EP 69: Waiting Well: Purity Before the Promise Part 2

Summary

In Totality with Megan Ashley

Episode: EP 69: Waiting Well: Purity Before the Promise Part 2
Release Date: May 6, 2025

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Introduction

In episode 69 of "In Totality with Megan Ashley," Megan hosts CD Fabian and Melody Fabian to continue their deeply personal and inspiring conversation about purity, faith, and the journey toward a God-centered marriage. This episode delves into the challenges and triumphs Melody and CD faced as they navigated their relationship with a steadfast commitment to purity before marriage.

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Testing Times and Divine Intervention

The episode begins with Melody recounting a pivotal moment when CD received unexpected medical test results. The tension of potentially life-altering news brought them closer, showcasing their transparent communication and mutual faith.

• Melody shares the emotional experience:
  “I went to get tested. That was a whole wild ride. It was so weird... he just see a tear. And I'm like, are you okay?” (00:22)

CD’s diagnosis of non-gonococcal urethritis sparked a significant emotional response, but it ultimately reinforced their bond and commitment.

• CD explains the diagnosis:
  “I have to protect you from even from me, Melody.” (02:11)

Melody reflects on how this experience deepened her love and trust for CD, highlighting the importance of honesty and vulnerability in their relationship.

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Parental Guidance and Spiritual Support

Melody’s father played a crucial role in supporting and guiding her through the revelation of CD’s condition. His unwavering support and encouragement helped Melody see CD as a trustworthy and honorable partner.

• Melody recalls her father's words:
  “She was very honest with you... That's how you disciple your daughter through dating.” (03:00)

CD emphasizes the significance of paternal guidance in a daughter’s dating life, underscoring the necessity of accountability and spiritual mentorship.

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Commitment and Relocation

As their relationship progressed, CD took proactive steps to align his life with his commitment to Melody. This included finding a job and an apartment in Chicago, symbolizing his dedication to moving forward together.

• Melody describes CD’s proactive approach:
  “He found an apartment that I wasn't gonna live in. Amen. And he said, that's a thing.” (06:43)

Their decision to relocate reinforced their mutual commitment and paved the way for a deeper, in-person relationship.

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Establishing Boundaries and Purity

CD and Melody discuss the boundaries they set early in their relationship to maintain purity. CD insisted on waiting until their wedding day to share physical intimacy, demonstrating their mutual respect and dedication to their vows.

• CD states his commitment:
  “I'm not going to kiss you to our wedding day.” (07:02)

Melody recounts the challenges and triumphs of maintaining these boundaries, highlighting the support they received from their spiritual community and leaders.

• Melody emphasizes continuous purity:
  “This is a battle. Continual.” (23:28)

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Engagement and Media Attention

Their engagement brought unexpected media attention, exemplifying how their commitment to purity resonated beyond their immediate circle. Despite the publicity, CD and Melody remained focused on their values and faith.

• Melody shares the media spotlight moment:
  “We're on our honeymoon. He says, we're on the Front cover of the Chicago Sun Times.” (16:19)

This experience reinforced their belief in divine timing and the importance of staying true to their principles amidst external pressures.

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Honeymoon and Continued Commitment

During their honeymoon, CD and Melody continued to uphold their commitment to purity. They took their time to discover each other, building a strong foundation for their marriage.

• Melody reflects on their honeymoon:
  “It was our honeymoon, and my friend is working for CNN and she wants to do a story on us... people couldn't wait to see the kiss.” (16:07)

Their deliberate approach to intimacy ensured that their relationship remained grounded in love and mutual respect.

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Enduring Faith and Mutual Encouragement

Throughout the episode, CD and Melody emphasize the importance of faith, patience, and mutual encouragement in maintaining purity both before and within marriage. They share insights on overcoming temptations and the continual pursuit of holiness.

• Melody advises on handling temptations:
  “Repentance. But two, like, fight with the word. What does the word say about this?” (28:37)

CD underscores the necessity of living a life that honors God, reminding listeners that holiness is a continual journey.

