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The siren is the dark, feminine version of the mermaid. She has boundaries. She knows her sense of worth. Take it or leave it, because I'm going to be me. So she is the energy of emotional depth, of mystery, of sensuality, of confidence and presence all merged together. It is fierce, it's strong. That, to me, is siren energy. When you look into her eyes, you're like, how deep does this go?
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Just flow, surrender, let go. Just flow, surrender, let go. I'm the one I've been waiting for.
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How to step into your siren era. We've all seen sirens before, of course. They're the mermaids of the deep seas that seduce men with their beautiful voices. But there's so much more. Rather, it is a frequency of being hypnotic, magnetic, alluring, deep that every woman has access to. So in this video, I'm gonna give you some really tangible tips to step into your siren energy and see how this is a frequency that we can all tune into. And before we get started with this episode, I saw that over 50% of you guys are not yet subscribed to the podcast, which don't worry about it. I'm not offended, but I'd love to keep hanging out. I'm having a good time with you, so just subscribe to it wherever you're listening to this on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts. It helps me reach more people, reach you with our upcoming episodes, and get this message out into the world. So be sure to hit subscribe. And now let's get into the episode. So first of all, what is the difference between the mermaid and the Siren? So the mermaid, which I definitely is my main energy, she is joyful, she's playful, she's upbeat, she is whimsical, she's magical, she wants to try new things. And if you are a woman that loves the ocean, you love seashells, you love the tropics, tropical fruit, hibiscus flower, you are definitely a mermaid. Tomorrow I'm leaving for Miami, and I'm going to be heading to the Bahamas from there to teach on a wild dolphin retreat. And so this is like full mermaid magic for. For seven days, I'm going to be free diving with mermaids and hopefully some whales, too. And so if you've always been drawn to the under underworld magic, you definitely have a mermaid in you. But here's where it differs with the siren. The siren is the dark, feminine version of the mermaid. She carries a deep mystery to her. She doesn't kind of like come up to surface and be like, hey, guys, what are you doing look at this trinket I found. But rather she stays in the depth and through her energy she summons. And this dark feminine energy is one that is essential for all women to tune into. Because when we are only in our light, then what can happen is sometimes we can be operating from maiden consciousness. There can be naivete, there can be giving up our power to other people, people pleasing, but the dark feminine within us. She has boundaries. She knows her sense of worth. She's able to communicate and speak what she needs. And she's also able to walk away from situations that don't serve her. And because of that, a lot of us mermaids need to integrate our Siren. So who is the Siren? Every person has met a woman with Siren energy before. So she is someone that when she walks into a room, you feel her energy. She just carries a self assuredness to her. She is very anchored and rooted in her own being. Her energy is not out there. It's quite the opposite of that feeling of being like bubbly, but rather it is so deep. And so I don't even want to say the word rooted because it has an earth energy. But I'm thinking the bottom of the ocean. Like, you know, when you look into an ocean or a cenote and you see those, those beautiful lines of light that go so far deep and you're like, how far does this cenote go? That to me is Siren energy. When you look into her eyes, you're like, how deep does this go? So we all have felt that there's a pull to her energy and there's something deeper beneath her beauty. Now she is not about looking perfect. The Siren doesn't need to have perfect hair, perfect makeup, but rather it is her essence and her embodiment that's so magnetic. And contrary to what social media and and movies say, the Siren is not hypersexual. I feel movies have portrayed the Siren as this like, seductress that like forces men to go against the will. It's not that at all. The Siren doesn't want that. Like, true Siren energy would never want to trick someone into being her. You need to see her as the goddess that she is. And so that Siren energy is actually such a assuredness that it's like, take it or leave it because I'm going to be me. So she is the energy of emotional depth, of mystery, of sensuality, of confidence and presence, all merged together. So how can you start stepping into your Siren energy? My first tip is going to be belly dance. I 100% would not be Where I'm at without belly dance, it is such a hypnotic dance form that really slows you down and connects your entire body. And it is all about isolating different parts of you. Your chest, your hands, your eyes, your hips. And through doing so, you gain