You've Got Decisons: Envious & Inspired but SINGLE AF (Ft. Jasmine)

Summary

Podcast Summary

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions

Episode: You've Got Decisions: Envious & Inspired but SINGLE AF (Ft. Jasmine)
Date: October 8, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Guest: Jazz (Jasmine), Creator of Jacko Bliss

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Overview of the Episode

In this candid and humor-filled episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, joined by their friend Jazz, tackle big questions about self-worth, desirability, and confidence for single women in their 30s—especially those with limited sexual and dating experience. The episode weaves between wild personal anecdotes and thoughtful advice, focusing on a heartfelt letter from a listener who feels both "envious and inspired" by the hosts’ openness but worries she’s missed her chance for fun, fulfilling relationships.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Wild Anecdotes: Embracing Sex-Positivity and Body Confidence

• The episode opens with the hosts sharing explicit stories of sexual adventures at a nude resort in Jamaica (02:16–12:27), highlighting themes of body positivity, free self-expression, and non-traditional intimacy.
  • Key Moment: Weezy recounts having sex in unconventional places (the pool, a tree, the beach) with humor and zero shame.
    • "I'm literally fucking this nigga while I'm smelling a tree. I’ve never smelled moss and leaves and bark while I'm sucking a dick." (10:47, Weezy)
  • Mandy describes how witnessing others’ freedom inspired her own increased comfort with vulnerability and nudity:
    • “Inspired me to wear mine [butt plug] to the nude pool party the next day.” (03:28, Mandy)

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2. Listener Letter: Feeling "Envious and Inspired, But Single AF"

The Letter (20:31)

A British-born Black woman in her 30s says she’s never felt entirely "seen" or sexual, despite trying dating apps and casual hookups. She fears she’s missed her chance for intimate connection and fun sexual experiences. She also wonders about body confidence in group scenarios and how to feel desirable and whole.

Immediate Reassurance

• The hosts react to the listener’s photo with instant positivity:
  • "Bitch, if I gotta zoom in, this girl is cute.” (22:36, Jazz)
  • “Girl, you’re beautiful and I don’t see a belly." (22:35, Mandy)

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3. Advice and Dialogue: Building Confidence and Desirability

A. The Role of a Dating Coach

• Jazz suggests watching dating reality shows like "Match Me Abroad" to learn from others’ dating pitfalls (23:14–25:25).

• Emphasizes how lack of self-advocacy and the desire to please men can undermine genuine connection.

• Advice: Consider working with a dating coach to identify harmful patterns (“Don’t keep telling every date how tired you are of first dates!”).

  • "A dating coach actually figures out what the fuck you’re saying on the first date." (25:19, Jazz)

B. Online Dating: Be Clear About What You Want

• Mandy shares practical tips for curating an authentic dating app profile and being transparent about non-traditional preferences (like ethical non-monogamy).

  • "One of the biggest things for me evolving was figuring out what I wanted...Once I became more comfortable with 'tradition is not for me', I was able to date better and meet more quality people." (27:24, Mandy)

• Mandy and Weezy both challenge the idea that all women on apps are looking for relationships and stress that increasingly, women are prioritizing autonomy and choosing singlehood purposefully (28:19–28:54).

C. Confidence, Assertiveness, and Self-Advocacy

• Weezy: Advocate for what you want; don’t dim your needs. Use how a man treats other women as a barometer—and make sure to require the treatment you want.
  • “If you’re talking to someone and this man says he really likes steakhouses but invites you to Dave & Busters, that’s alarming…Don’t feel like you can’t get that same treatment.” (29:15–30:07, Weezy)

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4. Body Confidence: Changing Your Own Narrative

A. Nudity and Authentic Bodies

• The hosts and Jazz urge listeners to seek environments where real, diverse bodies are normalized, such as nude beaches or women-only spas:
  • “If you want to feel more confident in your body, find a way to get around actually seeing real people.” (32:51, Weezy)
  • “These spaces are not sexualized…the conversations and connections you make, not just the naked bodies, make you realize you have nothing to hide.” (33:57–34:28, Mandy)

B. Dressing for Confidence

• Each host discusses their favorite ways to dress to accentuate body features they enjoy and shift focus away from insecurities (41:06–46:31).

  • "The more I'm hearing about how we all kind of don't know...the perfect fit for me - that is a goal we all need in our 30s: what the fuck is the best outfit on me?" (42:31, Jazz)

• Mandy: Accentuate features you love—cleavage, legs, whatever it is. Invest in clothing that makes you feel good now.

  • "What you see here is all marketing and packaging." (43:32, Mandy)

• Weezy: Loves bikinis, prioritizes clothes that flatter her small upper body and hips (44:02, Weezy).

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Notable Quotes and Moments (with Timestamps)

• On Feeling Seen:

  • "How can you feel so seen, desirable and whole while dating as a 30 something with limited experience?" (23:01, Weezy reading the listener’s question)

• On Community & Real Bodies:

  • "When you go to a nude beach, and a lot of them people are regular...you get to see real bodies. And boy, it’s just kind of like—it’s reassuring." (32:12–32:17, Weezy)
  • "If you can't look in the mirror and learn to love you at your most vulnerable, you're not gonna be able to love yourself." (33:11, Mandy)

• On Being Outspoken in Dating:

  • "Demand that same treatment." (30:08, Mandy)

• On Style and Body Confidence:

  • "Dressing for your body type...figure out what your favorite things about your body are and start accenting them." (41:28, Jazz)
  • "A skirt. A tennis skirt. A dress. Cleavage...I'm gonna do everything to bring your eyes up or below it." (43:12–43:31, Mandy)

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Important Segment Timestamps

| Timestamp | Segment/Topic | |-----------|----------------------------------------------| | 02:16–12:27 | Jamaica trip, sex stories, body freedom | | 20:31 | Listener letter “Envious and Inspired” | | 23:01 | Hosts delve into advice and reactions | | 25:19–26:22 | Jazz: value of dating coaches | | 27:00–28:54 | Mandy: curating dating profiles, modern singlehood | | 29:15–30:07 | Weezy: self-advocacy in dating | | 32:17–34:28 | Nude spaces/body confidence discussion | | 41:06–46:31 | How to dress for confidence; sharing personal favorites |

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Episode Tone & Style

• Tone: Warm, candid, and playful, yet deeply supportive and affirming.
• The hosts frequently use humor and storytelling to make vulnerable topics approachable, pushing against old taboos and patriarchal narratives.
• Conversations shift rapidly from raunchy confessions to heartfelt pep talks—mirroring the fluidity of real friendship.

