The One With Bobby and Allison Bauer

Summary

Podcast Summary: For Love and Chocolate – "The One With Bobby and Allison Bauer"

Release Date: January 22, 2025
Hosts: Tommy and Tara Gallop
Produced by: Tara Gallop, Tommy Gallop, Adam Haagen

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Introduction

In this heartwarming episode of the For Love and Chocolate podcast, hosts Tommy and Tara Gallop welcome longtime friends Bobby and Allison Bauer to share their enduring love story. This episode seamlessly blends the themes of love and chocolate, providing listeners with both sweet anecdotes and genuine relationship insights.

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Mailbag Segment

Before delving into the Bauer’s story, Tommy and Tara address listener questions, offering thoughtful advice on relationship dilemmas.

Question from Sophie (Timestamp: 03:55)

Sophie writes about feeling uncomfortable with her fiancé's continued interactions with his ex-girlfriends on social media and seeks guidance.

• Tara's Response (04:25): Tara empathizes, emphasizing the importance of setting clear boundaries. She advises Sophie to communicate her discomfort and assess her fiancé’s intentions.

  "You are a bright, loving, mature woman... you need to maybe be very clear that that's certainly not something that you're comfortable with and willing to deal with."
  (04:35)

• Tommy's Insight (05:38): Tommy underscores that genuine love prioritizes the partner's feelings, suggesting that if Sophie's discomfort persists, it might indicate underlying trust issues.

  "The mere fact that it makes her really uncomfortable should be enough for him to stop."
  (05:46)

Question from Cece (06:49)

Cece seeks advice on whether it's appropriate to date her good friend's ex-boyfriend.

• Tara’s Initial Stance (07:30): Tara humorously declares it against the "rules of feminism," immediately advising against it.

  "Cece, you can't go out with your good friend's ex boyfriend. That is completely against the rules of feminism."
  (07:30)

• Tommy’s Perspective (08:05): Tommy adds that dating an ex can lead to trust issues and advises Cece to seek other potential partners.

  "You don't need to date your good friend's ex boyfriend."
  (08:50)

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Guest Introduction: Bobby and Allison Bauer

Tommy and Tara introduce their guests, Bobby and Allison Bauer, highlighting their deep-rooted relationship spanning three decades. Bobby is portrayed as a dedicated individual who balances his time between his profession and personal life, while Allison is admired for her role at a prestigious jewelry store and her loyal customer base.

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How They Met

Bobby and Allison recount their serendipitous meeting at the China Club opening in Hollywood during Bobby's 25th birthday celebration.

Allison’s Story (11:35 – 16:32)

• Initial Encounter: Allison describes arriving at the club and encountering Steven, whom she believes is actually Bobby due to a mix-up orchestrated by their friend Nick.

  "I run into this friend of mine from college, Nick... and he introduces me to this guy named Steven."
  (13:08)

• First Impressions: Despite initial hesitations about Bobby being a smoker, Allison felt an immediate connection.

  "Nothing sat on her side. Like, she hit it back over. It was just great... I could just devour you."
  (16:30)

• Realization: The true identity of Bobby is revealed, leading to a whirlwind of emotions and the beginning of their relationship.

  "I was enveloped... I love you. I don't date smokers anymore."
  (17:25)

Bobby’s Perspective (14:25 – 19:28)

• Serendipity: Bobby shares his experience of finally meeting Allison after months of unknowingly passing by each other.

  "We start talking, and we kind of step off away from the bar to where me and Allison are talking."
  (16:04)

• Commitment: Despite initial reservations, Bobby’s genuine feelings led him to pursue Allison wholeheartedly.

  "I was like, I'm gonna marry you right now. I love you. I quit smoking."
  (17:25)

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Their Wedding Story

Bobby and Allison detail their unique and spontaneous wedding, which encapsulates their playful and genuine nature.

The Proposal (24:17 – 27:44)

• Handcrafted Ring: Bobby recounts crafting a homemade ring depicting a hand holding a heart, symbolizing his heartfelt proposal.

  "It was a Valentine's Day present... I was kinda like, I don't know."
  (25:16)

• The Moment: In a candid and humorous moment, Bobby proposes to Allison in bed, presenting the quirky ring.

  "And I just found myself saying, do you want to get married?"
  (26:08)

Planning the Wedding (27:06 – 29:35)

• Quick Preparations: Faced with an overwhelming guest list prepared by Allison’s mother, the couple decides to keep their wedding intimate and true to their preferences.

  "We have the wedding we want... and we got married in my adopted uncle's backyard with 81 people."
  (27:39)

• Ceremony Highlights: The Jewish wedding included seven blessings, each personalized by their friends through songs, poems, and prayers, creating an emotional and memorable ceremony.

  "We gave those seven blessings to seven of our friends... Someone did a poem from, like, a Native American prayer."
  (28:28)

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Maintaining Romance

Bobby and Allison share their secrets to keeping their relationship vibrant and enduring over 34 years.

Spontaneity and Communication (32:13 – 33:23)

• Embracing the Unexpected: They emphasize the importance of spontaneity, such as deciding on dinner outings without rigid plans, which fosters excitement and keeps the relationship fresh.

  "We do go out, and we're like, where do you want to go? Like, I think we don't like planning."
  (32:27)

• Open Communication: Constant and honest communication ensures they stay connected and understand each other's emotions and needs.

  "We're not the couple that sits at a restaurant and doesn't speak... We make each other laugh a lot."
  (33:04)

Shared Experiences (34:12 – 36:43)

• Special Gestures: From gifting champagne to exchanging homemade body butter and jams, Bobby and Allison incorporate thoughtful gestures that celebrate their love and shared life.

  "This is Schrombsburg... champagne truffles."
  (33:45)

• Creating Traditions: They highlight unique traditions, such as framing roses and sharing personalized gifts, which strengthen their bond.

  "I have two of the roses framed... It looks like it should be illegal, but it's."
  (29:19)

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Advice for Listeners

Towards the end of the episode, Bobby and Allison offer heartfelt advice for those seeking love or navigating newlywed life.

Allison’s Advice (36:57 – 39:05)

• Realistic Expectations: Acknowledging that marriage has its ups and downs, Allison encourages embracing both the comfortable and challenging moments.

  "Understand that there are times when you're sitting cozy and comfy... and times where you're hanging on for dear life."
  (37:55)

• Choosing the Right Partner: Emphasizes the importance of selecting a partner wisely and being willing to walk away if the relationship isn’t right.

  "Choose wisely. Trust."
  (38:53)

Bobby’s Insights (37:59 – 40:09)

• Honesty and Vulnerability: Bobby advocates for being honest and open about one’s feelings, even when it’s uncomfortable.

