Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder – Episode Summary
Episode Title: Why men lose interest, k*nks, & having a roster solo!
Host: Hallie Batchelder
Date: December 11, 2025
Episode Overview
In this unfiltered solo episode, Hallie Batchelder sits down—no besties this week!—for a candid one-on-one with her listeners. She goes deep (and dirty) on her Thanksgiving escapades, reflects on navigating early adulthood in NYC, then launches into a no-holds-barred Q&A about sex, dating, kinks, and modern relationships. Plus, she revives her fan-favorite "Am I the Asshole?" segment with outrageous listener confessions. Hallie keeps it refreshingly blunt, laced with her trademark humor, oversharing, and self-deprecation.
Catch-Up: Thanksgiving, Blackout Wednesday, and Life in NYC
Timestamps: [01:29] – [09:15]
- Hallie starts with a chaotic post-Thanksgiving recap, confessing to intentions of a chill night, but being instantly swayed to go out when the "should we go out?" text hit.
- “As soon as that text hit around 9pm... I can't say no. I'm really bad at saying no. It's gonna be one of my New Year's resolutions, to be better at saying no.” [03:40]
- Details her infamous Blackout Wednesday, including a wild hookup confession (“I did eat this guy’s ass the other week on Blackout Wednesday… on accident. This is why it gets bad when I say ‘yes’ to everything.” [05:05])
- Reflects on the exhaustion and chaos of influencer life—mentioning endless events, family milestones (her sister’s engagement), and differences between siblings:
- “She’s my beautiful, sober Pilates instructor and I’m the drunko wench. Two different paths, but we still love and appreciate each other.” [07:11]
- Excitement for her upcoming “Tripping with Tarte” trip in Turks and Caicos—a mark of influencer achievement.
Sex & Relationships – Q&A Segment
Timestamps: [11:42] – [35:13]
Hallie answers anonymous listener questions with unfiltered opinions, humor, and plenty of personal anecdotes.
Why Do Men Lose Interest After Sex?
- Claims the “post-nut clarity” phenomenon is about them, not you.
- “Men lose interest after sex because it’s a them problem, not an us problem… If a guy doesn’t want to see you after you hook up, he’s not your man. Bye. Let the trash take itself out.” [12:45]
- Attributes it to “the chase” appeal, emotional immaturity, and possibly sexuality.
- “I think a lot of men are gay.” [12:11]
How to Tell if He's Good in Bed or Just Confident?
- “Cockiness will get you nowhere. You have to listen and be receptive to what the woman wants. That takes a lot of learning and practice.” [14:35]
- Confides she’s often mistaken mediocre sex for good because she liked the guy.
Kinks – What’s Normal? What’s Not?
- Everyday “baby kinks” (like light choking) are common. More extreme kinks should be discussed and need consent.
- Tells a story: “The guy with the baby voice… I did not like that one. I did not give him my consent to act like that.” [15:57]
- Mentions knowing a billionaire “furry” with a wild roleplay preference.
- On boundaries: “It’s okay to say no to that… Like, that’s not something normal I’ve seen, ever.” [17:04]
Oral Sex – Do Guys Actually Like It?
- “I think most guys love, love, love, love it… That can actually turn someone on in itself. That's like half the reason why I like giving head.” [17:56]
Finishing & Orgasms
- Normal for women to not finish every time: “You have to be in tune with your body. And also be comfortable with whoever you’re hooking up with.” [19:08]
- Recommends communication and using vibrators.
Morning Sex
- Claims it’s just biology: “They literally got a fucking tripod between their legs when they wake up due to biology. And that’s on period.” [20:24]
Body Count – Does It Matter?
- “A secure man really won’t give a fuck about your past… Why is he asking these questions? Mind your fucking business and buy me a dirty martini.” [21:20]
Porn – Green Flag or Red Flag?
- “If you watch too much porn, it desensitizes you to sex. That’s kind of dangerous in my opinion.” [22:36]
Sex Duration & Stamina
- Suggests 9–20 minutes is the norm (“Perfect for me, honestly, sober…” [24:38])
- Cites stats: average for women, 13.4 minutes; for men, 5.4 minutes.
Fantasizing About Others During Sex
- Admits to doing it sometimes, mostly to get over old situationships. “Is that normal or healthy? I don’t know… but I’m not gonna lie to you.” [27:52]
Secret Guy Preferences
- “What do you guys secretly want but never ask for? Free to like, suck on their balls and eat their ass. But like, they all secretly want it. I swear.” [29:30]
- Also claims guys secretly love being the little spoon sometimes.
