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How Not To Suck At Divorce
Hosted by Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport · EN
How Not to Suck at Divorce
Action Steps That Save You Money. Humor That Saves Your Sanity. Honesty That Helps You Heal.
Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process.
Before you spend thousands learning those lessons the hard way, check out our Divorce Crash Course—a $150 program available for just $50. It walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can protect your finances, avoid costly mistakes, and make smarter decisions from day one.
🎓 Learn more: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course
Divorce is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through—but getting through it doesn't have to cost you your financial future, your peace of mind, or your sense of humor.
Hosted by comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport and powerhouse family law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill, How Not to Suck at Divorce helps you navigate life before, during, and after divorce with relatable conversations, practical legal insights, and honest discussions about the emotional side of starting over.
Every episode is designed to help you avoid expensive mistakes, better understand the legal process, communicate more effectively, and make decisions you'll still feel good about years from now.
Whether you're wondering if divorce is the right decision, in the middle of litigation, struggling with co-parenting, or rebuilding your life afterward, we're here to help you feel less alone—and a whole lot more prepared.
Because divorce isn't just a legal process.
It's an emotional one.
And sometimes the best thing you can do is laugh, take one small step forward, and remember that you don't have to figure it all out by yourself.
BEFORE DIVORCE
Thinking about divorce? We'll help you prepare before you make one of the biggest decisions of your life. Learn how to protect yourself financially, emotionally, and legally before you ever file.
DURING DIVORCE
From custody and parenting plans to communication, negotiation, finances, and high-conflict personalities, we'll help you make smarter decisions while avoiding the mistakes that cost people the most.
AFTER DIVORCE
Because divorce isn't the end of your story. We'll help you rebuild your confidence, your finances, your relationships, and your life.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
How to avoid costly divorce mistakes
How to reduce unnecessary legal fees
Divorce preparation before hiring an attorney
Custody and parenting plan strategies
Co-parenting and parallel parenting
Communication techniques that protect your case
Financial planning during divorce
Property division and asset protection
Negotiation strategies
Emotional healing after divorce
Recovering from high-conflict relationships
Rebuilding your life after divorce
You'll also hear conversations with leading experts in family law, psychology, finance, digital safety, parenting, and trauma recovery, alongside honest discussions about what divorce actually feels like—and how to get...
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Divorce Custody: What a Guardian ad Litem Is Really Looking For
Jul 100:17:32Tap to summarizeDivorce: How to Talk to a Guardian ad Litem Without Hurting Your Custody Case🎧 Before You Listen...Don't make expensive divorce mistakes.If you're navigating divorce, custody, or co-parenting, our Divorce Crash Course can help you avoid the mistakes that cost people thousands of dollars—and months of unnecessary stress.Typically priced at $150, it's available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 Enroll here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseClick here to get our free guide on avoiding the biggest divorce mistakes!Episode DescriptionIf a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) has been appointed in your divorce or custody case, every conversation matters more than you probably realize.Many parents unintentionally damage their credibility by focusing on the wrong things, oversharing, attacking the other parent, or getting caught up in petty conflicts. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill sit down with Atlanta family law attorney Daniel Bloom to discuss exactly what Guardians ad Litem look for—and the mistakes that can quietly hurt your custody case.You'll learn why your words matter, how to communicate effectively with a Guardian ad Litem, and why keeping your child's best interests front and center is always the winning strategy.Whether you're currently working with a GAL or simply want to better understand the custody process, this episode offers practical advice that could save you stress, money, and heartache.In This Episode You'll Learn:What a Guardian ad Litem actually doesThe biggest mistakes parents make during custody evaluationsWhy constantly criticizing your co-parent can backfireWhy saying "my child" instead of "our child" matters more than you thinkHow pettiness can damage your credibilityThe right way to communicate concerns to your Guardian ad LitemWhen email is better than textingWhy OurFamilyWizard can improve communication during divorceWhy quality parenting matters more than counting parenting daysHow humility often earns more credibility than trying to look like the "perfect" parentKey TakeawaysPut your child—not your ex—at the center of every conversation.A Guardian ad Litem wants to understand your child's