Blocking exes, slut breaks & 2025 fashion trends

Summary

Podcast Summary: Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder
Episode: Blocking Exes, Slut Breaks & 2025 Fashion Trends
Release Date: June 26, 2025

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Introduction to the Episode

In this vibrant episode of "Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder," host Hallie Batchelder delves deep into the tumultuous world of modern relationships, social media etiquette, and the ever-evolving landscape of fashion trends for 2025. With her trademark humor and candidness, Hallie navigates through personal anecdotes, insightful discussions, and interactive segments that resonate with her audience.

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Unfollowing and Blocking Exes: Navigating Social Media Post-Breakup

[00:57 - 17:11]

Hallie opens the episode by addressing the sensitive topic of unfollowing and blocking exes on social media platforms. She shares her personal experiences of mass unfollowing, revealing that she recently unfollowed around 40 people on Instagram to maintain a healthy digital environment. Hallie emphasizes the importance of curating one's social media feed to reflect genuine connections.

Key Points:

• Rules of Unfollowing:

  1. Future Encounters: If there's no intention of running into someone, they deserve an unfollow.
  2. Recent Activity: Those who haven't been active in the past five years are candidates for unfollowing.
  3. Consistency: Inconsistent posters, especially from college, are easy to write off.
  4. Personal Wrongs: Individuals who have wronged her in any way get the block button.

• Blocking vs. Muting:
  Hallie differentiates between blocking and muting, highlighting that blocking is reserved for those who actively disrespect her or her circle, while muting is a strategic move to maintain peace without severing ties completely.

Notable Quote:

"Reject toxic energy, and protect your peace. If you're shit-talking someone in my orbit, you're getting the block button."
— Hallie Batchelder [05:30]

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Fashion Segment: 2025 Trends – What's In and What’s Out

[17:11 - 36:22]

Transitioning seamlessly, Hallie introduces her fashion segment, where she critiques and commends various trends projected for 2025. Her insights are both analytical and personal, offering listeners a blend of style advice and relatable commentary.

Fashion Trends Discussed:

1. Doc Martens:
   *Chic in the right seasons, but not suitable for beach outings.
   "Doc Martens are trendy and edgy but not timeless."
   — Hallie [18:00]

2. Bows:
   *Considered timeless but personally disliked.
   "Bows have been around forever; they'll stay, but you'll never catch me wearing one."
   — Hallie [19:45]

3. Baguette Bags:
   *A staple that remains timeless.
   "Baguette bags, like my sister's Prada, are always going to be in some shape or form."
   — Hallie [20:10]

4. Sheer Clothing:
   *Chic when styled correctly, though not universally preferred.
   "Sheer outfits are chic for the right audience but not my go-to."
   — Hallie [21:30]

5. Low Rise Denim:
   Trendy and chic for some, but not timeless.
   "Low rise denim is so cunty and chic, but I don't think it’s timeless."
   — Hallie [22:15]

6. Pearl Necklaces:
   Timeless when styled edgily but traditionally seen as prim.
   "With the right combo, pearl necklaces can be edgy, but alone, they're too prim for me."
   — Hallie [23:00]

Notable Quote:

"White tank tops are my uniform. They’re casual, elevated, and absolutely chic."
— Hallie Batchelder [25:00]

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Am I the Asshole? – Relationship Dilemmas and Honest Advice

[29:11 - 44:20]

One of the episode's highlights is the "Am I the Asshole?" segment, where Hallie addresses listener-submitted relationship questions with her unfiltered perspective. This interactive portion underscores her commitment to honesty and empowerment.

Listener Questions and Hallie's Take:

1. Needing a Break in a Relationship:
   Listener lies about needing a break to pursue personal desires.
   Hallie's Advice:
   "Slut breaks are good for the soul. Allow yourself that space without guilt."
   — Hallie [30:45]

2. Informing Ex's New Girlfriend About Cheating:
   Listener warns ex's new girlfriend about his infidelity.
   Hallie's Advice:
   "Let her find out on her own. Your intentions might not be pure, and karma will take its course."
   — Hallie [34:10]

3. Criticizing Boyfriend's Moaning During Sex:
   Listener confronts boyfriend about his unnatural-sounding moans.
   Hallie's Advice:
   "You're not the asshole. He’s impacting your sexual experience negatively."
   — Hallie [35:50]

