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Family Brand: Take Back Your Family
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We at Family Brand want to raise a war cry to families everywhere. Now is the time to TAKE BACK YOUR FAMILY. Develop a family culture where relationships last, and each member of the family is seen and valued for who they are. It is absolutely possible to raise a family today without fear of the future. Define who you are as a family, and what you stand for. Stop looking at the future with fear and uncertainty and start looking forward with a possibility of more. More love. More joy. More connection. More resolve. The world needs strong families now more than ever. Let us show you how.
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258. Rethinking Education: Finding the Right Path for Your Child with Expert Guest Tate Smith
3d ago00:25:20Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast! Today is a fun one because we're recording from an Airbnb in Istanbul with a very special guest—our son, Tate. After spending a week with incredible families on our Family Brand retreat in Croatia, we decided to extend our trip and let our kids help choose the next adventure. Somehow, that led us here to Turkey, which also felt like the perfect place to have a conversation we've wanted to record for a long time: homeschooling, education, and what it looks like to create a learning path that's unique to your child. Over the last few years, we've had so many parents ask us about homeschooling. Not because they know they want to do it, but because they're wondering if there's another option besides the traditional path. We certainly didn't have it all figured out when we started. In fact, Tate's educational journey has included charter school, public school, homeschooling, a microschool, community college, and plenty of learning that happened outside of a classroom. Looking back, one of the biggest lessons we've learned is that education doesn't have to look the same for every child. Sometimes the best thing you can do is stop asking, "What's normal?" and start asking, "What's right for this child?" One thing I appreciated hearing from Tate was how honest he was about the experience. It wasn't perfect. There were semesters that went really well and one that went really, really poorly. There were moments where we had to adjust, fill in gaps, and learn alongside him as parents. But that's part of the process. I think so many parents are afraid they'll make the wrong decision and somehow ruin their child's future. This conversation reminded me that kids are incredibly resilient. If there's a gap, it can be filled. If something isn't working, it can be changed. Education doesn't have to be perfect—it just has to keep moving forward. One of the unexpected gifts of taking a less traditional path was the freedom it created. Tate was able to travel with us, take college classes while still in high school, play sports, explore hobbies like cooking, filmmaking, guitar, and even bird watching, and graduate with an associate's degree before most students graduate high school. More importantly, he developed perspective by experiencing different cultures, meeting entrepreneurs, and seeing that learning happens everywhere—not just inside four classroom walls. Those experiences have shaped who he is every bit as much as his academics. At the end of the day, this episode isn't really about homeschooling. It's about giving yourself permission to ask better questions. What kind of education will help your child thrive? What environment helps them become curious, confident, and capable? There may not be one perfect answer, and that's okay. Our hope is simply that this conversation reminds you that you have more options than you may realize, and that the best educational path is often the one that's intentionally designed for your family—not the one everyone else expects you to choose. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Recording from Istanbul + introducing Tate 03:45 – Why we wanted to have this homeschooling conversation 05:00 – Tate's unconventional education journey (K–12) 08:00 – Graduating college before high school 09:00 – Will homeschooling ruin your kids? 10:30 – Tate's biggest academic failure—and what it taught us 12:00 – Why kids are more resilient than parents think 13:30 – The courage to choose an unconventional path 15:00 – The unexpected benefits of homeschooling 16:30 – Why travel became part of Tate's education 18:00 – There are more educational options than ever before 19:00 – Tate shares his biggest regrets and lessons learned 21:00 – Chris and Melissa reflect on parenting through uncertainty 23:00 – Advice for parents considering homeschooling 24:00 – The goal isn't homeschooling—it's finding what works for your child
Transcribe →257. When Your Dream Grows Beyond You: Family Brand® Has Been Adopted