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Final Advice Recap

• Try a Dating Coach for honest feedback and tangible, tailored strategies.
• Be Clear and Direct with what you want on apps and in person—don’t shrink yourself or your desires.
• Visit Spaces with Real Bodies (nude beaches, women-only spas) to replace self-critique with acceptance.
• Dressing for Joy: Highlight what you love about yourself and find clothes that make you feel your best NOW.
• Rediscover Playfulness: It’s never “too late” for new experiences, intimacy, or connection.

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To Submit a Letter:
Email: [e-mail]
Patrons get first dibs on advice!

Closing Statement:
"Lean into finding confidence in your body by going somewhere to see other bodies and just get the confidence as well to be able to communicate your wants, needs and desires from the men that you're dating and don't allow them to lead. That's our advice to you." (47:05, Weezy)

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Note: This summary omits advertisements, promo segments, and non-content banter, focusing solely on the core discussions and advice.

Transcript

[Mandy]

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[Diplo]

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[Bailey Zimmerman]

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[Weezy]

So we go back to the room and I'm excited because I'm going to meet them. They got the VIP section ready over at the pool, y'. All, I get completely naked in front of this man that I just met, okay, 30 minutes ago, and I say, I'm gonna be adventurous. I'm gonna put my butt plug in. So I'm like, this man's in the room. Well, now we're all getting naked. We just went. And I'm like. I literally go on the bed and I turn my thing and I'm like, okay, let me put the COVID over. Because Chris was like, you're gonna put this butt plug in in front of this guy? I say, well, you could turn around, but I gotta focus, guys.

[Jazz]

Shh.

[Weezy]

And it's like a. It's a regular size. It's not small.

[Jazz]

Was this day one still?

[Weezy]

This is Thursday. This is day one. This is Thursday night. So this is. He just landed. My friend just landed.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

So I'm literally ass naked in the room, and I decide to put a butt plug in my ass in front of this man. So we go to the pool immediately. Pull up to the pool, shake my head, bend over, show everybody my booklet. It's a little diamond. It's cute.

[Mandy]

Inspired me to wear mine to the nude pool party the next day.

[Weezy]

I was inspiring people. So anyways, we go, we sit, and literally, it's casual. It's casual. We're sitting there taking drinks, we're talking. I'm learning about that nigga.

[Jazz]

Casual it is.

[Weezy]

Casual it is. Not me, sir. But I did.

[Jazz]

I did suck cock upside down in.

[Weezy]

The water that night. That's od. I did. I'm just saying.

[Jazz]

Did you have braids?

[Weezy]

I had a sew in. Oh, same difference. Same difference.

[Jazz]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

And I even had a hair tie that was like. That I could go in the water with to keep the roots down, you know, because I wanted to look beautiful, you know, you don't want to come.

[Jazz]

Up from sucking a dick and look. No.

[Weezy]

Because you know what's so crazy? I'm such a dolphin. I literally was floating on the top of the water. And I'm not a lie. You might be one of the aliens on Earth, because, bitch, the way your body work, it ain't. I don't have the same human body as him. People were saying, like, how are you not falling? And I literally was just laying on.

[Jazz]

The floor on there.

[Weezy]

And you know how they were sitting out the fucking pool. He was sitting outside of it. So, like, it's just balls hanging and dick hanging, and I'm laying upside down in the water.

[Jazz]

And I'm like, literally swimming and licking his balls.

[Weezy]

Yeah. Looking at the stars.

[Jazz]

And I'm like, this is so great.

[Weezy]

Them Jamaican mushrooms are there.

[Jazz]

Y' all got something?

[Weezy]

Nah, that Jamaican mushrooms are different. What's different? And he mistakenly double dosed that night. I don't know what dosage we did. All I know is he said he'd.

[Jazz]

Never done a bitch find a dose.

[Weezy]

And I said. He said he's never done it. And I was like, well, you're with me. You're safe. You're safe, bitch.

[Jazz]

Strangers.

[Weezy]

So he takes truth for the first time. And at this point, the other guy that I thought killed my friend was called serial killer all week. Because at this point, nigga, you killed my friend, even though she's alive. So anyways, he pulls up. We actually start flirting first, because I found him attractive. And me and this guy, even though he's with me and he's attractive, you know, I wasn't getting no play, bitch. Apparently, as soon as he saw me partner with this nigga, he just. I think I saw when he came up when that happened, because I was like, oh, we getting a little territorial. Do you know what's crazy? My best friend peeped it, too. He didn't know. So immediately I started playing with this nigga about him ordering Coke Zero and shit. And I said, hey, hey, don't judge us. Coke Zero isn't judging.

[Jazz]

Yeah, if you're gonna do it, do.

[Weezy]

It well, I sit here, and that's how I flirt, right?

[Mandy]

That's diabetic.

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[Weezy]

That's green.

[Jazz]

Okay, okay, okay.

[Weezy]

I mean, that's right.

[Mandy]

All right.

[Weezy]

So anyway, that's how I flirt. I talk shit. So clearly I'm flirting with this guy because he walked up, he looked like my ex. I was like, oh, yeah, hey, this nigga immediately, like, hand around my wrist. And then dick just gets hard and start poking me. And I'm like, he's still ordering shots, and now he's getting. But now I'm, like, feeling his. His energy. Yeah, I'm feeling his energy. And then I reached down and I said that dick was. And literally, I just started slapping his dick.

[Jazz]

This is how, like, good times.

[Weezy]

Literally, we're like, where are you from? No, no, we're having a full conversation about, like, where we're from. Code zero. Healthy for you. Not stroking his dick under the wall.

[Mandy]

If I would have had my waterproof cards out, we would have been playing spades. That casual it is.

[Weezy]

So we're having this conversation. I'm choking his dick Then he starts kissing my ear. And then I'm just like, fuck it, we gonna go fuck. So I take him over to the cave. There's a cave.

