In this powerful episode, Melissa sits down with Tim Wright — former Lutheran pastor of 41 years, author, and passionate advocate for helping boys grow into strong, compassionate men of character.

Melissa begins the conversation with a question many parents of boys are quietly asking: What does it even mean to be a man in today's world?

With cultural messages constantly shifting — and often equating masculinity with toxicity — Tim offers a refreshing, grounded perspective. He shares why boys need intentional guidance, not stereotypes. Why strength and compassion are not opposites. And why raising good men starts with developing character — not just behavior.

Tim explains how throughout history, many cultures practiced rites of passage to help boys transition into manhood. Today, we often lack those intentional moments. Without guidance, boys will still seek definition — but they may look in the wrong places. Tim shares how simple, intentional experiences can help boys build identity rooted in love, responsibility, empathy, and conviction.

He also shares a deeply moving story about the rite of passage ceremony he created for his son when he became a father — gathering strong male figures, reading letters of affirmation, and symbolizing the moment through intentional marking. It's a beautiful picture of what mentorship and generational blessing can look like.

The conversation then turns to Tim's middle-grade fantasy series, The Adventures of Toby Baxter. Through adventure, humor, and imagination, Tim weaves character lessons about courage, wisdom, love, grit, and truth into engaging stories designed especially to help boys grow.

Melissa and Tim discuss:

Why boys need strong male role models beyond just dad
The power of language and affirmation ("I love you. I'm proud of you.")
How parents can be intentional even if a father is absent
Why character must come before labels
And how to take back influence in an age of screens and algorithms

Tim closes with a simple but powerful reminder:

Look your child in the eyes every day and say, "I love you, and I'm proud of you."

Because when a child knows they are deeply loved, it becomes a protective force against so much of what culture throws at them.

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Episode Minute By Minute:

01:00 – Tim's background: pastor, author, and grandfather
03:30 – What does it mean to be a man today?
05:00 – Masculinity vs. "toxic masculinity"
06:30 – Why boys need intentional training
08:00 – The loss of rites of passage in modern culture
10:00 – Character as the foundation of manhood
12:30 – What rites of passage can look like today
14:30 – The ceremony Tim created for his son
16:30 – Why boys need multiple male role models
18:00 – Supporting boys when a father isn't present
20:00 – The Adventures of Toby Baxter series
22:00 – Using story to teach courage, wisdom, and grit
24:00 – Why boys need to rediscover reading
26:00 – Navigating technology and modern parenting
28:00 – Tim's final parenting advice: affirmation and love
30:00 – Where to find Tim's books and resources

253. Raising Good Men: A Conversation with Tim Wright