1w ago00:20:14Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast. Today's episode is a little different because we're sharing some really exciting—and honestly, emotional—news. If you've been with us for a while, you probably know that Family Brand has been a huge part of our lives for the last seven years. It's been a dream, a calling, a business, and in many ways, something we've grown right alongside our own family. So today, we're sharing that Family Brand has officially been acquired by Libertas. Before we go any further, though, I want you to know this: we're not going anywhere. Chris and I are still very much part of Family Brand, and we're more excited than ever about what comes next. As we've reflected on this journey, I keep coming back to where it all started. Years ago, I found myself at a crossroads, wondering whether I should return to nursing or pursue this little idea that just wouldn't leave me alone. I couldn't fully explain it, but I felt this persistent impression that I was supposed to help build stronger families. I had no idea what that would look like. I didn't know how to start a podcast, build programs, or run a business. I just knew I needed to take the next step. Looking back now, it's incredible to see what can happen when you simply say "yes" to something that feels bigger than yourself. When the opportunity came to partner with Connor Boyack and the team at Libertas, I honestly wrestled with it. Family Brand has felt like one of our children. We've poured our hearts into it, celebrated victories, worked through setbacks, and watched it slowly grow. One day while I was journaling, an analogy came to me that brought so much peace. It felt like giving a child up for adoption—not because she wasn't loved, but because she could have opportunities we simply couldn't provide on our own. And the beautiful part was realizing we weren't saying goodbye. We would still get to watch her grow, cheer her on, and continue being part of the story. That perspective changed everything for me. What makes this transition feel so right is the alignment. From our very first conversations with Connor, it became clear that we shared the same heart: helping families become stronger. We weren't looking to sell Family Brand, but we were looking for ways to reach more people. Seeing Family Brand become part of an organization that already serves families in so many incredible ways feels less like an ending and more like an expansion of the original mission. And already, we're watching ideas we've dreamed about for years begin to take shape with resources and a team that can bring them to life. If there's one thing I hope you take away from this episode, it's this: don't let not knowing how stop you from saying yes to what you're being called to do. So often we think we need the whole roadmap before we begin, but that's almost never how it works. You take the first step, and then the next one appears. Family Brand exists today because we were willing to start before we felt ready. And now, this next chapter exists because we were willing to trust that sometimes the greatest act of stewardship is letting something you've built become even bigger than you imagined. We truly can't wait to see where this journey goes next—and we're so grateful you've been on it with us from the very beginning. LINKS: stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – A big Family Brand announcement 01:45 – How an introduction to Connor Boyack started everything 03:20 – Discovering the alignment between Family Brand and Libertas 05:00 – Chris's bold phone call: "Family Brand should be part of Libertas" 06:45 – Why this opportunity felt different from the beginning 08:00 – Melissa shares the emotions behind the decision 10:30 – The journal entry that changed everything 11:00 – "It felt like giving my baby up for adoption" 13:30 – Why Family Brand found the right home 15:00 – Watching dreams become reality with a bigger team 16:00 – Looking back on seven years of saying "yes" 17:15 – The lesson: answer the call, even when you don't know how 18:45 – Chris and Melissa reflect on building Family Brand together 19:30 – Family Brand 2.0: what's next and a thank you to the community
Transcribe →256. The Conversations You'll Wish You Had With Your Dad with Guest Mick Naples
2w ago00:40:36Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast. With Father's Day here, I wanted to have a conversation that would cause all of us to pause and think a little differently about one of the most important relationships in our lives: the relationship we have with our dads. Today's guest is Mick Naples, author of Walking with Grizzlies, a book he wrote after losing his father and realizing there were lessons, conversations, and moments he wished he hadn't taken for granted. What I loved about this conversation is that it isn't really about fatherhood—it's about being a son or daughter and asking what responsibility we have in nurturing those relationships while we still can. One of the things that stood out to me most was Mick's honesty. He openly shares that while he loved his dad, he didn't always appreciate him. In fact, many of the things he now treasures were the very things he overlooked when his dad was alive. As he reflected on his father's life after his passing, he began to see qualities, sacrifices, and acts of love that had always been there but that he simply hadn't fully recognized. It made me think about how often we focus on our parents' shortcomings while missing the gifts they've given us. And while none of our parents are perfect, that doesn't mean they aren't worthy of honor, gratitude, and intentional connection. We also talked about something that we discuss often in Family Brand: relationships don't grow by default. They grow by design. As children become adults, the automatic proximity that once existed starts to disappear. We move away, build our own families, get busy with work, and suddenly years can pass without truly investing in the relationship. Mick challenged me to think differently about that. Instead of asking what our parents could be doing differently, what if we asked what role we have in strengthening those relationships? What conversations have we been putting off? What questions haven't we asked? What stories haven't we taken the time to hear? Another part of the conversation that really stayed with me was