Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder

Episode: Getting ourselves in trouble Tarte Trip Tea with Dylan
Date: January 1, 2026
Host: Hallie Batchelder
Guest: Dylan Gavage

Episode Overview

This episode of Extra Dirty sees Hallie Batchelder and recurring favorite Dylan Gavage reviewing the infamous Tarte influencer trip and delving into NYC influencer life, online drama, friendship politics, chaotic sexcapades, and a boozy rapid-fire segment called “Boosh or Flim.” As always, Hallie and Dylan pull no punches, giving unfiltered commentary on hate, hookup woes, girl group dynamics, and life under a social media microscope. Listeners get riotous stories, savage takes, and actual advice, all wrapped up in their signature chaotic BFF banter.

Main Discussion Points & Insights

"Emergency Debrief" & New Year Chaos

• [01:10] Hallie and Dylan kick things off with their signature out-there banter about getting into trouble. Hallie describes her night out in NYC that spiraled out of control.
  • Notable Quote:

    "Okay, guys, I'm doing something really stupid right now. We have an emergency debrief situation. Hi, this is Hallie from the streets of New York. Guys. I had every intention of staying in last night." — Hallie [01:10]

Friendship History, Luck, and “Code-Speak”

• [02:24–03:16] The duo reminisce about their friendship’s beginnings, with Hallie crediting her first podcast appearance for her recent success.
• They reveal they have inside jokes and refer to “speaking in code” on influencer trips (“flim” or “boosh”) that only they understand.
  • Notable Quote:

    “We were speaking in code that only we really understand. So, like, I would look at him and we make eye contact and we. Just go, flim or boosh.” — Hallie [03:04]

Climbing the Influencer Ranks: Doja Cat and the Kardashians

• [03:29–05:12] Hallie boasts about her new friendship with Doja Cat, sharing anecdotes about getting voice memos saying things like “shut the fuck up.”
• She details attending Kylie Jenner’s launch, being starstruck by Kris and Kim Kardashian, and the surreal feeling of being in rooms with ultra-famous people.
  • Notable Quote:

    “They just like give so much power that you feel like they're vibrating.” — Hallie [05:01]

The Tarte Trip: Tea, Drama, and Influencer Realness

• [05:31–10:47] Deep-dive into their experience on Tarte’s brand trip, discussing:
  • Online bullying of women influencers and the expectation of drama and controversy with the annual event.
  • Social media criticisms alleging they didn’t post enough content — yet there were no requirements.
  • Praise for Tarte’s team, who were “hot,” “personable,” and meticulously attentive to guest details.
  • Internal group dynamics, clique formation, and the feeling of being on “reality TV.”
  • Rumors (like Dylan being called “Snow Queen” for allegedly carrying drugs, which they set straight).
  • Best moment: wild partying at a beach bar and spontaneous ocean swims.
    • Notable Quote:

      “I honestly felt like a reality TV show.” — Hallie [07:39]

Dealing with Online Hate and Cancel Culture

• [13:06–17:51] Both Hallie and Dylan open up about dealing with mean-spirited online comments and intense scrutiny on influencer trips.
  • Hallie’s first time getting trolled, being called “disgusting” or told she looked like “vomit.”

    “People were calling me disgusting. They said I look like vomit.” — Hallie [14:19]

  • Dylan’s experience with content getting clipped, shared, and discussed on Reddit after drunken IG Lives.

    “I forgot that, like, people screen record, and then they post it on Reddit.” — Dylan [15:19]

  • They muse on how haters are usually just jealous, and how quickly online narratives spiral:

    “Like, they want us to die.” — Dylan [17:50]

Sex & Relationship Recap: Post-Trip Vibes

• [18:47–22:24] Hallie and Dylan pivot to their love lives:
  • Hallie says she’s ready for her “actual slut era” but laments lack of action and some sexual mishaps (“my hole is getting tighter and tighter as we speak”).
  • Dylan bemoans bad laymen; Hallie wants a guy who “knows what they’re doing and can manhandle me in a respectful, disrespectful way.”
    • Notable Quotes:

      “You want to be tutored.” — Hallie [21:56]
      "I'm not like a professor." — Dylan [21:52]

"Boosh or Flim?" (Rapid Fire Hot Takes)

A boozy, hilarious segment [22:24–46:45] where they declare items “boosh” (good!), “flim” (bad!), or “beige” (neutral):

Dating & Hookups

• Beach dates: too hot, flim
• Candle-lit dinner: boosh (“I actually want there to be a power outage in that area.” — Hallie [22:57])
• Getting picked up for a date: boosh
• Outfits: outfit repeating—flim, but okay if you didn’t get an Instagram pic

