In Totality with Megan Ashley

Episode: EP 69: Waiting Well: Purity Before the Promise Part 2
Release Date: May 6, 2025

Introduction

In episode 69 of "In Totality with Megan Ashley," Megan hosts CD Fabian and Melody Fabian to continue their deeply personal and inspiring conversation about purity, faith, and the journey toward a God-centered marriage. This episode delves into the challenges and triumphs Melody and CD faced as they navigated their relationship with a steadfast commitment to purity before marriage.

Testing Times and Divine Intervention

The episode begins with Melody recounting a pivotal moment when CD received unexpected medical test results. The tension of potentially life-altering news brought them closer, showcasing their transparent communication and mutual faith.

• Melody shares the emotional experience:
  “I went to get tested. That was a whole wild ride. It was so weird... he just see a tear. And I'm like, are you okay?” (00:22)

CD’s diagnosis of non-gonococcal urethritis sparked a significant emotional response, but it ultimately reinforced their bond and commitment.

• CD explains the diagnosis:
  “I have to protect you from even from me, Melody.” (02:11)

Melody reflects on how this experience deepened her love and trust for CD, highlighting the importance of honesty and vulnerability in their relationship.

Parental Guidance and Spiritual Support

Melody’s father played a crucial role in supporting and guiding her through the revelation of CD’s condition. His unwavering support and encouragement helped Melody see CD as a trustworthy and honorable partner.

• Melody recalls her father's words:
  “She was very honest with you... That's how you disciple your daughter through dating.” (03:00)

CD emphasizes the significance of paternal guidance in a daughter’s dating life, underscoring the necessity of accountability and spiritual mentorship.

Commitment and Relocation

As their relationship progressed, CD took proactive steps to align his life with his commitment to Melody. This included finding a job and an apartment in Chicago, symbolizing his dedication to moving forward together.

• Melody describes CD’s proactive approach:
  “He found an apartment that I wasn't gonna live in. Amen. And he said, that's a thing.” (06:43)

Their decision to relocate reinforced their mutual commitment and paved the way for a deeper, in-person relationship.

Establishing Boundaries and Purity

CD and Melody discuss the boundaries they set early in their relationship to maintain purity. CD insisted on waiting until their wedding day to share physical intimacy, demonstrating their mutual respect and dedication to their vows.

• CD states his commitment:
  “I'm not going to kiss you to our wedding day.” (07:02)

Melody recounts the challenges and triumphs of maintaining these boundaries, highlighting the support they received from their spiritual community and leaders.

• Melody emphasizes continuous purity:
  “This is a battle. Continual.” (23:28)

Engagement and Media Attention

Their engagement brought unexpected media attention, exemplifying how their commitment to purity resonated beyond their immediate circle. Despite the publicity, CD and Melody remained focused on their values and faith.

• Melody shares the media spotlight moment:
  “We're on our honeymoon. He says, we're on the Front cover of the Chicago Sun Times.” (16:19)

This experience reinforced their belief in divine timing and the importance of staying true to their principles amidst external pressures.

Honeymoon and Continued Commitment

During their honeymoon, CD and Melody continued to uphold their commitment to purity. They took their time to discover each other, building a strong foundation for their marriage.

• Melody reflects on their honeymoon:
  “It was our honeymoon, and my friend is working for CNN and she wants to do a story on us... people couldn't wait to see the kiss.” (16:07)

Their deliberate approach to intimacy ensured that their relationship remained grounded in love and mutual respect.

Enduring Faith and Mutual Encouragement

Throughout the episode, CD and Melody emphasize the importance of faith, patience, and mutual encouragement in maintaining purity both before and within marriage. They share insights on overcoming temptations and the continual pursuit of holiness.

• Melody advises on handling temptations:
  “Repentance. But two, like, fight with the word. What does the word say about this?” (28:37)

CD underscores the necessity of living a life that honors God, reminding listeners that holiness is a continual journey.

• CD reinforces spiritual integrity:
  “What he requires, then ask yourself, isn't he deserving of that? What other response do I have again? Romans 12. It is your true worship. It is your reasonable service.” (27:04)

Key Takeaways and Conclusion

• Faithful Communication: Open and honest dialogue strengthens relationships and fosters trust.
• Parental and Spiritual Support: Guidance from trusted figures can profoundly impact relationship decisions.
• Setting Boundaries: Clear boundaries help maintain purity and honor commitments.
• Divine Timing: Trusting in God’s timing can lead to meaningful and lasting relationships.
• Continuous Pursuit of Holiness: Maintaining purity is an ongoing commitment that extends beyond marriage.

Melanie and CD’s story serves as a testament to the power of faith and commitment in overcoming challenges and building a strong, God-centered marriage. Their journey offers hope and inspiration to listeners striving to live lives devoted to God in totality.

Notable Quotes

• Melody Fabian: "It's just a season of restraint for a lifetime of freedom." (19:13)
• CD Fabian: "He is after you to be holy. Period. He is not after you to be comfortable. He is after you to be holy." (27:15)
• Melody Fabian: "God never gives us boundaries or commandments just so that you can be holier than thou and suck on lemons. It's so that he's preparing something just for you." (22:03)

Final Thoughts

This episode of "In Totality" provides a heartfelt exploration of Melody and CD Fabian’s commitment to purity and faithfulness. Their experiences highlight the profound impact of living a life wholly devoted to God, offering listeners both encouragement and practical insights for their spiritual journeys.

For more inspiring stories and practical advice on living a life devoted to God, be sure to listen to "In Totality with Megan Ashley" on your favorite podcast platform.