the idea that many of the things our parents did that frustrated us as children can look very different through the lens of adulthood. As we become parents ourselves, we start to understand the weight of responsibility, the difficult decisions, and the imperfect ways people try to show love. It doesn't excuse every mistake, but it often creates empathy. And sometimes empathy opens the door to healing, understanding, and deeper connection. More than anything, this episode felt like an invitation. An invitation to be intentional. To make the call. Ask the question. Write the letter. Schedule the visit. Have the conversation you've been meaning to have. Because one of the hardest lessons Mick learned is that sometimes "later" never comes. And if there's one takeaway I hope you carry from this episode, it's this: don't wait until a relationship becomes a memory to start appreciating it. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Links For This Episode: walkingwithgrizzlies.com. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introducing Mick Naples and Walking with Grizzlies 02:30 – Why Mick wrote the book after losing his father 04:00 – "If you're going to be a bear, be a grizzly" 05:00 – The kind of father Mick's dad was 07:00 – Losing his dad and the regrets that followed 09:00 – Honoring parents despite their imperfections 11:00 – Why adult children share responsibility in the relationship 14:00 – Building parent relationships by design, not default 15:30 – Seeing the value in your dad 18:00 – When hard parenting is actually an expression of love 20:00 – Why proximity creates connection 22:00 – How becoming a parent changes your perspective 24:00 – Idolize, demonize, then humanize your parents 26:00 – The example we're setting for our own children 28:00 – The regret of "I'll talk to him later" 30:00 – Conversations worth having before it's too late 33:00 – Faith, legacy, and the condition of the soul 36:00 – Mick's challenge for every son and daughter 37:00 – The Walking with Grizzlies resolution 39:00 – Final Father's Day reflections
Transcribe →265. Consistency, Comparison & the "Must Be Nice" Mindset
3w ago00:19:17Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast! Today's episode started with something that might seem small but actually sparked a much bigger conversation. Melissa recently hit a milestone that she's incredibly proud of—51 consecutive weeks of completing at least one workout every single week. Almost an entire year of consistency. And while the achievement itself is worth celebrating, what really got us talking was what it reveals about how meaningful change actually happens in our lives. For years, Melissa has worked out on and off, but this season has felt different. Part of that comes from seeing the results of consistent effort—not just physically, but in everyday life. Feeling stronger. Having more energy. Being able to play volleyball, jump, run, and keep up with our kids. It's not really about a workout app or even fitness itself. It's about seeing firsthand what happens when you commit to something and keep showing up, especially on the days when you don't feel like it. That led us into a conversation about a phrase we hear all the time: "must be nice." You know the one. Someone shares a vacation, a business success, a healthy relationship, a fitness goal, or an accomplishment, and the immediate reaction is, "Well, that must be nice." The problem is that phrase usually shuts down curiosity. It assumes the result simply happened to someone instead of asking what sacrifices, discipline, consistency, or effort may have gone into creating it. And if we're not careful, it can keep us stuck focusing on what we don't have instead of learning from people who have created something we admire. One of the ideas we explored is that every achievement leaves clues. Instead of asking, "Why do they have that and I don't?" a more useful question might be, "What did they do to create that?" Whether it's health, finances, relationships, faith, or personal growth, the formula is surprisingly similar. Get clear on what you want, commit to it, and stay consistent long enough to see results. It sounds simple, but most of the things we admire in others are often built quietly through daily actions that nobody sees. At the end of the day, this episode is really about personal responsibility and possibility. We all have moments where comparison creeps in or where it feels easier to become frustrated by someone else's success. But what if instead of being threatened by it, we allowed ourselves to be inspired by it? What if someone else's consistency became proof of what's possible rather than evidence of what's unfair? Because the truth is, you're capable of far more than you probably give yourself credit for. And the life you want is usually built the same way Melissa built 51 weeks of workouts—one choice, one day, and one act of consistency at a time. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Melissa's big accomplishment: 51 weeks of consistency 02:00 – Why the Sweat app has worked so well 03:30 – The power of tracking progress 04:30 – Why consistency is the great divider 05:30 – Be a lighthouse, not a tugboat 06:30 – How identity is built through repetition 07:00 – Staying active after 40 08:00 – Pickleball with Tanner and the "special rules" 09:00 – The dangerous phrase: "must be nice" 10:30 – What successful people actually do differently 12:00 – Turning jealousy into inspiration 13:00 – The formula for growth in every area of life 14:00 – Who's responsible for how content is received? 15:00 – 100/100 responsibility explained 16:00 – Victim mentality vs. personal ownership 17:00 – Creating change instead of complaining 18:00 – Final encouragement: you're more capable than you think