[Jazz]

That's a grotto.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, we're not there yet. The grotto, the. The cave with the waterfall.

[Mandy]

Oh, yeah.

[Weezy]

Because we both, like. I didn't know till later that he has, like, he can't perform in front of mad people.

[Mandy]

Oh, he has performance anxiety, girl.

[Weezy]

He gets that sometimes. He lost it by day two, though, because.

[Jazz]

I don't know, I was definitely getting.

[Mandy]

A lot in the mid.

[Weezy]

So he's been to parties, he's been to these things. He can't. So it messes with them. So we go to the cave where the waterfall is covering us. My fucking condom bag is floating in the water and now he's fucking the shit out of me. Then we take it out the cave. He lays me on the side of the pool in front of the cave and starts poking me.

[Mandy]

But the mat is like, it's uncomfortable.

[Weezy]

It's uncomfortable. Yeah. We don't last very long there. And I said, let's go to the Peach. I want to fuck on the beach at this point, mind you, lit. He done fuck the shit out of me. I'm like, oh, this feel great. So we go to the beach and it's fairly empty because at this point it's probably 2 o', clock, 3 o'. Clock.

[Jazz]

Yeah. And everybody's at the pool.

[Weezy]

Everyone's at the pool. So the beach is empty except for a couple. One couple is on the beach and they're fucking. So we end up getting like two rows on the beaches away from them and start fucking.

[Mandy]

And I from.

[Weezy]

Look at mine. Look.

[Jazz]

There is no war, bitch. Your is crazy.

[Weezy]

You can't see it now. This one is gone. But I still. My elbows were, were. Were literally raw. So I'm sitting on.

[Jazz]

Dishes are battered.

[Weezy]

No, the beach chairs battered. As I still have the scars.

[Mandy]

Because you.

[Weezy]

You don't realize you that it's happening.

[Mandy]

It's the chair.

[Weezy]

And he spoke to me and he's like, I'm gonna make that pussy squirt. And you know, I talk shit. You ain't gonna make my pussy squirt baby on the goddamn chair.

[Mandy]

Back to back.

[Weezy]

He just has me squirting on the beach. And I was like, fuck it.

[Jazz]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Isn't that beautiful?

[Jazz]

He's just looking out the fucking like the ocean beach.

[Weezy]

This is where the shrooms hit him. He stops. He's like, we should go fucking that tree. Wait There's a tree on the beach, bitch. And he said.

[Jazz]

When I said tree, I thought his.

[Weezy]

Name was, we fucked in a tree.

[Mandy]

That's why she calls him tree.

[Weezy]

So he was just snobbage. He ain't even. He ain't even talk. Oh.

[Jazz]

Cause Mandy's standing. I'm like, was it tree? She goes, we didn't get there. And I'm like, yeah, come back.

[Weezy]

We're here now. Ironically, the other is tall.

[Jazz]

Tree. Otherwise, that's called tree. Exactly where we were going.

[Weezy]

So he's a tree. Mind you, this is the funny part. He the next day, told my best friends, yeah, I don't think those shrooms hit me. I said, I'm pretty sure that's why we ended up in a tree. This had to be the shroom. So Liter, he's like, let's fuck in a tree. Like, I've never fucked in a tree. And I said, you know what? Me neither. And I'm like, we should, like, try to fuck in this tree. So literally, the tree is like a tree that's kind of bent down. Like, you know, the branch curve. So at first, he wants both of us to climb the tree, but, bitch.

[Jazz]

Well, you declining, bitch.

[Weezy]

This nigga ended up like Tarzan. No lie. He said, I got this. And he starts climbing the tree. He gets on the tree branch and sits on it. And I'm like, well, I don't think I'm gonna be able to go there. So let's just like this. Yeah, a little bit. Like, I just want y' all to understand that everybody who saw y' all probably thought y' all were fucking losing y'.

[Jazz]

All.

[Weezy]

You know what tree it is?

[Jazz]

I love the tree.

[Weezy]

This is huge. Yeah. So he climbs the tree, he sits down on the tree, and I'm like, okay, here we go. So I grab his ass to make sure he doesn't. Like, he doesn't fall. And I immediately just go to go to work and start sucking his dick while he's in this tree. I've never sucked dick and smelled a tree before, mind you. It's got to be.

[Jazz]

Was it like Paula's house?

[Weezy]

My experience of this. My experience of this is literally smelling the tree. Because I'm going like this. I've never smelled moss and leaves and bark while I'm sucking a dick. And so maybe the shrooms had my senses up. I'm like, oh, yeah, we'll do that, bruh. I'm like, I'm literally fucking this nigga. Why are you.

[Jazz]

What am I still in Day one cab.

[Weezy]

This is day one. This is day one.

[Mandy]

This is day two for Mandy. Day one for everybody else.

[Weezy]

For everyone else. Yeah. Okay, so him, my best friend. Everyone just got there. So we leave the tree and we go back to the pool. And now I'm talking about this tree, but here I go. Hey. I don't want anyone to know that we just fucked. So come. Come, like, after me. You could enter that fight.

[Mandy]

I don't know.

[Jazz]

I don't know.

[Weezy]

Cause I was like. I think I wanted to, like, not be linked to a. That quickly. Like, I want people thinking, yeah, but after you choke in a tree, you're pretty. But also, there were still more people coming the next day.

[Jazz]

So you said I didn't know.

[Mandy]

No, no, no, no, no.

[Weezy]

The first day, there was 70 people, but I felt like I didn't meet everybody that first night.

[Jazz]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

I didn't just want him to be. She's like, I wanna.

[Mandy]

I wanna see all your friends. I want to see. I want to see the variety. I want to see the buffet.

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[Weezy]

I want to see what you want.

[Jazz]

They might fuck me in the bush. Nick. Hold on.

[Weezy]

You ready? So it's a jungle area. There is a jungle area, so you could technically. Oh, the jungle area was so nice. It's very on the way to, like, the playrooms. Yes.

[Jazz]

Okay.

[Weezy]

So then we come back into the pool separately, and I'm excited. I come and you were there. I came and talked to a group of girls that I had been seeing throughout the day. And I was like, y', all, I just fucked this nigga in a tree. His name Tree. His big. He made me squirt like, five times. And I'm bragging about this nigga.

