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The red flags are going to be so apparent to you that you genuinely would just never be attracted to someone who has that coding. It's only when you don't do the work and you just go from one relationship to the next that you keep attracting the same thing. Because source is like, oh, you still haven't learned that lesson. So that's why taking a period of celibacy time away from dating to really do that interpersonal work. Because then we start to notice our attraction point majorly shifts.
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I'm the one I've been waiting for.
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And welcome back to the Highest Self Podcast. My name is Sahara Rose and on this podcast I love to talk about spirituality and make it modern, fun, grounded and relatable so it can actually serve your needs. This year I've been committed to doing more impromptu solo casts of me in my life, in my home, sharing the downloads that are coming through. So I'm here in front of my home altar right now if you're watching this on YouTube or Spotify video and really excited to share with you some turnings I've had within myself, conversations I'm having with the girlies, knowing that we're all really connected here in the soul group and likely you're going through this journey in your own way. Before we get into this episode, which I am so excited for, I'm at home going to rewatch it too. I would love if you could hit subscribe. I've noticed that over 50% of you that listen are actually not subscribed, so it's on YouTube, Spotify, both on video as well as Apple Podcast and subscribing a allows you to stay in the flow for future conversations. I promise I always keep it entertaining and spunky. You don't have to worry about that. And it really supports the podcast, which I love to make free for you. So be sure to hit subscribe wherever you are and let's get into this episode. So lots of us here have gone through big heartbreaks that served as initiations on our path. Maybe you went through a big breakup that rocked your world, a divorce you never saw coming, or just a slow ending of a relationship that you knew deep in your soul was not in alignment. And now maybe you're finally right now stepping out of or have been on the other side of for the past couple of years, but you're not really sure when or how you're going to meet that truly aligned Sacred Union partner. So in my own journey, I was divorced over three years ago now and that really shifted Me on the sacred union timeline. I do believe there are a group of souls of us here on earth to be on this certain timeline to experience sacred union. And when I say sacred union, it's like highest level being met between the masculine and feminine. And even if you're in a same sex couple, the feminine, masculine, within ourselves. So to be playing all out into a dharmic relationship. So most of us are playing out karmic relationships. Karmic is like the word karma. What goes around, goes around. You know, it is relationships based on learning lessons, based on pushing each other's buttons. And we need those because they cause us to become who we're meant to be. And we're going to play out a series of different karmic relationships which often start undeniably. You meet someone and you know you're meant to do that dance. And I always say the beginning of the relationship mirrors where you are at in your consciousness. And the end teaches you what still needs to be learned and integrated. So you may meet someone. It's this undeniable pull. And I really do believe once you feel that even if you mentally know it's not right for you, there's no going back. You know, having worked with so many students and friends, I can tell you all the things, but if you're going to do that dance, you're going to do that dance. And maybe you're in a dance right now. And so there are these magnetic poles that do cause us to look at things that we would have never looked at within ourselves. And then the reason why it doesn't work is aha. That's still what needs to be healed and integrated. And often it is the aspects of that other person that you may have overseen or not liked and judged that you actually needed to integrate within yourself. I always say we date the shadows that we have not integrated. So if you are attracted to men that have a lot of shadow to them, you know, the bad boy archetype in our society, but just men who, you know, there's something very pensive about them. Those, those brown eyes that also need some healing. I know all of us priestesses are like, please let me help you. It's that, it's that version of ourselves that's still the savior, that version of ourself that still feels like she needs to perform in love, that version of herself that overlooks the red flags because she just wants to be in love and she just wants the, the, the fantasy at any cost. And so we're going to go through a series of these. And by the way, I'm very, very curious which resonate with you. Please comment below so I can make specific videos for those. And so I've noticed we go through a series of karmic relationships and as we get further and further on our journey and by the way, you don't need to go through a hundred karmic relationships. You can do a lot of this purging work within yourself. That's why I really, really recommend celibacy. After celibacy. After my divorce, I was celibate for two and a half years and that really gave me time to be with myself. And in those two and a half years I probably would have gotten into toxic encounters or situationships or whatnot. And I was able to evade that by choosing to not let in romantic love in this period of time because I knew I still had deep shadow and purging work to do within myself. You