4. Keeping Dating Apps Active During Vacation:
   Listener keeps Grindr active while on vacation with boyfriend.
   Hallie's Advice:
   "If you're in an exclusive relationship, delete those apps. Transparency is key."
   — Hallie [36:22]

5. Acting Out at Friend’s Wedding After Breakup:
   Listener hooks up during a friend's wedding to cope with ex's presence.
   Hallie's Advice:
   "You’re not the asshole. Your friend needs to enjoy her day without judgment."
   — Hallie [40:30]

Notable Quote:

"If you're feeling the need to explore with other guys, maybe you're not with the right guy for now."
— Hallie Batchelder [32:15]

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Closing Thoughts and Upcoming Adventures

[44:21 - End]

As the episode wraps up, Hallie shares her excitement for an upcoming trip to Mykonos, promising a debrief and insights from her experiences there. She encourages listeners to engage on various platforms and participate in future segments, maintaining her signature enthusiasm and connection with her audience.

Notable Quote:

"When you hear this episode, I will be freshly back from Mykonos, ready to do a debrief and let you know what I found there."
— Hallie Batchelder [42:00]

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Conclusion

This episode of "Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder" masterfully blends personal storytelling with practical advice, all while keeping the tone light and humorous. Hallie's honest take on social media management, relationship dynamics, and fashion trends provides listeners with both entertainment and valuable insights. Whether you're navigating post-breakup social media clean-ups or staying ahead of fashion curves, Hallie's candid discussions offer relatable guidance and a hearty dose of NYC flair.