  "There's magic in the leap... If you are angry, be angry."
  (38:50)

• Living Out Loud: Encourages couples to express their emotions freely and work through conflicts together.

  "Jump in the water together and splash around."
  (39:27)

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Conclusion

Tommy and Tara wrap up the episode by celebrating Bobby and Allison’s inspiring relationship, highlighting their ability to navigate love with humor, honesty, and unwavering commitment. The couple’s story serves as a testament to the power of enduring love and effective communication.

"Whatever. You know, 33 years later and you guys are still so good together, so happy."
(40:09)

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Notable Quotes

• Allison Bauer (16:32):

  "It was my 25th birthday... I never need to hear about this guy Bobby again."

• Bobby Bauer (17:25):

  "I love you. I quit smoking. I don't care. I love you."

• Allison Bauer (37:55):

  "Choose wisely. Trust."

• Bobby Bauer (38:50):

  "There's magic in the leap... If you are angry, be angry."

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Final Thoughts

Bobby and Allison Bauer's story is a captivating blend of destiny, spontaneity, and steadfast love. Their journey from a serendipitous meeting to a lasting marriage offers valuable lessons for anyone navigating the complexities of relationships. For Love and Chocolate continues to deliver engaging and heartfelt stories that celebrate the sweet symphony of love.

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Note: This summary captures the essence of the episode while incorporating key quotes and timestamps to enhance engagement and provide a comprehensive overview for listeners.

Transcript

[Mrs. Truffles]

From deep in the heart of Beverly Hills, you found For Love and chocolate with Mr. And Mrs. Truffles.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, welcome to the podcast.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Welcome back, everybody.

[Mr. Truffles]

Can it be that we are on episode six already?

[Mrs. Truffles]

I know. It's crazy how time flies.

[Mr. Truffles]

It does fly.

[Mrs. Truffles]

It really does, Mrs. Truffles.

[Mr. Truffles]

It's been so much fun, though. Oh, you know what I'm really loving? Tell me the engagement stories.

[Mrs. Truffles]

They're so fun. They're so different.

[Mr. Truffles]

Each one of them is so different.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Oh, yeah.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Mrs. Truffles]

And you know what? Without the show, we'd never know.

[Mr. Truffles]

We would never know unless a psychic told us.

[Alison Bauer]

Okay.

[Mrs. Truffles]

You want to go there?

[Alison Bauer]

Huh?

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, you know, I don't really partake in soothsaying.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Subscribe to the Psychic Network.

[Mr. Truffles]

Makes me uncomfortable. Okay, but you've been known to partake.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Oh, I will seek these seekers out. I love a good psychic. I do. And I've had some pretty. Pretty crazy experiences. I will say.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, just recently, something that was long.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Ago foretold, Something I'm trying to think it was actually at. It was my son's friend's bar mitzvah, and they had a psychic. So that was 15 years ago, right?

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Crazy. And I met with the psychic. She went deep with some things that were crazy. Like, she came up with the names of my dad's cousins. I mean, how random is that? That was insane.

[Mr. Truffles]

Super insane.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Mr. Truffles]

And this is the kind of stuff that makes me uncomfortable.

[Mrs. Truffles]

I can see you squirming in your chair. But she. Yeah, she kind of did a general reading, and then she started going, do you want to know about the future? I was like, only if it's good. She said, well, you know, I don't predict the future. I just tell it. And I was like, okay, let's go. I mean, we're here, right? You know, lemon drop. Please bring more lemon drop. I just needed to soothe myself. It was kind of crazy. Like, her head started to snap back and her eye was twittering, flittering, fluttering, and she's. Because I guess she was getting the vision, Right? I'm like, I don't know what this means, but I see you 15 years in the future, and you're going to be in a field of flowers surrounded by chocolate bunnies. So I called security.

[Mr. Truffles]

I said, uncanny. Honestly. She said, a field of flowers surrounded by chocolate bunnies.

[Mrs. Truffles]

I was like, oh, God. Because I had heard about these psychics. It's like, I mean, could you be any weirder? That's such a weird thing to say. And yet it's Crazy. We now have a shop in Beverly.

[Mr. Truffles]

Hills full of flowers.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Well, it's Easter coming up.

[Mr. Truffles]

Surrounded by chocolate.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Surrounded by chocolate bunnies. And I hadn't even thought about it, but it's like. Okay, it's just too weird to even. I can't even fathom how am I going to entertain this. But she was spot on. She was spot on in a field surrounded by chocolate bunnies.

[Mr. Truffles]

Were there any other details about the field of flowers?

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yes, were white, dark, and milk chocolate.

[Alison Bauer]

Okay.

[Mr. Truffles]

Very, very, very specific. Specific and uncanny.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah, uncanny is right. You know what else she said?

[Mr. Truffles]

What else did she say?

[Mrs. Truffles]

I don't know what this means, but in about 15 years, you're going to want to say.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, Mr. Truffles, let's take a look at what's in the mailbag today.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Oh, I cannot wait.

[Mr. Truffles]

Okay, well, something here from someone calling herself Sophie.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Oh, let's hear it, Sophie.

[Mr. Truffles]

Okay. Dear Mr. And Mrs. Truffles, my fiance and I have been engaged now for about eight months. And although he promises me there's nothing to worry about, he does still text and has interactions on social media with some of the girls that he's dated or has been intimate with. This makes me really uncomfortable. What should I do?

[Mrs. Truffles]

May I?

[Mr. Truffles]

By all means.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Well, I remember when we first started seeing each other, you were adamant about me continuing strong relationships with my ex girlfriends.

[Mr. Truffles]

I thought it was important for you to do.

[Mrs. Truffles]

So you wanted to do a dinner party and have them all over together. No, listen, you are a bright, loving, mature woman, and you made it very clear early on. Yeah. We're gonna maybe not have so much intermingling with exes. I feel like maybe, Sophie, you need to maybe be very clear that that's certainly not something that you're comfortable with and willing to deal with. If there's something there. If you want to continue with this relationship, you've already said how uncomfortable it makes you. I think it's important to let him know that and see what his reaction is. If his feeling is, oh, well, you know what? It's just platonic. And, you know, you're the one for me, but, you know, they were a part of my life, and we have a little shorthand that we like to kind of engage in. You know, I don't really want to give it up. It's time to 86 our little friend with the multiple ex girlfriends.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, I would say you're pretty spot on without Mr. Truffles. Yeah, I mean, the important part is that it makes her uncomfortable.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Right.

