. I don't know, I guess it's even. By the way, I don't know if I've ever told you this Old Bay designed their apartment back in the day.

[Weezy]

No.

[Mandy]

Oh yeah, because he was like hella into that. Why do I always date design? Anyway, so long story short, I have seen his stand up and he talks about just lean all the time and suddenly she becomes an influencer and a podcaster and starts talking too. And now she's a piece of bitch, gold digging whore.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

Justine has also worked at Goldman Sachs. She was in, I believe like finance, amazing jobs, hustling, bustling, doing her thing. And then finally her nigga was like, don't worry no more. And she said, okay and didn't want to. And now we are seeing this whole thing where people are tearing this couple up, calling Akash a cuckoo because he's taking care of his wife, which is technically the most masculine thing y' all niggas could do. And it's strange to me that they just find all of the time in the world to tear this girl down because she started making, you know, podcasts and having a voice and talking about past experiences, and it really made me think, right? So I started talking to my man about it. I was like, yo, I feel so bad for them because this is it her, right? Like, I'm not speaking. I'm just saying, like, she's new to this podcast game. Imagine if you were famous, N would never put a card on you because they like, oh, Weezy been talking like this. And now it feels like this exposure piece because his wife is out there. Think of the rest of the guy. Alex's girl, Andrew's girl, Mark's girl. Nobody's girl is out there but Akash's girl. And now it makes it so easy to tear this bitch down for the guy that was a virgin on the show, bro. I'm telling you, like, the way that we treat women when we think they're whores is crazy. And I really was looking at them comments like, oh, I've been seeing this bitch. This shit ain't nothing to a bitch like me.

[Weezy]

I mean, I think for. I think for you and I, it's felt different because we take on these comments by ourselves, because we don't. We're not public with our partners.

[Mandy]

Right?

[Weezy]

So our partners aren't receiving it to where we can cope with each other. We take it on a lot. Right now, they are attacking Akash for whatever they feel like Akash has done wrong. And they're attacking her, which means they're attacking their union.

[Mandy]

Yeah, it's fucked up.

[Weezy]

And it's like, that would be even harder. Which is why, like, when I was with actor bae, I already knew he already has enough critique in the work he's done and how he wanted to elevate his career. And that was a common conversation that we always had. And I think that's why I was so much more considerate of the things I shared on this platform, because I didn't want us both to be attacked.

[Mandy]

Or I forgot about him, bro.

[Weezy]

Like, so it was like. But it was because he was public, and at any point that we became public, the attack would be on his decision to be with me, who they think he is for being with me, why we're together. I already get the attacks that I get. Like, I think there's no. There's nowhere where I think I'm publicly going to share my partner and welcome him into this type of.

[Mandy]

And that's the thing. Like, having a partner that's out there. Like, sometimes I be on Skylar Marche's page and, like, I like some of her design shit or whatever and whatever. Like, me and my man be like, man, what would it take? Cause my N don't got Instagram. I'd be like, what would it take? What kind of check? Cause it's not even the check. More than he loves brands, right? And it's like, yo, if I don't.

[Weezy]

Want, I don't want no n with an Instagram, bro.

[Mandy]

I love this, bro. But we be talking like, damn, just imagine posting your life and being able to be paid, right? And one of the things that made me feel really sad within this whole thing and it made me think about us, is like, yeah, when you really stand in it and you've really had a certain type of career. We went from people that, you know, felt totally invalidated to now New York Times bestsellers. It's very hard for a man to make us, or woman too, make us feel like we're less than. It's still beautiful to read messages like that today, but we know how far we've come. And so for sure that that was on my mind a lot when seeing their discourse on what's been going on over the last few weeks. Because I'm like, bro, the girl has been with him how long she was with him when he. She was broke, he was broke. And on top of the fact that it's like, so what? She makes content. And she's like, I'm gonna go get Botox and go to Pilates and blah, blah, blah. Okay, son.

[Weezy]

Just to turn this into an evergreen topic, right? And not Akash, not even maybe necessarily us. But what advice then would we both kind of give to someone who gets into a relationship with someone, adores that person, and then maybe does find out something about their past that everyone around them is judging, because that happens too. Imagine if you get with a man, you start dating them, you keeping them secret, but y' all hanging out, y' all fucking. You grow to like him, and then you bring him around your friends and family, and they all got stories about some fuck shit that he did, some hoe shit he did. And Are questioning why the fuck are you with this person? Like, I guess, yeah, like what would you say to that? Like, how do you navigate everyone around you having something negative to say about your partner and maintaining that interest? I guess.