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Transcript

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I, like, would love an emotionally unavailable man right now, actually, because I want to have an emotionally unavailable summer, but they should want to cling to me in general. But I'm emotionally unavailable. What up, you little fuck? Okay, guys, I'm doing something really fucking stupid right now. We have an emergency debrief situation. Hi, this is Hallie from the streets of New York. Guys, I had every intention of staying in last night. Bonjour. Bonsoir. Welcome back to Extra Dirty Weird Breaks. I am so happy to be sitting here with you guys for another solo episode. On my way here, I was actually thinking about this last night. This is so random. And I didn't know I was going to do a cold open like this. But last night I probably unfollowed like 40 people on Instagram just because, like, honestly, the ratio wasn't ratioing. And that's important to me. I know that's important to you guys. When your ratio is all fudge up, you're like, what the fuck's going on? But also, I was seeing some posts and people's stories of, like, these people are, like, no longer my life. But I always feel like, this weird guilt unfollowing people that I went to high school with that I know I'm never going to, like, run into. Like, let's talk a little bit about outgrowing friendships, because I feel like this is one an important part of life, but also, like, a natural part of life, but also a part of life that maybe is a Bit confusing. And I always preach this because me personally, I probably only have two to three, maybe four really important loyal girlfriends in my life that like, I'm a loyal person to. Everyone else I consider pretty much like arm's length acquaintance, like still friends. But like, there's only be a few people in your life where you can like call up in the middle of the night, say your car broke down, I need you to come pick me up off the side of the road. There's only going to be two or three motherfucking bitches that will actually get their ass up out of bed and do that for you. Okay, let's go back to like be unfollowing people. I was on a fucking spree last night and I feel like there's a couple rules of thumb I go by when I'm unfollowing someone. One, am I going to run into this person? Person? If I'm not going to run into this person, they're getting the unfollow button. Two, have I seen this person in the past five years? No. If I haven't seen the past five years, no, they're getting in the unfollow button. Three, do they post consistently online? I always say this is kind of like a write off. Especially when I'm unfollowing guys from college and they like catch me in person and I'm like, well, you don't post, so like, what's the point of even following you? That's like an easy way to like. It's like a write off. So that's also a good one. And I mean the fourth one I guess would be have they wronged me any way, shape or form, then they get the unfollow button. I'm so quick to block people these days as well. Just being in like the industry I'm in. Like people just troll me all the time. But I am a loyal person to a fault where if I see a video about anyone I work with, anyone I'm loyal to, any of my friends, it could have nothing to do with me. I will go through the comments of that video and if they're shit talking anyone in my orbit, I mean anyone in my orbit, and I click on them and it says fall back, they're getting the block button. Because that shit, no disrespect, they could love me, they could be like, oh my God, I'm obsessed with you, the best person ever. But if you're shit talking someone in my orbit, you are getting the block button. And I don't Give a I'm getting these DMS recently being like hey Halle, like such a big fan. I don't know why you blocked me. It must have been a mistake. I like love you. I'm like, I don't block people for no reason. I block because you crossed. You cross some line. It doesn't have to be my line but some line. And that's how I block people. But you know, people are just trolls out there. I mean the trolling on the Internet has gotten out of hand. The woman on woman crime rate is at an all time high. I don't think I've ever commented on a video of another creator or another girl saying anything negative about their appearance about the video. Even if I think it's cringy. Like keep that for your group chats. You don't need to like publicly comment for what to get likes or something. I think it's the most pick me icky as you could do. You don't see pretty girls doing that trolling on other people's posts. I really truly believe that. Like it's okay to keep your opinions to yourself sometimes. When was the last time you needed to go to a doctor but push it off Made the excuse. Maybe it's like your symptoms aren't that bad. I was like, oh, my headache's not that terrible. My toothache doesn't hurt that much. I feel like it's so easy to find an excuse to put off like who likes going to the doctors. It's so easy to find an excuse to put off a doctor's appointment. I think we've all been there. Booking a doctor appointment can just be so daunting. But thanks to ZocDoc, there's no reason to delay. They make it so easy to find and book a doctor who's right for you. ZocDoc is a free app and website where you can search and compare high quality in network doctors and click to instantly book an appointment. We're talking about booking in network appointments with more than 100,000 doctors across every specialty from mental health to dental health, primary care to urgent care and more. Appointments made through Zocdoc also happen fast, typically within just 24 to 72 hours of booking. You can even score same day appointments. When I first moved to New York City, I was trying to find a new dentist. 