Podcast Summary: Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder

Episode: Bestie catch-up: FOMO might just kill me

Date: December 4, 2025
Host: Hallie Batchelder
Guest: Lauren Fishbein

Episode Overview

This episode of Extra Dirty dives into Hallie Batchelder’s latest week in NYC with best friend Lauren Fishbein for an unfiltered catch-up session. Together, the duo covers everything from chaotic late nights, friendship-driven FOMO, seasonal depression, relationship boundaries (including monogamy and “monogamish”), sex stories, and their signature brand of unfiltered, sleepover-style girl talk. The episode is laid-back, spontaneous, and brimming with candid stories about partying, romance, and self-reflection, all with biting humor and honesty.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Late-Night Chaos and Bestie Babysitting

• Hallie recounts her wild night out, starting with a business dinner and devolving into a typical NYC bender with friends who “don’t know the meaning of casual.”
  • “The thing with that group of people—love them to death—no one knows how to call it a night and no one knows the meaning of casual. Okay, so nothing was casual about any of that night...” (05:15)
• Lauren reflects on her inability to keep up with their all-night antics, claiming she’d be hospitalized after such parties.
  • “That would kill you. Die. I was dying.” (06:11)
• FOMO as a driving force: Hallie admits to pushing her body to stay out just to avoid missing anything, even when exhausted.
  • “I might be that one case of FOMO where it might kill me.” (13:01)

2. Friendship Over Romance

• Hallie emphasizes her loyalty to friends over guys, even in party situations or on vacation.
  • “I’ve never left a friend for a man.” (08:14)
  • Lauren attests: “You have literally never left me for, like, a guy… you’ve always ended the night with me.” (08:36)
• On being private and misunderstood online: Hallie insists, despite internet rumors, she’s actually not as wild with men as people think and keeps hookups secret.
  • “No, like, I don’t tell you when I hook up with people. That’s funny. Not a lot of people know. I’m very, like, secretive.” (09:00)

3. Navigating Seasonal Depression & NYC Winter

• Hallie and Lauren both feel the winter sluggishness and bleakness in NYC but process it differently.
  • Hallie: “It’s cold, it’s miserable, and I want to execute myself.” (02:59)
• Hallie confesses to experiencing seasonal depression and reflections on her “inner child” around the holidays:
  • “The holidays bring up a lot of weird emotions for me... I feel, like, reflective, I feel disappointed in my inner child.” (18:21)
• Lauren humorously claims she’s “productive in the dark”; Hallie jokes that’s not how she spends her late nights.
  • Lauren: “I’m like, productive in the dark.” (19:01)
  • Hallie: “Yeah, not with my laptop.” (19:07)

4. Wedding & Honeymoon Talk

• Lauren discusses wedding plans and dress shopping (“It’s beautiful. So gorgeous.” 14:33) and floats the idea of a group honeymoon to Switzerland.
• Hallie’s take on bridal excitement: She isn’t “geeked up” for her own future wedding but is excited to support friends.

5. Monogamy vs. Monogamish Relationships

• Introduction to “monogamish”—couples who are mostly monogamous but occasionally have outside experiences with boundaries.
  • Hallie: “Monogamish refers to a relationship style wherein mostly monogamous couples choose to have extra-relational sexual experiences, often sparingly in with strict boundaries…” (22:08)
• Both agree open communication is key and it’s more about trust than strict exclusivity.
  • Lauren: “It's the hiding and it's lying.” (23:27)
  • Hallie: “If you trusted your man full-heartedly, like, with my permission, like, yeah, you could do whatever you want right in front of me.” (23:39)
• They muse on whether they personally could be “monogamish,” ultimately both describe themselves as pretty monogamous when really invested.

6. Unfiltered Sex & Party Stories

• The duo swaps stories about their teenage and college years, not shying away from details about movie theater foreplay, high school “road rally” competitions, and wild Vegas nights.
  • Hallie: “I used to give my high school boyfriend, like, road dome every day. I swear I still have a kink in my neck.” (33:54)
• Pop culture trivia (“Brangelina”, MET Gala themes, etc.) showcases Lauren’s lack of pop knowledge to playful effect.
• Q&A segment on sex positions, orgasms, and porn preferences, with Hallie’s signature blend of directness and self-deprecation.
  • “How to ride dick without your legs cramping up? Remember when we taught who riding dick…” (38:09)
  • “Well, I love being on top. I need to be on top. I would do that the whole time if it was up to me.” (39:47–39:50)
• Discussion on scheduling sex in relationships and how work stress impacts desire.
  • Lauren: “If I’m stressed at work... the last thing I want to do is have sex.” (43:22)

7. Sex Mishaps & Embarrassing Moments

• Hallie shares the story of an ex-boyfriend who farted right after sex, leading to shared laughter.
  • “...when my ex was fucking me from behind in college, and when he finished, he just, like, farted for, like, it felt like a minute straight.” (45:30)
• Lauren recalls being told she was too loud in bed, which impacted her future confidence.
  • “Yeah, my roommate said you were really loud. Like, that’s embarrassing.” (45:58)

8. Girl Talk, Fashion, & Upcoming Plans

• Outfit debates and fashion references (Rick Owens, Saint Laurent, Marnie boots).
• Lauren gets praised for her soups, which Hallie regularly enjoys in the winter.
• The night ends with plans to go out, hopeful for meeting new people.
  • Hallie: “I want to meet a man.” (50:06)
  • Lauren: “I think you will.”* (50:08)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Friendship Over Romance:
  • “I've never left a friend for a man.” — Hallie (08:14)
• Seasonal Depression Realness:
  • “The holidays bring up a lot of weird emotions for me... I feel, like, disappointed in my inner child.” — Hallie (18:21)
• FOMO As Lifestyle Hazard:
  • “I might be that one case of FOMO where it might kill me.” — Hallie (13:01)
• On Monogamish Relationships:
  • “It's the hiding and it's lying.” — Lauren (23:27)
  • “If you trusted your man full-heartedly... you could do whatever you want right in front of me.” — Hallie (23:39)
• On Sex Positions:
  • “How to ride dick without your legs cramping up?... I don't do that froggy. That takes— I might.” — Hallie (38:22)
• Growing Up Extra Dirty:
  • “I used to give my high school boyfriend, like, road dome every day. I swear I still have a kink in my neck.” — Hallie (33:54)
• On Wedding Excitement:
  • “Let's find a man first, please.” — Hallie (15:35)
  • “I'm excited for the fashion.” — Lauren (16:07)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Late-night party recap & FOMO: 01:10–07:00
• Friendship > men & secretive hookups: 07:00–10:00
• Holiday blues & winter depression talk: 17:54–20:56
• “Monogamish” relationship talk: 21:27–24:35
• Vegas stories & high school ‘road rally’: 16:33, 34:07–35:20
• Pop culture trivia game: 28:47–33:09
• Unfiltered sex talk and mishaps: 38:04–48:01

Tone & Style

Unfiltered, humorous, and confessional – the episode is raw and lively, balancing lighthearted banter with real talk about mental health, relationships, and sex. Hallie’s wit and candid self-deprecation blend with Lauren’s dry realism and bestie energy to create an atmosphere of intimate girl talk that feels both relatable and outrageous.

For New Listeners

This catch-up episode is a quintessential Extra Dirty ride: high-energy storytelling, raunchy detail, honest mental health discussion, and a focus on female friendship and loyalty above all else. If stepping into Hallie and Lauren’s world is new, expect sleepover-style honesty, sex-positivity, and hilarious—sometimes shocking—truths about life as a young woman in NYC.