more awareness. You know, when you watch a belly dancer, there's something so hypnotic about it because she's so deep in her own realm and enjoying her own body. And it's not a performance. It's very different than like hip hop dancing or cheerleading. That's all about like kind of struggling for it to look good. Even pole dancing, it hurts while you're doing it, but belly dancing doesn't. Belly dancing actually feels like a massage for yourself. And so it's not about the performance at all. I belly dance as much as I can, hopefully every single day. And I literally have transformed my life. It has been the thing that has grounded me, healed me, connect me to my sensuality. And this is why I created my new course, Temple of the Hips. So this is a step by step course that takes you through different forms of divine feminine temple dance, or with affirmation, spirituality, embodiment. So it's equal parts sensuality and stepping into your siren feminine energy and workouts. I will share that link with you below, so definitely recommend belly dancing. Temple of the Hips is my style of tribal fusion belly dance. So it's less of like the belly dancer at the Arabic restaurant that's like, it's less of that. And instead I'm very influenced by temple dance Mudras, the snake, really moving slowly and juicily and wringing out every single part of myself. And so I feel the way that we move is the way that we live. And so when we can start to connect to that siren energy through our body, we're naturally going to slow down and really milk all of our experiences because we're practicing that somatically. And so if the only movement you do is going to the gym, that's hyper masculine. Because you're in these machines, there's structure. You're. You're building strength, you're doing repetitive movements. There's no dynamitism, there's no flow, there's no channeling. And so most women don't have any form of feminine movement practice. And then they wonder why they feel rigid in their sexuality and their relationships and their embodiment. Well, you can only reach something that you're practicing. And so belly dance for me and for so many women has been that practice. So Temple of the Hips is my course, and there's many belly dance out there, but for me, it is more of a spiritual practice. So that's the first tip I'm going to give you. The next tip is to stop performing femininity and start just embodying what feminine energy means for you. I feel our social media world has made us think the feminine is soft and pink and motherly and, you know, a trad wife and these certain qualities. But that's not what siren energy is. You know, siren energy is a deep green. Siren energy is penetrating, it is fierce, it's strong. And these are equal parts of feminine energy. When you actually start studying the feminine and the goddess, you see that there are many, many different faces to her. Just like we have the soft feminine, we have the dark feminine, we have Kali, we have Sekhmet. These are more wild and protecting feminine forces. And so it's connecting to all faces of the feminine. And those energies that might be harder for us to connect to will end up being the hole in our pocket. The problem that ends up being the demise of the relationship. For example, a lot of women think to get into their dream relationship, they need to act like the perfect wife. And so they'll, like, wear little, like, wifely clothes and like, make sourdough bread and like, you know, talk about how much they want kids and traditional values and all of that. And they might get into a relationship with a man who was calling in someone like that. So it's like perfect fit, you know. But then what happens down the line is she has not connected to her siren energy, her dark feminine energy. She doesn't know her body, she doesn't know her. Her sexuality. She doesn't know her boundaries, she doesn't know how to say no, which opens up her yes. And so because of that, there's something missing in the relationship for both parts. And a lot of times that does manifest into cheating in the relationship. Because we, on both sides, we'll look for the archetypes that we're not finding in the container. And so this is why it's important both for men and women to step into all of our archetypes. Because if we're only in one archetype, I'm only, you know, the Charlotte, which is like, you know, from Sex and City, the light feminine, or I'm only the Samantha, who's more of a dark feminine, then the other archetypes are going to be missing and we're going to be craving that often personifying it from someone else. Not saying it's a good Thing I was cheated on. It was horrible. But I can understand, looking back, that I was not connected to my siren energy. Not that that's any excuse, but going through the pain of that made me start to go deeper into my own darkness and the parts of me that I was afraid of. And that meant also saying no. That also meant two and a half years of celibacy. So it doesn't mean you're doing it for the male gaze, but rather you're doing it for you. And there's nothing that feels better than you feeling sexy, you feeling beautiful, you feeling alluring for yourself. Do you see yourself