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Cancel CT mobile.com I run into people actually all the time that I've unfollowed. But like, I'm a shameless unfollower. If I unfollow you, it's usually for good purpose. And I also unfollow people that are like, you know, like, if my friend is a falling out with someone that I follow, I'll unfollow that person and then I'll kind of just like shrug my shoulders and be like, eh, you kind of, you know, I unfollowed you. I don't just unfollow like super random, random people. I also mute a lot of people. I feel like muting is also like a power move. I mute every guy that I've ever slept with. Fun fact, I've probably said this before. Once I sleep with a guy, they're muted on everything. And usually I'll like change their contact name because I don't even want to see Their name pop up, especially if it's a guy that I. That I regret. They're muted. Also, like, why are you posting on social media? Blocking during a breakup, I feel like, is always circumstantial. When I was going through my breakups, like, I would always block, but I would never, like, fully block. Like, they'd be blocked on one thing, but they would have access to me on other things. Like, I remember, like, my last relationship, I would block him, say, on which I think this is such a juvenile, like, my brain was not fully developed kind of move. But I would block them on, like, imessage and block them on, you know, Instagram, but I would still have them unblocked on Snapchat, and I would feel like I would know they were giving a and cared about me if they were going through alternative forms of communication to reach me via email, via Snapchat. If I was getting a missed phone call from a guy over Snapchat, I was like, so fucked up in the head. I was like, this man cares about me. This man loves me. And then we'd be communicating over Snapchat for the next week. I'm like, what is the difference at this point? I don't know. I feel like blocking still shows you care. I feel like the mind game going through a breakup is showing indifference and being super coy, which is why I mute when there's an end to a situationship. When I'm done hooking up with someone when there's a breakup, they're muted. They're not blocked. I'm not watching their stuff, so it feels like no contact where I'm like, kind of getting, you know, over the situation. I don't have to look at them. I don't have to see what they're posting. I don't have to see any of that. I mute all their friends in their orbit. I don't want to see them posting this guy, having. Seeing him have, like, a fun time. Because God forbid he has a fun time post breakup, post situationship. You'd think that, you know, his days would be over at that point, but no, I feel like muting is much more powerful in the move. I've, like, probably 400 people muted on Instagram, not just all guys. I haven't slept with 400 guys. But, like, I'm saying, like, in general, like, I just mute people once I'm done with them. And I feel like that's more powerful because it shows. Like, I don't even give a. To look at your. I don't care. And I feel like I know I like a guy when I start seeing if they viewed my stuff. I like usually put guys in my private story for that reason. Like when I start hooking up with someone, I'll add them to my private story. I usually end up taking them off because then there's like a new guy I'm like yapping about in my private story. But usually when I'm starting to hook up with a guy, I'll put them on my private story because I want to see if they're viewing my shit regularly. Because if they're viewing my private story, they're viewing everything else. It's honestly me, it's self inflicting pain and God forbid they like a story, then my day is made, you know. But yeah, that's how my mind works. And this is what we call mental illness. I'm looking at all the cameras. This is fud up. I just like wish men didn't have social media. It would cut out a layer of bullshit that I don't need. I don't really want to know what they're up to. I feel like ignorance is bliss. So when I see him like all over, you know, like posting stories or like, you know, they're in feed posts, I'm like, oh fuck, they should be in the office. I still think that they should be in the office crunching numbers so when they're 45 they can support me. But that just how I think. You know, you're fucked when you start looking to see if a guy has viewed your story. That's when I know I'm fucked, is when I'm like, oh, did so and so view my story? I'm fucked. So I'm like hoping he's doing the same thing. And when he sees that I have not viewed his story, then maybe he thinks I don't give a shit. And that's the whole point, right? We don't want them to know we give a shit. You can give a shit in peace and silence, but like you can be screaming on the inside with giving a shit, but on the outside we're not even viewing their shit. And that's like another thing that I'm thinking of now is like post breakup etiquette when it comes to social media. This is something that has taken me much trial and error to figure out because when you go through a breakup, you know, your first, I think as a girl, your first immediate thing is like, I have to look like a Instagram baddie. I have to post my bikini Pics. I gotta fucking hike up my tits, I gotta get glammed up, I gotta hit the town, hit the club, look like you're having the best fucking time ever. Not a care in the world. I think that is very, a very JV and transparent approach. Even though I've done that, I've been there. We have all been guilty of doing that. However, I think also the approach in the situation is to be coy, but not too coy. I would say go about your day, go about your normal posting tendencies, you know, go out with your friends. But also like, I think taking time off of social media shows that you're taking time to heal. And I think healing is a man's worst nightmare in a way. Because I don't think a man post breakup wants you to heal. I think he wants you to be in pain. I think he wants to be posting those Instagram baddie stories being like, oh my God, she's trying to catch my attention, she's hurting, she's upset. Like she wants me to reach out to her. I think that's kind of the energy it gives off. So if you're posting more like, you know, out to dinner with the girls, but like not out at the club and then maybe like being a little more selective what you post after that and maybe not raging super hard and like posting like super thirst trappy like stuff and like being a little bit more quieter in social media, I think it shows the guy that you're actually taking time to reflect and to heal and to like move on and that's not what he wants. And I think a guy's more likely to reach out if he thinks that you are actually taking those steps to get over said situation. Also, you know what I think about all the time? Social media for a guy and social media for a girl. Say you're a girl with 30,000 followers and you're a guy with 30,000 followers. I think it's so much easier for a guy to get pussy than it is for a girl with 30,000 followers to get any dick. Tell me why that is. If you compared the two exact same following, I would promise you that a good looking guy guy with 30k has way more DMS than a really pretty girl with 30k. And I don't know the math and the science on that, but it needs to be studied.