• CD reinforces spiritual integrity:
  “What he requires, then ask yourself, isn't he deserving of that? What other response do I have again? Romans 12. It is your true worship. It is your reasonable service.” (27:04)

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Key Takeaways and Conclusion

• Faithful Communication: Open and honest dialogue strengthens relationships and fosters trust.
• Parental and Spiritual Support: Guidance from trusted figures can profoundly impact relationship decisions.
• Setting Boundaries: Clear boundaries help maintain purity and honor commitments.
• Divine Timing: Trusting in God’s timing can lead to meaningful and lasting relationships.
• Continuous Pursuit of Holiness: Maintaining purity is an ongoing commitment that extends beyond marriage.

Melanie and CD’s story serves as a testament to the power of faith and commitment in overcoming challenges and building a strong, God-centered marriage. Their journey offers hope and inspiration to listeners striving to live lives devoted to God in totality.

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Notable Quotes

• Melody Fabian: "It's just a season of restraint for a lifetime of freedom." (19:13)
• CD Fabian: "He is after you to be holy. Period. He is not after you to be comfortable. He is after you to be holy." (27:15)
• Melody Fabian: "God never gives us boundaries or commandments just so that you can be holier than thou and suck on lemons. It's so that he's preparing something just for you." (22:03)

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Final Thoughts

This episode of "In Totality" provides a heartfelt exploration of Melody and CD Fabian’s commitment to purity and faithfulness. Their experiences highlight the profound impact of living a life wholly devoted to God, offering listeners both encouragement and practical insights for their spiritual journeys.

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For more inspiring stories and practical advice on living a life devoted to God, be sure to listen to "In Totality with Megan Ashley" on your favorite podcast platform.

Transcript

[Megan]

What's up, you guys? Listen, I know you've been waiting. What were the test results? Well, we're getting ready to find out now as we conclude my conversation with.

[CD Fabian]

CD and Melody Fabian.

[Megan]

I hope you guys enjoy it.

[Melody Fabian]

I went to get tested. That was a whole wild ride. It was so weird. I got these test results, and then I show it to her on Skype. Y'all remember Skype?

[CD Fabian]

Yeah, back in the day.

[Unknown Speaker]

And so he's like, I have the results. My heart is pounding. I'm like, what if he has something? Am I okay with that? Like, all the things. Yeah, you know, like. Because it's real life, right?

[CD Fabian]

The unknown. Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

And so I'm like, okay, well, if he has this disease, I guess that's fine. Would have to, you know, because we know about all these diseases. We teach on it. And so he's like, I got my results. I'm like, negative. Negative. No, I'm like, okay, good. No, no, no, no. I'm like, oh, like the top eight that they test, they're all negative. He's like, he has a hat on, and I just see a tear. And I'm like, you okay? He's like, I did. They did find something, though. And I'm like, what did they find? And he's like, he says it, but it was non viral.

[Melody Fabian]

He's like, so I got non gonococcal urethritis. I'll never forget that phrase, non gonococcal urethritis.

[Unknown Speaker]

And I'm like, what is that?

[Melody Fabian]

It is an infection that is not gonorrhea.

[Unknown Speaker]

And so I'm like, okay. He's like, so it's curable. I gotta take these pills and they'll be out of my system. He's like, can you believe this has been in my system for six years? And what if I wouldn't have got tested and we would have got married? I would have brought this to you. That breaks me. Like, he's just, like, angry. And I'm like, what are you feeling angry about? He goes, I. I hate sin, because that's what it is. He goes, I'm still dealing with consequences from six years ago. Yeah. And I'm like, but you forgive. He goes, I know, but, man, this is frustrating. I hate that I'm even having to do this with you.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

I said, you really didn't have to do this with me. And he said, of course I did. And that ministered to me because I'm like. He said, I have to protect you from even from me. Melody. That's when I start really falling in love with him. For sure.

[CD Fabian]

Like I was talking about.

[Unknown Speaker]

I love this man. This is my man.

[CD Fabian]

You said, take your pills and. Come on. I don't care about them pills. Take them and let's go. For sure.

