A new rack & the art of dirty talk

Summary

Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder Episode: A New Rack & The Art of Dirty Talk Release Date: May 22, 2025

In this vibrant episode of Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder, host Hallie dives headfirst into a whirlwind of personal anecdotes, relationship insights, and the sultry nuances of dirty talk. Packed with humor, honesty, and unabashed candor, Hallie navigates through her recent experiences and offers listeners a raw glimpse into her life in New York City.

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I. Surgery and the Miami F1 Frenzy ([01:02] - [19:55])

Hallie opens the episode by recounting her recent decision to undergo breast implant surgery. She shares candidly about her choice to switch to a more pronounced implant shape, expressing frustration that many assumed her enhancements were natural. “I want people to know. What’s up, you little fuck?” ([01:10]) she exclaims, highlighting her desire for authenticity regarding her cosmetic choices.

Her narrative quickly shifts to her trip to Miami for the Formula 1 (F1) race. As a first-timer, Hallie describes the overwhelming scale and sensory overload of the event. “It’s like a massive, massive track. It kind of reminds me of the US Open and how big that is, but so loud” ([05:15]). Despite the chaos, she enjoys the camaraderie and the array of after-parties, though she admits the strain of juggling late-night festivities with her upcoming surgery.

Hallie’s partying leads to a frantic pre-surgery rush. “I got on the flight at 7am, I’m hammered, cross-eyed” ([10:30]) she humorously details, illustrating the precarious balance between her love for nightlife and the responsibilities of her medical procedure. Her surgery experience is fraught with pain and unexpected complications, prompting her to reflect on the harsh realities of cosmetic procedures juxtaposed against her vibrant lifestyle.

II. Coping with FOMO in NYC ([19:55] - [31:17])

Transitioning from her personal tales, Hallie delves into the pervasive issue of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). She articulates it as a significant emotional hurdle, especially within the relentless pace of New York City. “FOMO is a disease, and they haven’t found a cure yet to it” ([25:45]), she asserts, emphasizing how the constant influx of social events can lead to relentless self-questioning and anxiety.

Hallie contrasts her nocturnal social habits with her daytime lifestyle, admitting, “I’m not like a wanderer of the city. I’m staying in my apartment until I have to go out” ([28:30]). She underscores the importance of nighttime as her sole avenue for social interaction, where she genuinely feels alive and connected, drawing a sharp line between the vibrant NYC nightlife and the less appealing daytime environment.

III. Listener Questions: Relationship Advice ([20:27] - [31:17])

Hallie engages with her audience by addressing direct messages (DMs) from listeners seeking relationship advice. One significant query revolves around doubts in a long-term relationship. A listener writes, “Been dating this man for one year and he’s the healthiest, sweetest man. I love him, but to be honest, he’s not my type” ([22:00]). Hallie responds with a blend of empathy and straightforwardness, advising that physical attraction is crucial and suggesting that unresolved doubts might signify deeper incompatibilities.

“If there’s even one part of it that you’re just not with, then kick them to the curb” ([23:45]) she advises, reinforcing the idea that emotional and physical fulfillment must coexist for a healthy relationship. Hallie also touches on the importance of self-sufficiency and being content single, stating, “A man should never be a supplement or like, avoid filling a void to make you feel like a whole person” ([29:10]).

IV. The Art of Dirty Talk: Evaluating Phrases ([32:49] - [44:04])

A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to the playful yet critical analysis of dirty talk phrases sourced from badgirlsbible.com TM. Hallie humorously rates each phrase, offering her take on their effectiveness and appropriateness.

For instance, she dissects the phrase, “I just want to be your little doll” ([33:15]), deeming it too cutesy and likening it to interactions with an overly affectionate partner. Conversely, she finds more straightforward expressions like, “I want to taste your cum” ([35:40]) acceptable for their directness, though she emphasizes personal comfort and context in their use.

Hallie also emphasizes the importance of authenticity in dirty talk. She advises, “The key to dirty talk is just like, it’s literal, basic communication or just like what you’re experiencing” ([38:50]). By advocating for genuine expression over forced phrases, she encourages listeners to find what naturally enhances their intimate conversations.

V. Signs a Guy Just Wants to Hook Up ([45:37] - [61:05])

In the latter half of the episode, Hallie shifts focus to decoding male intentions in the dating scene. She outlines clear red flags that indicate a man is more interested in casual hookups than building meaningful relationships.

Key indicators include:

• Initiating Plans Late at Night: Hallie notes, “Is he trying to hang out in the morning? Is he overstaying his welcome? Does he want to get breakfast?” ([46:20]). She suggests that a genuine interest will involve consistent and meaningful planning beyond late-night meetups.

• Inconsistent Communication: Highlighting, “Inconsistent texters are a really, really big red flag” ([50:10]), Hallie underscores the importance of regular and sincere communication as a sign of true interest.

• Rushing Intimacy: She warns against men who push for physical intimacy too quickly, stating, “Is he rushing to intimacy? Is he trying to finger you at the dinner table?” ([52:45]). Hallie advocates for taking time to build emotional connections before escalating physical interactions.

• Superficial Compliments: Evaluating compliments based solely on physical appearance versus those that acknowledge personality traits, Hallie advises, “Is he complimenting you on the inside or the outside?” ([55:30]).

Hallie concludes this segment with a firm stance, “Men are simple creatures. If they want you, they will show that they will make plans with you” ([59:00]), emphasizing that genuine interest is straightforward and devoid of manipulative games.

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Throughout the episode, Hallie’s unapologetic honesty and lively storytelling provide listeners with both entertainment and valuable insights into navigating personal relationships and social dynamics. Her blend of humor and sincerity creates an engaging narrative that resonates with her audience, making Extra Dirty a relatable and must-listen for those seeking unfiltered discussions on modern life in NYC.