needs, strengths, and challenges—not hear a list of complaints about your co-parent.Don't let small battles cost you the bigger war.Arguments over jackets, forgotten shoes, or missing hockey sticks may feel important in the moment, but repeatedly escalating minor issues can make you appear unreasonable.Be honest. Not perfect.No parent gets everything right. Guardians ad Litem appreciate parents who acknowledge mistakes, ask thoughtful questions, and demonstrate a willingness to learn.Communication matters.Text messages sent in anger often become evidence later. Daniel explains why thoughtful emails and structured communication tools can make a significant difference.Focus on influence—not percentages.Great parenting isn't measured only by the number of overnight visits. What matters most is the quality of your relationship with your children.Resources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseAvoid the biggest mistakes people make before, during, and after divorce.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseGet in touch with Daniel Bloom https://bloomlineslaw.com/our-team/daniel-bloom/OurFamilyWizardThe co-parenting communication tool trusted by attorneys, judges, and mental health professionals.Use our exclusive discount and save 20% on your first year.www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20Free Divorce GuideDownload our FREE guide:The 5 Divorce Mistakes That Cost People Thousands👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comSubscribe & ConnectIf this episode helped you, please:⭐ Leave a review🎧 Follow How Not to Suck at Divorce👥 Join our free private Facebook Community📱 Follow us on social media for daily divorce tips, expert interviews, and practical advice.SEO KeywordsGuardian ad Litem, GAL, Guardian ad Litem divorce, custody evaluator, child custody, custody battle, divorce advice, divorce podcast, co-parenting, OurFamilyWizard, family court, custody evaluation, parenting plan, divorce attorney, family law, divorce support, custody tips, child custody attorney, high-conflict divorce, divorce help.Divorce: How to Talk to a Guardian ad Litem Without Hurting Your Custody Case🎧 Before You Listen...Don't make expensive divorce mistakes.If you're navigating divorce, custody, or co-parenting, our Divorce Crash Course can help you avoid the mistakes that cost people thousands of dollars—and months of unnecessary stress.Typically priced at $150, it's available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 Enroll here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseEpisode DescriptionIf a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) has been appointed in your divorce or custody case, every conversation matters more than you probably realize.Many parents unintentionally damage their credibility by focusing on the wrong things, oversharing, attacking the other parent, or getting caught up in petty conflicts. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill sit down with Atlanta family law attorney Daniel Bloom to discuss exactly what Guardians ad Litem look for—and the mistakes that can quietly hurt your custody case.You'll learn why your words matter, how to communicate effectively with a Guardian ad Litem, and why keeping your child's best interests front and center is always the winning strategy.Whether you're currently working with a GAL or simply want to better understand the custody process, this episode offers practical advice that could save you stress, money, and heartache.In This Episode You'll Learn:What a Guardian ad Litem actually doesThe biggest mistakes parents make during custody evaluationsWhy constantly criticizing your co-parent can backfireWhy saying "my child" instead of "our child" matters more than you thinkHow pettiness can damage your credibilityThe right way to communicate concerns to your Guardian ad LitemWhen email is better than textingWhy OurFamilyWizard can improve communication during divorceWhy quality parenting matters more than counting parenting daysHow humility often earns more credibility than trying to look like the "perfect" parentKey TakeawaysPut your child—not your ex—at the center of every conversation.A Guardian ad Litem wants to understand your child's needs, strengths, and challenges—not hear a list of complaints about your co-parent.Don't let small battles cost you the bigger war.Arguments over jackets, forgotten shoes, or missing hockey sticks may feel important in the moment, but repeatedly escalating minor issues can make you appear unreasonable.Be honest. Not perfect.No parent gets everything right. Guardians ad Litem appreciate parents who acknowledge mistakes, ask thoughtful questions, and demonstrate a willingness to learn.Communication matters.Text messages sent in anger often become evidence later. Daniel explains why thoughtful emails and structured communication tools can make a significant difference.Focus on influence—not percentages.Great parenting isn't measured only by the number of overnight visits. What matters most is the quality of your relationship with your children.Resources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseAvoid the biggest mistakes people make before, during, and after divorce.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOurFamilyWizardThe co-parenting communication tool trusted by attorneys, judges, and mental health professionals.Use our exclusive discount and save 20% on your first year.(Direct link in the show notes.)Free Divorce GuideDownload our FREE guide:The 5 Divorce Mistakes That ...