[Unknown Speaker]

I love this man. But I'm like, thank you. You know, And I hang up Skype, and I start bawling my eyes out. And my dad, he's like, how. What happened? I'm like, daddy. He's like, we prayed, you know? So my dad is, like, seeing the fruit of his prayer. And he said, melody, this man is a good man because he's very honest with you.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

He was not hiding from you. Yeah. I'm seeing good things in this guy, you know?

[CD Fabian]

And so I love how encouraging and, like, your dad was the whole time, like, holding you accountable but watching courage. You. Yeah. And never, like, coming down on him because that he, like. You know what I'm saying? He was just always. I don't know. I just think that that's. That's beautiful as a father, like, for men who have daughters. That's how you. That's how you. Yeah. That's how you disciple your daughter through. Through dating.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yep.

[CD Fabian]

Because I do believe that that's needed. We need fathers to disciple daughters through dating.

[Melody Fabian]

Come on.

[Unknown Speaker]

Come on.

[CD Fabian]

You need that.

[Unknown Speaker]

Not, like, go. Do you talk to your mom or.

[CD Fabian]

Like, yeah, go talk to your mom and I'll talk to the son and. No, we need fathers to love their daughters through dating.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes. All the way through.

[CD Fabian]

I'm gonna like the fact that your dad said, let's pray together. We gonna pray together?

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes.

[CD Fabian]

What?

[Unknown Speaker]

Let the Lord show. Show it. Yeah. And God did. So that happens. And now I love him and trust him even more. And now it's getting closer. We're, like, two months away from my vow. And he's like, hey, the end of it. Yeah, the end of my commitment is done in June. And he's like, hey, my job, because I used to run this big abstinence program, and we used to talk about prom with no regrets. And we used to rent out ESPN Zone after prom, so they don't go to a hotel. They go to my party. And so I'm like, got this program going. And he's like, I was talking to my boss, and she said I could go check out your program. And so I'm going to be in Chicago for two weeks in June. So it's right when my vow is ending.

[CD Fabian]

Wow.

[Unknown Speaker]

He is paid to come to Chicago to Watch my program to observe my program. And I'm like, oh, God, you doing this. You are doing this. So my vow has ended. He comes to Chicago. We're together now. It's not phone. Okay? This is real life here.

[Melody Fabian]

I was there when her and her file ended. I came out May 25th. Her vow ended on June 1st.

[CD Fabian]

Wow.

[Melody Fabian]

And I stayed till June 5th. Wow. And that was pretty cool.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes. So he. During my time there, he's like, hey, I know we've been friends for a year. We've been getting. My heart is. I'm like, oh, what is happening right now? And he's like, I want to pursue you, Melody. Like, I want to pursue a dating relationship with you. I want this to be official. I see you as my future bride. Like, I see it. But I know we need to have the whole dating process. He said, I talked to your father. I'm like, you talk. You talked to my father? Proactive already. He said, oh, I met with your pastor. I said, you met with my pastor? You having meetings? He's like. He said, I'm standing on business, girl.

[Megan]

Not you having meetings.

[Unknown Speaker]

He's having meetings in Chicago. I didn't even know. And he said, they. They have all given the blessing to pursue you, but they don't think it should begin until I move here. I was so mad, Megan.

[CD Fabian]

I'd have been air punching.

[Unknown Speaker]

I said, I been waiting seven years, and my pastor gonna say, you gotta move out here. He ain't controlling what I'm doing, you know? He said, it's just wisdom. I think it's wise. You're 20. You're about to be 28. I'm 29. Like, we're older. We need to make sure we can live in the same city. There's one thing to be on the phone and be like, yeah, it's another thing. Do we really flow together?

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

And I'm like, I don't want to wait anymore. For sure, you know?

[CD Fabian]

Sick of waiting.

[Unknown Speaker]

Oh, my God. So that's another journey. That was another six months, friends. Wow. Six.

[Melody Fabian]

Six. Just kidding.

[Unknown Speaker]

Found a job, found an apartment.

[CD Fabian]

It was six.

