Seven and a half years in, and I've been thinking a lot about what this show is really for – and what it means to actually figure it out.

In this solo episode, I'm sharing something I've been sitting with awhile: a method I've been using my whole life without even realizing it. It's not something I invented and then applied – it's a pattern I traced backwards through my career, my relationships, and the chapter I'm in right now. And I think if you're the kind of person who listens to this show, you've probably been using some version of it too.

I'm also sharing a little history of the show – how it started as How We'll Live back in 2019, how it became Figure It Out, and where it's going from here. This episode is a bit of a reintroduction, and I hope it feels like the start of something new.

I talk about:

The origin story of Figuring It Out – and How We'll Live to where we are now, and why the name still means everything
Why Figuring It Out is a practice, not a destination
Introducing the Figuring It Out Method: know your story → get honest —> get clear → get to work
What "know your story" actually means – and why it's the foundation, not a step
Why getting honest is the hardest part (and why it starts with a feeling, not a thought)
How to get clear in a way that's actually useful
What "get to work" really looks like: the unglamorous repeated effort that closes the gap
Real examples from my own life
What this means for the show going forward

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Timestamps:

0:00 Welcome back
1:00 What's been going on - low key summer, planned spontaneity, and why white space matters
3:15 Show history and how I landed on the name Figuring It Out
8:30 How the show is evolving – getting more specific, for women in their 30s and 40s navigating real change
9:50 Introducing the Figuring It Out method
11:45 The Foundation: Know Your Story
13:45 Step 1: Get Honest
14:35 Step 2: Get Clear
15:07 Step 3: Get to work
15:42 Example 1: Career
18:03 Example 2: My Marriage
20:19 Example 3: Fertility
22:54 You're not alone
24:21 What this means for the show moving forward