Transcribe →Divorce and Children: The Parenting Mistakes That Can Increase Your Child's Anxiety
Jun 2600:19:46Tap to summarizeDivorce and Children: The Parenting Mistakes That Can Increase Your Child's Anxiety | Featuring Retired Judge Michele Lowrance🎧 Divorce Crash Course – Save Thousands Before You Make a Costly MistakeBefore you spend thousands on attorney's fees or make decisions you'll regret, check out our Divorce Crash Course.Learn how to:Avoid the biggest divorce mistakesSave money on attorney's feesUnderstand the divorce processProtect your childrenMake smarter legal and financial decisionsTypically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 Get instant access: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseEpisode DescriptionCan one decision during your divorce impact your child's anxiety for years?According to retired Cook County Judge, mediator, and family law pioneer Michele Lowrance, the answer is yes.In this powerful episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill sit down with Judge Lowrance to discuss the divorce behaviors that can unintentionally hurt children, why high-conflict litigation can have lasting emotional consequences, and how parents can begin making more child-centered decisions—even when divorce feels impossible.Andrea also shares something deeply personal: the parenting mistakes she made during her own divorce, what she wishes she had done differently, and why perfection isn't the goal—awareness is.Whether you're in the middle of a custody dispute, considering mediation, or simply trying to protect your children through divorce, this episode offers practical perspective and hope.In This Episode You'll Learn:The biggest divorce behaviors that increase children's anxietyWhy fighting over parenting time isn't always about the scheduleWhat "Heroic Parenting" actually meansHow parental conflict affects children long after the divorce is finalizedWhy mediation can protect your children in ways court often cannotThe difference between putting your children first and protecting your own egoWhy learning to let go benefits both you and your childrenHow one parent can begin changing the family dynamic—even if the other parent won'tAbout Michele LowranceMichele Lowrance is a retired Cook County Domestic Relations Judge, mediator, author of The Good Karma Divorce, and one of the nation's leading voices on family-centered divorce and mediation. After decades practicing family law and serving on the bench, she continues helping families navigate divorce with less conflict and more compassion.Resources MentionedThe Good Karma Divorce by Michele LowranceDivorce Crash CourseOur Family Wizard- Click here to save 20%!Connect With Us🌐 Website: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com📱 Follow us on social media for daily divorce support, legal tips, and encouragement. @hownottosuckatdivorce 💬 Join our free private divorce community for support from thousands of people navigating divorce. join here!⭐ If this episode helped you, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your review helps other people find support during one of the hardest seasons of their lives. Rate us here!Keywordsdivorce podcast, divorce and children, child custody, co-parenting, divorce mediation, parenting after divorce, protecting children during divorce, high conflict divorce, family law, child anxiety after divorce, divorce advice, custody disputes, Michele Lowrance, divorce help, divorce support, parenting through divorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
Transcribe →Divorce: What to Do When Your Entire Life Feels Out of Control
Jun 2400:11:02Tap to summarizeThe Divorce "to do" list will kill you. 🎧 Divorce Crash Course: Avoid Costly Mistakes Before They HappenLink to the Divorce Meditations waitlist: click me!Thinking about divorce? Already in the middle of one? Our Divorce Crash Course gives you the information we wish everyone had before they started the process.Learn how to:Avoid expensive legal mistakesProtect yourself financiallyCreate better custody agreementsNavigate the divorce process with more confidenceMake informed decisions instead of emotional onesTypically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink.Get instant access here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseWhen you're going through a divorce, people love to tell you to "take it one day at a time."Helpful? Maybe.Annoying? Absolutely.Because when you're hurting, you don't want to take it one day at a time. You want answers. You want certainty. You want to know how this ends, whether your kids will be okay, whether you're making the right decisions, and when you'll finally feel like yourself again.In this mini episode, Andrea talks about why the urge to solve everything immediately is completely normal—and why trying to predict every possible outcome may actually be making your anxiety worse.She also shares a simple exercise you can use today to help quiet the mental chaos and focus on what actually matters right now.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why uncertainty feels so unbearable during divorceThe difference between being informed and obsessing over every possible outcomeWhy you don't need your entire future figured out todayHow trying to predict every legal scenario can fuel anxietyThe three things you can stop trying to solve right nowA simple exercise to help you regain a sense of controlWhy surviving today is sometimes enoughAndrea's Three-Thing ExerciseWhen everything feels overwhelming, write down:✔ One thing for your divorce✔ One thing for your life✔ One thing for yourselfThat's it.Not twenty things.Not fifty things.Just three manageable actions that help you move forward without carrying the weight of every possible future all at once.Divorce Meditation Series – Join the Priority Access ListWe're putting the finishing touches on a guided meditation series created specifically for people navigating divorce, anxiety, uncertainty, custody stress, and emotional overwhelm.These short, practical meditations are designed to help calm your nervous system, quiet racing thoughts, and get through the hardest moments of divorce.Join the Priority Access List and be the first to know when they're released.Link to the Divorce Meditations waitlist: click me!Connect With UsWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comFacebook Group: How Not to Suck at DivorceInstagram: www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceIf This Episode Helped You...Please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. Your support helps more people find the information, resources, and encouragement they need during one of the most difficult seasons of their lives.www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuckRemember: Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. You don't have to solve your entire future today.Link to the Divorce Meditations waitlist: click me!divorce anxiety, divorce stress, divorce overwhelm, coping with divorce, divorce emotional support, divorce uncertainty, divorce mindset, surviving divorce, divorce tips, divorce podcast, custody stress, divorce help, divorce recovery.Mentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