Notable Quotes:

• “I want people to know. What’s up, you little fuck?” ([01:10])
• “FOMO is a disease, and they haven’t found a cure yet to it” ([25:45])
• “If there’s even one part of it that you’re just not with, then kick them to the curb” ([23:45])
• “The key to dirty talk is just like, it’s literal, basic communication or just like what you’re experiencing” ([38:50])
• “Men are simple creatures. If they want you, they will show that they will make plans with you” ([59:00])

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Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder continues to offer a candid and humorous exploration of contemporary life, relationships, and personal growth, all served with a generous splash of New York City flair.

Transcript

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What I decided to do is I switched out my implants for a different shape implant that was like a little more fake looking. All these people thought my tits were real. And I was like, what's the point of like getting fake tits if like everyone just gonna assume they're real? Like if I'm going under the knife, I want people to know. What up, you little fuck? Okay, guys, I'm doing something really fucking stupid right now. We have an emergency debrief situation. Hi, this is Hallie from the streets of New. Guys, I had every intention of staying in last night. Okay guys, welcome back to Extra Dirty. How is everyone doing? I am doing fine. I'm not gonna lie to you guys. Like I'm a little high right now. I had surgery this week, which by the way, I thought was going to be an easy surgery. I just come back from Miami. I was there for F1 in like in Miami. Like I know I was supposed to behave like very good this past weekend because a week before you're being put down or put under anesthesia or anything like that, like you're supposed to like eat properly, high protein, get some sleep, get some rest, limit your activity and definitely not drink or do any substances of all the sorts. And. And of course I didn't listen to a single one of those roles. I mean, when I go to Miami I just feel like I lose control of like all my inhibitions. And all my willpower and all my will to live. Honestly, I was there with a brand. And, yes, I was technically there for work, so I don't feel as guilty about what I got up to. But after everything I got done for, like, my work stuff, there was just so many events surrounding the F1. We may say, like, the F1 races in itself, if you guys don't know what F1 is. This was my first time at F1, so I wasn't really sure to what F1 was either. It's basically like race car drivers just whipping around the tracks, and it's a long haul to get there. And once you get there, it's like a massive, massive track. It kind of reminds me of, like, the US Open and how big that is, but so loud. Like, I wish I brought earplugs. Just, like, a bunch of, like, all in your ear and you, like. It's kind of. I don't know if I want to go back, to be honest, but it was fun. Like, a lot of cool people were there, and I get, like, the camaraderie of it all. Like, there was, like, fun activations and all of that and a lot of fun after parties, and I feel like that's where I got myself into the most trouble. We'd go to, like, after party after after party. And the things I don't like about these after parties is you can't. I couldn't bring, like, a group of people. And usually I'm with a massive group of people. Like, I'm with Graydon, I'm with Lauren, I'm with Liv, I'm with, like, the extended group. And you can't just, like, bring your squad to these places and you have to, like, break off. And a lot of the times I would have to tell Graydon, like, they're not, like, letting any other guys in. But I was like, wait. But, like, green doesn't really count. Like, he's my gay bestie. Like, why can't we just let. Apparently they don't care about that stuff. So Graydon was left behind a few times, which made me really sad. In was a bit too sceny. I'm not going to lie. I love seeing things and, like, being in the mix and being with, like, the cool people and, like, all that. But I, like, honestly, at the end of the day, if I'm in the room with, like, the most famous people, I don't really give a. It's kind of like dark aura sometimes. We're at this one afterparty and it was just like every A list person you could possibly think of. And I just remember looking around the room being like, I like don't give a about this whole situation. Everyone's trying to like you know, like social climb and talk to who's who and like kind of like network but like kind of in like a dark way. I didn't like it. It's just like not where the fun was at for me. I like the fun is, the fun is where my friends are and a lot of my friends weren't let in so it kind of just like bummed me out. So anyways, I had a couple of Those like late 7am nights and then I would have to wake up super early in the morning for glam and then I would have to spend the whole day in the Miami sun. So it was a long weekend. So the last night I was there we went out. It was another 7am night. We went to this club live. And by this time like I was exhausted. I at this point it had been like a three day bender. You know, I only had so much energy left in me. I knew that I had to be at the airport for a 7am flight. So that makes it a 4:30am wake up. And my logic there is should I take like a two hour nap and then wake up and go to the airport but like go home early from the club or should I stay out all night and just book it from the club to the airport? That's the decision that felt most logical to me in the moment. So that's exactly what I did. So, so what did I do? I got on the flight at 7am I'm hammered, cross eyed. I honestly don't even know how I made it through security. Like it was that I think I left a bunch of clothing back in my hotel room too. We were like shuffling to get like to leave and to like get all our shit together. I didn't pack. I didn't think I had like that. I slept on the flight. We landed in New York City. I had like a fitting at 2pm because I had to go to Mel afterparty for work that started at 11pm so this is Monday now 11pm I'm there till 1am and then I had to be up at 4.30am for this surgery to be like cut open and put under which is diabolical. Like the Miami bender to surgery pipeline needs to be studied in my opinion. And I thought this surgery was going to be like a walk in the park. Like I, I have a really High pain threshold for these types of things. I've gotten my boobs done before, and I. I went out the same night with my mom. I had like seven espresso martinis. The night I got, the same day I got off the operating table. The first surgery, the same day I got off the operating table, I went to the hotel bar with my mom because she was in town to take care with me. And we had about seven espresso martinis. And I woke up the next day and I swear I was in more pain from the hangover than I was from getting cut open. So in my mind I was like, oh, this surgery's gonna be a walk in the park. No, because this time what I decided to do is I switched out my implants for a different shape implant that was like a little more fake looking. I felt like people, all these people thought my tits were real. And I was like, what's the point of like getting fake tits if, like, everyone just gonna assume they're real? Like, if I'm going under the knife, I want people to know that I risk my life and that they are fake. But, like, everyone's like, oh, my God, they look so natural. That's not a compliment to me. That was like an insult to me. So I was like, you know what? I'm gonna get back on the table and do this again. So I switched out the implants for a different shape, a shape that, like, was a little more fake looking. There's only like two shapes. You can get a teardrop shape, which is like the more natural looking one, or you get, like the circular shape that shows, like, more cleavage and whatever. That's the shape I went with. Not only did I do that is I did this new thing called a surgical, like, internal bra. It's like basically mesh scaffolding that breaks down over time, like between 12 and 18 months and turns into like collagen in your body. But it basically, like, surrounds your implants and holds them in place. But like a bra would, like a push up bra almost. And that I will say has been the kicker. It's been extraordinary painful. Not all the oxy in the world they prescribe me is kicking in. I feel like I got hit by a bus. I feel like someone shredded chicken in my chest. That's what I would compare it to. It feels like that. And I had plans last night. Like, I had plans to go out to a party the day after this surgery because I just assumed I would be okay and I had to miss it. And it was like One of the biggest parties of the year, and I had to miss it because I was in extraordinary. Like, I was in so much pain. I