Transcribe →264. The Fine Line Between Empowerment and Entitlement (Summer Work & Raising Future Leaders)
Jun 500:27:47Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast! With summer officially here, we've found ourselves having a lot of conversations about something that many parents seem to be wrestling with right now: how do you raise hardworking, capable, confident kids without accidentally raising entitled ones? We're not coming to this conversation as experts who have it all figured out. In fact, we're right in the middle of it ourselves. As our kids get older, we're constantly asking questions about responsibility, work, money, freedom, and what it looks like to prepare them for adulthood. One thing we've noticed is that almost every parent we talk to is carrying some version of the same concern. Are we teaching our kids enough? Have we given them too much? Are they ready for the real world? Recently we found ourselves in conversations with other parents who were expressing many of the exact same fears. And honestly, it was reassuring. It reminded us that most parents care deeply about raising great kids and are doing the best they can while trying to navigate challenges that previous generations didn't necessarily face in the same way. A big part of this discussion comes back to the relationship between responsibility and opportunity. We've been thinking a lot about what we pay for, what our kids pay for, and how to create clear expectations around things like cars, phones, spending money, and privileges. Not because we want to make life harder for our kids, but because we've seen how powerful it is when people earn something for themselves. There's a confidence that comes from contributing, working, sacrificing, and learning that freedom is often connected to responsibility. The goal isn't to create struggle for the sake of struggle. It's to help our kids discover that they're capable of doing hard things and creating opportunities for themselves. Another idea we've been discussing is the difference between entitlement and empowerment. We recently came across a perspective that challenged us to think differently about how families support the next generation. It raised questions about family businesses, shared resources, multigenerational living, and what intentional support could look like as children become adults. We don't have all the answers, but we do think it's worth asking the question: what kind of future are we intentionally designing for our family instead of simply drifting into? At the end of the day, this episode isn't really about summer jobs, cell phones, curfews, or snacks. It's about intentionality. It's about deciding what values matter most to your family and then creating systems that reinforce those values. Whether your kids are five, fifteen, or twenty-five, one of the greatest gifts we can give them is the opportunity to become capable, confident, and responsible adults. And sometimes that starts by asking a simple question: are we creating conditions that help them rise—or conditions that make growth optional? LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Summer is here: parenting conversations we're having 02:00 – Are we accidentally raising entitled kids? 03:30 – The parenting dilemma: provide more or require more? 05:00 – Why parents worry as kids become teenagers 06:00 – Encouraging feedback from other adults about our kids 07:30 – Revisiting expectations around money and responsibility 09:00 – Why every family needs a clear philosophy 10:00 – When expectations are low, performance follows 11:00 – A story about earning phones, cars, and spending money 13:00 – Necessity creates action and confidence 14:00 – The hidden cost of over-providing 15:30 – A different perspective on supporting adult children 18:00 – Designing your family's future intentionally 20:00 – Family businesses, family compounds, and family vision 21:30 – Freedom and autonomy must be earned 23:00 – Real-life examples: cars, curfews, and cell phones 25:00 – Teaching kids the connection between effort and freedom 26:00 – Final thoughts on raising future leaders and capable adults
Transcribe →263. Growing Up Nine: Siblings, Perspective & the Gift of a Big Family
May 2900:24:24Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast! Today's episode is a little different and honestly really special to me. I'm sitting down with my youngest brother, Taylor, for a conversation I've wanted to have for a long time. I'm the oldest of nine kids, Taylor is the youngest, and after my daughter Indy randomly asked me why Taylor had never been on the podcast, I realized this was finally the perfect time to record it. Recently there's been a lot of conversation online around large families, especially after influencer Hannah Neeleman announced the birth of her ninth child. And watching the reactions was fascinating because people seemed split into a few camps: admiration, criticism, and curiosity. Some people thought it looked beautiful. Others questioned whether it was realistic or healthy. And then there were people who were simply fascinated asking, what is it actually like growing up in a family that big? It made me realize—we actually have a pretty unique perspective on that conversation. One of my favorite parts of this episode was reading a paper I wrote as a teenager when my parents announced they were having their ninth baby… Taylor. And to be honest, my initial reaction wasn't exactly excitement. I remember worrying about the comments