Transcribe →Divorce and the Stay-at-Home Parent: How to Leave an Unhappy Marriage When You Don't Have Your Own Income
Jun 1900:31:38Tap to summarizeStay-at-Home Parent and Divorce: How to Leave an Unhappy Marriage When You Don't Have Your Own IncomeThinking about divorce is hard.Thinking about divorce when you're a stay-at-home parent can feel impossible.How do you afford an attorney? What happens if your spouse controls the finances? Will you have to go back to work immediately? What if you've been out of the workforce for years?First, get your hands on the $50 Divorce Crash Course to save money on your divorce process. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and top family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill tackle one of the most common concerns we hear in our community: how stay-at-home parents can prepare for divorce without letting fear take over.Whether you're a stay-at-home mom, stay-at-home dad, or the primary parent managing the household, this episode will help you understand your options, your value, and the practical steps you can take right now to prepare for your next chapter.In This EpisodeWhy stay-at-home parents often feel trapped in unhappy marriagesThe biggest misconceptions about divorce and stay-at-home parentingHow to afford a divorce attorney when you don't have your own incomeWhy gathering financial documents is one of the most important first stepsWhat attorneys look at when evaluating maintenance and alimonyHow education, training, and work history impact divorce outcomesWhether you should go back to work before filing for divorceWhat to do if your spouse controls the financesHow fear causes stay-at-home parents to underestimate their valueWhy information is the key to making better divorce decisionsWays to start generating income before and during divorceHow OurFamilyWizard can help co-parents stay organizedKey Takeaways✔️ Being a stay-at-home parent does not make you less valuable in a divorce.✔️ The work you do inside the home has real value, even if it doesn't come with a paycheck.✔️ Every divorce case is different, which is why getting legal advice early is critical.✔️ Gathering financial documents now can save you time, money, and stress later.✔️ Fear often makes stay-at-home parents feel powerless—but information creates confidence.✔️ There are often more options available than you realize.✔️ Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint.✔️ You do not have to have everything figured out before taking the next step.If You're Thinking About DivorceOne of the biggest mistakes people make is assuming they need to have a complete plan before speaking with an attorney.You don't.You simply need enough information to understand your options.The sooner you start learning about the divorce process, your finances, and your legal rights, the sooner you'll be able to make decisions from a place of confidence instead of fear.Our Family WizardCheck them out- they are a resource that is here to help you make coparenting easier. You can save 20% on your essentials package here: www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20Divorce Crash CourseIf you're considering divorce—or you're already in the middle of one—the Divorce Crash Course was created for you.Learn how divorce works, what mistakes to avoid, how to save money on attorney fees, how to protect your finances, and how to make smarter decisions throughout the process.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseConnect With UsWebsite:https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comJoin Our Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorceInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceSubscribe for new episodes every week covering divorce, co-parenting, child custody, mediation, family law, emotional healing, high-conflict relationships, and practical strategies to help you get through divorce with less stress, less fear, and more confidence.#DivorcePodcast #StayAtHomeMomDivorce #StayAtHomeDadDivorce #DivorceAdvice #ChildCustody #Alimony #Maintenance #DivorceSupport #CoParenting #HowNotToSuckAtDivorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
Transcribe →Divorce: The Fear Keeping You Stuck (And How to Break Free)
Jun 1700:12:23Tap to summarizeFear Is the Quiet Devil in Divorce (Here's How to Stop Letting It Run the Show)Divorce is scary.Not because every fear is true, but because fear has a way of convincing us that the worst-case scenario is right around the corner.In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport explores why fear becomes one of the most powerful forces during the divorce process—and how you can stop it from controlling your decisions.Get The $50 Divorce Crash Course. Drawing on insights about nervous system regulation, anxiety, and personal experience, Andrea explains why confidence doesn't come from feeling fearless. It comes from collecting evidence that you can do hard things and survive them.If you're feeling overwhelmed by attorney consultations, difficult conversations, legal decisions, or uncertainty about the future, this episode will help you understand how fear works—and how to move forward anyway.In This EpisodeWhy fear becomes so powerful during divorceHow your nervous system learns through evidence, not reassuranceThe connection between confidence and small winsWhy tackling smaller fears helps prepare you for bigger challengesHow knowledge and information reduce anxietyThe role of curiosity in overcoming fearWhy waiting is one of the hardest parts of divorceHow catastrophic thinking keeps you stuckThe surprising benefits of positive daydreamingHow to calm your brain before making important decisionsKey Takeaways✔️ Fear loses power when you gather evidence that you can handle difficult situations.