don't know what was more painful, the FOMO from missing this big soiree, the function, or from the debilitating pain in my chest. I don't. I can't tell which one was it was. It was a tough day yesterday, but we made it through. But anyways, they prescribed me more medication, like, and I'm feeling a bit better today, but I'm still, like, high as a kite. I'm honestly going to record this whole podcast episode and. And not remember a fucking thing I said. But we're gonna have fun while we're doing it. So let's talk about fomo, guys. So FOMO is a disease, and they haven't found a cure yet to it. And once they find a cure, I will be calling up that doctor and that researcher because I would like to find a cure to fomo. The only cure to FOMO is really sleep and, like, lots of melatonin. So you completely miss the night and can't really experience fomo. Always have the thought process, like, okay, what if I stay in tonight? What if I stay in tonight and that's the night that, like, I meet my. I could have met my husband, or I could have had the sickest night ever. Or, like, so and so is going to be at the club and I totally miss meeting him. That's the way my mind spirals and things. I also don't like the thought of my friends going out without me and then somehow formulating some sort of fun inside joke that I am no, Like, I can't be a part of for the next few weeks to follow, because that would piss me the off. I'm not gonna lie. Like, if they're like, oh, my God, remember when Joe Schmo, like, tripped and fell? Oh, my God, that was the funniest thing. And I'm like, I can't laugh with you, and I hate you for it. Like, that's how I think. But also just, I. I think living in New York City in general, I am not the type of. That would walks around Tribeca and, like, walks to get a matcha. Like, I'm staying in my apartment until I have to go out to a function or to an appointment or to get my lips done or something like that. Like, I'm not leaving my apartment until I really have to. I'm not like, a wanderer of the city. I don't romanticize New York during the day, that's not really what I do. Like, I Uber eats my coffee because I don't even want to walk outside and get it. That's the kind of, like, that's how I roll. So when I go out, like, I feel like that's my time to, like, leave my apartment. I don't feel the need to, like, leave my apartment during the day. So if I'm going out at night, that's my time to socialize. And I am a social person. Like, that is what brings me dopamine and serotonin, all the things. Like, I need to be talking to people at all times, giggling, having a martini, being a part of the scene. I feel like the New York air at night is a lot, lot better and more vibrant than the New York air during the day. During the day, it's just, like, hot and smells like trash to me. There's no need to romanticize that. So I'm not, like, really getting out of my apartment. So, like, if I'm going out, like, it's gonna be at night time. And, yeah, so I do get fomo. I don't get FOMO for day activities, though. If you and Becky want to go to the park and have a picnic, have, have fun, have your best time, live your best life ever, I will have no fomo. Missing that. But night activities, I always feel bad missing. Also, if I commit to, like, a plan or a birthday or a reservation, I'm, like, the least flaky person ever. Being a flake is, like, one of my biggest pet peeves, actually. So even if a limb is falling off, I will, like, do my best to try to make those plans. In this case, it felt like multiple limbs being. My jugs were actually falling off. So I couldn't make those plans on Wednesday night. But I did my best. I honestly considered it. But if anyone had bumped into me and it was like we were going to Tao, like, this party was at Tao nightclub, there was no way, like, someone wasn't gonna bump into me. If someone had bumped into my fake chest, there could have been, like, an implant situation on the floor, like, because the stitches are fresh. Like, what if I put my hands up to raise the roof and then, like, they just slip out of me? That's, like, what I was picturing. And we couldn't have that, because who's picking that up off the floor? Not me. You know, clean up on aisle 12. But, yeah, that's my thing on FOMO. I think as I get older, we're gonna grow out of fomo. But I'm single, so, like, I. I need. You know, I need to get laid too. So, like, what? I'm not gonna get laid in the com. The confines of my apartment. That's not happening unless I go on, like, Tinder. Who has Tinder these days? I'm not downloading Tinder or, like, Craigslist to meet a man. Okay, I have to go outside for that. So I get the surgery. And by the way, I. I thought this was gonna be like a walk. A walk in the park surgery, like I said. So I didn't tell any of my family members because I thought it would be like a little nip and tuck, no pun intended. But, like, you know, I didn't think it was gonna be that big of a deal. So I just texted my ex roommate, and I was like, hey, Margo, like, I'm getting cut open on Tuesday. Do you mind? Like, I. Apparently, they're not letting me Uber home alone. And she's like, yeah, I can move a couple meetings around. Like, I'll come pick you up. So I'm in surgery for, like, two and a half hours, which is a lot longer than I anticipated, and I wake up very confused. And anesthesia. It's very, like, hard to walk. Like, you need help walking. So what the nurses do is they either offer you a wheelchair or, like, an escort to your Uber. So it's me, these two beautiful nurses, and my best friend Margot. And we're all like, I'm wobbling, and they're trying to, like, give me pretzels. And I'm like. I'm like, I don't eat carbs. They get that away from me. And they're trying to offer me water, and they're, like, just trying to, like, help me out. And we get down the elevator, it's pouring rain, like, puddles everywhere. But there's, like, this big group of girls, like, out front of the plastic surgery place. And I. My first thought was, oh, my God, like, I hope no one that, like, follows me runs into me right now, because this would be, like, the worst timing or honestly the most on brand thing ever. But I panicked. So I started, like, running away from the nurses down the street, like, into the middle of the road. So it looked like I was escaping a psych ward. Like, picture, like, me, like, I had, like, a gown on, essentially, and these slippers from the plastic surgery place. And I'm just, like, running down. Like, it's really pouring out. Whatever. I'm running into the street. They're pulling me out of the street, I looked like I was escaping the loony bin and like I was a patient on the run. But yeah, I finally got into the Uber and then I slept until like 7pm and may I say when I woke up and that anesthesia wore off, like, I wouldn't wish that paid on anyone else. I, like, didn't think I could feel things like that. It honestly humanized me a bit because I was like, wow, I can feel things. Like pain. I got. I did. I haven't felt pain like that ever. Like, I'm not looking forward to childbirth, but I picture what I felt the other day to be worse. That's how bad it felt. And I was on not strong enough drugs. I was like, where are the real drugs at? This is some pussy ass shit. At first they were prescribing me like extra strength Tylenol and like very low oxygen. And I was like, can someone just like put, like, put me out? I don't know what's going on, but it was fun. I would totally do it again. 10 out of 10 recommend. But yeah, the nurses, they gave me very strict post op rules. They said no working out. And then they looked at me and they go, no bouncing, no sexual activity for like two months. And I said, this was not on the brochure, babe. This was not in the brochure. I also, my tits look great. They look like Canelli beans right now. Like, they look like Jack and the Beanstalk beans. They look insane right now. Like I. I took my compression bra off and I sent a picture to my two girlfriends and I was like, imagine if I was setting nudes right now and I was like, come over the. My tits, like, go from like here to here because they haven't dropped yet. So. They look like Jack and the Beans, Doc. They look like the beans you put on your like Chipotle Bowl. They look insane, but they're going to look great in like two months. But the summer is right around the corner, so I probably should have like, thought this timeline through a little bit more. But they're going to look gorgeous once they've settled. But they're going to take a while to settle because of the internal bra. It hurts. It hurts even to laugh right now and breathe and all the things, but we'll get through this, guys. God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers. That's a saying, right? This is for all the business that listen to Extra Dirty. 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[Hallie]