[Unknown Speaker]

I was counting. He wasn't gonna live in my mama's basement. He found an apartment.

[CD Fabian]

Hello.

[Unknown Speaker]

That I wasn't gonna live in. Hello. Amen. And he said, that's a thing. That's a thing. And you could look up the statistics that when you live together, it's not helpful.

[CD Fabian]

Okay.

[Unknown Speaker]

And so we dated for seven months. He said, I'm not going to kiss you to our wedding day. I Was like. But you really meant that, though. Like, I know that was a bad.

[CD Fabian]

We have listened. We have done a lot now.

[Melody Fabian]

So earlier on, you mentioned how it was kindness of the Lord to give Melody seven years.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

To speak a definite number.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

When the Lord spoke to me through those sanctifying experiences, he never gave me a number. I was perpetually just waiting on the Lord.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

And I don't know if that has to do with like, maybe like a father, he's a little bit more rough with his sons or something. But that was wild that her commitment has come to an end. But now it was reversed. She had to honor my vow.

[CD Fabian]

Wow.

[Melody Fabian]

That was pretty cool. And it showed me another level that I could now trust her. Because now I just want to say there was temptation. Because my wife, she's Puerto Rican, she's Latina, I'm Haitian, so we got this Caribbean flair that you kiss on the cheek when you say goodbye. This girl, she want to like, kiss me on the forehead, try to kiss my nose. One day she even tried to kiss me on the corner of my nose and my lip.

[CD Fabian]

He said, hey, girl.

[Melody Fabian]

Hey.

[Unknown Speaker]

He said, he said, you all up.

[CD Fabian]

Kiss his lips.

[Melody Fabian]

Stop.

[CD Fabian]

You said, you ain't say nothing about his cheeks.

[Unknown Speaker]

You a say nothing about.

[CD Fabian]

He said, his lips.

[Melody Fabian]

I said, no, no, you, you. You getting a little too close now.

[Unknown Speaker]

And he would tell me, he's like, it's not that I don't want to kiss you, Melody. He said, I don't want to start something we can't finish. Okay, so. So I can't. And I'm like, but I was a virgin. So I'm like, I don't know what he's talking about. It's just a kiss. He's like, you will find out when we get married.

[Megan]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

So now it's seven months tooth boundaries that kept us. We did not make out, we did not kiss on the lips and we would not be alone in the house.

[CD Fabian]

I think that's just wisdom.

[Unknown Speaker]

It's just wisdom.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

Cuz you'll be like. We were praying and all of a sudden we had sex.

[CD Fabian]

You know, I've heard that. Oh, I went to Bible college. I heard some crazy stuff, man.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes.

[CD Fabian]

Like, oh, we was just doing prayers.

[Melody Fabian]

Intimate. It's into the flesh will take opportunity to convert anything.

[CD Fabian]

Hello.

[Unknown Speaker]

So now it's. We're getting ready for our wedding day. Beautiful wedding.

[Melody Fabian]

We dated for seven months. I asked her to marry me at the end of that time. It was a beautiful thing in Florida. And then we Were engaged for four months.

[Unknown Speaker]

Four months.

[CD Fabian]

Wow.

[Unknown Speaker]

Because we, we don't got for sure. We don't need to be long.

[CD Fabian]

And I don't think it got to be.

[Unknown Speaker]

No, it doesn't.

[Melody Fabian]

Oh, no.

[CD Fabian]

When is God, man? If you don't hurry up and put this ring on my finger and come on.

[Melody Fabian]

That's right.

[Unknown Speaker]

And that's what our pastor said. He's like, use all grown.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah, yeah, for sure.

[Unknown Speaker]

So God miraculous. That's another beautiful story. How I got hooked up our wedding and so now it's like, it's our wedding day and my friend is working for cnn and she's like, I want to do a story on you. And I'm like, okay. So she writes, 28 year old Latina remains a virgin till her wedding day. Not only is she saving sex for marriage, she's saving her first kiss. And so she just throws up this press release out there. It's the week of my wedding. I don't know if this is going to fight, you know, she's like, melody, Chicago Tribune wants to go to your dress rehearsal. I'm like, what? She's like, yeah, yeah, yeah. So they're going to be there. So they interview us at our dress rehearsal. Then that little article goes out. It starts catching wind. Chicago Suntimes calls us the morning of our wedding. We'd like to be at your wedding. And I'm like, what is going on?

