Let’s talk about kids, new boyfriends, & my summer plans

Summary

Podcast Summary: Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder

Episode Title: Let’s talk about kids, new boyfriends, & my summer plans
Host: Hallie Batchelder
Date: May 14, 2026

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Episode Overview

This solo episode sees Hallie Batchelder back at the “Extra Dirty Bar” for a catch-up with her audience—no guests, just Hallie in full, unfiltered glory. She updates listeners on her recent wild months: balancing New York partying with wholesome hobbies, her influencer-infused Coachella experience, stories from her dating life (the good, the icky, and the TMZ-invaded), and upcoming summer plans. The second half of the episode is dedicated to listener questions and rapid-fire “Am I the Asshole?” advice, all delivered in Hallie’s signature candid, cheeky, and self-deprecating tone.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Hallie’s New Routine: Balancing Partying & Wholesomeness

Timestamp: 02:00 – 05:30

• Hallie starts with her current drink—a matcha, not a martini—citing her attempt at a “brand safe health era.”
• She admits struggling to balance the high energy of New York City's nightlife with her desire for daytime wholesomeness: “I’ve gotten in the bad habit of partying a lot at night and then kind of being a hermit during the day.”
• Her new self-rule: “If I party hard, I’m matching hard the next day.” She’s into matcha, knitting, walks, pottery, and “maybe a sip and paint”—anything to “emotionally write off” the night before.

2. Post-Coachella Reflections — Influencer Chaos & Outfit Drama

Timestamp: 05:30 – 10:30

• Hallie discusses attending Coachella as an influencer/podcaster for the first time.
  • "Coachella just feels like at this point in time, like the influencer Olympics. And that's coming from an influencer.” (07:40)
• She critiques the exhausting logistics (walking, crowds, lack of after-parties) and addresses mixed reactions to her low-key, comfort-forward outfits: “I choose comfort over anything else. And I feel like if you’re comfortable, that is when you’re the most stylish.”
• Notable Moment: Her unexpected internet “scaries” upon seeing random TikToks of her kissing someone—“having your publicist email you press breaks of you like canoodling in a field with a guy you don’t really know, that’s interesting.” (09:30)

3. New York Dating: Fun, ‘Practice,’ & Unexpected Paparazzi

Timestamp: 10:30 – 20:00

• Hallie details a post-Coachella date with “Chase”—how casual dating is part of her “getting things out of my system” phase.
• On running into TMZ while on a date:
  • “He goes, just letting you know, like, TMZ’s here. And I was like, what do you mean TMZ’s here? ... Did you call TMZ? ... That kind of gave me the ick, I'm not gonna lie.” (12:30)
  • "As we’re walking in ... paparazzi were there ... this is so over stimulating. I hadn’t had a drink yet. I’m like, pretty sober. First date, paparazzi ... now I have a TMZ girl yelling in my face." (13:20)
• Unlocking a new ick: public attention on dates. “I should have just stayed home.” (13:40)
• Hallie reflects on her sugar mama tendencies—taking men out to exclusive clubs and "wearing the pants" in dating situations.

4. Summer Plans & ‘European Summer’ Aspirations

Timestamp: 17:30 – 20:00

• Her upcoming packed schedule: weddings, bachelorettes, travel, and plans to budget better.
• “I feel like my life is just getting more and more expensive as I get older ... once you go first class ... I can’t see myself going back to the back row.”
• Summer vision: “Very tiny bikinis and big boats. Tiny bikinis, big yachts, rich men. Do not disturb.”

5. Hallie on Dating Apps, Instagram, and Men

Timestamp: 20:00 – 27:00

• “Instagram is the best dating app.”
• Confessions of dating men she knows are not interested in her, for “practice.”
• “I’m not a great dater. Like, I will have sex on the first date without even blinking or thinking ... I kind of lose interest after every guy I’ve hooked up with recently.”
• Hallie’s friend setup theory: “I feel like if there’s a strong mutual friend in there, there’s a better chance of things working out. But that can be tricky too…” (26:44)

6. Listener Q&A: Honest, Dirty, and Relatable

Timestamp: 27:00 – 49:00

Questions & Hallie’s Answers:

• On getting with your boss’s son: “That job is probably not that important to you if you're ready to risk it all for some dick.”
• Freezing eggs and motherhood: “By the age of 30, I do want my eggs frozen ... insurance on my body ... I don't think I'm going to have kids until I am in my mid-30s, if that. But if you freeze your eggs it gets you some extra time.” (30:00)
• Her love for Uber: “I Uber literally everywhere ... We don’t like to walk. Like, I’m wearing heels.”
• Dating coworkers: Open, but notes the “conflict of interest” and how different lifestyles or banter can make or break a connection.
• How to be hit on at a bar: “The best way to hit on someone is to, like, hit on someone without even, like, showing you’re hitting on them. Just create good flowing, casual conversation.” (35:10)
• Relationship boundaries and cheating: “Cheating, to me, would be anything that you are trying to keep a secret, you know, or don't want the other person to know.” (37:40)
• Posting partners on social media: “If I do post them on my story ... that is not my man. I would never do that. Like, I'm never gonna be posting my boyfriend on my story ... that's a telltale sign I don't like someone.”