Okay, guys, I've gotten like so many DMS which by the way keep sending me them because I just screenshot them and I send them to my wonderful producer Marc commercial and then we share a giggle and then I'm like, okay, we should talk about this on the pod. And then I do talk about them on the pod. So we so just keep sending them as crazy as just don't confess murder to me because I can't help you there. But anything underneath that, I think that's where we draw the line. Please send me a DM and we can go over them together. I'm gonna read a couple and then I'm going to give you my take on them. So this wonderful girl says, hey, Hallie, relationship advice please. Been dating this man for one year and he's the healthiest, sweetest man. I love him, but to be honest, he's not my type. I'm attracted to him and he has a nice bod, just not facially my type and is giving boy over man. We are moving to New York City together this August and I wonder if having these thoughts is a red flag for our relationship. Let me know what you think. Well, yeah, I do think it's a red flag for your relationship because if you're with the person you're supposed to be with, like the end all be all. I don't think, like, his face is going to be the one deterring you from, like, wanting to end the whole relationship. I also, and I love you. And I'm going to say this, holding your hand. This might be like a red flag on your part. I don't nes it seems like he's checking all the boxes. Besides a physical element that maybe is not driving your way, but it's your life at the end of the day. Like, if there's one part of it that you're just not with, then kick them to the curb. Also, like, sometimes the healthiest and the sweetest men. Like, even reading that, that sounds not interesting to me. I don't think I would like that really. To be honest, that sounds boring. Like what? I'm guessing you're in your early 20s. We need to get some toxic men in here for the, for the plot. Okay, I'm not suggesting that, but I'm saying it builds lore and it builds character and you will then appreciate that. Sweet, sweet boy. Right? Yeah. Also, like, you've been together for a year. That's another good point to make. You've been together for a year. I feel like maybe you're moving and maybe things are starting to feel maybe a bit serious for you. And now you're trying to find reasons for why you might want the relationship to end. And you chose his face, which is fine. It's the easiest place to choose. I would start with the face too. Because if he's the nicest guy in the fucking world, buys you flowers and is kind to you, so healthy and all this shit, I would pick his face too. If you wanted the relationship to end, I'd be like, you know what? You're sweet and all, but your face, you have a stupid boy face. And if you're moving to New York City, that's also a key point I noted in here. With a man, you're young. Trust me, honey, you're going to want to experience New York City single for a little bit. Because there are men here and not boys. There's men, they might drive you crazy, they might ruin your life for a couple months on end. But that is just what living in New York is like. And I feel like every girl should experience that. If you're living in the city at some point and sometimes a man just ties you down, especially a annoying sweet ass man that you're Tied to. I'd cut him loose because there are girls out there looking for sweethearts. I'm not one of them, and it doesn't seem like you are neither. So maybe just take some space to figure out what you really need. And when I say take some space, I mean go out in New York City. Maybe we can go out together, have a couple dirty martinis. I'll introduce you to some men. We can go to Shea. Margot, we can live it up. I'll bring you to Tao. Like, we can do all the things, but, you know, a sweet man by your side, he might not let you do all those things. So I do think this is a red flag. To sum it up, yes, I think you might be looking for an out, which is totally normal and fine, relatable. But don't lead him on. Like, if you're questioning it even a little bit. I always say this to myself and to my friends. If there's even one thing you're questioning a little, you're a little uneasy about, then he's probably, like, not the right fit. Not forever, but, like, definitely not for right now. And I think it's so important to be single or know how to be single. I see a lot of people not knowing how to be single. They'll go. They're habitual relationship people. They'll go from relationship to relationship to relationship. How do you know who you are and how you are, like, on your own two feet. If you've never learned how to, like, be alone, how to wipe your own ass, how to, like, you know, do simple things in life, like, to deal with, like, disappointment and heartache by yourself without having someone comforting you. Like, once you, like, figure out that you don't need a man or don't need a partner and that you can handle, like, life's hardships on your own, then men just become, like, additions to your life, and they become, like, the cherry on top of, like, things in your life. That's why I always say, like, if you're gonna enter into a relationship, I feel like you have to feel like a whole person by yourself. A man should never be, like, a supplement or, like, avoid filling a void to make you feel like a whole person, because that's when you're. Because, say he dumps ya and leaves you for Becky. Then you're left feeling empty or feeling empty somewhere. And that's not t. That's not what life's about. And, yeah, that's my TED Talk for today. Okay, guys, I've also got a few dms about like dirty talk and like how to dirty talk. And like, is it eh or if it's me, like, how do you do it or when do you do it? And like, I do have opinions on this because, you know, sometimes it's just a force. And one thing I hate about these men, or men in general is sometimes they like try to force like this freak factor just to like, you almost tell, like they want you to like, be telling your friends how freaky was in bed or something. And I feel like that all starts with the dirty talk. And some men just like, don't know how to do it at all. And I, I will say, like, just if you're having sex and it's silent the whole time and you just hear like grunting and like breathing, that's not a vibe either. I mean, maybe it is for some people. I'm just talking about like my own personal opinion, but I will say, like, I've been in experiences where men just like, try to talk dirty to me. Like, I once had this guy, and this was years ago, and it was on Nantucket, and he was like this blonde little like vineyard vines looking ass preppy fuck. There's no way he could have handled what I had to bring to him. But like, it was a dry week, so I like brought him home with me. And it was like summer and I feel like it's summertime and you're like supposed to like have all these like little flings and rendezvous. So I dragged this man home and we went to my basement of my parents home, which is like where I brought all my victims. It's like down to the lair of my parents man's basement. And I would say, bye, thank you. I have like a job interview tomorrow morning. It would be like Saturday night. Anyways, this man, he's like this little blondie. And I don't like blonde men because honestly, for this reason, I don't like blonde men because it kind of gives me like a vineyard vines esque, Chad, Brad, Thaddeus kind of vibe. And they just don't know how to lay down the pipe in my opinion. This is all my opinion. I'm gonna keep saying in my opinion so no one cancels me. But anyway, this guy had this weird fucking weird kink where I couldn't tell if he was like on the spectrum or if he was just trying to like, talk dirty in a way like I had never seen before. But he starts talking to me like in this like weird baby voice. Okay. And I think it was like a Kinker a fetish. And I've talked about this on TikTok before. He was like, you wanna be b widow princess? You want to be? Oh, my widow princess. My widow baby. Baby wanna be? Can I pet my widow princess? Is my widow princess a good girl? I'm like, do you have a speech impediment? Do you have a speech impediment? What is going on? I'm like, this little baby girl is about to clock you in the neck if you don't stop talking to me like that. The he's like, can I. He starts patting my face like, can I pat my baby? I'm like, literally, bro, like, you know, I'm not the one. I am not the one. Okay? So I kicked him out. And so that kind of dirty talk to me is just like insane. I think that was a weird king or he was having a stroke. I don't know what the was going on with that. But I'm saying don't like force it. If you're a man, don't force it. I feel like the key to dirty talk is just like, it's literal, basic communication or just like what you're experiencing. Like if you're wet, you're wet. Like, you know, it works on guys all the time. I feel like most men have like this breeding fetish, like where they like want to get you pregnant, but, like, don't like, want to like live on the edge and get you pregnant. So if you tell a guy to like fill you up, oh, they'll finish in like three seconds, I swear. Yeah, but then you do get pregnant. Actually, I got pregnant once. So like take plan B if you're gonna say that, because I didn't. This man venmoed me for plan B, but I ended up getting chipotle instead. And then I got pregnant and I did not think I was virtual Myrtle. Oh my God. I don't have like birth giving hips, so I thought I was in the clear. But cream pie after cream pie creates a little baby. So yeah, I will say proceed with caution with telling a guy to fill you up because you don't want to get pregnant or a yeast infection, honestly. But any just like, you know, emote the five senses. Like, what do you smell? What do you touch? What do you feel like? Talk about how big his is. Even if it's the size of a carrot. Like, just like make up. Like, use your imagination. Whisper in his ear. Sweet nothings.