[Mr. Truffles]

So if he I mean, this is kind of a great test of, is he really going to love you forever? Is he really going to put you first? Do your feelings mean a lot to him? Yeah, the mere fact that it makes her really uncomfortable should be enough for him to stop. But as you said, she needs to make her feelings clear about this. He's not a mind reader.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah. And, you know, she certainly doesn't want to babysit him, so even, like, the mere suggestion of. Okay, well, if there's really nothing there, Let me see the texts. It's like that already starts down the road of not trusting each other.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, here's the thing. In my experience, yes. If you give a man too much rope, he will more often than not hang himself with it. A tight leash is really the key to a happy relationship. RIP Riff.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yes. Well, Sophie, we. We hope that was helpful.

[Mr. Truffles]

I hope that was helpful, Sophie, and I hope things work out for you guys. Good luck, sweetie.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Mr. Truffles]

All right, Mr. Truffles. Well, what else do we have in our mailbag?

[Mrs. Truffles]

Let's take a look, shall we? Cece from Culver City.

[Mr. Truffles]

Okay.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Cece writes, Dear Mr. And Mrs. Truffles, I really enjoy your show, and I'm hoping you can help me. Last year, one of my good friends broke up with her boyfriend, and recently, he started asking me out. Hmm. I think he's really cute and really fun. I'd like to go out with him, but I'm not sure if I should accept any advice on how to handle. This would be greatly appreciated. And I'm gonna let you take that, Mrs. Truffles.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, as the female perspective in this situation, I have to say that that's just a hard nose. Cece, you can't go out with your good friend's ex boyfriend.

[Alison Bauer]

Cece.

[Mr. Truffles]

You just can't do that. That is completely against the rules of feminism.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yes, it's against the rules of feminism.

[Mr. Truffles]

It truly is.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah. I'm gonna just zip it, because I feel like my perspective from the man's point of view probably.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, no one's asking you to zip it. You can weigh in. But I think that I probably understand better the workings of a. Of a woman's mind.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yes, absolutely. I. I could give my perspective of what the guy is thinking. Right, right.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, yeah, you can. And. But the thing is, we don't. There's a lot of details about this we don't know, like why they broke up.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Right.

[Mr. Truffles]

Or has he been asking out her other friends?

[Mrs. Truffles]

You just don't know.

[Mr. Truffles]

We don't. There's a Lot we don't know. But what we do know is that going out with your good friend's ex boyfriend from last year.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Mr. Truffles]

You can't do it.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah, that's. That's a very interesting perspective. And obviously the woman's side, I think, for guys, because we're wired a certain way, we just cast that line out, you know, and. And we hope to catch something. And we're not really thinking about how the inner workings of the female relationships are going to be affected. We're just looking to, you know, get a little taste, get a little honey. You know what I'm saying?

[Mr. Truffles]

Unfortunately, I do. But to keep with your metaphor, Cece, there's a lot of fish in the ocean.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah, there really are.

[Mr. Truffles]

You don't need to date your good friend's ex boyfriend.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yep. I'm. You know what, Mrs. Drevels? I'm turned around. You're absolutely right. You can't do it, Cece. You can't do it. But good luck to you on your search for love.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah, good luck on your search for love, Cece.

[Mrs. Truffles]

So I think it's time to talk a little bit about our guest couple, Mrs. Truffles.

[Mr. Truffles]

Oh, let's do.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Oh, yeah. We've got Bobby and Alison Bauer in the house. This is exciting. So, typically, we'll write the bio for our couples, but we also give them the option of writing their own bio. And I asked Bobby and Allie what they wanted to do, and Bobby said, I got this. Let's see what he's got. Okay. Alison is, as she calls herself, a shop girl at 14 Karat jewelry store in Beverly Hills.

[Mr. Truffles]

Beautiful store.

[Bobby Bauer]

She.

[Mrs. Truffles]

It is beautiful. She has legions of fans and loyal, loving customers that she's developed over the last 15 years. Bobby hasn't been up before noon in the last 15 years. Okay, that's not true. Bobby, he works hard.

[Mr. Truffles]

He's a hard working guy.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah, he's up by 11. Okay. Bobby and Allison quietly value the reckless, beautiful magic and love that has kept them together for three decades. They don't usually talk all that much about their union, and when they do, you can't shut them up. Okay, that says it all.

[Mr. Truffles]

We'll be right back with Bobby and Alison Bauer.

[Mrs. Truffles]

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[Mr. Truffles]

You know who really looks adorable right now?

[Mrs. Truffles]

Do tell.

[Mr. Truffles]

Alison Bauer. And she's sitting right in front of us.

[Bobby Bauer]

She's kidding. When you said schmaltzy, it is.

[Mrs. Truffles]

So we're here with Bobby and Ally Bauer, who. I feel like I say this all the time. I've known them for 30 years. They're very, very dear friends of mine. And when we were actually thinking about the show, they were definitely one of the couples that came to mind first. As far as couples that have been together for decades and still love each other.

[Mr. Truffles]

Thank you so much for joining us.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Thank you for having us.

[Alison Bauer]

Thank you for having us.

[Bobby Bauer]

This is fun and exciting.

[Alison Bauer]

We just look forward to spending time with you guys. And this was our big excuse.

[Mrs. Truffles]

So, guys, this is a podcast about.

[Mr. Truffles]

Love and romance and charm, enduring love.

[Alison Bauer]

Yes.

[Mrs. Truffles]

And so I just. We want to start by talking about.

[Mr. Truffles]

How did you two first meet?

[Mrs. Truffles]

How it all started.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

I'm gonna tell the story. And I have to tell you, as I was living the story, I was thinking, wow, if this becomes a thing, I will tell this story so many times. And I have. I literally had that thought, oh, when it was happening. When it was happening, oh, my God. I was like, there was just something.

[Mr. Truffles]

Telling you down inside that this was it.

[Alison Bauer]

It was my 25th birthday, and I'm living in an apartment with a friend, and I'm coming home here in la, and I'm working, and I'm working late. And when I get home, my roommate Gillian says to me, I just met the greatest guy named Bobby. And I'm telling you, it's your husband. And she went on and on about this guy Bobby. Didn't matter because she saw him first. Bobby is going to be my husband. But it didn't matter because she saw him first. And she went on and on to the point I was like, I never need to hear about this guy Bobby again. Because the perfect man that I can't have because you saw him first. And that was the end of that night. Two days later, I go on a date with this guy that I've been flirting with for a while at work. And the China Club opening is opening in, like, a New York club, and I'm all excited to go. The China Club.

[Bobby Bauer]

Open China Club in Hollywood Argyle.

[Mr. Truffles]

I remember that.

[Alison Bauer]

Right. So we get to the China Club opening, and we walk through the doors.

[Mrs. Truffles]

You and this other guy.

[Alison Bauer]

Yeah. And he says, not me. Oh, no. And I said, what's the matter? He said, my girlfriend's here. And I was like, okay, bye.