one day writing books, giving talks, hosting a podcast, having courses? But the moment a camera gets in front of you and it's time for you to speak, you feel like, oh my goddess, I have no idea what I'm doing. Even though you enter flow state when you're in a conversation with your friend, well, if this is you, you have wisdom in your heart to share, but it's just feeling like you're still a little bit of an awkward speaker. Girl, I got you. I've created my method, speak with Soul, that now 3,000 people have gone through into creating social media brands, book deals, speaking on stages, taking their wisdom out into the world in a big way. So this is my step by step talking, a 21 day guided program with everything I know to become an incredible empowered and inspired speaker. Because an inspirational speaker is very different than a motivational speaker. This is not about giving a TED talk that you're going to memorize and rehearse on stage, but rather about connecting to your channel, your voice within, and delivering it in a way that comes in a state of flow. Because we all know what it's like to listen to someone who's reading off a teleprompter with all the AI bullshit in the world. We don't need more of that. We need your heart, we need your soul. And so let me help you speak with Soul. So this 21 day course is now available for 50% off. You can find that link in the show notes and I'm so excited to support you in getting your voice brand message out into the world so it can help inspire others. You can find that link in the show notes and let's start speaking with soul. And so I really want to note this, that this whole video is not about getting a man by being a siren. No, it's about you having this archetype in your back pocket. And so if you need, you can instantly step into that Siren energy because it's pretty fun to play with. So the next tip I'm going to give you is to develop a sensual relationship with life. So I want you to just enjoy everything through your senses. Really taste your food, sit down, don't be on your phone. Can we eat and not be on TikTok? Guys, can we do this? Because you're missing the whole point. You know, why is it that when we go to Europe we all lose weight? I was in Brazil for three months and I would never look better because I would go and I would sit in a restaurant and I would eat and I would enjoy and I would bite and I would have my meal. Whereas when I come back to the U.S. it's like, go, go, go. Work, work, work. I'm eating a protein bar as I'm standing in my kitchen, as I'm doing something else. Your body is not able to recog eating and so it doesn't create the right digestive environment. And so that food ends up sitting in your stomach and over time rots and ferments and putrefies and spreads toxins through your system. That's called AMA in Ayurveda. And that leads to bloating, gas, acne, all these different issues, mucus on your tongue, it's all caused from your digestion. So literally slowing down will create more glow in your skin and help you lose excess weight. So this is, this archetype also is helping you beautify by slowing down and connecting to your senses. I want you to also just be in your body more. You know when I'm talking to a friend and I'm standing, I'm shimmying, I'm just shimmying my booty the whole time because I'm like. It feels good. It's draining my lymphatic system. And why should I just be sitting? I try to never sit around unless I really need to. I'm taking walks, I'm finding flowers, I'm smelling the flowers, I'm taking pictures of my hands with the flowers. I'm trying to create as many pockets of beauty and movement in my day as much as possible. So it's not like I'm sitting at this desk job and I'm like super disconnected. And now all of a sudden I need to be a siren. It's not gonna work. You need to be playing in that energy all the time. Another tip that I just thought of, that I wanna add is just to flirt. I feel like we as a society are in a national flirting epidemic. I'm Gonna say that we are so afraid of flirting because we are afraid of what that could mean. We're af. Rejected, I would say is the big reason. But even with our partner, it's like there's so much resentment that builds up that we stop flirting. And so it's so important if you're even dating someone, like, flirt with them, say some sexy thing to them. It, it feels good to be flirted with. And so I've made it a practice of like, you know, when you, you have something on your mind, but then you don't say that thing, you say the more polished thing. I'll say the first thing on my mind, even if it's like a dirty little joke. I'll just say it because I want to have that playful energy and banter to me, puts me in my siren energy. Because I'll say something that's surprising and I, I like receiving that back. And so I feel like sometimes we're afraid it's that good girl maiden in us. It's afraid of, oh my God, I'm going to come off as too much. But rather because that siren energy is missing, that person might actually crave it somewhere else. So say the sexy little comment, you know, take a cute little picture of yourself, maybe a thirst trap or two. Enjoy that energy. I say thirst traps