✔️ Confidence is built through action, not certainty.✔️ Small challenges train your nervous system to tolerate bigger ones.✔️ Knowledge reduces fear because uncertainty fuels anxiety.✔️ Divorce decisions are easier when your nervous system is regulated.✔️ Catastrophizing is a habit—not a prediction.✔️ You are allowed to imagine positive outcomes too.✔️ Calm first. Then apply the tools.A Practical ExerciseThink about one thing you're afraid of during your divorce.Now don't tackle that thing first.Instead, ask yourself:What's one smaller thing I can do today that feels slightly uncomfortable but manageable?Maybe it's:Scheduling an attorney consultationPosting in a support groupAsking a question you've been avoidingCompleting paperwork you've been putting offSetting a small boundaryEvery action becomes evidence.And evidence creates confidence.Divorce Doesn't Require FearlessnessYou do not have to become fearless to get through divorce.You only need enough evidence to remind yourself:"I've survived 100% of the difficult things I've faced so far."You can survive this too.Divorce Crash CourseLooking for practical guidance, legal insights, and emotional support during divorce?Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest mistakes people make during divorce, how to save money on attorney fees, what to expect during the process, and how to make smarter decisions when emotions are running high.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseConnect With UsWebsite:https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comFacebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorceInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceSubscribe for new episodes every week covering divorce, co-parenting, family law, emotional healing, high-conflict relationships, mediation, custody, and practical strategies to help you survive—and thrive—through divorce.#DivorceSupport #DivorcePodcast #DivorceRecovery #FearAndAnxiety #NervousSystemRegulation #DivorceHelp #CoParenting #EmotionalHealing #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #DivorceAdviceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
Transcribe →Divorce and The Biggest Mediation Mistakes to Avoid with Mediator and Former Judge Hon. Michele Lowrance
Jun 1200:33:13Tap to summarizeBiggest Mediation Mistakes to Avoid:After decades on the bench, retired Judge Michele Lowrance has seen firsthand what truly destroys families during divorce—and it isn't always what you think.Don't miss out on the $50 Divorce Crash CourseIn this powerful episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan L. Stogsdill sit down with the Honorable Michele Lowrance, retired domestic relations judge, nationally recognized mediator, author of The Good Karma Divorce, and one of the leading voices in family law and divorce mediation. Together, they explore why mediation is often a better path than litigation, what happens to families when conflict escalates into court battles, and how parents can protect their children while navigating one of life's most painful transitions.Judge Lowrance shares the science behind emotional decision-making, the impact of divorce conflict on children, why the right mediator can make or break your case, and how even high-conflict couples can find a path toward resolution.If you're preparing for mediation, considering litigation, or simply trying to make better decisions during your divorce, this episode is a must-listen.In This Episode, We Discuss:Why mediation is often a better alternative to courtroom litigationWhat happens to children when parents remain locked in conflictThe emotional and neurological impact of divorceHow fear, anger, and grief affect decision-makingWhy good people struggle during mediationThe critical role of the mediatorHow to choose the right mediator for your divorceWhat to expect from the first mediation sessionWhy high-conflict divorces can still benefit from mediationHow to move from emotional reactions to thoughtful decisionsThe concept behind The Good Karma DivorceKey Takeaways✔️ Divorce decisions made from anger often create long-term damage✔️ Mediation allows families to move toward acceptance rather than remaining stuck in conflict✔️ The right mediator should challenge, guide, and creatively problem-solve—not simply carry offers back and forth✔️ Children are deeply affected by ongoing parental conflict✔️ Emotional regulation is one of the most important skills during divorce✔️ The first mediation offers are often difficult—but that doesn't mean mediation isn't working✔️ You won't always feel the same way about your ex that you do today✔️ Keeping your focus on the future can help you make better decisions nowThree Action Steps from Michele Lowrance1. Don't Impose Your AgendaBefore discussing a difficult topic with your co-parent, ask whether it's a good time for the conversation. Respect timing and create rules of engagement that reduce conflict.2. Remember You Won't Always Feel This WayThe emotions you're experiencing right now are real—but they won't last forever. Make decisions based on your future, not just your current pain.3. Keep Your Eye on the TargetFocus on healing, protecting your children, and moving forward. Don't try to navigate divorce alone—get the support you need.About Michele LowranceMichele Lowrance is a retired Cook County Domestic Relations Judge, nationally recognized divorce mediator, author, and family law thought leader. She practiced family law for more than two decades before serving nearly twenty years on the bench and has dedicated her career to helping families resolve conflict with less trauma and more humanity.Her book, The Good Karma Divorce, explores how individuals can emerge from divorce with dignity, healing, and purpose.Divorce Crash CourseThinking about divorce? Currently going through one?Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest mistakes people make during divorce, how to save money on attorney fees, what to expect during the process, and how to protect yourself legally and financially.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseResources📘 The Good Karma Divorce by Michele Lowrance👉 Our Family Wizard:https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck👉 Soberlink:https://www.soberlink.comConnect With UsWebsite:https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comFacebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorceInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceKeywords: divorce mediation, Michele Lowrance, family law mediation, high conflict divorce, divorce and children, child-centered divorce, mediation vs litigation, divorce attorney advice, co-parenting, divorce support, family court, divorce podcast, divorce recovery, mediation tips, divorce strategy#DivorceMediation #MicheleLowrance #FamilyLaw #CoParenting #DivorcePodcast #DivorceSupport #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #ChildCenteredDivorce #DivorceAdvice #FamilyCourtMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
Transcribe →Divorce Mediation: Why Preparation Matters More than You Think (Mini Episode)
Jun 1000:11:31Tap to summarizeDivorce Mediation: Why Preparation Matters More than you Think Most people approach divorce mediation with one thought:"I have to do this."But what if that's the wrong mindset?Make you check out the $50 Divorce Crash Course. In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport explains why mediation can actually be one of the most valuable opportunities you'll have during your divorce—and how proper preparation can save you time, money, stress, and frustration.Too many people walk into mediation without a clear strategy, without understanding what they want, and without discussing realistic outcomes with their attorney. The result? Missed opportunities, wasted time, and unnecessary conflict.Andrea breaks down exactly how to prepare for mediation, what questions to ask your attorney, and why mediation should be viewed as an opportunity to move closer to your goals—not just another frustrating step in the divorce process.This episode is sponsored by Worthy: the smarter way to sell your jewelry. Get started by heading to Worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your item sells for more than $1,500.In This Episode, We Discuss:Why mediation is often misunderstood during divorceThe biggest mistake people make before mediationWhy preparation is critical to successful mediationHow to identify what you actually want from the processCreating a mediation strategy with your attorneyUnderstanding realistic outcomes before you walk into the roomHow to anticipate what your spouse may ask forWhy mediation can provide valuable information—even if no agreement is reachedThe importance of choosing the right mediatorHow mindset impacts divorce outcomesKey Takeaways✔️ Mediation gives you more control than having a judge decide for you✔️ Showing up unprepared can cost you valuable opportunities✔️ You should clearly define your goals before mediation begins✔️ Work with your attorney to develop a negotiation strategy✔️ Ask your attorney for best-case, worst-case, and most likely outcomes✔️ Even unsuccessful mediation can provide valuable information✔️ Mindset matters—view mediation as an opportunity, not a punishment✔️ The more prepared you are, the better positioned you'll be to advocate for yourself and your childrenQuestions to Ask Your Attorney Before MediationIs what I want realistic?What steps will help us get there?What do you think the other side is likely to ask for?What is the best-case scenario?What is the worst-case scenario?What is the most likely outcome?What concessions or "sweeteners" might help move negotiations forward?What should I expect during the mediation process?About the HostsAndrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, divorce survivor, and co-host of How Not to Suck at Divorce. Through humor, honesty, and practical advice, Andrea helps people navigate divorce with more confidence and less fear.Morgan L. Stogsdill is Head of Family Law at Beermann LLP and brings legal insight and real-world family law experience to every episode.Divorce Crash CourseThinking about divorce? Currently going through one?Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest mistakes people make during divorce, how to save money on attorney fees, what to expect during the process, and how to protect yourself legally and financially.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseResources👉 Our Family Wizard:https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20👉 Soberlink:https://www.soberlink.com/dccConnect With UsWebsite:https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comFacebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorceInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceKeywords: divorce mediation, divorce mediation tips, how to prepare for mediation, divorce attorney advice, divorce settlement, mediation preparation, family law mediation, custody mediation, divorce strategy, divorce negotiation, divorce podcast, family law, mediation process, divorce support#DivorceMediation #FamilyLaw #DivorceTips #CustodyMediation #DivorceStrategy #DivorcePodcast #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #DivorceSupport #MediationPreparation #DivorceHelpInstagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
Transcribe →Divorce Anxiety Relief: A 5-Minute Guided Meditation for When Everything Feels Like Too Much
