Dealing with Unwanted Sexual Advances

Summary

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The Dr. Laura Podcast

Episode: Dealing with Unwanted Sexual Advances

Date: July 15, 2026
Host: Dr. Laura Schlessinger

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Dr. Laura confronts the topic of unwanted sexual advances—how women and girls can prepare themselves to respond effectively and assertively. Drawing on listener emails and recent calls, Dr. Laura dives into the cultural shifts that have left many feeling unequipped to address inappropriate behavior, and expresses deep concern for the sexualization of youth in today’s society. She offers her characteristic direct advice, critiques cultural influences, and candidly shares her perspective on raising confident girls in a complicated world.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Addressing Unwanted Sexual Advances: Practical Advice

• Email Prompt: The episode begins with Dr. Laura reading an email from a listener who wishes there was a class for girls on dealing with unwanted sexual attention. The listener asks if Dr. Laura can teach women how to respond—ranging from a sharp verbal rebuke to more forceful physical action as necessary.

  • Listener’s suggestion: “Whether it's appropriate to rattle off a pissy comment to shrink the bum into retreat or knee in the groin depending on the situation… all of us females need to have an arsenal at the ready…”
    [02:32]

• Dr. Laura's Response:

  • She notes that the listener has partly answered her own question: women and girls must act immediately and assertively.
  • Calls out the outdated, passive responses passed down in culture and film:
    • “That’s how my generation was trained to deal with an advance. Unwanted or not—seem coy, collapse into helplessness, and then get hot-wired.”
      [03:38]
  • Instead, Dr. Laura advocates for clear, loud responses to inappropriate advances:
    • “You answer out loud—‘I cannot believe you’re talking like that to me, oh my gosh, that is so rude and crude.’ He’d never do it again. This works beautifully when there are other people around…”
      [04:04]

• On Women’s Reluctance to Speak Up:

  • She identifies a common hesitation: not wanting to cause embarrassment or be disliked which, she argues, makes women targets.
    • “You ask for yourself to be a target. You ask yourself to be prey. You behave so whistly…”
      [04:28]
  • Dr. Laura narrates how freezing is a learned, ingrained response but emphasizes that women can and must learn to loudly refuse unwanted advances:
    • “How about no? Get off me, you—(insert your preferred word). It doesn’t take that long to do that. Let’s try it again.”
      [05:42]

Cultural Contributors to the Problem

• Media & Early Sexualization:

  • Dr. Laura strongly criticizes the media, schools, and digital culture, blaming them for exposing children to sexuality too soon and normalizing inappropriate behaviors.
    • “The number one kind of person putting out porn? Females own these companies. We sexualized children like crazy… Now you have—in kindergarten—what the hell are trans people dressed grotesquely doing in kindergartens and libraries?”
      [07:19]

• Destruction of Family & Societal Norms:

  • Argues these developments undermine families, create confusion around identity, and eliminate parental say.
  • “We destroy the family. Most people don’t even remember what normal was.”
    [08:20]

Call Highlight: The Case of the 17-Year-Old Girl

• Dr. Laura revisits a recent call with a 17-year-old girl involved in exchanging nude pictures with her 18-year-old boyfriend. She calls out the behavior as “pig”-like, contextualizing her reaction in her broader critique of a hyper-sexualized culture.

  • “She was trying to deal with getting a college scholarship, playing soccer. She’s been piddling around with this boy, lying to her parents, sneaking… I said, leave her alone. Let her pick. What do I think is going to happen? I don’t know.”
    [13:01]

• Quotable Moment:

  • “Yeah, she’s behaving like a pig and most of everything except her parents and me is supporting her doing that. And they’re coming after your kids.”
    [14:37]

• Advice to Parents:

  • Dr. Laura encourages letting teens face their own consequences rather than constant parental intervention, lamenting that cultural pressures make the former path increasingly challenging.
  • She reiterates: “This is why I’ve told people for 25 years, get your kids out of public school. It’s an indoctrination camp.”
    [14:53]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “How can we become fighter pilots and presidents if every time we’re taken by surprise we freeze again? We don’t know what to do. We don’t know what to say. How about no. Get off me, you—!”
  — Dr. Laura, [05:21]

• “You ask for yourself to be a target. You ask yourself to be prey. You behave so whistly…”
  — Dr. Laura, [04:28]

• “I called a 17-year-old girl a pig. And I meant it. And I don’t take it back.”
  — Dr. Laura, [06:34]

• “The number one kind of person putting out porn—females own these companies. We sexualized children like crazy.”
  — Dr. Laura, [07:19]

• “Most people don’t even remember what normal was… We are losing a whole culture.”
  — Dr. Laura, [15:08]

