Podcast Summary: Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder
Episode: "Dating apps are broken + men are a dying breed"
Release Date: January 2, 2025

Introduction

In this episode of Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder, host Hallie Batchelder, alongside her co-host Graydon Cutler, delves deep into the murky waters of modern dating. Titled "Dating apps are broken + men are a dying breed," the episode explores the challenges and frustrations surrounding online dating platforms, the perceived decline of genuine male interest, and personal anecdotes that highlight these issues.

Life Updates and Personal Struggles

Graydon's New Apartment and Mental Health Concerns

Graydon opens up about his recent move into a new apartment and his struggles adjusting to his new environment. He admits to spending the past three weeks mostly in bed, sparking concerns from Hallie about potential symptoms of depression.

• Hallie: "I feel like that's a symptom of depression. I'm not gonna lie. I told you, I have to go to the doctor and get that checked out expeditiously." [02:04]

• Graydon: "I don't have depression. I really appreciate your concern, but, like, I love being in bed so much, and it runs in my family." [02:13]

Health Insurance Woes

The conversation shifts to health insurance, revealing that Graydon has only recently secured coverage after a prolonged period without it. Hallie shares her own lapse in insurance coverage, highlighting the precariousness of their financial and health situations.

• Hallie: "Greyden does not have health insurance. We live on the edge." [03:01]

• Graydon: "Yeah, but I'm... I'm 27." [03:11]

The Decline of Men in Modern Dating

Men's Lack of Initiative

Hallie and Graydon express frustration over the diminishing number of men who take the initiative in dating scenarios. They lament that men no longer approach women, making the dating landscape increasingly challenging.

• Hallie: "Men do not approach anymore. You'll be out at a bar and maybe I'm going to the wrong places. But no one approaches anyone anymore." [05:08]

• Graydon: "Men are a dying breed. I know I am one." [05:15]

Personal Dating Experiences

Graydon recounts a recent awkward date where the man he was supposed to meet turned out not to be straight, leading to an immediate end to the evening. Both hosts share stories of encounters where men's lack of genuine interest or orientation complications disrupted potential relationships.

• Hallie: "He was disgust." [05:49]

• Graydon: "So we were gonna go grab drinks... now we know that he's not straight because why the fuck would he be going to get drinks?" [05:19]

Disillusionment with Dating Apps

The duo criticizes dating apps for their inefficiency and the superficial interactions they often foster. They discuss the high costs of premium subscriptions and the frustration of not finding genuine connections despite numerous matches.

• Hallie: "I really only go there to make myself feel better. Like, oh, my God. Like, you connect with someone. Like, I'm likable." [09:05]

• Graydon: "Rya... I have probably over 20 referrals on Raya since, like, 2018, and they won't let me on." [08:05]

Navigating Alcohol in Relationships

Early Drinking Experiences

Hallie reminisces about her early experiences with alcohol, detailing how her first drink led to severe intoxication and subsequent grounding by her parents. These anecdotes illustrate the complex relationship she has with alcohol, balancing moments of fun with the repercussions of overindulgence.

• Hallie: "I had to go back to karate every Thursday night and Saturday morning." [28:10]

• Graydon: "I think we hit a jackrabbit." [18:16]

Managing Intoxicated Partners

The conversation takes a humorous yet critical turn as Hallie shares her strategies for dealing with men who struggle with getting hard or finish too quickly. She describes using her own vibrator to "humble" her partners, highlighting the often one-sided efforts in maintaining sexual satisfaction.

• Hallie: "Usually I'll pull out my own vibrator... until I finish." [17:22]

• Graydon: "Do you think performance anxiety is a real thing?" [16:58]

Reflections on Reality TV and Social Dynamics

Reality TV Inspirations

Both hosts express interest in reality TV, with Hallie suggesting a show based in Nantucket, highlighting the drama and vibrant social scene that could make for captivating television.

• Hallie: "They're like buying Birkins. It's just, like, so much fun." [38:03]

• Graydon: "We could just... The amount of drama that goes on in Nantucket, I feel like that's where everyone gets into the most fights." [38:46]

Summer Memories and Socializing

Hallie and Graydon fondly recall summers spent in the Hamptons and Nantucket, contrasting the serene coexisting vibe of Nantucket with the more chaotic Hamptons. They discuss the nostalgia for simpler social interactions free from the complications of conflict and excessive competition.

• Hallie: "Nantucket always wins. I mean, I'm biased." [39:56]

• Graydon: "Nobody competes on Nantucket. They just coexist." [40:28]

Conclusion and Upcoming Plans

As the episode wraps up, Hallie and Graydon discuss their plans for attending their friend Maggie's birthday in Boston. They humorously anticipate potential mishaps and conflicts, maintaining their characteristic blend of humor and candidness.

• Graydon: "We're gonna start off with some caviar and drinks in a suite at, like, a really dope hotel in Boston." [41:48]

• Hallie: "We're gonna have fun." [42:18]

The episode concludes with playful banter about their upcoming social engagements, leaving listeners anticipating more unfiltered discussions in future episodes.

Notable Quotes

• Hallie: "Men make things so complicated. I'm gonna drop myself too." [05:08]

• Graydon: "Men are a dying breed. I know I am one." [05:15]

• Hallie: "I just think that's a bunch of." [14:37]

• Graydon: "Have you ever dealt with a man that can't get hard? And what do you do." [15:07]

Closing Remarks

In this candid and often humorous episode, Hallie Batchelder and Graydon Cutler shed light on the frustrations of modern dating, the pitfalls of online platforms, and the evolving dynamics between men and women in romantic pursuits. Their unfiltered dialogue offers listeners a relatable glimpse into the chaotic world of dating in the digital age.

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