Sex Toys & Insecure Men
- “If a man is thrown off or doesn’t want toys in the bedroom, he’s a… No offense, but offense.” [30:13]
- On college hookups: “You’re rubbing my kneecaps. What are we doing here? I got class. I got places to be. No.” [30:39]
Choking & Rough Play
- “There’s like, a wave of adrenaline that helps you finish quicker… It’s hot. I’m into like light choking or heavy choking. Honestly, there’s been a few times I’ve almost passed out. Wouldn’t say do that.” [31:08]
Nude Etiquette in 2025
- “No unsolicited—anything! That goes for boys and girls… be careful.” [32:05]
- Recalls the trauma of leaking her email and being spammed with explicit photos.
Roster Rules – Is It Okay to Have One?
- “Always have a roster. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket… I am guilty of doing this at all times.” [35:15]
- Advises rosters are for the “busy, detached, no sleepover, no pillow talk” phase.
Notable Quotes
- “Men aren’t that smart… They’re pretty black and white.” [13:43]
- “Sisters—it’s kind of a beautiful thing… Two different paths, but we still love each other.” [07:11]
- “Porn is like, not real sex. It doesn’t like, look like that. It’s a lot messier and dirtier and grungier in my opinion.” [22:57]
Segment: Am I the Asshole?
Timestamps: [35:13] – [46:35]
Hallie reads and reacts to outlandish listener confessions, rating their “asshole” status and sharing personal experiences and hot takes.
Highlights & Memorable Moments
- Gaslighting a guy into believing he gave her chlamydia (she admits she would've done the same thing to save face):
- “You both had chlamydia. You both had to take the same pill to get rid of it… whatever.” [37:52]
- Lying to a gullible roommate as a prank:
- “She needs to get a grip because the real world out there is tough… this is just playful and funny.” [38:03]
- Turning off by a guy’s emotional support relationship with his dog:
- “Like, is this guy able to travel without his dog? Is the dog in the room when you have sex? That’s happened to me, and I really didn’t like that.” [39:40]
- Making an ex sleep at the foot of the bed like a dog:
- “I’d have made him sleep on the roof… Letting him sleep at the foot is kindness.” [42:07]
- Ending things with an ex on his birthday and July 4th:
- “Who gives a fuck about the 4th unless it means a lot to him… Sometimes birthdays bring up a lot of emotions and reflection.” [43:21]
- Blaming a clogged toilet on a six-year-old (as the nanny):
- “That’s just an easy cop out… They’re taking shits all day anyway.” [44:20]
- Sexting an ex’s dad; Hallie demands more context, calls it a “power move”:
- “This is checkmate. This is a bold ass move… I need more context!” [44:46]
- Admits to imagining sex with someone else for months at the end of a relationship:
- “If you’re picturing other guys while you’re boning another one... run for the hills. But it happens!” [46:01]
Closing Thoughts
- Hallie invites listeners to keep submitting wild confessions and questions:
- “Whenever you feel like the asshole, just DM my account… I read everything for the show.” [46:35]
- Playful sign-off: “Enjoy the holidays, and I will see you next week. Kisses. Bye." [end]
Standout Quotes
- "I’m never going to lie to you. My opinions might be wrong sometimes or bad or tainted or, like, kind of fucked up. But I’m not gonna sit here on my show and lie to you guys." [27:52]
- “Girlhood in your 20s, you just gotta lean in and accept it… we’re probably gonna do it again because this is just part of it.” [32:51]
Episode Structure Quick Reference
| Segment | Key Topics Covered | Notable Timestamps | |-------------------------------|--------------------------------------------------|-----------------------| | Thanksgiving/Early Catch-Up | Blackout Wednesday, family, life updates | 01:29 – 09:15 | | Sex & Relationships Q&A | “Why men lose interest”, kinks, porn, toys, rosters | 11:42 – 35:13 | | Am I the Asshole? | Listener confessions, Hallie’s judgments | 35:13 – 46:35 |
Tone & Style
Hallie maintains her signature, unfiltered, sleepover-with-the-girls voice—bold, funny, a little raunchy but relatable. She is deeply self-aware, poking fun at herself and her choices, while always encouraging listeners to own their experiences unapologetically.