7. “Am I The Asshole?” Advice Segment

Timestamp: 49:00 – 53:30

Hallie tackles listeners’ most chaotic moral dilemmas:

• Setting up a friend with an STD: “You can’t control if a pee goes in the V … If she knows she has an STD, it’s on her ... you can’t control that.” (50:10)
• Checking out at a job before quitting: “That’s literally just being a human being.”
• Taking space from a friend who judges partying: “She’s trying to Monday your Sunday. She’s trying to ruin your vibe. ... I would take much space from her. I would probably block her number.”
• Forgetting friends when in a new relationship: “I would try to meet them halfway … Maybe shoot them a text if you’re seeing this. ... Make your friends feel like they’re still a priority.”
• Being icked out when men like you: “I feel like this is some sort of mental illness or something because I get really icked out by guys showing a lot of interest in me.”
• Responding to friends who only text when they need something: “What are you, a dictionary? ... Your friend sounds like a user.”

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "I want to be partying until my teeth fall out of my head. Until, like, every hair on the top of my head is gone. ... You can have fun at any age. Don’t Monday my Sunday. That is such a vibe killer." (02:10, 46:20)
• “Once you go first class … I just can’t see myself going back to the back row. ... If I’m crammed back in the middle seat at row 32B … I’m going to be a crabby ass cunt when I get off that flight.” (15:10)
• “I kind of lose interest after every guy I’ve hooked up with recently. ... I should probably see a therapist. That’s kind of what it sounds like.” (22:50)
• "Cheating, to me, would be anything that you are trying to keep a secret, you know, or don't want the other person to know.” (37:40)
• “I stopped giving a [expletive] so long ago. ... I’ve never gotten insulted by someone I want to trade places with.” (48:10)
• Blowjob techniques? “Just choke on that. That’s like, literally all I’ll say. And use your hands.” (43:15)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

| Segment | Timestamp | |------------------------------------------------|---------------| | Wholesome activities vs NYC party life | 02:00–05:30 | | Coachella as an influencer, viral moment | 05:30–10:30 | | Date with Chase, TMZ moment, new “ick” | 10:30–14:00 | | “Sugar mama era,” dating for fun | 15:00–20:00 | | European summer plans, weddings galore | 17:30–20:00 | | Instagram dating, post-first-date ick | 20:00–27:00 | | Listener Q&A—dating, freezing eggs, cheating | 27:00–49:00 | | Am I The Asshole? listener dilemmas | 49:00–53:30 |

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Episode Vibe & Tone

Hallie’s mix of confessional storytelling, raw advice, and unfiltered humor makes this episode feel like a late-night martini at a friend’s apartment—part therapy, part chaos, all authenticity. Hallie’s language is frank, explicitly personal, occasionally self-deprecating, and often very funny.

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Final Thoughts

This “Extra Dirty” episode is an honest, relatable, and juicy solo-session—perfect for listeners craving real talk about modern dating, friendships, personal growth, and truly living it up in your late twenties (martinis, messiness, and all).

