The Dr. Laura Podcast

Episode: Christmas Dilemmas!
Host: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Date: December 9, 2025

Overview

In this holiday-focused episode, Dr. Laura addresses listeners’ dilemmas about navigating Christmas family traditions and gatherings while dating, and how to handle quirky — or cringeworthy — family rituals like the dreaded ugly Christmas sweater. Dr. Laura’s classic candid advice and ethos about putting family bonds above vanity and drama shines as she tackles relatable seasonal questions with her signature blend of tough love, wisdom, and humor.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Navigating Christmas Plans with a Partner

[02:20–03:45]

• Caller’s Situation: Madison, a 28-year-old listener, seeks Dr. Laura’s advice: She and her boyfriend have been dating for a year, and both their families host gatherings on Christmas Eve. She asks whether to split time or prioritize one family.

• Dr. Laura’s Advice:

  • Fairness & Avoiding Family Drama:

    • "Divvy time between both."
    • Dr. Laura points out that choosing one family exclusively is a surefire way to "start your next year relationship with this guy with one family, the other seriously pissed off."
      – Dr. Laura, [03:27]

  • Solution:

    • She unequivocally recommends splitting time so that both families feel respected and included—a balanced approach that sets the tone for harmony in the relationship.

2. Ugly Christmas Sweater Family Tradition

[03:45–09:03]

• Caller’s Situation:

  • A listener laments her family’s tradition: her twin sister gave everyone intentionally ugly Christmas sweaters, insisted they be worn for gatherings and photos, and now wants everyone to do this again. The listener feels unattractive and self-conscious, wanting to look "pretty" in the rare family photos.

• Dr. Laura’s Take:

  • On Feelings of Vanity:

    • Dr. Laura doesn’t mince words: "Yes, you're being a brat. Yes, it's kind of a fun tradition, the ugly sweaters. ... Get over yourself for Christmas."
      – Dr. Laura, [07:26] and [07:49]

  • Perspective Shift:

    • She draws a humorous comparison to her own life: "My family, every Christmas, we all wear matching flannel jammies ... including Lily Bug"—even the family dog joins, and everyone fondly takes group photos.
      – Dr. Laura, [08:37–08:55]

  • Root Message:

    • These rituals are vital for family bonding and togetherness, and perceived embarrassment or vanity shouldn't outweigh making memories:
      • "Nobody looks ugly because they're wearing a llama...psychedelic sunglasses on [a] sweater."
        – Dr. Laura, [08:15–08:20]
      • "I thought I was magnificent wearing an ugly sweater."
        – Dr. Laura, [09:03]

  • Final Advice:

    • She tells the caller to participate, appreciate the tradition, and not let superficial worries detract from the rare moments of family unity.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On balancing holiday visits:

  "So to avoid that, yes, divvy the time between both. Okay."
  – Dr. Laura, [03:36]

• On ugly sweater resistance:

  "Yes, you're being a brat. Yes, you should oblige. Yes, you should look in the mirror of your heart and soul and figure out why vanity is more important than...the family holiday cuteness."
  – Dr. Laura, [07:32 & 07:56]

• On embracing traditions:

  "These rituals are very bonding. So get over your vanity. Weird vanity."
  – Dr. Laura, [09:03]

• On family pajamas:

  "My family, every Christmas we all wear matching flannel jammies. ... They also have them for dogs, so Lily's wearing it too."
  – Dr. Laura, [08:37–08:55]

Timestamps of Key Segments

• [02:20] – Madison's question about handling Christmas with two families while dating
• [03:27] – Dr. Laura’s direct advice about divvying time to keep both families happy
• [03:45] – Caller’s ugly Christmas sweater predicament
• [07:26–07:49] – Dr. Laura calls out vanity and urges caller to enjoy the tradition
• [08:37–08:55] – Personal anecdote about family Christmas pajamas
• [09:03] – Dr. Laura’s summation: value family rituals over vanity

Tone & Style

Dr. Laura’s responses are brisk, no-nonsense, and peppered with humor ("Nobody looks ugly because they're wearing a llama..."), but fundamentally geared toward reinforcing the value of family connection, tradition, and putting ego aside for togetherness—especially during the holidays.

Takeaways

• Divvy time between families when celebrating with a partner to avoid resentment and foster inclusivity.
• Embrace quirky and even embarrassing family traditions—they’re often the source of lasting joy and stronger bonds.
• Let go of vanity during the holidays in favor of togetherness and shared laughter.
• Remember: you can be “magnificent” even in a ridiculous sweater if you’re surrounded by loved ones.

This episode is a reminder that holiday happiness is less about the perfect outfit and more about the company and memories we create together.