[Mandy]

No.

[Weezy]

Finally, he get in the pool, and I'm like, oh, that's tree, bitch. Everybody there knows this nigga. You just got a little taste of the horrible decisions Patreon. But why stop there? Tap in for the full, uncut and way nastier episodes over on patreon. Go to patreon.com horrible decisions and unlock all the messy tea, wild stories and bonus content. You won't hear any. And now here's you've got decision.

[Jazz]

If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?

[Weezy]

You've got decisions. You've got decisions.

[Jazz]

Welcome back, y'. All.

[Weezy]

It's hump day. Another hump day.

[Jazz]

Honestly, every day is hump day. But everybody else thinks dreams can hump day.

[Weezy]

There's about two, 28 days out of the month that it's hump day. I am God's favorite. So three days out of the month, I'm not humping.

[Jazz]

And someone else is his real favorite because they don't get a period at all. They just don't.

[Weezy]

Oh, valid, valid, valid. I do wonder if each nigga got a menopause hoe like one who just don't get periods anymore. I mean, when you're control, you don't get a period. Or you might just spot randomly. And I think niggas will pass a spot.

[Mandy]

They will.

[Jazz]

It will pass on blood, bitch.

[Mandy]

I've had dudes be like, I don't care. I'm a vampire.

[Jazz]

My like it more than normal.

[Weezy]

That's disgusting. All right.

[Mandy]

I'm the horniest during that time.

[Jazz]

Oh, my God, I'm gonna be all gushy, okay? And it'll be like giving all your.

[Weezy]

Ice cream and watch a. A romantic movie.

[Jazz]

No ice cream. You know what happened to Kev on stage?

[Weezy]

Anyways, guys, welcome to another. You got decisions. We have a letter this week that says.

[Jazz]

Wait, we got a guest.

[Weezy]

I know. Envious and inspired single af. We have a guest helping us break down this email. We have Jazz, the founder, the creator, the fucking pioneer herself of Jacko Bliss, baby. And if you haven't yet, make sure you join Patreon. Cause, baby, we talk about the time that was had Chocobliss travel group, y'. All. I'm doing it again next year, running it back again. If you want to hear all of the nasty, filthy things that took place, I'm not even going to lie, Weezy. I had to think about what I was going to share. That's how bad it was. That's how bad it was. Like, I'm not sharing everything I did because I'm embarrassed to even share on our goddamn platform.

[Jazz]

Did you get fucked by Sir Marvelous like you said?

[Mandy]

You.

[Weezy]

We'll talk about it.

[Jazz]

We'll talk about it. By the way, when I said fucked, I used my hand motion.

[Weezy]

Yeah, bro.

[Jazz]

Mandy, if you go over to Patreon, she discussed being a not amused. Yeah, I was amused. Amused for Sir Marvelous.

[Weezy]

I wasn't fucked by Sir Marvelous, but I was finger popped graciously. So go on over to Patreon. That's patreon.com horribledecisions. There is so much over there shared. I will tell you now, ladies, have a panty liner in your panties before you listen to it. And fellas, put a goddamn napkin over your part two. Oh, it's It's. It's. It's wild. Like, it doesn't. Like it wasn't real life. Anyways, let's get into our.

[Jazz]

Y' all maybe wearing the fishnet.

[Weezy]

I literally wore it just for the episode.

[Jazz]

Run over to Patreon and watch the video on this, because this bitch is still wearing her dusty wine clothes.

[Weezy]

Let me live.

[Jazz]

I should have worn my Jamaica tee.

[Weezy]

I literally brought this. I said, we finna be talking about Jamaica.

[Jazz]

Did you wear it there?

[Weezy]

Yes, Yes, I wore this in Jamaica. She had Jamaica tee. Don't do this. Don't do this. You know how much my best friend was like, bitch, everyone knows you're in Jamaica. You don't have to have the flag or all these Jamaican clothes on. So, mind you, I sent her my little fashion nova list. She said, bruh, can you not go to the island that you from looking like a white tourist that's about to get braids and beads in your head. Everything was Jamaican. Well, because here's the thing, right? Everything was themed out, but for dinners and stuff, you had to have clothes on. So, bitch, I bought all the little Jamaican dresses. It was cute, though.

[Jazz]

I'm not gonna lie. The way you be thinking it's cute. So I put on one of these outfits recently to go to a pool. My homegirl, she goes, where are you going to grill? And I was like, oh, I'm gonna go back up.

[Weezy]

Like, no, the time isn't funny. But we're in Jamaica, and it's funny. Cause whenever you see the girls on the little rafts, they all had Jamaican outfits on. Bitch, They're Dean, bitch.

[Jazz]

This is the fellow who was going.

[Mandy]

To the bamboo raft the day that we did the excursions, because every.

[Jazz]

They had on a T shirt with a thong.

[Weezy]

They had a one that had, like.

[Jazz]

A Jamaican piece of Jamaican.

[Weezy]

Everybody. I said, oh, everybody go to the raft.

[Jazz]

You know, one of the craziest videos I've ever seen on the Internet was a girl on the raft. I don't know if y' all remember this video, but it was on Twitter.

[Weezy]

Oh, she was getting fucked with.

[Jazz]

No, no, no.

[Weezy]

Oh, she was getting fucked by the.

[Jazz]

So she was getting fingered at first, and then the dude was about to fuck her, and she goes, no, get a condom. And he got a plot back.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah, that's seen that.

[Jazz]

And that is the level of horny. I never want to be well again on Patreon.

[Weezy]

Apparently, I went to Jamaica. Horny. Anyways.

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[Bobby Bones]

Hey, it's Bobby from the Bobby Bones Show. I had an incredible time at this year's iHeartRadio music festival and even got the chance to hang out with Diplo and Bailey Zimmerman while I was there. Check this out. So how did Ashes come together? Diplo?

[Diplo]

Well, I kind of briefly met Bailey, I think at Morgan's show, one of them. And I think he's just a guy in Nashville. He's cool as hell and I had a new kind of sound I wanted to do and I think he's the one guy that could carry it. And I came to his house, I had a show, I pulled up real quick, he was about to leave on tour. You're about to jump in your tour bus and we had like three hours play the record for him. We kind of like got a scratch and then. And he handled it on his own on the road.