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Go through some phrases from badgirlsbible.com TM these are dirty talk phrases for intense sex. I'm going to go through them and like, see if it's like a yay or an A or a slayer. But let's see. Okay, the first one is I just want to be your little doll. I would never say that in a million years. I want to be real doll babe. That sounds like something that weird freak guy that was petting me like a little baby and saying like, he probably wanted me to say I want to be a little. I want to be a little doll. Like, that's probably what the answer he wanted from me was. But like, if you're into that, I guess. Okay. 2. I love it when you me like a slut. Oh yeah. Calling yourself a. All those things. Men love that. And that's the only place a man can call me a or a. But I have like a weird degrading king. So, like, that floats with me. So even hearing myself say that, like, I don't even need him to talk. If I hear myself say that, that'll get myself off. So yeah, say that. I give that a yay. The third one is fuck me like you mean it. Fuck me like you mean it. I. I feel like that's just too, like. You know what I mean? I don't like that one, to be honest. It just says doesn't have enough umph in it. I'm gonna give that one a no, but that's like, a pretty basic one. 4. I don't. I don't want to feel my face or hands after you're done with me. We're having a stroke here. I don't. I don't want to feel my face or hands after you're done with me. It sounds like we need to go to the emergency room. I'm not gonna lie. I mean, like. No, don't say that, please. Okay. Number five, I want to taste your cum. That one's fine. That's very beginner. That's very basic. Or be like, I want to taste you. That's great. Guys love that. Guys do love that. These are, like, funny to read out in front of people I just met, by the way. We're getting to know each other so well, guys. All right. Make you come hard is my number one priority right now. Don't say that. We don't want to. Making yourself come is your number one priority. That would be hilarious if you were like, making myself calm is my number one priority. You're next, though. Thank you. I wouldn't say that. Just because you don't want men thinking like that should be the top priority. I don't give a if they're coming or not. I give a if I'm coming or not. And they're just there. They're just a dildo with a heartbeat. Number seven. I don't want to be able to walk tomorrow. So me harder. Yeah. If you explain to a guy that you want, like a wheelchair access out of here. That's all. That's always great. Like, I hope you, like, have an elevator building babe, because I want you to out of me until, like, my legs fall off. Me rolling down the street in a wheelchair. Anyways. Number eight, degrade me. Yeah, I feel like that's a basic one. No, I feel like in the bedroom is the only place where you want a man to, like, treat you like a. But, like, that's just me again. Maybe you want respect and love and tender embrace, but if you are talking dirty, a guy doesn't care about butterflies and flowers and, like, hugging, like in about picnics and, like, lovey dovey. I promise you that you want to, like, say the most disgusting things you can possibly think of. Okay. Number nine, use me. This one can get a little tricky just in case he remembers it after. Okay, if you're saying, use me, like, and then, like, you're having dinner later that night, and he's like, oh, I can just use this. I don't know. I think don't say that. Especially if you're, like, just introducing dirty talk or if this is, like, a new situationship or, like, something which is also a key factor into the things you could probably say when you're, like, talking dirty to someone. If you're in a relationship and this man is going nowhere, say whatever the you want. So you want to shove a fist and a fist up his ass and have it come out his mouth. And, like, you want to do the Macarena. I don't know. But if this is, like, a new situationship and you want to, like, stick around, you want them to, like, think about you after, I would stick to, like, the very basic kind of, like, degrading, kinkiest you can think of. Okay, number 11. Me. Like you own me. That one's kind of fun. But again, dances on a fine line. Okay, number 12, you're gonna make me come. You should always be saying that. Honestly, you should be like, you're gonna make me come even if you're not gonna come. That's how I get, like, if I'm not gonna come and this is taking too long. I'm just gonna say that. So he comes. So we're, like, done with this whole situation. That's how I get out of a bad fuck. It's honestly the smartest thing ever I've ever thought of. These are hilarious. Marshall. What? Fuck my cunt. Like, you could say that, I guess. I love your dick. That one's pretty pg. Don't stop. You should always be saying that. Unless you're in doggy style and he's clapping like a fucking Macarena. Like, yeah, we don't want any bunny rabbits behind us. The bunny rabbit frat fuck is the worst thing ever. In that case, I would never be saying, don't