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[Halle Bachelder]

Okay, you silly motherfuckers, let's get into our next segment. I wanted to do like a fashion segment, like whether it's trendy or timeless or like throw in the motherfucking garbage. So I'm going to go over some things that I think is in or out or like, why the fuck is it even a thing? Let's start with Doc Martens. I actually think Doc Martens are kind of chic, but like only in certain seasons you're not going to catch me on the beaches of Nantucket wearing fucking Doc Martens. Although I have worn leather pants on the beach of Nantucket. I don't know that was happening. I think I was having a mental crisis that summer. I was hooking up with this old guy and it was just a weird summer for me. I did not understand the summer trends at that point. But anyways, that was kind of a, you know, a floof. Doc Martens are chic. I think with the right outfit in the fall, I think that's trendy. It's on the edgier side, but it's trendy. I think docs are trendy and not timeless. Okay. Bows everywhere. I hate a bow. Bows pissed me the off. I hope they're just a trend, but like bows I feel like I've been in forever. So they're probably timeless. I could see them on generations to come, unfortunately. But you're never gonna catch my ass in a bow, and that's for goddamn sure. Baguette bags, I think they're always gonna be in. In some shape or form. I love a baguette bag. My sister is a beautiful Prada baguette bag that I'm obsess to steal. I think they. They'll be always timeless in some shape or form. I feel like bags also become more timeless with age, if that makes sense. Like the bags that are trendy now will be vintage someday and still be trendy then in the future. I don't have a lot of bags that I care about, though. Maybe if I had a bag I cared about, I would get a la booboo I cared about because I fucking hate those too. And those pissed me the fuck off. The boo boos anyways. Sheer everything, I think timeless for the right audience, for the right person, for the right person that can pull it off. I think sheer is cunt free. The nipple. I think it's also very chic. Long denim skirts, is that trending again? Those are ugly. Maybe I just can't pull it off. But I think it takes the right. You know, if Bell Hadid was wearing a denim skirt, then I'd probably hop on board. I'm sure she owns a few of them. I. I think they're just trendy, though. I can't see that lasting forever. It's one of those things that probably will like, pop in, then pop out, and then like, become in again. I feel like that's how fashion works. Like, things just happen in cycles. Okay. Capris. I was just talking to someone about this. I think capris is also one of those things that has its waves and will come back in. I think the way people are styling them right now is actually really chic. I don't if it's timeless or something that will just like, you know, be in and then be out. I think, like, what last time capris were popular was probably 2006, and then again in 2012, and now here we are in 2025. I think it really depends on, like, how you're styling them. I think it's on the edgier side, but I think they're really cute. Like, I don't own a pair, but I'm. I'm not gonna lie, I've heard it. A couple pairs I'm on Revolve and I'm hoarding a couple pair. I might lean in, but I haven't decided yet. Tube tops, I don't like the way tube tops look on me. I think my tits are too big for them or something. They just don't feel. I don't feel confident in them for some reason. But tube tops, I don't think they're timeless. I honestly didn't even know they were a trend right now, but I don't love a tube top. Linen button ups on men. Hot and hopefully timeless. I like that, especially in the summer. It's giving, like surf lodge, Hamptons, giving European summer. I love a linen top on a man, but like long sleeve, I don't. Or short sleeve, I don't know. I feel like this is timeless probably. I don't see this going away anytime soon. Low rise, anything, hopefully timeless. I know this is trendy right now, and this is something I'm leaning into so heavily. I love low rise denim right now. Diesel's been my favorite jean brand, like, recently, and I've been buying a million pairs of jeans from them. I think low rise is so cunty and chic. It's like giving brat. It's giving and it's giving everything that needs to be given. It says a lot with having to say nothing, and I love that about a piece of clothing, but I don't think they're timeless. But for me, they're timeless. For everyone else, I don't know. Camouflage, I don't know. I think for a hoodie or like, you know, for like sweats or loungewear, I think camo is cute. I wouldn't wear camo otherwise unless it's like, like a, a mini skirt, I don't know. And even that, it's probably just trendy, not timeless. It depends how camo is styled. I think it can be cute, but it's not like my favorite thing ever. The color brown. I own so much brown. I only wear neutrals and like, I need to mix in more color to be honest. I only wear like white, brown, black, beige. I'm actually pretty kind of boring when it comes to my color palette. I think brown will always be in though. I think it's a nice color. So, yeah, I would say that's timeless. Micro shorts, I think timeless. They should be timeless. I don't think I'm gonna be 95 years old. Maybe I'll be pissed off at when I'm 95 years old if I make it that far. Looking back at the 20 somethings, I can still rock them. But I hope that I'm at that great grandma that can rock the micro short and be like, I remember back in my day when I would wear the micro short and all the guys would be hollering at me. Greats. That's the kind of gram I want to be. Pearl necklaces, I think, yeah, it depends also how you style them. I've seen people with like the edgier pearl necklace. I'm never going to be like the, you know, like a separ wife. Like, you know, like very prim and proper with the pearl necklaces. And it reminds me of like Bri from Desperate Housewives. Like a pearl necklace kind of very like put together in like very separate wifey. I don't think I'll ever wear a pearl necklace like that. But I think with a diamond chain and a pearl necklace combination on the edgier side of things, I think could be chic, but I don't think pearls are ever going to go out of style. I think it's going to be a very timeless thing. Pearl necklaces on straight guys. It's giving like love island. It's giving tick tocker. I don't know. I think it could be chic. Like if you're like a professional athlete and you're wearing like kind of like a pearl necklace chain combo like I just talked about, I think that could be cool. But if you're just wearing a pearl necklace, it's giving like. I don't know, what's this called?