[Bailey Zimmerman]

Yeah, it was really cool. He literally just like randomly showed up to my house and I'm like, oh hey Diplo, what are you doing? He's like I have a song that I want to show you. And I was like okay. And then now we're here playing it live.

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[Weezy]

Let's get into Envious and Inspired Single AF Hey Mandy and Weezy, I hope you're both doing well. First, I just want to give you all your flowers. Congratulations on being New York Times bestseller. Discovering you both many years ago was truly a gift. Finding you has meant so much to me, especially seeing two corporate women transition into such a dope space. I'm loving no holds barred. It's beautiful, sexy and honest. I'm reading it in small breaks because it's making me reflect on my own love life and relationship life. I'm a 33 year old British born black woman and I've always struggled to see myself as sexual. I lost my virginity later than some, wasn't really bothered at the time and post university I mostly had hookups rather than real dating experiences. I've had one brief relationship in 2019 and otherwise been very casual. Mandy, that Mexico threesome story and Weezy, your freedom and softness with your current partner. Wow. I've listened to y' all and the guests and tried, but I still don't feel seen at all. I've tried approaching people on dating apps and even paid on apps, but it hasn't really worked. Are men afraid of approaching women these days? Dating in the states seems so much fun. Also, one thing I've been curious about during a threesome or being intimate with other people in the room, how do you feel okay with your bodies, especially around other women? My belly would be on my mind constantly. I fear reading your book and hearing about the fullness of your experiences makes me both envious and inspired. I guess my question is how can I feel seen desirable and whole while dating? As a 30 something with limited experience, I'm scared I've missed my chance for fun sexual experiences. Sorry for the long message. I just wanted to share how much your work inspires me. I'm only halfway through your book and I'm already so inspired by y' all and who you are. I've Attached. My photo. Feel free to judge. Not gonna judge you. Cause girl, you're beautiful and I don't see a belly, but that's her.

[Jazz]

Where's the belly?

[Weezy]

I don't.

[Mandy]

I don't see no belly.

[Jazz]

Bitch, if I gotta zoom in, this girl is cute.

[Weezy]

Don't put her on the.

[Diplo]

On the camera.

[Mandy]

I didn't. Oh, she is.

[Jazz]

Okay, so let me judge the outfit. I'm just playing.

[Weezy]

So the question.

[Jazz]

And you traveling, you out. You look like you in Europe or something in that picture. Maybe you live.

[Weezy]

She's British. No, I'm saying she probably live there.

[Jazz]

Yeah, but she's still traveling.

[Weezy]

So the question is, Europe is cold.

[Jazz]

Bitch.

[Weezy]

That's a crop top.

[Jazz]

No belly.

[Weezy]

How can you feel so seen desirable and whole while dating as a 30 something with limited experience? Now, I don't think any of us have limited experience, but for those first three things.

[Jazz]

But we all probably have a friend or family member that does. I'll be honest, the more I've been watching different shows and talking to different people, I've learned a few things. So we all know I'm a TLC girl. Mandy's the Bravo girl. There's a new show on TLC called Match Me Abroad, and there's a girl on there who claims she's been on 75 first dates. Now that's a lot. That to me, is a lot. Then we're having a conversation. I'm watching it with my man. He's like, not really. Like, how many you think you've been on? I'm like, I don't know, maybe. But eventually it gets to another one. It seems like what she's saying is the 75 leader. Nowhere.

[Weezy]

Oh, okay. So 75 first dates and they go nowhere.

[Jazz]

Okay, so you're hotter than her. You are a really cute girl. This girl was not. However, I would even say to me, when I heard this letter, I'm like, oh, what she looked like. Because you assume if someone's not getting nowhere, they're unattractive, which isn't the case. Right. That's just what society wants to think. If men aren't locking it down, et cetera. Guess what? We rock around and see ugly people with babies and happy families all the time. You know why? Because they are dating better than us. And what I learned from watching this girl is that a lot of the way she dates is a problem. Whether it's her attachment theory, attachment style, maybe how hard she goes, how people pleasing she is. So she goes on a date and they're filming It. And the dude is, like, just erratic, and he is, like, fucking around about hot sauce puts it in his eye, just being wild. And she doesn't say that she's uncomfortable. She was, like, uncomfortable, but saying it to the side of the camera, like, just not expressing herself at all. So what I'm learning through this experience, through this experience, watching her and other friends, is they aren't vocal in dating experiences. They're letting men lead because they don't know how to say what they want. And there's this weird juxtaposition of how do we let a man be a man? If you're dating men, but also feel like we're being desired without being too forthcoming, and for that, I think it varies for each person. And this is why I think dating coaches actually matter, because the person is watching the footage of her and they're commenting back. And so we've had a few dating coaches on that get to talk about that. But in reality, all the advice you're watching on horrible decisions is per different women, per different men they're dating. And who knows what conversations I'm having with men versus Mandy, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's all different, right? So I really think that dating coaches get to hear your real story. This is beyond therapy. Therapy is the deep shit that we're all insecure about, but a dating coach actually figures out what the fuck you saying on the first date. Your exes are you bringing up that nothing ever works out? That's a big fucking downer, too. Like, don't tell me how it never works out and you're tired of going on dates and you're blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like, no, it's a new person. Have a new attitude with it. But a dating coach does uncover all these things. And I know it's pricey, but I've just heard so many good reviews from people that get dating coaches. Even if they don't get to the finish line of, like, marriage, if that's what they want, they still seem to, like, learn something about dating that's helpful. So that would be my advice, a dating coach. Yeah.

[Weezy]

Okay. My advice. Actually, mine might be a little lengthy, too. Jasmine, what would your advice be for someone? Because I wonder if it'll be similar. What would your advice be for someone who's battling with their desirability and, you know, sexual prowess in their 30s?

[Mandy]

So I'm out in these dating streets, heavy and hard. I'm on Hinge, I'm on Tinder. And one of the things That I do is I look at how I curate my profile. What kind of pictures am I putting out there? What am I, what am I saying? So Tinder I have and each one is kind of set up differently. So Tinder I put in. I don't suck dick if you want.

[Jazz]

Me to suck, dude.

[Weezy]

Tinder is a hookup.