for God. You know, in my single era, I was taking so many thirst traps of myself and had no one to send them to. And I made a folder, an album in my phone called Thirst Traps for God. And I was just taking them for myself. And it was a reclamation for me of like seeing myself be beautiful, seeing myself be sexy, falling in love with me. And so I do feel like, and you, you can hire a boudoir photographer and do the whole thing, but even like putting on some lingerie or if you're loving an outfit you're wearing, like taking some extra sexy pictures as if you're sending it to someone and dating or seeing someone send it to them. Stepping into that siren energy is taking a risk. It's, you know, even if you're like, we've never had that dynamic before, you can start now. And so I always say, like, you're never going to be as hot as you are today. Except the thing is, we do keep getting hotter. But like, I always tell myself that to like inspire myself to take more thirst traps for myself. And so it then I like looking back, I'm like, oh my God, I was so beautiful. Even though I didn't feel that way then. So dress beautifully Take sexy pictures. That definitely connects you to your siren energy. So the next tip is going to really surprise you, and it's to be emotionally deep. So you might be thinking, okay, Sahara's telling us to be a little sexy girl. That's not what siren energy is. She is just as deep and profound and prophetic as she is sexy. And so surface level people are forgettable, right? People who just talk about, oh, did you watch this sports game or did you see the Grammys? What do you think about the weather today? Who cares? Sirens add emotional texture. They ask the penetrating question. They will bring up the elephant in the room. They speak vulnerably. They hold eye contact. They take risks. They say things that will surprise people. They let themselves feel. So this is so the opposite of what we think that a siren energy is. We think siren is just seduction. It's not that at all. But it's about having such a penetrative depth to you that someone is like, oh, my God, I have been starving for this my entire life. And I'm going to make a separate video about how to become unforgettable. But it's really related to this. The unforgettable people are the ones that helped you see a part of yourself that you've never seen before. And that's what really makes them unforgettable. And so we're all remembering that one person that asked us really amazing questions or made us feel seen. But we can be that person because depth is so rare these days. So don't surface level yourself. Or, you know, I always say an obscure interest I have, or I send a YouTube video to someone, like something that's like, we weren't even talking about that. But this is what I'm into, and I'm just going to share it. And to me, that siren energy, because it's like, this is who I am. This is what I like. Are you into this or not? Because if not, that's okay. I'll swim back into my depths and, you know, magnetize the right person. And so that is such an important part of siren energy. You're willing to go there. You're not afraid of intensity. You're not afraid of hard conversations. You can speak truth that carries such. And that's very connected to the dark feminine energy I'm writing about in my new book. Maybe this love story is really about me. But that siren energy is that dark feminine able to pierce into the truth. So the next tip is to cultivate mystery. Now, mystery is very different than what people Talk about. On YouTube. It is not about being just the black cat that doesn't speak. I understand that philosophy, but I feel like so many women take it to not sharing who they are. How is a man supposed to be obsessed with you if he doesn't know you? The thing that's going to make him obsessed with you is you being your yourself. But the mystery comes in not over explaining. Over explaining is when you said this, I felt like this and da, da, da, da. Especially before you're even in a relationship. Mystery is having your own inner world. Mystery is I have a life, I have interests, I have hobbies, I have friends, I have travels, I have all of these things that I'm into that are mine and over time are revealed. I feel so many of us, we want to go on a date with a checklist of like, this is what I like. Do you like this? What do you want? Well, I'm looking for this. And it kills all the mystery. You know, how do you know you even want to be in a relationship with that person if you don't know that them. So let the unfolding happen because there's always another layer. So sirens reveal themselves over time. You know when someone says something and you, you have a story that you want to share, but you've already told them a bunch of stories that day. You don't need to share that story. You know, that will be it for next time story. And this is something I really learned stepping into my siren energy. Before I used to be like, I would meet someone and kind of oh, and this.
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Oh, yeah.
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And I do that too. Oh, my God. And that reminds me of the time I did this.