[Bobby Bauer]

So he goes, she went on a date to the China Club opening with this guy. They walk in and his girlfriend is there.

[Alison Bauer]

So our date's over. But what I'm kind of proud about is that I was like, well, it's the Toronto Club opening. I'm not leaving. You go to your girlfriend. I literally go to the bar and do shots. I'm like, I'll figure out the China Club opening. Where am I going?

[Mrs. Truffles]

That's fine.

[Alison Bauer]

And I run into this friend of mine from college, Nick. And Nick and I are doing shots. We're having the best time. Nick introduces me to this guy named Steven. And Steven and I hit it off like a house fire. Like, we are having the best time finishing these other sentences. It's amazing, to the point where I go.

[Bobby Bauer]

It almost sounds. Sounds too good to be true.

[Alison Bauer]

I invite Stephen to my birthday party on Friday night, which I was only allowed to have 25 people. I invited my 26th person. I would figure that out later, too. And I go home that night. I tell Jillian. I'm like, I met the greatest guy. I met this guy named Steven. I'm out of my mind. Like, it's really deep, and you're gonna meet him in two days. Steven walks into my birthday party. And Jillian goes, bobby, what are you doing here? And I said, that's not Bobby. That's Stephen. She's like, no, that's Bobby. It was the same person. My friend Nick was drunk and introduced me to. To Bobby as his brother's name. And now I'm at a party with the same person that she had told me about two days later. And I said, but, Jillian, I can't have him. He's your. He's yours. And she's like, we could go to Vegas tonight and you guys can get married. I am so sure about this. We could go to Vegas tonight. And it's really funny because there's all these pictures of me at my party, and it's like, either I'm like, walking behind Bobby or he's walking behind me. But it was like, this crazy thing. And I know if I'd come home that night and said, I met this guy named Bobby, should be like, it's the same person. It has to be the same person. But because I said, steven, we went on our first date to.

[Bobby Bauer]

I'm give you the Rashomon, okay? It's not Rashomon, but I'm going to give you the. My version on Hamill at this apartment was one of my best friends. We were in. We were actors together. We were musicians. We were in a band together. His name was Kenny. Him and his wife and their baby daughter lived downstairs in this apartment on Hamel. And I went to visit them, as I did all the time I was.

[Alison Bauer]

Single, which was also kind of weird because I was there all the time, too. But we must have always crossed paths, because he must have been there during the day. But every time I would go home from work, I would stop by these people's to say hi to them. I would have noticed we never there. So it's weird that we actually had been, like, walking in the same footsteps for months, year, without seeing each other, because we just kept. He said he was there all the time, but I was there all the time. We were just never at the same time.

[Mr. Truffles]

That's crazy.

[Alison Bauer]

Which was weird.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

So it took to get to somewhere else entirely to meet.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah. No, the universe had a different plan for you.

[Bobby Bauer]

Well, I think so.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

So I am visiting Kenny and Melissa and their baby, and this girl Jillian comes home. My roommate pops in, who lives upstairs.

[Alison Bauer]

As we always did.

[Bobby Bauer]

Allison's roommate. And she's like, hey. And we just start talking. She says to me, you got to meet my roommate Al, because she's. She's fantastic. We start talking. She's pitching me on her roommate, Allison. Al. I'm like, well, that's great. But I leave. I was invited to the opening of the China Club on Argyle. And I go the same night, and I go with a friend of mine, and I take a lap, and I'm like, I'm done. I'm going there. On my way out, my friend Nick stops me because he sees me. He's like, what are you doing? And he's drunk, and he's like, what are you doing? We start talking. Come have a shot. I'm at the bar, and he goes, I want to introduce you to somebody, and introduces me to Allison.

[Alison Bauer]

So because he had heard Al, he hadn't even heard Allison, Right? So that might have, like, you know, there's no connection. Things that didn't happen.

[Bobby Bauer]

And we start talking, and we kind of step off away from the bar to where me and Allison are talking. And it is on Ally. And I just started. It was tennis. Like, it was very. She was super, super fast, gorgeous and funny. I was definitely snake bit in that moment.

[Mr. Truffles]

There was just a lightning bolt moment.

[Bobby Bauer]

For buzzing well, the lightning bolt moment for me.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

I tell this, and you mock me for this, but this is absolutely true. Was. This is back in the 90s when.

[Alison Bauer]

You could smoke and you smoked socially. It wasn't commitment.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

And Allison. Allison was smoking, and we were talking.

[Alison Bauer]

Because I was drinking.

[Bobby Bauer]

She was sexy, and she was fantastic, and we were on. It was like she. Nothing sat on her side. Like, she hit it back over. It was just great. And then in clear. In what I was feeling very clearly was this thing that was happening, and I was just. I could just devour you. I say in my young, dumb cockiness, God, it's such a dragon. And she goes, what is. And I go, we're not gonna date. And she goes, really? Why is that? And I said, because you smoke. And I don't. I don't date smokers. And she goes, takes a big drag.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Blows it in your face.

[Bobby Bauer]

Inhales a plume of smoke in my face. I was enveloped.

[Alison Bauer]

I think I did it consciously and went, bummer.

[Bobby Bauer]

And in that moment, in just the fog of smoke and looking at her beautiful face and her eyes and her going, bummer, like, oh, I'll marry you right now. I love you. I quit smoking. I don't care. I love you. And it was that. It was a moment where. It was that moment that you're talking about, Tara, where it was just like. And I left. I fumbled around, and I was like, well, I'm gonna leave.

[Alison Bauer]

But I told you my birthday. You knew.

[Bobby Bauer]

You told me about your birthday, but I didn't ask for your number. And you were like. It was like, come to this party. Come to my party. Here's my number. Call me if you want to come. I left with her number.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Okay.

[Bobby Bauer]

That she gave me.

[Alison Bauer]

Call me. You called Nick because Nick told me that you were.

[Bobby Bauer]

I called Nick and I was like, what's her story? And he was like, she's fantastic, and she'll kill you. And I was like, okay, I'm in. So I did something that I had never, up to that point, done. When I used to roll with the boys, like, I was never go alone, ever. I just didn't. Not for no reason other than at that time, we would roll together. 2, 3, 4, 5. Boys. We just roll.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Posse.

[Bobby Bauer]

Posse.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

I go to this party. I walk in. This house was crazy. And. And I walk in, there's a bevy of people, and Allison sees me, comes over to me and is so, so happy to see me, and takes my hand, and we hold hands for the rest of the night. She was just like this girl, this human, this person. I just wanted to be with her.

[Alison Bauer]

I got home from my party and there was a message on my voice, you know, my voicemail message.