know, after a big breakup, there's a lot of inner child hearing healing and really taking responsibility of, of how we were in that dynamic as well. And, and it, and it takes longer than I think a lot of us want it to. I remember, you know, feeling after my divorce like I'm just going to do all the work, I'm going to do the emdr, I'm going to sit with Ayahuasca, I'm gonna do every single thing. So I'm like done with this moving on sacred union. I to get through it. And what I've learned now three plus years later is like, oh, now I would say I'm finally ready. Because there were certain karmas that only time situations sitting in my own discomfort would have caused me to look at. And I have found we go through those and then we reach this period of the void. Imagine this is a year you finally start your podcast because let's be real, you are having so many incredible conversations with people that you're like damn, I wish that was recorded that could have helped someone. And it's time to finally do that and hit publish and let your voice be heard so it can make the impact that you are here to make. I would have never guessed in 2017 when I started this podcast, what it would become. 55 million downloads later, my best friends made my deepest sense of purpose. This podcast is the most favorite thing I do beyond any traveling, beyond any business. Like this is the thing that gives me life and it has led to me traveling and it has led to six figure business and it has led to books and memberships and courses and so much more. There is nothing more powerful than long form content. Because the thing about Instagram is like someone might watch your reel and then a second later it's gone. But with the podcast, people are really listening. They're present with you, they're understanding you. And you also get to have conversations with the people that you would want to be mentored by. Like every single week. I'm blown away by the thought leaders and experts and coaches that I get to have on my podcast and you can too. So, so many people have asked me for a podcast mentorship where I personally guide you in a small group max 10 people on how to start your podcast, what to name it, what the thumbnail graphic should be, what type of interviews or solo casts you're going to be putting out, the description of your podcast, and so, so much more. So this is my first ever six week mentorship, capped at only 10 people, where I will personally be on zoom every single week with you for 90 minutes every week. Plus you can email me the thumbnail pictures, all the things you want me to review. So you're going to be able to hit the ground running with the clarity that you need to get your podcast off the ground and out into the world this year. So head over to my show notes, it's the very first link there if you're interested, you're curious, you want to get started. It's available for the first 10 people only, but if you're listening to this later on, I'll have a wait list open and I can't wait to support you in the mentorship. So that period of the void is when getting into any kind of situation that's not our highest level. Sacred union is just in no way enticing. Like, we may meet people that were like, oh, we could do this dance. There is a lot here, but because I know how I truly want to feel and not who he is, but how I want to feel. And there's a big difference in that. Most of what like the love manifestation space will tell you is write a list of every single thing about him and wait for that person. And if you've been on this journey, your list has probably changed over time because with karma burning you are, you gain new experience. So you thought, oh, I really wanted a man who dah dah dah, dah dah. But having had that realization now, I'm actually realizing it's, it's not that. And often we personify aspects of someone in like a culture like I love, for example, I'm super romantic. I love love. And so I'm like, I need to be with a Latin American guy because they're the only ones who can meet me. And that was a limiting belief that I had because it's not only Latin American people who love love. It was just kind of like the brain tries to create patterns. And I was like, oh, well, they are seem to be more romantic to me. And so I need be with that. And. And it's not true. So we will often have these projections of, I need to, like, you want to feel safe, so you want to be with this, like farmer or like blue collar tough guy. But really it was your feeling of safety. And when you create that feeling of safety within yourself, it no longer needs to be personified by someone outside of yourself. So this is what the karma is burning. It's all of the projections that what we are desiring is outside of ourselves. And we have something called limerence, which is when we often have that like, obsessive crush over someone that we can't stop thinking about them. And that's when they really carry codes we want to embody within ourselves. So maybe you love how much space this person takes and how confident they are. That's because you deep down inside, desire to be more like that. Or for me, after my divorce, I was very attracted to artists because I did not know yet that I was an artist. And when I started producing music and singing and putting out my album, millions of streams later, it's like, oh, that was within me. So we often project our unlived aspects on these other people, and then also the things that we want to feel for a lot of women, financial security, feeling like, I need to find a man for me to feel provided for, rather than actualizing our own ability to. Because I guarantee you, your point of attraction will change when you know your bills are paid, you have the organic food, you're living where you want to live. Now I get to choose who I'm attracted