stop. Like, I would be saying, stop, grab my breasts and squeeze my nipples. I would not be saying that right now. Although I have no feeling in my nipples today. That one's, like, kind of fine, I guess. Me harder, Daddy. Yeah, you know, I've introduced the word daddy in here sometimes here and there, but it depends. I would never call a man daddy unless they were at least 10 years older than me. You can't be saying that to, like, Brad from, like, Sigai. Like, you should not be saying me harder daddy to like the man from TD Kai. Like, that's just like. Wouldn't work in that setting. But I think daddy is fun sometimes just because they feel like bigger than they actually are. Come for me. That's a go to. I use that all the time. I've been really bad and need to be punished. That's fun, I would say. Yeah, you could say that. I want to fall asleep with you inside of me. What, Babe? No. I don't even know if that one's legal. Like what? Don't say that. Don't say I want to fall asleep with you inside of me. That one's interesting. Fill me up. Fill me up is the one I was saying before. Fill me up is just a really good basic one. Make sure you know you're on birth control. But like, fill me up is a pretty basic good one. That is fun. I like, degrade me. Me like a slut. Like all those in like your own different variations. Perfect. Oh, there's more dirty talk phrases that keep him thinking about you. Note many of these phrases work best when sent as messages. Okay, the first one is I feel. I'm like, screenshot. I. I feel so small when you wrap your arms around me. I miss this so much. Yeah, that's some pussy ass shit. I would never send that to a man ever. That's like if you're in a relationship and like, that's just like cutesy. I feel like that's almost sweet. That's borderline sweet. I feel like I wouldn't send that personally. Number two, sometimes my legs get weak when you kiss me. That's sweet. Again, no. And no man kissing me is gonna make my legs weak, though. My legs are weak in general. I miss leg day all the time. It's gonna take a lot, you know? Okay, number three, Just thinking about you makes me so damn wet. Yeah, you could say this. In other words, always telling a guy that you're wet, even if you're at the fucking mall and you're not wet. It just gets him excited. I would send that text every day if I had someone to send that to. I actually probably sent it last week to someone Rand. I don't even know. Number four, if we could only have sex in one position for the rest of our lives, what would it be? Why would you ask? So this girl's sending a guy this text. I know what. I know what his answer is. I don't know. I don't think I would send that text because Then he's going to want to do that position forever. Because trust me, his favorite position and your favorite position, I promise you, 100 are not the same. Okay, number five. I masturbated about you last night. I feel like that's also a very simple, easy beginner one. That's like fun, spicy text to send. So I think that's a good one. This one says, still feeling sore after last night. Smiley face. Yeah, I would put a little spin on this. I would be like, I can barely get up the fucking flight of stairs without feeling like my legs gonna fall off. I feel like my legs are unhinged and one could possibly break off and roll down the street right now. Or I need a wheelchair to get anywhere today. Or. Yeah, I feel like a human pretzel and I can't move. I don't know, like, put your little spin on it. Your own spice on it. 7. I think you're the only guy who can make me angry and horny at the same time. Yeah, I used. I mean, I used to love hate sex when I was in a relationship. I used to like pick fights just to have makeup sex. And I always thought that was like one of my favorite pastimes. It was like my favorite hobby. Honestly, at one point. Okay, number eight, the hottest thing about last night was feeling you shoot your load inside of me. I wouldn't word it like this. I think we can word it better. I think we can find better verbiage, but you know, I like the gist of that. Number nine. I want to be your lady on the streets, in your feet, between the sheets. Babe, don't send that. Don't. That's lame. But like, I know what point you're trying to make, but like, don't send that to a man, please. I'm supposed to be working, but all I can think about is you dominating me. I mean, that's fun, but like, I mean, I'm an influencer, I would say. And I'm not working, I'm at home watching reality tv. I want you to dominate me. But yeah, this is a fun text. I feel like any text you could send to your man or your situationship or whoever while they're at work or doing something where they like probably can't get a full on boner is always fun to do. So send those risky texts. I think risky texts are fun. I think dirty talk is fun. I think it's all fun. I think it's all healthy, it's all normal and should be incorporated more, you know? No, One wants like bland ass vanilla sex or bland ass vanilla. You know, back and forth between a guy you're having sex with. Like there's ways to spice it up.