Transcript

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I have my brothers on Delaney Row on. I've had so many fun guests on the show, but I feel like there's been a hot minute where we haven't just, like, sat down and like, talked about me. And, like, I kind of want to just talk about me for today. And we have a lot to catch up on. A lot has happened over the past few months. It's felt like months, and this is the first solo that I've done in the new set. So I'm kind of excited to just sit here with you guys, answer some questions I asked you guys some, like, what do you guys want to know right now? And I'm feeling like an open book today. Maybe a little bit messy. Like, I want to be a little bit, you know, like, let's get. Get into it a little bit. I feel like there's a lot of conversations that need to be had. So, yeah, we'll do a segment of that. We're gonna do Am I the today? But I thought we'd just start off with talking about what I'm drinking right now, which is how we start every show at the Extra Dirty Bar. I am drinking a matcha today because I am in my brand Safe health era. Kind of. I need to find the duality of New York City. Let's talk about that. I have gotten in the bad habit of partying a lot at night and then kind of being a hermit during the day. And I told myself, I'm like, it's. I can only emotionally justify partying so much if I do some wholesome during the day. So my new thing has been like, I'm going to find one wholesome activity to do during the day to emotionally. It's like an emotional write off to make it feel okay to party as hard as I do. I'm not going to party less, but if I party hard, I'm matching hard the next day as well. Or I'm going to knit or I'm going to walk or I'm going to pick up a hobby. Maybe ceramics, maybe do something with my hands. Not what you're thinking, but like do something with my hands, like pottery. Maybe like a sip and paint. I want to start doing things that don't always revolve around partying and drinking. But like during the day. You know what else is new with me? I feel like we haven't caught up since pre Coachella. So Coachella was fun. I mean, I discussed it a little bit on here. Not really. I mean, this is the first Coachella that I've been to where I'm like, I guess an influencer slash podcaster like I've been five years ago. And it was a lot different of an experience for me. It was also the first Coachella post Covid. So I feel like a lot of people went, but a lot of people also went to this Coachella because Justin Bieber being a headliner is huge. Let me just say, like, it was me and Greedon. We went with Unwell and we had a great house. We had a blast. We got a lot of good content, we interviewed a lot of good artists. But I will say this about Coachella, like, I'm not a big walker. I'm trying to be better about this. Like, I don't like to step. Like I. The whole time I kind of wished I was like on a magic carpet or like someone was just like pulling me like in a wheel. It's like pushing me in a wheelchair or something like that. Me and Green both don't like to walk. Or stand. Also, Greyden being 7ft tall, he's not the best person to be in front of you at a crowd at like a concert like that. I don't know, it's just like a lot of walking and like hours and hours of waiting to like get to the car. And like I didn't make it to a single after party, like, which is so unlike me, cuz I'm like the after's queen. But by the time you got to the car after walking around in the desert, it was just like mayhem. And I also always will say this, like, Coachella just feels like at this point in time, like the influencer Olympics. And that's coming from an influencer. It's just like, who do you know, like how many followers you have? Like, it's like kind of that vibe and I don't love that vibe. Also, I will say my outfit choices for Coachella were bit polarizing. I saw some commentary on it. Either people like really liked it or they were like, what the. This is even disrespectful to show up like this to a festival like this. Because I dress down really casual, like kind of similar to what I'm wearing right now, which is just like my rag and bone jean sweats and like a white tank. But I choose comfort over anything else. And I feel like if you're comfortable, that is when you're the most stylish. In my opinion, like this is what I felt most confident in. So why wouldn't I wear that? I don't feel good wearing like a string thong, like seashell bikini and just being like really uncomfortable. Tight, short clothing. It looks. It probably would look great on me. Like, I think, why, why spend money on buying tits if I'm not going to like release them to the world? But I just felt like for this festival I really wanted to like have comfortable shoes and be comfortable. I didn't know what the wind was gonna be. I don't know if it was gonna be hot or cold. I don't know. You're in the desert gets very confusing. But it was a good time. I shared a couple kisses and just kisses because I was like in the middle of a field. I kissed a couple people, honestly, just two, not including Graydon, but one of them, Chase the guy. I don't even know how to put this. Like, chase, I love you. If you're watching this, I love you. So we were like kind of like in the field in broad daylight with Graydon. We're just kind of like watching a set or something we're watching something really hardcore gothic emo band, I don't even know, but something I forget about. Like people like were like recording it and taking pictures and making tiktoks about it. And in my mind I just don't think, I don't understand what the big deal is. Like when you're scrolling TikTok and you're having a peaceful doom scroll, you just wanna like giggle and like watch AI fruit cheat on each other and you know, you just wanna like, it's a relief. Like a. Not a relief. It's like a mindless scrolling where you just can have a giggle for a moment and turn your brain off. It's kind of weird scrolling and like seeing my face pop up and this guy's face pop up. Or like me and this guy together and someone's like obviously shooting it from very far away. I mean, I've never really had that happen to me. That was definitely a new experience. And on top of having scaries, you know, like Sunday scaries, Monday scaries. I mean that Monday after Coachella was extremely scary for a multitude of reasons. But having like your publicist email you, like press breaks of you like canoodling in a field with a guy like you don't really know, that's interesting. But you know, it's all for the lore, it's all for the story. I ended up actually meeting up with that guy Chase. I keep saying his name like I'm really standing on business here. But like we did go out to. I. He was in New York for something, something with Page Six or something. And we went on a date. It was a very casual date. He was like, if you're around, he texted me, he's like, if you're around, I would love to go out to dinner with you. Like, I think it'd be so much fun. And I was like, oh my God, yes. Like so much fun. Let's do it. I'm kind of in an era where dating is kind of just something I'm trying out. I can feel myself as a 28, almost 29 year old getting things out of my system right now. So I'm kind of really having fun with like a bunch of different guys and him being one of them. But I will say when I pulled up to Shay Margot, which is I was like, let's make it the reservation. In my mind, I'm like, it'll be like super private. Like it's a members club, so I feel like it would be like chill. We could just like sit At a two top in the corner. And it was on, like, a Tuesday or whatever. I thought it was very low maintenance. But then we showed up in, like, he goes just letting you know, like, TMZ's here. And I was like, what do you mean TMZ's here? Like, TMZ doesn't just hang out here. Like, did you call tmz? And he was like, no. And I was like, you totally called tmz. And that kind of gave me the ick, I'm not gonna lie. And as we're walking in, paparazzi were also there, but they weren't obviously there for, like, me and him. They were there because right behind me was Matt Healey and Gabriette just, like, pulling up, and I was like, this is so over stimulating. I hadn't had a drink yet. I'm like, pretty sober. First date, paparazzi is picturing the people behind me, and then I have a TMZ girl yelling in my face, being like, did you really meet I Coachella? Did you really meet I Coachella? Now you're on a date with Chase. And I'm like, yo, back at the fuck up. Cut the cameras.

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What?