to based on actual love rather than based on the very historical and patriarchal exchange of my body, my youth, my beauty, for financial security, which runs very, very deep in the feminine consciousness. So that's why you see very, very big movements. Like the whole sprinkle, sprinkle thing is like, be with whoever is the richest, even if you're not attracted to him. And her literal advice to people is before having sex, drink a bunch of alcohol so you don't even have to be there, which is just so. It's. It's heartbreaking. It's disassociative. And it's sad, but it's just so many women are working jobs that they're unhappy in feel their only way to quit their job is through a man. And this is a very, very historical reference point we need to evolve out of in our consciousness of that a man is a ticket to a new life, that through this relationship I'll be able to get the kind of life that I want. He's I want to travel, so let me find a traveler. I want to be more creative, so let me find a creative man. I want to be rich, so let me find a rich man. And rather than you get to be those things on your own. And a truly embodied man is not going to want to be the ticket for you to this new life. Only someone that wants to have power and control over you is going to want that. Of course you're going to share lives with each other. You're not going to be identical twins. But a truly evolved man will want someone who's walked the journey on her own and can meet her. I always refer back to the story of Shiva and shakti and vedic spirituality that Shiva, the ultimate deity, was so desired by all of the women, they were all trying to get his attention. And he went up into the mountains and he's like, I'm just going into samadhi. I'm just meditating. And Parvati went on another mountain and she went on her own path of self actualization and raised her vibration to a point that it awoken Shiva out of his deep slumber. And he came and found her. And then together, through making love, they created the mountains and the seas and the rivers and the universe. And that to me is the ultimate love love story and what a dharmic relationship is. So for those of guys, you guys who don't know, I wrote a very best selling book called discover your dharma. It's published in 20 languages around the world, sold hundreds of thousands of copies and have created dharma coaching institute. I've really devoted my life. I've got Dharma tattooed on me. So what, what does it, what does it mean? Why are you obsessed with this word? I don't have limerence. I swear I'm embodying it within myself. But Dharma is your soul's purpose. It's the big reason why you're here. It's your full embodiment. It's your full expression. It's you in. And so when we put that into form of relationship, it is a relationship that together we co create our highest Selves, we co create what we are here to share and serve humanity with. So it becomes larger than just us and our love. Yes, that is what fuels us and connects us. And even the sex, it's regenerative and restoring and spiritual. And it's where we channel higher source wisdom consciousness from. And it's for something greater than us. And I have found that when a relationship doesn't have a siddhi, a higher state of consciousness, we get very stuck in, in the minutia, in just the feeling of it. And feelings are important, but they're not definitive because feelings come and go and change, especially if you're a woman. And so if I'm basing my relationship only on am I feeling maximally in love at this time? Well, that's why most relationships don't work. Because you're like, I don't feel the same I did at the beginning because the love matures and it ferments and it takes new form. But when you connect it to a north star, that allows you to see the bigger vision and moments when one person's tired or one person's maybe a little bit snappy or whatever. The thing is, is of course to, to co create that love, but like to remember why you are here, which is going to naturally bring you back into your hearts. So maybe your dharma together is to teach about spirituality or create a beautiful cafe, or write a book together, or create some form of project. It doesn't even need to be your career. Your children are a huge part of your daraba. They're like the ultimate offerings that you're here to serve and share with humanity. And so when we have that, that something bigger than you and me, but rather that, that triangle, it actually fuels us with energy that is beyond us because then we're no longer just living for ourselves, which gets really boring after a period of time. And that's why when we only base a relationship on pleasure, it, it fades away because we're like, wait, I'm not feeling that same kind of pleasure anymore. I need to go find it somewhere else. Instead of saying we are going to cultivate as much pleasure as possible and continue to put that on the altar of our relationship. And there's something bigger for us to co create together and actually to listen to what that is. Because it's not going to be something that your brains compute, but rather something that the unique synerg of your two souls being in this quantum entanglement will naturally channel and usher through. So it's kind of like when you are with a you make make a new friend. Like think of someone who's been your friend for a while. You've gone on amazing journeys and travels together and chapters of each other's lives. You would have never known or predicted you were going to do that dance when you met. So it is the sacred surrender to you. And I have some sort of magnetism. There is the energy of the Big bang that is causing us to co create and share worlds. And now in this energetic field, let's listen to what is coming through. And what I have found is that your entire