Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder
Episode: Exposing Myself my private story, toy count & intimidating men
Date: January 22, 2026
Host: Hallie Batchelder (solo episode)
Episode Overview
In this candid solo episode, Hallie Batchelder brings her signature unfiltered honesty and humor to her loyal listeners, addressing personal updates, answering spicy listener questions, and sharing her private stories about relationships, sex, friendship drama, and life as a NYC influencer. Hallie, true to the “Extra Dirty” brand, spares no detail—covering everything from her latest blowout and binge-worthy martinis to her sex toy collection and thoughts on intimidating men. This episode is packed with vulnerable confessions, laugh-out-loud moments, and raw advice to listeners, making it a perfect pregame listen.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Life Updates & NYC Chaos
[01:24 – 06:30]
- Hallie shares her “mini bender” week, obsessing over martinis (“nine tomato martinis” at a team influencer dinner).
- Reflects on public perceptions about her sex life:
“Based off this show and how I speak on this podcast, everyone thinks I’m getting my back blown out every night. That is not the case—I just talk about sex a lot because I love it, enjoy it, and need it to live. Okay, thank you.” (05:02)
- OCD is at an all-time high, but her apartment has “never looked better.”
- She’s aiming to “level up”—dress better, be more intentional, and keep “good friends.”
- Hilariously recounts a run-in with a guy from Dubai—ignoring his advances to rave about the Starbucks Dubai Chocolate drink:
“All I kept saying to him was, like, I was just raving about the Dubai chocolate from Starbucks. I was like, oh my god, you’re from Dubai? Like, I love the new Starbucks drink!” (07:32)
- Shares late-night limo escapades through a deserted Times Square and the group’s insistence on “Times Square, then back downtown!”
- Fond memories and some embarrassment about her 2016 “wild days”—accompanied by an A-List (maybe B-List) actor.
2. “Expose Myself” Q&A Segment
[10:08 – 27:30]
Hallie tackles probing and playful questions with brutal sincerity:
- Lying on First Dates:
“How often I exercise. If a guy is really into fitness...I'll be like, oh my god, I go every day...I also lie about having hobbies. I don't have hobbies...Living is my hobby.” (10:10)
- Pretending Not to Care:
“I should give a fuck about a lot more things...Judgment from the masses, possibly never having a family one day...Negative comments—sometimes they hurt. Like, I have a beating heart and emotions too sometimes.” (14:22)
- Booty Call Protocol:
“Having a guy over is rare...I got batteries for that, okay?” (15:44)
- Most Toxic Dating Habit:
“Gaslighting. Probably also jealousy/insecurity and masking that with being mean to my partner...Picking fights just to have good makeup sex...Damn, I sound like a mess now that I’m listing them all.” (16:08)
- Compliments that Work:
“When a guy says I’m funny...If you can’t be weird with me, it’s not gonna work.” (17:08)
- Family Fights:
- Christmas dinner turned full family brawl; Hallie describes being “terrified of my mother.”
- Being Honest About Men:
“Have you ever lied to a man about being impressed by his dick size? No. Why would I uplift a man for free?...He needs to know what to fix.” (19:18)
- Masturbation Habits:
“Usually at night. Helps me sleep. I am single and 28, so a lot of nights.” (21:31)
- Sex Toy Count:
“I would argue 15 plus. I'm not even lying...Four vibrators...butt plugs, whips, chains, handcuffs...I need to stop.” (22:07)
- Real Housewives Takes:
- Throws shade at Gretchen Rossi (OC) for “whatever she was up to” and Instagram activity.
3. Private Stories & Close Friends List
[24:50 – 26:00]
- Hallie takes pride in her “private story” (close friends IG), where she’s “funnier, more unfiltered.”
- Explains why she periodically purges people from it—especially college acquaintances who leak screenshots to Reddit:
“They lost privileges and they will never laugh again, unfortunately. Goodbye and go to fucking hell.” (25:46)
4. Intimacy, Attraction, and Relationships
[27:37 – 31:00]
- Unavailable Attraction:
“I do go after men that are typically emotionally unavailable...I think I have commitment issues and I’m scared of long term.” (27:37)
- Intimidating to Men:
“Men my age...are kind of thrown off by me, which is okay because I don’t want men my age anyway. I think men that are a bit older...are not.” (28:18)
- Intimidating to Women?:
- Hopes not: “We should all band together and just intimidate the men.”