[Bobby Bauer]

But in the day 90s.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

Colin, you have a voice machine. Right? Right.

[Alison Bauer]

And it just said, I'm smitten was the only thing it said.

[Mrs. Truffles]

That's when you called.

[Alison Bauer]

You called him that night and you.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Said, oh, Steve, I need coffee. At what point? Because when he showed up, you thought he was Steve.

[Alison Bauer]

Yes, I did. But. So first of all, I was also dating somebody. I was actually dating Bruce Willis's little brother, David Willis, at the time, who was like, messing with my head.

[Bobby Bauer]

This is where the podcast turns.

[Alison Bauer]

It wasn't serious because he was, like, messing with my head. He was come to my party for two minutes and he was leaving. And I was like, david, can't do this with you anymore. If you leave this party, I'm done. Like, I'm not. I can't get mess. Can't.

[Bobby Bauer]

Like, in terms of sliding doors, this is. This happened before I arrived. So it was like the heavens open.

[Alison Bauer]

Jillian. Jillian and I were at the door because I was saying to her, I'm telling David. I'm like, david game with you anymore? He walked out and literally Bobby walked in. So I was kind of standing there with Jillian, just crazy. And then Jillian, that's when Jillian was like, bobby's here. I was like, no, that's Stephen. Because she was like, why are you here?

[Bobby Bauer]

That's right. I do remember this.

[Alison Bauer]

And it was like, all happened at the door.

[Mrs. Truffles]

And Bobby's like, I'll be whoever you want me to be.

[Alison Bauer]

I mean, it was wild.

[Bobby Bauer]

Just let me come here.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Call me, Steve.

[Bobby Bauer]

Again that night, because we were walking around, Jillian and Bruce Cohen. Bruce Cohen, Academy award winning producer, was there. This was her group. Like, it was all these young Marisa Tomei, like, all these people. This was their group. I walked into this house, I didn't know anybody because we glommed onto each other so innocently, sincerely.

[Alison Bauer]

He became part of our tribe real fast.

[Bobby Bauer]

But that night, Jillian was saying, you guys should go to Vegas.

[Alison Bauer]

Bruce was like, I'll drive.

[Bobby Bauer]

And Bruce was like, I'll drive. You should go to Vegas tonight. It was just so difficult. I don't even know that we were in touch. I mean, we were.

[Alison Bauer]

Everyone was really into it. Like, it was, like, exciting. So then we went on our first date on Sunday.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Just one second, honestly. After the party, Bobby, you called and left a message. I'm smitten and nothing else.

[Alison Bauer]

Nothing else. That's the coolest thing ever.

[Mrs. Truffles]

I've known you for a long time. You're not a cool guy. That's the coolest thing I've ever heard. That's so beautiful.

[Alison Bauer]

We had a plan for Sunday night. He shows up. We have this amazing dinner. Amazing night. And he's wearing a bandana.

[Bobby Bauer]

Funny that way.

[Alison Bauer]

His hair was kind of long. He's wearing a bandana with skulls on it, like, tying in the back of his head.

[Bobby Bauer]

Super cool.

[Alison Bauer]

In California and all white with, like, beads. I was like, yeah, it's like dating a beach boy.

[Mrs. Truffles]

What year is this?

[Alison Bauer]

This is 80.

[Mrs. Truffles]

89.

[Alison Bauer]

It was 89, right?

[Mrs. Truffles]

Okay.

[Alison Bauer]

It's cool.

[Bobby Bauer]

Anyway, we went to fish company.

[Alison Bauer]

The fish company, something like that in Santa Monica, like, where they would write the specials and chalk. It was cool. First we went. He met me on the beach. Like, we took a walk on the beach first. Then we went. And as we're getting into his car, and this was a little bit awkward. He. Before he got in the car, he asked me if he could kiss me.

[Bobby Bauer]

You were the. You were the first girl that I asked if I could kiss normally. Just club him. Drag him into the cave.

[Alison Bauer]

I sell engagement. There's something to be said for that. What I love so much is he didn't call me. He would knock on my door. He would come stop by, and it was really amazing. He'd be like, what are you doing? You're available? You want to go get dinner with me? What are you doing? You're available? I just want to say hi for a minute or I'm going to see Kenny. It was just so cool. Very old school, very romantic.

[Bobby Bauer]

Well, it was old school. It was a million years ago. But you know what?

[Alison Bauer]

The thing is, who's home, who answers the phone?

[Bobby Bauer]

But it just. Without design and without really even knowing what I was doing. And I would do know what I knew was this was.

[Alison Bauer]

This was real. Me, too.

[Bobby Bauer]

This was different.

[Alison Bauer]

Yeah. Bobby told me he loved me. September 18th, 17th. Like, really, like, early September. It was not shocking or surprising.

[Bobby Bauer]

By the fourth day on my own, I called the other girls that I was seeing to say, I'm seeing somebody. It was the first kind of real mature thing. I don't think I've ever been that mature since.

[Mrs. Truffles]

It was not Ali saying, you need to do this.

[Bobby Bauer]

No, no, no, no. It was on my own. I was like, I.

[Alison Bauer]

Before Bobby, I met him, I was like, kind of fooling around with Woody Harrelson and Woody kind of Dumped me for Ali Sheedy.

[Bobby Bauer]

Sheedy.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yes.

[Alison Bauer]

So I run into Woody at, like, some billiard club, and he remembers that he likes me again. So he calls me that night, and I have to tell him that I'm sorry, I can't see him again because I'm actually dating someone that I really like, and I don't want to date anybody else.

[Bobby Bauer]

So the girls that I called were all a lot hotter than Woody, but not nearly as fast.

[Alison Bauer]

But I wasn't dating Woody. Like, I didn't have to do that call. It was just this weird, like, outlier moment.

[Mr. Truffles]

Right. Right.

[Alison Bauer]

It just. There was no one I wanted to be with. No one. Like, you know, we were, like. We said to our friends, we're like, we'll see you in a year. Because we just could not.

[Bobby Bauer]

We got. We developed this weird twin speech for me. I knew immediately. Intrinsically, I just want to spend time with this person. Now that I've met this person. I'm already late in the day. It's already been too long away from you.

[Alison Bauer]

He said that in his wedding vows to me. It was so beautiful. He's like, now that I finally found you, I don't want to spend a minute without you. Like, it was something. It was so poetic and so beautiful. But that was where we were right away, and our friends were all so into it.

[Mr. Truffles]

You're having this amazing, amazing time together. When did you ask her to marry you? How did that go together?

[Bobby Bauer]

Six months.

[Alison Bauer]

It's February, right? Because it's February 4th. My mother's birthday is the 6th, and we're going. And we go home to New York to be with her. Yeah. Go home. And we're staying at my friend Marissa's. Anyway, so we go back.