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So I was frazzled. You could see, like, I was, like, pale after that. I was like, oh, my God. I should have just stayed home. So, yeah, new ick. Unlocked. But I love Chase. All is well with him. We are good friends. And, you know, who's to say? Maybe we'll go on a second date one day. What else do we have to catch up on? I've been doing a little bit of traveling. I've been trying to budget better. I've been trying to, like, cut out my shopping habits and just trying to kind of focus on saving money because I'm really bad at that. And I just realized, like, my life is just getting more and more expensive as I get older. And I feel like I'm becoming kind of a diva when it comes to small things. Like, I don't even know if they're small things, but, like, travel, like, once you go first class Like, Delta 1, I just can't see myself going back to the back row. I can't. I can't see it. I don't want to go back to economy, so I'd rather pay for the experience. I feel like it sets the tone for the trip. Even if it's a business trip, you're getting champagne, you're getting food. You can lie down in a live flat. Like, it sets the tone for the trip. If I'm crammed back in the middle seat at row 32B or whatever the fuck. I'm going to be a crabby ass cunt when I get off that flight. And I'm sorry, I'll be a diva. I'll claim that same thing goes for Uber. Okay, I become a really big believer in Uber black, Uber comfort, Blacklane Lane, Amtrak first class. Like I it just. I need to all stop. I needed to stay in one place. So I'm trying to do that before this summer where I have about 19000 weddings and 19 million bachelorette parties. I'm in a few weddings this upcoming year, including my sisters and my best friends. It's just a lot of weddings at once. And it's also very expensive. And not only is it expensive, it's just a constant reminder how you don't have love with someone. You know like I get to. 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I want like a east coast summer that's kind of classy but also being kind of a menace to society on the beaches of Nantucket and the Hamptons. I just kind of want to spend a lot of time with my family but also just like really get out there. I'm now that I've tried a little bit of dating, I always tell myself I'm like don't go for the social media guy. But like I will say Instagram is best dating app. So like if a guy dm's me and he's hot and he has like a following, there's a good chance I'm probably gonna reply just to like see what it's about. And it's funny because I bring them all to Shane Margot. The hostesses there probably think I'm like a mega slut. In the past month I probably brought at least three or four guys to Santa Margot. I should probably switch it up between Sierra Bond or something or mix it. I don't know. But like I really like the menu there and they have really good wine and they're and it's dark. It's like very dark and sexy in there. I have been going on a lot of dates but like with men that like do not. I know, don't like me, but I'm just going on dates kind of with these guys. Just like practice almost. I kind of psych myself out and I'm like, I am at an age where I should start taking dating a little bit more seriously. But the men I take out and I say I take them out because I do take them out. I'm like, kind of like a sugar mama era too. I don't know what's going on with that because that is so not my vibe at all. But I'm like, let me bring you to Shaymart. Like they're not members there. I have to make the reservation. Like, I'm kind of wearing the pants in this situation. None of these men I'm taking out I don't really take seriously. Like at least a few of them I don't take seriously. And I have said this many times before, like, I'm not a great dater. Like I will have sex on the first date without even blinking or thinking. Like I do that. I've come to this place where like, I don't really even want to talk to them after that. I think I need a therapist. That's kind of what it sounds like. I don't think I've ever verbalized this really. But like, I kind of lose interest after every guy I've hooked up with recently. I just lose interest in right after because I'm just like, ugh. Like I don't take any of this seriously. I should though, but I don't think the guys I am finding are the places I should be like looking for them. Like, I don't know if I really want to find my like forever man on Instagram. I don't think I want them to find me there either. We'll see. I feel like this is like the one final because I feel like I'm been kind of a hoe lately. Not like a crazy hoe, but like definitely starting to answer some booty calls of past romances and just like kind of feeling like a free spirit. I feel like that's a brand safe answer. Like, yeah, I've been like super free spirited lately, but having fun and I'm single and I'm young and I have faked hits and people need to see them and that's kind of my vibe on that. I feel like what I should do is have one of my good friends that I trust to know, like set me up or something with someone. Because I feel like if there's a strong mutual friend in there, there's a better chance of things working out, if that makes sense. But like that can be tricky too because then if you get set up and it doesn't work out, like I've been set up by some friends for just like hooking up. Like, oh, you should hook up with this guy. And like I'll end up like getting into like a little thing with them and then it ends and then I'm like talking a lot of shit on them to the friend and then it gets kind of messy. But like, what's a girl gotta do? The guy shouldn't have fucked up on me. So there's that. It's always the actors that turn out really fucking weird. I've had some weird run ins with some actors. Really fucking weird. Those Hollywood guys are really, really, really, really, really weird. And they all ruin the friends to lover pipeline. Let's talk about that a little bit. I don't think I believe in that, to be honest. I think just as human beings, like if you. I mean maybe that's my emotional immaturity, but I feel like if the connection's there and the chemistry is there, it's not gonna start platonic and then go to a romantic connection. I mean I've, I've heard of that happening but like I feel like if it's with the right person, wouldn't you feel that spark, romantic spark, right off the bat. But like, to play devil's advocate, I feel like the friends to lover pipeline, I guess you do get a chance to get comfortable with that person and build a really strong foundation and then explore what maybe a romantic thing could feel like. That's what I imagine how it works out. But, but I've never experienced that in my lifetime. I've hooked up with some friends but like I blame Don Julio for that or Grey Goose or something like that. Like I don't think it was like we like caught eyes across the room one night sober and we were like, I think I feel something here. No, it's definitely fucked up cross eyed. And I probably thought he was someone else. Like that was just college days. Honestly, that hasn't happened in a long time. I don't tend to hook up with my friends now. I do have some guys that I hook up with now that like are my friends that I don't like. I have flirty banter with and maybe once in a blue moon we'll have sex. But I don't see myself ever dating or bringing home to my parents. That's like a factor I always put in because there's guys that I'll 100% fuck but would never introduce them to my parents. Bring them home, bring them to Nantucket. Meet the brothers, meet the sister. No, there's certain guys that definitely, like, it's a different breed of man. And then there's some guys that are