Dr. Lora (3:59)

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Marina (5:30)

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Marina (6:27)

So physical, sexual, emotional abuse from father and brother, starting from my earliest memory as an infant. So, and you know, that obviously kind of set the tone. And then we were a really religious family growing up in the church. And then obviously when you're a child, you don't have the cognitive awareness to realize like what things mean or what's going on. But it was like everyone was just creepy or inappropriate and every, you know, everything just felt wrong. And I've always been a really outspoken person and child, so. So I actually got most of the physical abuse because I, I don't know where it came from, but I just always had opinions and I always kind of like, that's why I respect you so much because I've always been just a straight shooter. And then that kind of made me a target for just really being retaliated against. And again, it was just always men like, you know, my father being well connected and us being.

Dr. Lora (7:35)

Yeah, but your mother didn't save you. Your mother didn't protect you. What do you mean? It's always men.

Marina (7:43)

Yeah.

Dr. Lora (7:45)

Barrel shotgun, babe. Double barreled shotgun. Women stand. The only reason men can get away with this, other women stand by and let it happen to themselves and their own children or else men couldn't get away with it. Remember the Greek play Lysistrata? Not that they educate people anymore, but it's a Greek play. And basically what happened is the women got tired of war. So they said, you go to war, no sex, no companionship, nada. That's how powerful women are. But they don't exert their power because a lot of women are weak and get off on a man who's ultra alpha instead of just quality alpha. So you have to understand that your mother didn't protect you or this never would have happened.

Marina (8:41)

Yeah, well, that was a lot. A large part of the, you know, healing over time process and just, you know, dealing with the resentment. And I'm very aware of all that, too. So, I mean, they've divorced and all of that and, you know, life, Life goes on. But it's. Yeah. I mean, when your foundation is both parents, that doesn't really set a good precedent for trust in your life. And then.

Dr. Lora (9:10)

Right. So let me make some recommendations. So let me make some recommendations because you're young. Community, shared values. Good place to find men who aren't like this. For example, animal shelters, food banks, religious ministry things, charities. Like, I don't know, there's motorcycle communities that raise funds. I mean, they're so many places that you can find men who have values closer to what you would feel safe with. You can't go on the net, you can't go to bars. You can't go. Things like that. You're going to have to go to places where you have to think a quality man would spend his time doing what. That's where you go. We can't fix what happened to you, but if we put you in an environment where you're more likely to find a decent guy, then you have to go into environments like I'm suggesting.

Marina (10:23)

Yeah. So I. What you were just describing with the women and going to war. So I'm. That. I am that woman, you know, like celibate. This. I volunteer at the animal shelters. I've never drank in my life, partially just because I'm.

Dr. Lora (10:40)

No, I'm no. Sweetheart, sweetheart, sweetheart. I'm not asking for your resume. I'm talking about where you go to find good men. You go to places where integrity, values, community is the focus of their activities. Not just sports, but there are organizations that actually, people come out not knowing anything about it and build homes for veterans and stuff like that. I mean, what kind of a guy are you going to find doing that? A very decent guy who's sacrificing all that time to not be in a bar picking up babes. But it was doing something beautiful. So if you want to find a good man, you're going to have to go to places where it's community and shared values. You will more feel like you can trust. Believe me, what I told you is important because I can't fix your history. 1-800-375-2872 if you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course. I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform. Why have. I asked my H Vac guy I found on Angie.com to change my grandpa's trachea tube. I was so amazed at how he replaced our air ducts, I knew I could trust him to change Pop Pop's tube. I think we should call a doctor. Ang the one you trust to find the ones you trust. Find pros for all your home projects@angie.com Breathe in. Feel the sense of calm that comes from having up to $300 in overdraft protection with Goto Bank now. Did you say $300? Yes. Now back to our breathing. So if I overspend my balance, Goto bank has my back up to $300. Yes. Can we breathe out now? Less worries, more zen. With over $300 in overdraft protection, tap to open an account today. Eligible direct deposits and opt in required for overdraft protection fees. Terms and conditions apply.