[Mandy]

Tinder is more hookup. I don't put that in there. But on hinge I put I'm ethically non monogamous. So now they have this new feature where it's like, it's a match note so people get a second chance. It's like, read this and if you still want to pursue this, wow, big headed, then click it. So I put in there I'm ethically non monogamous. And if this is not for you, cool, don't, don't hit me up. But I think one of the biggest things for me evolving was figuring out what I wanted because I used to dim myself, dim my sexuality, dim how much I love sex to fit into what I thought was what I wanted, which a traditional relationship. And once I became more comfortable with, I don't. Tradition is not for me, then I was able to date better and meet more quality people and meet more people, closely align with what I want in a, in a, in a future partner.

[Jazz]

Do we think it's safe to say though I would argue that 90% of women, maybe even 95, want a boyfriend when they go on an app. Do y' all think that's true?

[Weezy]

Eh, not, not today.

[Mandy]

I don't think so today.

[Jazz]

What do you think the percentage of women is that are looking for a relationship?

[Mandy]

I think there's still maybe like 50%. 50?

[Jazz]

You think it's 50? I mean right now.

[Weezy]

I mean, and that's what the, the studies keep showing how much as, especially in your 30s and 40s, how many women are choosing themselves and to be single because they're happy or like they feel more in charge of their autonomy in this lane because they're making money, they're focused on their health more. They realize if they have kids or they don't, they either don't want anymore or they're just happy where they're at. I don't want to make them less happy.

[Mandy]

So.

[Jazz]

But I don't know if they're not looking when they're on that dating app for relationships.

[Weezy]

So I think that's actually, that would be my, my advice. I mean, I think, you know, focusing on kind of what Jaz said, focusing on what you want. And also Figuring out how to be confident enough to say it to a man. So the way.

[Mandy]

That's the hardest part.

[Weezy]

You said how, like, a lot of women will dim themselves. I'm not going to hold you. Like, I was just with one of my boyfriends. He came to Atlanta and it was so funny because we're just openly talking about how we interact with the other people in our lives. And we out and bitches is asking him for money for like food and gas and shit like that. And I was like. He was like, yeah, it's not bad. Like, one girl asked me for her nails. So I immediately said, listen, I'm going to get my nails done Friday and I need you to pay for them. Like, even I think opening your ears to how you sees someone else treat someone. If you're talking to someone you're dating and this man says he really likes steakhouses, but invites you to Dave and Buster's, that's alarming. Like, I think you have to really see and hear how a man dates and how he's showing up to treating you. And then if you hear he's treating all these other women a certain way, don't feel like you can't get that same treatment.

[Mandy]

Exactly.

[Weezy]

Like demand that same treatment.

[Jazz]

I gotta be honest, I don't leave room for men to really tell me about other women that much in the beginning.

[Weezy]

But like, he's boyfriend. He was like my boyfriend number two. Like, how we met was how we met. But he knows there's four guys right now. So for us even it was so crazy because we just had a conversation and he was like, yeah, like, I was jealous when you were getting. We went to a. Anyways, we went out and he was like, I was jealous when this happened. And I was like, okay. I said, that's a normal human feeling. You're going to feel jealousy and let me know if I violate you or cross the boundary. But like, so we're open right now about who our other partners are. So that's why I said that. But for the. For the person who wrote in who's curious about feeling more desirable, I want to lean into that and seen.

[Jazz]

That's a big one too. Feeling seen.

[Weezy]

Well, and this is going to sound a little crazy, but if you. In Europe, bitch, they have them. One of the places that has made me and my friends feel so confident about ourselves. And even I heard it happen in Jamaica. Baby, go to a nude beach.

[Mandy]

Yes.

[Weezy]

Be around in the uk they have them.

[Jazz]

There's tons.

[Mandy]

In Europe, there's tons. Beaches it's not sexualized the way it is here.

[Jazz]

I'm not talking. I don't count UK as Europe.

[Mandy]

Sorry.

[Weezy]

But even if you said she travels Spain, there's mad.

[Jazz]

There's mad beaches in Barcelona.

[Weezy]

There are beaches in Europe, like majority of Europe. If there's a beach, there's a nude beach also, too. Let me finish. Because I wanted to land this plane real quick. Because the conversation around desirability and feeling comfortable, even in sex, was a conversation I had a lot with women in Jamaica. And it's a conversation I had when I went to Gunnison. And it's a conversation that I often have. We're so consumed. And you've talked about this wheezy too, about aesthetics online, where everything is photoshopped and finished and perfect and cinched. And we have this unrealistic view about what bodies look like now. And so when you go to like a nude beach, and a lot of them people are regular, some of them even have their kids, you get to see real bodies.

[Mandy]

Yes.

[Weezy]

And boy, is it just kind of like, it's reassuring to how you exist in your own body to just see real bodies. And again, it's not sexualized, but you're walking around and seeing, oh, this is what's under everyone's clothes.

[Mandy]

Right?

[Weezy]

And there's stretch marks, there's saggy titties, there's a fupa, there's cellulite. Like real bodies look like your body, Right? And girl, you got a good body. I'm looking at it in the video. So I would say to feel more desirable or confident in your body, to find a way to get around actually seeing real people.

[Mandy]

Seeing real people. But it's also looking. My grandmother used to tell me I'd be like, grandma, I'm fat, I'm ugly. She's like, look in the mirror. And then I'd be like, well, if I look in the mirror and I see that I'm. Or ugly or I'm not attractive. But it took me a while and it took me older. It took me actually going someplace like Heedo to understand when she said, look in the mirror. And it's not so much visually what you see, but it's like that's your truest form. And if you can't look in the mirror and learn to love you at your most vulnerable, you're not gonna be able love yourself. And when you go to heedo or any kind of nude space in a non sexualized way, I couldn't tell you what half the people look like naked. On that trip. But I can tell you about the conversations that I had with people and the connections that I made with people. And it's kind of like you're there, you're nude and you're bearing it all. So I have nothing to hide. If a person is attracted to me.

[Weezy]

They'Re genuinely attracted to me because you're.

[Mandy]

Going to see the cellulite, you're going to see these stretch marks, you're going to see the belly, you're going to see everything. And then when I put the clothes on, it's just like now I'm flexing because I already know what's under here. But when I put my clothes on, I feel stronger and I feel empowered. Because if I can sit and have a conversation with somebody butt, ass naked, and it just be a really good, deep conversation of just connecting with people. It's like you've already seen the worst.