just, like, funny, silly, flirty. And your drinking buddy. And then sometimes you have, like, the afters, and then he ends up, you know, doing, you know, handstands in your bed. Like, that just. Just happens sometimes. What's a girl gotta do? Enough about me. Let's get into actually more about me, but, like, also just, like, questions that you guys asked me. I put it up on my story, and I was. Was like, literally, guys, just ask me whatever the you want. I'm in a mood to answer every question ever. Maybe that was a bit, you know, one step over the line. But, like, I'm down to answer. I'm looking at them. I can answer most of these questions, in my opinion. Let's start from the beginning. Like, getting with your boss's son. How do you h. I think getting with your boss's son. I'm trying to picture that. I mean, that's a risky move. I think, like, if you're getting with your boss's son, then that means that job is probably not that important to you if you're ready to risk it all for some dick. I mean, I would probably, like, steer you against doing that. I don't know what the sun looks like. I don't know how hot he is. Maybe if I saw a picture, I'd probably be on board with it or agree with you, but, like, I would be careful with that. I get it's, like, hot and sneaky and, like, you're flying under the radar and it's, like, hot. But you could get in some trouble with your boss. Is the dick really worth a missing paycheck? No, probably not. But I bet it's great sex. Do you ever want to be a mom? 100%. And actually, recently I've been looking into freezing my eggs because I am getting to that age. It is scary to say, but, like, by the age of 30, I do want my eggs to be frozen in the freezer or whatever the fuck. I don't know how the process even works, honestly. Like, it looks like a scary, painful process. It looks like you're bloated and tender and puffy and. And I just. I'm so scared. But I do want insurance on my body. Like, I do feel like I don't think I'm Going to have kids by the age. I'm like, I don't like to predict that far but like I, as we're tracking now, I probably won't have kids until I am in my mid-30s, if that. But if you freeze your eggs it gets you some extra time. But yeah, I do want to be a mom. I actually really love babies. I'm one of four. I want my kids have siblings, but we're just, we got to work out the man sperm donor part of that. Because sometimes I'm like, if I don't find a man, like I still want to have kids, like I would probably get a sperm donor or maybe I'd like ask Greydon to like put a bag over my head or something. But yeah, I definitely want to be a mom at some point. Do you drive or Uber everywhere? I uber literally everywhere. Everywhere, Everywhere, Everywhere. I love Uber. I just think Uber is the most reliable. And also like I've talked about this, we don't like to walk. Like I'm wearing heels. Yeah. Like, and they're high. Like, and I've had a couple of martinis. You think I'm walking around Manhattan, it's dark out and I'm cross eyed. Like I'm going to get hurt. As the weather gets warmer, I am going to be making a more conscious effort to like walk places. I also think I need to be more careful about how I budget and Uber, they add up. But I do Uber everywhere. And if I had a car in New York City, I would be driving everywhere. Would you ever date Andrew? I mean maybe if he lived in New York or if I lived in wherever the he lives. Does he live in San Diego or la? I mean he works, he literally works at Unwell. It could be a little bit of a conflict of interest but you know, maybe like next time I'm in LA we'll get some drinks, margaritas. But he doesn't like to do that. As we discussed on last week's episode of Extra Dirty. Like, I'm like, where do you like meet girls? And he was like, I just like walk up to them when we're hiking. I'm like, I don't know if we'd align in that way. I do think we're very different people. Our ideas of like hobbies and fun seems to be a bit off. But we did have that fun, flirty banter. And he was a great kisser, so who's to say? But he does live miles, thousands of miles across the United States from me. If you're trying to be more intentional about what you wear day to day. Quints can help with that. You've got pieces that feel easy, comfortable and still put together. Quince uses premium materials like 100% European linen, organic cotton and ultra soft denim. Their lightweight linen pants, dresses and tops start at $30 and are effortless, breathable and easy to wear on repeat. Everything at quince is priced 50 to 80% less than similar brands. They work directly with ethical factories and cut out the middleman. So you're paying for quality and craftsmanship, not brand markup. 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Head to chime.comextradirty that is chime.com extra dirty. It only takes a few minutes to sign up. Chime is a fintech not a bank. Banking services for Chime card provided by Chime's bank part optional products and services may have fees or charges, stated annual percentage yield and cash back for Chime prime only. No minimum balance required. For More information on APY rates go to chime.com/disclosures Rank Ways that guys hit on you at bars asking for a friend the best way to hit on someone is to like hit on someone without even like like showing you're hitting on them. Like just create good flowing casual conversation. I feel like the tier underneath that would probably be funny like being like even if it's like kind of annoying humor like just being like light hearted and funny and Giggly and make it seem like as least creepy as possible. I feel like the worst way to hit on a girl at a bar is one, to either be super aggressive and to like not pick up on social cues. Two, flexing money, status, whatever the fuck that you think makes you important. I think that's kind of an icky way to hit on someone. Three, would probably be cheesy pickup lines. That's probably bad too. But anything aggressive or not picking up on the hint that like it's making a girl uncomfortable or like using thinking money is gonna win them over. I feel like any of those options are kind of asked to be honest. And I think probably in the middle of shitty in the best would probably be like offering a girl a drink to buy them a drink, which I think is fine. But like sometimes I will accept any guy to buy me a drink because I just have a thirst that needs to be quenched. But sometimes I just walk away. I know that's bad, but sometimes I do. I'll be like, thank you so much, bye. And then I kind of feel like a bitch. But he offered, like, what am I supposed to say? No, that would be alcohol abuse. Nuances in relationships and cheating. I don't even know what the word nuance means. I had to Google it. Hold on. Flirty DMS and texting an ex. Micro cheating. Seeking attention validation secretly. Like emotional closeness without physical cheating. So I think the nuances to dating and cheating, I mean, it's very dependent on the person. But if you're asking me, I do think there's a lot of gray area and it, you know, I've been in relationships where maybe there was no physical cheating, but there was emotional cheating, or maybe there was liking Instagrams of a girl that we've argued about. Or maybe there's secret DMs or you know, broken agreements or stuff like that, where there's a lot of gray area. Also I feel like really flirtatious, like party behavior when you're like seeing someone. I don't know, it just depends on a lot of things. And a lot of these situations happen when I was like kind of in intense situationships where like they're. The boundaries were already kind of blurred. But I don't know, I feel like cheating to me would be anything that you are trying to keep a secret, you