[Melody Fabian]

These are the two major newspapers in Chicago.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yeah. And I said, as long as you don't look like paparazzi at my wedding. Just look like a photographer. So they hid their stuff. We have 500 people at our wedding.

[CD Fabian]

Wow.

[Unknown Speaker]

Everybody can't wait to see the kiss. Everybody can't wait. They're like, you're gonna kiss. I'm like, I know, I'm so excited. Which I will give you the clip of our first.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah. So we can add that in there.

[Unknown Speaker]

And so I am giddy.

[Melody Fabian]

I'm like, you know, like the butterflies are there now.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes, they are. And so here's my husband in this white suit because we've been made new in. Period.

[Melody Fabian]

Come on.

[Unknown Speaker]

Period. We are both in white. And everybody's like so happy. So you know, and I could feel like all the lies, right?

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

You ain't never gonna find a man that's gonna wait for you. One in a million. What? Like I feel like I'm like, oh my God. All those words. The devil lying to me. My cousin's talking about, ain't no man gonna. Why you think that you can't Wait, that ain't even. I'm like, wait, wait. God, we did like, it's like all hitting me.

[CD Fabian]

My makeup would have been tore.

[Unknown Speaker]

Oh, I'm like, I'm walking down the aisle and that's what I'm feeling like one in a million. I found your one in a million, Melody. And I'm like, you did, God. You did it. God. So I'm like tears coming down. My dad grabs my husband and he says these words to him.

[Melody Fabian]

He grabs me close now just. I just want to tell you how much I love her father. He. He dated me about half amount of time that I had dated Melody. He took me out on all the coffees and conversations that we had. He tested me a lot. He would tell me all the time, like, I'm. I'm testing you and I'm training. He said, I'm testing you and I'm training. I want you to know how to love my. My daughter. And so anyway, he. He walks her down the aisle, brings it to me, and he transfers the authority and the responsibility had of her and he passes it to me and he says, she's yours now. And thank you. I can sleep well tonight.

[Unknown Speaker]

I can sleep well.

[Melody Fabian]

We're just weeping for a little while.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yeah, for sure.

[CD Fabian]

I'd have been on the floor sobbing.

[Unknown Speaker]

So it's our wedding and.

[Megan]

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[Unknown Speaker]

And I said, cd, you don't know this, but I've been writing letters for you and prayers for you for the last four years in this journal. And I want to present this journal to you because today my prayers have been answered.

[CD Fabian]

I love that.

[Unknown Speaker]

And then another beautiful thing is we had a pastor from Africa come to our wedding. He presented us a lamp from where.

[Melody Fabian]

We met in Uganda.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

He said, I, I say to you, you are a light to this world.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

You are a lamppost to this world. I mean, it was beautiful. It was so beautiful. And so now they're like, and now you may kiss the bride.

[CD Fabian]

Did everybody go crazy?

[Unknown Speaker]

Everybody.

[Melody Fabian]

It was like, nuts. It's like we won the Super Bowl.

[CD Fabian]

Like, the Super Bowl.

[Melody Fabian]

That deal erupted. Everybody stood up. Our. Our pastor was very good at officiating that. And. And I pulled out breath spray because.

[CD Fabian]

I know that's right, you said, yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

That'S the girl in almost seven years now. And I sprayed it, took the veil and unveiled her.

[Unknown Speaker]

I drew her close and it was just so sweet and beautiful. And it was just so beautiful. We had a wonderful wedding. I love my wedding. I love my wedding. And so now we're on our honeymoon. Hey. And he goes to a coffee in a newspaper the next day, and he's like, babe, you're not gonna believe this. I'm like, what? He's like, we're on the Front cover of the Chicago Sun Times.