[Weezy]

I like that you say that. Do you know that there was a dating show? It was called Dating Naked? Yes.

[Jazz]

It's a UK show.

[Weezy]

I think they literally had people dating naked.

[Mandy]

Because I promise you, there's people on the trip who have these beautiful bodies stacked and there's guys who are ripped. And at one point, I used to be intimidated by guys who were super, you know, athletic. Oh, I love Jim Brown because I've always been a big girl. I've always been a big girl. I've never been skinny a day in my life. And one day I was like, I can get him. I'm worthy of him. Just because I'm chubby or I'm plump doesn't mean that I can't bag someone who's got an eight pack and who's an athlete.

[Jazz]

I believe that's the skinny girl rhetoric. Actually. Like, one of my bigger homegirls was saying to me, like, bitches always be wondering how I get niggas, like. And it's always a certain type of bitch. You know what I'm saying? I don't know if it's. I'm from the south, so no one ever was really, like, really, like, I'm not even trying to, like. I know that may sound ridiculous to some, but no one really around me growing up, everybody was kind of. I was always the one that was kind of like, made fun of because I ain't had no ass. When you from down South, I've been seeing girls that was thick my whole life with, whether it be quote unquote, fit niggas, whatever. Like, I've seen that in New York. I know the body type is different, but like you mentioned too, going back down to Georgia, like, seeing ass, seeing real bodies like that shit is a.

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[Bobby Bones]

Hey, it's Bobby from the Bobby Bones Show. I had an incredible time at this year's iHeartRadio music festival and even got the chance to hang out with Diplo and Bailey Zimmerman while I was there. Check this out. So how did Ashes come together?

[Weezy]

Diplo?

[Diplo]

Well, I kind of briefly met Bailey, I think at Morgan's show, one of them. And I think he's just the guy in Nashville. He's cool as hell and I had a new kind of sound I wanted to do and I think he's the one guy that could carry it. And I came to his house, I had a show, I pulled up real quick, he was about to leave on tour. You're about to jump in your tour bus and we had like three hours play the record for him. We kind of like got a scratch and then he handled it on his own on the road.

[Bailey Zimmerman]

Yeah, it was really cool. He really just like randomly showed up to my house and I'm like, oh, hey Diplo, what are you doing? He's like, I have a song that I want to show you. And I was like, okay. And then now we're here playing it live.

[Bobby Bones]

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[Jazz]

Now, what I will say is, outside of the sex club, I think the Euro nude beaches is great if it's not sexually related. And the nude beaches are for families and shit in Europe. But go to a women's only spa.

[Weezy]

That'S nude, that will like, even the career.

[Mandy]

The bath. The bath houses.

[Weezy]

The bath houses.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Where you could get nude. That's a good.

[Jazz]

You're right.

[Weezy]

Look at me. Nude beach sex club.

[Jazz]

Because I just think accessibility in the UK is less than you think. Like, it's super cold. There's not going to be a beach you can go to that's requiring a lot of travel. Super basic. I just went to one in LA called Wi Spa W I and I've been hearing about it because it's 24 hours. So I'm thinking it's gonna be this couples night. Yeah, not at all. Completely separate me. And I was so nude. At one point it was so nude.

[Weezy]

You were like, they gotta be fucking here.

[Jazz]

No, I. It was just all ages nude. So I was seeing really old grannies.

[Weezy]

Wait, really young.

[Jazz]

Not really young, but like really old. And it just made me think to myself, Cause you know at first when you go anywhere nude, we can all attest to this, even hedonism. The first 10 minutes you look in a lot and then it becomes normal. In this spa, I was just like, oh shit. Oh my God, are my tits gonna fall down like that? And then after an hour I'm just like, why am I even doing this? Like, I'm 34 years old now.

[Weezy]

I'm young and hot.

[Jazz]

But like, who knows? In the Comfortability and the way that, like, you just start to become one. And also, you will realize how much more beautiful your body is being amongst other people. Because there isn't, like you said, this perfection. But I think the women's spas are a little bit better. Because if you're attracted to men, a sex club or a nude beach may put you in an alarming situation, because now men can look at you. Women definitely make you feel safer. I think just we all know that how that feels. But number one, your confidence has got to go up because that's why you're feeling like this on dates. Or maybe not. That could attribute to why not having luck. Because men love having confidence, right?

[Weezy]

And like confident women.

[Jazz]

Now I would say the first thing to just jump starting that it's like my breakup call of action for any bitch I know. Okay, bitch, we need the new fits. Bitch, if I got a new gym fit, I'm gonna get up and go to the gym. We need a new hair and a new fits. Now you living. You got braids in this, and I live in them. I'm telling you, the new fits. Dressing for your body type. For example, if you don't like your belly. But we don't see your belly, fine, whatever. You have a crop top on in this picture. If you're mentioning a belly, why are you putting that on? So something's off here, right?

[Weezy]

The pants were high.

[Jazz]

No, no, no. I'm saying, like, well, yeah, start if you. I don't think her outfit didn't fit her body.

[Weezy]

But she had a crop sock because the pants were hot.

[Jazz]

But point blank, period, that doesn't matter because we can still see it if it's pants, right? Start dressing for whatever you think your body is missing, and then you'll feel more confident. For example, sometimes I don't love my legs. If I wear midi things, like, to my knee, I feel like I look shorter. So now I actually got to wear a little bit shorter skirt. I like seeing my shoulders. I think they're the best attribute. You need to figure out what your favorite things about your body are and start accenting them. I was having dinner this week. We're filming this during New York Fashion Week with a homegirl of mine who's a stylist. And she was like, bitch, here's what I get paid for pulls. Number one, from designers. Two, because people know I'm lit and they like my clothes. And three, because I actually know how to dress someone's body, period. She's like, I dress women that Are six feet and above. And, like, they've hated their bodies their whole life. They're famous.

[Mandy]

They're.