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CT mobile.com and now for a fan favorite segment. Guys, let's do Am I the asshole? Because am I an asshole? Yeah, most days of the week in most situations of life. So when you guys tell me you're assholes too, it makes me feel better. Maybe that's selfish. Maybe I'm a selfish bitch for that. But we're Going to listen to how you guys are the asshole and I'll give you guys my take and see if you guys are or if you're not. Am I the asshole for telling my boyfriend I need a break? I've been with my boyfriend for about nine months. He's great, but I just feel like I missed out on a proper slut era. I told him I needed a little break for my mental clarity, but what I really meant was I needed at least two hot makeouts before coughing up forever. Am I the asshole for lying about my break intentions? Babe, Take that slut break. Slut breaks are good for the soul. We all need a slut break sometimes. And I feel like if you're having these feelings of doubt in your relationship, if you're already feeling like you need to take a break and just have some breathing room to make out with other people, to explore, to experience, to have hot girl summer, allow yourself. If you don't allow yourself that space, it will just build resentment. You're not going to be happy with this man. You're going to look at him every day and be like, I should have had that slut era. Also, I'm assuming you're young because I don't think anyone in their 30s or 40s or 50s is using the term slut era. If you're just coming out of college, have that slot era. If you've been with a boyfriend for like, he probably needs a slot era too, to be honest. And I think this is good. You're only young once and if you are feeling these feelings, act on them, it's okay. And you should feel no guilt around that. You asked for the break. You're not doing anything wrong. You're not cheating on him. You can do what the fuck you want. You could go outside naked making out with everyone on the street, Manhattan, if you really wanted to and you wouldn't be doing anything wrong. Give yourself a little room for grace and just fucking act on whatever you want to act on. I say fucking do it. And I don't think you're an asshole. I think you're a motherfucking queen. We also, I think we have different definitions of slut era. If all you wanted was to make out with two guys, I would just say like go to Marquee and do that. I think that's okay. I think a slut error, I think my interpretation of a slight error would be like a full on five guy bender in one weekend. And I'm not talking make out. Like who the cares at the End of the day, we're all understood floating rock. So if you feel like you need to get a slight error out of you, who the fuck cares? Do you. Also, I feel like I don't think you're lying about your intentions. It seems like you want mental clarity. But I've always said this. If you're feeling, like, these feelings of maybe I want to explore with other guys, then you're definitely not with the right guy, at least for right now. And you should probably just break up the guy you're supposed to be with forever. I don't think you're ever going to, like, feel like feelings of I want to explore with other guys. That's what I tell myself. But maybe it's different for everyone else. But I think that once you found the right. Mr. Right, that person, that partner, that forever person, I don't think you're gonna want to hook up with Joe Schmo at Bleecker Street Bar. I don't think that's gonna be the case. Okay, next. Am I the asshole for giving my ex's new girlfriend a heads up? My ex cheated on me. We haven't spoken since the breakup, but I saw he's now dating the girl he told me not to worry about. Of course. Classic. I sent her a message saying, hey, just so you know, he was cheating on me multiple times with multiple people, not just you. Good luck. She blocked me. And now I feel weird. Am I the asshole for inserting myself? I mean, I would say maybe, like, maybe, like, do you really give a fuck about, like, if this new girl gets cheated on by the guy you just broke up with? I don't think you. I don't think your intentions were probably the most pure, maybe a little bit of an. But on the flip side of things, you are giving the girl a heads up. Karma's gonna come, you know, around, I guess, to that man. He's probably gonna do it again. Especially these men. They just can't keep their dicks in their pants. They'll put it in anything these days. So he'll probably cheat on her, but I feel like I'm a true believer in, like, let her find that information out herself via her own experiences. I don't think you have to tell her because she'll probably find out the hard way anyways. That would be my take on that. It's always the fucking bitch that, like, they always tell us not to worry about. I swear this happened to me in college. I was like, you're too friendly with this motherfucking Bitch. And then they went abroad together. And then it happened and I was like, I knew it. It's almost like I put the idea in this man's head. The more he told him, I'm worried about this girl. I'm worried about this girl. And then he's like, I'll give you a reason to be worried about this girl. Oh, these men are stupid. I swear. I swear I've turned into like a man hater, which is someone I never wanted to be. But I just, like, don't like them right now. They're all stupid to me. Am I the asshole for telling my boyfriend he gives energy when he moans? He's super hot. We have great sex, but when he moans, it sounds like a cartoon character in pain. It fully drives me up. I told him, half joking, that his moan gives me the ick. He got super offended and he said, I am ruining sex for him. Am I the asshole for being too honest or is I just doing us both a favor? Honestly, I don't think you're the asshole at all. Because he's ruining your sexual experience. If he's doing all these weird moanings like he's a dying zebra. Okay? But like, sometimes let the man let out a moan here and there. Honestly, you should be moaning louder than him. Like, you should not be able to even hear his moans. You should be moaning so loud. But I mean, you were honest. I don't think you're really the Here. I used to hook up with this guy, you, Simone, all the time. And I called him out for it too. And I was like, why do you moan like this? Like, what are we doing here? Like, why are you moaning more than me? And he was so high. Like, really, really fudgeing hot guy. Maybe it was the same guy. Honestly, now I think about it. But I was like, he was like the hottest guy ever. And he was like, girls say they like it. Girls think it's hot. I'm like, babe, trust me, no one thinks that's hot. Keep your moments to yourself. But he was going OD about it. It was like, performative. Almost like performative bones are like, for the girls, not for the guys. So, no, I don't think you're the. And if you are, then we're both. Because I've done the same exact thing. Okay, next. Am I the asshole for secretly keeping my dating apps active while on vacation with my boyfriend?

