I Feel Like a Sucker

Summary

The Dr. Laura Podcast – "I Feel Like a Sucker" (Dec 31, 2025)

Main Theme & Purpose

This episode centers on a caller, Cindy, who feels taken advantage of after offering shelter to a struggling couple in exchange for help with home construction. Dr. Laura provides no-nonsense, tough-love advice on boundaries, accountability, and personal responsibility, emphasizing the importance of being assertive in one’s own home and relationship.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Cindy’s Situation: Boundaries Crossed

• Cindy (68) and her husband invited a couple in need to live with them, expecting construction help in exchange.
• The arrangement is "just a week into it," and Cindy feels it's not working: "there's really no work getting done." (01:28–02:06)
• When asked to work, the guests show indifference:

  "I said, are you going to do anything today? And he said, I don't know."
  (Cindy, 02:16)

2. Dr. Laura’s Direct Assessment

• Dr. Laura swiftly challenges Cindy’s lack of assertiveness:

  "Cindy, are you a grown up at 68? I just want to know if you’re a grown up at 68, because some people aren’t." (Dr. Laura, 02:22)

• Cindy responds self-deprecatingly, "Well, no, I'm not a grown up… scared little girl." (02:33–02:36)
• Dr. Laura repeats the question about Cindy’s husband—neither claim to be mature or assertive—which leads Dr. Laura to remark:

  “Well, then you’re screwed. Anything else I can help you with?” (02:45)

  "This is your home. You made a deal. The deal’s not being made. You say we made this deal in good conscience believing you would follow through. You haven’t. So we’d like you to move out this weekend." (Dr. Laura, 02:49)

3. Explanation of the Situation and Human Nature

• Dr. Laura offers a blunt assessment of the guests:

  "There’s a reason these people were in a bad place, right? They’re lazy and irresponsible. So you were suckered. And if you don’t ask them to leave, then you’re ridiculous." (02:59)

4. Marriage Dynamic & Assertiveness

• Cindy expresses that her husband disagrees with her; he wants to help the couple, Cindy does not. (05:56)
• Dr. Laura does not mince words:

  "You’ll have to get in the middle of that and say in a meeting of all four of you, you guys are not following through. My husband is an easier touch than I am. I’m more of a grown up and you have to leave if you’re not going to follow through on the agreement— in front of your husband with the couple there. Act like a grownup." (Dr. Laura, 06:07)

• When Cindy says her husband defends the couple, Dr. Laura speculates bluntly and humorously:

  "I don’t care if he defends the couple. I don’t know if he has a need to keep them there because he’s hot for the woman or hot for the guy. I don’t know what problems your husband has or what the ulterior motives are he has for this. Maybe this is instead of having a marital relationship with you because they’re in the middle and I don’t know. But doesn’t matter to some extent because he’s not calling, you are." (06:30)

5. Call to Action: Taking Control

• Dr. Laura instructs Cindy to call a house meeting and deliver an ultimatum:

  "I suggest tonight you invite them in with your husband. You sit there and go, this isn’t working. My husband is being a soft touch. I’m not. I’d like you out by this weekend because you’re not following through." (06:36)

• If her husband wants to "keep helping them," he can do it once they move out.
• Cindy hesitates, saying, "I wanted to get a meeting this morning, but that just wasn't agree[d]." (07:20)
• Dr. Laura insists:

  "Make it happen. When they're there and he's there, you drag everybody into a room. Make it happen. Life goes on without your participation and doesn't give you the things you want and need. You have to participate. Make it happen." (Dr. Laura, 07:27)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "Are you a grown up at 68?... Some people aren’t."
  (Dr. Laura, 02:22)
• "Well, then you’re screwed. Anything else I can help you with?"
  (Dr. Laura, 02:45)
• "There’s a reason these people were in a bad place, right? They’re lazy and irresponsible. So you were suckered."
  (Dr. Laura, 02:59)
• "My husband is an easier touch than I am. I’m more of a grown up and you have to leave if you’re not going to follow through..."
  (Dr. Laura, 06:07)
• "I don’t care if he defends the couple. I don’t know if he has a need to keep them there because he’s hot for the woman or hot for the guy. I don’t know what problems your husband has…"
  (Dr. Laura, 06:30)
• "Make it happen. Life goes on without your participation and doesn’t give you the things you want and need. You have to participate."
  (Dr. Laura, 07:27)