[Jazz]

They're doing xyz. They might be playing a sport, but they hate their bodies. Right. I know how to dress them to make them feel comfortable. And the more I'm hearing about how we all kind of don't know because I really don't know. The perfect fit for me. That is a goal we all need in our 30s. What the fuck is the best outfit on me? And you know why we all need that? Let's just say you have a random date or something to go to. Are we gonna keep picking the same shit that we always wear that makes us feel comfortable or actually start buying things that are the right fit? Like, real shit? That's gotta be number one on the list. Go in the closet, pick the top three and then recreate those.

[Mandy]

Me and skirt. Hate to see me coming.

[Jazz]

I was gonna say, is yours the skirt?

[Weezy]

That's a tennis skirt.

[Mandy]

A skirt. A tennis skirt, A dress. Cleavage. My problem area for me is the belly area. So guess what? I'm gonna do everything to bring your eyes up or bring your eyes below it. So I'm in short skirts or my cleavage is gonna be out. And I have. I don't have the biggest chest, but guess what? Victoria's Secrets has those bras.

[Jazz]

I see how you did the bra.

[Mandy]

Under the cardigan that do the two sizes up. I call it my marketing. I'm like, this is just marketing and packaging. What you see here is all marketing and packaging. But I accentuate the things that I like about myself, and those are the things that give me confidence. So when I go out, hey, you know.

[Jazz]

Yes. You gonna get legs, you gonna get cleavage. You gonna get cleavage and buy it twice.

[Mandy]

Every color.

[Weezy]

Hello.

[Mandy]

Every color.

[Jazz]

What's yours?

[Weezy]

Leather?

[Mandy]

Anything.

[Weezy]

Anything Leather. I know I stay away from, like, blazers and things that make me look bulky because I feel like my breasts are big. And not that I have big shoulders, but anything that's going to make me look wider, I don't. Especially after losing weight. And I like. I like a loose bottom and a tight top.

[Jazz]

Oh, love cardio and a crop.

[Weezy]

I'm big on. I'm big on the bottom, but I'm small up top, so I like. I like that. And then long dresses. My legs are short, so me And a mini dress or mini skirt. I don't really do that too often. Yeah, like, I like, you know, long things because I'm short, so I'm not a fan of my legs. So I like now the picture.

[Jazz]

Girl, you kill.

[Weezy]

You was slaying those bikini pictures, though. Oh, that's actually my best outfit. I will do a goddamn bikini, bitch.

[Jazz]

But see, it's different, because some things can make your legs look shorter. Bikini, you actually get to see the hip.

[Weezy]

You get to see the hips, the curves. I like the little girl. I like the little thong. Bikini is my favorite outfit.

[Mandy]

That sunset photo shoot, if I could.

[Weezy]

Wear a bikini every day and it not be a problem, that is exactly what the fuck I would wear every single day. Like, I love bikinis. If you follow me on Instagram, you gonna see me in the Damn.

[Jazz]

I'm trying to think now what? Actually. Okay, this one is interesting. My thing I feel sexiest in is oversized clothes. And recently I started wearing tighter shit. And my nigga's like, you look great in this. I don't know why you don't wear tighter clothes more often. He's like, but when you have on your oversized clothes, you walk different, you talk different. Like, that's just something you must feel in your head. It makes you sexier. He was like, so it actually does come across sex. I think my favorite things to wear are definitely baggy pants, because I don't feel like if I wear tight pants, they be like, damn, her booty kind of small. So I like baggy because I think that my hips are nice. Like, it's weird the things that we're uncomfortable with. And I believe I have a nice body naked. Sometimes in clothes, I feel like it doesn't translate. Yes.

[Mandy]

So I don't have an ass. And I think that's why I love skirts, because I get to. Yep, you ain't gonna see my bounce. My big booty friends can't wear the skirt the way that I do because it's so.

[Jazz]

See that cheek?

[Mandy]

Exactly. So I feel like when I wear oversized clothes, I feel like I look dumpy. I'm just starting to like, that was.

[Weezy]

Me when I was.

[Jazz]

What?

[Weezy]

Yeah, yeah.

[Mandy]

I'm just starting to, like, kind of get back into oversight. So, like, my career is in fashion, so I. I'm around clothes and style all day long. And so it. Having an eye and seeing within, you see things. I'm like, oh, that looks so dope. I want to try that, but it's not for my body. So now how do I recreate this look for my body? And it could just be. Maybe I don't do bottom and top oversized. Maybe I just do an oversized top with.

[Jazz]

Oh, yeah, you hiding a pregnant square to both.

[Mandy]

Yeah if you're hiding a pregnant hold.

[Weezy]

On the airport cardi says she wasn't hiding it she girl Anyways Basically overall advice is maybe lean into a dating coach. Lean into finding confidence in your body by going somewhere to see other bodies and just get the confidence as well to be able to communicate your wants, needs and desires from the men that you're dating and don't allow them to leave. That's our advice to you. We hope you helped. We hope we helped you. If you need any other advice for the people listening, please please Please email us decisionspodmail.com we will read your letter here. Also, if you are a patron, you guys get first dibs so make sure you go ahead and send us a private message over on Patreon with your letters so we can read it here on you Got Decisions. And if you want to watch the full video, join us on Patreon. That's patreon.com See you guys next week. Bye.

[Marci Martin]

You don't want to miss actress and producer Marcel Martin and top HBCU alumni in the film industry at the HBCU First Look Film Festival, happening November 6th through the 8th at Howard University. It's three days full of masterclasses, panels, networking and film screenings, all designed to elevate future storytellers. Grab your [e-mail] Download the HBCU First look app to stay on top of all updates and follow us on social media at hbcufirstlook.

[Bobby Bones]

Hey, it's Bobby from the Bobby Bones Show. I had an incredible time at this year's iHeartRadio music festival and even got the chance to hang out with Diplo and Bailey Zimmerman while I was there. How did Ashes come together? Diplo?

[Diplo]

I pulled up real quick. He was about to leave on tour. You're about to jump in your tour bus and we had like three hours.

[Bailey Zimmerman]

It was really cool. He really just like randomly showed up to my house and like, oh hey Diplo, what are you doing? He's like I have a song that I want to show you. And I was like okay, you can.

[Bobby Bones]

Listen to the full episode out now, wherever you get your podcasts and big shout out to my friends at Hyundai for making this possible. Had a blast cruising around festival weekend in the all new Palisade hybrid.

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[Mandy]

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