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A couple more DMS. This one I thought was really fun. This girl says I need your advice on how to get out of a bender funk. Like not how to stop the bender, but how to start. Girl, you came to the right place. I used to be the queen of going out and getting feral and now postgrad. Unfortunately I corporate girly too hard and I found myself all responsible and boring. And every time I go out to have a drink or think about going out, I just think about all the negatives and talk myself out of it. In the rare times I do get myself to have a feral night, it takes me like four to seven business days to recover. I'm literally 23 years old and hot. I should be going out and getting crazy or something, but I simply cannot find the motivation. A martini just puts me to sleep these days. Sos. I fear this is a universal experience, especially if you're a corporate girly I cannot relate in that sense. I've never been a corporate girly, but I do. I. I do get bendered out sometimes. And it's not a bad thing that you have responsibilities now and that you have a job and not. You maybe can't party as hard as you used to in college. These aren't symptoms of bad things going on in your life. These are probably symptoms of good things in your life. Honestly, you have success and responsibility. These are all good things. But give yourself a break. Don't think negatively when you go out, when you're drunk, when you're hungover, the anxiety feeling like you shouldn't have done it. I was just saying something to this effect the other day. Because I go out all the time. I go out five times a week maybe, and I have long fucking nights. Like, I say out to the break of dawn. And I say yes to way too many things. Probably way, way too many things where even if I'm going into a situation where I'm like, okay, I'm going to regret this in the morning, I still say yes for the lore and because I don't want to look back on my 20s and be like, I didn't do it all and the twenties are to do it. Like, this is your time where you can be selfish, where you can take those risks, where you can have those regrets, where you can have those memories. You can be with your girls. You don't have a fucking baby to take care of. You don't have a fucking man to take care of it. Just you yourself. You're figuring yourself out. And you should have a little fun while doing it, too. Even if you're a corporate girly. Like, you still don't know what the you're doing. All my friends have switched jobs a million times. They really don't know what direction they are. Or like, we're in our journeys. Like, we really don't know what the we're doing in general. Like, we're learning a lot of things. Taxes all. Like, we don't know what the going on. So have a little fun. Give yourself a little break. I don't want to be 80 years old and look back at my 20s and be like, I didn't say yes to enough things. And I think a lot of people have those regrets because of society and societal norms. People think, okay, I'm 25, I should have a serious boyfriend. Okay, I'm 30, I should be getting engaged. Okay, I'm 35, I should be having kids. Like, these are these benchmarks that I think that we have internalized because, you know, societal norms and structure X, Y and Z. I don't know, all that fucking bullshit that you study in sociology, I don't know. But for me personally, I want to say yes. Everything, even the bad decisions, even the things I know I shouldn't be getting myself into. And I want to be 80, telling my grandkids. Halle is one. One day, back in the day, I was out at Tao at 6am and I was doing handstands with X, Y and Z and I was having an orgy and oh, my God, like, I want to have stories to tell. Like, I would like to have stories to tell, even if they're good, bad. But it's like, what? You know, for me, it builds character, it builds lore, it builds experiences. It makes me know what I should say yes to. It makes know what I should say no to down the road. It's all like, life is about trial and error at the end of the day. So, you know, yes, anxiety sucks and feeling like you're making bad decisions by going out and drinking, those feelings suck. But feelings are fleeting. You only have one life. So I would suggest while you're young and while you're hot, you're 23 years old, live it up, up, you know, have that 5am night. No one's judging you besides you. No one gives a. Have fun. And that would be my advice. She says, well, it's one feral night. I feel like she's exaggerating. To be honest, though, I'm not gonna lie. 4 to 7 is an insane recovery period. She needs medical attention. If that's the case, I will note that you say, I have one feral night. And then you are recovering from four to seven days after that. I don't think that's normal. We need to seek medical attention. If that's really the case. I don't know what you're drinking. If it's absinthe or something, something strong that's putting you completely the fuck out. But if you're out from four to seven days from anything, we need to go to the doctor or get an iv. Masturbating helps. Like, I would just switch up your drink order if you really feel like you're being taken out like that, I will say, for me, espresso martinis put me the fuck out. Like, I would cut those out if you're drinking those. Like, if I'm drinking more than one espresso martini, I'm throwing up all over my duvet cover and no one can talk to me for like 19 days. I'm like unreachable. It's like a problem. But yeah, if there's maybe find a little balance in your Farrell nights. Drink water between your taking shots. I don't do any of those things, but I'm programmed differently than most. But four to seven days after a feral night, I always say the only way out is through. So if it's a Friday night, you had a feral night. Keep drinking. Okay? The cause is the cure and the only way out is through the shampoo effect. So if you have one drink at brunch after a feral Friday, you're already up. It's great, you feel great, you're back to normal. You feel like you got your personality back and everything. Okay, guys, on our next segment. Oh, I don't know why I just transitioned it like that. Guys. Okay, let's. What else are we going to talk about? Let's talk about signs. The guy just wants to you and leave to be blunt, because a lot of these men are just like squirrels. They just want to get their nut and get out of the tree. You know what I mean? So let's just talk about some signs that I've noticed in my ripe age. I'm 27, but I a lot of guys that I like know where a guy just wants to get out there because sometimes I just want to get out of there too. So like they're the same things. I noticed they go both ways. Signs of guys just wants to hook up. First of all, if you a guy, the first thing I notice is he. Is he trying to hang out in the morning? Is he overstaying his welcome? Does he want to get breakfast? Does he want to get coffee? Does he want to talk about like where he vacations in the summertime? His deepest, darkest secrets? I don't know, like sometimes like guys can like be over shares and or overstayers and I feel like if a guy wants to like overstay or like get a meal with you or get a coffee with you the next day, that means he's like into you a little bit. Or either that or he's just like starving. But like I feel like it's usually he wants to spend more time with you. The next thing I notice is he initiating plans, like