Jennifer Has to Admit Her Teenager is Right

Summary

Podcast Summary: "Jennifer Has to Admit Her Teenager is Right"

Podcast Information:

• Title: Dr. Laura Call of the Day
• Host/Author: Dr. Laura Schlessinger & SiriusXM
• Episode: Jennifer Has to Admit Her Teenager is Right
• Release Date: February 18, 2025

Overview: In this episode of "Dr. Laura Call of the Day," Dr. Laura Schlessinger addresses the challenges faced by Jennifer, a recently divorced mother struggling to navigate her relationship with her 15-year-old daughter amidst her own dating life. The conversation delves into the emotional turmoil of family separation, the impact of parental relationships on teenage children, and the importance of prioritizing a child’s well-being over personal desires.

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1. Introduction

The episode begins with standard podcast promotions and advertisements, which Dr. Laura seamlessly transitions from to welcome Jennifer to the program.

Timestamp [00:31]

Dr. Laura: "Jennifer, welcome to the program."

2. Jennifer's Situation

Jennifer opens up about her recent divorce after a two-year separation and introduces the central conflict: her teenage daughter’s strong opposition to her dating someone new. The tension escalates as her daughter has ultimatum-driven demands, forcing Jennifer to choose between her child and her romantic interests.

Timestamps [00:45 - 01:27]

Jennifer: "I have a boyfriend and I've had to tell her that we broke up because she told me I needed to choose him or her."

3. Dr. Laura's Analysis

Dr. Laura immediately addresses the emotional fallout of Jennifer's divorce, emphasizing the significant impact it has had on her daughter. She critiques Jennifer’s lack of sensitivity towards her child’s feelings and the importance of stabilizing her daughter’s environment before pursuing new relationships.

Timestamps [01:28 - 03:08]

Dr. Laura: "She doesn't need you distracted by some dude and she doesn't need to deal with your love life. She's absolutely correct. You're not being sensitive to her at all."

Dr. Laura further elaborates on the consequences of divorce on children, highlighting that Jennifer's actions have disrupted her daughter's sense of security and trust in familial relationships.

Timestamp [02:18]

Dr. Laura: "You blew up her family. You blew up her family, her security. You blew it up."

4. Jennifer's Reflection

Initially defensive, Jennifer begins to acknowledge Dr. Laura’s points, recognizing her own shortcomings in prioritizing her daughter's emotional needs over her personal life. She admits that her intentions were not malicious but fails to see the broader impact of her actions.

Timestamps [03:08 - 04:05]

Jennifer: "Yeah, you're right."

Dr. Laura: "Did you not think of any of that before?"

Jennifer contemplates the advice, questioning whether she should continue her relationship while her daughter is still emotionally vulnerable.

Timestamp [03:32 - 04:05]

Jennifer: "Okay, so then is your recommendation that like so I'm still with this guy. She just doesn't know it to not continue to see him."

Dr. Laura: "Did she tell you that you've changed? Why don't you sit back and either ask her to describe it some more or think about how you can't wait for his phone call, how you want to figure out how you can go have sex with him, how all of these things are in your mind and not her well being."

5. Conclusion and Advice

Dr. Laura advises Jennifer to prioritize her daughter’s emotional recovery by putting her dating life on hold until her daughter is more stable and independent. She underscores the importance of taking responsibility for her actions and making sacrifices to mend the parent-child relationship.

Timestamps [07:10 - 08:22]

Dr. Laura: "I don't want to get that call from you in the future. I don't. I would break my heart. Okay, I hear you tell her she's right and you're sorry and get rid of him. And when she's in college or the Navy or whatever the hell she's going to do and she's all up and out having her own life. That's different."

Jennifer: "Okay. So dating just goes on hold until she's an adult?"

Dr. Laura: "Yes, please."

Jennifer agrees to Dr. Laura’s counsel, committing to put her dating life on hold to focus on her daughter's well-being.

Timestamp [08:34]

Dr. Laura: "Good. I appreciate that you're gonna do it."

6. Final Remarks

Dr. Laura wraps up the conversation by providing her contact information and encouraging listeners to engage with her on social media for ongoing support and content.

Timestamp [08:34 - 09:10]

Dr. Laura: "Thank you. My number 1-800-375-2872. Check out my social media on Facebook and Instagram, I post stories, photos and videos seven days a week. And feature some of what you sent me too. There's always something interesting going on there. You can find me at facebook.com/drlaura and instagram.com/drlauraprogram."

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Key Takeaways:

• Prioritizing Children’s Emotional Health: Dr. Laura emphasizes that parents must consider the emotional state of their children, especially during or after a divorce, before introducing new relationships into the family dynamic.

