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Caller
Hello Dr. Laura. Thank you so much for taking my call. Thank you. We have our oldest. We have four ugly children. Our oldest is a freshman in college. She just moved there in August. She's about five hours away from home and they had a family weekend that came up at the college. And being that we're five hours away, we had told her we probably wouldn't come. But she called and asked and said, would you please come? My roommate's parents are coming, my friend's parents are coming. And we said, okay, we can make it work. So we took two of our youngest with us and we went five hours away to go visit her. We showed up, picked her up at the dorm room and she was fine right then, but as the day progressed, we went to Walmart, got her snacks for her dorm room and things like that. And she just started becoming ruder and ruder as the day went on. And she knew we were going to go tailgate with her roommate's parents and the friend's parents. And it was like she was getting nervous about that and she was getting embarrassed about things with us and saying that we had forgotten chairs for the tailgate, which was no big deal. But she kept calling us unprepared.
Dr. Laura
I don't know why parents don't get how pathetically off kilter they are and they use dismissing their children's reactions and emotions. First you weren't going to come. Shame on you. Shame, shame, shame on you. She had to beg you to come for Family Day and then you weren't prepared. She was embarrassed and hurt. And for you to call me and make this about her being rude, you're blind.
Caller
Okay, well, we have our three youngest here. You know, we have their schedule.
Dr. Laura
I don't care who you had, including the dog. You hurt her, okay? And I can't believe you couldn't see it. We didn't think it was any big deal is what you just said to me.
Caller
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Caller
I can accept that. That's good to hear.
Dr. Laura
Fix it somehow. Fix it. Okay, and if this is typical, then you have a lot of fixing to do and a lot of changing to do. So if something is inconvenient to you and she gets dismissed, that's what she learned. That she really doesn't matter. And she got more and more upset because the other parents weren't behaving like that. They were enthusiastic to be there, they didn't complain about the drive and and on and on.
Caller
Okay.
Dr. Laura
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Summary of "Family Weekend Was a Flop" Episode from Dr. Laura Call of the Day
Podcast Information:
In the episode titled "Family Weekend Was a Flop," Dr. Laura Schlessinger addresses a caller named Angie who seeks guidance on handling a strained family dynamics situation during a family weekend at her daughter's college. The discussion delves into the complexities of parental involvement in a child's independent living situation and highlights the importance of respecting and validating the child's emotions.
At [00:47], Angie shares her predicament:
Caller’s Quote:
"She just started becoming ruder and ruder as the day went on... she kept calling us unprepared." [00:47]
Dr. Laura responds vehemently to Angie’s account:
Dr. Laura’s Quotes:
"I don't know why parents don't get how pathetically off kilter they are..." [02:02]
"She hurt us, okay? And I can't believe you couldn't see it." [02:41]
As the conversation progresses, Angie acknowledges Dr. Laura’s points but seeks further clarification. Dr. Laura emphasizes the necessity for the parents to make amends and adjust their approach to better support their daughter.
Dr. Laura’s Key Points:
Relevant Quotes:
"Fix it somehow. Fix it. Okay, and if this is typical, then you have a lot of fixing to do and a lot of changing to do." [06:25]
"Don’t dismiss her because it’s inconvenient for you. Please, please, please, please." [06:55]
Angie on Family Weekend Challenges:
"She kept calling us unprepared." [00:47]
Dr. Laura on Parental Awareness:
"Shame on you. Shame, shame, shame on you." [02:02]
Dr. Laura Urging Action:
"Fix it somehow. Fix it. Okay..." [06:25]
Dr. Laura’s Plea:
"Please, please, please, please. I'm begging." [06:55]
In "Family Weekend Was a Flop," Dr. Laura Schlessinger provides critical insights into the importance of parental empathy, validation, and responsibility in fostering positive family relationships. She emphasizes that dismissing a child's emotions can lead to long-term emotional harm and urges parents to take proactive steps to mend and nurture their familial bonds.
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