[Melody Fabian]

And I'm like, for the Sunday paper.

[Unknown Speaker]

What? It's like Obama CDML in the end.

[CD Fabian]

I love that opens it.

[Unknown Speaker]

It's this huge. It says the kiss. Right. That they waited. All of a sudden I'm like, what is happening? So we turn on our phones and everybody's like, they're talking about you all over the radio. They're talking bad about you, but they're also talking good about you.

[Melody Fabian]

They're teasing us.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes. They're like, this couple. Save sex for, like, all this stuff. We're on our honeymoon. He's like, okay, turn it off now.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

Because it ain't about right, right, right.

[Melody Fabian]

Dr. Phil reached out. It was wild.

[Unknown Speaker]

It was crazy.

[Megan]

Wow.

[Unknown Speaker]

And so we enjoyed our honeymoon. And I want to say this to something my dad said on our honeymoon. He said, don't feel like you got to have sex the first night, discover each other, kiss, see each other, learn to love each other.

[CD Fabian]

That's wisdom, too.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes. Because it was. There's so much pressure, too, on people. So it wasn't until like the second, the third day, we fully consummated, it was like we were loving each other. We were doing new things together, too.

[CD Fabian]

That you had already waited so long. So it didn't. I mean, I know it probably would have naturally felt like you had to jump right in, but I just think that you guys had already developed such discipline and patience that it just flowed right into your honeymoon, too.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes.

[CD Fabian]

I think that that's.

[Unknown Speaker]

And it was gentle and sweet and.

[CD Fabian]

Building and for sure, because it's like all that pent up tension. Give me a second, man. Golly, slow down, slow down. It's about to be over.

[Unknown Speaker]

And that's what my husband said. He's like, your honeymoon is beautiful to discover, please each other, but you also have a lifetime to get it right. And sometimes there's such a pressure. It was like just. Just get it right. Just keep learning each other.

[CD Fabian]

So.

[Unknown Speaker]

It was so beautiful.

[Melody Fabian]

And I remember a phrase I used to say to her while we were dating in holding back, even our kiss. It was, honey, it's just a season of restraint for a lifetime of freedom.

[Unknown Speaker]

Say it again, cd.

[CD Fabian]

That's good.

[Melody Fabian]

It's just a season of restraint for a lifetime of freedom. And we used to speak that over each other over and over and over again. And to your point, about how we got to take our time and explore. And let me tell you something. 16 years married, we used to hold. Older people say, it just keeps getting better. Over time. That's so true.

[CD Fabian]

Like, it actually does.

[Melody Fabian]

Oh, it does.

[Unknown Speaker]

I know what I'm doing now.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes.

[Melody Fabian]

And the intimacy that we share.

[CD Fabian]

I love your story. Like I said, I mean, there's. There's so many elements of it. I think another beautiful thing is that you both were. You both have different context to how you were experiencing consecration and purity and patience and perseverance. Cd you had already experience intimacy, and God restored you, and you waited, and you had never experienced it. And God kept you, and he was faith. So I just love the faithfulness of the Lord in the different. And I think it gives people context. Like, it gives people hope who maybe didn't wait.

[Unknown Speaker]

Yes.

[CD Fabian]

And it's not too late for them. And God can preserve something good and pure for you. And I just think it's beautiful, just your stories and. Yeah. I just think it needs to be. It needs to be talked about more and more and more and more. And I just wanted. I wanted people to know you guys.

[Unknown Speaker]

And know your story.

[Melody Fabian]

Think about that. I want to give this to you as well. The humility I received from the Lord, my wife was set apart from a certain perspective just for me, a man who was in gross sin. I am undeserving of Melody and her story from a human perspective, but from a divine perspective. The favor that was given me despite my foolishness as I yielded. There's such a hope for people who, wherever they find themselves, to let the Lord knock your socks off and bless you in ways that you don't think you deserve. Because you think you've messed up.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

You think. Like, it. It. Like that's. That's. That's out of the cards for you now. You're jacked up, you know?