people made about our family, feeling overwhelmed by the idea of "one more," and wondering how our family could possibly stretch any further. But then I read the ending of the paper, written after Taylor was born, where I admitted something completely different: that our family felt more complete because of him. Reading it back now was hilarious, emotional, and honestly a reminder of how perspective changes over time. Taylor shares what it was actually like growing up as the youngest of nine, and one thing I loved hearing was that what looked "crazy" from the outside just felt normal to him. He talks about how much he loved always having people around, growing up close to nieces and nephews because of our age gaps, and now becoming genuine friends with our siblings as adults. We also talked about how closeness in families doesn't just happen automatically—it comes from prioritizing each other, staying connected, and intentionally creating time together. More than anything, this episode left me feeling deeply grateful. Grateful for siblings, for cousins, for the relationships that continue long after childhood, and especially for my parents. As we talked, I found myself reflecting on how much they gave to create the life we had. And maybe the biggest takeaway from this conversation is this: family life may not always look efficient or easy from the outside, but the relationships built inside of it can become some of the greatest gifts of your entire life. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introducing Taylor + why this episode happened 02:00 – Melissa and Taylor's 17-year age gap 04:00 – The online debate around large families 06:00 – Melissa reads the paper she wrote about baby #9 09:00 – "He makes our family complete" 10:00 – What it was like being the youngest of nine 12:00 – Did the older siblings resent babysitting? 13:00 – The lasting effects of having a big family 14:00 – Becoming friends with siblings as adults 15:00 – The "ingredients" that create sibling closeness 17:00 – Melissa's sisters trip to Paris 19:00 – Challenges of growing up in a large family 20:00 – How their mom raised nine kids with one arm 22:00 – "Shoutout to moms everywhere" 23:00 – Final reflections on family, siblings, and gratitude
Transcribe →262. Rituals, Family Stories & the Moments That Hold Us Together with Bruce Feiler
May 800:53:08Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast! Today's conversation is one I've been looking forward to for a long time. I'm sitting down with bestselling author Bruce Feiler to talk about families, transitions, rituals, and the stories that shape us. I first came across Bruce's work years ago through his article The Stories That Bind Us, and it completely changed the way I thought about family culture and the role our stories play in our kids' lives. One of the things Bruce shares in this conversation is that strong families aren't strong because they avoid hardship—they're strong because they know how to navigate it together. He talks about research showing that children who know more about their family history tend to have greater resilience and emotional well-being. Not because they think their family is perfect, but because they understand that every family goes through challenges, setbacks, loss, growth, and reinvention. I loved this reminder that one of the best things we can do for our kids is tell the truth about our stories in age-appropriate ways. Not hiding the hard parts, but helping them see that difficult seasons are part of life—and that people can make it through them. We also spent a lot of time talking about rituals, which is the focus of Bruce's new book, A Time to Gather. Before this conversation, I think I mostly associated rituals with formal traditions or religious ceremonies. But Bruce reframed it in such a practical and meaningful way. He describes rituals as shared acts that help people feel connected and grounded during moments of change. And honestly, the more we talked, the more I realized how much families need this right now. In a world that moves fast and constantly pulls us in different directions, rituals create space to pause, gather, reflect, and reconnect. One of my favorite moments in the episode was when Bruce helped me think through creating a meaningful graduation ritual for my oldest son. As we talked about him preparing to leave home, I found myself emotional realizing that this season really is the end of a chapter for our family. And instead of just letting that moment pass by, Bruce showed how intentional gatherings and small symbolic acts can help families honor transitions in a way that feels memorable and grounding. This conversation reminded me that families don't need to do everything perfectly to create meaningful connection. Sometimes the most powerful things are also the simplest: gathering around a table, telling stories, asking good questions, celebrating milestones, or creating intentional moments during seasons of change. More than anything, this episode feels like an invitation to slow down and create space for togetherness—because those moments are often the ones our families remember most. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Links For This Episode: Bruce's substack is at this link: https://brucefeiler.substack.com/ Most recent post about his upcoming book release and some other exciting announcements: https://brucefeiler.substack.com/p/its-time-to-gather-watch-me-on-cnn A pre-order link for the book: https://greenlightbookstore.com/book/9780593656433 Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introducing Bruce Feiler and his work 02:00 – Bruce's journey from travel writer to family expert 04:00 – Why Bruce started studying families 06:00 – The modern challenges families face today 07:30 – Why parenting advice feels overwhelming 11:00 – The Stories That Bind Us explained 14:00 – Why family stories build resilient kids 16:00 – The "oscillating family narrative" 18:00 – Why kids need to hear about family struggles 19:00 – The importance of extended family and community 22:00 – Family mission statements and values 24:00 – Bruce shares his family mission statement 26:00 – How family values shape everyday decisions 28:00 – Introducing Bruce's new book: A Time to Gather 30:00 – What rituals actually are (and aren't) 32:00 – Why rituals are disappearing in modern culture 33:30 – The rise of reinvented family rituals 36:00 – How rituals help with loneliness and transition 38:00 – Bruce shares a story about grief and gathering 41:00 – Melissa workshops a graduation ritual for her son 48:00 – Why rituals don't need permission or perfection 50:00 – Bruce's three most important pieces of family advice 52:00 – "Family is not the most important thing—it's the only thing"
Transcribe →261. The Pursuit of More
May 100:14:02Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast. Today we want to talk about something that we think almost every family can relate to—the pursuit of more. More money, more success, more stability, more opportunities, more experiences. And on the surface, none of those things are bad. But recently, we've both had some conversations and experiences that made us pause and ask a deeper question: what are we really pursuing—and why? For most of our lives, we both felt this constant pull toward "more." And if we're honest, a lot of it came from the belief that the next milestone would finally be the thing that made us feel whole, fulfilled, or enough. Whether it was financial success, recognition, or even just a sense of stability, it felt like if we could just get there, everything would click. But what we've come to realize—and what we've seen in others—is that it often becomes an endless pursuit. You reach one level, and there's always another. And if the pursuit is rooted in comparison or trying to prove something, it can feel surprisingly empty. What's been helpful for us is redefining what "more" actually means. Because more itself isn't the problem. In fact, when you look at the original meaning of the word, it wasn't about accumulation—it was about becoming greater. Growth. Expansion. And that shift has been really powerful. Instead of chasing more things, we've been asking: what would it look like to pursue more purpose, more fulfillment, more impact? And to do that from a place where we already believe we're enough—not from a place of trying to prove it. We've also seen how this shows up in family life. It's not just about what we pursue individually—it's what we create for our kids. It's easy to get caught in the mindset of more activities, more opportunities, more experiences, thinking that's what will create a better life for them. But sometimes it just creates more noise, more pressure, and more overwhelm. And the truth is, with how much access we have today—technology, comparison, constant input—it's easier than ever to fall into that cycle without even realizing it. For us, one of the most grounding questions has been this: what is all of this for? Not in a negative way, but as a way to realign. Are we building something that actually leads to a meaningful life? Are we pursuing more in a way that helps us become better, serve others, and live with purpose? Because at the end of the day, more isn't the enemy—but if we don't define it intentionally, it can quietly take us somewhere we never meant to go. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Intro + recent trips and conversations 01:30 – The "endless pursuit of more" 03:00 – Why more doesn't always lead to fulfillment 04:30 – Defining "more" in a meaningful way 06:00 – How life has changed over the last 100 years 07:30 – Why we're overwhelmed with options today 09:00 – The original meaning of "more" (growth vs accumulation) 10:30 – A personal story: rebuilding life and chasing more 12:00 – The shift: from building our kingdom to serving something bigger 13:30 – Asking: what is all of this for? 14:30 – Final takeaway: pursue becoming, not just having
Transcribe →260. Confidence Isn't a Feeling, It's an Identity! Here's How to Build It For You and Your Kids
Apr 1700:33:00Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast! Today we're talking about something that we truly believe impacts every area of your life—your confidence. This conversation came from a recent event Chris spoke at, where the theme was connection, and it led to a powerful realization: before you can truly connect with others, you have to have confidence in yourself. For a long time, Chris struggled with confidence in a way that might surprise people who see him today. There was a season where he didn't like himself, constantly compared himself to others, lived in regret and fear, and didn't keep commitments—even to himself. And looking back now, it's obvious why confidence was lacking. It wasn't random. It was the result of patterns, behaviors, and internal narratives that were being repeated daily. One of the biggest shifts came from a simple but uncomfortable decision: taking 100% responsibility for everything in his life. That moment was both humbling and empowering. Because while it meant owning the things that weren't working, it also meant reclaiming the ability to change them. From there, it wasn't about "feeling confident"—it was about becoming someone who could be trusted. Keeping