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Key Timestamps

• 01:22 – Call begins; Cindy describes situation
• 02:06–02:45 – Dr. Laura questions Cindy’s maturity and the failed arrangement
• 02:49–03:24 – Dr. Laura prescribes direct action and names the root problem
• 05:56–07:27 – Discussion of marital dynamics, Dr. Laura pushes for decisive action
• 07:27 – Dr. Laura’s concluding advice: "Make it happen."

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Conclusion

Dr. Laura’s intervention showcases her signature direct, unapologetic coaching style. She identifies the issue as a lack of boundaries and asserts that Cindy must take adult responsibility in her home and marriage. The episode’s takeaway: you can’t expect healthy outcomes if you abdicate your personal authority—especially in your own life and relationships.

Transcript

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[C]

Hello.

[A]

Hi. What can I help you with?

[C]

Well, a situation. Just probably a week into it, my husband and I invited some people that were in a bad spot in their life to, you know, move in and help us get our house straightened out as far as construction, and we would give them a place to stay and it doesn't seem like it's working out very well.

[A]

Why not? What do you think is not working out?

[C]

Well, there's really no work getting done.

[A]

And so when you ask them, would you mind putting all the wood in that pile? What do they say?

[C]

They just say, I said, are you going to do anything today? And he said, I don't know.

[A]

Okay then. Cindy, are you a grown up at 68? I just want to know if you're a grown up at 68, because some people aren't. A lot of people are.

[C]

Well, no, I'm not a grown up.

[A]

Okay. Is your husband a grown up?

[C]

Scared little girl.

[A]

Is your husband a grown up?

[C]

No.

[A]

Well, then you're screwed. Anything else I can help you with? What do you want me to say? This is your home. You made a deal. The deal's not being made. You say we made this deal in good conscience believing you would follow through. You haven't. So we'd like you to move out this weekend. There's a reason these people were in a. There's a reason these people were in a bad place, right? They're lazy and irresponsible. So you were suckered. And if you don't ask them to leave, then you're ridiculous.

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[C]

Well, my husband and I just are not in agreement at all. He wants to help them out and I don't like the way he's helping them out.

[A]

Okay, then you'll have to get in the middle of that and say in a meeting of all four of you, you guys are not following through. My husband is an easier touch than I am. I'm more of a grown up and you have to leave if you're not going to follow through on the agreement in front of your husband with the couple there. Act like a grownup.

[C]

Well, he defends the couple.

[A]

I don't care if he defends the couple. I don't know if he has a need to keep them there because he's hot for the woman or hot for the guy. I don't know what problems your husband has or what the ulterior motives are he has for this. Maybe this is instead of having a marital relationship with you because they're in the middle and I don't know. But doesn't matter to some extent because he's not calling, you are. So I suggest tonight you invite them in with your husband. You sit there and go, this isn't working. My husband is being a soft touch. I'm not. I'd like you out by this weekend because you're not following through. And if your husband says, I want to keep helping them and say, well, you know, once they move out, then you find a way to help them.

[C]

Yeah, I wanted to get a meeting this morning, but that just wasn't agree.

[A]

Make it happen. When they're there and he's there, you drag everybody into a room. Make it happen. Life goes on without your participation and doesn't give you the things you want and need. You have to participate. Make it happen. My number 1-800-375-2872. You're just a click away from some terrific deals being offered by companies that get the Dr. Laura stamp of approval. Visit DrLaura.com, click on sponsors to take advantage of the special Discounts available to Dr. Laura listeners like you.

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