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Oh, and I did.
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It's like I felt like everything they said I needed to add my experience of that. Does that make sense? And I feel like since stepping into my siren energy, it's like even if I had, they might be talking about a country and maybe I've been to that country and I have an experience, but I'll just listen to their story and that to me is peak siren energy. Because I'm not trying to have like a one up of them. Oh, Morocco. Well, the time I was in Morocco. No, they're telling me about their time in Morocco and I'm just listening and I'm like, wow, that sounds so beautiful. I don't need to mention my time in Morocco. It'll come when it needs to come. And I think it's actually really freaking cool to not. And then later on it's like, oh, you've also Been to Morocco, you know, and I think we're just so used to, like, tit for tat. Oh, you do this, I do that, I do that. And it's very cute. But it's not the siren energy. And so mystery is the space of revealing and allowing there to still be an ache to discover. You know, even in the art of flirting, it's not, hey, oh, my God, I like your shoes so much. Like, you have such a cool house. You do. It's, hey, I like your shoes. You have a really cool house. You know, it's like those pauses in between and the voice and the energy is what actually makes it flirting. I said the exact same thing. Such different frequency. So the next tip I'm going to give you, the last tip, is the voice. So you can feel it in my voice, the siren voice. There's something in it that is grounding, that is touching parts of your body and your nervous system that opens up your heart. And that's because you're feeling my nervous system through my voice. And I can step more into a siren energy if I want, and I can also step into different types of siren energy. And that all is coming from just these little micro shifts that I'm making in my voice. How different does it sound like if I was up here speaking all nasally? We all have seen people who are talking like this on YouTube, and it's definitely not giving siren. And so I have a course called Speak with Soul, which I highly recommend for anyone that wants to become a more confident speaker, whether it is for social media or for your life, for your relationships, for your YouTube, your podcast. It's a step by step, 21 day journey that thousands of people have taken and has drastically changed their lives. And so I speak about how your voice is the texture and tone from which people experience you. But most of us, we're thinking in our heads. We're thinking about, what am I going to say next? As that person's talking, I'm planning my next sentence, and then my voice shifts, because now I'm up here, because my voice is going to take whatever octave and chakra that I'm in. And now I sound like Steve Urkel, whereas when I speak from my womb, I'm connected to here. And these practices are what shifted me. My biggest fear in life was singing, and it's what shifted me into not just singing, but creating an album that has over 5 million streams. My body is an altar. I have more people who listen to my music than even my podcast at this point. Which is so freaking crazy. And it was just through my voice and through connecting to my womb and my body and my nervous system. So speak with soul is my course, if you are interested in that. And so the siren energy really is about not needing to be chosen, not needing to share everything, not needing to be the pick. Misha. But rather so deep, so unafraid of who you are and your own depths, allowing yourself to be seen, allowing yourself to dive into your interests. I feel that's a huge part of it. Sirens are very interesting. They're very nuanced. And so if you have an interest in something, dive into it. See where it takes you. You know, maybe you take up the flute or you dive into herbalism or whatever else. It's these surprising layers about a person is what gives them that siren energy. Because only someone who's layered will want someone who's layered. If you're just surface and all you do is, you know, think about boys, then a man is not going to be interested in that. But instead, if you're using your time, gaining all these different interests and skill sets and hobbies and learning new things, and you have interesting facts to bring to the conversation, that is so much more valuable. So siren energy is not about manipulating people into obsession. It's not about getting somewhere. But rather, it is about being who you are, integrating your dark feminine, your voice, your depth, your magnetism, your femininity, and your alluring natural nature. Thank you guys so much for tuning in. Let me know how you liked this video. If you would like other videos or other topics, let me know in the comments. Be sure to subscribe. Wherever you listen to podcasts, YouTube, Spotify, SoundCloud, and I'll see you in the next video.
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Trust your intuition. Trust your inner wisdom. Trust your inner guidance.
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Close your eyes and listen.
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So trust your intuition. Trust your inner wisdom. Trust you in the guidance. It.