small commitments. Changing the way he spoke to himself. Focusing on serving others instead of being consumed by his own problems. Over time, those behaviors started to build something deeper—an identity. That's really the key idea we want to share with you: confidence isn't a feeling—it's an identity. It's not something you either have or don't have. It's something you practice. And more than anything, it's something you earn. Every time you make a commitment and keep it, you reinforce the belief that you are someone who can be counted on. And that belief compounds over time in a really powerful way. The reason this matters so much is because confidence isn't just for you. It directly impacts your ability to show up, serve others, and make a difference. When you believe in yourself, you're more willing to take risks, speak up, and share your gifts. And as parents, one of the most important things we can remember is this: our kids will learn far more from what they see than what we say. If we want them to be confident, the most powerful thing we can do is model it—by how we show up, how we speak to ourselves, and how we choose to live. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Intro + exciting things coming soon 01:30 – Melissa shares the mastermind event experience 03:00 – Confidence before connection: the core idea 04:30 – Chris's personal struggle with confidence 06:00 – Why confidence is not a feeling 07:30 – The exercise: who do you have confidence in? 09:00 – Traits of people we trust and believe in 10:30 – Chris's lowest point and what was happening internally 12:30 – Taking 100% responsibility 14:00 – Becoming reliable and keeping commitments 15:30 – Controlling the internal narrative 17:00 – Serving others vs. focusing on yourself 18:30 – Identity vs. behavior: how confidence is built 20:00 – The "confidence hack": keep commitments to yourself 22:00 – Why confidence is not selfish 24:00 – Confidence allows you to serve more people 26:00 – Signs you are becoming more confident 28:00 – Helping your kids build confidence 29:30 – Model confidence, don't just teach it 31:00 – Family values and identity shaping 32:30 – Final takeaway: be confident and share your gifts
Transcribe →259. Why Parents Struggle to Stay Healthy (And What to Do About It) with Ben Brown
Apr 1000:49:32Tap to summarizeWelcome back to the podcast. Chris here! Today I'm sitting down with someone who has become not just a client, but a coach and a friend—Ben Brown. And if there's one thing I want you to take from this conversation, it's this: your health isn't just about how you look… it determines how you show up in your life. One of the first things we got into was why health is often the first thing to fall off for parents. And honestly, it makes sense. The moment you have kids, your priorities shift. You want to give everything to your family. But what we talked about is how that can actually become counterproductive. Because if you're not taking care of yourself, you're not showing up as your best for the people who matter most. It's that simple but hard truth: taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's one of the most selfless things you can do. We also talked about something that I think a lot of people need to hear: most of us don't have a time problem—we have a commitment problem. It's really easy to say "I don't have time" or "I'm too busy," but when you actually look at your day, there are always opportunities. Whether it's getting up a little earlier, going for a walk during your kid's practice, or simply being more intentional with how you spend your evenings, there are small decisions available to all of us that can start to shift everything. Ben shared a really practical way to think about this, which I loved—having a "floor" and a "ceiling." Your ceiling is what you'd love to do on your best days. But your floor is what you commit to no matter what. And for a lot of people, that can be as simple as moving your body every day, creating some structure around your eating, and prioritizing your sleep. Those small, consistent actions start to build something much bigger: a new identity. And that's really what this comes down to. More is caught than taught. Your kids are always watching. Your health will either allow you to fully participate in your life—or it will force you to sit on the sidelines. So the question isn't just "Do I want to be healthier?" It's "Who do I want to be for my family?" Because when you start to answer that honestly, the decisions you need to make become a lot more clear. LINKS: All Links Family Brand! stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats. Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introducing Ben Brown and his background 01:30 – The biggest health challenge for busy parents 03:00 – Why health is often the first thing to fall off 05:00 – Selflessness vs. taking care of yourself 07:00 – Using family as an excuse (and the truth behind it) 10:00 – Time vs. commitment: what's really holding people back 13:00 – "Show me your calendar, I'll show you your priorities" 16:00 – The power of language and identity 19:00 – Practical swaps: where time is actually being lost 22:00 – Finding movement in everyday life (walking, practices, etc.) 25:00 – The "floor vs. ceiling" framework 27:00 – Where to start if you feel overwhelmed 30:00 – Building identity through small wins 33:00 – Why walking is more powerful than you think 36:00 – Leading by example as a parent 39:00 – Health determines whether you participate or observe 42:00 – Final thoughts + Ben's 30-day reset resource
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