[Bobby Bauer]

Her friend Marissa, we're staying at her place.

[Alison Bauer]

She stays with a friend.

[Bobby Bauer]

Before we get there. In my world, I'm living on Sycamore in my apartment.

[Alison Bauer]

It's almost Valentine's Day.

[Bobby Bauer]

It's almost Valentine's Day. And I was like, what do I give this girl? And I just had no idea about anything. I really didn't. I was like, I'm gonna make her a ring for Valentine's Day.

[Alison Bauer]

So sweet.

[Bobby Bauer]

So I go to the neighborhood jeweler.

[Mrs. Truffles]

I go.

[Bobby Bauer]

And I was like, I want to make a ring. And she was like, what do you want to make? And I said, a hand holding a heart. And she was like, oh, that's so beautiful. Here, let me give you some jeweler's wax. And you design it however you want to do, because I said, I want to kind of do it. So I sculpt out of jeweler wax this hand holding a heart or a hand. And she was gonna then make the heart and put the heart in there. I didn't have a lot of money. And I have this ring made, and it comes out looking like a chimpanzee's hand, a boon's hand, a bamboo squeezing.

[Alison Bauer]

A heart to death.

[Bobby Bauer]

And there's a garnet. A garnet heart, which might have been coal, but. I know. But it might as well have been, like. I just. Honestly. But in my mind, there was no, I'm gonna marry this. There was not that.

[Alison Bauer]

It was a Valentine's present.

[Bobby Bauer]

It was a Valentine's Day present. And I get the ring, and I'm like, okay, yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

I mean, I made it.

[Bobby Bauer]

I made it. I wasn't like, oh, this is great. I was like, there's some problems here. But, you know, we're gonna. I'm gonna. It's Valentine's Day, so now we go to New York, and I have the ring with me. We are in bed together.

[Alison Bauer]

It's the morning. We just woke up.

[Bobby Bauer]

We're naked. We're in bed.

[Alison Bauer]

Which has nothing to do with the story.

[Bobby Bauer]

I didn't know when I was gonna give it to her, but all of a sudden, I was like. I'm like, I'm gonna give her the ring now. And I go get out of bed, and I scramble and find the ring and come back to bed, and I've got it in my hand, and I. Again, no foresight, no plan here. I break out the monkey ring, and I find myself saying, do you. Do you want to. So do you want to get married?

[Alison Bauer]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

And she says, are you asking again? I'm prone naked next to her in bed with a monkey. With a monkey ring. And she said, are you asking me to marry you?

[Alison Bauer]

And I went, yeah, I guess I am.

[Bobby Bauer]

Yeah, I guess. Yeah. I think. Yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

I am crazy. So we're now.

[Bobby Bauer]

So jfk. We're in the gate. Our plane's delayed. We're newly engaged, so we're calling everybody on the phone. So this is also back on a pay phone where, you know, you have payphones.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

And we're calling her family, and we're calling friends. We're calling.

[Alison Bauer]

Wait. So we sit down.

[Bobby Bauer]

We go back, finally get on the plane. But before we get on the plane. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

We sit down, and we're, like, deciding, like, because we've got hours ago when we should get married, and we're like, okay. Because I love a plan. So we're sitting down, and we're like, what months do you like? And so we both pick the months that we'd like to get married. We get back to his apartment back in la, and there's a fax that had come in from my mother, was a handwritten guest list, and I think it was 150 people. Of her friends alone, that's five that.

[Mrs. Truffles]

She put together while you were on the flight, right?

[Bobby Bauer]

Yes.

[Alison Bauer]

Bobby was, like, flipped out. Like, this is not what he signed up for. He didn't have any family, whatever. And he says to me, like, okay, if your mother does a party for her people in New York, and your father does a party for his people in New York, and then we in la, we have the wedding we want.

[Bobby Bauer]

We have the wedding we want.

[Alison Bauer]

So I said, I think I could probably pull it off in three months. And Bobby said, okay, what's three months from this Saturday? And it was April 28th. And we'll celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary this April 28th.

[Bobby Bauer]

And we got married in my. My. My adopted uncle's backyard in the house, 81 people.

[Alison Bauer]

We. You know, the Jewish wedding. There's seven blessings, which I love. So what we did was we handed blessings out to friends. At one point, the blessing of marriage was what's. At the very end, or whatever union. A really good friend. Rob, Robin.

[Bobby Bauer]

Sky stood up at her Broadway, performed.

[Alison Bauer]

Beautiful, sang Ave Maria. People were weeping, like, everybody was like.

[Mr. Truffles]

I'm gonna weep now, hearing about it.

[Mrs. Truffles]

We just sang Ave Marina.

[Bobby Bauer]

We gave those seven blessings to seven of our friends and said, whatever you want to do. However you want to represent this blessing, do. So one of them wrote a song. Another one wrote a poem.

[Alison Bauer]

Someone did a poem from, like, a Native American prayer.

[Bobby Bauer]

And Robin sang the song after the.

[Alison Bauer]

Wedding, when everybody was, like, hugging everybody. Not what. Not one dry eye, tears, mascara. It was. It was incredible that day.

[Bobby Bauer]

That morning, I went to the flower Market at 5 or 6 in the morning, and I made her bouquet. I brought flowers and I made her bouquet. And I made Marissa's bouquet, I think, and my sister. I made the chuppah. I think I made the. Right.

[Alison Bauer]

It was a tablecloth from Helga.

[Bobby Bauer]

Right. And I got roses. I had it in my idea that what I would do is I would put single stem roses on all the chairs.

[Alison Bauer]

Bethany handed them out to everybody. She walked with a basket. My sister.

[Bobby Bauer]

That's right. Okay, great.

[Alison Bauer]

It was like 14.

[Bobby Bauer]

And the I. And what I said was, you've been handed A rose. If you choose to keep the rose, I ask you that on the birth of our first child, you return the rose.

[Alison Bauer]

We got so many roses.

[Bobby Bauer]

And we got so many roses. We got. When Harris was born, we got a fair. Not so many roses.

[Alison Bauer]

We got a lot more than I ever thought. And we put. We had this cool glass thing that had our invitation on it. And we took the petals and put them in there.

[Bobby Bauer]

I have. I have two of the roses framed.

[Alison Bauer]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

That. Somebody gave us that back. It was. Yeah.

[Mr. Truffles]

And then we want to hear more about. So. Okay. So where did you. You had this. A beautiful wedding.

[Alison Bauer]

It was cool. It was a cool wedding.

[Bobby Bauer]

It was very much us.

[Mr. Truffles]

Magical.

[Alison Bauer]

So then we're gonna go to New Orleans for honeymoon. We had no money, you know, so.