know, or don't want the other person to know. Even if that's exchanging DMs that are pretty harmful. But like if you are trying to hide that, I consider that kind of Cheating, it's just deceptive and you're breaking trust right off the bat. But I mean, I'm so far out of this relationship game. Like, I don't even know what's considered, like, cheating these days. Like, some, like, some people consider like, watching porn cheating. Like, I don't care about like, a guy watching porn. That sounds. That sounds. That was probably the most pick me sentence that is gonna come out of my mouth all week. But some people, some girls do care about that. I'm just not the type. But I also am the type to care about other things. Like the liking of an Instagram of a girl that like, like we've discussed before would piss me the off. Like, that's. That would really piss me off. Or this isn't cheating, but like, trying to force, like, not force, but really bring up the idea of a threesome. Like, that really used to grind my gears with this one particular guy. I've heard some girls tell me stories where like, a guy just like, wants to keep a dating app on his phone, like, just for fun. Like, my ex boyfriend did that. I just remember some girl texted me or DM me and was like, hey, just let you know that like, so and so is on Tinder. I just saw him, like, he's been on his account, like probably in this past week, and I was like, what the. I asked that about it and this is what he says. Me and all my lacrosse bodies thought it'd be funny if we downloaded Tinder again and just swiped in the area. I go, you don't ever do that again. Now I look like a dumb fooled whore. Or not a whore. Sorry, a dumb fool and you look like a whore. Also, what is funny for that? Like, get a fucking hobby, go for a walk just for fun. You want to swipe on Tinder just for fun? Give me a fucking break. This is another thing. If my man, my man, my man were to get DMS from other girls and they were flirty, but he wasn't even replying, but he saw them, I would still want him to show me. I think a man should always be able to like, give their partner their phone without even breaking a sweat. Like, is that so crazy? I mean, it should be both ways, but I mean, girls are sketchy too. But I don't know if you're getting flirty dms from, you know, Becky, Susan and Jessica, and you're not telling me about it. I don't know. I also want to know, really keep my eye on. I always say this because now I'M in this world where like people, I just feel like girls want what, like you have, you know, like if I were to date Greg or something, a random name Greg. And I posted Greg on my story and then me and Greg broke up. Just like, I feel like Greg's value would already be higher, so all these bitches would be going after Greg. I would never post my man right now. I. I wouldn't. Like, if I have a boyfriend, no one's ever gonna know about him. Like, if whenever I post a guy in my story and I'm always like, oh my God, my man. Like, that is not my man. And you should know that I would never do that. Like, I'm never gonna be posting my boyfriend on my story. And honestly, that's a telltale sign that I don't like someone is if I do post them on my story. Because I'm like, sure have Adam. He's up for grabs. That's kind of how I look at it. I don't know if that's fucked up or not, but that's kind of how I look at it. Okay, let's go to the next question. Never had sex ed. Where can I learn? I feel so uncomfortable. Oh, darling. Probably not for me. I went to an all girls Catholic school, so our sexual education was pretty limited. Yeah, maybe talk to your friends and like, also Google is free. I'm sure there's some great resources out there, but if you are trying to learn anything. I'm not a sexual educator, honestly. There's definitely people out there that know what they're talking about. Do you believe in soulmates? I do. I. I believe there's multiple soulmates for different people. I think some people just, like, have real chemistry. Like, I have platonic soulmates like Graydon. Like, that's my man. Our souls just feel like one. He's like my twin flame. I haven't lost faith in love just because I'm like, aging. I just feel like there's a right person out there for everyone. And it sounds cheesy, but I truly believe that, that going out and drinking is okay past 25. I don't know why people think like, they die when they turn 25 or something. Something like, I'm getting a lot of that too. Being like, I'll be out partying with my. And I'll get comments and DMS. Being like, I can't believe you're almost 30 and acting like this. Like, do people just die when like, and are not allowed to have fun when they're like, Reaching a certain age, like, I want to be partying until my teeth fall out of my head. Until like every hair on my top of my head is gone. Which might be at the age of 40 at this rate, but like, you can have fun at any age. I don't believe in, like, don't Monday my Sunday. That is such a vibe killer. Like, you can have fun at any age. I don't know who's telling you that, but. Drop them. Drop them immediately. I mean, yes, there's a certain, like, as long as you get your work done and you're getting that bag and you're not hurting anyone and you're not really hurting yourself. Go out, have a fun time, drink a margarita, meet cute boys, kiss rich men. You only live once and then you're fucking dead in the ground. And you don't have regret. You don't want your ghosts to have regrets on this earth. So just rip it, okay? You're not gonna find any dick staying inside. I will say that. And I always say that to remind myself to go out. I'll be laying on my couch marinating, wanting Real Housewives of Rhode island, and I'll be like, I'm not gonna find any fucking dick here. I need to get outside. Sorry. I felt really passionate about that. Dating athletes. Your thoughts on that? I mean, I've, you know, blessed a ton of athletes like in my day. I mean, they're probably not, they're not great athletes. I would say they're tiered, you know, definitely bench riders. But I always say if they're riding the bench, they can also be riding me. It's those top tier athletes that like can't as much because they're busy, like doing like, you know, sporty things on the field. So honestly, it's a loophole. Just the bench rider and he'll have like a more open schedule to hang out with you. I've. I've done a couple athletes, but honestly, athletes are really sus. But at the end of the day, so am I. So I guess potato, potato. The art of not giving a. I mean, I stopped giving a so long ago. I mean, people ask me this all the time because I am an influencer and I put my life out there and I share my insecurities, my vulnerabilities, you know, And I am a type of creator where I. It's all very raw and honest and real. I highlight my highs, I highlight my lows and I'm very self deprecating and sometimes I'm an obnoxious cunt. But at the end of the day, like who gives a what other people think about you? I don't care. Like as long as, like I'm being a good friend to the people that I love. I mean a good family member, sibling, daughter, granddaughter, and I'm, you know, I have my ducks in a row then everyone else can the off if they have an opinion about me. Okay. I've never gotten insulted by someone I want to trade places with and I get insulted all the time. But that's part of the gig here. I feel like that's the price you pay for putting your out there. And if you can get that mentality and get over just the public perception, then like I think you'll have a successful career and yapping to the public. I don't know, like, I don't say anything that like crazy. But yeah, people definitely hate me. And that's okay. I sleep very well at night.