Jun 500:07:34Tap to summarizeDivorce Anxiety Relief: A 5-Minute Guided Reset for When Everything Feels Like Too MuchIf you're listening to this episode, chances are something happened.Maybe you received a text from your ex.Maybe your attorney sent an email.Maybe you're feeling overwhelmed by co-parenting, custody issues, financial stress, or simply the emotional weight of divorce.Or maybe nothing happened at all.Maybe you're just exhausted.In this special guided meditation episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport walks you through a simple but powerful exercise designed to help calm your nervous system, regulate overwhelming emotions, and get your brain back online when divorce anxiety starts to take over.When we're triggered during divorce, our brains often convince us that every problem needs to be solved immediately. This guided reset helps you slow down, reconnect with the present moment, and remember one important truth:Your feelings are real. But they are not emergencies.Whether you're experiencing divorce anxiety, panic, sadness, anger, overwhelm, or emotional exhaustion, this episode is designed to help you pause, breathe, and regain perspective.Save this episode and come back to it anytime you need a reset.In This Episode You Will Learn✅ How to calm your nervous system during divorce stress✅ Why emotional overwhelm can make it difficult to think clearly✅ A simple grounding exercise to reduce anxiety✅ How to stop spiraling thoughts during divorce✅ Why your feelings are real—but not emergencies✅ How to regulate your emotions before responding to a triggering text or email✅ Practical techniques for staying present during difficult moments✅ How to focus on the next hour instead of the next yearTimestamps(00:00) Welcome and emotional reset(01:00) Why your feelings are not emergencies(02:15) Understanding divorce anxiety and spiraling thoughts(03:30) Grounding exercise: 5 things you can see(04:15) Grounding exercise: touch and sound awareness(05:15) Why your divorce is not your identity(06:20) Focusing on the next hour instead of the next year(07:10) Guided affirmations for divorce recovery(08:20) Final breathing exercise and encouragementKey Takeaways🔹 Divorce anxiety can make ordinary problems feel like emergencies🔹 Emotional regulation helps you make better decisions during divorce🔹 Grounding exercises can quickly calm an activated nervous system🔹 Your divorce is something you're experiencing—not who you are🔹 Healing happens one regulated moment at a time🔹 You do not have to solve your entire divorce todayAbout the HostsAndrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, divorce survivor, and co-host of How Not to Suck at Divorce. Through humor, honesty, and practical tools, Andrea helps people navigate divorce with more clarity, confidence, and hope.Morgan Stogsdill is the Head of Family Law at one of the largest family law firms in the country and brings practical legal insight to every episode.Divorce Crash CourseTypically priced at 150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseResources🎧 Need this reset in video format? Watch here:https://youtu.be/S5cjebeOvBY👉 Our Family Wizardhttps://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck👉 Soberlinkhttps://www.soberlink.comKeywords: divorce anxiety relief, divorce meditation, guided meditation for divorce, divorce stress, divorce overwhelm, divorce panic, emotional regulation, divorce healing, divorce recovery, co-parenting stress, nervous system regulation, anxiety relief, divorce support, life after divorce, divorce podcast#DivorceAnxiety #DivorceMeditation #DivorceRecovery #EmotionalHealing #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #DivorceSupport #GuidedMeditation #AnxietyRelief #LifeAfterDivorce #CoParenting
Transcribe →Divorce: How to Handle the Rejection When You Didn't Want the Divorce
Jun 300:20:22Tap to summarize***Link to the Guided Meditation for Divorce Anxiety**How Not to Suck at Divorce YouTube Divorce: How to Handle the Rejection When You Didn't Want the DivorceDivorce is painful no matter what. But when you're not the one who wanted it? It can feel like so much more than a life change. It can feel like rejection.In this heartfelt mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill tackle one of the most painful—and least discussed—parts of divorce: being the spouse who didn't want the marriage to end.But first- Don't miss out on our Divorce Crash Course. It's $50 for a limited time. Get it now to save thousands on your divorce.Why does being left hurt so much? Why do so many people immediately assume they're not enough? And how can that emotional pain quietly derail your divorce case, cost you money, and keep you stuck chasing answers you'll never get?This episode is sponsored by Worthy: the smarter way to sell your jewelry. Get started by heading to Worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your item sells for more than $1,500.Andrea and Morgan break down what happens to your brain when you're blindsided by divorce, why rejection often feels personal even when it isn't, and how to keep heartbreak from driving legal decisions.Plus, Andrea shares a simple but powerful tool that helped her survive some of her darkest divorce days: the "scheduled meltdown."In This Episode You Will Learn✅ Why divorce rejection feels so personal✅ What happens to your brain when you're blindsided✅ Why people often treat divorce like evidence against themselves✅ How emotional pain can lead to expensive legal mistakes✅ The difference between grieving a person and grieving a future✅ Why family court cannot provide emotional closure✅ How heartbreak can derail settlement negotiations and mediation✅ The legal risks of making decisions from a place of hurt✅ Andrea's "scheduled meltdown" technique for emotional regulation✅ How to get your brain back online when emotions take overTimestamps(00:00) Why divorce feels like rejection when you didn't want it(03:16) The emotional conclusions people make after being left(04:20) How rejection can derail your divorce strategy(05:21) You're not really fighting about the house(06:33) Grieving the future you thought you would have(07:07) Why legal deadlines don't stop for heartbreak(08:17) The expensive trap of chasing closure(10:12) Morgan's cautionary tale about "Chad" and emotional decision-making(12:02) The opposite problem: fighting every battle out of anger(13:30) Separating emotion from legal strategy(14:00) Andrea's "scheduled meltdown" exercise(16:33) How to release emotions without sabotaging your case(18:18) Why this divorce is only one episode in your storyKey Takeaways🔹 Being left by your spouse does not mean you're unworthy of love🔹 Divorce often triggers emotional conclusions that are not based in reality🔹 Chasing closure through the legal system rarely works🔹 The court can divide assets and parenting time, but it cannot heal rejection🔹 Emotional decisions can dramatically increase the cost of divorce🔹 Healing starts when you stop letting one person's decision define your value🔹 You can feel your feelings without letting them drive