[Bobby Bauer]

You'Re asking about honeymoon.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

And so my mother. So we're gonna go to New Orleans and my mother had got me like, a negligent, like, penoir set, you know, And I get home to our apartment, and by the grace of God, I swear I put our alarm on because I don't even know why I did it.

[Bobby Bauer]

We were leaving. That was. So we get.

[Alison Bauer]

You have to leave at like 6 o'clock.

[Bobby Bauer]

We have the wedding day. We go to the. We have the wedding dinner afterwards, get back to the apartment on Sycamore, and.

[Alison Bauer]

We'Re sitting at the foot of the bed and Bobby, like, popped champagne and we're sitting at Saxonati.

[Bobby Bauer]

At this point, I'm like. And she looks so fine, and it's all great.

[Alison Bauer]

Hours later, we wake up. I'm still holding my champagne in my sexy nightingale like this with the glass at the silver.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Come on.

[Bobby Bauer]

No, such.

[Alison Bauer]

Literally held my. My champagne glass.

[Mr. Truffles]

So you had not consummated the marriage at that point?

[Mrs. Truffles]

No, no, no.

[Bobby Bauer]

Still haven't.

[Alison Bauer]

So then we get. We get to New Orleans and we get to this old cool hotel called the Corn Husker. The oldest hotel.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Trench Quarter.

[Bobby Bauer]

Yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

Yeah. And we get there and we get.

[Bobby Bauer]

To our room three to your point. Yeah. In my mind, I'm like, I'm gonna suffer through the plane.

[Alison Bauer]

Get to our hotel, get to New.

[Bobby Bauer]

Orleans and consummate the man.

[Alison Bauer]

We get to the hotel room and Bobby opens the door, which bangs on the bed. And we have to, like, shimmy into the, like sideways. And then we close the thing. There's a Jolly Rancher on each of our pillowcases. And that was. Okay. All this was not a big deal.

[Bobby Bauer]

We close the door and we hear the phone ringing and it's the receptionist, Court Oscar in.

[Alison Bauer]

How can I help you?

[Bobby Bauer]

They're right there.

[Alison Bauer]

If we can hear him that clearly, he could hear us, too, Literally. So he had. He went and got us a different hotel room. St. Anne's the St. Antoinette. St. Antoinette, Marie Antoinette, something like that.

[Bobby Bauer]

And then that was our honeymoon in New Orleans. We were there for seven days, all pure dome. I mean, it was just the best. It was just a beautiful, funny, fun.

[Alison Bauer]

We still laugh about it. Like, we look at. It was really, like, this crazy. We fell asleep one night. There was a man outside our window playing guitar, singing Blackbird. His voice was so sweet.

[Bobby Bauer]

I paid a lot for that guy. That cost me a lot.

[Mr. Truffles]

So what do you guys. I know you talked about how you like to just get out to go to dinner sometimes, but what. What do you do to keep it really romantic? Like, what's your little special ingredient that just keeps you two so in love.

[Alison Bauer]

And like each other? Like each other. It's not about. We don't. I'm not super adventuresome.

[Bobby Bauer]

That's not true.

[Alison Bauer]

I mean, I like to have a good time, but I'm like. I work a lot.

[Bobby Bauer]

We got tattoos last week.

[Mr. Truffles]

That's pretty adventurous.

[Bobby Bauer]

Adventures after 33 years. Yeah, it's. There's. There is the comfort of. We know our rhythms, but we also do. We do go out, and we're like, where do you want to go? Like, I think we don't like planning, and that probably is the thing that kind of keeps spontaneity. I think so. Yeah. It does keep it spontaneous. Yeah.

[Alison Bauer]

We also share our lives with one another to a point. Like, we're not the couple that sits at a restaurant and doesn't speak right. Ever. We're not those people.

[Bobby Bauer]

I mean, we speak mostly to other people.

[Alison Bauer]

It's just. We're not that couple where, like, my day, I always want to, you know, we talk about my day. I can't. There's so many moments, I'm like. I hear Bobby's voice in my head helping me figure out what to do next. That is also me going home and talking about, hearing about his day. She's like, we make each other laugh a lot. I don't know.

[Mr. Truffles]

It's just beautiful. Well, we. We have. We have a special gift for you guys. It's a weekend of romance in a big red Toyshire bag. This is big. Yeah. This is part of the show. And what it is, is we open this together and we talk about everything that's in there.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Oh, my God.

[Bobby Bauer]

Okay, I'm just gonna pull things Right.

[Mr. Truffles]

Just pull things and let's go.

[Bobby Bauer]

There's a bottle of champagne for you, listeners.

[Alison Bauer]

I happen to love this. I love this champagne.

[Mr. Truffles]

Okay, well, this is Schrombsburg and we love it. We are gifting Schromsburg this March because March is our anniversary month. And the first moment that I met Tommy, that is what I was drinking.

[Mrs. Truffles]

At the honor bar.

[Bobby Bauer]

I do remember you telling me that you met this woman and it was electrifying. I do remember that very clearly. Okay. Shamsburg. May I also say it's chilled. Nice.

[Mr. Truffles]

It might just be cold.

[Alison Bauer]

Okay.

[Bobby Bauer]

There's a box here. Okay.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah, those are champagne truffles.

[Alison Bauer]

I love truffles.

[Bobby Bauer]

Here, I'm showing the mic. There's that and then there's.

[Mr. Truffles]

So this is. And this is our. No, this is our crackling fire candle, which is perfect for the cold weather.

[Bobby Bauer]

We're in citrus green tea, and it.

[Mr. Truffles]

Has a wooden wick and it sounds like a crackling fire.

[Bobby Bauer]

I'm gonna light this tonight.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Do it. No, it's very romantic.

[Bobby Bauer]

And we're gonna make a baby.

[Alison Bauer]

Okay.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Nice. And what else we got, Bobby?

[Bobby Bauer]

What else we got? What is this?

[Mr. Truffles]

This is the love and chocolate body butter that I make.

[Bobby Bauer]

You make body butter?

[Mr. Truffles]

I do, and I've been making it for years. And it's. It's all the best stuff for your skin, Ellie. It's just everything you could imagine.

[Alison Bauer]

And I put moisturizer every day.

[Bobby Bauer]

Listeners, if you could see this. This looks like it should be illegal, but it's.

[Mr. Truffles]

That will be available for sale soon on our website. I've decided to finally share it with. With the world, but thank you. Yeah, it's fantastic. Like, Tommy starts out our mornings a lot of time. Give me a back rub with it. It's just. It's amazing.

[Alison Bauer]

Love it.

[Bobby Bauer]

Tommy. Tommy. Okay, here's some.