• Accountability and Personal Responsibility: Jennifer's journey highlights the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for one’s actions and their impact on loved ones.

• Communication and Empathy: Effective communication and empathy towards a child’s feelings are crucial in maintaining a healthy parent-child relationship during turbulent times.

Notable Quotes:

• Dr. Laura [02:18]: "You blew up her family. You blew up her family, her security. You blew it up."
• Dr. Laura [07:10]: "I don't want to get that call from you in the future. I don't. I would break my heart."
• Dr. Laura [08:34]: "Good. I appreciate that you're gonna do it."

This episode serves as a poignant reminder of the delicate balance parents must maintain between their personal lives and the emotional well-being of their children, especially during significant life changes such as divorce.

Transcript

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[Dr. Laura]

Listening to my Call of the Day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5pm Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Jennifer, welcome to the program.

[Jennifer]

Hi. Thank you for taking my call. I was calling today. Can you hear me?

[Dr. Laura]

Yes.

[Jennifer]

Okay. I was calling today. I am recently divorced, although I've been separated for two years and I have a 15 year old daughter who's kind of lost her mind about the thought of me dating someone. I was. I am. I do have a boyfriend and I've had to tell her that we broke up because she told me I needed to choose him or her. That's right.

[Dr. Laura]

That's right, Jennifer.

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[Dr. Laura]

She's a minor child. You just blew up her world with a divorce and all the crap that went on in your family and your marriage before the divorce. She doesn't need you distracted by some dude and she doesn't need to deal with your love life. She's absolutely correct. You're not being sensitive to her at all.

[Jennifer]

What? What about. So she had never actually met the guy in passing?

[Dr. Laura]

I'm sorry, you want to respond to what I just. Woohoo. You want to respond to what I just said before you go on to something else?

[Jennifer]

Yeah. Yes. I mean, you're right.

[Dr. Laura]

Did you not think of any of that before? Woohoo. Did you not think of any of that before? I just told you.

[Jennifer]

I have.

[Dr. Laura]

Then why were you dating then? Why were you dating when you knew she was hurting and she doesn't need to be dragged into your love life when she already lost her family?

[Jennifer]

I guess I didn't feel like it was a part of anything that she was going through.

[Dr. Laura]

Oh my God.

[Jennifer]

She wasn't.

[Dr. Laura]

You blew up her family. You blew up her family, her security. You blew it up. You made vows till death and you blew it up. She doesn't have much hope for her future in a marriage either. Now this all impacts kids and she doesn't need to deal with your distraction of some guy.

[Jennifer]

Mm, yeah, that makes sense. And that's what she said is that I've changed. And when I was with him, which although I don't know that I didn't believe that. But I mean, I'm sure it's true.

[Dr. Laura]

It's true because you thought mostly about her and not mothering. She's absolutely right.

[Jennifer]

Okay, so then is your recommendation that like so I'm still with this guy. She just doesn't know it to not continue to see him.

[Dr. Laura]

Did she tell you that you've changed? Why don't you sit back and either ask her to describe it some more or think about how you can't wait for his phone call, how you want to figure out how you can go have sex with him, how all of these things are in your mind and not her well being.

[Jennifer]

Yeah. Yeah, you're right.

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[Dr. Laura]

You want. You want to listen to this show and hear how many women call me that? Their daughters, their sons don't want to talk to them when they're adults and they go, I don't know why. Mm, I'm trying to save you from that phone call.

[Jennifer]

Yes, and she's threatened that so did not have anything to do with me, which would be devastating. But I guess I didn't know how much of it was just teenage angst.

[Dr. Laura]

Oh my God. How self centered can you be? Teenagers don't from parents who are still married and love each other. Don't have to say this. This is not part of their teenage angst.

[Jennifer]

Okay. Okay.

[Dr. Laura]

I don't want to get that call from you in the future. I don't. I would break my heart. Okay, I hear you tell her she's right and you're sorry and get rid of him. And when she's in college or the Navy or whatever the hell she's going to do and she's all up and out having her own life. That's different.

[Jennifer]

Mm. Okay. So dating just goes on hold until she's an adult?

[Dr. Laura]

Yes, please.

[Jennifer]

And out of the house.

[Dr. Laura]

She lost enough.

[Jennifer]

Okay. Yes, she has. Okay. I can do that.

[Dr. Laura]

Good. I appreciate that you're gonna do it. Thank you. My number 1-800-375-2872. Check out my social media on Facebook and Instagram, I post stories, photos and videos seven days a week. And feature some of what you sent me too. There's always something interesting going on there. You can find me at facebook.com drlaura and instagram.com drlauraprogram.

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