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Hi, Hallie. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year and we just took our first trip together. I still have grinder we what? Oh, this is a gay relationship. Love. Happy pride month. Love that. Sorry, I didn't have context. I was like, why does this girl have Grindr? But honestly, slay, I still have Grinder on my phone, but I truthfully have not opened it since we made it official. It's like buried in the third page folder of my iPhone. So real. I only captured because I used to use Grindr when I was in a new city to ask locals for fun things to do. Mm. Fun things to do. Mm. I think it's fun and kind of just like doing my good primary research. Question mark. Well, when we were looking at pics on my phone, he saw a notification pop up and freaked out. I told him the entire story, but he's having a hard time believing me. Am I the for thinking he's overreacting? I don't think he's overreacting at all. I don't think if he saw a notification pop up from another dating app and you guys are in a relationship, I don't think he's overreacting in the slightest, actually. Because I'd be taking that backbone and shove it up your motherfucking ass. I would be flipping out if this was the case. However, this is a new relationship. I don't know, Like, I don't think it's crazy that. I mean, did you proact. I follow up questions, like, did you proactively, like, hide it in the third folder of your third app of like a secret folder in the folder? I don't fudge know. Was that purposeful or was that just like an oversight on your end? Like, did you just forget to delete the app? Or did you keep it for a reason? Or are you trying to have threesomes? Are you trying to have a little fun on vacation? It is vacation. I don't know what you guys get up to, but, like, maybe I don't think you're the. I mean, if it's a brand new relationship. I don't know, guys. I feel like I'm answering this very wrong because probably you should be deleting your dating apps the second you are in an exclusive relationship. But I do not know the rules in your relationship specifically. So maybe, I don't know. Am I the asshole for being unhinged during my friend's wedding ceremony? Absolutely. The fuck not. That's the best time to go unhinged. What? All right, let me read the thing. My ex was a groomsman at this wedding and brought his new girlfriend, which triggered a full spiral while the Bride and groom were exchanging vows. I opened Hinge and messaged a guy I'd been putting off. We hooked up. Later that night, my friend the bride found out and said I was being disrespectful to her day. Am I the asshole? No. What the fuck? She's being an asshole. So we girls got to eat, okay? In weddings. Trust me, as a single girl, especially if your ex is there with a new bitch. Like, what the fuck? Like, I would be on every. I would be on ebay, okay? I'd be on every dating app possible. I would be in the newspaper, okay? I'd be on Craigslist, Raya, Hinge, Facebook, Marketplace, okay? All the things. It's one of those days where, like, everyone's celebrating love and it's like, such a place where you just want a partner next to you at because, you know, love is beautiful. I'm not a love hater. I'm a man hater. I love love, you know, I love seeing people in love. The bride is up there exchanging vows. She has the man of her dreams. Like, I would be on Hidden Shoe. I don't think you're the asshole at all. And especially if you're triggered by your ex that brought a new to the wedding and is probably making out being all lovey dovey in front of you now. He will rue that shit. I think you are not the asshole. I think you're just like, a little maybe sad and lonely and aren't we all in those circumstances? I think your bride's being kind of a bridezilla and she needs to calm the down. Have a martini at the