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Would you ever move to Cali? No, absolutely not. Single summer in New York City Thoughts? I mean, single summer in New York City. I've never done. I'll be out the Hamptons or Nantucket Babe. But I will say Spring is the prime time. That's when people are starting to do summer Fridays, rooftops, outdoor seating, having an Aperol spritz, a Hugo Spritz, maybe a Guinness, a beer. The vibes are up, the drinks are flowing, Thursdays are back. And just, like, the energy outside is just a little bit more vibrant and less. Less dull than our bullshit winter that we just had. My advice on a New York City single summer is to happy hour as much as you possibly can. Hang out in the West Village, Soho rooftops, Lower east side, Tribeca. Like, there's so many good outdoor seating spots. And just be open to meeting new people and smile more. That's something I also need to work on is smiling more. After my stint in reality tv when everyone thought I was a cunt. Like, I do kind of sit there like this sometimes, But yeah, single summer, Be safe, be smart, be cute, and smile. Blowjob techniques. Just choke on that. That's like, literally all I'll say. And use your hands. I thought we'd do a little bit of Am I the asshole? And hear from you guys instead of talking about me so much. I've been yapping about myself this whole episode, but honestly, it kind of felt like therapy. Like, a little therapy session. I got a lot off my chest, and, you know, sometimes you just gotta do that. All right. Am I the asshole? Number one. I tried to set my girl up with a good friend of my fiance and I's. Things seem to have went well, but I'm kind of feeling like I shouldn't have because they are in very different places in life. And she has an STD that I forgot about. Oh. And had to tell him. And now I'm kind of stepping back. Am I the asshole for starting something, or should I just let them? Well, you know, you can't control if a pee goes in the V. Like, even though you set them up. Like, she can get rid of an std. Like, that's just like, a couple tic tacs and you're fucking good to go. But, like, all she needs is an antibiotic. Like, that's her body, her problem. If she knows she has an std, it's on her to not sleep with this man that you set her up with to get tested to get it cleared and make sure it's gone before sleeping with him. Like, she can't. Like, you can't control that. I mean, it is kind of weird spot to be put in because now, like, does he know that she is an std? And you have that information and he's also your friend, but you don't Want to betray the girlfriend girl code. But. But at the end of the day, like, I would just have your fiance tell the friend and just be like this. Hands off. That's what I would do. I would just loop yourself out of it as much as possible. Have your fiance do all the dirty work, tell the friend that she has an std and then keep it fucking pushing and then send her to urgent care immediately, kidnap her and bring her to urgent care anyways. But no, I don't think you're an. I feel like you're just in a shitty situation. You were trying to be, like, a good friend and set up your girl with a hot guy, but she just happened to be STD ridden, so now you're just in a sticky situation. No pun intended. Okay, next. I'm in nursing school and I'm leaving my restaurant job in August. Am I an asshole if I stop caring as much? Like, stop caring as much at work? I mean, no, that's literally just being a human being. Like, I was a fucking hostess. You think I gave a shit about being there every day? No, absolutely not. I think everyone should be in the hospitality business because you learn how to deal with very difficult people, especially in Nantucket. A lot of rich fucking assholes you have to deal with. But no, I mean, if you have another job lined up that you're excited about, you're already emotionally checked out of this current job that you have that probably isn't paying you that well. So, yeah, I don't think you're human. Like, I don't think you're an asshole for not giving a fuck as much. I mean, like, how much can you really fuck up at a restaurant job besides, you know, a meal? If I'm taking space from a friend who recently texted me saying I need to stop going out, am I the asshole? I would take space, too. I mean, what is she, your mom? I think she's the fucking asshole in this situation. Let's be real. You're an adult. You're 25 or whatever, 26. No one should be policing what you do as long as you're not being destructive to yourself or other people. Like, if you want to go out, you can go out, babe. I don't. She's trying to Monday your Sunday. She's trying to ruin your vibe. I hate people that do this, that try to, like, put their two cents in as if they're, like, wiser than me, which is, like, maybe they are. But I can do whatever the hell I want any day I want. And it's no one's business but mine. So she should, like, maybe live a little and start focusing on herself instead of, you know, what you're up to in the evenings. Oh, that would piss me off. I would take space from her. I would take a lot of space from her. I would probably block her number. Like, that's just a vibe killer. Let's deal with that. I forgot about my friends because I got into a relationship. Yeah, I would probably say you're a bit of an. But I get it sometimes when you are, especially if you're in, like, the honeymoon phase of things and things are so new and exciting, you just, like, want to be around that person, like, 24 7. Yeah, I can see how, like, you get caught up in that. But I'm assuming you're young and I'm assuming your friends are probably calling you out on it. I would just try to meet them halfway