lives have been preparing you for this moment. All of the initiations you've both had in your respective fields and your journeys. You're able to see how you needed to actually only meet in this moment of time. Because neither of you would have been prepared for what is to come. And spirit knows like spirit always knows when two people are ready to meet. And I find it's like two comets that are circling around each other and come closer and closer and closer and closer, closer, closer, until it's inevitable. And I'm sure if you have conversations with this person, it's like you guys were in like the same place in different times or they walked in somewhere and you walked out and like all these different like cross minglings. But the timing was just not divinely prepared yet. And when it is, it is inevitable. And that doesn't mean it's the end of the journey. Rather it's new points of discomfort, it's new edges, it's new growth that only this person's range and who they've become and realizations and stages of life they've gone through paired with yours, coming together can converge into something that is so beyond you and that ultimately is what sacred union is about. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. So let's take a moment to celebrate you as a woman in all that you carry in your relationships, in your family, in your work. You know, as women we often are just caring for other people all the time and managing so many unseen responsibilities that often our own emotional well being can easily be overlooked. So I want you to take a moment to pause and reflect on the roles you play, the expectations that may be placed on you and the pressures you feel. And therapy is a safe space for you to create more balance, set healthy boundaries and just have overall more support for your emotional well being. I have loved speaking to a therapist to just have a sounding board where I could be myself and not managing another person's emotions and holding space for them, but just taking up that time. And so if you've never worked with therapist, I really recommend BetterHelp because it's all online. You take a short questionnaire that identifies your needs and preferences and your master therapy is just for you. 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So trust your intuition, trust your inner wisdom, trust you in the guidance.
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It is about creating something that is of service to humanity. Letting love guide, letting love be the healing solve that the world needs. I do believe there is a collective war on sacred union, whether it is in intentional or not. But this idea that we are better off on our own, we must learn to do everything by ourselves. And while this is a big stage, especially for the feminine, because it can be very uncomfortable for us to be on our own because we're so used to the sacrificial energy. But ultimately it's like telling a dog, you need to learn how to be alone. No, dogs are meant to be with, with, with people like that is how they're designed. Yes, don't have an anxiety attack when I'm gone for two hours. But we are communal beings. And if you have that desire in your heart for a love that is otherworldly, a love that bridges worlds, a love that heals, a love that inspires, a love that allows people to remember what is possible, then you are on that sacred union path and it's gonna look very different for you than it is for other people. So traditional dating advice will not apply because those are for the muggles who settle in their jobs, settle in their health, settle in their friendship, settle in, of course, in their love. They settle in everything. And so those dating advice people are going to say, you know what, as long as they have like 50 what you're looking for, just like freaking make it work, you know. And I do believe that advice, like what we can take from that is the person's not going to be perfect. They're not going to be maybe exactly what you were calling in. But I do believe in a lot of ways it will be better. Like, yeah, maybe they weren't the culture you thought they were, maybe they weren't the height or, you know, whatever the maybe thing you thought was. But it's actually so much better. And I'm not in the sacred union, but some of my friends who are and I ask them about their journey. They're like, I could have never imagined it to be so beautiful. And I feel it is important for us to remember that true love exists and people are falling in love every single day. And that if this desire is deep in your heart, which by the way, it's not in everyone's. Like, for me, it's so alive and palpable within me. But I speak with other friends, I'm like, do you feel this way? Are you like always thinking about it and calling it in? They're like, not really. Like, my focus is more on, on like money or something else. So it's, it's not everyone. But if it is in you, there is a reason why, and it's because you are on this timeline. And so Source is bringing you on this initiatory journey to prepare yourself. And something I've had to remind myself is, you know, we spend four years in college to get a degree, to likely have to get another degree to finally do the thing we want to do. So think about how much preparation time, like to become a doctor, four year degree, three years of medical school, two years of residency, two years of internship. That is an over 10 year process to become a doctor. And I remind myself this to humble myself that if I'm truly desiring the highest level of sacred union, there will be a long preparatory process for it. And I am so grateful that I've not been in it yet because I can see now there are still these fine tunings of me to feel ready. And look, I think we're always going to be getting more and more and