reception option and take a hush. Okay? Take a lap. She should not be focused on your apps at that point in time. She should be focused on loving her man that she just married and exchanged vows with. Sorry, I just got really passionate about that one, guys. Okay. That was so fun. Guys, as always, please DM me about Am I the. They literally make my day. It's like my favorite segment. I literally could do a whole episode just reading them, being, like, going over these. I honestly think we should do that for an ex solo. It's just. Am I the asshole? Am I the asshole? I think it's the most fun fucking segment ever. Okay, next. You know what something I am mad about right now is there's no men that just, like, want to fuck casually right now. My roster is cleared. I talked about this last week or a couple weeks ago. I believe just the lack of men in the city, that's something I'm looking forward to this summer is finding hot men. Whether that's in the Hamptons, in Europe, on Nantucket. I just like want to hook up with someone normal. It's not a fucking weirdo. That's a freak though. I want to find some freaky ass men with normal jobs. That's what I want this summer. And you'd think they'd be like everyone's saying that like New York is the place to find these hotels men but you, I don't know where they're at. You know, I'm on riot. Which I thought was like the creme de la creme of the dating apps. It's not. I swear. They're all AI. I don't think they're real or straight. There's a lot of men on there that I don't think they're. I don't think they plugged in the, the things correctly. They don't look straight to me. I'm. I'm not lying. I don't know where you find all the hot street daddies right now. In maybe at the members clubs. But like I go to the members clubs and by the time I get to the members clubs I'm kind of cross eyed and confused. Maybe had a couple too many martinis but that's something that's pissed me off right now. I don't know where the hot normal successful men are like just like not weirdos, just like have normal like nine to fives. I like would love an emotionally unavailable man right now actually. Cause I want to have an emotionally unavailable summer. But they should want to cling to me in general. But I'm emotionally unavailable. Okay, so my ideal situation for a casual hookup this summer would be someone that just like literally I can text without them thinking I'm like trying to date them just to fuck and that they can just leave after that would be amazing. And like they don't have. They're not trying to like go on dates, they're not trying to go out for drinks. Like literally just the buddy, like I'm not even gonna be in New York that much. Someone I can text when I'm back in New York that's like, hey, how are ya? Come over or I'll come to you so I don't have to do a sleepover kind of vibe. Like I don't even want to sleep over. I don't want to cuddle. I don't want any of that. I just want to pee in the V situation. That's all I need this summer. No in depth talks. I don't want to hear about their pet names. I don't even want to know their last name or their middle name, but just someone reliant. Only reliant sexually, not reliant for anything else. I don't even care if they hook up with other. Just don't give me an std. Get checked regularly if you're doing that. But like, shouldn't we all be getting checked regularly? I don't even know. But yeah, that would be my ideal situation for the summer. Okay guys, when you hear this episode, I will be freshly back from Mykonos, ready to do a debrief and I'll let you know what I found there. I'm really excited to go. So that's gonna be really fun trip. Anyways guys, as always, I love sitting down with you. I love doing these solos. Watch on YouTube like subscribe, comment all the beautiful things. 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