or try to figure out a setting where, like, you can all hang out together, you know? Like, I hang out with my friends, fiance's and boyfriends all the time, with the mayor, obviously, but, like, all the time. And we're just like, one big friend group. And that's the way it should be. Like, they should get to know each other so you can just bring them around more. But, yeah, I would remember your friends. Maybe shoot them a text if you're seeing this. Maybe just say, hey, miss you, love you. Make dinner plans. Make your friends feel like they're also still a priority in your life and not, like, you know, last week's news because you have a new man. But that would just be my advice. This guy really likes me and is really hot. But, like, because he likes me, I don't want him. Girl, me and you both. I don't know what's good with me. I feel like this is some sort of mental illness or something because I get really icked out by guys showing a lot of interest in me. And I don't know if that's something wrong with my wiring or if it's immaturity or if the guy's actually generally just, like, coming on to, like, too strong. Because that can be a lot of the kid. Like, a lot of times guys just, like, pump the brakes, yo. Like, it's too much. It's like you want a little mystery. Especially at the beginning phases. It helps you figure out if you're, like, really interested in someone or not. Because if a guy is just giving everything to you and, like, the most of him and all this information, like, what questions do you have left to ask him? Like, it's just too much and overwhelming, especially for someone like me and you who maybe, like, gets a bit overstimulated with that kind of stuff. It can just be all too much at once. So. I don't think you're an asshole. I think you're just a girl in this big, big world. My friend only texts me when she needs things, so I just stop answering. Am I the asshole? No, your friend's a. Because, like, what. What are you, a dictionary? I hate friends like this because it's just so transparent. It's like I can see through you. Like, that's not how a friend should be valued. As a Google machine or as, like, a serv. Like, I don't know. I just don't. I don't. Your friend sounds like a user. I had friends like that back in the day. But, like, they kind of weed themselves out eventually. Once your frontal lobe starts to develop and they find other people that they need things from dependent on that phase of life that they're in. So they'll probably end up weeding themselves out. But I get it. That's a shitty scenario to be in. My best friend truly picks the worst men, so I never say anything nice about them to her. Am I the asshole? I mean, you're just being honest. I mean, she's probably gonna think you're an. Because you're talking about, you know, the dicks that she's blessing. But, I mean, I don't know. Like, I would have to really, like, know these people to understand the situation. Because sometimes, like, people also get, like, jealous when their guy, when their best girlfriend goes off with, like, another guy, and, like, they get jealous, so they just start talking about that guy. I feel like that's also pretty common. So I. I don't know exactly how to answer this one, but if she actually is truly picking the worst fucking men possible and you're just saying how it is, like, no, you're not an. And she needs to stop being assholes. Okay. I went on a first date and had sex with him with another man's hickey on my neck. No, I mean, this happened to me recently, but it was a lot worse of a situation. I was hooking up with someone. We didn't have sex, but, like, we were definitely, like, doing at my apartment, and he had to go because of something. So I invited another guy over. After he left, I was like, bye. I was like, you can come over now. I kind of felt bad about it, but I didn't Because I ended up like blacking in. I was pretty drunk at that point. I blacked in. I was like, yo, like, this second guy needs to go. Like, I'm gonna have the worst scaries tomorrow if I go through any of this. And he was also kind of chopped. So like, I was like, this is not it. But no, this is just like that happens sometimes. I mean, I was on a first day and had sex with them and another man's hickey on my neck, like that's what foundation cover ups for. So just get some like, nice like tart cover up and just like really soak it in on your neck. Also, like, hickeys are crazy this day and age. I also love hickeys. I get it. But I mean, who is, you know, claiming like, that's like a real, like, I claim you. It's like kind of like peeing on. It's like a dog peeing on you in a way. So I feel like guys do that on purpose sometimes just so you don't go out and get with other people. But I guess not us. It seems like that theory didn't work. Well, anyways, guys, this is such a fun solo episode. I do love sitting here and I feel like I'm gonna mix more of these solo episodes in as well as having more guests on. I would love to know from you guys what guests you would like to see on the show. You can just like leave that in the comment section or DM me or anything. I tend to read everything, so just let me know. But I definitely love doing these solo sessions just because I feel like it gives me a chance to like, connect with you guys and hear what you have to say. I love the am I the asshole? Segments. I love answering your guys's questions and it just feels like kind of like girl chat and I love that. So anyways, I will see you all next week. As always, you can watch on YouTube and listen to me on any other platform. And I love you guys so much and kisses and have the best weekend ever. Bye.

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