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

And. And I'll say to you again, you know, because you have an audience who maybe like you, they've experienced divorce. They've experienced hardship, betrayal, brokenness. In ways maybe like me with the past, you know, or even like Melody, like, trying to hold on, like, why should I wait? Like, nobody is doing that anymore. And we might see our internal struggles, all those internal struggles that Melody experience. And when we start to kind of wallow in that we lose sight. That God is such a good God.

[CD Fabian]

Yes, he is.

[Melody Fabian]

He never tells us no just so that he can tell us no. It's always because he has something better in store. God never gives us boundaries or commandments or nosy just so that you can be holier than thou and suck on lemons.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

It's so that he's Preparing something just for you. It is holy and it is beautiful. And it's not just for you. It's supposed to resound so that we can be and bear a witness and a testimony to a culture that so desires to want to see. What does God's love look like in our brokenness? He restored something where there's a glimmer.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

That you can see. Oh, this is what it means. That God loves his bride.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

And that the bride responds in love, prepares for him. And I, like, you know, I'm the furthest person from perfect. Even in our marriage, we're still pursuing purity.

[Unknown Speaker]

Pursuing purity in marriage. In marriage, we are intimate with only each other.

[CD Fabian]

Hello.

[Unknown Speaker]

What I. I do. I do means I do you, you do me. We don't do nobody else.

[CD Fabian]

Okay.

[Unknown Speaker]

Amen. And so you're still pursuing purity from not being with other lovers.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

You're still pursuing purity with our eyes.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

We are watching things at times, and we have to go. Can't watch this anymore. Or. Or, you know, everything has gotten so sullied. I'll be on Instagram or something. And I find the algorithm taking me places. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Kind of stop that. And I'll let her know, hey, this kind of took me in a direction there, and I don't want to do that no more, you know, And I. You know, I've got other guys that I talk to as well, but this. This is a battle. Continual.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

This, you know, the theme of purity, this theme of pursuit of God, it's continual. Doesn't just stop when you get married.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

In fact, sometimes it might. You might consider it. It gets. It gets harder.

[CD Fabian]

Oh, yeah, for sure. It's for sure. And I think we have. As we're kind of closing this. This episode, I think that what I've kind of just learned from you guys, from just watching your content, and I encourage all of you guys to go look at their. Their. Their podcast, Hanging with the Fabians. I. I remember I was in. I was in a. In a situation ship, and my friend was like, you should watch this episode with. With Melanie. And I was like, I'll watch it after. I. Because I was, you know, I was doing a little weekend trip, and I'll watch it after I get back. And I felt the holy spirit was like, watch it now. And I was like, dang it. And so I watched the video, and so here I am with this guy, you know, on this little week, this little weekend trip, and. And. And all of a sudden I was Like, I feel like God is watching me. Like, it became very obvious that he was watching me. Like he could see me. And I like the, the conviction that came over and it wasn't just like, oh, CD and Melody's story or trying like, you know what I'm saying? It wasn't your story, but it was holy conviction that God sees me and is he pleased with what he's seeing? That's good, because this is his. Like, I'm like, this body is his. Is His. And so not even just in the way, like, I'm gonna keep it a bug.

[Unknown Speaker]

Come on.

[CD Fabian]

Well, you gotta close, but I'm gonna keep it a bug. Just even when it comes to self pleasure.

[Unknown Speaker]

Come on.

[CD Fabian]

This is his body and he can see me.

[Melody Fabian]

Come on.

[CD Fabian]

I am a vessel of the Holy Spirit. Like, am I honoring Him? You know what I'm saying? And so I think I'm just encouraging you guys because they talk so much about purity and talk about all of this on their, on their podcast. And I think you should. I don't even think. I know. You should go watch it. Especially if you're married, if you're single, if you're dating, any spectrum of where you land, you should watch it and, and just ask yourself, if you say that you are a Christian, if you say that you believe in, in this book and you believe it's true, ask yourself, is it too much? Is that too much? Or is this what he requires? And if the answer is this is what he requires, then ask yourself, isn't he deserving of that? What. What other response do I have again? Romans 12. It is your true worship. It is your reasonable service. That is what he requires. Holy devotion.

