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Mini-Ep 451: Party City

Forever35

Wed Jul 09 2025

Summary

Forever35 Mini-Episode 451: Party City – July 9, 2025

In Mini-Episode 451 titled "Party City," hosts Doree Shafrir and Elise Hu delve into personal anecdotes, listener interactions, and insightful discussions around self-care, relationships, and workplace dynamics. This episode, infused with humor and authenticity, offers a blend of lighthearted stories and meaningful advice, embodying the essence of Forever35.

1. Recapping Recent Adventures

Milk Makeup Event: Doree and Elise share their experiences attending a Milk Makeup event hosted in collaboration with Amazon Beauty. The event, held at Milk's unique photography studio, featured interactive elements like a claw machine dispensing the popular Cooling Water Jelly Tint.

Doree Shafrir [05:00]: "It was fun to, like, check out Milk makeup. They had a claw machine where you could, like, get a little blush lip combo."
Elise Hu [06:00]: "My daughter Issa was like, don't come home without a cooling water jelly tint."

The event also provided networking opportunities, including a chance encounter with Justin Theroux’s new wife, adding a touch of celebrity to their evening.

Elise’s Trip to Zion National Park: Elise recounts her rejuvenating trip to Zion National Park, highlighting the awe-inspiring experience of exploring the park on E-Bikes. The shift to device-free days aimed to foster deeper connections and mindfulness.

Elise Hu [08:28]: "The freedom and the beauty and like the vastness of just seeing the park on bike was incredible."

Elise emphasizes the mental and emotional recharge gained from immersing in nature, aligning with Forever35’s focus on self-care and personal growth.

2. Listener Questions and Community Insights

Cleaning a Tutu: A listener named Liz, an expert from a nonprofit dance organization, provides practical advice on cleaning tutus using a vodka and water solution to eliminate odors and bacteria.

Liz's Advice [11:00]: "To properly clean a tutu, create a vodka and water solution in a spray bottle... Let it dry thoroughly before storing."

Doree and Elise express their gratitude for such specialized listener contributions, showcasing the supportive Forever35 community.

Managing Charging Cords: Another listener seeks solutions for preventing the theft of charging cords by establishing designated charging stations in shared living spaces.

Liz's Solution [12:06]: "Instead of having personal charging cords, chargers belong to a location... It helps cut down on charger theft and being suddenly caught powerless with no charger."

Elise connects with Liz over their shared alma mater, Mizzou, reinforcing the podcast’s community-driven approach.

3. Workplace Dilemmas: Advice and Reflections

Relocating vs. Taking Severance: A long-time listener faces a challenging decision between relocating for her job or taking a generous severance package to move closer to family in Southern California as she prepares for motherhood.

Elise Hu [19:44]: "Given the uncertain economy, I'd probably take security over relationships."
Doree Shafrir [21:33]: "If you're not pregnant yet, I'd try to find another position at the company and save up enough money while working that you can get pregnant and move and have a cushion."

The hosts weigh the pros and cons, ultimately advocating for securing financial stability while also considering long-term personal goals.

Dealing with a Distracting Coworker/Friend: Another listener, Tori, seeks advice on managing a coworker who is also a friend, whose behavior has become increasingly distracting and negatively impactful at work.

Doree Shafrir [27:02]: "This is when you involve your manager. I think you need to tell your manager you want to move to a different office."
Elise Hu [28:26]: "She's already had a conversation or a series of them where she was like, this isn't cool."

The hosts recommend professional intervention and setting clear boundaries to maintain a productive work environment.

4. Product Recommendations and Community Shoutouts

Block UV Clothing: Listeners are introduced to Block UV's range of UV-protective clothing, suitable for both humans and pets. The discussion highlights the importance of sun protection, extending care to furry friends.

Doree Shafrir [33:16]: "They also have a bark UV section and they have a sun shirt for dogs."
Elise Hu [34:05]: "We know how adorable Oscar looked in his Kirkland brand hoodie."

UV Protection for Pets: The hosts emphasize the practical benefits of UV-protective attire for dogs, especially post-surgery, ensuring pets remain safe and comfortable during outdoor activities.

5. Closing Thoughts and Community Engagement

As the episode wraps up, Doree and Elise encourage listeners to reach out via call, text, or email with their questions and thoughts. They foster a sense of community by highlighting listener contributions and expressing appreciation for the shared knowledge and support within the Forever35 family.

Notable Quotes:

Elise Hu [08:26]: "It was incredible... Everything's large and vast and everything's gonna be okay."
Doree Shafrir [11:55]: "I had no idea this is how you're supposed to clean a tutu."
Elise Hu [12:25]: "I'm excited about, and lucky for my daughters, I have some vodka around."

Conclusion: Mini-Episode 451: "Party City" offers a heartfelt blend of personal stories, practical advice, and community interactions. Doree and Elise’s candid conversations not only entertain but also provide valuable insights into everyday challenges and triumphs, staying true to Forever35’s mission of exploring self-care and personal growth with humor and self-awareness.

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Dory Shafrir (0:00)

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Elise Hu (1:53)

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Dory Shafrir (2:05)

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Dory Shafrir (15:16)

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Elise Hu (24:48)

Dear Dorian Elise, I'm hoping I can draw from both your expertise regarding workplace and friendship, given an issue I'm having that intersects between these two categories. To start, my issue is my coworker slash friend's behavior has become increasingly distracting at work, making it more difficult to get my job done. And I don't know how to distance myself for context. I have known this person for a few years. We worked together at a previous job briefly and hung out a few times outside of work as friends. I wouldn't consider her a close friend by any means, and the friendship was mostly initiated on her end. I moved on to another job and about a year later she ended up also leaving the previous job and taking the same position I held. And now we shared a small office together. To be clear, I did not know we would end up working together, nor did she. At first, things seemed copacetic. We chatted a lot about our personal lives. I helped her learn the ropes. It was nice to have someone with whom I shared some history at the new job. She was always very chatty about everything, mostly not work related, which was fine when we weren't busy. But our workload steadily increased in the past six months. As the workload increased, her pleasant chattiness, which was at worst annoying and distracting, started becoming more negative gossipy, and then progressed to straight up constant angry venting. I empathized with her, offered support where I could, encouraged her to ask for help and go to management, but that only did so much. I turned a corner on how I felt towards her as a friend and a co worker when on a few occasions when we were particularly overwhelmed at work, she lashed out and was blatantly rude to several of our support staff. This behavior was addressed with the parties involved and she met with our manager. I don't feel she has taken any accountability for her behavior and she continues to play the victim and wants to vent to me about it. I don't want to be this person's Friend or office mate. I have tried just ignoring her and I've tried to say gently, I don't want to hear about the interpersonal issues she's having. I have not talked to my manager directly about this yet. I like my job, although it's not perfect, but she is making it to the point where I don't want to go to work. How do I approach this? Also, I think a themed month on careers would be awesome. Thank you guys for all the wonderful content and parasocial friendship. Who. I took that one to read because I want you to answer it. Tori.