[Mandy]

I don't know. This is the most well liked person I've ever dated. But the one thing I would say that with me sometimes is the fact that like I have cared so much in the past because it actually ruined how I felt about that person. Because in the beginning. Oh, in the beginning of my relationship, everyone compared him to Old Bay just because I was non monogamous, thinking it wasn't my choice.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

Or putting their own ideas of what non monogamy is. And now that they realize he's a good man and an honest man, it's like, oh, okay, well now wheezy did, right? And so eventually people have to fall in line. Everybody's always going to have a fucking opinion. Bitch. People opinions of my ex girlfriend. They felt like she was too jealous. Okay, so what am I gonna do? Date another woman who isn't Sorry. Like, I'm not even trying to be a dick here. But like, there's always going to be something and, and like we gotta cut this shit. Like, it could never be me. Bitch, it's.

[Weezy]

You've been worse.

[Mandy]

So, yeah, like when you feel good, when you're happy. One of my homeboys started dating a white girl and he's. He's famous, I guess, popular. And he's like, I know bitches be looking at me and I'm like, bro, I'm gonna talk shit about you as a joke. But like, if you had a bitch that makes you happy, what do you.

[Weezy]

Give a fuck, bro? Yeah, like, and I just, I just.

[Mandy]

Think it should work too, you know, like, what can you do?

[Weezy]

What are you supposed to do? I think you just have to be at a place where you're like also willing to sit in the I told you so. Like, and when I say that is like if there's stories about a person for being a hoe, being a cheater, being an abuser, and you choose to move forward, there has to be to where if you become something or hurt by that same bubble, just being able to sit in the I told you so like, but willing to be in the ignorance is bliss when it comes to the thoughts and opinions of what someone else may have on the person you choose.

[Mandy]

Yeah, agreed. Abuse are a little different.

[Weezy]

But I mean it is a little different, however. Oh, by the way, only because when does this come out? I'LL make sure this comes out the same week. I only say that because I don't know why I've been sitting on thoughts about our episode with Winter and Shy, but a part of the conversations around the domestic violence, like, you know, when we do episodes and, you know, I know the notes just got sent to us. So I'm sitting on like, what the conversation was. And I just wish I asked harder questions around the comfortability of both of them admitting to laying hands on partners just because I don't think that there is enough of those accountability type conversations amongst women. So, like, literally, I will tell you.

[Mandy]

And I, I don't know if she said it publicly, actually. I think she has Shy had really taken responsibility.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy]

I, I don't know about Winter. I can't. Couldn't speak and I don't know what happened with Winter, but.

[Weezy]

Well, we talked. I'm talking about even just the story they shared on our podcast.

[Mandy]

Oh. When Shai spoke about it, she was like, fuck. And there's no, sorry I could say. Like, there's nothing I could do. Like letting my emotions like, it was. She was very self aware. I'll say that. I don't know if that's the best word I could use. It was like talking with someone that had already understood. Like, they're just like, hey, this is the wrong I did. I'm gonna tell you the story. But like, fuck, I fucked up. And it's something we would wish we could hear more often from women. I think that exactly what Winter did, though.

[Weezy]

I mean, well, it was her story on our show. And as I'm looking through the notes and I'm like, damn. Like a part of me, like, wish I would have been like, I, I, I don't know. I just think that that's a conversation where even when a woman says, damn, that was fucked up. I did it. A lot of times when women are the abusers, there's a past, there's a level of excuse, there's a level of they do it again and they do it again with multiple partners, and there's just no level of accountability. And there's really not that conversation amongst women as to how we need to not even think we can lay our hands on men. And then that's not even the conversation. I think it's even a deeper, darker conversation with the lesbians because them bitches be fighting. It's why I don't even go to lesbian night. Every time I used to go to fucking lesbian gay night, the girls is fighting.

[Mandy]

The girls fight the girls that are gay.

[Weezy]

As a gay girl, the gay girls be girl the girls be fighting.

[Mandy]

Since we almost started fighting, I remember.

[Weezy]

I was saying something in the car.

[Mandy]

And I'm like bitch, what you finna do? And it's really because it's like oh.

[Weezy]

I girl, women are obese.

[Mandy]

Tangie decisionspot gmail.com Go ahead and send your questions in and also if you.

[Weezy]

Want Wait, why did you stop? Wait, what? Wait, wait. Where do we go? You said if we not talk about this.

[Mandy]

Oh I I was just like girl, let's let's go next I don't even want to get in my feelings about how far gone I was when I was a gay girl wanting to fight.

[Weezy]

Oh okay. She said she still has some her.

[Mandy]

Trauma I have but if you want to see the video to this, you want to see us cry, go on over to patreon.com horrible decisions where you still get raw nasty dirty sex talking episodes for as low as $5 a month.

[Weezy]

And see you guys next week. Bye.

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