more ready, but only until we meet that person will we understand why we need to be on that specific journey. So if you're not in that, which I'm assuming you're not, if you're listening to this right now, there is still some churning that is happening. Like we would not want to take the stew off of the, off of the fire too early because there is still a certain amount of brewing that needs to happen for everything to really come into harmony. Me. And so trusting that. Trusting that Source has a timing for things in ways that we don't understand. And everything is always perfect. And the version of you that needs to walk into the relationship does not yet exist. And the version of them that needs to walk into it does not yet exist. And when you both do, it is inevitable. Source will put you together on each other's paths in ways beyond that you could ever imagine. And it will all make sense. Sense. So right now the things that are coming up for you, maybe it's the patterns of loneliness, maybe it's the patterns of doubt, maybe it's the patterns of, you know, catastrophizing or being super anxious. Those are the things that you still get to heal, which actually is a divine gift to be able to heal that on your own. So you don't need to do that healing in the relationship. The more healing you do on your own, the higher the baseline of the relationship is going to be and the more that you will mirror someone who matches your consciousness. Now, do I believe there is one person who is meant for you? I personally, I actually believe as you evolve in consciousness, you might outgrow people who could have been a partner into this higher and higher and higher version of yourself, and you'll always find someone that mirrors your consciousness. However, I do believe children choose their parents and there is a very specific process of how they choose who the mother and father will be. But sometimes that's not even your sacred union partner, as you guys have probably seen in the collective. So, so trusting that you're here to do your work and it's not around finding him, but rather it is around you being prepared because you don't want to be in a relationship where you're going to feel anxious the whole time. You know, I've seen friends that they call in their perfect person, but then they're super, super anxious, they can't even receive it. And of course things will come up that need to be healed regardless. But the more that we can do that work on our own, you know, for me, it's been a lot around learning how to be alone, learning how to be in the unknown, seeing own shadows. These were all things I never fully needed to do because I was always in a relationship. And when I've now in this three plus year incubation process of really going into it, I've made. I love my aloneness, I love the unknown, I dance with the snake. And the more integrated I become, the more of an integrated soul I will magnetize. So, so the things that you're afraid of, the things that you judge, the fears that you have, you know, for a lot of us, it's fears of being betrayed, fears of being lied to, fears of being abandoned. To go into those shadows and realize that even if that thing happens, I will be okay. And as long as you learn from the lesson, it will not repeat. And that's what I've really learned is you never do the same dance again. If you've learned so maybe you were in a relationship where there was infidelity or something happened. If you actually sat with it, processed it, healed it, the red flags are going to be so apparent to you that you genuinely would just never be attracted to someone who has that coding. It's only when you don't do the work and you just go from one relationship to the next that you keep attracting the same, same, same thing. Because source is like, oh, you still haven't learned that lesson. And who we're attracted to will have those same qualities. So that's why taking a period of celibacy time away from dating to really do that interpersonal work, because then we start to notice our attract point majorly shifts that people that we may have overlooked may have never considered someone for us. Maybe it's a friend you had for a long time or an acquaintance. All of a sudden you look at them with different eyes because you're not looking at them anymore. Maybe just based on looks, maybe based on lust, but instead looking at them through the eyes of God and actually seeing their soul. And I feel that's what really shifts. It's, you know, we have been taught to date based on status, looks, you know, achievements, but rather when we can date with our eyes closed and just feel into someone's energy because that's the person you're going to be having conversations with for the rest of your life. So you want them to be deep and multifaceted and the version of you that you love to be and for that person to evoke the qualities in you that you want to spend more time in. Of course, it will also bring up shadow and things that we might sometimes try to run away from, but those are things that are, that are being held in love and being called forth to heal. So let me know if this resonates. Let me know what you're feeling with this, what's showing up for you, and any other topics you would love for me to do a solo cast jam on. I absolutely love doing these and it's really fun and easy for me because I'm like having, having a moment thinking about these things. Then I can turn on my phone and, and, and give it here straight to you. So please comment below, on, on YouTube, on Spotify, read them all, and I'm so excited to see you in the next episode. Namaste.
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Trust your intuition, trust your inner wisdom, Trust your inner guidance. So trust your intuition, trust your inner wisdom, trust your inner guidance.