Podcast Summary: Dr. Laura Call of the Day – "Dee is Being a Silly Female" Release Date: June 9, 2025

Introduction

In the June 9, 2025 episode of "Dr. Laura Call of the Day," hosted by Dr. Laura Schlessinger on SiriusXM Triumph 111, a listener named Dee reaches out seeking advice on a complicated personal relationship. This episode delves into themes of friendship, romantic entanglements, personal responsibility, and the challenges of navigating friends-with-benefits arrangements.

Caller’s Dilemma

Dee initiates the conversation by outlining her long-standing friendship with a man who has been her protector since childhood. Over the years, both experienced significant personal losses: Dee lost her husband four years ago, and her friend lost his wife twenty years prior. Following these tragedies, their relationship evolved into a friends-with-benefits arrangement.

Dee explains:

"We decided that we would be friends with benefits. But what happened was that he still does not want any type of relationship. He just wants the benefit. I happen to fall in love with him."
[00:38 – 01:46]

Dr. Laura's Initial Response

Dr. Laura responds with directness, challenging Dee's emotional investment in the relationship. She questions whether Dee is acting irrationally by expecting her friend to change his stance on their relationship.

Dr. Laura states:

"It doesn't matter what you want or how you feel. He's been clear. So are you going to be a silly woman and figure you can change his mind?"
[01:55 – 02:09]

Navigating Mixed Signals and Emotional Conflict

As the conversation progresses, Dee reveals that her friend's interactions with other women have sparked feelings of jealousy, even though he maintains the friends-with-benefits status.

Dee shares:

"But what happened was that he has other friends also and they're best friends and I end up showing jealousy. But I never said to him that."
[05:14 – 05:25]

Dr. Laura counters with skepticism about the authenticity of the friend's claims, suggesting that men in his position often avoid full transparency to prevent emotional complications.

Dr. Laura advises:

"Don't count on that to be the truth...You might not see him. He eliminates all that grief. He's never going to be your man."
[05:58 – 06:40]

Evaluating Personal Choices and Self-Responsibility

Dr. Laura emphasizes the importance of Dee taking responsibility for her own emotional well-being, rather than relying on her friend's ambiguous intentions.

She bluntly states:

"Women like you lie to themselves all the time that it's okay to be a friend with benefits. It is the rare woman who means that."
[06:43 – 07:09]

When pressed for clarification, Dr. Laura urges Dee to make a definitive choice: continue the friends-with-benefits arrangement or terminate it to avoid ongoing emotional turmoil.

Dr. Laura emphasizes:

"You have to decide which is more hurtful. Staying with him and being his hump buddy and never moving from that, or doing the silly female thing of, yeah, well, maybe someday."
[07:54 – 08:46]

Conclusion

By the end of the episode, Dee remains conflicted about her feelings and the future of her relationship. Dr. Laura's forthright approach serves as a catalyst for Dee to introspect and consider the long-term implications of maintaining a non-committal relationship that neither party fully desires.

Final Exchange:

Caller: "I don't know which way I want to go."
[07:45 – 07:54]
Dr. Laura: "You can never have him. So you have to decide..."
[07:54 – 08:46]

Dr. Laura wraps up by reinforcing the importance of personal accountability and making empowered choices, encouraging listeners to prioritize their emotional health over unfulfilling relationships.

Notable Quotes:

• Dr. Laura: "Are you going to be a silly woman and figure you can change his mind?"
  [01:55]

• Dr. Laura: "Women like you lie to themselves all the time that it's okay to be a friend with benefits."
  [06:43]

• Dr. Laura: "You have to decide which is more hurtful..."
  [07:54]

This episode of "Dr. Laura Call of the Day" offers candid and unfiltered advice, encouraging listeners to confront their emotional realities and make decisions that foster their personal well-being and integrity.