• “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn if it’s related to how I’m trying to help children and families, I’ll talk about it.”
  — Dr. Laura, [15:59]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:53] — Introduction of the listener’s email about teaching girls to handle unwanted advances
• [03:38] — Discussion of generational cultural training regarding advances
• [04:28] — Dangers of remaining passive and how to speak up
• [05:21] — Role-playing assertive refusals
• [06:34] — Recalling the call with the 17-year-old girl
• [07:19] — Critique of media, early sexualization, and societal trends
• [13:01] — Analysis of the teen caller’s situation and parental response
• [14:53] — Dr. Laura’s advice on withdrawing from public schools
• [15:59] — On not avoiding cultural and political commentary

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Takeaways

• Assertive, immediate, and vocal responses are crucial for handling unwanted sexual advances; passive responses foster the problem.
• Modern culture, media, and educational institutions are, in Dr. Laura’s view, contributing to the sexualization and confusion of youth.
• Parents face significant challenges but should allow teens to face their own choices and consequences, given the overpowering influence of society.
• Dr. Laura remains unapologetic about her directness and willingness to tackle sensitive, often controversial social issues.

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Transcript

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

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[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Get off me. You okay? I'm giving the class now and nobody even has to pay for it. So I figure this seems so much in question, contrast to a call I had yesterday which has been binga, binga, binga binga. In my mind, I called a 17 year old girl a pig. And I meant it And I don't take it back. She's behaving like a pig. Truth be told, it's not entirely her fault. This is how she's been raised, by our culture. You don't think so? Really don't think so? Think about it. What has she been brought up on? Oh, I know her parents are nice, but the media, social media, regular media, all of it is just filled with degeneracy and insanity. The number one kind of person putting out porn. Females own these companies. We sexualized children like crazy. We weren't my age range. We weren't sexualized as kids. Everything was sweet and innocent and we were protected from that. In schools? No. Now you have in kindergarten. What the hell are trans people dressed grotesquely doing in kindergartens and libraries? Reading books to little kids? What's that supposed to do? I'm sorry, I'm wondering. What's that supposed to happen? Transitioning kids. Lopping off their boobs, their penises, giving them hormones. Because they're not girls, they're not boys. They don't know what they are. We don't deal with this as a social or psychological issue. We deal with it as something very positive. And then we make sure the parents have no say. So what happens then? We destroy the family. Most people don't even remember what normal was. Here's some common sense advice. Your body needs support to function properly, including your vaginal health. And that includes maintaining a healthy pH balance. New Azo Vaginal Probiotic Mini Chews helps keep that healthy bacterial balance, and that helps keep yeast and odor in check. It's great tasting, easy to take, and no pill means no water. That makes it simple to add to your daily routine. And simplicity is how good habits stick. Visit azoproducts.com for product details, usage instructions and safety information.

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So I have a 17 year old girl who has an 18 year old boyfriend who sends her naked pictures so he can show off his penis. And she's returning the favor, sending naked pictures of herself to him. And when I asked her, did she not think this was a little lucky? Gross. No, she didn't. Why should she? She's surrounded by this, by the people who run the media, run the social network, things on the net, schools, the teachers, the principals, they're all spending all their time on ideology as opposed to learning math, science, history, English. They're fighting about which flag to fly in the class showing which sexual behaviors top the others pronouns. Instead of learning English, we have to have weird pronouns because kids are confused, lost and grasping onto things. Because these days, if you're in a group that is outside traditional norm, you are elevated, protected, revered, supported, patted on the head and idealized. So why are kids, it's the kids who aren't wanting to transition that are a curiosity to me. So I called her a pig. Now the follow up of the call was very good actually. See, she was trying until she met him a couple of months ago. She was trying to deal with getting a college scholarship, playing soccer. She's been piddling around with this boy, lying to her parents, sneaking. All of this is going on. And the parents have been trying to fight to get her focused again. And I said, cut it out, leave her alone. She has the choice. Focus get to college on the scholarship, not focus. Keep sexually acting out with this boy. Not go to college because the parents don't have the money and they're not going to spend the money they don't have getting her into college. I said leave her alone. Let her pick. What do I think is going to happen? I don't know. If I had to guess and my guess is meaningless, I appreciate that. I guess that she now that nobody's going to yell at her anymore, she's going to play with the guy and then at the last minute go, what have I done? And may not be able to get into college at that point, But we have a whole society promoting her, sacrificing what she really wants to do and playing with the boy instead because her world is so sexualized, this is easier and more appealing. So, yeah, she's behaving like a pig and most of everything except her parents and me is supporting her doing that. And they're coming after your kids. This is why I've told people for 25 years, get your kids out of public school. It's an indoctrination camp. Read George Orwell's books, Animal Farm. Read it out loud in your family and say, does any of this sound familiar? Does this sound like what's happening? We could lose a whole culture here. We are losing a whole culture

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