- Reflects on how her RBF (resting bitch face) might affect first impressions.
- Dating Preferences:
“Would you rather date someone hotter than you or funnier than you? 100% funnier. I don’t want to date someone hotter than me. I just can’t deal with the stress of other bitches looking at him.” (30:06)
- Feelings vs. Casual:
- Hallie leans toward catching “feelings fast and hard” but admits the idea freaks her out.
5. Listener Confessions (Hilarious Hot Takes & Unfiltered Advice)
[31:00 – 47:30]
Hallie reacts to submissions from listeners about their wildest secrets:
- Car Hookups:
“Are you cracking in the Honda Civic?...There’s only so many positions you can do over the center console. But like, sometimes hooking up in the car is fun. Those were the days.” (35:49)
- Accidental Queef:
- “He’ll live to see another day. Guys don’t get disgusted by anything.”
- Married Threesome (with Mom in Hotel Room):
“This is some swinger-ass activity. It’s giving Nantucket vibes...But your mom adds a different layer here where I don’t know how I feel about that.” (37:40)
- Sugar Baby Income:
- Listener made $29,000 in 2025 from sugar daddies (“Snaps and kudos—putting up with those men is a job!”).
- Sleep with Friend’s Dad (hush money):
“Profit off it while he still feels bad...Get yourself a cute bag. Period.” (39:51)
- **Various revenge tactics, wild confessions, and supportive, blunt, and often hilarious commentary throughout.
6. Advice Segment: Friendship Betrayal in the Sorority
[47:30 – 48:30]
A listener is torn about exposing infidelity within her friend group:
“If you are a real friend to the girl and you know all this information…I think it would be lying by omission. I think you have to tell her to save that friendship...You didn’t ruin those friendships. She did.” (47:50)
- Hallie stresses accountability, honesty, and that “the truth always prevails” in group dynamics.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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On Sex Talk Reputation:
“I talk about sex a lot because I love it, enjoy it, and need it to live. Okay, thank you.” (05:02)
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On Dating & Intimacy:
“Would I ever go after someone that's in a relationship? Absolutely the fuck not. I'm not a sick, twisted, fucking worthless whore.” (27:37)
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On Intimidating Men:
“You look like a pussy and I do not like it.” (28:37)
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On Self-Expression:
“Living is my hobby. Like, can we just appreciate that and have some gratitude a moment for just existing, please?” (10:38)
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On Family Drama:
“Chad was so fucked up. I was so fucked up. Sammy looked at me the wrong way and I said, ‘What the fuck are you looking at?’” (18:10)
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On Haters and Comments:
“Negative comments...sometimes they hurt. Like, I have a beating heart and emotions too sometimes. Although I've gotten better...the skin grows thicker in this industry.” (14:22)
Timestamps for Key Segments
- Life Updates, NYC Adventures:
01:24 – 09:10 - Expose Myself Questions Begin:
10:08 - Answering Dating, Sex, and Relationship Questions:
10:10 – 27:30 - Private Story/Close Friends:
24:50 – 26:00 - Intimidating Men, Relationship Preferences:
27:37 – 31:00 - Listener Confessions/Reaction:
31:00 – 47:30 - Sorority Friendship Dilemma & Advice:
47:30 – 48:30
Tone & Style
Hallie is unapologetically real, irreverent, and hilarious throughout, answering even the most outrageous questions with honesty and a dash of self-deprecation. Her tone is confessional-sleepover-meets-standup—with a healthy dose of New York City edge.
For New Listeners
If you want to feel like you’re getting the full, honest, uncensored recap of a messy NYC influencer’s life (with tipsy wisdom and no judgment), this episode is a perfect intro to Hallie Batchelder’s “Extra Dirty.” Whether you’re seeking advice, voyeuristic thrills, or just a laugh, Hallie delivers.