right then and there? Is he like, when can I see you next? If a guy's not initiating plans with you, he probably just wants to fuck. Also, what time is he texting you to hang out? Because like your time is equally as valuable as his Time. So you should not be waiting on a Friday night for a guy to text you at 10:30 being like, let's link up. Like, you should be making plans as if that he does not exist. I used to have this problem, too, where I'd be like, okay, the girls want to go out to dinner and have a night out and do all these things Friday night. But in the back of my head, I'd be like, oh, what if so and so hits me up? Like, I would rather see him. Like, the girls will get it. Blah, blah, blah. That's not how you should be thinking. And don't think like that. And I'm slap, slap on my hand because I wish I didn't think like that either. So we text you, like, after 10pm Then he can go himself. He can go get his pocket out of his bedside drawer and literally go himself. Because that's not what we're doing. It's not what we're doing in 2025. Okay. Anyways, next. Is he texting during the week? Is he consistent texting you? Inconsistent texters can go themselves. I'm an inconsistent texter. I can go myself. I do that sometimes. Like, inconsistent texters are a really, really big red flag, especially for men. Because men are like, you know, they only text you when they, like, want to see you and they want to, like, put their dick inside of you. And, like, you don't deserve that unless that's what you want. If you just want, like, a little buddy, and that's very casual. But, like, if you like a guy and he's being inconsistent about texting you, not being like, how's your day, at least? Or, like, at least replying to your stories. It could be very. The bar is so low with these men these days. But if he's not texting you at all during the week, then literally he can pull out his pocket and go himself. Because that. Anyways, next. Is he rushing to intimacy? Is he trying to finger you at the dinner table? Okay, you want to get drinks? It's the first date, and he's already like, are we going back to my place or yours? This is a red flag for most. For me, I'd eat that up and say, let's go, baby. Let's get it popping. Mine are yours. But this is usually a red flag. Usually a sign that a guy wants to just, like, sleep with you. As I've said in previous podcasts, like, I don't really believe in, like, the third date rule and, like, waiting. Making a guy wait. I don't think any of that has any weight. I know a lot of people that have within the first 30 minutes of meeting that person and they've dated for years. I really just think it's, you know, if you like someone, you like someone, you don't like someone, you don't like someone, it's more about your feelings and like, making yourself vulnerable in a few. If being physical with someone makes you vulnerable to that person, then I would suggest not sleeping with someone on the first date, but I would look out for that. Is he rushing to fuck you on the first date? Is he trying to finger blast you at the dinner table? These are all things to look out for and feel out for. Maybe don't wear a skirt on the first date. Anyways, what's the next one? When he compliments you, is he complimenting you on the inside or the outside? Is he only touching on your physical features or is he touching on. You know, I like this about you. Is he asking you a lot of questions about your life? Is he, you know, trying to get to know you and like, you know, being like, oh, you're so funny and like, trying to, like, get to know your personality, or is he just like, you're so hot, like, bro, your ass is so fat. Like, oh my God, your hair. Oh my God. Like, is he talking, like, how is he talking to you? How is he complimenting you? That's also something to take note of. Also. I would just say this as like a general thing. Men are very simple creatures. I know we like to think that they play games, you know, like they're like always like, like, men are not like MacGyvers, okay? They're not Nancy Drew's up in this bitch. They're not smarter than us, especially emotionally. Men are not smarter than us. You can clip that if you want. I think when it comes to dating and stuff, women are way more in touch with their, like, EQ and like, they know exactly what's going on. But men are simple creatures. If they want you, they will show that they will make plans with you. They will get. They will move things around to see you and they won't make it that difficult. They're not going to be playing games with you and like, with your head. If they want to see you, they're going to see you. If they don't want to see you, they probably don't like you. And that's the hard truth, unfortunately. But hot take maybe. Like, I don't think men play games with girls. They're not interested in I think, honestly, like, men play games with girls they like. I don't think men are playing games like, random girls. They're just, like, meeting for the first time. I think you have to, like, build rapport with someone to, like, start playing mind games with them, if that makes any sense. But that could be the delulu in me. If a man is, like, clearly playing games me, I'll be like, but he chose to play games with me, okay? He's choosing me to fuck with. He's not choosing Becky from East Village to with. He's choosing me to with. Okay? But I would say, overall, men are simple creatures. Two plus two equals four for them. They want to see you, they're gonna make that known. If they don't want to see you, they're also gonna make that known. There's no, like, reading between the lines. There's no subliminal messages. They don't probably know what a subliminal message is. Like, they're gonna make it very clear. So that's how I feel about that. Avoiding conversations about the future, like, making plans. I've said this before. The easiest way to get rid of a guy is to try to make plans with them. Because once you start making plans with the guys, they're running for the hills. I don't know what it is. If a guy's, like, initiating plans, he wants to, like, see you. The guy's not making any plans at all. Avoiding talking about doing things down the road. That's a red flag to me. Like, if you're like, we should do something this weekend, and he's like, I don't know what my plans are yet, or, I should be around this weekend, but I'm not really sure what I'm doing yet. Red flag. Red flag. He should be, like, incorporating into, like, even if he's getting dinner with his friends or going out with his friends, he's like, he should be like, you should come along or meet up with us after dinner or ex. Like, stuff like that. Like, he should not be answering with, I should be around this week, and I don't know. I'll let you know. He's not gonna let you know, babe. He's never gonna let you know. He doesn't want to see you. Honestly, men suck. The more I read these things, I'm like, oh, they suck out here. This is why I go for older men. The. The. Okay, guys, that was a lovely little solo sesh. I love doing these solo sessions. I feel like they're therapeutic in a way. I get a lot out and even though I'm super high and all these painkillers right now, I had a great time doing it. But anyways, as always you can watch on YouTube like subscribe, comment, be nice to me because I love you all. You can also listen on any other platform. 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