Podcast
Emotionally Unavailable
Hosted by Malisa Hepner · EN
Welcome to "Emotionally Unavailable," a transformative podcast that began as a personal journey toward emotional availability and has blossomed into a vibrant space for growth, healing, and connection. Join me as I explore the depths of self-discovery, spirituality, and personal empowerment, sharing my light and the insights I've gained along the way.
In each episode, I engage in heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who are also navigating their paths to emotional freedom and teaching others to do the same. We cover a wide range of topics such as- human design, astrology, the journey of deconstructing from religion- to name a few; all aimed at fostering deeper self-love and understanding.
Whether you're seeking to heal past wounds, explore your spiritual side, or simply learn how to love yourself and others a little better, this podcast is for you. Tune in and embark on a journey of exploration, growth, and community as we illuminate the path toward emotional availability and authentic living. Let's discover the power of vulnerability and connection—one episode at a time.
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The Hidden Pain Beneath Eating Disorders | Recovery, Identity & Self-Love
May 1501:02:44Tap to summarizeTherapist and host, Malisa Hepner, and Julia Trehane, eating disorder recovery coach, explore the complex realities of recovering from anorexia, orthorexia, and disordered eating. Julia shares how perfectionism, emotional pain, control, and societal pressure shaped her relationship with food and body image, and what it took to begin rebuilding trust with herself. Together, they discuss intuitive eating, nervous system healing, self-worth, and the deeper emotional wounds that often exist beneath eating disorders. Notice where control around food, exercise, or "health" may actually be covering deeper emotional needs like safety, worthiness, or acceptance. Healing begins when compassion replaces punishment. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Julia's links: Website, Website, Youtube, Insta, Podcast
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Navigating Overwhelm, Growth & Self-Compassion
May 1301:09:15Tap to summarizeIn this heartfelt episode of Emotionally Unavailable, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, welcomes back Ashana Kaiulani for an honest conversation about self-care, emotional overwhelm, and the healing power of self-compassion. Together, they explore what it means to care for yourself beyond surface-level routines, how vulnerability creates deeper connection, and why emotional resilience is built through presence rather than perfection. This episode offers grounded insights for anyone navigating burnout, grief, anxiety, or the pressure to hold it all together while learning to reconnect with themselves in a more compassionate way. When overwhelm rises, pause long enough to ask yourself: "What do I actually need right now?" Emotional resilience often begins by responding to yourself with curiosity and compassion instead of criticism. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Ashana's links: Website, Insta, Youtube, Substack Ashana's Previous Episodes: Nov. 10, 2025: The Alchemy of Healing: Turning Pain into Purpose Spotify, Apple March 16, 2026: Embracing Imperfection: Letting Go of Burnout, Spiritual Perfectionism, and the Pressure to Be "Zen" Spotify, Apple
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Grief & the Wounds We Carry Into Motherhood
May 1100:27:36Tap to summarizeHost, Malisa Hepner reflects on her first Mother's Day after the loss of her son Jake while also exploring the complicated emotional history she carried into motherhood long before this grief. Malisa opens up about the layered pain of losing her grandmother and mother, the unresolved grief that shaped her relationship with Mother's Day, and how childhood wounds, insecurity, abandonment, and feelings of unworthiness quietly influenced her identity as a mom. She shares how grief can reactivate old narratives about love, value, belonging, and whether we are "enough," especially on emotionally charged days tied to family and attachment. This conversation is not just about loss. It's about the intersection of grief, identity, nervous system wounds, motherhood, and the lifelong process of learning to hold yourself with compassion instead of shame. Through raw storytelling and honest reflection, Malisa explores what it means to break cycles, navigate complex grief, and redefine self-worth in the aftermath of profound pain. Pay attention to the emotions that emotionally charged days bring to the surface. Often, the intensity is not only about the present moment, but also about older grief, unmet needs, or identity wounds asking to be acknowledged. Instead of judging your reaction, try asking yourself: What story about myself is this pain connected to? Awareness of the deeper wound is often where healing begins. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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Navigating Grief, Emotional Resilience, and Self-Care After Loss
May 801:25:43Tap to summarizeTherapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits again with Kirsten OConnor, author of The Year After Kahlia and found of thisisgrief.nz, for a conversation among two friends, as they explore the realities of grief, emotional resilience, and learning how to care for yourself through loss. Together, they discuss the ways grief impacts daily life, the importance of rituals and self-compassion, and how healing often unfolds in messy, non-linear ways. This candid episode offers comfort, validation, and grounded insights for anyone navigating heartbreak, bereavement, emotional exhaustion, or major life transitions. Grief often makes people believe they must "push through" or return to normal quickly, but healing usually begins with smaller, gentler acts of care. Choose one grounding ritual this week — journaling, lighting a candle, taking a walk, listening to music, or checking in with your emotions without judgment — and allow it to become a moment of connection rather than performance. Small, repeated acts of self-compassion help rebuild safety and resilience over time. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Kirsten's links: Website, Insta, Tiktok Kirsten's last convo on Emotionally Unavailable: Spotify, Apple
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Overcoming Fear and Rebuilding Self-Worth
