Podcast Summary: Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder

Episode: A crusade for more casual hookups (with Liv!)

Host: Hallie Batchelder
Guest: Olivia "Liv" Manny
Release Date: January 15, 2026

Episode Overview

In this hilarious, unfiltered episode, Hallie Batchelder is joined by her bestie Liv Manny for a no-holds-barred sleepover chat about sex, relationships, navigating messy NYC social life, and their evolving approach to hookups and friendships. The pair bring their signature chaotic energy, recounting wild stories, doling out advice, clapping back at haters, and celebrating friendship (with some drunken tangents along the way). The mood is deeply candid, brash, and relentlessly funny.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Casual Hookups and Selectivity

• Sexual Droughts & Resolutions

  • Hallie admits to a sex drought since November, only broken by a random New Year's Eve hookup (06:45).

    “The drought of 2026. I haven't had sex since November.” – Hallie (06:45)

  • Both talk about wanting to have more sex, but with greater selectivity: “more sex with less people” (13:33).

    “Selective sex 2026. With your BC body count.” – Liv (13:11) “No, more sex with less people.” – Hallie (13:33)

• Wild Hookup Stories

  • Hallie recounts a New Year’s Eve encounter in a side room with an audience:

    “No, he was, like, going down on me in the side room. Oh. With no curtain.” – Hallie (09:36)

  • The girls joke about the puppy dog energy of men who relentlessly pursue hookups, with Hallie relishing the attention on lonely nights (07:23-08:58).

• Why Settle?—‘ROI’ in Sex & Romance

  • Both reflect on the “return on investment” for both sex and professional asks, with Hallie declaring:

    “Why am I showing up? Like, give me a reason. Literally, give me a reason.” – Hallie (13:52)

  • Liv pushes Hallie to be pickier in her choices:

    “I don't like the men that you have been choosing for you.” – Liv (14:55)

2. Friendship: Honesty, Fights & Communication

• Fights Among Friends

  • They discuss their explosive arguments and how real friendship isn’t about avoidance but honesty and getting through the drama (26:00-28:13).

    “Friends who don’t fight aren’t real friends.” – Liv (27:11)
    “A fight doesn’t necessarily mean a friendship breakup.” – Hallie (28:13)

• Support, Affirmation, and Showing Up

  • Openly sharing what different friends need, from acts of service to words of affirmation (24:16):

    “Being a better friend. Like, inconveniencing myself for friends. I feel like that is a lost art.” – Hallie (24:20)

• No Sh*t Talking Behind Backs

  • Liv reflects on learning not to gossip and stresses the importance of being brutally honest to your friends’ faces:

    “Be brutally honest to their face. Make them cry. No, you know what I mean.” – Hallie (49:07)

3. Relationship Real Talk & Listener Q&A

• Chemistry Isn’t Built—It’s There or Not

  “Is sexual chemistry something you can build or do you either have it or not?” – Liv (32:57)
  “You either have it or not…some people just, like, connect better than others.” – Hallie (33:03)

• Sex as a Decision Point

  “How high do you rank sex when deciding to stay with someone?”
  “Usually the highest…I’ve decided to stay in bad things because the sex was good.” – Hallie (33:43)

• Top Partner Traits

  • Liv: Drive, devotion to craft, chemistry, trust, loyalty (34:08).
  • Hallie: Sense of humor, good job, good looks, good sex, then trust.

4. Attitudes Toward Haters and the Self-Reflective Glow-Up

• Handling Social Media Hate
  • Hallie wakes to a hate video about her and shrugs it off:

    “I would be doing something wrong if not a lot of people were making hate videos about me.” – Hallie (20:57)

• Leaving Negativity in the Past
  • Both vow not to lurk on Reddit or spiral from negative feedback in 2026.

5. Long-Distance & Modern Dating Reflections

• Not Romanticizing Relationships

  “I don't romanticize being in a relationship. That's something I love about you.” – Liv (31:13)

  • Hallie values independence and is wary of sacrifices in a relationship (31:15).

• ‘If He Wanted To, He Would’ Principle

  “If a man likes you and wants to see you…it doesn’t matter what the f*ck is going on…that man is gonna see you.” – Liv (41:10)

  • Both argue that attention, effort, and communication aren't ambiguous; they're clear signs of interest.

6. Random Rapid-Fire: Sex, NYC Life & Pop Culture

• NYC Tips: Don’t talk to random survey people on the street (57:40).
• Making Yourself Feel Hot: Spray tan, masturbation, blowouts, working out (51:21).
• Embarrassing/Funny Moments: Discussing which cartoon characters they’d sleep with (49:31), vibrator purchases and porn preferences (52:01-53:49).
• Fashion Predictions: Maximalism, baby blue, vintage coats, overdressing is “in” for 2026 (58:50).
• Texting Etiquette: Daily texts from a new partner = must-have sign (56:13).
• Checking Phones: Both confess to snooping on exes’ phones and finding incriminating evidence (56:39).

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Hallie on Social Media Hate

  “The first video I watched this morning…was this girl that…goes, ‘I wish that influencers with under 5,000 followers could all unite and vote for the influencer they want to deplatform. And we would all choose Hallie Batchelder.’” (19:48)
  “I would be doing something wrong if not a lot of people were making hate videos about me.” (20:57)

• Liv on Sexual Chemistry

  “You just know when you want to rip someone's clothes…I think it's the pheromones, something animalistic in human nature.” (33:04)

• On Selective Sex

  “No, more sex with less people.” – Hallie (13:33) “Selective sex 2026.” – Liv (13:11)

• On Friendship & Arguments

  “Friends who don’t fight aren’t real friends.” – Liv (27:11) “A fight doesn’t necessarily mean a friendship breakup.” – Hallie (28:13)

• On Modern Men:

  “Men used to go to war. Now they just build desks.” – Hallie (45:03)
  “I feel like I have more testosterone than half these men.” – Hallie (45:32)

• Cartoon Character Hookup Game:

  • “You're telling me you wouldn't let the Grinch hit?” – Hallie (49:56)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Sex Drought & NYE Hookup Story: 06:45–10:10
• Friendship Fights & Honesty: 26:00–28:30
• Reddit & Social Media Hate: 19:45–22:44
• Listener Relationship Q&A: 31:04–44:57
• Sexual Chemistry/Myths: 32:56–33:59
• Checking Phones & Trust: 56:39–57:37
• NYC Moving/New Friends Tips: 57:40–58:45
• Random: Feeling Hot & Masturbation Chat: 51:21–52:32
• Fashion Trends 2026: 58:50–59:40

Final Thoughts

This episode is a raucous, refreshingly honest window into girl talk that toggles effortlessly between raunchy humor and real vulnerability. Hallie and Liv showcase the importance of picking better men, being ride-or-die friends, speaking your truth, and not taking yourself—or internet trolls—too seriously. Expect loads of sex-positive laughs, relatable chaos, and the type of storytelling that makes you feel like you’re back at the slumber party you never outgrew.

For anyone craving a mix of wild confessions, sex and dating wisdom, and unfiltered friendship moments, this is required pregame listening.