[Mr. Truffles]

And this is. A lot of people don't realize that Toy Share has jams that we make in the factory. So this is all made with Swiss and European fruit. This is Toyshire jam.

[Bobby Bauer]

Toyshire jam. Okay. I've been to Toyshire many, many times.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Didn't know.

[Alison Bauer]

Did you miss the jam?

[Bobby Bauer]

Did not know.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

And this is made back in the. In Zurich. And so this is European berries.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Oh, yeah.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah. Swiss and European berries. So it's very naturally flavorful.

[Bobby Bauer]

I'm a jam over jelly person.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Okay.

[Alison Bauer]

He also makes his own bread, so it's lovely because we love, like, ice jam.

[Mr. Truffles]

And then inside there's something else that goes with that. So.

[Bobby Bauer]

Okay. Okay.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Okay.

[Mr. Truffles]

Take the Next one out. But wait, there's more. So this is patafrui. And so we have many. You won't believe all the flavors of jams we actually have. What do we have? Like, about 25 flavors.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Hang on.

[Bobby Bauer]

I have some scratchers here.

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah. And those. And each one of those. So those are little jellies made with just our jam and a little pectin to give it form. And each one is a different one of our jams.

[Bobby Bauer]

Tommy, can I hear what is this?

[Mrs. Truffles]

These are pas de fruit from torture.

[Alison Bauer]

Yeah.

[Bobby Bauer]

Yes, very much. Yes. Okay, and then what are these?

[Mr. Truffles]

Oh, those are just little. For love and chocolate. Little cards.

[Bobby Bauer]

Thank you, guys. This is so sweet and thoughtful and really, really, really exciting.

[Mr. Truffles]

We're gonna. Before we let you guys go, can I just ask you if you have some really good advice for young people who are seeking love or people who have found love and are newly married? What is your. Your best piece of advice?

[Alison Bauer]

I think you need to be realistic with marriage, understanding that, you know, there are times in your marriage where you're, like, sitting cozy and comfy in the roller coaster, and there are times where you're, like, hanging on for dear life. And for me, I believe that if you just hang on, you'll get back to the cozy and comfy. I don't like to fight, but you shouldn't be afraid of them. You're better off getting through them than pretending that they don't exist. Really choose the right partner. Like, no, be sure. If you're not sure, get out. I don't care if you're walking down the aisle, walk back. It's a lot of people that I know that are divorced knew walking down, and they were afraid to not cut bait. But understand, like our daughter says, that we're the most happily married couple that could get divorced at any moment. And I believe that is the definition of marriage, because it gets real hard sometimes. You're like, I just don't want to be talked to you anymore. I don't want to be your friend. I don't want to be married to you. Okay, baby. I love you. And the game's about to start, so you want to come watch with me? It's that, you know, just choose wisely. Trust.

[Mr. Truffles]

That's nice. That's good advice. And you, Bobby, do you have anything to offer Mr. Bauer?

[Bobby Bauer]

I think for me, I guess the reason that I'm about feeling like I have any advice to offer is that I believe. Believe that there's magic in the leap. And I believe when you Feel something, honor that thing you're feeling, and don't be afraid to take the leap and in. And then once you're in the relationship, I 100% agree that you have to. And I've learned this from you or have certainly learned it from you and gotten comfortable with it. You have to live out loud. You have to. If you are angry, be angry. And don't hide that and confront it and share it. And sometimes that there's always silver lining. And what my truth is in that moment may not be shared by you, but I think to put it out there and look at it together is the only way that you can get to the next, get to the next day, get through the night, sometimes sleep.

[Alison Bauer]

And the next day is perspective. Perspective is your friend.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, I feel like you two do communicate in real time. Whatever your emotions are, what you're feeling right now. A lot of people are passive aggressive or they just sit on it or they hold it inside. I don't think you can do that. It doesn't work.

[Bobby Bauer]

If there's anything that I feel confident about offering in terms of advice, it's that it is being honest and being raw and being like, look, I don't have the answers. Or I do think I have the answers. Or maybe I have this wrong, or maybe I have this right. Or, you know, it's just. It's all that you got to jump in the water together and splash around.

[Alison Bauer]

It's the long haul. That's the thing, too.

[Mr. Truffles]

Well, I know that Tommy and I have said in the past that it's more fun to be around you two when you're fighting than it is to be around most people when they're getting along.

[Bobby Bauer]

Sweet.

[Alison Bauer]

I can't stand it.

[Mrs. Truffles]

So entertaining.

[Bobby Bauer]

We are. We're children. We are so immature to a certain degree. Where we fight. Listening to that, to your voice, that instinct, which I believe never yells, it only whispers. And you have to lean in to really hear that. But I always believe that that voice is. Does not. That inner voice that we all have doesn't lead you astray. You know, that doesn't necessarily come in a moment, but, you know. Yeah, it causes you to pause. And in the pause is also the moment of reflection.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Whatever. You know, 33 years later and you guys are still so good together, so happy. It's so. That's crazy.

[Mr. Truffles]

Awesome.

[Mrs. Truffles]

But we're just. We're so happy that you shared your story.

[Alison Bauer]

Thank you for having me.

[Mrs. Truffles]

A lot of these stories that I. I didn't know and I, you know, I'm just so glad to relive them with you, you know.

[Mr. Truffles]

Thank you so much.

[Bobby Bauer]

Thanks for tuning this. This is super fun.

[Mr. Truffles]

Thank you guys.

[Bobby Bauer]

Thanks you guys.

[Mr. Truffles]

We'll be right back.

[Bobby Bauer]

Thank you.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Back with more for love and chocolate. This podcast is being brought to you by Beverly Hills Toy Chocolates of Switzerland. Beverly Hills Toyshire at 371 North Camden Drive in Beverly Hills, has been serving up truffles, pralines, dipped fruits, marzipans and our world famous chocolate bars for over 40 years. So next time you're in Beverly Hills, why don't you come by and visit or shop online@beverly hillstoys.com. oh, my God, I love Steve and Ally. I mean, Bobby and Allie. Sorry.

[Mr. Truffles]

There's the best.

[Mrs. Truffles]

They're really fun, aren't they?

[Mr. Truffles]

Yeah.

[Mrs. Truffles]

Such sweet stories.

[Mr. Truffles]

It was a great show.

[Mrs. Truffles]

It really was. Anyway, thanks again for joining us. And guess what? We'll do it again next week. Until then, say goodbye, Mrs. Truffles.

[Mr. Truffles]

Goodbye, Mrs. Truffles.

[Mrs. Truffles]

This show is brought to you by Beverly Hills Torsure Chocolates of Switzerland, home of the world's first and finest champagne truffles. Join us next week for more adventures in everlasting love.