One of my favorite t-shirts in the Merch Store at DrLaura.com reads, “You Picked Him. Stop Picking on Him!” It’s something I say to callers a lot. Mostly to women who tell me that they can just no longer live with their husband’s bad habits, insensitivities, lack of ambition and such. I always ask, “When did you first notice these negative behaviors?” Followed by, “Did your mother, sister, best friend – anyone point these red flags out to you?” More likely than not, the behaviors existed before the marriage and the children. More likely than not, someone pointed out the potential for a problem. Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com