May 600:48:12Tap to summarizeIn this heartfelt conversation, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits down with Crystal Woodward, spiritual coach, to explore the journey from trauma, denial, and self-abandonment into healing, spiritual awakening, and radical self-love. Crystal shares the emotional realities of facing fear, reconnecting with yourself, and learning to choose your own well-being every single day. Together, they discuss healing beyond survival mode, breaking old patterns, trusting intuition, and the small daily shifts that create lasting transformation. If you've ever struggled with self-worth, fear of change, or losing yourself while trying to survive, this episode offers grounded insight, hope, and practical tools for coming home to yourself. Healing often begins with small moments of honesty. Start paying attention to the places where you abandon your own needs, silence your intuition, or stay connected to fear out of familiarity. This week, practice one intentional act of self-trust each day, even if it's small. Choosing yourself consistently is how safety, self-love, and transformation are built over time. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Crystal's website
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The Quiet Work Of Surviving Grief: Living Within Childloss
May 400:22:48Tap to summarizeIn this deeply personal episode, Malisa Hepner shares her raw and unfiltered journey through grief after the loss of her son Jake to a synthetic opioid overdose. She opens up about the unpredictable waves of emotion, the tension between functioning and falling apart, and the quiet, daily choices that help her stay connected to herself. This conversation explores what it really looks like to live inside grief—without rushing it, fixing it, or performing it—and how small, aligned actions can become anchors in the midst of overwhelming pain. When everything feels too heavy, shift your focus from "getting through" the grief to simply staying connected to yourself in the moment. Choose one small, grounding action each day—whether it's naming what you feel, stepping outside for fresh air, or offering yourself a moment of compassion—and let that be enough. Over time, these small acts create a quiet stability that supports you without forcing you to move faster than your heart is ready for. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Unquiet Soul: Spotify, Apple
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Spiritual Awakening, Religious Trauma & Emotional Authenticity: Reclaiming Self Beyond Conditioning
May 100:50:48Tap to summarizeIn this deeply reflective episode, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits down with Paul B. Miller to explore the layered journey of spiritual awakening, healing from religious trauma, and reclaiming emotional authenticity. Together, they unpack how societal and religious conditioning shape identity, relationships, and self-worth—and what it really takes to come back to yourself. This conversation offers grounded insight into self-love, perception shifts, and the courage it takes to question everything you were taught in order to live in alignment. Notice where your beliefs feel inherited rather than chosen. Take a few minutes to gently ask yourself: "What do I believe about myself, love, or safety—and where did that belief come from?" * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Paul's Links: Youtube, Skool, Tiktok
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Codependency, Addiction & Recovery: Breaking Patterns in Parenting and Relationships
Apr 2901:03:19Tap to summarizeIn this deeply honest conversation, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits down with Dr. Sarah Michaud, Clinical Psychologist, to explore the layered reality of codependency—how it quietly shapes our relationships, parenting, and sense of self. Together, they unpack the connection between codependency and addiction, the subtle ways control and caretaking can mask deeper wounds, and what it actually looks like to begin healing. This episode offers grounded insight and practical tools to help you build self-awareness, untangle relational patterns, and move toward healthier, more connected ways of living. When you notice the urge to fix, manage, or emotionally carry someone else—pause and gently turn your attention inward. Ask yourself: "What am I feeling right now that I'm trying to avoid?" Then name it without judgment. This simple shift—from focusing on them to reconnecting with yourself—is where the cycle of codependency begins to loosen and real healing starts to take root. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Dr. Sarah's links: Website, Youtube
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When Overthinking Takes Over: How to Ground Yourself and Come Back to You
Apr 2700:33:45Tap to summarizeIn this episode, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, explores the quiet intensity of overthinking and what it's really trying to protect. Through a blend of lived experience and practical tools, she walks you through how to interrupt spirals, reconnect to your body, and create space between you and your thoughts. This conversation isn't about controlling your mind—it's about understanding it, softening it, and learning how to come home to yourself when everything feels loud. The next time you notice yourself spiraling, pause and ask: "What am I actually feeling underneath this?" Then do three things in order: Name the feeling (not the story—just the emotion). Place a hand on your body where you feel it most and breathe into that space. Remind yourself: "I can feel this without solving it right now." This shifts you out of the loop of thinking and back into the experience of being—where regulation actually begins. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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From Trauma to Awakening: Somatic Healing, Nervous System Regulation, and Emotional Resilience
Apr 2401:17:28Tap to summarizeIn this powerful episode, Annie Brook, a somatic psychologist, shares her journey through trauma, spiritual awakening, and deep healing. Together, we explore how early life experiences shape the nervous system, why the body holds what the mind tries to move past, and how true healing requires reconnection—not just understanding. Annie offers grounded, practical tools to help you regulate your nervous system, build emotional resilience, and gently return to your body as a place of safety. This conversation bridges science and spirituality in a way that feels both accessible and deeply transformative. The next time you feel overwhelmed, pause and place one hand on your body—your chest, your stomach, wherever feels natural—and simply notice. Not fix. Not analyze. Just notice what's there. Then ask yourself: What does my body need right now to feel even 1% safer? Let the answer be simple, and let that be enough. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Annie's links: Free Anxiety Toolkit, Free Library, Website, Insta, Youtube Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $3-Become a friend of the show and support its mission $5-Ad free episodes $10-Benefits listed above and free access to monthly workbook $30- In addition to the above benefits, you can receive recurring ad space on episodes posted outside of Patreon. (Perfect for single owner/operator small business looking for low budget ad space) https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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