Drinks

• Espresso martinis: flim if more than one
• Shots: “I’m down for shots now... they really just love those goddamn shots.” — Hallie [29:32]
• Bodega roadies, bartender knowing your name: boosh

PDA & Bizarre Stories

• Public displays of affection: flim unless subtle
• Hallie describes seeing a girl getting fingered in a Vegas elevator at 10 years old — a formative memory [25:26]

Party Etiquette

• Irish exiting: okay unless you leave a vulnerable friend
• Staying out past 5am: flim, “ruins my brain for weeks” [31:15]
• Afterparties: boosh

Miscellaneous Takes

• Turning off locations: flim, “it’s giving pick me”
• Sunday scaries: Hallie thinks they're secretly good, Dylan disagrees
• Paying for friends’ drinks: flim (“we should find a hot, rich man to do that for us” — Dylan [35:32])
• Ordering for the table: “hot, actually, if they get it right”
• Observing versus talking: useful to vibe check new people
• Having a roster: boosh — “It adds character to your life.” — Hallie [38:12]
• Phone sex: Hallie says it was her “favorite thing to do” in high school [38:54]
• Drinking milk: “It’s giving sweaty boy at recess that likes Doritos.” — Hallie [40:50]
• Being early vs. late: Hallie is always early — “I have time anxiety” [42:06]
• Voice notes vs. texting: not fans, prefer FaceTime

Friendship & Making Connections

The Politics of Making New Friends

[48:16–50:53]

• Observe and learn about people before trusting—be patient and pay attention to their “isms.”
• Sometimes people you don’t click with at first become your closest friends.
• Don’t have too many friends in NYC/influencer world — “You can't trust anybody.”
• Places to meet friends: workout classes, going out.

Fun Anecdotes about Their Own Friendship

• “We were just parasocial friends.” — Dylan [49:21]
• Remembering first impressions and how well they vibe as real-life, not just online, friends.

Q&A Segment [48:16–66:18]

Orgasms and First Times

• Never finishing at 19 is normal; advice is to try different vibrators and watch porn. Dylan describes differences between male/female orgasms, including play-by-play on using toys and plugs.

Fixing a Social Slump

• "Get the fuck up, put some makeup on, look in the mirror, tell yourself you’re a beautiful, gorgeous woman that deserves to be seen by the general public." — Dylan [57:17]

Sex Toys

• Is a $300 toy worth it? Absolutely — detailed discussion of designer butt plugs.

College Memories

• Hallie shares about putting on wild apartment dance talent shows: “It was the most wholesome energy ever.”
• Dylan recalls wild frat-adjacent orgy parties, GPA struggles, and getting caught cheating on a test.

Long Distance, Beauty Favorites, and More

• Long distance: maybe, if the guy is hot and flies them out.
• Beauty Holy Grail: Hallie swears by Caudalie elixir spray and Peter Thomas Roth eye patches, Dylan likes Heels and Medicube.
• Sluttiest martini preference: “filthy daddy issue martini on the dirty bats.” — Dylan [65:48]

Notable Quotes & Moments

• “People were calling me disgusting. They said I look like vomit.” — Hallie [14:19]
• “I honestly felt like a reality TV show.” — Hallie [07:39]
• “I want a guy that knows what they're doing and can, like, manhandle me in a respectful, disrespectful way.” — Dylan [22:00]
• "We have moan, moan offs. And I'm, like, screaming and moaning and jumping. Like, my neighbors must think that I am hosting something illegal." — Hallie [40:05]
• “It adds and makes things interesting, and... makes you who you are.” [38:17] — Hallie on dating rosters

Overall Tone & Style

• Unfiltered, raw, hilarious, often sexual, and always filled with NYC influencer slang.
• Endearing vulnerability about insecurity, hate, sex, and friendship.
• The “Boosh or Flim” portion feels like a Gen Z gossip sleepover: playful, judgmental, gossipy and oddly wise.
• Both hosts are self-deprecating, supportive friends, and totally unconcerned with being “family friendly.”

Useful Timestamps

• [05:31] - Tarte trip intro & online backlash
• [13:06] - Dealing with hate; Hallie’s first trolling experience
• [18:47] - Sex & relationship catch-up
• [22:24] - "Boosh or Flim" hot takes
• [48:16] - Q&A: making friends, orgasms, slumps, toys, college
• [65:48] - Martini preferences
• [66:18] - Closing segment; affirmations and plans for more appearances

Final Thoughts

This episode is a gold mine for fans of influencer drama, real talk about online hate, and modern dating/NYC life — all with a hilariously risqué twist. Hallie and Dylan’s rapport is flawless: candid, chaos-forward, but genuinely earnest beneath the raunchiness. You’ll laugh, wince, and maybe even text your group chat “boosh or flim?” by episode’s end.