Welcome back to the podcast! Today's conversation is one I've been looking forward to for a long time. I'm sitting down with bestselling author Bruce Feiler to talk about families, transitions, rituals, and the stories that shape us. I first came across Bruce's work years ago through his article The Stories That Bind Us, and it completely changed the way I thought about family culture and the role our stories play in our kids' lives.

One of the things Bruce shares in this conversation is that strong families aren't strong because they avoid hardship—they're strong because they know how to navigate it together. He talks about research showing that children who know more about their family history tend to have greater resilience and emotional well-being. Not because they think their family is perfect, but because they understand that every family goes through challenges, setbacks, loss, growth, and reinvention. I loved this reminder that one of the best things we can do for our kids is tell the truth about our stories in age-appropriate ways. Not hiding the hard parts, but helping them see that difficult seasons are part of life—and that people can make it through them.

We also spent a lot of time talking about rituals, which is the focus of Bruce's new book, A Time to Gather. Before this conversation, I think I mostly associated rituals with formal traditions or religious ceremonies. But Bruce reframed it in such a practical and meaningful way. He describes rituals as shared acts that help people feel connected and grounded during moments of change. And honestly, the more we talked, the more I realized how much families need this right now. In a world that moves fast and constantly pulls us in different directions, rituals create space to pause, gather, reflect, and reconnect.

One of my favorite moments in the episode was when Bruce helped me think through creating a meaningful graduation ritual for my oldest son. As we talked about him preparing to leave home, I found myself emotional realizing that this season really is the end of a chapter for our family. And instead of just letting that moment pass by, Bruce showed how intentional gatherings and small symbolic acts can help families honor transitions in a way that feels memorable and grounding.

This conversation reminded me that families don't need to do everything perfectly to create meaningful connection. Sometimes the most powerful things are also the simplest: gathering around a table, telling stories, asking good questions, celebrating milestones, or creating intentional moments during seasons of change. More than anything, this episode feels like an invitation to slow down and create space for togetherness—because those moments are often the ones our families remember most.

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Bruce's substack is at this link: https://brucefeiler.substack.com/
Most recent post about his upcoming book release and some other exciting announcements: https://brucefeiler.substack.com/p/its-time-to-gather-watch-me-on-cnn
A pre-order link for the book: https://greenlightbookstore.com/book/9780593656433

Episode Minute By Minute:

00:00 – Introducing Bruce Feiler and his work
02:00 – Bruce's journey from travel writer to family expert
04:00 – Why Bruce started studying families
06:00 – The modern challenges families face today
07:30 – Why parenting advice feels overwhelming
11:00 – The Stories That Bind Us explained
14:00 – Why family stories build resilient kids
16:00 – The "oscillating family narrative"
18:00 – Why kids need to hear about family struggles
19:00 – The importance of extended family and community
22:00 – Family mission statements and values
24:00 – Bruce shares his family mission statement
26:00 – How family values shape everyday decisions
28:00 – Introducing Bruce's new book: A Time to Gather
30:00 – What rituals actually are (and aren't)
32:00 – Why rituals are disappearing in modern culture
33:30 – The rise of reinvented family rituals
36:00 – How rituals help with loneliness and transition
38:00 – Bruce shares a story about grief and gathering
41:00 – Melissa workshops a graduation ritual for her son
48:00 – Why rituals don't need permission or perfection
50:00 – Bruce's three most important pieces of family advice
52:00 – "Family is not the most important thing—it's the only thing"