[Unknown Speaker]

Amen.

[CD Fabian]

He requires holiness. Period. He is not after you to be comfortable. He is after you to be holy.

[Melody Fabian]

Come on.

[CD Fabian]

He's after. Look, he wants to see you and see his son. And so it does matter what you do with this body. It does matter what you watch, it does matter what you listen to. It does matter what you. What shows your. What it matters. It matters who you're around. It just does. And I think that, you know, you guys just show a. Just an incredible example of what it means to have pure hearts and to live pure in your singleness, in your marriage, just in community, just how, how I see you guys move, I'm just. Yeah, I just. And I'm encouraged and, And I know that they will be too, so.

[Unknown Speaker]

Amen.

[CD Fabian]

I really appreciate you guys.

[Unknown Speaker]

I feel like there's so much you can say.

[CD Fabian]

I know we Gotta have you back. We'll have you back before the end of the year, because I want to. I definitely want to talk more with you guys about what. That. What your life has been and just in community and sacrifice and the way God has shown up. Come on in your lives. Like, the miracle, just with even you guys moving to Nashville was just incredible. And I know they talk about it on their podcast. You guys can go listen to it on there. But we'll definitely have you guys back. And I love you guys, and I'm so grateful that you came.

[Unknown Speaker]

We love pleasure so much for having us.

[CD Fabian]

Is there anything you guys want to give to the audience before we leave? Any. Any to single men or to single women or even to married couples? There's anything you want to leave them with?

[Unknown Speaker]

Yeah, I just. I just want to encourage you to. To, like, keep fighting. I think sometimes we have these thoughts, these temptations, and we're like, ah. Like, no, you have to fight.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Unknown Speaker]

You have to be like, God, forgive me. Literally repent. Okay, one, repentance. But two, like, fight with the word. What does the word say about this? And so there's times and time again, even in marriage, that we've been tempted, and it's like, no, your word says and. And. And obey what the word says. And so that's my word. And I just would love for you to just say a prayer too, baby.

[Melody Fabian]

Yeah. Integrity starts with intimacy. We want to walk with, you know, holiness because we love the Lord.

[CD Fabian]

That's good.

[Melody Fabian]

You know, the Lord is not holy. Means to be separate and set apart. I want Melody to be holy, separate, and set apart. To me, the Lord wants to know us intimately. That's what breeds our integrity. And whatever you tolerate, it will dominate. Heard a minister say that recently, and it really ministered to my soul. And so what you just said, like, replace repentance and replacement.

[CD Fabian]

Yeah.

[Melody Fabian]

Don't just fight it. Find something else to do. Get into the scriptures, Pray, get up, talk to brothers, sisters, whatever. But, yeah, that. That's what I want to leave. Especially for the men. The men of our culture are waning and lacking, and we need to man up. Not according to the ways of the world, according to the ways of God.

[CD Fabian]

That's good.

[Melody Fabian]

It's a whole nother thing, but let's pray.

[CD Fabian]

Yes.

[Melody Fabian]

Hallelujah, Lord.

[Unknown Speaker]

Thank you, God.

[Melody Fabian]

You are so good. Father, Melody and I, we are humbled that Megan would invite us on her platform on her podcast to testify not just of our story, but your story. What you have written and done in and through us times that you have corrected us, challenged us, commanded us, and been so very patient with us. You know our lives, you know our stories. Thank you that we get to quickly just share a few highlights to maybe stir up hope. And that's what I desire. Father God, may those who listen to us be stirred up in hope that you are good, you are worthy to be pursued and obeyed, and you'd really do love us. You do have reward for us, and our blessing is to be a blessing. May we grow in boldness and confidence and courage to testify of the wonderful things that God has done. Yet in our humility, give him all the praise and the honor. I pray that you will touch many people's souls to follow suit. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

[CD Fabian]

Amen. All right guys, listen. This was an incredible episode. I hope you were blessed by it. I know you were blessed by it and I will see you back next week here on In Totality. See ya.

[Megan]

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