You might not want to hear this… but you need to.

If your divorce feels more stressful than it should, you might be part of the problem—and it likely comes down to unrealistic expectations.

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, hosts Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill break down the most common ways clients unintentionally make their divorce harder, more expensive, and more emotionally draining.

From expecting your attorney to respond immediately… to assuming you’ll get full custody… to chasing a “forensic accountant fantasy”… this episode is your reality check.

Because divorce is emotional—but the legal system is procedural. And when your expectations don’t match how the system actually works, it creates unnecessary stress, frustration, and costly mistakes.

What You’ll Learn:

Why expecting immediate responses from your attorney is setting you up for frustration
What actually qualifies as a legal “emergency” (and what doesn’t)
Why most people don’t need a forensic accountant (and when you actually do)
The truth about full custody and how courts really make decisions
Why divorce timelines are not in your control
How unrealistic expectations increase your anxiety—and your legal bills

Key Takeaway:

Divorce isn’t just hard because of your ex.

It’s hard because of the expectations you bring into it.

When you shift your mindset and understand what you can—and can’t—control, the entire process becomes more manageable.

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204. Unrealistic Divorce Expectations That Are Making Your Case More Stressful and Expensive