the busAbout the HostsAndrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, and divorce survivor dedicated to helping people avoid costly divorce mistakes while finding hope on the other side.Morgan Stogsdill is the Head of Family Law at one of the largest family law firms in the country and helps listeners navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and practical legal guidance.Divorce Crash CourseTypically priced at 150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseJoin Our Free Community👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comResources👉 Our Family Wizardhttps://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck👉 Soberlinkhttps://www.soberlink.comKeywords: divorce rejection, blindsided divorce, spouse wanted divorce, coping with divorce, emotional divorce recovery, divorce grief, divorce healing, divorce support, family court, divorce mediation, divorce podcast, high conflict divorce, emotional regulation, divorce anxiety, divorce heartbreak, life after divorce#Divorce #DivorceRecovery #DivorceSupport #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #BlindsidedDivorce #DivorceHealing #LifeAfterDivorce #CoParenting #FamilyLaw #EmotionalHealingMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
Transcribe →Divorce and AI: The Smartest Ways (and Most Dangerous Ways) to Use ChatGPT During Divorce
May 2900:35:47Tap to summarizePeople are already using AI during divorce whether attorneys like it or not.They’re asking ChatGPT to:analyze texts from their exexplain legal documentshelp write co-parenting responsesbuild parenting schedulesorganize timelinesprepare for mediationand sometimes… emotionally spiral at 2amThis episode is sponsored by Worthy: the smarter way to sell your jewelry. Get started by heading to Worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your item sells for more than $1,500.So where’s the line between using AI strategically and using it in a way that could quietly damage your case?Leave us a review!👉 Before you make expensive divorce mistakes, grab the Divorce Crash Course — typically priced at 150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.In this incredibly timely episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill are joined by Texas family law attorney Reagan Riddle to discuss how artificial intelligence is changing divorce, co-parenting, communication, and even courtroom strategy.From using AI to reduce attorney fees and improve organization to the dangers of emotional validation, legal misinformation, and AI-fueled conflict, this episode explores the smartest — and most dangerous — ways people are using ChatGPT during divorce.If you’ve wondered whether AI can help you survive divorce more strategically… this episode is for you.In This Episode You Will Learn✅ The smartest ways to use AI during divorce✅ Why ChatGPT should never replace an attorney✅ How AI can help organize timelines and legal documents✅ Using AI to improve co-parenting communication✅ Why emotionally reactive people can misuse AI✅ The dangers of AI-generated legal confidence✅ Whether judges can tell when communication sounds AI-generated✅ How AI can potentially lower divorce costs✅ Why AI should help you think clearer — not spiral harder✅ The ethical and emotional risks of relying too heavily on AI during divorceTimestamps(00:00) Why people are already using AI during divorce(01:48) Meet Reagan Riddle and the changing world of family law(03:02) The smartest ways clients are using ChatGPT(05:14) Can AI help explain legal documents?(07:21) Using AI to organize evidence, timelines, and communication(09:40) The dangers of AI-generated legal certainty(12:06) Why AI can accidentally fuel emotional spiraling(14:32) Can ChatGPT help improve co-parenting communication?(16:28) The pros and cons of AI-generated responses(18:54) Whether judges can recognize AI-generated messaging(21:12) The emotional danger of over-relying on AI validation(24:17) Using AI strategically to reduce attorney fees(27:41) The most unhinged things people are probably asking ChatGPT during divorce(30:06) Why AI should help you become more organized — not more obsessive(33:11) Final advice for using AI responsibly during divorceKey Takeaways🔹 AI can be a powerful organizational and communication tool during divorce🔹 ChatGPT is useful for clarity and preparation — but not legal advice🔹 Emotional validation from AI can sometimes increase conflict and obsession🔹 Using AI strategically may help reduce attorney fees and improve communication🔹 Divorce decisions still require human judgment, emotional regulation, and professional guidance🔹 The goal of AI during divorce should be helping you think clearer — not react harderAbout the HostsMorgan Stogsdill is the Head of Family Law at one of the largest family law firms in the country, bringing practical legal insight and strategy to every episode.Andrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, and divorce survivor who shares honest, relatable conversations to help people navigate divorce with more clarity and confidence.About the GuestReagan Riddle is an Equity Partner at Armstrong Divorce and Family Law in Texas and is Board Certified in Family Law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization. Reagan focuses exclusively on family law and is known for her strategic, detail-oriented approach to helping clients navigate complex and emotionally difficult divorce matters.Resources👉 Divorce Crash Coursehttps://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course👉 OurFamilyWizardhttps://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck👉 Soberlinkhttps://www.soberlink.com👉 Learn More About Reagan RiddleArmstrong Divorce & Family Law - Reagan RiddleAI and divorce, ChatGPT divorce advice, using AI during divorce, co-parenting communication, AI and family law, divorce strategy, high conflict divorce, divorce technology, ChatGPT and co-parenting, divorce attorney advice, family court tips, emotional regulation during divorce, AI communication tools, divorce podcast#DivorceAdvice #ChatGPT #AIandDivorce #FamilyLaw #CoParenting #DivorceSupport #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #DivorcePodcast #EmotionalRegulationMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
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